Athena Posted May 28, 2016 Report Share Posted May 28, 2016 Hi you guys. I will have found a way to resolve this today, I kinda have to as I can't leave this hanging. But I'd still appreciate any advice and I am also working with one of George's programs too. OK, I only went back to dating at all on April the 8th. Got hurt by the last guy and took a year off men COMPLETELY, also for a few other reasons. But, while it helped me in some ways, my shyness has gone up and my dating confidence has gone down. I have had 2 dates since getting back out there and I enjoyed them. With the 2nd person it was quite easy, though. It was a blind date (which I very rarely do! but he was American, Hispanic and we clicked so well in text plus I want to get back out there!) but it wasn't like ooh I'm going to meet a guy who I almost KNOW I am attracted to, you know? (NOT saying I'm not attracted to American guys or I'm not attracted to Hispanic guys. American guys fascinate me and I had two dates with a French-Mexican guy who I rather fancied! And I think some Latino guys are hot hot hot! But I mean is, neither of us had seen photos of each other at all!) So I met him we had a great time, I want to be friends, he wants to be lovers so that's it but it was fun! However, I like this guy on my dating thing and as far as I can tell, he's my type and I'm attracted. I've seen about 15 photos and a video (nothing saucy!) and in almost every photo etc. I think yum. Not just looks though. In his messages he's really sweet and not in player type of way. Not saying he couldn't be a player, sure. So I like the looks so far, I like the personality so far and there are some other things about him that appeal. Plus he's one of very few guys on that site who hasn't tried in messages to escalate to fast sex. (Again, not saying he won't try that!) At one point he said cos of his sore back he needed a massage & another guy has said, he was TOTALLY flirting! but that's the only time. Recently, I said, BTW we've been chatting for a month today. He came back with "...a month already? Think we should meet up one day soon. What do you reckon? :-D" I agreed and said how crazy busy work is (that week) it seriously was. More than usual and a lot of pressure and so on. On my profile it starts with "...if you like what you see....." Well, so he replied "Well, I like what i see. Think I need to make something happen. What do you think? Yup whenever you're free just let me know." And NOW I have been feeling SO SHY. I mean I get like that a bit anyway, I take up to 2 days to reply to a message at times cos I've figured out, I'm a shy texter if I like someone. And the reason is, with the phone or chat or face-to-face it's immediate you don't have that time to think or in my case OVERthink. He's younger than me and I have read SO many things saying younger guys ONLY want older women for sex they would NEVER EVER EVERRRR want a relationship with them and that older women are garbage, basically. So THAT doesn't exactly build confidence! And I got flirted with by the guy in the ice cream shop who served me!! but it's not like i'm bombarded by suitors! What if this guy doesn't find me attractive, that's kind of my biggest fear. I really DO want to meet him but........I guess what in this long winded text I'm trying to ask is what else can I do to destroy this FEAR. He's the best guy I've chatted to since early April and i think part of me is scared to lose that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jerrymp Posted May 28, 2016 Report Share Posted May 28, 2016 Hi you guys. I will have found a way to resolve this today, I kinda have to as I can't leave this hanging. But I'd still appreciate any advice and I am also working with one of George's programs too. OK, I only went back to dating at all on April the 8th. Got hurt by the last guy and took a year off men COMPLETELY, also for a few other reasons. But, while it helped me in some ways, my shyness has gone up and my dating confidence has gone down. I have had 2 dates since getting back out there and I enjoyed them. With the 2nd person it was quite easy, though. It was a blind date (which I very rarely do! but he was American, Hispanic and we clicked so well in text plus I want to get back out there!) but it wasn't like ooh I'm going to meet a guy who I almost KNOW I am attracted to, you know? (NOT saying I'm not attracted to American guys or I'm not attracted to Hispanic guys. American guys fascinate me and I had two dates with a French-Mexican guy who I rather fancied! And I think some Latino guys are hot hot hot! But I mean is, neither of us had seen photos of each other at all!) So I met him we had a great time, I want to be friends, he wants to be lovers so that's it but it was fun! However, I like this guy on my dating thing and as far as I can tell, he's my type and I'm attracted. I've seen about 15 photos and a video (nothing saucy!) and in almost every photo etc. I think yum. Not just looks though. In his messages he's really sweet and not in player type of way. Not saying he couldn't be a player, sure. So I like the looks so far, I like the personality so far and there are some other things about him that appeal. Plus he's one of very few guys on that site who hasn't tried in messages to escalate to fast sex. (Again, not saying he won't try that!) At one point he said cos of his sore back he needed a massage & another guy has said, he was TOTALLY flirting! but that's the only time. Recently, I said, BTW we've been chatting for a month today. He came back with "...a month already? Think we should meet up one day soon. What do you reckon? :-D" I agreed and said how crazy busy work is (that week) it seriously was. More than usual and a lot of pressure and so on. On my profile it starts with "...if you like what you see....." Well, so he replied "Well, I like what i see. Think I need to make something happen. What do you think? Yup whenever you're free just let me know." And NOW I have been feeling SO SHY. I mean I get like that a bit anyway, I take up to 2 days to reply to a message at times cos I've figured out, I'm a shy texter if I like someone. And the reason is, with the phone or chat or face-to-face it's immediate you don't have that time to think or in my case OVERthink. He's younger than me and I have read SO many things saying younger guys ONLY want older women for sex they would NEVER EVER EVERRRR want a relationship with them and that older women are garbage, basically. So THAT doesn't exactly build confidence! And I got flirted with by the guy in the ice cream shop who served me!! but it's not like i'm bombarded by suitors! What if this guy doesn't find me attractive, that's kind of my biggest fear. I really DO want to meet him but........I guess what in this long winded text I'm trying to ask is what else can I do to destroy this FEAR. He's the best guy I've chatted to since early April and i think part of me is scared to lose that. My first thoughts upon reading this is : https://youtu.be/ZXsQAXx_ao0 Athena 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Light Posted May 28, 2016 Report Share Posted May 28, 2016 Sometimes all you gotta do is... Just. Show. Up. Athena 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Athena Posted May 29, 2016 Author Report Share Posted May 29, 2016 Thank you both of you so much!! Jerry that video is awesome (plus I think Shia is cute ha ha) the message is SO good. (and funny to watch.) Light, thank you also! I listened to one of the "Fearless" program subs for a bit and I sent him another message, saying I am free this week. And, yes, the video really helped too! Will be re-listening to both for the date with him and if any other ones come up! Freaking awesome. Once again, may I please reiterate, both of you ROCK! Light and jerrymp 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jerrymp Posted June 3, 2016 Report Share Posted June 3, 2016 Glad to have been of service to you princess Athena Your man, Gerardo Athena 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Athena Posted June 7, 2016 Author Report Share Posted June 7, 2016 Gerardo, your reply there is the bomb and put a big smile on my face when I read it. Thank you!!! jerrymp 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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