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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec28Post.mp4 Humans have a cause-effect generator in our brains. Or more accurately, we assume there is a cause-effect relationship between things that are not related. This was necessary back in the day, when life was very dangerous. This is very hard to imagine today. We tend to believe logically, or at the very least having logical reasons for doing things. At the same time, if we're honest with ourselves, we'll understand everything is a numbers game. There isn't, unfortunately, any guaranteed way to get ONE specific guy or gal to like you. There isn't any guaranteed to get ONE specific customer to buy from you. There isn't any guaranteed way to get ONE specific company to hire you. However, there are plenty of ways to INCREASE your odds. To get MORE girls to like you. To get MORE people to buy from you. To get MORE job offers from MORE companies. This is very much like the old days. The cause-effect generator worked with the same "numbers game" that runs everything else today. The more girls you talk to, the more you chances are. The more girls you talk to, the more you'll improve, which will include your chances. Same goes with sales and job interviews. And since job interviews are free (except time and gas money and maybe dry cleaning) it's not really a bad idea to go on practice interviews. Anyhow, how does today's "numbers game" theory compare with cause effect? Back in the day, if you were wrong with your cause-effect assumptions nine times out of ten, but right ONE time, that would be OK. Just like if you get shut down by nine girls and get "accepted" by the tenth, that's also OK. So even though our "cause-effect-generator" is wrong most of the time, that's not a bad thing. But sometimes it CAN be. See, in the old days, when your cause-effect generator was WRONG the only cost to being wrong was running away from something that WASN'T dangerous. Today, everything is pretty much flipped. Back in the old days, our environment was trees, rocks, the elements, and animals. Some of those animals were tasty. Some were dangerous. Today, our environment is OTHER PEOPLE. So it's very often to lead with REVERSE polarity. We BELIEVE people can see directly into our souls. It works like this. Two people see each other. Both people imagine the other person finding the out the WORST thing about them. So they PROJECT false confidence. Each person interprets this FALSE confidence as EVIDENCE that they've seen deeply into our soul. Which creates a self-sustaining loop of social anxiety. But NOBODY can see into your soul. Not even you. So the simple solutions is to LEAD with confidence. Lead with and easy to build confidence. An easy to STRENGTHEN confidence. And they will ASSUME your confidence is valid. And they will defer to it. This will IMMEDIATELY flip the polarity of that self-destructive of social anxiety. Into a self-sustaining loop of mutual admiration and respect. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/commanding-voice/
https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec26Post.mp4 There's an interesting scene from the old movie, "Jaws." That movie has a lot of iconic scenes. This isn't really one of them. But it is kind of interesting. Not likely an original scene, as this particular scene, in different forms, but the same structure, can be found everywhere. Not just the movies. Anyhow, it was early in the movie. A few people had washed up dead. A bunch of people were arguing over what to do. Nobody had any real authority. Everybody was talking over everybody else. The one dude shut them all up by dragging his fingernails over the chalk board. Once they all shut up, he explained what was what. Another similar scene was in "The Road Warrior." Part II of the original Mad Max. Max had found a relatively safe compound. But they needed to move, but they had to smuggle out their secret stash of petrol. Similar to the scene from Jaws, everybody was talking over each other. Finally Max silenced them all by whistling. Once he had their attention, he gave them the solution. "Two days ago I saw a vehicle that can haul that tanker. You wanna get out of here? Talk to me." All humans are driven by instincts. Food, sex, safety. And a ton of social instincts. As much as we pretend we don't care what others think, we do. If we show up and people stop talking, look at us, and then pretend nothing happens, that feels HORRIBLE. On the other hand, if we solve some problem, and then return to our "group" and they spontaneously give us a standing ovation, that feels fantastic. Most of the time, we are safely in the middle. Doing everything we can to avoid the negative side. And trying our best to come up with any answer to any potential problem. Normally this evolves into those "idea contests" where everybody is talking over each other. Our deep fantasy is to be that guy that has the REAL answer. To wait patiently, send some signal for everybody to shut the F up, and then drop in the solution. And then calmly drop in the Mad Max solution: "You wanna get out of here? Talk to me." In the movies, this has to be heavily dependent on content. Content that is part of the story. How to find and kill the shark. How to escape the crazy motorcycle killers hanging around outside your compound. But this desire, to be "the guy" with the solution is WAY more ancient. Which means it's NOT based on content. It can't be. It's based on deep confidence, deep feelings of certainty. This simple idea, "you wanna get out of here, you talk to me," does not even need words. The right glance, the right head movement is often all you need. And when you can speak like a true leader, with true authority, words won't matter. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/commanding-voice/
https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec25Post.mp4 They say that first impressions are hard to change. This is kind of true. But the part that is generally misunderstood is the "first impression" part. Another corollary to this is we make a first impression in ten seconds. This CAN be true, but it's often not. This idea, of first impressions being made in tens seconds or so REQUIRES we have a lot of data. This is unfortunately WHY many guys have the wrong idea about the ladies. For example, imagine a typical guy, flirting with a lady across the room. The guy sees her. The guy finds her attractive. Then when she glances at him a few times, it feels fantastic. This is where assumptions go crazy. Since the dude has already made up his mind that she's hot, and she's smiled at him a few times, he assumes the feeling is mutual. Then he walks over and starts a conversation. And crashes and burns. Unfortunately, for guys, the first impression they make requires MUCH more data than the one the ladies make. The first impression a lady makes is based more on looks. And once it's established in anybody's brain that she's hot, anything she say will be filtered THROUGH that previously established filter. This is otherwise known as the halo effect. For dudes, people, not just ladies, need more data BEYOND looks. Otherwise known as frame. How he carries himself. This is actually good news. Because for dudes, this is something they can ALWAYS improve. How you walk. How you speak. How you handle "frame tests." And it's all based on how you view your inner self. Since how you view your inner self, on a true level, will drive all your behaviors. And this is one of those form-function things. Form drives function, and function drives form. All it really takes is a slight shift. Specifically, how you speak. If you walk over there and speak with uncertainty, that will make her, or anybody else, question their first assessment. This will invite tests. And if you respond to those tests with self-doubt in your voice, the tests will get harder. If, on the other hand, if you lead with a strong and confident voice, that will invite another response. A positive response. Which makes it EASIER to speak in a confident voice. Which will invite even more pleasant responses. Creating an attraction-virtuous cycle. And when it comes to form-function, how you speak is the EASIEST thing you can practice. And will get you the best results. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/commanding-voice/
https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec24Post.mp4 I remember once, a long time ago, when the CEO of the company I worked for came to pay us a visit. This guy was widely respected, not only in the company, but in the business world in general. He, and is brain, were largely responsible for the company being as successful as it was. But how he specifically impressed me had nothing to do with his business skills. But at the same, how he impressed me had EVERYTHING to do with this business skills. He was just about to give us, all the workers, blue collar and white collar, kind of "motivational speech." Not a flim-flam, guru type but a well prepared REASON why our products were so important. They were. It was a huge company, with tons of divisions, that made medical products. Product used in surgery, etc. So we literally were "saving lives." Yeah, we had competitors who made the same stuff. So it wasn't like if we stopped operations a bunch of people would drop dead. But it was kind of cool working for a company that made life saving tools and equipment. Any how, we were all outside, and the dude starts talking. It was sprinkling slightly, and he made a joke, and kept on rolling. Then the power cut out. No more mic. What did this super genius CEO do? He glanced briefly to the side, realizing there was a problem. Then he said something like, "eh, who needs a mic," and kept on talking. Only he spoke loudly, confidently, and purposely. Everybody could hear him. As if nothing happened. This kind of inner confidence was likely one of the fundamental elements of his CEO skills. Not just the words he said, but how confidently, and loudly. Many others would have stopped, blamed others, etc. Not this dude. Funny thing, is his HOW people used to speak. No emails, no social media, not even a mic. Watch the old movie, "Julius Caesar," with Marlon Brando playing Mark Antony. The guy gave the famous, "I come not to praise Caesar, but to bury him," speech. This is how humans used to speak to crowds. No mic, and often a hostile audience. Belting out a voice with such confidence that no resistance gets through. Another example of this is from the movie, "The Lost City of Z." True story about a British guy who wanted to get funding for the search for ancient cities in central and South America. Dude's up in front of wealth British guys, all taking turns trying to shout him down. The main character is up there, handling it like a boss. No mics. Not like modern comics have a mic, and nobody else does. Speak with this much confidence, and people's brains will automatically shut off. Speak like an ancient orator, and people will wonder who the heck you are. Use your voice like the powerful instrument it was meant to be, and dominate. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/commanding-voice/