admin Posted December 6, 2018 Report Share Posted December 6, 2018 A common and very old "pick up line" works best with very attractive women. You see a gorgeous girl, you walk up confidently and say, "Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you. I just want to ask you a quick question. Are you as beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside?" As a pickup line, it will knock any pretty girl off balance. It's meant to demonstrate that the asker is more concerned with personality than silly things like beauty. Of course, like all pickup lines, it won't really work if you don't understand the deeper meanings and presuppositions. If you don't have a lot of experience with women, NO pick up line will work. The reason pick up lines and other memorized patterns are dangerous is because they don't allow for any response. Everything you can say to anybody, they can say a few things back. And every single thing they say back, you can say a few things in response. This is why memorized patterns for any reasons (sales or seduction or just social skills) will only last for the first or second round. Beyond that, if you can't think on the fly, you'll be standing there wondering what to say. This is the biggest fear for most people who aren't completely comfortable in social situations. Running out of things to say. When this happens (and it happens to EVERYBODY) it's uncomfortable. For everybody. Even the super confident and outgoing types. But there is a simple way to make sure this NEVER happens. And it's got NOTHING to do with memorizing all kinds of things to say in all kinds of situations. Think of two boxers. After just a few minutes, one of the most important variables is not their fighting skills, but their physical stamina and endurance. The more tired either boxer gets, the less resourcefully they'll be able to use their body. So if you ARE a boxer, the biggest portion of your training will be endurance, mixed in with actual boxing skills. What is the equivalent idea in social conversations? Emotional comfort. Strong, positive, pleasant emotional feelings. Most people don't have much of an emotional resource state. They get into a conversation, and as long as the conversation is going good, they feel good. But as soon as those uncomfortable silences start popping up, they become less and less emotionally centered. However, you CAN take build in some powerful emotional resource states. So no matter WHAT is happening in the conversation, you can fire an internal resource trigger, and feel really good. This will make it MUCH EASIER to look into your brain to find easy and natural things to talk about. This, of course, can be built in as well. Conversational AND emotional resilience. So you become the most attractive personality in ANY situation. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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