What Is Your Biggest Fear?

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There's a cool movie, loosely based on a true story, about a basketball coach.

Successful guy (played by Samuel L. Jackson) takes over an inner city high school basketball team.

And like most of these movies, he shows them not just how to be good basketball players, but to be good humans.

Part of this process was while they were practicing, he'd get up close in their faces and ask, "What is your biggest fear?"

Most of the time they didn't know what he was talking about.

When one of the main turning points of the movie happened (the high school misfits all decided to be good students) they "answer" was revealed.

The answer isn't really important (in the movie they lifted a quote from "A Course in Miracles").

But that question (what is your biggest fear) is ALWAYS on our mind.

Why is it a question about our biggest fear and not the fear itself?

Because our ego is very squirrely and clever.

"It" is terrified that we may FIND our biggest fear, and then fix it.

So it keeps our biggest fear well hidden.

So while we always have a vague sense of anxiety in a lot of situations, we rarely know WHY.

We just know that in some situations we feel a bit uneasy.

Since we are biological organisms in a physical world, it doesn't help to give metaphysical meaning to this if we want to FIX IT.

(That quote from the "Course in Miracles" sounds pretty cool, but what the heck do you do with it?)

Imagine a bunch of cavemen out wandering through the jungle.

Their subconscious instincts were ALWAYS on high alert.

Scanning the area for danger.

So when there was MORE chance of danger than food or safety, their subconscious took all that data (that indicated danger MIGHT be close) and translated it into an uneasy feeling that said, "get the heck out of here."

This was all based on probability, not certainty.

Those that were MORE SCARED in MORE SITUATIONS tended to get out in time when there actually WAS a tiger behind the bushes.

So here we are today, with those same instincts.

Only most of our fears are social fears.

In some social situations, we feel uneasy, anxious, etc.

Our ego (collection of protective social instincts) is telling us to get the heck out.

Of course, this warning signal is absolutely false.

So, how do we get rid of those uneasy feelings in some situations?

One way is to FACE OUR FEARS and prove they aren't true.

This takes a lot of courage, and a lot of persistence.

Luckily, there's an easier way.

By understanding the structure, we can slowly dismantle any social fear.

Without ever taking more risk than we're comfortable.

And soon, all social fear will be a thing of the past.

Learn How:

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