How To Vaporize Insults

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Most of the time, we humans live under tons of vagueness.

Unless you are in the middle of a science experiment, most of the stuff that goes on in our minds is vague.

It HAS to be.

It's the only way our brains can operate.

This is why learning new things is complicated and time consuming.

You HAVE to be specific.

Learning the piano, for example, is time consuming. You have to put your fingers in the right places at the right times, and at the right pressure.

You can't just "guess" and "hope."

Well, you can, but it will sound like a jumble of nonsense.

The learning curve has to go through a phase of conscious competence (using brainpower to think about what you're doing while you're doing it) BEFORE you get to unconscious competence.

When people talk, we don't think about it.

We are at the level of "unconscious competence."

We DID all go through the level of conscious competence, sort of.

But since we were between two and three (when the word explosion happened) we don't really remember it.

This is EXCELLENT news.

Why?

Because no matter WHAT we say, unless it's a rehearsed speech or soliloquy, we're spitting out a collection of words that SORT OF describe the thoughts in our heads.

Which means there is TONS of potential to find out more.

All you have to do is know how to ask.

And the Meta Model is perfect for that.

Find anything they said that was vague, and ask for more specific information.

However, unless you are careful, it CAN sound like an interrogation.

Most of the time our vague language is perfect.

But there are two cases where asking for more specific information will help SIGNIFICANTLY.

The first is when we are asking THEM about stuff they want.

People LOVE to describe what they want.

The more detail, the better.

If you're in sales, this is a great way to fire up their imaginations.

This is also great to use with insults, put downs or underhanded comments.

Since people come up with THOSE on the spur of the moment, there's rarely anything underneath them.

So when you CALMLY ask for more information, they'll have NOTHING.

Being CALM is vital.

Otherwise it will sound like you're starting a fight.

But if you Meta Model insults with even calmness, their insults will VAPORIZE.

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