Are You A Lighthouse Or A Ship?

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There’s a funny story that’s been told for a while.

I heard it first when from the person giving the speech at my graduation.

I’ve heard it a couple times since then.

About a guy on a ship.

And he sees another ship.

The first guy tells the second guy to move, or else they’ll crash.

The second guy says he’s not moving.

The first guy repeats his request to please move or else we’ll crash.

Second guy says nope, can’t do it.

First guy says, “Dude, if you don’t move, we’re both going to crash and sink and drown. Please move.”

Second guy says, “Dude, I’m a lighthouse. YOU move!”

The moral of the story of course, is not being flexible will get you killed.

The story is ALWAYS told as if the listeners are SUPPOSED to imagine themselves as the person on the ship.

That they will encounter resistance in life that they can’t overcome.

And the best course is to change course, rather than keep plowing through.

That IS pretty good advice.

But not always.

A famous saying, (the Serenity Prayer, often used in AA meetings) is: 

God, grant me the serenity to accept things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

What does this mean in real life?

It means that sometimes you are the ship.

And sometimes you are the lighthouse.

Most people are ALWAYS the ship.

They bounce around, from situation to situation.

Always looking for direction.

They are uncomfortable in any situation when they have to figure out what to do on their own.

Then there are lighthouse people.

People that are the ones giving advice.

The ones that show up and MAKE things happen.

The ones that radiate very pure, very strong, lighthouse energy.

Energy that says, “I am a beacon. When you are lost, look for me, I’ll show you the way.”

Luckily, you can BUILD your lighthouse energy.

It all comes across in your non-verbal communication.

All metaphors aside, we are biological creatures that are BOUND by scientific laws.

Metaphors make for some creative, sometimes beautiful ideas.

But they are metaphors nonetheless.

The down and dirty scientific way you broadcast your “energy”, whether it’s a solid lighthouse or a lost ship, is through your non-verbal communication.

And building up strong lighthouse energy is something you can practice.

Anything you can practice, you can strengthen.

As strong as you want.

Learn How:

http://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/