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When I was in high school, I had a lot of friends who liked to work on cars.

They LOVED the movie, "Mad Max."

The guy had a cool car with a cool engine.

Not only did he have a huge "blower" but a nitrous oxide injections system.

Whenever he was chasing the bad guys, he'd casually flip the nitrous switch and his car would faster than everybody else's.

This is a very common theme with good guys vs. bad guys.

The good guys ALWAYS have a secret stash of power somewhere.

Even on one of the Star Trek crossover movies, the Next Generation and the original, they had a conversation between the two engineers.

Scotty, the original engineer, was asking the Next Generation engineer how fast the engines would go.

Then he asked him again, how fast they REALLY went.

Confused, the Next Generation engineer game him the same answer.

To which Scotty said, "never tell the captain how fast the engines will REALLY go."

This, unfortunately, is one story we tell ourselves.

That if we REALLY wanted to do something, we could.

It's just that we really don't want to.

We very much LIKE to believe that we'll "rise to the occasion" if we need to.

But we never really need to.

This is a very comfortable, and very safe self deception that keeps us on the sidelines.

But it's also based on another misunderstanding.

We see somebody do something that WE want to do.

And we imagine US doing that same thing, and we imagine it is TERRIFYING.

So we assume, that the ONLY way we'll be able to do that is by gaining tons of CONFIDENCE.

That we'll need that confidence to overcome the fears and anxieties between where we are, and where we want to be.

This is not true.

This is confusing COURAGE and CONFIDENCE.

Courage is doing things that are scary.

That's useful, but it's HORRIBLE strategy.

Especially for day to day things, like talking to attractive people, speaking our mind, and being assertive when we need to.

Courage is one of those "only when you need it" things.

Saving people from burning buildings, stopping a murder in progress, etc.

For everything else, we need CONFIDENCE.

Confidence is simply a bunch of memories of doing something successfully.

Most people are confident making toast, confident doing their laundry, confident telling raunchy jokes to their buddies.

Because we've done that stuff before, we KNOW we can do it again.

But what about the other stuff?

Talking comfortably to strangers, being persuasive and seductive, or giving an effective speech?

Turns out gaining confidence in those areas is pretty easy.

It's all a matter of re-calibrating your memories.

Of learning how to better reference the experiences you've already had.

And when you do this, you'll be surprised how EASY most everything really is.

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