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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb29Post.mp4 Bastiat was an economist back in the 1800's. He's famous for the saying, "It's not what you see, it's what you don't see." Most people can only think in linear terms. Do X, and get Y. If you are hungry, eat something. If you are tired, go to sleep. If you want to make money, get a job. If you want to get a girl to like you, walk up to her and try to get her to like you. These are simple and easy to think about, but they are very dangerous. This idea, that only thinking in very simple, very linear, "A causes B" terms is what Bastiat was referring to. Because in the real world, things are not nearly as simple. There are tons of variables, all interacting with each other in very confusing ways. Take the "how do I get a girl to like me" idea. You have a crush on a lady. You want to interact with her, and get her to like you. This is the simple, linear, A causes B strategy. But it will almost always lead to failure. Why? One of Dale Carnegie's golden rules is that you can get anybody to do anything so long as they believe it was their idea. So, there you are, with your eye on a girl. You walk up to her and TRY to get her to "like you." She's going to know that's what's going on. So her liking you is NOT her idea. It's your idea. This is why this strategy RARELY works. At least on it's own. Instead, consider FIRST being a "likeable" person. The kind of person EVERYBODY likes. How can you do that? Firstly, we like people who like us. We like people who find us interesting. We like people who are genuinely curious about us. More importantly, we like people who make US feel better. Whenever you interact with somebody, you can create three outcomes. Make them feel worse. Make them feel the same. Make them feel better. If you make EVERYBODY you interact with feel better, not only will you be very likable, but everybody will KNOW you are very likable. When you BECOME a well-known, likable person, that's the best frame to operate from. If you're just goof who walks up to a cute girl out of nowhere, she'll be thinking: "Hmm, who is this nervous looking stranger approaching me?" That's NOT a helpful state for her to be in, if you want to build attraction. On the other hand, if she sees you interacting with other people, and she sees them smiling while they talk with you, she'll have THIS reaction: "Hey! There's that guy that everybody seems to like! And he's coming to talk to ME! Awesome!" Now for the money question. How, specifically, can you BE that person? By talking to people and taking whatever ideas pop out of their heads, and flip them around until they feel BETTER. Happier. More excited about life. How can you do that? Learn How Here: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb25Post.mp4 A lot of people are worried about AI robots taking over our jobs. That's partially true. If you have a job that's pretty monotonous, chances are a robot is going to be doing it. Flipping burgers, making pizzas, putting together stuff on the assembly line, even surgery. What WON'T ever be taken over by robots? Anything that requires in-the-moment human interaction. This requires something robots will never do. Look at while people while you are talking and they are talking. Read their emotions and adjust your questions and answers accordingly. Help them come to a decision. This is WAY beyond any AI computer's capabilities. Humans have been communicating LONG BEFORE we invented words and language. Just the human face alone has millions of potential facial expressions, based on all the different muscle configurations. Even the BEST body language readers ON EARTH can only really read people consciously and put them into one of two categories. The job? Secret service agents. The categories? Threat, or not a threat. Even then it's pretty difficult. Most communication is NON VERBAL. Sure, words are important. If you tried to get hired simply by smiling, you might end up in the loony bin. Or if you walked up to a cute girl and tried to mime your way into her panties, you'd end up as meme on the internet. Clearly, the highest form of human communication is a combination of words and body language. Or conscious communication and subconscious communication. Subconscious communication is like a cake. Conscious communication is like the icing. A FANTASTIC subconscious communication is much better WITHOUT icing than with the WRONG icing. The wrong icing on an otherwise fantastic cake would be like a guy with a FANTASTIC non-verbal frame. One that has EVERY LADY in the place wishing and hoping he'll approach her. But when he does, he says something goofy like: "Hey, I just want your opinion. Which do you like better, panda meat tacos or watching ladies push baby carriages off cliffs?" This would be like one of those record-scratch scenes in the movies. A fantastic cake with only a LITTLE bit of icing would be like the SAME GUY with the SAME FRAME, but instead of saying any goofy lines, he walks up and says: "Hey," while maintaining rock solid confidence and charisma. But even when dude is NOT saying anything, his brain is in a certain configuration. His brain is thinking certain thoughts. Those THOUGHTS are creating the frame. The confidence, the magnetism, and congruence. So when he DOES speak, and those words RESONATE with his frame, to her he'll be a dream come true. This is when you become unstoppable. When you have an ultra strong frame, and just enough words to maximize it. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb24Post.mp4 When I was in Boy Scouts, many, many years ago, we'd go on these weeklong backpacking trips once a year. We would each be assigned something to carry for the group. Stoves, food, tents, etc. But we'd also be assigned things for ourselves. Waterproof match containers, compass, first aid kid, etc. We each had a list we'd have to check off before we were allowed to leave. This a useful training exercise. To take a bunch of kids up in the hills for a week. And to train them to check and carry their own stuff. This idea, of a pre-flight checklist is useful in plenty of areas. For example, guys who date more that one lady at a time will have a pre-flight check list of sorts to get their place ready. If a girl comes over and sees evidence of ANOTHER girl, that's not going to go over well. It's a deep instinct to prepare before doing important things. On the flip side, it's good to relax and go with the flow. Going with the flow is good when you're with friends, or if you don't any specific outcome. Where the experience itself is more important than the end. Like going shopping not to buy something specific, but just to kill time while looking in all the windows. Another powerful way "going with the flow" works is ON TOP of intense preparation. For example, when a boxer steps into the ring, he goes with the flow. He doesn't have a specific set of punches in his brain. What he does is based on what the other guy does. One of the most coveted states of human nature is the "flow" state. When you are operating at such high levels of performance AND your conscious mind takes a back seat. Usually this is when there is some kind of competition, like sports. Competitions necessarily involved an unfolding of completely UNEXPECTED events. Events that you must respond to IN THE MOMENT. Most of us are in the "flow state" when we are hanging out with friends. When it's NOT a competition. Not really a flow state, but an unconscious, natural state. However, when we humans talk to strangers, this flow state is very difficult. Since we never know WHAT, specifically, they are going to say. So we are naturally on edge, which keeps us OUT of that flow state of mind. But just like boxing, and other competitions, you CAN reach the flow state. When wonderful words flow without conscious thought. When you don't need to worry AT ALL about "what," specifically to say. When all the words, phrases, gestures and communication that moves organically from your brain to theirs is perfect. Natural, attractive, seductive, mesmerizing. How can you develop this conversational flow state? By practicing the STRUCTURE of language. Which is also the STRUCTURE of thought. And when you can reach this wonderful flow state, AT WILL, with anybody, the world will be yours for the taking. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/