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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun24Post.mp4 Losing weight is tough. Or it can be tough. If you've got a good reason, it can be pretty easy. This requires you have some kind of a counter balance against the desire to eat. For example, if you were going to be in a movie where you had to take off your shirt, this would be a pretty decent motivator. You imagine the short term pleasure of eating a big plate of chili cheese fries. But that short term, NOW, pleasure is immediately outweighed by both the positive and negative implications. IF you DO enjoy the fries, the idea of looking like a fat slob in the movie where you take your shirt off will be RIGHT THERE. On the other hand, if you are a famous Hollywood actor who half the young ladies in the world fantasize about, THAT thought will be enough to counter balance the short term, fries pleasure. Since most of us don't have that kind of counter balance, it's MUCH harder to lose weight. Many other things work the same way. Some things are difficult in the short term, but the benefits on the other side of are MASSIVE. This is how we developed acquired tastes. Nobody really enjoys the taste of coffee the FIRST TIME they drink it. But once you get the coffee buzz, that feels good. And we naturally, and subconsciously associate the coffee buzz with the taste. The same with alcohol. And many other acquired tastes. Most of these things have the support of social proof. If you're at a party, and everybody is drinking alcohol, you'll be compelled to try it. It will taste like crap, but then you feel that nice, comfortable buzz. Pretty soon you are a wine and beer connoisseur. But some things don't have any social proof. But they are VERY powerful. And offer an enormous amount of rewards. What kind of rewards? Social, sexual, emotional, romantic. The short term "unpleasant" thing you need to power through is your own ego. We all have an ego. Our ego is that thing that makes us interrupt others. Our ego is the part of us that is ALWAYS running in the background, trying to think of something BETTER so say. For most of us, the only time our ego shuts up is if we are TOO NERVOUS. This is when have those uncomfortable silences. But if you can quite down your ego without the nervousness, this is when the magic happens. First, you turn off your ego. Then you focus your brain on the other person. Then you use some very simple conversational techniques to ask questions about them. Questions that make them feel FANTASTIC. Do this for a few minutes, and they will naturally associate those good feelings with YOU. Do this enough, and they'll LITERALLY start to fall in love with you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/charming-personality/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun22Post.mp4 When I was much younger, I was in Boy Scouts. The best parts were the long hikes. Especially the multi-day backpacking trips. The first day was always the worst. Very long, very steep, very difficult. But once we got over the first high mountain pass, life was fantastic. Huge valleys with very few people. Big lakes, nobody around, fantastic fishing. When most people go camping, they think about car camping. Of loading up their cars with as much junk as possible. Big coolers filled with beers and steaks. Tons of firewood. This is also a lot of fun. But this is very easy. It doesn't take much effort, or planning, to drive somewhere, park, get out of our car and sit on the ground next to your car. So these types of camping spots are always filled. Other people, families, couples, etc. You'll find this idea everywhere. Of being able to separate things in these two categories. The things that are EASY to do. And the things that are NOT so easy to do. Anybody can do the easy things. That's why they, like car camping spots, are always so crowded. Very few people can do the difficult things. That's why these gorgeous, high valleys on the other side of big mountain passes have few people. But sometimes, the easy-difficult spectrum is a paradox. Sometimes what seems difficult at first, ends up being much, much easier. For backpacking vs. car camping, this is easy. Car camping places are easy to get to, but kind of hard to enjoy. Backpacking places are hard to get to, but very easy to enjoy. For for some things, the difference is purely mental. And it's much more a matter of momentum. For example, consider social situations. Most people have a short term approach. They don't consider thinking about approaching somebody, unless they are ALREADY interested in that person. This almost always means the person in question is attractive. This requires very little thought. But if you ever DO approach (some never do) it is VERY DIFFICULT. So, in the very short term, usually mostly mental, this SEEMS easy. But when the rubber meets the road (e.g. when you see an attractive person you'd like to talk to) this can be the most TERRIFYING THING in the world. But if you only spend just a LITTLE BIT more effort in the short term, those attractive people will be like the high mountain meadows. Fantastic and with ZERO competition. How do you do this? First, get into the habit of talking to anybody who looks like they MIGHT BE interesting. Second is to NEVER worry about closing. Let the other person worry about that. What will this do? This will slowly and easily build your confidence. This will make you much more subconsciously attractive. Which means when you DO see attractive people, you'll not only start conversations with them without even thinking, but you will have SUCH an attractive frame, they'll close you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/charming-personality/
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  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr21Post.mp4 This place where I used to live had an arm wrestling stand set up near the main station. It was just a tallish table, with a couple of slots for people to put their elbows in. It was only up during the summer. Where guys could stop and compete on their way home from drinking in the pubs around the station. On the other hand, they also have professional arm wrestlers. People spend their career getting stronger and stronger for arm wrestling competitions. Most of us, however, only arm wrestle under certain scenarios. A lot of physical contests are like this. We compete once in a while. But at the same time, there are plenty of niche sports where people compete for a living. Plenty of sports based game shows, etc. You'll find this same thing in public speaking. Most of us are terrified of public speaking. Some people are pretty good at public speaking, so they have jobs or careers around this skill. But some people compete based on public speaking. Usually in debates, but sometimes in single speeches. But for those who really want to clean up, they have jobs that are based on their public speaking performance, like sales jobs, etc. But they also PRACTICE public speaking techniques. Even rarer are people who realize that public speaking is a very useful skill in general, so they practice it. Sure, it's one thing to practice public speaking because it's a hobby. But to practice this because you can consciously earn more money is a pretty rare thing. Even rarer are general personality traits. The only people that tend to practice these are guys who practice game. To develop interpersonal confidence and communication skills so you can get more sex. That makes sense. At least to some people. To the general, mainstream population, practicing any kind of "pick up" technique to get more sex would be perceived as kind of creepy. But there are much deeper skills. Much more powerful skills. More than contextual confidence. Even deeper than confidence itself. These are things that most people don't even know about. Let alone know how to practice. This involves the MEANING of things. The meaning of conversations. The meaning of reality. It turns out the meaning of most everything is really up to interpretation. Most people don't even consider this. Most people just show up and accept the general consensus. But when you realize just how flexible meaning is? Not only will you gain a lot more control, but you can do so covertly. This will give you an enormous amount of power. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr03Post.mp4 A very common trope in romantic movies is the guy or gal who "gets" the other guy or gal. This is the opposite of another common romantic movie trope. That when two people are getting closer and closer, one of them is TERRIFIED that the other person will find out who they REALLY are. And when this happens, it's over. These are two sides of the same coin. The coin of who we really are on the inside. The fear side is us being TERRIFIED of being "found out" and forever rejected. The best-case-scenario side is them seeing our true selves and not only fully accepting this, but embracing us BECAUSE of this. This is the famous, "you get me" line that all hopeless romantics are looking for. The good news is that EVERYBODY feels this way. Everybody has deep fears of being "found out" and being rejected forever. This fear is built into all humans. Which means it's based on a false premise. But you don't have to do any kind of deep emotional healing to get rid of this. Why? Because there is a very easy, and very powerful way to GET pretty much anybody. And when you learn how to GET pretty much anybody, they will NEVER want to leave you no matter what. Doesn't matter if they are friends, lovers, or even business partners. Since so many people never really "get" anybody, you will stand out. You will be one among millions who GET those close to them. How? It's a pretty easy. First, it begins with understanding how humans think. The structure of our thoughts. The structure of our fears and desires. This may sound pretty complicated. And it IS if you force yourself to see the world through your own, ego-based world view. But turn off your own ego, just long enough, and you'll see that EVERYBODY is very easy to understand. So when you asks simple questions about how they think, how they see the world, how they choose, YOU will stand out. You will be the one they never want to leave. You MUST, however, be careful. If you use these techniques too soon with strangers, they may fall HARD for you. This is very dangerous. Ideally, these are best used when you've already established your relationship boundaries. Friends, business partners, romantic interests, etc. But so long as you are sure, fire away. And they will NEVER want to let you out of their sight. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar31Post.mp4 A few years ago, a friend of mine asked me to go with her on this weekend business thing. She said it was something she and her sister were interested. She was pretty vague, and didn't make it seem very important. So, since it was Saturday, I wore my Saturday clothes. A pair of shorts, a t-shirt and some sneakers. Everybody else there was wearing a suit. I felt a little out of place. Until I realized it was some kind of MLM scam. The energy at those kinds of places is pretty unique. Everybody has got these strong, yet fake, sense of urgency. After, my friend asked what I thought. I said, yeah, uh, no. MLM's are fantastic if you are the founder. You CAN make a ton of money. But for most other suckers, it's a waste of time. Funny thing is plenty of things have a MLM "structure." Only they aren't cons, they are regular competitions. For every ONE job, you'll get hundreds of applicants. Millions of young people go to Hollywood every year hoping to be famous. Very few do. (many end up in porn...) Tens of millions of high school kids dream of playing professional sports, but few come close to making the cut. Because this is part of life, it's accepted. That's kind of the point of being human. Of figuring out WHERE to aim your skills, so you can do the best. One thing that has made being "famous" much easier is social media. Before, if you were to become "Hollywood famous" you had to have the right look, AND you need to have the right collection of skills. But today, ALL you really need is the right look, and you're in. This is absolutely FANTASTIC. Especially for those of us who are NOT genetically blessed. Wait, what? Because more than ever, being famous requires LITTLE or ZERO skills. Only appearances. That means with just some basic social skills, you can CLEAN UP. It's definitely not a simple as taking your picture and waiting for fame. But it's actually pretty easy. Because with some little-known-about language skills, you can CREATE your own halo effect. Sure, you might not ever be famous on YouTube or Instagram. But whenever there are people around, you CAN become a rock star. Old school, inter-personal charisma. The kind that people FEEL. Not the fake kind based on looks. This means when you operate socially, people will see you. They'll feel you. They'll very much WANT to know you. Giving you a HUGE advantage. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb29Post.mp4 Bastiat was an economist back in the 1800's. He's famous for the saying, "It's not what you see, it's what you don't see." Most people can only think in linear terms. Do X, and get Y. If you are hungry, eat something. If you are tired, go to sleep. If you want to make money, get a job. If you want to get a girl to like you, walk up to her and try to get her to like you. These are simple and easy to think about, but they are very dangerous. This idea, that only thinking in very simple, very linear, "A causes B" terms is what Bastiat was referring to. Because in the real world, things are not nearly as simple. There are tons of variables, all interacting with each other in very confusing ways. Take the "how do I get a girl to like me" idea. You have a crush on a lady. You want to interact with her, and get her to like you. This is the simple, linear, A causes B strategy. But it will almost always lead to failure. Why? One of Dale Carnegie's golden rules is that you can get anybody to do anything so long as they believe it was their idea. So, there you are, with your eye on a girl. You walk up to her and TRY to get her to "like you." She's going to know that's what's going on. So her liking you is NOT her idea. It's your idea. This is why this strategy RARELY works. At least on it's own. Instead, consider FIRST being a "likeable" person. The kind of person EVERYBODY likes. How can you do that? Firstly, we like people who like us. We like people who find us interesting. We like people who are genuinely curious about us. More importantly, we like people who make US feel better. Whenever you interact with somebody, you can create three outcomes. Make them feel worse. Make them feel the same. Make them feel better. If you make EVERYBODY you interact with feel better, not only will you be very likable, but everybody will KNOW you are very likable. When you BECOME a well-known, likable person, that's the best frame to operate from. If you're just goof who walks up to a cute girl out of nowhere, she'll be thinking: "Hmm, who is this nervous looking stranger approaching me?" That's NOT a helpful state for her to be in, if you want to build attraction. On the other hand, if she sees you interacting with other people, and she sees them smiling while they talk with you, she'll have THIS reaction: "Hey! There's that guy that everybody seems to like! And he's coming to talk to ME! Awesome!" Now for the money question. How, specifically, can you BE that person? By talking to people and taking whatever ideas pop out of their heads, and flip them around until they feel BETTER. Happier. More excited about life. How can you do that? Learn How Here: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb27Post.mp4 Metaphors are fantastic. But they can also be extremely dangerous. They are useful when talking about common ideas that are pretty complicated. For example, let's say you saw a movie. And your friend asked about it. And you report that it "started strong" but then "kind of fell apart at the end." This a perfectly understandable metaphor. It describes a very common human experience. Of watching a movie (or TV show or book) that grabbed your attention from the beginning. But then as it went on, you lost interest. Maybe the characters started doing crazy stuff, maybe the writing got lazy, who knows. Another very common metaphorical description of this common thing is that they ran out of money. You'll find this in plenty of comments about movies. "I guess they ran out money near the end." This is the utter beauty of metaphors. Even they are not very creative, we still know what they mean. This is what they are for. To DESCRIBE things that we all know and get, but at the same time, would be hard pressed to give an explicit description. When metaphors absolutely SUCK is when they are used as ADVICE. Let's say you see an interesting person across the room. You'd LOVE to stroll over there and say hey. You'd LOVE to show her your "best self." You'd LOVE to hit it off with her, and go somewhere more cozy. At the same time, you've got a TON of worries about what MIGHT happen. She might have a boyfriend. She might look at you with disgust while you're trying to impress her. She might kick you in the nuts and laugh while you lay on the ground squirming in pain. All of these horrific thoughts swirl around in your mind. At the same time all those BEST CASE outcomes swirl around in your mind. The result is ANXIETY. The kind of ANXIETY that freezes the best, most creative part of your brain. So, what do your buddies do? They give you the LAMEST advice ever. Grow some balls, man! Sure, this is a metaphor. They don't really mean to wander on down to the nursery and get some ball seeds, and plant them, and wait around until spring time. Then walk over to her (assuming she's there after all this time) and hand her your freshly grown balls. That wouldn't make any sense! But the INTENTION of that is to just be brave and walk over. The problem is that doesn't help AT ALL. IF you could just "be brave" you wouldn't BE in that predicament. When talking about things, metaphors are helpful. But when strategizing, you need to be AS SPECIFIC as you possibly can. Plan for every outcome possible. Luckily, there is a very easy way to do this. A way to plan for EVERYBODY possible thing that can happen. So no matter HOW the situation unfolds, you'll be ready. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb07Post.mp4 Once I went to large, big box electronic store to pick something up. They had this long, snaking line, where you'd get to the front and have to look down the long row of cashiers. When one was available, they'd hold up a sign with a number, letting the next person in line know. While you were waiting, there was lots of last minute things. Kind of like the stuff you see on the counter of gas station convenience stores and supermarket checkout lines. But since this was a LONG snaking line, there was a TON of stuff. The kind of stuff you buy because it looks cool, AND you are in the mindset of paying for stuff anyway. Leveraging the Cialdini law of commitment and consistency. Kind of an, "in for a penny, in for a pound" kind of thing. Which means I bought a bunch of stuff that looked cool in the moment. But then I'd get home and end up not ever using it again. Except for this one thing. It was this wrist and forearm exercise ball. A small ball inside of a larger sphere. Once the inner ball was spinning, it created a LOT of torque. And a lot of momentum. Which means once you got it spinning, you only needed to rotate it a little bit to KEEP it spinning. The exercise part came from needing to keep it stable while it was spinning. Which gave your forearm a huge workout. But it took a LOT of work to get it spinning. Once spinning, it was fairly self-sustaining. Plenty of things are like this. Things that can take effort to get going, but once going they are seemingly self sustaining. Of course, people have been searching for magic machines of perpetual motion since the dawn of time. But the laws of thermodynamics says that's impossible. Like with that exercise ball, it does seem to be self sustaining. But at the same, none of my friends or I could keep it going for more than a minute. The muscles of your forearms have to absorb a TON of energy to maintain it's stability. But sometimes things can SEEM like magic perpetual motion machines. Because the "energy" required to keep any system going is out of our conscious awareness. Anything to the level of unconscious competence is, by definition, outside of our conscious awareness. One thing people have trouble with, when meeting new people, is how to keep the conversation going. This is difficult when you are using your conscious mind to think of things to say. But when you've trained some linguistic skills to the point of unconscious competence, your conscious brain won't need to work at all. You can just kick back and enjoy the conversation. Conversations with anybody you like. For any reasons you like. What exercises can you do that will train these linguistic skills to the point of unconscious competence? Find Out: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan01Post.mp4 There are two kinds of cycles when it comes to human behavior. Both are self reinforcing. One is good, the other is not. Sometimes these are called virtuous and vicious cycles. Most guys, when it comes to relationships, love, sex, etc. are barely on the border. They have good days and bad days. On good days, they'll be in a good mood. They'll smile, say hey, maybe get a few numbers. Success breeds success. The more positive responses they get from their female environment, the more this boosts their mood, and the cycle continues. The other half is just as easy and just as common. You are in a bad moon, and nothing works. You smile, and nobody smiles back. You ask for a dozen numbers, and get shut down. This is so common it was the theme for the first hit the Rolling Stones ever had, way back in the sixties. "She says, baby, baby, baby, maybe next week, can't you see I'm on a losing streak, I can't get no..." Sometimes the best thing to do is to step back. Get some perspective. This is a common movie theme. A mythical archetype. Some poor guy gets his ass handed to him. Almost dies. So he retreats, heals, and practices. And he practices some more. Finally, when it's back on top, he gets back in the game and kills all the bad guys. Usually, in a way that leaves no room for doubt. Some movies and stories and mythology are based on uncertainty till the end. When you never know until the end if the good guy is going to win. But not in the retreat and regroup movies. There have been a few samurai movies like this. As well as a few westerns. After the hero takes some time away from the action, he doesn't just come back stronger. He comes back utterly invincible. Either with his Katana or his six gun, he mows down all the bad guys without breaking a sweat. Bing, bam, boom. This is possible for you. Not to kill any individual, but to kill "it." What is "it"? The "game" that most people play. Of having conversations with multiple levels of push pull, barely perceptible levels of flirtation, all with plausible deniability, just in case it doesn't work. See, when you take some time off, and build up your core, when you come back, you won't need to worry about any of that stuff. Just show up, be yourself, and take your pick. Easy peasy. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec21Post.mp4 A huge problem with us silly humans is misunderstanding cause and effect. Most of the time, we get it backwards. This is where we get anecdotes like putting the cart before the horse. For example, guys will see another guy talking to a girl. Both are obviously into each other. Body language is open. She's smiling and nodding while he's talking. She's laughing at his silly jokes. When he touches her on the arm, she doesn't recoil. Instead she leans into his touch, slightly, not too obvious. While she's listening and laughing and smiling, she's hoping he'll ask her for her number. The mistake comes from observing this. We see his words, his behaviors. The natural response is to see his words and behaviors as a CAUSE for her attraction. So we tend to copy them. This is pretty much how ALL game is created. But looking at the EXTERNAL BEHAVIOR. Even old school ideas like "cocky and funny" are like this. If you are confident (inner game) and have plenty of memories of past successes (inner game) that will make it very EASY to be cocky and funny. You don't even need to think about being cocky and funny. Cocky and funny is NATURAL behavior for humans in friendly conversations. So if you try cocky and funny, but WITHOUT the inner state, it will come across as incongruent. Any type of "game" or "PUA" behavior that requires conscious thinking is very, very dangerous. Dangerous because it's incongruent. Dangerous because if it doesn't work, it can crush your confidence even further. It's much, much better to build up a strong, inner state. So strongly that the outer behavior, the words, gestures, etc. happen automatically. And when you combine this inner strength with an understanding of the ancient, unconscious triggers that drive ALL male-female attraction, you'll have a MASSIVE advantage. This will allow you to walk into any social situation, and see who is ALREADY sending you signs of interest. Sings of interest because the girls that like you like you BEFORE you start talking to them. Creating attraction with words only is very, very, difficult. By amplifying existing attraction, on the other hand, is very, very easy. Learn this and you'll never worry about the ladies again. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec19Post.mp4 Once I was at a party with a bunch of friends. This was a long, long time ago. I don't know how it started, but we were huddled in a corner. Every time a girl walked by, one of my idiot friends would whisper a pick up line into my ear. I would say it, and the girl would look at me and laugh at how stupid the pick up line was. It morphed into a weird competition between my friends. With me as the unwitting point man. Since they were telling me what to say, it didn't seem nearly as terrifying as it would have been had I been alone. Imagine finding a list of the top 100 lamest pick up lines. And then standing on a street corner, going down the list and saying them to any pretty girl that walked by. If you were making a YouTube video, it would be pretty funny. If you were doing it for a laugh in front of your friends, it would be pretty funny. But all alone? No way! Meanwhile, back at the party. As adults like to say, it's all fun and games until somebody gets their eyes poked out. Or you get smacked in the face. I fell into a comfortable lull. My friends would whisper a pick up line, I'd say it, the girl would smirk, my friends would chuckle. It was pretty funny. Until I said something, I honestly don't remember what, the girl stopped, gave me a look and slapped me. It wasn't hard, angry slap. But it made my friends laugh really hard. Funny thing was I didn't even remember what I said. By that point in the evening, my brain and mouth was a mindless, unthinking repeater. Even worse, was that by that time, my friends realized they were safely behind ME as their shield. So they started coming up the most extreme, absolute LAMEST pick up lines ever. After all, if any of them offended anybody, I was the one getting slapped, not them. Even funnier is this is how most of us speak and think. We essentially copy ideas from other people, repeat them, without much thinking. With a little bit of thought, you can see how only AVERAGE and SAFE ideas get copied and pasted from brain to brain. Any dangerous ideas won't be repeated, for obvious reasons. But any ideas that work REALLY well won't tend to get repeated either, since people tend to keep the REALLY good stuff for themselves. This only leaves one option. Instead of being a mindless repeater of ideas, come up with your own. And when it comes to saying things that will make people FEEL REALLY GOOD, it's actually very easy. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec18Post.mp4 Nearly all humans have the same basic intentions. We want to operate within the world to get what we want and need. We want some kind of vocation that rewards us for our skills. Skills we can continue to learn. Skills we feel are an expression of our nature. The ideal rewards for these skills are not only money, but recognition. The ideal situation is to present your skills to the world. And have them recognized as skills few others have. And because of that, you get money and genuine validation and recognition. And when you go home at night, with a pocket full of cash and some fond memories in your brain, we like to imagine a positive future. A future when your skills will get better. A future when your income will become higher. A future when your validation and recognition will become greater. This is the human spirit. To dream of presenting valuable skills in exchange for valuable rewards. Sure, free money is nice. But free money inevitably ends in pain. This is why lottery winners, and children of the rich are generally not the happiest people around. But we all have doubts. We all have a horrible fear deep within. One few are courageous enough to face. A fear that we will try our best, we will present our skills to the world, and the world will glance in our direction, and say, "no thanks." That we'll present our skills and somebody will say, "We don't want that." This twin energy pairs live in everybody's brain. In everybody's soul. The angel of success. Of trading skills for increasing success, recognition and admiration. The demon of failure. Of present skills and being told to take a hike. Knowing this gives you an advantage. Just strolling through a social environment, you can glance around at all the people. And see these twins battling for their soul on daily basis. With this knowledge, and only a few words, you can make them feel much better. So much better, they'll remember YOU forever. As being the turning point in their lives. The one stranger who uttered that one strange sounding collection of words. That resonated in their minds for days, weeks, months. We all have fears, we all have hopes, we all have dreams. We are all always on the precipice of success or failure. Every single person whose paths you cross can be tilted slightly away from failure, and toward success. Simply by learning a few structures of language and thought, you can become a real super hero. Not a pretend super hero with pretend powers. But a real super hero of language. A genuine wizard of thought. A gift that you can give to anybody, that will resonate in their brains. Learn this skill, and be remembered. Be valued. Be appreciated, loved, and cherished. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  14. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec16Post.mp4 Once of the main features of us humans is the ability to hallucinate. Every single thing that exists was once an imagination. Granted, most things came into being as being slight changes from what already existed. Even when humans invented fire to use for hunting, they probably copied it from nature. And then changed it slightly. Perhaps it all started when an ancient group of cave people saw some lighting hit a tree in the distance. Then the fire started. Then the animals in the forest started running away from the fire. Even though this likely happened more than two million years ago, that seed was planted. Ancient proto-humans started to imagine how they could replicate what they saw in nature. If they could create fire, they could get food more easily. This led to men dreaming of what MIGHT be. Over the next two million years, our brains tripled in size. Today, we still have that dreaming capability. To look out into the world, and imagine what things MIGHT be. Nearly all of these imaginations are based around our most important instincts. Social instincts, food instincts, sex instincts, safety instincts. And since money can pretty much buy everything EXCEPT our social and sex instincts, those three things make up the bulk of our dreaming energy. How to get more money. How to get more fame. How to get more sex. And as we are programmed to find the EASIEST way to get the MOST sex, often, these dreams involve MAGIC of some kind. Magic ways to get money. Magic ways to get fame. Magic ways to get sex. However, these dreams of magical techniques, (which make up quite a bit of fiction) are MOTIVATIONAL. The are meant to DRIVE US. For example, before we invented chemistry, we believed in ALCHEMY. Of turning dirt into gold. This imagination, of turning dirt into gold, drove us to discover chemistry, science, and everything in between. Similarly, most people have an imagination of magic words. Of saying magic words to people to get them to do things. Magic words to get them to give you money. Magic words to get them to crave sex with you. These are short term desires. If there actually WERE magic words, it would be hard to use them without others copying them. If there actually WERE magic words, once you said them, and they created their outcome, nobody would really remember anything. There is, however, a certain kind of communication. A certain kind of behavior. That will make them think about you much differently than they think about everybody else. Which will create much better, much more longer term results. Kind of how science and chemistry has created our modern world. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  15. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec15Post.mp4 People can, and are, trained just like animals. We have a built in learning system, which is based on the same learning that is built into lower animals. The famous "anchoring" process from NLP is a perfect example. It's based on Pavlov's famous dog experiments. Scientist had a dog. He brought the food, and the dog salivated. He brought the food, and rang a bell, and the dog salivated. He rang the bell WITH the food a few times. Then he ONLY rang the bell, and the dog salivated. He essentially "trained" the dog to salivated at the sound of a bell. Our human learning system works the same way. We learn things by association. When you learn to play an instrument, for example, you learn to associate correct finger movements with pleasing sounds. And incorrect finger movements with un-pleasing sounds. For Pavlov, he only associated ONE external thing with ONE pleasing thing. The bell and the idea of eating. For learning something, we connect GOOD feelings to the things we want to learn. And we connect BAD feelings to the things we want to NOT learn, or UN-learn. If we point ourselves in the direction a large collection of skills, like being fluent in a musical instrument, these bad results (bad notes) and good results (good notes) will slowly GUIDE our behavior toward higher and higher skill levels. This happens consciously, when we can direct our own behaviors. This happens unconsciously, when we "model" behaviors from others. But it also happens the way we ACT around others. If you behave in a certain "bad way" around others, they will slowly and UNCONSCIOUSLY associate those "bad" behaviors with YOU. For example, if you are always nervous, and shifty, and say weird things, people will naturally want to avoid you. They often will not know why. They'll just say things like, "that guy gives me the creeps." Most of the way we train each other happens unconsciously. This is why it's hard to consciously CREATE things that are normally unconscious, like emotional and sexual attraction. There is, however, a kind of hack. A way that leverages THEIR thinking about you. It's actually pretty simple. But it IS a long game strategy. It requires that you accept they will create positive feelings about YOU when you are NOT around. Which means they will be thinking about you. In a positive way. This will NEVER, EVER happen if you talk to them TOO LONG. Beyond the point of maximum positive feelings. The "trick," is to QUICKLY create very positive feelings in them, and then SPLIT. Do this over several interactions, and THEY will subconsciously build up positive feelings about YOU. Just as automatically as Pavlov was "trained" to salivate at the sound of the bell. They will be "trained' to salivate at the THOUGHT of you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  16. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec14Post.mp4 Humans have a collection of deep instincts, and conscious desires. The deep instincts operate more or less subconsciously. Our conscious desires are kind of how those are represented up on the surface. You don't have to remember to get hungry. If you don't eat, that will happen automatically. But it's up to you and your conscious brain to figure out HOW to satisfy that desire. For something simple like eating, the transition from subconscious instinct, to conscious desire, to action, to satisfaction happens pretty automatically. To the extent ALL our subconscious instincts can go through this process, life is pretty good. Our basic instincts are pretty simple. We need food. We need to stay within a certain temperature range. We need emotional acceptance from others. We need to do things, and get recognition for our efforts. We need sex. Take away any of these for long, and life can get lonely, frustrating, and difficult. But within these deep needs is also a possible way to satisfy those needs. Since most people will never be hungry and NOT know how to fix that, we can focus on the rest. It turns out that if you satisfy ONE of those needs, it can trigger all the rest. The more recognition you get from others, for doing things that they value, the more of other things you'll get. Namely, sexual and emotional intimacy, as well as respect and admiration from your social group. You get all these satisfied, you've got it made. So, how do you do that, specifically? The first step is to get a bunch of memories in your brain that says people like and appreciate you. Most people don't have that. Most people have a mix of fear and apprehension. So when they walk into work, a social situation or an unknown crowd, there's a mix of anticipation and anxiety. But with a long memory of people looking at you with admiration and respect, you'll soon learn to EXPECT that. Not from any false memories, but from real experiences. The money question, of course, is do you CREATE those real experiences. How do you interact with people so they will look at you with admiration and respect? Even better, how do you interact with people so when you leave, they look at you with admiration, respect and an obvious desire for you to hang around longer? So you build up a strong positive memory that says people WANT you around. People want you to STAY around. You do that by accurately pacing the things YOU KNOW exist in the brain. And accept and validate those things. This is the true secret. Figure out what YOU want most from others. And then give THAT to others first. Do that, and you will want for nothing. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  17. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec10Post.mp4 There's a pretty cool technique from covert hypnosis. It's called "blurred realities." It's when you are quoting somebody, but it's not clear who. This can create a sense of confusion. Confusion is kind of like taking up brain processor resources, so you can slip ideas into their brain more easily. For example, if you walked up to a really cute girl and said: "I think you're pretty. I think you should give me your phone number." It would be absolutely clear what was going on. Saying that directly, unless you were super confident, would make you nervous. Hearing that directly, unless SHE was super confident, would make her nervous. Nervousness tends to HEIGHTEN the conscious critic. On the other hand, supposed you walked up and said this: "Hi, you remind me of my brother's wife. When they meet he walked right up, looked her in the eye and said, you are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen, I think we should be together." This is also referred to as the "quotes pattern." It allows you to say some blatant things to people with absolute plausible deniability. Another way to use the blurred reality is to tell a bunch of stories within a bunch of stories. And inside one of the nested stories, one character is talking to another character. But the things that character says to the other character also hold true other stories around that middle story. They also can work between the story teller and the story listener. This will give the listeners are very slippery feeling their brain. It is a very real, very unexpected, and very fuzzy hypnotic effect. And it will make you, the storyteller, seemingly capable of real magic. But there's also another way to use the blurred reality technique. Start to talk about your own abstract feelings and emotions. Not just the direct emotions, but emotions about emotions, and judgments about emotions. This takes some courage, since you'll need to look inside and explore your own emotions. But here's the cool part. We ALL, more or less, have those same emotions and meta emotions. So when you talk about your own emotions, you can apply the blurred reality technique. By deliberately using your pronouns in a specific way, even though YOU are talking about, and referencing YOUR OWN inner emotions, the other person will start to believe you are reading their minds. Which will make you seem like a much more powerful wizard. A mind reading wizard. Something most people only believe exist in movies and comic books. But there you are. In the flesh, performing real magic. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  18. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec08Post.mp4 Linguistic presuppositions can be a very, very powerful weapon. But as they are almost always used subconsciously, and defensively. Kind of like we tend to favor injured parts of our body. For example, if you've got a sore left elbow, you'll tend to keep it close. It's instinctive and protective. You don't want it exposed. Similarly, we have tons of ideas we like. But we wouldn't really feel comfortable defending them logically. This is why using the meta model can get you in a lot of trouble, very, very quickly. The meta model can target with laser like precision the ideas we have in our brains. Ideas we don't want to discuss out in the open. The meta model is NOT a party skill. But linguistic presuppositions CAN be. But only if used consciously and positively. For example, consider the one called, "subordinate clause of time." Suppose you and your spouse were going out to get dinner. And you would LIKE to go to restaurant X. But you're kind of afraid that if you make that a conscious choice, they might disagree. So you'd very much like to slide the idea of going to restaurant X into an otherwise normal conversation. And you do so by putting the focus on something ELSE in that same sentence. Say, for example, your spouse or partner wants to see a certain movie. And seeing that movie is not such big deal for you. But it's a big deal for them. So you say: "Hey, after we have dinner at restaurant X, how about we go see movie Y?" The having dinner at restaurant X is presupposed. Assumed be true. Using the "subordinate clause of time" pattern. And the focus is on movie Y. Hopefully, they won't argue against restaurant X. On the other hand, if you said, "Hey do you want to go to restaurant X, and then go watch movie Y?" That invites them to change either choice, if they feel like it. There are plenty of ways to positively use presuppositions. For example, say your buddy is eyeing a cute girl across the room. You COULD say: "Hey, why don't you go talk to her?" Or you COULD say: "Hey, IF you go and talk to her, I'll buy you a beer." Or you could be clever and presuppose it's going to happen. Look at him, look at her, look at your watch and say: "Hey, we need to get there before happy hour ends. AFTER you go talk to her, I'll buy the first round. Let's get going." Not only are there plenty of presuppositions (about twenty) but there are TONS of way to PRESUPPOSE good things about other people. Most people give blatant compliments. But when you presuppose compliments, and hide them inside sentences, they'll leave their mind spinning. And when you use them as a "hit and run" technique, they'll have a positive feeling in their brain. And they'll wonder who YOU are. To Learn how, visit: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  19. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec06Post.mp4 A very powerful law of influence, which operates outside of conscious awareness, is commitment and consistency. This is the psychology behind sales funnels. This is why it's hard to change your mind once you've stated your opinion publicly. One reason why this law is so powerful is it conserves thinking. Our brains are very powerful, but they are huge energy hogs. We don't like to think if we don't have to. This is why doing things that are familiar are so comfortable. If you had a choice between riding your bicycle up and over a huge hill, or riding around that same hill, most normal people would ride around the hill. Riding around the hill would take less energy, and therefore be more pleasant, than riding up and over the hill. When we go out to eat, for example, we tend to stick to familiar choices. Going to a new restaurant, and looking over a new menu, and taking a risk on a new dish, would be like riding over a huge hill. That takes a lot of mental energy. On the other hand, ordering something you KNOW is going to taste good takes very little energy. So, we tend to choose the mentally easier choice. Especially if the MAIN reason for going out to eat is to enjoy some friendly conversations with friends. If you go somewhere new, that would take energy away from your pleasant conversations. This is also why we are much more reserved around strangers. We have to be careful what we say and how we act. If you reveal too much too quickly, you might kill any chances of a happy friendship or romantic relationship. Since knowing what and when to reveal things is mostly a conscious process, it is very brain intensive. So talking to new people is like riding over a huge hill. Hanging out with friends is like riding around and enjoying the view. Imagine if you met somebody who did ALL the work. They did all the talking. They somehow knew you. They knew the REAL you. Not only did they know the REAL you, but they accepted the real you. They appreciated the real you. And they did all this in a way that required very LITTLE of your brain energy. And they made it very clear they DID NOT want nor expect anything from you. They weren't trying to get you to join their MLM group or get you to join their cult. They were just being friendly. How would you feel about that person? More importantly, how can you BE that person? Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  20. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec05Post.mp4 I had this crazy nightmare once. I told my friend about it, but then I forgot. Later, he told me a story that matched my nightmare perfectly. He knew that I'd forgotten. As he was explaining it, he phrased it as if it was something that was about to happen. For a while, I was freaked out. I thought I was trapped in some kind of inter-dimensional rift. Finally I told him that what he'd just described was exactly like a dream I'd had. I thought maybe I'd tapped into some time travel, telepathic, future prediction dream technique. He started laughing and told me what had happened. That he was essentially telling me what I'd told him a couple weeks ago, but forgot. While he was telling me, it was like reality had broken. After he told me that I'd told him before, and forgot, I felt like an idiot. He, of course, thought it was pretty funny. And it was. After I got over my fear of the universe being broken, I thought it was pretty funny as well. The reason it was a horrifying experience for me was because the dream itself had been about magnificent death and destruction. Had the dream been about rock star sex parties, it would have been a much, much more enjoyable experience. This is EXACTLY why people love going to see psychics. We all have the same basic fears and desires. But since most of us rarely take time to look at these in detail, they live very vaguely in our subconscious. But with a little bit of practice, you can learn to "read" people's fears and desires. Describe their future in terms of these deep dreams. Of course, how you do this will have a HUGE impact on how they feel about you. If you deliver these readings as common things we all share, they won't have much of an impact. But if you deliver them as if you are noticing something very unique about them, they will be FASCINATED. Fascinated in your ability to read them to accurately. Fascinated that you've discovered their unique dreams. This will make them feel very good. Better than they have in a long, long time. Perhaps the best they've felt in their adult lives. If you deliver these correctly, they will associate this good feeling with you. Which, of course, you can leverage however you like. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/cold-reading/
  21. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov26Post.mp4 One big fear that is associated with using any new language technology is being "caught." We all have a deeply programmed instinct to not steal from others. Any ancient race of humans who thought it was A-OK to steal from your buddies didn't last long. So, evolution gave us all a two-sided instinct when it comes from outright theft. An internal side and an external side. The external side is a healthy fear of repercussions. We might want the thing, but we don't want the angry guy who's thing we stole coming after us. But we also have an internal resistance. This two sided instinct kept ancient humans in tight social cohesion. But in modern times, a lot of things "feel" like stealing, when they really aren't. Like once a buddy of mine and I were at the grocery store. He bought a drink, and after he got his change he realized he got the wrong flavor. The checker said that it was OK to go back into store and swap it out with the one he wanted. He did, and on the way back, he said, half jokingly: "I feel like I'm stealing!" Since he'd grabbed something off the shelf and was "sort of" walking out without paying. This anti-stealing instinct is closely associated with not lying. This is why it is very hard to lie to somebody's face. It takes a lot of energy to lie. You can see this in pretty much every movie about cops and bad guys and interrogations. That the idea of finally STOPPING the lie, and telling the truth is a HUGE relief. Some people even walk into the police station and confess. They would rather live inside of a cage than keep a lie in their mind. So, it's naturally when trying out any kind of persuasion or seduction "technology" to feel a little sketchy. As if you are lying. Which, in a sense, you are. If you are going TOO FAR with your frame. If you told somebody your name was different than it was, you'd feel funny. You present a "false" frame that is stronger than what it really is, it feels funny. There two ways around this. One is that frame strength is very much like muscle strength. Building it up takes time. So take your time. Go slowly and steadily, a little bit a time. The second idea is that people often WANT to be deceived. Not conned out of their money or virginity. But deceived in an pleasing way. People pay good money to see stage magicians. People spend tons of money on super hero movies. Even silly jokes are made up stories that couldn't possibly be true. So, when you use language technology to make people FEEL GOOD, even if you are pretending a little bit, you'll be fine. The BEST pretenders are the A-list actors who get paid millions per movie. Based on pure economics, pretending so that you make others laugh, feel good and have a good time, is very VALUABLE in the eyes of society. Get Going: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  22. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov23Post.mp4 When talking about persuasion and seduction, it's very common to focus on what words to say. People imagine going into a situation, they imagine somebody they'd like to meet. But then they get stuck on what, specifically, to say. When we tend to imagine unknown social situations, we tend to imagine our worst fears. We imagine the other person saying something that we don't know how to handle. This keeps us stuck. Even if we imagine how to respond to that, then our social fears pop up and we imagine them responding to us in a way that will get us stuck again. This is what happens when you take something as free flowing as communication, but think of it in terms of chess match. Sure, if you are studying or practicing chess, it makes perfect sense to think these terms. Of what they might do. And how you might counter what they might do. And how they might counter your counter. But human communication is not so conscious. Human communication is much more fluid, and subconscious. It's much more like a boxing match. Not in that it's combative, or confrontation. But boxing matches, much like communication, are much more fluid. If you have a boxing match next week, and you're focused on what kind of punch to throw, you're missing the point. To prepare for a boxing match, you train your entire mind body system to know what to do. So your conscious brain doesn't have to think. If you train in enough muscle memory and reflexes, you don't NEED your conscious mind as soon as the bell rings. Communication is the same way. But it's much, much better. Very few people study the structure of communication. Very few people even think about something like the structure of communication. So when you do study and practice, just a little bit, you'll have a HUGE advantage. Even better, is when people communicate, they WANT the other person to make them feel good. This is the OPPOSITE of a boxing match. They WANT you to make them laugh. They WANT you to create good emotions. They WANT you to create a positive and lasting impression. When you study the structure of communication, this is very, very easy. Because it's not about WHAT you say that's important. Not the content. If you learn to speak in structure language, you will be recognized as being much, much different than everybody else. Much, much better than everybody else. Much, much more attractive and interesting than everybody else. When you speak in structure language, no matter WHO you talk to, they'll ALWAYS want more. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  23. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov18Post.mp4 Social skills are necessary. But social skills are also very difficult to practice. Anything that has social skills built into it is something we don't even think of as skills to learn and improve. We tend to put them in the category of being good at them, or not being good at them. Being shy or outgoing. Being introverted or extroverted. There's even some very complex ideas about a personality TYPE. And once you determine your type, that's it. If you're not the "type" to make a lot of money, oh well. If you're not the "type" to be good with the ladies, oh well. If you're not the "type" to do well in job interviews, oh well. This is like MANY of our self-accepted limitations. They have two sides. One side is it feels very comfortable. Very safe. Because claiming to be a "type" absolutely absolves us of the responsibility. We can even pretend it's not our fault we can't get what we want. We are, after all, programmed with DNA, and an upbringing that we had nothing to do with, right? Sure, we'd LOVE to make more money, but that's just the way it goes. We'd love to be more socially outgoing and playful around attractive people, but that's just the way it goes. You CAN accept your limitations. You CAN accept that you'll NEVER do better than you are now. That it's not your fault. That's common, and safe, but pretty boring. Or you can slowly improve yourself. Imagine if nobody knew about exercise. Everybody just ate whenever they got hungry. And they ate whatever tasted good. Some people had jobs in factories. Some people had jobs behind desks. Some people were WAY overweight, but they figured that was JUST the way there were. Other people who were in shape, well, those guys are just lucky. That would be SILLY! Clearly, there's plenty of evidence that people CAN improve their health. It's certainly not easy. But it's absolutely possible. Increasing social skills is the same way. So long as you do it slowly, safely and consistently, you WILL get better. Sure, it won't be like magic. It won't happen overnight. But it WILL happen. One of the biggest fears of improving social fears is the idea of getting rejected. But there are plenty of ways you can improve your social skills without EVER worrying about rejection. A lot of ways to improve your playfulness, without EVER worrying about rejection. A lot of ways to improve our overall attraction, without EVER worrying about rejection. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  24. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov12Post.mp4 One of the most important ideas is flexibility. The more ways you can skin a cat, the more likely you'll skin a cat. If you can only skin a cat using your special cat skinning knife, and you can't find it, you won't be skinning any cats. Of course, nobody would really want to skin a cat. That would be dangerous. Cat's don't really like having their skin removed. But the idea of skinning cat, or more importantly the part about having more than one way to skin cat, is instructive. As all metaphors are. Once they had this cooking show. It was one expert chef with a couple of amateurs. Two or three teams. The game was they wouldn't know what they had to cook with until the timer started going off. And they usually had very simple ingredients. Stuff most of us have in our own kitchens. (Don't worry, they weren't cooking skinned cats!) The fun part was watching these master chefs whip up some pretty good dishes with only some basic ingredients. The more flexible you are, the less you need to work with to get whatever it is you want. What do most of us want? More money, more sex, more social recognition and respect. What do we have to work with? Most of us aren't rich. We aren't gorgeous. We don't wear thousands of dollars worth of bling. But we don't need that kind of stuff. We only need the ideas that exist already in our brains. And an understanding of the structure of language. The structure of language is very closely related to the structure of thought. Two things people RARELY even think about. When most people communicate, they take half baked thoughts and spit them out with randomly chosen words. This is common, this is ordinary, this is expected. This is also pretty safe, and pretty boring. It won't get you into any trouble. But it won't get you paid or laid either. What will? Using your communication like a tool. A playful tool. You don't need any more education. You don't need spend any time collecting world class experiences. All you need to do is to take some time and understand the massive amount of flexibility in your language and your thought. To turn people's random streams of boring ideas into linguistic pretzels. To take the common complaints and limitations other people spit out and turn them into reasons to laugh out loud. What will this do for you? This will make you much more popular. Much more attractive. Much more fun to be around. No bling or beauty required. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  25. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov11Post.mp4 A very common issue is as follows. A guy or gal will want something socially. Maybe a date, maybe a sale, maybe simply increasing their network. They make an attempt. And it doesn't go very well. For a guy, it might be talking to a girl to get her number. For a gal, it might be the same. Talking to somebody, sort of "feeling it" but not knowing quite how to close. Or it could be somebody who is at a networking meeting, but they don't get as many contacts as they'd wished. The basic structure, though, is the same. A person interacts socially, and gets a less than desirable result. So they go home, go online and ask the Internet for advice. So far, so good. The Internet is a FANTASTIC invention. A very, very HELPFUL invention. But when it comes to giving advice on how to behave in social situations, it falls very short. Because when you describe your problem, you do so ONLY with words. And when you get the ideas from others, it comes ONLY in words. Social communications is VERY MUCH based on non-verbal energy. IMPOSSIBLE to describe in words. If you have the right energy, the words don't really matter. If you have the wrong energy, no words will work. Operating socially is very much like any kind of competitive sport. What you do is very much dependent on what the other person just did. And the only way to improve how you respond, in the moment, to what the other guy just did is to practice. At least in sports. But there is some very powerful techniques you can use socially. That make it much EASIER to respond in the moment. To respond in the moment much more spontaneously. Much less dependent on outcome. The reason outcome independence works so well is it frees up TONS of extra brain processing time. If you HAVE an outcome, you will always have that outcome in the back of your mind. It's like trying to work on your PC with a software update going on in the background. That software update makes everything SUPER SLOW. So if you are holding an outcome in mind, even subconsciously, it will make it much more difficult to respond in the moment. But here's the best part. Since all humans are social animals, we all have the SAME outcome programmed deeply into our instincts. We WANT to create positive social relationships. So you don't NEED to have an outcome. It's already programmed into your DNA. It's programmed into their DNA. Whoever they are. The easiest way to practice outcome independence? Literally, have ZERO outcome. Except to make people smile, laugh and have a good time. If you can do that, people will do everything to keep you around. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
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