Reframing things

[redhat]

My supervisor at work is a real prat pardon my French. The guy blows hot and cold and is very negative I get through the day by not really engaging him too deeply.

 

However, a silly chat with one of my co workers - and some silly back and forth banter about him has resulted in me seeing this guy in a different light now.

 

Previously when he showed up in his car we'd all be trying to think of things to say as this guy sits there and says virtually zero - and an air of awkward silence descends.

 

Well every time I see him now I have a huge grin on my face I can't help it! He even looks at me and asks what's up? I tell him I'm happy.

 

Okay I picture him dancing around on a dance floor grey hair an all with a pair of Kylie  minogues gold very short hot pants on whilst singing I'm spinning around lol. In my mind He looks like a totally ridiculous stupid man that carries no weight.

 

I think this is called re framing and it does work - the trick is getting the right representation that works for you.

 

 

[Athena]

You know what this reminded me of? I don't know if you've seen it but in the movie "Waterboy" I think the coach tells the main character to imagine people who he finds intimidating as a baby (and we get to see this visually on the screen!) he also teaches this to at least one other member of the team. And he imagines one of the opposing footballers is his coach taunting him that Gatorade is better than water, gets mad and tackles him HARD! This - from memory, helps them win the game! 

Tried to add the embed code for that part but it didn't work...oh well. 

[redhat]

 

You know what this reminded me of? I don't know if you've seen it but in the movie "Waterboy" I think the coach tells the main character to imagine people who he finds intimidating as a baby (and we get to see this visually on the screen!) he also teaches this to at least one other member of the team. And he imagines one of the opposing footballers is his coach taunting him that Gatorade is better than water, gets mad and tackles him HARD! This - from memory, helps them win the game! 

Tried to add the embed code for that part but it didn't work...oh well. 

Know the film with Adam Sandler - but not seen it yet :-( I read about this technique in a book, but it told me to think of someone with a clowns nose or like a bum. I tried that way but it didn't really help. However, although this sounds weird the above really connected with me and now all I can see is this grey haired dude dancing around in Kylie's  gold hot pants lol. I suppose ppl are different and you have to employ the representation that resonates with you the most in order to make this technique really effective.