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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov18Post.mp4 Social skills are necessary. But social skills are also very difficult to practice. Anything that has social skills built into it is something we don't even think of as skills to learn and improve. We tend to put them in the category of being good at them, or not being good at them. Being shy or outgoing. Being introverted or extroverted. There's even some very complex ideas about a personality TYPE. And once you determine your type, that's it. If you're not the "type" to make a lot of money, oh well. If you're not the "type" to be good with the ladies, oh well. If you're not the "type" to do well in job interviews, oh well. This is like MANY of our self-accepted limitations. They have two sides. One side is it feels very comfortable. Very safe. Because claiming to be a "type" absolutely absolves us of the responsibility. We can even pretend it's not our fault we can't get what we want. We are, after all, programmed with DNA, and an upbringing that we had nothing to do with, right? Sure, we'd LOVE to make more money, but that's just the way it goes. We'd love to be more socially outgoing and playful around attractive people, but that's just the way it goes. You CAN accept your limitations. You CAN accept that you'll NEVER do better than you are now. That it's not your fault. That's common, and safe, but pretty boring. Or you can slowly improve yourself. Imagine if nobody knew about exercise. Everybody just ate whenever they got hungry. And they ate whatever tasted good. Some people had jobs in factories. Some people had jobs behind desks. Some people were WAY overweight, but they figured that was JUST the way there were. Other people who were in shape, well, those guys are just lucky. That would be SILLY! Clearly, there's plenty of evidence that people CAN improve their health. It's certainly not easy. But it's absolutely possible. Increasing social skills is the same way. So long as you do it slowly, safely and consistently, you WILL get better. Sure, it won't be like magic. It won't happen overnight. But it WILL happen. One of the biggest fears of improving social fears is the idea of getting rejected. But there are plenty of ways you can improve your social skills without EVER worrying about rejection. A lot of ways to improve your playfulness, without EVER worrying about rejection. A lot of ways to improve our overall attraction, without EVER worrying about rejection. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov12Post.mp4 One of the most important ideas is flexibility. The more ways you can skin a cat, the more likely you'll skin a cat. If you can only skin a cat using your special cat skinning knife, and you can't find it, you won't be skinning any cats. Of course, nobody would really want to skin a cat. That would be dangerous. Cat's don't really like having their skin removed. But the idea of skinning cat, or more importantly the part about having more than one way to skin cat, is instructive. As all metaphors are. Once they had this cooking show. It was one expert chef with a couple of amateurs. Two or three teams. The game was they wouldn't know what they had to cook with until the timer started going off. And they usually had very simple ingredients. Stuff most of us have in our own kitchens. (Don't worry, they weren't cooking skinned cats!) The fun part was watching these master chefs whip up some pretty good dishes with only some basic ingredients. The more flexible you are, the less you need to work with to get whatever it is you want. What do most of us want? More money, more sex, more social recognition and respect. What do we have to work with? Most of us aren't rich. We aren't gorgeous. We don't wear thousands of dollars worth of bling. But we don't need that kind of stuff. We only need the ideas that exist already in our brains. And an understanding of the structure of language. The structure of language is very closely related to the structure of thought. Two things people RARELY even think about. When most people communicate, they take half baked thoughts and spit them out with randomly chosen words. This is common, this is ordinary, this is expected. This is also pretty safe, and pretty boring. It won't get you into any trouble. But it won't get you paid or laid either. What will? Using your communication like a tool. A playful tool. You don't need any more education. You don't need spend any time collecting world class experiences. All you need to do is to take some time and understand the massive amount of flexibility in your language and your thought. To turn people's random streams of boring ideas into linguistic pretzels. To take the common complaints and limitations other people spit out and turn them into reasons to laugh out loud. What will this do for you? This will make you much more popular. Much more attractive. Much more fun to be around. No bling or beauty required. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov11Post.mp4 A very common issue is as follows. A guy or gal will want something socially. Maybe a date, maybe a sale, maybe simply increasing their network. They make an attempt. And it doesn't go very well. For a guy, it might be talking to a girl to get her number. For a gal, it might be the same. Talking to somebody, sort of "feeling it" but not knowing quite how to close. Or it could be somebody who is at a networking meeting, but they don't get as many contacts as they'd wished. The basic structure, though, is the same. A person interacts socially, and gets a less than desirable result. So they go home, go online and ask the Internet for advice. So far, so good. The Internet is a FANTASTIC invention. A very, very HELPFUL invention. But when it comes to giving advice on how to behave in social situations, it falls very short. Because when you describe your problem, you do so ONLY with words. And when you get the ideas from others, it comes ONLY in words. Social communications is VERY MUCH based on non-verbal energy. IMPOSSIBLE to describe in words. If you have the right energy, the words don't really matter. If you have the wrong energy, no words will work. Operating socially is very much like any kind of competitive sport. What you do is very much dependent on what the other person just did. And the only way to improve how you respond, in the moment, to what the other guy just did is to practice. At least in sports. But there is some very powerful techniques you can use socially. That make it much EASIER to respond in the moment. To respond in the moment much more spontaneously. Much less dependent on outcome. The reason outcome independence works so well is it frees up TONS of extra brain processing time. If you HAVE an outcome, you will always have that outcome in the back of your mind. It's like trying to work on your PC with a software update going on in the background. That software update makes everything SUPER SLOW. So if you are holding an outcome in mind, even subconsciously, it will make it much more difficult to respond in the moment. But here's the best part. Since all humans are social animals, we all have the SAME outcome programmed deeply into our instincts. We WANT to create positive social relationships. So you don't NEED to have an outcome. It's already programmed into your DNA. It's programmed into their DNA. Whoever they are. The easiest way to practice outcome independence? Literally, have ZERO outcome. Except to make people smile, laugh and have a good time. If you can do that, people will do everything to keep you around. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov10Post.mp4 Laughter is a very powerful tool. From a purely physiological standpoint, it provides quick stress release. When we laugh, our body quickly contracts, and then releases. When we release, it also releases a lot of pent up stress. From a purely energetic standpoint, it's like a quick purge of bad energy. And it feels very good. Even in a bad situation, a quick comment can significantly relieve the stress. Long time ago I went to traffic school. The kind to keep a traffic ticket off your record. The guy who taught it was a cop. He said the only time he ever let somebody off a ticket was if they told him a quick joke. Not a set up, but a comment that was spontaneous and in the moment. Nearly all women, when they list the required traits of the their dream guy, is a sense of humor. Being able to take a serious situation and reframe it in the moment to something funny is a very attractive trait. Because if you can reframe something serious into something funny, you can pretty much reframe anything into anything. Demonstrating skills of humor presupposes a deep and very flexible way of thinking. To say that somebody doesn't have a sense of humor is to say they are very rigid in their thinking. To say that somebody has a great sense of humor is saying a lot. Much more than making people laugh. That you can pretty much handle anything that comes up. That you can think way outside the box. That when unexpected things come up, you don't stand their frozen. You come up with solutions. The linguistic structure of humor is very similar to the linguistic structure of conversational hypnosis. One way to create a massive frame of attraction is to be known as a hypnotist. To be known as a hypnotist is to be confident, funny, lateral thinking, and very friendly and spontaneous. All very, very attractive traits. The more you learn the structure of humor, the more you'll learn the structure of hypnosis. This goes both ways. And since this is a structure, not something that's inborn, it's easy for anybody to learn. Learn the structure of language. Learn the structure of thought. Learn the structure of subconscious and non verbal communication. This is pretty much the master key of human nature. The more you practice, the better you'll get. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct16Post.mp4 Once I was hanging out a buddies house. We had just come back from a long backpacking trip. Since his apartment complex had a pretty large laundry room, we decided we'd do all our laundry there. While we were hanging out, I grabbed a magazine and went the restroom. While I was in there, I saw a spider. A big one. I immediately recoiled. But then I laughed. We'd just got back from backpacking. No showers for a week. Sleeping on a tarp, on the ground. Surrounded by bugs and fish (that we caught and ate) and even a few deer and bears. Under this context, seeing a spider or any other critter wouldn't even register. But in a clean bathroom, where it's NOT expected, it can seem a bit unsettling. Context is everything. Expectations are also very important. For example, imagine a waiter at a restaurant. They introduce themselves, ask questions and make recommendations to strangers all the time. They expect to ask questions, and have them answered. The customers expect to be asked questions, and have them answered. But that same waiter in different environment might be the shyest person you'll ever meet. He wouldn't dare approach a stranger, ask questions and make recommendations. But this is EXACTLY why people go to social places. To meet people. To ask questions. To be asked questions. And to make recommendations. What recommendations? Simple ones like this: "Hey, I enjoyed talking to you. Why don't we exchange numbers so we can get together sometime?" Sometimes this is easy. Sometimes this is extremely difficult. One common way to approach this "problem" is to develop a very strong frame. After all, if you have a strong frame, a compelling frame, it's much easier to make suggestions. But this is one of those things that is very easy in theory, but very hard in practice. Holding a strong frame is not so easy when you are talking to somebody you just met. And when the entire reason you are talking to them is they have something you'd like to have. Their presence, their energy, their personality, etc. So the common response is to keep building a very strong frame. So strong it's the strongest frame around. This is possible, but it's very difficult. The opposite, on the other hand, is very easy. To purposely come with a WEAKER frame. And to ask easy to answer questions from that weaker frame. Questions that will build up their desire and attraction to YOU. Very uncommon, very powerful, and very, very easy. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct09Post.mp4 A long time ago, I had a low level job as a technician. Some big shot was coming to see me. A guy that was way above my pay grade gave me some inside dope. That the big shot coming to see me was thinking about starting another department. And she was maybe think about involving me somehow. Needless to say, I was nervous. The reason for her visit was completely different. So I had to pretend I didn't really know that she was there to also give me the once over. She showed up, we did our thing, she thanked me she left. A couple days later my inside guy called me and said she was impressed. That made me feel pretty good. Being able to impress somebody is a common desire. If you see an attractive person across the room, being able to impress them would feel fantastic. If you have a job interview, being able to impress the hiring guy is a good skill to have. If you wanted to be an actor, you would need to impress the guy doing the choosing. Even if you wanted to cook a meal for your friends, being able to impress them with your skills is a very nice feeling. When Darth Vader and Luke Skywalker fought with light sabers the first time, that's exactly what Vader said: "Impressive." Clearly, being able to impress people would help you in pretty much ANY situation. Sure, you could learn certain skills to impress people. Cooking skills, acting skills, light saber dueling skills. But those are pretty contextual. If you walked up to a stranger and told them you could make the perfect souffle, they might be impressed, they might not be. To impress people in social settings, particularly strangers, would be a VERY nice skill to have. It would increase your social proof. It would increase your authority. It would significantly expand your social network. All things that would make you much more attractive. Luckily, there is a VERY SIMPLE way to do this. When most people think about impressing others, we think about impressing THEM with the ideas in OUR brains. This is the absolute HARDEST way to do that. The easiest way is to impress them with how well we can find interesting ideas in THEIR brain. It turns out that the simplest way to be impressive TO others is to be impressed BY others. Luckily, there is a very simple, step by step, linguistic structure to do EXACTLY that. Learn how, and impressing people EVERYWHERE will be second nature. Get Started: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
  7. Why Being Yourself Is Excellent Advice: https://mindpersuasion.com/be-yourself-is-excellent-advice/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July23Loop.mp4
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun22Post.mp4 Once upon a time there was a doctor. This doctor lived a couple hundred years or so ago. Back then, one in four women died during childbirth. The main reason was they hadn't yet discovered germs. So it was not uncommon for doctors to be elbows deep in some dead guy, studying his insides, then go directly into a surgery or a delivery. Since he's hands were covered in germs, lots of patients died. Of course, they had yet discovered how dangerous that was. So this doctor thought it might be a good idea for these docs to wash their hands in between procedures. At first they thought he was nuts. What? Invisible things that can kill us? Eventually he persuaded him. And people died less and less because of it. The doctor's name? Dr. Lister. This is why that stuff you're supposed to gargle with is called LISTERINE. Seriously. This is common in science. Something isn't obvious, so we don't notice it or it's effects. But then somebody discovers it, and it makes things a bit clearer. Or safer or easier. Sometimes, though, it is POSSIBLE to know things but we either choose not to, or we just don't think it's possible. After all, there is TON of information. There's no way anybody could know even close to a fraction of a percentage. Sometimes the information is right there in front of us. But we refuse to see it. A lot of people have heard of the idea of social hierarchies, for example. But some refuse to believe it. "Show me proof," they say. As if they expect people to walk around with easy to see proof. But this proof IS easy to see. And easy to measure, once you know. And not just in a metaphorical sense. In a very real, very observable, very behavior sense. You can look over a room and tell EXACTLY who's at the top of any pecking order. And you can measure a few variables from yourself, and know exactly where you stand. This goes way beyond feeling and guessing. If you wanted to, you could actually take measurements. You'd look kind of goofy though. But with practice, it's pretty easy. Not only to measure, but to know EXACTLY what you need to do to increase your socials status. The kind that EVERYBODY is projecting. And EVERYBODY is reading. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun19Post.mp4 In one of the Rocky movies, they had him chasing a chicken. Rocky thought it was stupid. His trainer knew better. Turned out to be a pretty good training technique. Chickens are pretty quick, and are hard to catch. The longer you chase them, the more flexibility and endurance you'll develop. Of course, this was another of the "strange training" themes in plenty of the Rocky movies. Hitting sides of beef, running up sides of mountains, etc. These all play along with the "poor athlete who can't afford expensive equipment" idea. Some people take big coffee cans, fill them with cement and make weights of out them. That's the thing about us humans. We can be pretty flexible when we need to. We even build exercise machines that simulate simpler pieces of equipment. You can run on a treadmill, or run outside on the street. You can use a stairclimber, or go find some actual stairs to run up and down. You can do exercises that SEEM to be geared toward a specific thing, but never intend to do that thing. People that use stairclimbers, for example, aren't likely getting ready for a mountain climbing contest. They do it for the effect on their bodies. Similarly, plenty of these ideas exist for social skills and conditioning. One of the BEST ways to rapidly increase social skills would be to take up public speaking. Since public speaking is terrifying, once you get over THAT fear, all the other fears will be small by comparison. But just like chasing chickens and running on treadmills, you don't actually have to EVER get up and give a speech to get "public speaking confidence." Just like you could never leave your house yet develop the body of a long distance runner. So long had a treadmill somewhere, and did the appropriate exercises, you'd get the results. Turns out there are PLENTY of exercises you can do to develop public speaking confidence. None of which involve speaking publicly. Many of them are purely mental exercises. Imagination exercises. Journaling exercises. Memory building exercises. And just like the guy who never leaves his house yet has a runner's body, you can never get up in front of a crowd, and develop a public speaker's confidence. The kind of confidence that turns heads when you walk into a room. The kind of confidence people are drawn to. Both in times of trouble and times of safety. Alpha confidence. Get Some: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun16Post.mp4 If you ever find yourself up against a gang of bad guys, that strategy is pretty straightforward. At least from movie fighting strategy. Figure out which guy is the leader, and punch that guy first. Then the rest of the bad guys will flee. There was a movie a few years ago with Tom Cruise where he had to play this soldier fighting against aliens. He got some "super special" alien blood on him, so he could relive the same day over and over. Eventually, like most complex alien movies, in order to kill ALL the aliens, they had to kill the MAIN alien. Which was essentially the alien brain. This is a very common theme in movies. Mainly because we humans are hierarchical. So it makes perfect sense to kill the dude in charge and you'll be in good shape. It also makes sense to WANT to BE the guy in charge. If you are a good guy, and you are leading a good tribe or group of people, not much is better. The guys up on top get most of the good stuff. In chimps and in humans, social hierarchy is closely correlated with all the stuff we humans generally want. Money, sex, fame, etc. There is one idea binding these two ideas together. Killing the bad guy in charge, and being the good guy in charge. And that is public speaking. If you CAN manage to speak effectively in front of any crowd, for any amount of time, this will be a solid way to demonstrate REAL authority. Especially if your message is compelling. Everybody will be in the crowd watching you. Everybody will notice that everybody is watching you. This will give you both social proof AND authority. The two most powerful subconscious triggers. But to get there, you've got to get over your public speaking fear. A fear nearly EVERYBODY has. A fear nearly EVERYBODY thinks is WORSE than death. This is good news. Why? Because of all the fears up in your brain, fear of public speaking is the greatest. So if you knock out the leading fear, all the rest of your fears will scatter. Just like punching the leader of a gang in the face. So, what, punch yourself in the face? Like in Fight Club? No, nothing that drastic! Turns out there are a ton of simple and easy exercises you can do that will SLOWLY dismantle your public speaking fear. That's a problem with punching the bad guy in the face. He might come back! But if you DISMANTLE your fear, it will never show up again. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun15Post.mp4 Managing instincts is difficult. We were programmed a long, long time ago. Before we learned how to think, and talk and imagine. Instincts are like compulsions. They make us do certain things. And keep us from doing other things. Since they were "calibrated" a long, long time ago, they're kind of out of balance. That's why it's so hard to maintain a healthy weight. Being always hungery, and getting a huge pleasure while eating was necessary a long time ago. When food was hard and sometimes dangerous to get. We HAD to have a HUGE desire to eat so we wouldn't die of starvation. But today, it kind of sucks. Our instincts, especially are hunger instinct, is like the Borg. Resistance is futile. That's why no matter how well you do on a diet or exercise program, if you take just a week off, it's HARD to get back. Nature meant it to be this way. The desire to eat is like the Terminator. It never sleeps, it never gets tired. Since food is the MOST IMPORTANT thing, we crave it the most. It's the HARDEST instinct to manage. Others are easier. At least past a certain point. For example, plenty of people have a lot of social anxiety. Between where they are, and where they'd like to be is a big, invisible barrier. One that the more they TRY and push through, the harder it gets. But unlike food, once you get past a certain point, it's EASIER doing more. Kind of like those mag-lev trains. The ones that are based on oscillating magnetic fields. They both push and pull at the same time. But it takes a while to get going. Once it's going at a certain speed and momentum, it's very easy and efficient to keep going. Social anxiety is kind of like that, but only better. Mag lev trains are CONSISTENTLY oscillating. There is always a vibration between push and pull. It has to be carefully managed and operated. But our social instincts are not like that. They only have ONE push and ONE pull. Once you get past the first hurdle, it's much, much easier. The trouble is that many people try to go too quickly. To fake it till you make it. To feel the fear and do it anyway. To blast through the comfort zone. This would be like being WAY out of shape and trying to run a sub four minute mile. IMPOSSIBLE! But if you go VERY SLOWLY, improving will not only be easy, but enjoyable. Self sustaining. Meaning you'll get to a point where all social anxiety is a thing of the past. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun14Post.mp4 Most sales is a numbers game. Especially direct to consumer. Business to business sales is a little different. Since there's usually a lot more money, and they money being spent is not usually coming out of anybody's pocket. Business to business sales is not as dependent on commissions. But retail sales of large ticket items usually is. And numbers is king. If you are a salesperson, the more people you talk to, the more chances you have. Even from the owner's standpoint, it's the same. The more people you hire, the better your chances. Consider two possibilities. One is you spend a lot of time and money hiring people and training them. This will get the owner a certain number of sales per month. The second possibility is to just hire whoever walks in the door. Turns out this is much more effective. To hire people, give them the bare bones training and then turn 'em loose. Because you'll usually get a few people that are naturals. Pareto principle says that the top 20% will make 80% of the sales. But how they are trained is kind of interesting. The salespeople are trained to talk to a manager before the customer leaves. The salesperson tells the customer that they want to go grab a business card and give to them before they leave. The customer waits, and the salesperson runs inside. The salesperson finds a manager, and tells them what objection they are stuck on. They manager tells the salesperson what to say, and they salesperson runs back to the customer and says EXACTLY the same thing. If the salesperson has enough patience, they'll learn a lot. For many people in many social situations, this is IDEAL. To have some secret person to run to whenever they get into trouble, and to be told EXACTLY what to say. This is essentially the story of Cyrano de Bergerac. Cyrano was a word magician. But he had a huge nose. His buddy, Christian was a good looking guy but had no game. Cyrano would tell Christian EXACTLY what to say to Roxanne, the girl they both loved. This type of thing has been done over and over. We like this story because we all WISH we could have some secret helper telling us EXACTLY what to say in social situations. In fact, this is what we tell ourselves. I WOULD go and talk to that person, but I DON'T know what to say! If I KNEW what to say, it would be easy! But here's the funny thing. What to say is EXTREMELY easy when you can read emotions. When you can effectively read the emotions of others, conversations and social situations are much, much easier. How do you do that? Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun11Post.mp4 The more you practice, the better you perform. This is one of those things that is so obvious it's not even worth saying. But at the same time, it's something we ignore quite a lot. When "we" look out into the world, part of us notices stuff. Another part of us just kind of collects the data. This is commonly referred to as our conscious and unconscious. On a purely structural level, our brain-body systems are incredibly complex. We have this massively complicated body. Our body needs things to stay alive. We also need to make more copies of ourselves. So things we are programmed with tons of instincts to help us. The things that keep us safe and alive and likely to replicate feel VERY GOOD. The things that will likely get us killed or decrease our chances of replicating feel VERY BAD. Describing this from an external, objective view is pretty simple. But inside our own brains, it's chaotically complex. It would be one thing if we were robots and had to simply choose between good things and bad things. But it's much more complicated than that. Because many of the "good things" we want, we aren't sure how to get. We try, fail and feel horrible. Even thought we THINK the thing we want will make us feel fantastic. To make things even worse, sometimes we'll try really hard to get something, but realize it's not all that. We spend all kinds of time, effort and opportunity cost, only to find it's not such a big deal. This really ISN'T such a big deal, and sometimes kind of funny if it's something like changing your mind at a restaurant. You read the menu and see something that LOOKS good. But then the dude two tables over gets something you WISH you would have gotten. For simple things, it's funny. For more important things, it's like that line from a Talking Heads song: "My God! What have I done?!" Even MORE complicated is we need to look out into our reality, and choose from among all the tons of variables of what to do after, and what to not go after. But we only see a small sliver of what's REALLY going on around us. This gets even MORE complicated when part of us PURPOSELY keeps hidden from us valuable information. Kind of like when you take out money from the ATM but you're afraid to look at your balance. You get better at anything if you practice. Even complex things that only exist in social and financial situations. But this requires that we look at ALL the data. Which is difficult for most people. VERY difficult. Until you understand how to RE-CALIBRATE your interpretation of all the data. So it's much more like objective data. And not life or death information. That way, you can become a much better OPERATOR within reality. Which is kind of like a line from old Eric B. & Rakim hip hop song: "A smooth operator operating correctly." Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  14. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun10Post.mp4 Science is, at it's core descriptive. Meaning they look at things, and describe what happens. To the extent that what they describe is repeatable, they can predict what's going to happen. Even things that are complex, yet repeatable, can be used scientifically without really knowing why. A prime example is anesthesia. Tens of thousands of time per day, people are knocked out, cut open, sewed back up, and are perfectly fine. A week or so later they can get up and walk around like nothing happened. But WHY, exactly, does anesthesia work? Truth is nobody really knows. They have a lot of educated guesses, but beyond that, they're not sure. This is especially true with ANYTHING involving us humans. Sure, if you're doing experiments on things like plants or interactions between inanimate objects, you can do it over and over. But you can't really do that with humans. So any time anybody talks about us humans, especially when people start tossing numbers around, it's ONLY a metaphor. And metaphors are NOT the "thing" they are trying to describe. The are less complex descriptions of more complex things. So we can understand. Why do we want to understand? Well, there are only two reasons. One is to have an academic, logical, rational understanding. But since with humans this is impossible, there's only one other option. And that is because we want to achieve an objective. For doctors and anesthesiologists, the objective is simple. To be able to knock 'em out, cut 'em open, sew 'em back up, and send them on their way. So long as they can achieve that, HOW, exactly it happens is not so important. Often times we humans tend to overly focus on the metaphor. Usually when we DON'T WANT to look at our objectives. This is very common in social situations. Somebody will toss about a metaphor about this or that social idea. And instead of seeing that metaphor for what it is, a tool to help GET IN THE GAME, we instead focus on the metaphor. We want to dissect the metaphor. Try to outdo each other with BETTER and CLEVERER metaphors. This is what they mean when they say, "Don't look at the finger, look where it's pointing." A very common example of this is whenever people talk about our subconscious mind. The subconscious is a metaphor. The conscious is a metaphor. They describe different categories of thinking and behavior. Very GENERAL categories. You KNOW when you're stuck up in metaphorical la-la land when you're worried about the SPECIFIC intentions of your "subconscious." "Maybe I should wait because my subconscious wants me to do this or that or the other thing..." Uh huh. Instead, consider just getting in the game and having some fun. http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  15. A very common ideal is to be outcome independent. This is true in sports, sales, persuasion and seduction. In sports, this can lead to the coveted "flow state." When an athlete or musician is operating a very high state of performance, but at the same time not needing very much of their conscious minds. Everybody experiences this, but usually in unremarkable ways. Whenever you learn a new skill to the point of unconscious competence, this is essentially what happens. You are doing that skill, but since you've learned it "by heart," you don't need much of your conscious mind. If you're playing a song on an instrument, this is when you can just relax and feel the music flow through you. But if you aren't quite at the level of unconscious competence, meaning you still need your conscious mind, this is when you can mess up. You can be sort of in that flow state, feeling the music flowing through you, but then you start to THINK about where to put your fingers. And just that THOUGHT of moving your fingers consciously KILLS the flow state. The more complicated the skill is, the more metaphysical this flow state can be. It's most interesting to psychologists when it's in a competition. It's one thing to practice a piece on the piano over and over until you learn it by heart. Pretty soon you can play it without thinking. But when your mind-body system is operating at a level of unconscious competence WHILE in a competition, this is VERY amazing. Playing the piano over and over is the EXACT same thing. But in a competition, ever move is NEW. You are in the flow state, but you are also responding to an organically evolving system. This is like a META flow state. This is also the most sought after mindset to have when in a conversation with somebody you've never met before. They say something, and you respond. Not only automatically, but unconsciously AND in a way that PERFECTLY gets you closer to your intention. This is where the term, "outcome independent" is kind of misnomer. An athlete is in the flow state, and they are outcome independent. But the CONSCIOUS intention is to win. Especially for professional athletes. So the term, "outcome independent" really means to TURN OVER your outcome to your subconscious programming. The part that has developed the skill to the point of UNCONSCIOUS COMPETENCE. On the one hand, this does take practice. You can't jump ahead steps. You've got to go through all four. Unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence and finally unconscious competence. But the ONE THING that will slow you down if you try to use your conscious brain too much. How can you turn that off? So you can learn much more quickly and effectively? By only using JUST ENOUGH of your conscious mind to guide your practice. Just enough, but no more. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  16. When native English speakers say they can perceive things that aren't being said, we say "reading between the lines." In Japan, they say, "reading the air." Which are two ways of saying the same thing. Humans have been living in social groups for millions of years. Long BEFORE we became humans. We've only developed spoken language about 200K years ago. Which is only a FRACTION of the time we've been hanging around each other. They say that the words we use are only 7% of our communication. Non-verbal makes up the rest. What, exactly, is non-verbal? How you speak. How quickly or slowly. How confidently or not confidently. How quickly or slowly you move while speaking. Your gestures and posture. Most of this stuff is TRANSMITTED and RECEIEVED unconsciously. Unless you are deliberately using gestures and tonality and facial expressions, which is very unlikely. Something as simple and straightforward as rapport, matching and mirroring body language, is EASY to forget. So what does it mean to, "read the air," or "read between the lines"? It's to be OPEN to all this communication. Which is MOST of this communication. With just a quick sorting for rapport, for example, you can see who is chasing whom. Imagine, for example, that you see a guy and a girl sitting across from one another. Most people would see this and not notice much about their body language. But just a quick focus on their rapport would tell you a lot. For example, imagine if the guy was leaning forward, his arms and legs uncrossed, while gazing directly at the girl. And the girl had her ankles crossed under the table, and her forearm resting in front of her. While gazing off to the side of the guy. From a pure body language, subconscious communication standpoint, the guy is into her WAY more than she is into him. You could pick on this in less than a SECOND if you knew what to look for. The amount of social information "between the lines" is IMMENSE. But few people can see it. Why? It's VERY HARD to pick up on all this stuff if you are inwardly worried. If you have a bunch of nervous chatter running around your brain. But if you were to ONLY turn off this nervous chatter, the amount of social information would EXPLODE. You don't need to learn how to do this. You only need to TURN OFF all that nervous energy that is wasting all your valuable brain resources. Luckily, that's pretty easy. It requires doing a few simple exercises to PREPARE for those social situations. So you can read the MASSIVE amounts of social information that is EVERYWHERE. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  17. I like to cook. But most of the time, I don't use any recipes. Once in a while, I'll find a decent one online. But I rarely follow it exactly. Long time ago, I took an "Asian cooking" class. I took it twice, two summers in a row. Same class, different teachers. The first teacher was very specific. Exact amounts. Exact temperatures. Exact times. The second teacher was much more laid back. Little of this, dash of that, and Bob's your uncle. Most of the time, when I cook, that's how I do it. Think of the ingredients, imagine how they'll go together, and then figure it out. Of course, some times it comes out awful. But I'm not very much a step-by-step kind of guy. I'm more of a figure it out as you go along kind of guy. But the thing is, when you're cooking, there's very little risk. You kind of get a feel for what goes with what, and what doesn't go with what. Human communication is the same way. Human communication is related to human thought structure. If you've NEVER cooked before, it can be intimidating without a recipe. Just like a common worry when going into social situations is not knowing what to say. But just like understanding food can help with whipping something up, understanding human thought structure can help understand what to say. The thing about human thought is it's not that complex. Sure, when we're talking or thinking about super important things, it can be extremely complicated. But in social situations, it's pretty easy. Since the main people go to social situations is to relax and enjoy themselves. And learning about basic human thought patterns under those situations is pretty easy. Everybody wants the same thing. To meet a few interesting people and have an enjoyable time. Everybody fears the same thing. Unwanted social exposure, getting rejected, being put down or ridiculed in front of others. Learning how to speak to people to maximize what they want, and minimize what they don't want is pretty easy. Human thought, just like human language, has a very simple structure. And for having fun, this can be a very enjoyable structure. Which is EXACTLY what everybody is looking for. So when you can speak in this structure, you'll always be a big hit. At every party or social situation. Lots of fun, and zero rejection. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
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  19. There are plenty of ways to use covert hypnosis. Most people immediately think of two categories. Sales and seduction. Once you learn how to use covert hypnosis effectively, you can make a ton of money in sales. Naturally, there is a learning curve. Luckily, this is an ENDLESS learning curve. Meaning the more you practice, the better you get. The better you get, the more money you'll make. If you enjoy talking to people, eliciting their criteria, and then using covert hypnosis to leverage their criteria, this is a pretty good way to make a living. Same with seduction. Even if you never "close the deal," being able to speak to people socially and get them fired up is a LOT of fun. Many people start off learning covert hypnosis for seduction, hoping to get laid. But then they discover just how FUN it is talking to people. Using patterns to turn up their energy and excitement. Even if you NEVER want to see them again. It's common to see the world through filters. People that you WANT to have sex with, and people you don't. People you WANT to sell things to, and people you don't. People you WANT to become friends with, and people you don't. Most tend to use these filters subconsciously. If you see somebody that DOESN'T pass these filters, they kind of get lost in the background. But it turns out that these are the MOST FUN to play with. To PRACTICE using patters on. Why? Because you have nothing to lose, since you don't way to create any kind of relationship. That means you have EVERYTHING to gain. Being able to walk up to ANYBODY you see and get them in a good, happy outgoing mood is a very POWERFUL skill to have. Forget about those goofs in those billion dollar movies running around PRETENDING to be superheroes. Being the guy or gal who makes EVERYBODY feel better is the REAL super power. One you can practice every single day. And like any other skill, the more you practice, the better you get. The better you get, the more fun you'll have. Then you'll notice the TRUTH about these linguistic super powers. That once you see how much FUN you can have with ordinary people, you'll start to see opportunities EVERYWHERE. Opportunities for love. Opportunities for business. Opportunities for friendship. And ENDLESS opportunities for playful happiness. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  20. Hypnosis and humor have a lot in common. Both use ambiguity in a very specific way. The Milton Model, created by and named after Dr. Milton Erickson, carefully uses vague and confusing language. You can use it to create a structural story, but with a lot of vague elements. The guy listening to the story will sort of "get" the structure, but he'll have to fill in the vague information with his own content. The final feeling is a story told TO him by the hypnotist, but it's filled up with a lot of his own content. So he feels as though he's actually gone through the story himself, even though he's only been listening. There are also plenty of short term, brain-fading techniques. Like when I went fishing with my brother and a couple of his buddies last weekend. He was telling us about when they went to this seminar to learn hypnosis for sales. And then he was telling them that when you learn hypnosis and use it for both sales and seduction. You can use it this way to get a lot more money and get a lot more sex. In that short description (involving two things everybody wants, sex and money) there are TONS of undefined pronouns. He, they, etc. Since they are surrounding interesting ideas, namely about learning hypnosis to make money and get more sex, we tend to fill those pronouns in with whatever works best for us. When using Milton Model hypnosis, there are plenty of ways to leverage these purposely vague language patterns. When the vagueness is stretched out over time, it creates a very squishy feeling in your brain. But when the vagueness or ambiguity is quick, it creates a much different feeling. Why did the boy study on an airplane? Because he was in high school. In that particularly lame joke, the word "high" has two meanings at once. You'll find this in plenty of humor. One of my favorites comes from Groucho Marx: Last night I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got into my pajamas I'll never know! This works by creating a meaning that is assumed, and then quickly changing the meaning to something else. All three of these forms of conversational hypnosis are great fun in social situations. Turning people's brains into pancake batter, making people giggle at silly things, or even getting them to fixate on fantastic ideas (sex and money) surrounded by tons of vagueness. These three hypnotic powers will make you a party super star. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  21. Everybody has a unique balance with respect to social comfort. Everybody has a point beyond which they'll start to feel social anxiety. Everybody has a point up to which they'll be more outgoing. When we are around friends, this balance is in one place. When we are around strangers, this balance is somewhere else. Regardless of who we are around, we tend to find our own equilibrium. Too much outgoing behavior will get us TOO MUCH attention, and cause us to pull back. Not enough will motivate us to speak up, and push out a bit. Both of these involve the idea of social attention. When we WANT more social attention, we push our social energy OUT. When we are getting TOO MUCH social attention, we pull our social energy BACK. But there is a way to push out as much as you want and NOT get any social attention. Most of the time, when we talk, people look at us. And the stuff we talk about is about us somehow. Something that happened to us. Something we have a strong opinion. So naturally, when we talk about these things, people focus on us. But you can speak about things that are metaphorically off to the side. The longer we speak, the more they'll be focused NOT on us, but on the stories we are telling. Once you realize how easy this is, you can start to put some very, very persuasive ideas within the stories. So persuasive you can get people to do anything you want. And since they are paying attention to the stories, and not you, they won't remember you nearly as much as the stories. This is normal. This is why actors have much more name recognition that screenwriters. This is why characters in movies have much more name recognition than directors. Listening to stories is a very pleasant, and very instinctive process. So once you start speaking in "story language," you can metaphorically step aside. They'll be paying attention to the stories, and not you. This will let you get as crazy as you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  22. One of Dale Carnegie's most useful pieces of advice is how to best persuade people. That you can get anybody to do anything so long as they think it was their idea. This is the fundamental idea behind covert hypnosis. The type of conversational hypnosis invented by Dr. Milton Erickson. He would tell a bunch of stories with specifically vague parts. His patients would follow along, and they would have to fill in the vague parts with their own experience. So at the end of a few confusing stories, even though Erickson would be the guy talking, it would FEEL like the patient's ideas. This was Erickson's genius. He would be talking the whole time, but the patient would feel like they solved their problem on their own. Usually subconsciously. The LAST thing Erickson wanted to do was to make it feel like he was giving advice. Advice is the OPPOSITE of Carnegies golden rule. Advice is BLATANT about not being their idea. But Erickson had a huge advantage. People came to him for the specific purpose of solving problems. This is very similar to sales. People specifically talk to sales people to maybe buy something. From a structural perspective, this is very close. Which is why you can use the Milton Model VERY EFFECTIVELY to sell things to people. But it's also why using the Milton Model has limitations socially. Patients EXPECT therapists to solve problems. Customers EXPECT salespeople to sell products. How can you do this socially? Turns out pretty easily. First you need to understand the very basics of human nature. Our deep instinctive desires and fears. Then you can just pay attention to HOW people talk. What they talk about. This will allow you to read their subconscious energy. THEN you can quickly spin a few stories. Some metaphors. About a friend, or a friend of a friend. Or something you saw on TV. From THEIR perspective, you'll just be telling a few stories. Literally putting them "out there." They'll look into the stories and get some ideas. Ideas that will feel like theirs. Ideas which will seem FANTASTIC. They won't have any idea what REALLY happened. That you hid the ideas within those stories. That you kind of put off to the side. This will give you an ENORMOUS amount of social influence. A huge amount of persuasive power. People will do whatever you want. And NOBODY will know, but you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  23. When a little kid touches a hot stove, they learn quickly that stoves are dangerous. The way this exists in their brain is as a cause-effect relationship. The see the stove, and that becomes the cause. The effect is the memory of the unexpected pain. Of course, as kids grow up, they learn to NOT be afraid of stoves. This is a natural process. They learn that stoves are tools, and not animate objects. They learn the stoves as tools RESPOND to how WE decide to operate them. They watch mom make cookies. They help mom make cookies. They make cookies themselves. All of these NEW experiences serve to OVER WRITE the previous, scary experiences. When this happens naturally, the kid will grow up and NOT REMEMBER being afraid of the stove. The positive experiences with the stove are more numerous and more recent. This same strategy can be used to re-write any other belief. It involves taking what happens naturally, bringing it up to the conscious awareness, and then RE-WRITING it. This is how we can learn to IMPROVE any kind of behavior. We take a collection of subconscious and automatic behaviors. We bring them up to the conscious level. We re-program our conscious behaviors. We practice those NEW conscious behaviors. We practice them until the NEW behaviors are back "down" to the level of unconscious competence. Then we can switch back into auto pilot mode. With kids and stoves, this entire process happens automatically. For other things, this is more conscious. Sports, music, martial arts, even speaking and presenting oneself with more confidence and charisma. But the same collection of techniques can be applied to how we see the world. How we think about the world. How we think about ourselves in the world. And just like the stove, the world can transition from a SCARY place that we are afraid of, to a TOOL that will obey our commands. Just like the stove. But since the world around us, and all the people in it, are much more flexible than a stove, you can learn to think ANYTHING you want about the world. And find plenty of PROOF that support those new beliefs. You take any response from any event, and re-write your beliefs so you can feel that SAME response in any other event. How do you feel when the pizza guy rings your doorbell? Happy and excited. How do you feel when your favorite TV show or movie is about to start? With time and practice, you can feel that way AUTOMATICALLY in any situation you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
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  25. What's it like when you have fun? When you are relaxing with friends? One necessary element is that you feel relaxed, open and playful. Most folks are dependent on their environment to create this state. This is why have friends. We choose people we get along with. People we naturally vibe with. We also go places where it's easy to have fun. On the other hand, if you go to strange places alone, it's very difficult to feel relaxed, open and playful. Any given person can be a playful extrovert in some situations, and a shy wallflower in other situations. It's completely normal to be quite and reserved at first. And then slowly become friendlier and more comfortable. We all tend to believe we are "shy" at first, but when you "get to know us" you'll find out how "cool" we are. This kind of puts the burden on the other person. We leave it up to THEM to get to know us. What if we could flip the switch? Most people feel the environment is the CAUSE and our inner state is the EFFECT. When we are around familiar people and in a familiar situation, that familiar EXTERNAL environment will CAUSE a familiar feeling. On the other hand, when we are in a strange environment and all by our lonesome, that UNFAMILIAR environment will CAUSE an unfamiliar feeling. But you can flip this natural polarity. So you can CHOOSE any internal state you want. And YOU can be a CAUSE and the environment will be the effect. This you can choose to feel natural and outgoing. If you feel natural and outgoing, so will everybody around you. If you feel playful and extroverted, so will everybody around you. This takes practice. Very much like doing situps and pushups. And just like situps and pushups, the MORE you practice, the stronger and more INSTANT you can choose any state. How do you practice? By doing mental rehearsal exercises. Journaling exercises. Five, ten minutes a day. Do them consistently, and you can be the LIFE of any party. Even in non-party situations. Like when you see an attractive person. Or you just want to goof off while passing the time in line at the supermarket. Or anywhere else. This has NOTHING to do with "faking it till you make it" or any other silly advice. This is exercise for your emotional state. And it works just like exercise for your physical state. This means you can build ANY inner state as STRONG as you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
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