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  1. Maximum Ambition: https://mindpersuasion.com/your-meta-instinct-to-rule-them-all/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  2. The Magic Feedback Loop: https://mindpersuasion.com/the-magic-feedback-loop/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb17_Post.mp4 One of the key "problems" of game theory is your opponents intentions. If you misunderstand their intention, not much will work. Business, chess players, even athletes understand this intuitively. Purposely projecting a "false" intention on your enemy is a deeply instinctive trait. The other day I saw a video of a gazelle faking the crap out of an attacking lion. The gazelle was drinking at a stream. And at the last minute saw a lion that had been stalking it. The gazelle faked one way, got the lion to commit and then went the other way. Even before the Normandy invasion the allies tried to fake out the Nazis. They got a real dead guy, put him where the Nazi's would find him, and put some info on him to hopefully trick the Nazi's. People tend to scoff at conspiracy theories, but conspiring to fake out your enemy is way older than human brains. The reason zebras have stripes is so when they hang out in groups, they look like on humongous animal. Venus fly traps have been "conspiring" against poor flies since long before humans showed up. They say that all's fair in love and war. Which isn't really a law, more of a recommendation. The war part is easy to understand. Lions vs. Zebras, Nazis vs. Allies. Do whatever you can do win. But what about love? Does this mean using trickery to win somebody's affection? Or does it mean two guys trying to win the heart of one lady at war with each other? Sure, when creating love in somebody, there are certain strategies that work better than others. Like if you sort of like somebody, you don't gush with pure truth. That would scare them away. On the other hand, it can help to play a little hard to get. But you go too far, you'll lose them. Devoid of any "war" strategies, consciously creating love in somebody is much more of a delicate balance. To let it flourish slowly like a flower. Just the right amount of water and attention. After all, flowers have been blooming since the dawn of time. They don't do so well when being smothered. But one thing WILL kill any love from flourishing. And that is MISTAKENLY using war tactics. Misdirection tactics. Most people have a false belief of being at least a little "broken" on the inside. So we respond to attempts of others to get close AS IF we were under attack. We act like the gazelle thinking it's about to get eaten. In this case, playing hard to get IS a defensive strategy. We WANT to keep them at arms length. It's better than the alternative. At least the one we imagine. And that is they'll find out who we REALLY are, and run away. So we keep them at arms length to keep that from happening. Even worse is we PRETEND we are using some ninja-love-strategy. But if you get rid of all this nonsense, false beliefs, false fears, you, and they, will see who you REALLY are. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/inner-frame/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan24_Post.mp4 One of the biggest changes in human history has to do with how we perceive time. Way, way back in the day, if you were hungry, you had to do SOMETHING to satisfy that hunger. And this usually meant turning another animal INTO food. But then the agricultural revolution happened. Humans were hunter gatherer nomads for a couple hundred thousand years. But then within just a few thousand years, we transformed from hunters to farmers. This FORCED us to change how we perceived time. Instead of doing something TODAY to benefit TODAY, we had to think about the future. Farmers do things TODAY so they'll benefit in a few months. And if they keep this going long enough, the stuff they benefit from TODAY is stuff that they did a few months ago. Through the long transition between hunters and farmers, we were FORCED by our environment to DELAY GRATIFICATION. This is, perhaps, one of our most powerful traits. If you can delay gratification, you can gain a HUGE advantage over most other humans. Once you delay gratification, you stop using your brain to think about acting today to benefit today. You start to naturally think about acting today to benefit tomorrow, or next week, next month or even next year. The BETTER you can do this, the stronger your LONG GAME thinking skills will be. And if you look at all the dudes now and historically who have built HUGE EMPIRES, either for good or for evil, one thing they all had in common was an appreciation of the LONG GAME. This contrast, long game vs. short game finds its way into many metaphors. Politician X is playing checkers (short game) while politician Y is playing chess (long game.). Country X has a five year plan, but country Z has a 100 year plan. The people to MAKE THINGS HAPPEN have very, very long game plans. The people who watch things happen have medium game plans. The people always wandering around confused, asking "what happened?" rarely have ANY plans. Binge watching, thoughtless eating, wishing for easy and magical answers to complex questions. It's no secret that the long game thinkers, the dudes in charge, wish EVERYBODY was stuck in the "what just happened?" section of society. And if all you do is show up, and do what you're told, that's where you'll be. On the other hand, if you can slowly ease yourself into longer and longer game thinking, and stronger and stronger skills of delayed gratification, you'll no longer be a victim. You'll be an operator. Creating whatever you want. Mind follows body, and body follows mind. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/ideal-health/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan22_Post.mp4 Why do most goals fail? If we are honest, most goals aren't really goals. They are wishes. And if you combine a wish with some half hearted, or not so well thought action, it HAS to fail. Why? A wish is just that. A vague idea for the future that is better than now. Don't get me wrong. Wishes are fantastic. Wishing for better things IS the seed of greatness. It's only when we misunderstand our wishes do we get into trouble. Ideally, it might work like this. You have a WISH for a better life. Let's say it's about money. So you lay awake at night imagining how that might be. Maybe wishing or dreaming of hitting upon a new invention or business idea. Or perhaps being a world famous novelist, whose works are turned into movies, and you're constantly being interviewed and asked where you get all your ideas from. So long as you understand these are WISHES, you're in good shape. But if you actually start to interpret these wishes as goals or plans, that's when we get into trouble. Ask any successful person who is in their mid to late life if they had ANY idea HOW they'd become successful, and if they're honest, they'll say that didn't have a clue. But if you kept digging deeper, you'd find they did have a META plan. And idea that they'd be successful in a field. Like sports, or business, or entertainment, or science. And within that field, they simply kept moving forward. Nobody can predict the future. So it's mathematically impossible to have a WISH that exists a year or two out and have that WISH come out to be true. But this DOES NOT MEAN that wishes and daydreams and fantasies are not critical. They are VERY critical. But they aren't plans. Plans are what happens as you slowly move forward. Toward your wishes. And have some success along the way. And equally important, some failures. Successes tell you WHAT to do. Failures tell you what NOT to do. The more you can look back into your past, and see both failures and success TOWARD your wish, the more accurately you can PLAN. This is why weight loss and health goals end in disaster. We a have a vague WISH of a better body. We have a vague PLAN we think will get us there. But after about week, what ACTUALLY happens, costs and benefits, is far different than we imagined. The answer? Don't blast off into the future. Go slow. Carefully and deliberately create that necessary PAST experience that you can use to create and much more accurately predict the future. The slower you do this, the easier it will be. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/ideal-health/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov13Post.mp4 One of the unknown drivers of the Industrial Revolution was land ownership. There are tons of variables about why, specifically, the Industrial Revolution happened where it did and when it did. Why England and not Japan, for example? Dr. Gregory Clark, an economist wrote a book looking all the details. (Farewell To Alms if you're interested). One critical driving force was the POTENTIAL for land ownership. If you're a fan of any middle ages based books, movies or TV shows, you know that only those of noble blood can own land. This was essentially feudalism. Nobles owned the land. The serfs worked on the land that the Nobles owned. That paid taxes to their noble Lords. The noble lords had to pay taxes to the king. Maybe not the fairest system, but it was stable. But unless you were born into a noble family, you were a serf. This was life for 90% of people in all societies BEFORE the Industrial Revolution. But for some reason, around the 1300's England decided to let ANYBODY buy land. So long as the buyer and seller agreed on price, the purchase would be made. This was perhaps the predecessor of the "American Dream." That if you worked hard enough, you could "be somebody." If you owned enough land, you could grow enough food to feed yourself and essentially give the world the finger. The modern version of this is "f-you money." Enough money to pay the bills, keep enough food coming in, and you can smoke endless blunts and watch endless TV or play endless video games. This is perhaps the ESSENTIAL drive of all human creativity. Of doing something well enough, long enough to get a big payoff. For ancient peasants it was very simple. Work very, very hard for ten years or so, save as much money as you could, and NEVER need to work for another boss again. Same as "f-you money." Today that is JUST as possible. To work hard long enough, successfully enough, and give the world the finger. Unfortunately, lately we've been a bit brainwashed. Through political promises and law of attraction mumbo jumbo. Most people today feel they are ENTITLED to "f-you money." Or at least it should be easy and automatic to get it. As if it really were possible to show up, be told what to do, and after ten or twenty be able to coast into the sunset. This is perhaps one of the HARDEST things to do. Leave the safety comfort of the pack. But UNLESS you are willing to do that, that "f-you money" will always be out of reach. But if you ARE willing to leave the lazy, copy-and-paste-brained-people behind, you WILL create your dream. But it needs to be built. By YOU. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/ambition-generator/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov11Post.mp4 It's commonly hoped that changing your thinking can change your outcome. This is possible, but only in certain situations. One is when you get a new idea in your brain, and that new idea is connected to existing skills. For example, if you are a skilled piano player, and you get a new piece of music, you could play it pretty easily. The new music is the new idea. The skills are your piano playing skills. But if you don't have a lot of practice playing the piano, that new idea won't do much. Even if somebody tells you the necessary information. How the notes on the paper match to the keys on the piano. This is something you could pretty easily learn from an academic standpoint. To quickly map each note on the paper to a key on the piano. But added in to this is the beats and rhythm. Even then you might be able to hum the right notes and tap out the right rhythm. All without going anywhere near a piano. It's fairly straightforward to match the notes on the page with the specific sound they are supposed to make. But connecting all three together takes a lot of practice. Consider that most everything we want in life requires a lot of skills. Learning things is boring. Or it usually is boring. Think about this metaphor. If you worked for $10 an hour, and if you got fired you'd become homeless, that would suck. Especially if what you did was hard, brainless, manual labor. Picking up bricks from one pile and putting them in another. You would HATE that job. But now consider the SAME physical behaviors, of lifting up bricks and putting them somewhere else. But these bricks are made of GOLD. And you putting them in the back of your truck. You've got eight hours to do it, just like regular job. But in the gold job, you get to KEEP everything. Same exact movements, but a much BETTER payoff. This is the ONE thing that will make ALL practice enjoyable. Of having a tangible and positive outcome on the other side. What's the BEST tangible outcome? The one that's been the driving force of human behavior since the dawn of time. Fame, money and plenty of sex. This is why practicing algebra SUCKS. But practicing something like the guitar, that could LEGITIMATELY get you more money, fame and sex, is easier. This does take time, but without this BELIEF that there is a pot of gold, and fame, and sex, at the end of the road, it's hard to get there. With this drive, everything is much, much easier. Without this drive, you'll end up like everybody else. Sitting around WAITING for something to "happen." But build this drive strong enough, and you will MAKE things happen. Whatever things you want. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/ambition-generator/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept30Post.mp4 The idea of the Pareto Distribution, or sometimes known as the 80-20 rule is a pretty interesting concept. And one you can find everywhere, if you look. Basically, it says that 20% of any system will be responsible for 80% of the output of that system. That doesn't make a lot of sense, so let's consider some examples. If you have 50 sales people for a large company, then 20% of the sales people will make 80% of the sales. Or, if you've got a closet full of shirts, you'll wear 20% of them 80% of the time. But this doesn't just stop at 80 and 20. Within the top twenty, there is another 80-20. For example, if you look at a large book publishing company. 20% of the books will make 80% of the profits. But the top 20% of the top 20% (4%) will make 80% of the 80%, or 64%. This means 4% of those books will be making 64% of the profits. Of course, this goes even further. Twenty percent of that top 4% (.8%) will make 80% of that 64% (51%). This is true for most distributions. Intuitively, this makes sense. You think of all the thousands of books at any given publisher. But the top 2-3 authors, the Stephen King's and the John Grisham's, they make MOST of the profits. Now you COULD look at that stat, the 1% is making more than half the money, and claim that it's not fair. But this happens everywhere. There are three or four top athletes that make a TON of money. Compared to all the bench warmers and minor league players, the same distribution pops up. Consider that instead of screaming foul and waiting for SOMEBODY ELSE to "re-distribute" this naturally occurring phenomenon, consider a different approach. Namely, how can YOU get up into that top 20%? Plenty of studies show that we humans are self organizing. When they give a group of people any kind of task, the most common response is to look around and be TOLD what to do. Perhaps this is the TRUE meaning of this ever-present Pareto distribution. That it's not about the people on top, it's more about the people on the bottom. The folks who except to be spoon fed everything. The folks who expect guaranteed, step by step easy to follow plans. The people too terrified to leave the sidelines and get in the game. What if it's MUCH easier than most people realize to get up to the top? That the ONLY thing you REALLY need to do is stop waiting to be TOLD what to do, and just get in there and play? That all you need to do is CHOOSE to have a strong frame, and everybody will naturally follow? Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/mental-strength/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/May27Post.mp4 There are two basic ways to look at the world. The way the world is. Or the way we think the world should be. It's very hard to have any kind of conversation without drifting back and forth. It's kind of similar to how newspaper reporter can report "news" that is factual, but also, completely nonsensical. For example, let's say you have a Harvard Professor who has gone off his meds. He believes that invisible aliens are watching us all the time. That he believes that is a fact. So the news reporter, looking for the latest clickbait, interviews Professor Nutjob. The entire article is about the aliens, and why they are here, and what their plans are for us. To make this entire article "true" all they have to do is put ONE LINE in their about how this is a theory of a published Harvard professor. Similarly, imagine two people are talking. One person says, "There is a lot of litter." The person listening looks around, and notices the litter. They agree. So far, this is a factual conversation. Then the first person starts talking about what SHOULD happen. Why people shouldn't litter. Why only "bad people" litter. Mixed in are some "true" if-then statements. If people littered less, the streets would be cleaner. That is a true, perfectly sound, logical statement. We humans do this all the time. Mix logic, opinion, observations about the way the world IS and shared ideas about the way the world SHOULD BE. But, if you confuse the two, you'll run into trouble. If you start to ONLY talk about the way the world SHOULD be, you will start to believe that's the way the world IS. Which means you'll start to not see the worlds as it is, but a broken world. A world that needs fixing. This is VERY compelling. Because if we live in a world that needs "fixing" it's almost always somebody ELSE who is supposed to do the fixing. Sure, we might come up with the IDEA of what needs to be fixed. But it's almost always somebody else's job to do the actual work. This is perfectly normal when just having a regular, "complain about the world" conversation. But when this becomes a STRATEGY, it becomes a problem. Then you find yourself waiting around for SOMEBODY ELSE to fix what YOU think is a problem. This is a very comfortable trap to find yourself in. But it won't help you get laid, or paid. What WILL help you get laid paid and ditch any ideas about the way you think the world SHOULD be. And see the world for the way it really IS. And get in the game, and get some. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/money-magnet/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug28Post.mp4 A very common idea in self-development is being broken. Of having tried all kinds of ideas and programs, yet you're still stuck. What does, "stuck" mean, exactly? It's a metaphor that approximates a physical situation. Like a car that is stuck in the mud. The engines work, the tires work, but you aren't getting any traction. The work done by the engine is being wasted. No forward movement. Another physical description of being stuck is like when goofy criminals try to sneak in through the chimney. And get stuck. They writhe and grunt and push and wriggle, but they don't move. Another common metaphor is being "broken." Like if your car makes noise, but it doesn't quite turn over. Or your toaster has some kind of defect. This is much more common than people realize. Most people feel stuck and or broken. Quite often. But it's one of those things that we don't tend to talk about. So everybody believes it's only happening to them. Why do we feel like we are stuck or broken? The first part comes from generally success. When anybody is successful, in any area, it's MOSTLY unconscious. People that are naturally outgoing don't really know WHY they are. But our ego needs to feel like we are always in control. So if we ask them why they are so naturally outgoing, they'll feel the need to give us a conscious reason. The problem comes when we BELIEVE that conscious reason. And then WE apply that conscious reason and it DOESN'T work. Since it works for THEM, but not for US, then we must be BROKEN. Or we keep trying it, it doesn't work, and we feel stuck. But that's only because we are trying the WRONG thing. People that do things naturally and easily have NO IDEA why. But it's hard to admit that, as a normal human. Anything that we do well, our ego NEEDS to take credit. The truth is two fold. Everybody needs to DISCOVER their own way of doing things. Trying to copy others will NEVER work. We have no idea what it's like to be them. Their conscious answers don't really help, since that's NEVER the full story. The second half is that the process of discovering how to do things on our own is a LIFELONG PROCESS. This is something we DO NOT LIKE. We very much wish it were quick and easy. Because we are inherently lazy. Which is why we keep trying QUICK and EASY things. And when they don't work, we claim we are STUCK. Or broken. You're not. Take your time, go slow and learn how. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug10Post.mp4 I remember a long, long time ago, when I was a kid. It was Christmas and we were opening presents. I bought my grandma something, I'm not sure. She opened it, looked it, smiled and said thanks. Then she asked me what it was. I had no idea, so I shrugged my shoulders. Most people have PC's. And we use them for tons of different reasons. Watching movies, playing video games, chatting and emailing with friends, writing novels, etc. A PC is something that satisfies TONS of different uses. So it would be silly to ask, "What's a PC for?" Or, "What is the purpose of PC?" Even sillier would be asking for the purpose of your toaster. Nobody lies awake at night wondering if they are using their toaster correctly. From a structural perspective, our mind-body system is a tool, just like a PC. Most of us wonder about our "purpose." My grandma asked me what the gift was, since I bought it for her. This would be logical. But we tend to ask the "life purpose" of other people. That would be like a toaster asking another toaster what a toaster is supposed to be doing. One way to figure out our purpose would be to look at all the things we can DO. And figure out how to MAXIMIZE our use. For example, you COULD use your toaster to warm up a frozen pizza. Put the frozen pizza on top, and then hit the toaster button. Kind of silly, but it would sort of work. But it would be significantly UNDER-UTILIZING the toaster's potential. Or maybe you could put the toaster on the floor, under your desk during winter. To keep your feet warm. But you'd have to keep reaching down every couple minutes to push down the toast button. It would work, but it would under-utilize its capacity. Most people use our mind-body system like that. As a passive device. To let others tell us what to do. Especially when it comes to our brains. Our brains are INSANELY powerful. Capable of holding TONS more information that we think. Yet how do most of us use our brains? We OUTSOURCE our thinking whenever we can. Other people. TV, movies, etc. One way we CAN use our brains is as "new instinct generators." To train in new skills to the level of unconscious competence. Sure, this takes time, and it's not fun. But what if you developed money making skills? Or persuasion skills? Or romance creation skills? All to the point of NEW INSTINCTS, so you could do those things naturally, without thinking? Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/watcing-mind/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July11Post.mp4 If you were a skilled motivational speaker, you'd make a lot of money. Why is this? From a purely economic standpoint, whenever you sell something that is in high demand, you can make a lot of money. If you opened up the only grilled cheese shop in a town that LOVED grilled cheese, you'd make a lot of money. On the other hand, if you tried to sell steamed broccoli in a town that HATED vegetables, you'd go broke. Econ 101, right? So really good motivational speakers can make MILLIONS giving motivational speeches. Because there is a HUGE demand for motivational speakers. But WHY is this? It would make sense making money selling grilled cheeses, because, theoretically, people could eat a grilled cheese every day. But could they listen to a motivational speaker every day? Or once a week? Sure, but what would that mean? That mean whatever EFFECT the speaker was having, would be short lived. Suppose you were a motivational speaker capable of motivating people so that they STAYED motivated for a year. More like buying a car, instead of grilled cheese. It would be silly to buy a car every day. Is this what is happening? Do people see motivational speakers and then STAY MOTIVATED for a year or so? Doesn't seem likely. Otherwise, people would ONLY need to see a motivational speaker ONCE, and then they would be MOTIVATED to make big changes. Make more money, create better relationships, get in tip top shape. Is this what is happening? Maybe there is a necessary ingredient BESIDES simple motivation? What could that be? Consider the idea of MOMENTUM instead. When we think we need motivation, it's usually to do things we are NOT already doing. Things that we think are difficult. Otherwise, we'd be doing them. But what about momentum. Consider instead of making HUGE changes, to make a very tiny change. So tiny it's BARELY even considered a change. Now imagine doing that every day for a month. Since it's tiny, that would be pretty simple. And what would you after a month? A month of MEMORIES up in your brain. Of DOING THINGS specifically to make life better. Then make another tiny change. Pretty soon you'll have two months, and then three, etc. Keep it up and you'll have a long HISTORY of making slow and tiny changes. Kind of how like the Grand Canyon was made. Think the water needed to attend a canyon carving motivational seminar? Probably not. It just got busy, and stayed busy. A little bit every day. Who knows what will happen. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July8Post.mp4 Lately I've been passively watching this video series about meteorology. I always wondered why they called the study of weather, "meteorology." Cause it sounds like it's the study of meteors. But it turns out the name for root word for both meteors and meteorology is based on an ancient Greek work. Which means, "things of the sky." So meteors are, literally, "things of the sky." And meteorology is also appropriately called, "study of things of the sky." Sometimes it's easy like this, to find ONE root cause for two different things. Our brains are pretty weak at INTUITIVELY understanding connections between two things. We have a tendency to assume since A comes BEFORE B, then A caused B. And since most of us learn the word for "meteor" long before we learn what "meteorology" stands, we wonder why they gave weather people such goofy names. Sometimes it's even MORE confusing. For example, if you actually study the weather. Weather patterns are INSANELY complicated. There are only a few variables, but they interact with one another in chaotic ways. Literally chaotic. From chaos theory, the mathematical theory that says whenever you have polynomial equation with more than two variables, it is MATHEMATICALLY impossible to predict it more than just a few steps out. Which is EXACTLY why they can only GUESS when it "MIGHT" rain. And tornado warnings only come a couple hours before they hit. Complex systems can only be described, but not accurately predicted. This is why it is very futile to imagine there is some kind of step-by-step recipe for personal success. Either social or financial. Since BOTH involve plenty of other people. And if weather, an INORGANIC system with only a few variables is unpredictable, imagine how UNPREDICTALBE any HUMAN group is! Humans are ORGANIC system with a KAJILLION variables. But there is ONE variable that will have a PROFOUND effect on your success. Since all success requires you get in the game and learn from experience. The more experience you get, the more success you'll get. You can't get experience unless you get in the game. So keeping yourself on the sidelines, waiting for a guaranteed method that, theoretically, CANNOT exist, is only wasting time. Luckily, there are plenty of exercises you can do OFF THE FIELD to significantly increase your chances of ENJOYING the game. After all, if you are IN the game, and you are ENJOYING the game, that would making getting that necessary experience enjoyable as well. What are those easy exercises? Find Out Here: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  14. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July4Post.mp4 One of the best feelings as a humans is a feeling of accomplishment. Even if nobody knows but you. Especially if it was something that you weren't sure you could pull off. It's very common in self help metaphors to pretend we are special JUST BECAUSE. But despite how many metaphysical truths we believe about ourselves, we are stuck inside our physical bodies. Our physical bodies require physical things. Food, shelter, and most importantly, money. It would be fantastic if we could just "receive" all that stuff without needing to really DO anything. This is pretty much the core "teaching" of many "law of attraction" books and courses, and even some pretty expensive seminars. That if you only BELIEVE something enough, you'll plenty of free stuff. We LOVE that idea because BELIEVING happens inside our own brain. There is no need to talk to anybody. Or even look anybody in the eye. This even matches are most DEEPEST instinctive programming. To MINIMIZE our efforts and MAXIMIZE our results. All animals are programmed with this instinct. To spend as little energy as possible in the acquisition of as much energy as possible. Only humans can take this to metaphysical extreme levels. To WISH we only need to BELIEVE and some magic wish fairy will show up at our house with a sack full of cash. But we also KNOW that unless we move around and GET physical things, we'll starve. On a very basic, very REAL level, the BETTER we are at moving around and interacting with REALITY, the better stuff we can GET. This requires real skills, not imaginary skills. Imagination is ABSOLUTELY VITAL. But it's only a starting point. So long as you imagination DRIVES your actions, you're much better off. And if you keep taking action, and keep measuring what your actions CREATED compared to your imagination, that's even better. Once you create a kind of SYSTEM, based on this very simple, yet very ancient process, it's pretty mechanical. Imagine what you want. Take action. See what happened. Did you get closer? Do MORE of that. Did you not get closer? Do something different. This is the heart of all learning. The learning that is PROGRAMMED into your brain. The strategy you used to walk and talk and do everything else you can do. The strategy that WILL get you whatever you want, so long as you keep going. The ONLY thing that will keep you from getting what you want is if you take yourself OUT of the game. If you're out of the game, get back in. Ease into it. Develop a rock solid inner belief that you WILL win, if you keep playing long enough. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  15. Very often there is huge difference between long term and short term strategies. If you want something in the short term, this will often make it MUCH more difficult to get those same things in the long term. And if you try to get those same things in the LONG TERM, it will make it much more difficult to get satisfaction in the short term. One obvious area is food, eating and exercise. Sitting on the couch and eating burgers FEELS GOOD in the short term. But it adds up to lots of PAIN in the long term. The older you get, the more your joints will hurt. The more clogged you arteries will get. And ultimately, the sooner you'll die. Jogging and eating healthy every day doesn't feel good in the short term. But it adds up to a much LONGER and healthier and happier life. You will have much less body pain as you get older. You won't have pains shooting up and down your joints when you get out of bed. You'll even keep your brain intact for much longer. As they say, short term gain leads to long term pain. And short term pain leads to long term gain. This is also true in dating and attraction. For example, many guys have mastered the art of short term success with the ladies. Any time you use ARTIFICIAL strategies, or "game," you are using a collection of INORGANIC personality traits. This is why a guy CAN have ton of short term success, but not much long term success. Since that short term success is based on an inauthentic representation of YOU, it's hard to keep up. Pretty soon the REAL YOU will show up. And that REAL YOU will be different than the guy she was attracted to. Consider an alternative. Of being the REAL YOU all the time. This sounds like VERY CORNY advice! Just be yourself! The trick is to ALWAYS be improving your REAL SELF. So your REAL SELF will always have better and better results. How do you do this? By improving your goals. By improving your communication skills. By improving your financial skills. Here's where it gets REALLY interesting. The quality of woman you can attract by being the REAL YOU is a very useful PROXY for how SUCCESSFUL of a life the REAL YOU can achieve. Which means if you continue to build up the REAL YOU to have a much better life, you'll AUTOMATICALLY be more attractive to higher quality women. This means you'll need to ditch short term, magical "game" type thinking. And focus on REAL, long term success. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
  16. A long time ago I took a cooking class. It was pretty interesting, and I learned a lot of techniques. The lady that taught it was VERY specific in her instructions. About year later, I took another course from the same place. Same type of food, but a different teacher. This class was also pretty cool. Different recipes, different classmates, different teacher. I also learned a ton of stuff. The second teacher was much less specific in her instructions. The first teacher was kind of like a chemistry teacher. Exact measurements, temperatures and times. The second teacher, not so much. Some of this, a bit of that, cook it till it's done, and Bob's your uncle. You can imagine both types of instruction being useful in different situations. Whenever doing something like cooking, or building simple things, specific instructions are generally preferred. Especially if you are clueless, like I was the first time around. But with some things, specific instructions are USELESS. These are generally more complex things. Things that involve other people. With this, at best, any instruction MUST BE metaphorical. For example, imagine you had a buddy that was FANTASTIC with the ladies. A natural. You asked him what to do, and he told you to "Just be yourself." After all, this is EXACTLY what he does. Since he's a natural, he doesn't need to consciously TRY anything. He talks to the ladies just like he talks to anybody else. Relaxed, confident, friendly. At the same time, that advice sounds absolutely useless to somebody with social anxiety. The idea of simply "being yourself" is terrifying. Sure, you can be yourself when you talk to your close friends. But that cute girl with a gorgeous smile? How the heck are you supposed to "be yourself" around her? Whenever we are trying to learn from metaphors, it requires a LOT of trial and error. For example, supposed you wanted to learn to play the piano. And somebody told you to practice until you "got a feel for it." This is also a metaphor. A metaphor whose meaning you would have to DISCOVER for yourself. And the only way to discover that is to practice. Pretty soon, you WOULD get a "feel for it." You wouldn't need to use much of your conscious mind. Look at the notes, and watch your fingers move up and down the keys. EVERYTHING we learn has to be this way. A metaphorical instruction. Trial and error learning. And finally mastery. Of course, if you have LIMITING BELIEFS that is incredibly difficult. Get rid of the limiting beliefs, and learning ANYTHING will be mechanical. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  17. There are plenty of rags to riches stories. Carnegie is perhaps the most famous. He came to states from Europe when he was a kid. Before he was finished, he had a fortune that would be worth $200 billion today. He worked any job he could find. He learned anything he could. He invested his money wisely. Of course, luck also played a huge factor, as it inevitably does. He came during the second Industrial Revolution. When oil was a new thing. He combined his intellect, his drive to succeed with being in the right place at the right time. Once upon a time, there were only humans. No houses, no tools, no clothing. Every single thing that exists today was first an imagined thing. Either an individual or a collective hallucination. A group of ancient hunters sat around, night after night. Wondering if there wasn't an EASIER way to get stuff. They kept coming up with better and better ideas. Every single thing that exists today comes from the brains of humans, the actions of humans and the stuff that naturally exists. Even today, the same basic process works. If you are sitting at home watching TV, for example. You might imagine a sandwich you've NEVER eaten before. When you combine that imagination with your action, you can CREATE it. Of course, making a sandwich is pretty basic. But EVERYTHING is basic once you learn how. Once upon a time you didn't know how to make a sandwich. Once upon a time you didn't know how to do ANY of the stuff you can do. You might imagine a time ten or twenty years in the future where you can do WAY more stuff than you can do now. So long as you are willing to keep learning, you'll keep IMPROVING your skills. There is, however, one thing that can KEEP you from moving into bigger and better futures. Self imposed limitations. These are in the form of limiting beliefs. Beliefs that you accepted when you were younger. This is essentially the difference between guys like Carnegie and normal people. For whatever reason, guys like Carnegie and other super successful people had VERY LITTLE internal limitations. That is a very important, very critical element of their success. While none of us can do much about our EXTERNAL limitations (it'd be a bit too late to become an oil baron), we can do quite a bit to REMOVE our internal limitations. Do this and you'll be surprised. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  18. Once upon a time, there was no money. Now there is tons of money. Even in the last few years, there has been a lot of NEW money. Crypto-money. Invented essentially from scratch. Every day in the FOREX markets, there are trillions of dollars traded. Your blood cells go around your body. They pick up energy in the form of food and oxygen. Deliver the energy to the cells that need it. And then they turn around and transport the waste out. Without blood, and the cells within it, you'd be dead. Money serves the same purpose. Goods flow around the world one way. Money flows the other way. They say that as long as goods and money are flowing across borders, there's no reason for war. War only happens once money and goods STOP flowing. The flow of money around the world keeps the world healthy and thriving. As soon as money stops flowing, problems start, and people die. As soon as blood stops flowing, problems start and YOU die. When bears get ready for the winter, they store energy in the form of body fat. When ancient societies got ready for the winter, they stored energy in the from of grain. Now we humans can get ready for ANY span of time when we DON'T want to work by storing energy. This energy, of course, is money. You put a bunch of people together with a bunch of skills, and they'll INVENT a form of money. Sometimes they use cigarettes. Sometimes they use cases of soda. Sometimes they use shells, or salt, or gold or silver. When love to think of ourselves as individuals. But we are also very social animals. With a whole bunch of social instincts. Consider that one our MOST IMPORTANT social instinct is to make stuff. Or help make stuff, and then trade that stuff for money. The more money you get, the more stuff you can get. With everybody making stuff and selling it to each other, the amount of stuff increases. And the amount of money increases. This has been happening ever since they first invented coins, back in a few hundred BC. The amount of stuff has been increasing ever since. The amount of money has been increasing ever since. If aliens were studying humans, they'd see we have two purposes. To make stuff and make money. But since would see us trading stuff for money and money for stuff, they would see MONEY as the energy of earth. This is your destiny. To make money. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/money-brain/
  19. Being an entertainer is a valuable skill. Most of PUA tactics include demonstrating value. The bulk of the Mystery Method involves doing various bar tricks. Magic tricks, sleight of hand tricks, etc. They all have the same thing in common. Of the person you are trying to impress not needing to do anything. If you have plenty of tricks up your sleeve, this can be a fantastic way of standing out. Since most goofs CAN'T, even a couple of tactics can work wonders. But they do have their drawbacks. For one, if you happen to REALLY hit if off with somebody, you'll eventually run out of material. Once the REAL YOU comes up, it might not be the same. If you've ever seen famous comedians or actors when they are NOT being filmed or interviewed, they are MUCH DIFFERENT than on stage. Of course, if you're ONLY after hit-and-run fun, then having a half hour of material is really all you need. Show up, demonstrate value, pick your prize and have fun. However, if you want to develop deeper relationships, you'll need to be MORE than an entertainer. This is the other half of being socially outgoing that most people miss. There's a lot more than just showing up and entertaining the crowd. The flip side is how comfortable you make others feel. If you can not only tell a few jokes, and create good feelings, but also help shy folks come out of their shell, you'll be head and shoulders above any one-trick pony. And it turns out that easing others out of their shell is pretty easy. Even better, the longer you do it, the easier it gets. It's opposite being an entertainer type. The longer you entertain, the HARDER it gets. People start to build expectations. That's why it's usually only good for short term fun. But if you want to create REAL relationships, with friends, lovers, and everybody in between, then having the "make others feel comfortable around you" skill is a definite plus. It's easy to learn, and easy to do. And after you practice it for just a few minutes, they'll actually remember YOU much more than the tricksters. Why? Because EVERYBODY can enjoy the trickster. They do the same tricks for EVERYBODY. But when you flip the script, and find out what's important about ONE person in particular, then they KNOW you are focused ONLY on them. Which means they'll remember you much, much longer than anybody who's telling jokes or doing magic tricks. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
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  21. From inside our own brain, life can seem confusing. But looking at us humans objectively can give us a better perspective. One way to describe us is "desire satisfying organisms." We have these things in our brains called desires. An unfulfilled want. This propels our mind-body system to interact with the world until we get our desires satisfied. Sometimes this is easy and automatic. Like grabbing something out of the fridge. We can do it mostly on auto-pilot. Some stuff is complicated. Like rebuilding an engine. Takes a lot of time and conscious thought. Definitely NOT autopilot. In between our DESIRE and the OUTCOME is our behavior. These behaviors can be called strategies. You have a strategy for getting something to eat. You have a strategy for doing laundry. Some strategies are fairly simple. Some are much more complex. Some strategies are specific to a specific outcome. Like the strategy you have for doing laundry can't really be applied to fixing your bicycle. But some strategies are much more "meta." They can be applied to a whole bunch of different things. Many folks, for example, see a LOT of overlap between sales and seduction. A lot of the same language is used. Opening, closing, cold, warm, etc. The meta strategy to both sales and seduction would be persuasion. We can call persuasion a "meta strategy." As a human, the better you can persuade, the more effectively you'll interact with others. But we can even go up a meta level. Even with meta strategies like persuasion. For example, in persuasion, there is short term strategies, and long term strategies. If you were selling magazine subscriptions door to door, you would use a very short term strategy. Give 'em the pitch, and see if they buy. If they don't, move on to the next one. If you only got a dollar from each sale, you wouldn't want to waste very much time. On the other hand, imagine if you were a real estate agent. Each sale would get you several thousand dollars. So you'd want to spend a lot longer with each client. Turns out this same paradigm can be applied to pretty much EVERYTHING. That this distinction is one of the most important ones of all. This meta-meta-skill can be applied to ALL skills. Every. Single. One. Which meta skill is this? The long game. And the longer your game, the more likely you'll achieve your outcomes. Whatever they are. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/long-game/
  22. Economics is something few people actively study. They don't teach it in school. And unless you are going to major in economics, chances are you won't take any official courses. Yet understanding economics is essential. Because economics allows for an understanding of human nature. Of human decision making. Many suppose the reason they specifically DON'T teach economics in school is so it's much easier to con us. The MAIN THING economics FORCES us to understand is what things costs. And that is the ONE QUESTION those in charge don't want us to ask. They'd rather promise us stuff so we NEVER wonder what that stuff is going to cost. But EVERYTHING cost something. Either now, or later. But a deeper idea in economics is the idea of diminishing returns. Imagine you're really hungry. Imagine it's your ONE cheating day per week. And you are about ready to eat a HUGE plate of carne asada nachos. All week you've been eating boiled chicken breast and cabbage. The FIRST BITE of carne asada nacho is going to be DELICIOUS. As will the next couple of bites. But as you keep eating, each successive will be LESS and LESS delicious. Pretty soon you'll reach a tipping point. Where each bite is not only not delicious, but painful. This is the law of diminishing returns. You KEEP doing the same thing. But the BENEFIT (the returns) keep getting less (diminish). If you have ten days off from work, each day is going to be a LITTLE less rewarding than the last. If you slip into a hot bath after a long day's work, each minute will be LESS relaxing than the previous. This idea will OBLITERATE any goals you have if you don't understand. It happens like this. On DAY ONE of your plan, your motivation is HUGE. The imagined benefit is HUGE. The imagined COSTS of getting that goal are small, since you're just starting. But each day you go forward, something happens. The costs INCREASE. They move from imagined, to real. The imagined benefit DECREASES. Each day you imagine the benefit, the law of diminishing returns kicks in. And makes it seem less and less valuable in mind. The visualized BENEFITS are decreasing over time. The actual COSTS are increasing over time. When you started, and the benefit was HUGE, since you'd JUST STARTED to imagine them. The costs were SMALL, since you could ONLY imagine them. But each day, the costs increase, and the imagined benefits decrease. Pretty soon you reach a tipping point. Where the COSTS are LARGER than the benefits. And it's NATURAL at this point, to give up. This is why nearly EVERYBODY sets goals. But very few people ACHIEVE goals. Turns out the entire self-help industry is FILLED with misconceptions. Luckily, once you understand basic human nature, you can create a much better plan. One that will make success much more natural. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-help-fail/
  23. Understanding human nature is very helpful. Both from an insider's view and from a competitor's point of view. It's good to understand human nature from inside your own brain. It's also helpful to understand human nature so you can keep a close eye on your competition. As they say, you could keep your friends close, but your enemies closer. Now, they aren't always going to be ENEMIES, but you will ALWAYS have competition. It can be friendly competition, but it will be competition. If you see your best friend waiting to interview for the same job YOU are interviewing for, he is your friend AND your "enemy" at the same time. They aren't going to hire both of you. EVERY SINGLE THING you want that isn't abundant is going to be also wanted by a lot of other people. That one girl or guy you've got your eye on is also desired by many others. That one house in that one neighborhood is always desired by many others. That one idea you have to start a business around is likely also thought about by plenty of others. Unfortunately, plenty of our competition is very crafty. Once I had a job interview for a VERY NICE job. I had to talk to about six people. All but one was fairly straightforward. They asked me hard questions, and I gave them decent answers. Except for one guy. He was VERY FRIENDLY. Asked me very easy questions. Even got me something to drink. His strategy was to find out what I REALLY thought of his product. See, I had worked for a competitor at the time. But this job was a level up both career and income wise. Only I believed that their product was not quite as good as the one made by the company I worked for. And this guy wanted to find out what I REALLY believed about their product. And he did so by carefully, covertly, and deliberately lowering my guard. He even acted like he valued my advice. In doing so he "tricked me" into being MUCH MORE OPEN than I wanted to. And because of that one conversation, I didn't get the job. It can be very tempting to believe what others tell you. Especially if they are telling you EXACTLY how to get what you want. But in reality, the ONLY WAY to figure out exactly HOW to get what you want is by looking inside your own head. Understanding your OWN skills. Developing your OWN strategies. This can be difficult, but it's the ONLY way to realize true success. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-help-fail/
  24. Most normal people have issues with food. Either eating too much, or not the right kind. If you've ever tried to lose weight and couldn't, it's one of the most maddening situations. A common situation is as follows. You have a strong DESIRE to change your body. Maybe less fat, maybe more muscle. And so you do some research. You want to find out HOW to satisfy that desire. When you read the material, it sounds obvious. Scientific. It makes perfect sense. But then you run smack in the face of harsh reality. You KNOW what to do. But you can't do it. Sometiems this is when you KNOW you need to under a certain number of calories per day, but you can't. Part of you wants to abstain, but another part wants to eat. And the part of you that wants to eat seems to always win. This is the same battle that happens in nearly all areas of life. Part of you wants something. But another part of you, a much stronger part of you, makes doing that impossible. You see a cute girl across the room. She even smiled at you a couple of times. All you need to do is walk over there and start talking. But you can't. You come up with a billion LOGICAL SOUNDING reasons. You don't know what to say. Or you convince yourself that she isn't your type. Both of these frustrating situations are of the same structure. You have a desire to create a certain outcome. A very STRONG desire. Either to lose weight, or gain muscle, or study more, or to make friends. But another desire always keeps you from doing it. The thing you WANT is nearly always a long term desire. The thing that STOPS YOU is nearly always a short term desire. You want to study, but another more stronger desire makes you watch TV instead. You want to exercise, but another more stronger desire makes you stay in bed instead. Understanding that all these are of the SAME STRUCTURE is the first step. To see recognize that these short term, much stronger desires, seem to always OUT FRAME the longer, "higher order" desires. Once you understand the structure, you can fix it. And you fix it by SLOWLY strengthening the higher order desires. And by seeing them as things that need to be built slowly over time. There are plenty of ways out gain more control over these long desires. So will power is not needed. And frustration will vanish. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-help-fail/
  25. If you don't know how to do something, it can be frustrating. When it comes to frustration, there is good frustration, and bad frustration. Good frustration is a natural motivator. A very low level "fight or flight" stimulus. And it makes us fight, but in a good way. The most common way is in sports. Frustration can lead to more energy. More energy leads to better performance. We can imagine how this might have been a few thousands of years ago. A hunter keeps missing, and gets frustrated. This makes him angry, which makes him MORE motivated to kill whatever he was hunting. However, like many of our other instincts, frustration can be mis-calibrated. If you are frustrated but don't know HOW to use that energy, this isn't good. This leads to stress and anxiety. There is a lot of ways this can happen. One is when you don't know what to do. Another is when you THINK you know what to do, and you do it, but you DON'T get the results you hoped. This is when you can do the same things over and over and think you'll get something different. Even worse is when somebody shows you how, and you try and copy them, but YOU get much different results than THEY get. This is common in any kind of "boot camp" training. You watch a guru do something, and he gets a fabulous result. Then you try and do the same thing, and fall on your face. The truth is that nearly all skills we humans want to improve, there are WAY too many variables to understand. Even something as simple as cooking requires a lot of practice. You can watch a step by step cooking show and get a completely different result. It's expected that something like cooking takes a lot of practice. But cooking is YOU and the ingredients. The ingredients just sit there. But most of the stuff we REALLY want (relationships, love, money) are WAY more complicated than cooking. But for some reason, we expect to learn them much more quickly than we'd expect to learn to become a decent chef. Maybe it's because a lot of "gurus" promise INSTANT or EASY results. They CAN be easy, but NOT instant. In fact, the SLOWER you go, the easier they are. The FASTER you go, the more variables you miss, and the more BAD frustration you'll create. So long as you keep away from the BAD frustration, you'll only have the good stuff. That makes going forward easy. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-help-fail/
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