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  1. Secret People Training Skills: https://mindpersuasion.com/secret-people-training-skills/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan17_Post.mp4 One of the earliest "tricks" from NLP is the swish pattern. Unfortunately, like many other NLP ideas, this was treated as a once and done trick. Mainly because of how it was taught and learned in seminars. NLP seminars are like many other guru type seminars. The seminar experience is kind of an "alternate reality." Everybody is excited about all the cool tricks. And how much better their future will be. And when they try the exercise, they kind of "pretend" they work. Especially if the NLP seminar is expensive and in some exotic location, or even a nice hotel, like many are. It would feel TERRIBLE to admit you've wasted your money. So everybody kind of "pretends" that the techniques work FANTASTICALLY. So, when people do the "swish" pattern, inside the seminar, it's easy to believe it's a once and done trick. The swish pattern does work, but it takes time. You basically take some "trigger" that comes at you unexpectedly from the world. And before the swish pattern, that trigger causes an automatic and unwanted emotional response. This unwanted response is kind of like a little kid touching a hot stove. This creates an automatic "cause-effect" link in the kids mind. So they see the stove, they AUTOMATICALLY feel afraid. This is naturally overridden over time. Slowly but surely, as they grow up, they override that "hot stove = danger" with different responses. Hot stove = grilled cheese Hot stove = happy pancake party Hot stove = cooking dinner and hoping I get laid So yes, it IS possible to RE-WIRE any negative trigger-responses in your brain. But since you are essentially re-wiring a fear response, it takes plenty of time. Metaphorically, when the brain sees any kind of danger, or potential danger, any thing associated with that danger is laid down with THICK brain wiring. Those that didn't have this automatic fear-thick-wire response didn't survive. So in order to override that thick wire with pleasure, it takes time. What kind of pleasure? In the hot stove example, the fear of pain was slowly overridden with the pleasure of eating. But an even BETTER pleasure is SEX. Especially if you use the SAME trigger. Most of us have an automatic sex response like this. We see a hot guy or girl. We feel horny. That horniness makes us imagine talking to them and hopefully getting some. That causes fear and anxiety. That fear and anxiety drives UNATTRACTIVE body language. This is likely the most famous VICIOUS cycle of modern humans. The trick is to BREAK this cycle using the SAME sex urge. To stop that chain of events that leads with unattractive body language. And build in a DIFFERENT chain of events. To generate very, very attractive body language. So instead of FEELING nervous when you see a pretty lady. You'll AUTOMATICALLY feel insanely confident. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/sexual-charisma/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov16Post.mp4 Plenty of animals can be trained. Even wild animals. This is something most would disagree with. But the word "trained" is often thought to be associated with the idea of being "trained to do what we want." For example, I've seen plenty of "trained" deer in the wild. No, they didn't do tricks or sit. But they were "trained." Only nobody "trained" them. They "learned." What did they learn? That humans are a source of FREE FOOD. My buddies and I had spent a day hiking. We got to our campsite, a big flat meadow. About an hour after setting up camp, the deer slowly showed up. They were just standing around, literally, staring at us. They'd been fed enough by people, they "learned" that if you show up next to a human, you'd get free food. On the other hand, I've seen plenty of deer way up in the Sierras, where few people go. So not nearly enough people feed the deer to "train them." When you see a deer up there, you freeze. One quick move and they'll bolt. Now, you couldn't really train an animal enough to make it a pet. But most animals DO have "learning capability." They do something, get a good result, and they remember that. Sort of. It takes a few iterations before they make the connection, but it happens plenty often enough. Humans are a bit different. We have language and memories. Sure, we can also be subconsciously "trained." Most of the time we call this "picking up bad habits." But our self awareness allows us to CHOOSE what habits or skills we can learn. This may be the reason we developed self awareness to go along with our language and memory. We can learn from other people, even if we don't see what they did. They do something, show us the results and tell us HOW they got those results. Those words go into our brains. We now know HOW to "teach ourselves" how to do what they did, so we can get what they got. But we can do even better. Somebody can literally MAKE UP a story. And even though we KNOW that story is made up, that will still MOTIVATE us to get close. Some guy makes up a story about a young hunter who destroys a big evil monster. So we can apply the STRUCTURE of that story to anything we want that isn't easy. Consider this the driving force of all human achievement. People DREAMING about doing things nobody has ever done before. To get the massive rewards nobody has ever gotten before. In a way that nobody has ever experienced before. This ambition-dreaming mind is your greatest asset. Wake it up, strengthen it, leverage it. And follow it to GREATNESS. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/ambition-generator/
  4. Wizards and Protectors: https://mindpersuasion.com/wizards-and-protectors/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov12Loop.mp4
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug20Post.mp4 One of the common ideas in all the Rocky movies is strange training techniques. In the first one, this was famously Rocky hitting huge slabs of meat. In another one, Mickey, his trainer, had him chasing around a chicken. In still another one, when he fought the Russian guy (Ivan Drago, played by Dolph Lundgren) they had a kind of interesting juxtaposition. They'd show the Russian training on a bunch of high tech equipment, then they'd show Rocky lifting up rocks or pulling people up mountains in carts. You'll find this kind of thing quite a bit. Both in movies and real life. Perhaps the most famous is the, "wax on, wax off" idea from Karate kid. That doing a whole bunch of really boring movements will train in some muscle memory. This idea is interesting because it's completely different from "common sense." That if you want to get better at boxing, you MUST practice boxing. Or if you want to become a better martial artists, you MUST practice martial arts. These ideas, of hitting slabs of meat or doing wax-on-wax-off exercises to kind of side step the expected kind of exercises are very much hacks. And we humans LOVE hacks. In fact, you may even say the entire creation of modern society, going all the way back to the first agricultural societies were hacks. Some guy was doing some really boring job, over and over and over again. While he was doing that, he had the very common thought: "There's GOT to be a better way to do this." Even a few comedies have little kids who hack their way around the necessary lawn mowing. They tie the lawnmower to a post in the middle of the grass. The lawn mower goes around and around in a circle, getting smaller each time. We see a kid doing this in a movie and it's believable. This suggests we have a kind of "hacking instinct" in our brain somewhere. One way to think about EVERY invention is a hack, a way to spend less time and effort to get the same result. Or how to better use ANYTHING in our environment to get a better result. Like in Karate Kid and Rocky. This is good news. Because since this really IS an instinct, we CAN figure out a way to hack our way around anything. This DOES NOT mean there are shortcuts. Wax on wax off is a fantastic hack, but it is NOT a shortcut. The kid still had to do that simple movement a kajillion times. Rocky STILL had to lift up boulders and drag his friends around. But you still can hack your way into many useful skills. Like interpersonal communication, and creating a dominating social presence. Without ever really needing to practice those skills. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/stage-wizard/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec15Post.mp4 People can, and are, trained just like animals. We have a built in learning system, which is based on the same learning that is built into lower animals. The famous "anchoring" process from NLP is a perfect example. It's based on Pavlov's famous dog experiments. Scientist had a dog. He brought the food, and the dog salivated. He brought the food, and rang a bell, and the dog salivated. He rang the bell WITH the food a few times. Then he ONLY rang the bell, and the dog salivated. He essentially "trained" the dog to salivated at the sound of a bell. Our human learning system works the same way. We learn things by association. When you learn to play an instrument, for example, you learn to associate correct finger movements with pleasing sounds. And incorrect finger movements with un-pleasing sounds. For Pavlov, he only associated ONE external thing with ONE pleasing thing. The bell and the idea of eating. For learning something, we connect GOOD feelings to the things we want to learn. And we connect BAD feelings to the things we want to NOT learn, or UN-learn. If we point ourselves in the direction a large collection of skills, like being fluent in a musical instrument, these bad results (bad notes) and good results (good notes) will slowly GUIDE our behavior toward higher and higher skill levels. This happens consciously, when we can direct our own behaviors. This happens unconsciously, when we "model" behaviors from others. But it also happens the way we ACT around others. If you behave in a certain "bad way" around others, they will slowly and UNCONSCIOUSLY associate those "bad" behaviors with YOU. For example, if you are always nervous, and shifty, and say weird things, people will naturally want to avoid you. They often will not know why. They'll just say things like, "that guy gives me the creeps." Most of the way we train each other happens unconsciously. This is why it's hard to consciously CREATE things that are normally unconscious, like emotional and sexual attraction. There is, however, a kind of hack. A way that leverages THEIR thinking about you. It's actually pretty simple. But it IS a long game strategy. It requires that you accept they will create positive feelings about YOU when you are NOT around. Which means they will be thinking about you. In a positive way. This will NEVER, EVER happen if you talk to them TOO LONG. Beyond the point of maximum positive feelings. The "trick," is to QUICKLY create very positive feelings in them, and then SPLIT. Do this over several interactions, and THEY will subconsciously build up positive feelings about YOU. Just as automatically as Pavlov was "trained" to salivate at the sound of the bell. They will be "trained' to salivate at the THOUGHT of you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov07Post.mp4 Fight Club was a fantastic movie. A lot of ideas about masculine energy, what happens when there is a lack of positive male models, etc. But there was one scene in particular that was interesting. After the two main characters had their first couple of fights. It gave them a much better sense of everybody around them. They would get on a bus, for example, and IMMEDIATELY scan the crowd, and figure out who they could likely beat in a fight, and who they might not. This is one of those movie scenes that is intuitively true. Anything "new" that you do will do this to you. Once I was painting my first condo, a long, long time ago. A friend casually remarked that having had that experience, of going through all the trouble of painting my own house, I would never look at another paint job the same way. And he was right. For a while after that, whenever I went into somebody's home, I found myself checking out the quality of their paint job. Our brains have tons of filters. It has to, otherwise we'd go insane. So it needs to sort for things that are important. And bypass all the stuff that aren't important. This is the same as the red car effect. When you don't notice all the red cars. And then you buy a red car, and see all the red cars. Before, you hadn't done anything to indicate that red cars are important. So you filtered them out. The process of buying a red car slowly re-calibrates your filters. Since you bought one, this means they are important. So you start to see them. Before I painted my own walls, the quality of a paint job didn't matter. But since I spent a lot of time, money, and effort, it became important. Of course, after a while, it kind of become unimportant again. But if you fight, or train consistently, you'll get the "Fight Club" response. Measuring people up will be second nature. This happens when you practice verbal fighting skills as well. So long as you do a little bit of practice every day, you'll have a completely different set of filters. You'll see the things people are hiding behind their words. You'll start to notice the loud obnoxious people who are really cowards on the inside. Not just from a theoretical standpoint. But from an intuitive, deep knowing standpoint. You'll also see the opposite. The seemingly shy, quiet types that you know have rock solid self confidence and self esteem. And once you learn how to read people the way they REALLY are, not just the way they are projecting themselves, YOU will be radiating a much different kind of energy. A much more powerful kind of energy. A much more attractive kind of energy. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun12Post.mp4 The song, Pinball Wizard, by The Who is an interesting song. Most pop songs are about love, etc. But the Pinball Wizard is about a guy who is deaf, dumb and blind. But he plays pinball better than everybody else. He "feels" his way around the game. And because of his skills he becomes a kind of cult like guru. The idea, as strange as it seems, is pretty common. Of feeling your way around complex situations. In many (slightly) fantasy type movies about martial arts, (or things like martial arts like being a Jedi) there's the same idea. Of wearing a blindfold and being able to effectively block and punch. This is essentially what Marvel's Daredevil does. Blind dude who uses his senses to beat up bad guys. The idea pops up in many places. Because it is VERY compelling. Often our senses can get in the way. We have a strange relationship between our conscious minds and our subconscious behavior. Many of our behaviors are simple, and automatic. But some behaviors are complex, yet can be trained to the level of automatic. This is when we learn something to the level of unconscious competence. When we can be competent at some kind of skill, and not have to think about it. This is when desire is followed by outcome. Not by magic, but by automatic behavior that doesn't require conscious input. This is when we drive home but forget driving home. The more we train at ANY skill, the more things we'll be able to do at the level of unconscious competence. One of the reasons we are drawn to those movie characters is because they have some magical ability. Like being Jedi, or a Daredevil, or a Pinball Wizard. They don't have to train. They just have the skill. Of course, Daredevil needed to train quite a bit. From when he was a kid, to when he started beating up bad guys. In that respect, Daredevil is the most ACCURATE of fictional hero's with high levels of unconscious competence. This is what separates people who dream and wish, from people who do. Training. One of my favorite scenes is from the movie, "Man on Fire." Crease, the washed up assassin who finds redemption in protecting a child, is walking along side her while she's swimming. She's got big meet coming up. He drops in some HUGE wisdom. (paraphrased) "Most people think they'll rise to the occasion. They won't. You only rise to your level of training." The meaning is simple. The more you train, the better you'll do. If you want to have wizard-like social skills, able to operate within and master any crowd, all you need to do is train the right skills. What skills? Find Out: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  9. One of my favorite movie scenes is from the movie, "Man on Fire," with Denzel Washington. It's a remake of an earlier movie. Kind of a common structure. A washed up assassin takes a job baby sitting a rich family's kid. Through the relationship with the kid, the hero "re-discovers" his core truth. Then some bad guys come and kidnap the kid. The assassin regains his power and kills everybody. But one scene had Denzel's character walking along side the kid he was baby sitting as she was swimming laps in a pool. She was training for an upcoming competition. And he gave her some very sound, "assassin" advice. The advice is that contrary to what we like to believe, people DO NOT rise to the "occasion." We don't perform at above average levels when the situation demands. Instead, the assassin-hero says, we rise to our level of training. A common reframe we give ourselves is we want to do something, and then we chicken out. So instead of admitting that we chicken out, we reframe the objective. We artificially "lower" that which we were too scared to go after. We say to ourselves that we didn't "really" want that. If we REALLY wanted it, we would have "risen to the occasion." This would be like a free-throw shooter who only makes 40% during practice, and thinking he is going to make 80% during the big game. This is a fantastic movie ending, but real life is a little different. In real life if you hit 40% during practice, you're likely going to hit 40% during the games. This is made more difficult by watching highlight reels. For every bottom of the ninth home run that wins the game in stunning fashion, there are many, many more bottom of the ninth strike-outs. Consider the idea that "rising to the occasion" is a myth. A tool our self-deception uses to keep us on the sidelines. Instead, consider the reality. Than in every situation, you will rise to your level of training. So, start training. How do you "train?" Every single social situation is an opportunity. Even if you only watch others, you can train by going home and journaling. Not only what you DID but what you COULD HAVE DONE. When you imagine what you COULD HAVE DONE, you are training in new ideas. Every conversation that you have, whether it ends good or bad, is also a source of training. The more you train, the better you'll get. The better you get, the more you'll enjoy it. The more you enjoy it, the more FUN it will be to train. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  10. Imagine if you took a seminar on boxing. And it was NOT a "hands on seminar." It was pure theory. How to punch at what angle and strength. Imagine some of the questions. "So, if I'm halfway through the eighth round, and he comes at me with a roundhouse from the left, with a plane angle of 22 degrees, but with only 78% strength, what's the best defensive move in that condition?" And imagine if the instructor actually answered. If he had a powerful computer and generated the precise punch in question, and then demonstrated the defensive move that would be maximally successful. And imagine all the would-be boxers writing down the angles and drawing diagrams on their notes. Expecting to be in the middle of a fight and actually remember the correct angles and punch strengths, etc. Pretty silly, right? Obviously. Even couch potatoes who would NEVER get into the ring see this as impossible. People who would NEVER get into the ring, know that to practice boxing, you have to box. Not only box, but practice all the different moves. Anybody who's seen any movie or TV show that even has a scene inside of a boxing gym knows this. They know that a boxing match is very fluid. All sports are fluid. All decisions are made in the moment. And mostly unconsciously. You respond and react in the blink of an eye. In fact, the whole idea of corner manager giving his boxer tips in between rounds verifies this. The boxer is SO "in the moment," he needs to be told consciously what's happening. Where his opponent is weak, where he might have an advantage, etc. So the whole seminar idea with boxing is goofy. Yet that his how we learn about communication. The idea that we can plan BEFORE HAND what to say, or how to respond of somebody says something is AS ridiculous as thinking you can do that in a boxing match. Of course, most of the time we are communicating, we AREN'T trying to hurt each other. But conversations are JUST as spontaneous as boxing matches. They are JUST as dependent on intuition as boxing matches. They require us to be JUST as "in the moment" as in a boxing match. And as luck would have it, we can prepare for conversations JUST like boxers prepare for boxing matches. Most of the preparation happens OUTSIDE the ring. The training, the calisthenics, the techniques, etc. Turns out there are JUST AS MANY ways to improve your conversational skills that DON'T require you actually be in a conversation. All these techniques, on their own, are very safe, very easy, and very simple. But when you put them together, they will make you a powerhouse communicator. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cb/
  11. Everything we do has deep reasons and surface reasons. And not from a metaphysical sense. From a purely biological, scientific sense. On a very deep level, we are driven by instincts. Every single thing we do is it satisfy one or more combinations of instincts. Hunger is the easiest to understand. Because it involves taking something physical that we can see, touch, and smell. And through the process of eating, or satisfying our deep hunger instinct, we take that STUFF from OUTSIDE of our body, and put it INSIDE of our body. And while it is INSIDE our body, our body transforms it from STUFF to ENERGY that we can use to get around. This process of eating is EXTREMELY important. As such, much of any culture is centered around this experience. But at the very core, on the deepest level, is this extremely ANCIENT instinct that drives all biological entities to GET ENERGY needed to continue to stay alive. It's unlikely the many animals besides us humans think much about eating. But how we satisfy our hunger instinct shows that there are deep reasons, and surface reasons. The deep reasons are ancient. The surface reasons are cultural, contextual, and literally INFINITE. If you get into a fight with your spouse because they got the wrong cake for a party, this is a surface level disagreement over a very deep and ancient instinct. Every single decision about every single action (past, present or contemplated) contains both elements. Deep, instinctive levels. And surface level, conscious and rational reasons. Whenever we persuade others, the more of ALL the reasons we understand and target, the better of a persuader we can be. Something as simple as eating, for example, is rarely done in isolation. There are usually social instincts being satisfied at the same time. Often there is hopefully some sexual instincts being eventually satisfied. Meaning getting together for dinner is one step in a longer intention to satisfy sexual and romantic instinctive needs. No matter WHO you are intending to persuade, the more you understand about ALL LEVELS of their unmet needs, the easier you can persuade them. Most folks ONLY focus on the surface level ideas. These surface level ideas will always need language. Because language only speaks to surface level things. But the deeper you go, the less language you need. The deeper you go, the less of their conscious minds that you need. If you go deep enough, and subtle enough, you can persuade them without EVER needing to engage their conscious minds. Meaning you can get them to do ANYTHING, and they'll never know it was you. This can lead to MANY interesting outcomes. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  12. There are two very basic ways to get somebody to do something. And there are two basic reasons why we all do things. To INCREASE our state, by moving toward something positive. Or to INCREASE our state, by moving away from something negative. When thinking about persuading others, you MUST use their reasons. A very common technique of persuasion is "features and benefits." Where you list all the features, or the positive aspects of whatever you are persuading them to do. The benefits are the REASONS why they are "good things." One "feature" can have MANY benefits. For example, imagine if you were selling a blue car. One "feature" could be it's blue color. What would the benefits be of that blue color? Theoretically, they could be ANYTHING. But here's the thing. Unless those features AND benefits happened to match what was important from THEIR perspective, none of them would work. This is why salespeople tend to rattle of a LONG list of features and benefits, hoping SOME of them will stick. Of course, since we are all humans, we all have the SAME instincts. And if you happened to KNOW the instincts that were very STRONG in your target, then you could use that. For example, they say the path to a man's heart is his stomach. The INSTINCT in this case is food. And by "feeding" a man, over and over, you can "seduce" him. The idea being, if you are a woman interested in a particular man, by continuously SATISFYING one of his instincts, you'll "train him" to develop an affinity for you. Turns out these technique works VERY WELL. And not just with hunger, with ALL our instincts. Marketers and advertisers have known this forever. One thing we ALL respond to SUBCONCONSCIOUSLY is the idea of getting social approval. This is the idea behind ALL brands and fashions. The MAIN REASON we choose any type of clothing or accessory is to LOOK GOOD to certain people. And the more advertisers can create this CAUSE-EFFECT linkage, the more they'll sell: Buy this item (cause) and get social approval from your peers (effect). Turns out this is a VERY versatile idea. Of connecting the unmet instinctive needs to an external behavior. Advertisers, politicians, even religions do this on a LARGE scale. But you can also learn how to do it on a small scale. A one on one scale. To slowly change the behavior of ANYBODY. And just like most people FEEL REALLY GOOD when they strut the latest fashions, YOUR targets will FEEL REALLY GOOD when they start to exhibit your behaviors. Behaviors that YOU have trained into them. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  13. When you were a kid your mom was worried about you hanging out with the wrong crowd. All moms are worried about their kids hanging out with the wrong crowd. Because we tend to pick up "bad habits" that way. A few decades of data show this to be true. The idea of nature vs. nurture is an old one. Take the idea that wealthy people have more books in their houses. Which of these come first? Does their desire to read books give them knowledge (from the books) and then they use that knowledge to make money? Is the desire to learn things the SAME knowledge that helps them make money? If you give a bunch of books to poor people, will they become rich? The trouble with questions like this is they are VERY HARD to test. Any kind of question about human behavior can only be guessed at. So what about nurture vs. nature? There IS plenty of data they can look at. And that is data from twins. Identical twins born together and raised in the same house. Identical twins raised apart. Adopted kids raised in the same house. Non identical twins raise together (same house) and separately. The data is pretty clear. There are TWO main things that create our ADULT behavior. Half is our genes, the other half our NON-FAMILY peer group. This is why mom was so worried about you hanging with the wrong crowd. Because we DO tend to pick up habits from our friends. If we have "good" friends, we pick up good habits. If we have "bad" friends we pick up bad habits. The REAL QUESTION is HOW, exactly, do we pick up those bad habits? We model. We subconsciously copy the behavior from people we admire. If that means doing homework and getting good grades, that's good. If that means smoking and robbing liquor stores, that's bad. But this is only ONE WAY we "pick up" behavior. There are many ways to "pick up" behavior. Sometimes we are "trained" by our environment. This is essentially how we pick up habits from friends. They (our friends) are our environment. Our environment which TRAINS us. Or we can TRAIN ourselves. This is when practice things like sports, music and multiplication tables. Or we can TRAIN others. Most people try to do this, but not successfully. The trick to training others is to be as COVERT and as SUBCONSCIOUS as you can. Meaning the more they DON'T KNOW they are being trained, the easier it is to train them. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  14. The most important part of humans is our brain. Our ability to think and plan creatively is what made us dominate the planet. Our brain was SO valuable that we pretty much evolved everything else AROUND our big brains. Kind of like every ancient civilization formed around rivers. Jericho, for example, the world's OLDEST city, had a natural spring that continued to gush up water. Other cities formed around springs died up as soon as the water did. Cities mean people and a lot of farmland, and that requires a lot of continuous water. Sometimes, though, this is a double edged sword. Civilizations that sprung up around rivers had the benefit of the water from the river. But the river also allowed an easy way for enemies to attack the city. Our brains are kind of the way. Tons of benefits, but plenty of costs. Naturally, we wouldn't be here if the benefits DIDN'T outweigh the costs, but there are costs nonetheless. What are the main costs of our big brain? Our brain is WAY too big for us to be born even CLOSE to being fully formed. Which means we have a TONS of instincts, but also TONS of learning potential. We can think of our learning capacity like "programmable instincts." If you train something ENOUGH, to the point of unconscious competence, it's very much like having a NEW set of instincts. Some of these things are easy. Like riding a bike. Other things take a lot of time. Some things are trained in by our environment. Other things we train into ourselves. But with a little bit of understanding and patience, you can train things into other people. This happens all the time anyway. Because most of the stuff we learn from our environment is from other people. As humans are highly social creatures, our environment is nearly always a bunch of other people. When you purposely train things into other people, you're taking what we do NATURALLY, and doing it deliberately. This is essentially the story of human progress. Seeing what happens naturally, and then augmenting it for our benefit. Just like ancient humans learned to train the land (their environment) to provide specific types of food. You can train your friends (your environment) to provide specific types of behavior. Or even strangers. There are short term training methods, for bartenders and waitresses. And longer term training methods, for friends, business associates, and potential lovers. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  15. When I was a kid my brother had a pretty cool dog. He loved to run outside. Whenever he would see me or my brother putting our shoes on, he would get excited. He made the simple association in his doggie brain that "putting on shoes = going outside." Pavlov, of course, is famous for doing experiments on dogs. Getting them to salivate when he ran bells. This is also the principle behind anchoring in NLP. Create an emotion, set an anchor, and that emotion is connected to the anchor. If the anchor was set correctly, every time you fire it after that, then the emotion will come back. At least that's the theory. In reality, it's a bit more complicated. An anchor set in dog it pretty easy. Especially when you connect the sound of a bell, to the smell of food. A dogs ears and nose are very sensitive. So it's pretty easy to connect a STRONG signal coming into one (smell of food) to a strong and clear signal coming into the other (a bell ringing). When humans feel any emotion, there's a kajillion other things going on. So it takes a bit more effort in setting an anchor. This same cause-effect idea is much more useful somewhere else. More like the putting on the shoes effect. Because that putting on the shoes effect slowly built up over a LONG time. And it happened naturally and organically. Essentially, the dog learned on his own to make the connection between the shoes and going outside to play. This is a much more effective way to use the anchoring process. Slowly, and carefully, over time. You really only need a few ingredients. The desired behavior or emotion. And a few positive reinforcement points. If you take your time, you can train in a great many behaviors. We do this to ourselves all the time. Whenever we practice sports or music. Even when we study, we are creating an "anchor" of sorts. We are connecting KNOWN information to UNKNOWN information. This cause-effect is how our brain works. Most people use it haphazardly and sporadically. But you can use it deliberately and effectively. The best part is if you do it correctly, nobody will know it's happening except for you. Their (your target's) behavior will just slowly change. From what it is, to what you want it to be. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  16. Pegging is a very useful memory technique. But most courses and books don't quite teach it correctly. Pegging, if you aren't familiar with it, is like hanging your keys on a peg. You walk in the door, hang your keys on the peg, and they'll be there when you need them. The idea is to take a new piece of information, and attach it to a pre-existing piece of information in your brain. This part is simple and straightforward. Whether it actually works or not is based specifically on HOW you connect the two ideas together. For example, let's say you were going shopping, and you wanted to remember to buy ketchup. And you wanted to "peg" that idea to the idea your car keys. The idea being you'd walk into the supermarket, hold your car keys and suddenly remember what you were there to buy. (Yes, this is a silly example!) So HOW, exactly, would you connect the two ideas? The ketchup and the car keys? The BETTER of a connection you make the more AUTOMATIC the memory will be. Most courses say you need to make a cartoonish type image. Like a gigantic bottle of ketchup dancing around with a bunch of keys as a necklace. That is a START. But to make it REALLY stick you need to add a couple more things. Unfortunately, these other couples are the MAIN REASON you'll never read about this technique in mainstream learning courses. Because there are TWO THINGS that make us humans remember anything. Extreme pain, and extreme pleasure. Extreme pain is easy. Whatever is the MOST painful thing to imagine. The extreme pleasure is also easy. SEX! Once you put those three things together, a goofy image, pain and sex, that connection (ketchup and keys) will FOREVER be linked. This because pain and pleasure are THE motivators for human action and behavior. We WANT pleasure. We DON'T WANT pain. Every single thing we do is to move AWAY from the bad stuff and toward the good stuff. This is why ancient cavemen, when they were out strolling and heard a tiger growl, EVERY SINGLE THING about that situation was seared into their brains forever. It's also why when you have a NEAR sexual encounter with somebody, (especially if you don't have a lot of experience) that PERSON will FOREVER live in your memory. So, the money question, how can we USE this information? Easy. When you WANT people to do things, you can carefully leverage their own pain and pleasure points. Hit their pleasure buttons when they do what you want. Hit their pain buttons when they do what you DON'T want. And if you are subtle enough, they won't know ANYTHING. They'll just slowly start to behave the way YOU want them to. And it will be for THEIR reasons. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  17. Once when I was very young, my dad and I were watching our dog run around the back yard. The dog got near a small apple tree. My dad remarked that he didn't want our dog to get a taste of the apples. At the time, I had no idea what he meant. But later I did. An apple tree, to a dog, is just a regular tree. And since dogs don't generally eat trees, they don't think of an apple tree as anything special. But this particular tree was pretty small. Small enough so the dog could reach some of the apples. My dad was worried that if the dog ate one of the apples off the tree, she would realize that particular tree had some food. And she would eat ALL the apples. Beginner's luck CAN be pretty fun, but it can also be terrible. Usually the more obvious it is, the less dangerous it is. If you walked up to a craps table in Vegas, for example, and tossed down some money and won, you would KNOW it was beginner's luck. Because you were in Vegas, you would KNOW that gambling is very risky. On the other hand, if you tried your hand at investing, and got lucky, you might actually conclude that investing is easy. A friend actually did that, by making a spectacularly boneheaded mistake. He actually bought the WRONG stock. This was way back in first Internet bubble of the late nineties. The stock he WANTED to buy was less than a dollar. The stock he DID buy was less than a dollar. But he got the ticker symbol wrong. But the stock he DID buy, went up by over 1000% in the next couple months. He invested a little UNDER $300, and got back a little OVER $3000. This essentially TRAINED HIM that investing was EASY. A lesson that later led him to lose EVERYTHING when the bubble popped around 2000. Learning the wrong lessons can be CATASTROPHIC. Learning the RIGHT lessons can be EXTREMELY helpful. Even more, the actual process of learning (self training) is pretty easy. Just as easy as training others. And so long as you have their best interests in mind, you can train them to do ANYTHING and they'll never know. We humans are trained by our environment all the time. So when you slowly train in certain behaviors in others, they'll never know the difference. They'll think it's natural. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  18. All humans are motivated by two things. Two very vague, and very strong motivators. They color all our thinking and acting. We want more of one thing, and less of another. One is pleasure, one is pain. Pain and pleasure are extremely vague ideas. But everything we either move towards, or move away from, can be put in one of these two categories. Things we want, and things we don’t want. This is how all humans learn. When we do things “correctly” it FEELS good. When we make a “mistake,” it FEELS bad. Since we are naturally programmed to do more stuff that FEELS good, we tend to self correct. Especially when we have a much larger goal on the other side of whatever we are practicing. For example, imagine you had a vision in mind of being the star basketball player of your school, and all the good stuff that came along with that. Because that END POINT was so compelling, the natural trial and error would be self motivating. The mistakes you made while practicing wouldn’t be so bad. Because they would give you valuable feedback to get CLOSER to your ultimate goal. All learning (or practicing) is enjoyable if WE are going toward a bigger goal that WE chose. On the other hand, if you are forced to sit and listen to some cranky old lady talk about long division, it SUCKS. You have no idea WHY you are learning such a horrific thing. So when you make a mistake, it REALLY sucks. When you do it correctly, it might feel good, but only because there is no pain. If you happen to be the teacher’s pet type, then doing long division correctly will give you pleasure. This is why the best teachers always find a reason to give their students proper motivation. To explain WHY they need to learn such boring stuff. Learning something for YOUR OWN reasons is fun and sometimes exhilarating. Learning something “just because” pretty much sucks for everybody. But there is another way to inspire people. Completely subconsciously. When you are overtly teaching or training, everybody KNOWS why they are doing what they are doing. To the extent they have a good reason, they’ll enjoy it. But you can also teach completely subconsciously. Not just information, but behaviors. So long as you are SUBCONSCIOUSLY motivating them by THEIR pleasure points, you can slowly train ANYBODY to do pretty much ANYTHING. Needless to say, this is a very POWERFUL skill. How many ways can YOU imagine using it? Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  19. There’s a saying in NLP that you can’t not communicate. Meaning that everything you do, conscious or unconscious, verbal or non-verbal, is a kind of communication. You are always transmitting SOME type of information. On a deeper level, you can say that we can’t not PERSUADE. Communication requires two people. Even if those two people are imaginary people living inside your head. Any data that is transmitted from one person to another is done for a REASON. That reason is to change the state of the receiver. Sometimes this is a conscious intention, sometimes it’s an automatic, and unconscious intention. Many of our communication strategies have been built into us by evolution. Since we are social creatures, we’ve evolved to always give signals to those around us. We don’t usually think of these as communication or persuasion, but they work that way. For example, if you were having a pleasant conversation with a friend, and they suddenly looked over your right shoulder with a huge look of fear on their face, you would IMMEDIATELY turn around to see what was up. They didn’t plan on communicating or persuading, but that’s what happened. As social animals, we’ve evolved to always be sending signals to one another for that reason. In the above example, this requires only ONE person in the group to spot the predator, and communicate the existence of the predator to everybody else. But more importantly, that message comes with an intention. To persuade the receiver to DO SOMETHING. When it comes to conscious persuasion, we usually think of using carefully chosen words. If you’re a little kid, this usually means repeating the request over and over until it’s fulfilled. If you’re an adult, this can be done many ways. Sweet talking your target. Using carefully worded phrases that covertly hypnotize them. Whether you are selling or seducing, words can be EXTREMELY powerful. But they have one major drawback. The idea or behavior you induce with your words will be very short lived. Every time you sell something, you’ll have to use those same words over and over. Every time you seduce somebody (either the same person each time or a different person each time) you’ll have to use carefully chosen words. Needless to say, the words you use will have to closely match the outcome you are creating. But about long term behaviors? Can you induce your targets to perform long term behaviors, not just once, but permanently? Yes you can. Of course, it takes a little bit longer. But the flip side is it’s much more subconscious. Meaning the tradeoff is you need fewer words. And once you learn how, you can train anybody to do anything. And keep doing it. Permanently. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  20. They say a directionless arrow never misses its target. Meaning if you just randomly shoot an arrow without choosing a target, you can’t miss. On the other hand, if you shoot an arrow at a target, you most definitely CAN miss. Why would you want to shoot an arrow without aiming at anything? Maybe it’s fun. Maybe you like to watch the arrow sail through the air. Maybe you like to imagine your an archer in an ancient battle. None of those guys really aimed. They just sort of picked and angle and hoped for the best. With a bunch of archers on one side of a battlefield, and a bunch of soldiers on the other, you’re bound to hit something. Unfortunately, this isn’t a very good life strategy. Imagine a guy going out to meet girls. Ideally, he’d LOVE to end up with a sex party threesome with a couple of disease-free, porn star freaks. But most normal dudes will take whatever they can get. Which usually ends up not being much. This is like just shooting your arrow in a battle and hoping for the best. Instead, consider the idea of having an actual target. The threesome might be a bit too much. At least in the short term. Believe it or not, having a long term, “horizon goal” of having tight enough game to talk ANY group of females into a sex party is a worthy goal. One that is WAY out there. One that compels you to keep improving. The best way to keep improving is to choose very tiny, very achievable goals. Week one might be getting eye contact and smiles from five ladies. Week two might be getting a few short conversations. Week three might be getting some actual phone numbers. Week four might be going on one date. Most guys DON’T like this. It seems LONG and tedious. Most guys want the sex party RIGHT THE F NOW! But here’s the great paradox of life. The bigger your target is (sex party, for example) the less forward progress you’ll make. The smaller your target, the more RAPID you’ll make forward progress. This is a harsh question, but consider it. Instead of “sex party” swap out any equally desirable goal. Beach house, corporate president, etc. How closer are you to that goal compared to one year ago? Now imagine doing the slow, week by week plan. Assuming you’d stick to it, and make slow, gradual, tortoise like progress, how far would you be in a year? This is the secret to real tangible achievements. The kind that will make your friends ultra jealous. The slower you go, the faster you’ll get there. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  21. In sports, a common saying is “leave it on the field.” Which means when you play a big game, you put in 100% effort. So when the game is over, you’ve given everything. This is a fantastic idea for sports. The problem with metaphors like this is when they are misapplied. For example, let’s say you wanted to walk across the room and talk to somebody. The “leave everything on the field” approach isn’t so appropriate. When you’re playing sports, especially an important game, winning is the ONLY thing. (Except maybe for little league...) Any team that loses the championship game and shrugs it off as a learning experience may be missing the point. Imagine your favorite team after losing the superbowl or the world series or the world cup. “Well, we didn’t win, but the important thing was we learned a lot about our capabilities and we tried some new plays which worked out pretty well.” Most people would be understandably angry. But this is an IDEAL response for anything that is NOT sports. In fact, not getting a hundred percent success rate is a very, very good thing. Paradoxically, when you DO get a hundred percent success in anything that is NOT sports, you won’t really know why. Which means you won’t learn much. Which means you won’t get much better. Which means your ONLY strategy is to “get lucky.” On the other hand, shooting for about an 60-70% success rate is perfect. Because everything that DOESN’T work is the best teacher. This hard to wrap your mind around for most people. Especially if ALL you can see is in a short term time frame. Which is why having a LONG term time frame is essential. So long as you see any interaction or event as ONE of many, on a continuous unfolding future, it’s much easier to accept feedback. The more you can accept ALL feedback, most importantly NEGATIVE feedback, the better you can improve. This is easy in the beginning of the baseball season, for example. There are always a lot of games still to be played. How, specifically, can you cultivate this mindset? By creating something called Horizon Goals. Undefined, but positive goals WAY out in the future. At a skill level much higher than you have now. So that any interaction in the present is more easily seen as PRACTICE. Once you see every interaction as partial practice for the next, continuous improvement is simple. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  22. Being able to reverse engineer something is a powerful skill. Companies do this all the time. They take apart their competitors product. Rebuild it with enough changes they don’t violate any copyrights. Humans copying other humans is as old as the hills. One of the main driving forces of the Industrial Revolution was everybody was copying the crap out of everybody else. Back then, everything was pretty simple. The first big pieces of industrial equipment were looms. Pieces of equipment that could take raw cotton, and then transform them into textiles. The textiles could later then be used to make clothing and other things. All you had to do was spend a few minutes studying one of these machines, and you could go home and build your own. These looms are the main reason Japan got so rich so quickly. They didn’t need to even grow the cotton. They’d import it, turn it all into fabric, and then export it again. They’d pay a little bit for the raw cotton, and then make a ton selling it as a usable fabric. Of course today, the equipment in our modern economy is a kajillion times more complicated. You would spend all kinds of time walking around some modern production center and not have any clue what they were doing. That’s because what they are doing is based on all kinds of stuff that was done BEFORE it got to that level. With looms, you can see the raw cotton, you can see the loom, and you can see the finished good. Easy peasy. But if you wanted to reverse engineer how to build a computer, and all you saw was the chip fabrication facility, you would be more clueless than when you started. This is the way it is with human behavior. Few human behaviors are as easy to copy as a loom. Most human behaviors are like the chip fabrication facility. Even if you see the surface structure, it doesn’t help much. Imagine if you didn’t know anything about music. And you wanted to copy somebody up on stage jamming on his guitar. Just holding something that sort of looked like a guitar and wiggling your fingers around wouldn’t quite do it. You’d need to study the deeper skills. Music, both playing and writing. Showmanship. Confidence. Reading and responding to the energy of the crowd. And all kinds of business and marketing skills that would get you up on stage in front of paying customers. Luckily, when it comes to many skills, the deep skills are the same. Even for music. And if you start practicing the deep skills, everything on top will be much easier. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  23. NLP is often called the “study of excellence.” In a way, this makes sense. Most of NLP and was reverse engineered from naturally successful people. None of the techniques were “invented” from scratch. Most of the language patterns, for example, were reverse engineered from Milton Erickson. Erickson actually DID invent them from scratch. But he did so after a LONG period of trial and error. He was a “practicing” physician. The reason they use that word, practicing, is that’s what physicians do. They PRACTICE. Every time they see a new patient, it’s more data and experience that goes into their brain. One of the biggest mistakes in NLP or ANY kind of “self improvement” is they forget the “practice” part. If you were to go to a seminar on learning 14th century French, you wouldn’t expect to leave the seminar fluent in 14th century French. If you were to go a seminar on learning the piano, you wouldn’t expect to leave with full piano skills. But for some reason, when folks go to seminars, and even when they read books, they seem to forget the idea that PRACTICE is always necessary. Take a look at any competitive skill (sports, business, programming) and the ones that are the BEST are the ones that practice the MOST. But in reality, this is only scratching the surface. Some things are easy to practice. You can watch somebody do something, and copy them until you get it right. Shooting baskets, making a cake, etc. But other skills are actually collections of MANY skills. Performing anything on stage, for example, combines many skills. The actual skill. Confidence, poise, focus, etc. The more VALUABLE the skill is, the more collections of smaller skills will be included. Some of these skills are on the surface. The skills you can see. But others are not. These the deep skills. The mental skills. Turns out, that most people are world class ANYTHING have not only the surface skills, but the deep skills. But unless you know what those deep skills are, it’s tough to practice. Because like every other skill, if you don’t practice these, you’ll be missing out on a big part of the picture. But the flip side is that if you DO practice these deeper skills, everything on top will be much easier. These are skills that can’t be seen, or really measured. But they can be practiced. How? Like This: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
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