Don't Override Their Ideas

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When I was a kid I wasn't too fond of jigsaw puzzles.

A few of my friends had them, and they sometimes wanted to build them, but I never really got into it.

It was a cool concept, and it was fun to fit the pieces together, but I never had the patience.

Once I'd found all the edges (the ones with the flat sides) I lost interest.

It was the same with games like "twenty questions." Somebody thinks of something, and you have to ask the right question to guess what they are thinking.

Usually on long car trips. Personally, I always enjoyed staring out the window and daydreaming.

Trying to guess the ideas in somebody else's head is pretty tricky.

I had this sales job a long time ago, and when me and my trainer came back, one of the managers asked me how it was.

I said something like "interesting and eye opening."

He nodded, smiled and said, "exciting and enlightening, huh?" I looked him and nodded.

But the two words he used to describe the ideas in my head were much different than the ideas I used.

This is a problem that happens you "paraphrase" somebody.

Even though you THINK you are "matching" what they said, you run the risk of completely messing up what's in their head.

It's one thing to "guess wrong" about the ideas that somebody has in their head. It's similar to picking up a jigsaw puzzle piece that LOOKS like a match, but doesn't quite fit.

You can just keep trying until you get a fit.

But when you try and OVERRIDE the ideas in other people's heads with your own, that can lead to disaster.

Sure, if they're super passive, and they don't mind ditching their own ideas and taking yours, it can work.

But if they'll do that, they'll be passive about everything else.

It's a much more effective strategy to just ask questions to FIND OUT what the ideas are in their heads, instead of guessing.

Not only will you find an EXACT match (since they'll be their ideas) but they'll appreciate you MUCH MORE than everybody else.

Since few people take the time to understand. Most people try to override, or guess.

And once you HAVE the exact ideas in their mind, that's just the beginning.

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