The Train Wreck Pattern

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One thing that gets us humans into trouble is when we are stuck inside our own brains.

One thing you learn (or you should learn) in any NLP class is going “meta.”

Of being able to see things from a third person perspective.

This is hard to do, especially if you are in the middle of ANY kind of situation that is emotionally difficult.

It’s similar to how our hunger instinct messes us up.

If you were a fitness coach, it would be VERY EASY to tell another person EXACTLY what they should do to achieve their fitness goals.

Even without much training, we can all do this.

Tell our friends that if they want to lose weight, all they have to do is eat less and exercise more.

From inside your own brain, this is nearly impossible.

Another situation that is difficult is any romantic entanglements we find ourselves in.

Giving others advice is pretty easy.

Take it slow, be confident, be yourself, let things happen naturally and organically.

But from within the system, it’s much more difficult.

The opposite relationships are equally true.

We’ve all known other people who are in trainwreck relationships.

EVERYBODY can see the train is crashing from the outside.

But from the inside, it seems that everything is OK.

Addictions are similar.

Seeing OTHER people with addiction issues is easy.

Recognizing them from inside our own brains is next to impossible.

This is the whole point of the “rock bottom.”

This is when the person with the addiction is FORCED to acknowledge the issue.

What do all these have in common?

They are all situations that are LONG LASTING.

Relationships, food, addictions, all are situations that keep happening.

Which is why it’s so hard to “go meta” in these situations.

Not only do you have to “go meta” to see the problem, you have to STAY meta to solve the problem.

Fortunately, there are TONS of resources on how to deal with many issues.

However, if you want to GO and STAY meta when dealing with short term issues, it’s much, much easier.

Especially people you are dealing with on a short term basis.

Any kind of sales or persuasion situation.

Because once you GO and STAY meta for the duration, it is EXTREMELY easy to get others to do whatever you want.

All you need to do is STAY META long enough, to get them to see why it’s in THEIR best interests, based on THEIR subjective reasons, to do what YOU want.

And the thing with going meta, it’s an easy thing to learn.

Especially when you go meta and get FANTASTIC results.

It will make all those other issues a lot easier.

Learn More:

http://mindpersuasion.com/sell-anything/