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  1. When a little kid touches a hot stove, they learn quickly that stoves are dangerous. The way this exists in their brain is as a cause-effect relationship. The see the stove, and that becomes the cause. The effect is the memory of the unexpected pain. Of course, as kids grow up, they learn to NOT be afraid of stoves. This is a natural process. They learn that stoves are tools, and not animate objects. They learn the stoves as tools RESPOND to how WE decide to operate them. They watch mom make cookies. They help mom make cookies. They make cookies themselves. All of these NEW experiences serve to OVER WRITE the previous, scary experiences. When this happens naturally, the kid will grow up and NOT REMEMBER being afraid of the stove. The positive experiences with the stove are more numerous and more recent. This same strategy can be used to re-write any other belief. It involves taking what happens naturally, bringing it up to the conscious awareness, and then RE-WRITING it. This is how we can learn to IMPROVE any kind of behavior. We take a collection of subconscious and automatic behaviors. We bring them up to the conscious level. We re-program our conscious behaviors. We practice those NEW conscious behaviors. We practice them until the NEW behaviors are back "down" to the level of unconscious competence. Then we can switch back into auto pilot mode. With kids and stoves, this entire process happens automatically. For other things, this is more conscious. Sports, music, martial arts, even speaking and presenting oneself with more confidence and charisma. But the same collection of techniques can be applied to how we see the world. How we think about the world. How we think about ourselves in the world. And just like the stove, the world can transition from a SCARY place that we are afraid of, to a TOOL that will obey our commands. Just like the stove. But since the world around us, and all the people in it, are much more flexible than a stove, you can learn to think ANYTHING you want about the world. And find plenty of PROOF that support those new beliefs. You take any response from any event, and re-write your beliefs so you can feel that SAME response in any other event. How do you feel when the pizza guy rings your doorbell? Happy and excited. How do you feel when your favorite TV show or movie is about to start? With time and practice, you can feel that way AUTOMATICALLY in any situation you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
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  3. What's it like when you have fun? When you are relaxing with friends? One necessary element is that you feel relaxed, open and playful. Most folks are dependent on their environment to create this state. This is why have friends. We choose people we get along with. People we naturally vibe with. We also go places where it's easy to have fun. On the other hand, if you go to strange places alone, it's very difficult to feel relaxed, open and playful. Any given person can be a playful extrovert in some situations, and a shy wallflower in other situations. It's completely normal to be quite and reserved at first. And then slowly become friendlier and more comfortable. We all tend to believe we are "shy" at first, but when you "get to know us" you'll find out how "cool" we are. This kind of puts the burden on the other person. We leave it up to THEM to get to know us. What if we could flip the switch? Most people feel the environment is the CAUSE and our inner state is the EFFECT. When we are around familiar people and in a familiar situation, that familiar EXTERNAL environment will CAUSE a familiar feeling. On the other hand, when we are in a strange environment and all by our lonesome, that UNFAMILIAR environment will CAUSE an unfamiliar feeling. But you can flip this natural polarity. So you can CHOOSE any internal state you want. And YOU can be a CAUSE and the environment will be the effect. This you can choose to feel natural and outgoing. If you feel natural and outgoing, so will everybody around you. If you feel playful and extroverted, so will everybody around you. This takes practice. Very much like doing situps and pushups. And just like situps and pushups, the MORE you practice, the stronger and more INSTANT you can choose any state. How do you practice? By doing mental rehearsal exercises. Journaling exercises. Five, ten minutes a day. Do them consistently, and you can be the LIFE of any party. Even in non-party situations. Like when you see an attractive person. Or you just want to goof off while passing the time in line at the supermarket. Or anywhere else. This has NOTHING to do with "faking it till you make it" or any other silly advice. This is exercise for your emotional state. And it works just like exercise for your physical state. This means you can build ANY inner state as STRONG as you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
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  6. Finding motivation is a common desire. There are tons of motivational videos. Lots of offices have motivational posters. If you are a decent motivational speaker, you could earn a lot of money. But motivation might not be the best idea. Why not? Motivation is essentially trying to find energy that you don't have. For example, if you were walking down the street, and you saw a $100 bill on the ground, would you need to motivate yourself to bend over and pick it up? No, you'd pick it up without even thinking. Imagine if you just spent the afternoon at the park, running around the track. Say you'd finished running five miles. And you'd done your quickest time yet. There you were, sitting on the park bench. Completely exhausted. And then you saw a $100 bill floating by in the breeze. Would you need to find some hidden "motivation" to reach out and grab it? Or would you grab it automatically? The idea of needing motivation is the same as thinking you SHOULD do something, but part of you doesn't want to. Or part of you wants to, but another part, a STRONGER part, doesn't want to. We can imagine that we always have a couple parts. One wanting to do something, and one not wanting to do that thing. When you AUTOMATICALLY reach over to grab found money, the part that wants it is WAY stronger than the part that doesn't. So admitting you need "motivation" is admitting that the part that DOESN'T want to take action is STRONGER than the part that wants to take action. But motivation that comes from speakers, and videos, and songs, and posters is VERY GENERAL. And it doesn't last long. The internal motivation, the natural motivation that makes you AUTOMATICALLY pick up money comes from the inside. It happens UNCONSCIOUSLY. Wouldn't it be better, then, to figure out how to make that happen for the stuff you WANT? Instead of needing songs and seminars and posters? If you want to be "motivated" to be more outgoing socially, there are some easy exercises that will do the trick. They won't require you "push yourself," or "fake it until you make it." It's based on internal thinking. Observational and journaling. But slowly building up your NATURAL desire, until you reach that tipping point. So going over and talking to interesting people is JUST as automatic and natural as picking up money. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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  8. One very common excuse for NOT starting a conversation with somebody is that you don't know what to say. This makes complete sense. It feels natural. You are standing there, maybe even getting positive signals. It doesn't even have to be a big deal. It could just be a random conversation with a random person. Not for any reason other than to pass the time. But since you CAN'T think of something to say, you don't say anything. Again, this makes perfect sense. But it's also an absolutely false idea. The idea you need to think of something to say BEFORE you start a conversation. Sure, you need to BREAK THE ICE. But breaking the ice and saying something interesting are two completely different things. In fact, the more of an interesting and witty thing you say, the LESS LIKELY you'll get a proper response. The opposite is also true. The EASIER the thing is that you say first, the easier it will be for them to response. Now, in SOME situations, this isn't true. If a super gorgeous woman is sitting on her throne in the corner of the club, and dude after dude is approaching her, THAT is when you need to come with a powerful opener. But every other time, SIMPLER is always better. But even MORE important than what you say, is HOW you feel underneath. Less than 10% of communication is verbal. So if you say something that is really, really, simple, but you have SOLID energy underneath, that will "work" incredibly well. What, exactly does "work" mean? Think of it like a sales letter. How are sales letters written? Like a slippery slope. The PURPOSE for each sentence is to get you to read the next sentence. Sales letters DON'T start with a powerful close. So when you start a conversation, and you sound like you are trying to close, you'll come across like a sleazy sales person. Instead, think of every conversation you have like a sales letter. Everything you say has the purpose of getting them MORE interested in the conversation. So the EASIER you start off, the better. The LESS you worry about the words, the better. The MORE you build up positive, NATURAL energy, the better. Guess which sales letters are the VERY BEST? The ones that are selling very HIGH QUALITY products. The kinds of products that sell themselves. These products are EASY to sell. When the words don't really matter at all. When you build up your genuine personality, the words you say will also not matter much. Because YOU will be the product that sells itself. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
  9. Jesse Livermore was an old school trader. Way back in the 1920's, and even before. He got his start in bucket shops. These were kind of like off-track betting places, but for the stock market. The guys that ran them weren't even connected to the markets. But they used the actual prices from the markets. They only allowed people to trade on the most active stocks. People would buy or sell, but they wouldn't actually buy or sell. The guys running these bucket shops would take their money, and record their buying price. The idea was similar to a bookie. Bookies don't make their money from winning or losing. They make their money from "the juice." If you bet a hundred and win a hundred, you only get back one ninety. The bookies keep the ten percent. So long as they have equal amounts of money on both sides of any game, they don't care who wins. So long as they collect their ten percent, they're happy. These bucket shops operated the same way. For example, today Netflix is a hot stock. So in a bucket shop, they didn't really care if Netflix went up or down. So long as equal people bought and sold. One of the rules of these old school bucket shops was you couldn't hold your position over night. Meaning you had to buy and sell on the same day. If you bought (or sold) and left, you'd forfeit your money. So in a sense, these bucket shops were gambling places. And people would bet on short term movements of the actual stocks on the actual stock market. But this guy, Jesse Livermore, got the nickname, "The Boy Plunger." Because he would take these MASSIVE positions. And he was usually right. He had kind of a sixth sense. He could read the markets, and know when they would change directions. Later he wrote his memoir, "Reminiscences of a Stock Operator." He would frequently "throw out a line." Meaning he would toss in a small amount of money, just to see which way the "current" was going. Like he was going fishing. This is the opposite of what most people do, both today and back then. People want step by step instructions. To be told when to get in, when to get out. It's very similar to social skills. People want to know what to say, when to say it, how to say it. But any social situation or conversation is ALWAYS in flux. And is very much like the markets. So when you think about "tossing out a line," think of that literally. Use opening lines not to GET some OUTCOME. But to MEASURE what's happening. And adjust accordingly. You'll find that treating people and social situations as ORGANICALLY EVOLVING entities is much better than "using" a line to "get" a result. Just thinking this way, and treating people this way, will make you MUCH more attractive. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
  10. A common and very old "pick up line" works best with very attractive women. You see a gorgeous girl, you walk up confidently and say, "Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you. I just want to ask you a quick question. Are you as beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside?" As a pickup line, it will knock any pretty girl off balance. It's meant to demonstrate that the asker is more concerned with personality than silly things like beauty. Of course, like all pickup lines, it won't really work if you don't understand the deeper meanings and presuppositions. If you don't have a lot of experience with women, NO pick up line will work. The reason pick up lines and other memorized patterns are dangerous is because they don't allow for any response. Everything you can say to anybody, they can say a few things back. And every single thing they say back, you can say a few things in response. This is why memorized patterns for any reasons (sales or seduction or just social skills) will only last for the first or second round. Beyond that, if you can't think on the fly, you'll be standing there wondering what to say. This is the biggest fear for most people who aren't completely comfortable in social situations. Running out of things to say. When this happens (and it happens to EVERYBODY) it's uncomfortable. For everybody. Even the super confident and outgoing types. But there is a simple way to make sure this NEVER happens. And it's got NOTHING to do with memorizing all kinds of things to say in all kinds of situations. Think of two boxers. After just a few minutes, one of the most important variables is not their fighting skills, but their physical stamina and endurance. The more tired either boxer gets, the less resourcefully they'll be able to use their body. So if you ARE a boxer, the biggest portion of your training will be endurance, mixed in with actual boxing skills. What is the equivalent idea in social conversations? Emotional comfort. Strong, positive, pleasant emotional feelings. Most people don't have much of an emotional resource state. They get into a conversation, and as long as the conversation is going good, they feel good. But as soon as those uncomfortable silences start popping up, they become less and less emotionally centered. However, you CAN take build in some powerful emotional resource states. So no matter WHAT is happening in the conversation, you can fire an internal resource trigger, and feel really good. This will make it MUCH EASIER to look into your brain to find easy and natural things to talk about. This, of course, can be built in as well. Conversational AND emotional resilience. So you become the most attractive personality in ANY situation. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
  11. You'll find self-reinforcing cycles everywhere. But you have to look for them. Once you see them, you'll see them. A common way they present themselves is in those conversations that really flow from the get go. You behave in a way that makes them feel comfortable and relaxed. They respond in a way that makes YOU comfortable and relaxed. This can be a friendly conversation, or a romantic one. Everybody's heard stories of first dates where they end up talking for hours. Couples that have been together for ages fondly remember the days when they'd lie in bed together and talk all night after sex. Most people assume these kinds of things happen naturally. When they DO happen naturally, they are fantastic. But if you ONLY accept them as natural and organic, they are pretty rare. You CAN increase the likelihood of their occurrence. Each "event" will seem a little bit less "magic," since you are partly driving it consciously. But you'll make up for it in the increase in frequency of events. In a sense, it's very much like selling a product. The highest profit PER PRODUCT is rarely the best bet. For example, you might sell 1000 units at $10 profit per unit. Total profit of $10,000. But you might sell 5000 units at a profit if $5 per unit. That's a total profit of $25,000. When you consciously create and manage those positive reinforcing loops, they won't seem as magical PER EVENT, but you'll be able to create a lot more of them. One of the BIGGEST PROBLEMS of those magically occurring events is the longer they go on, the less likely each person will define the end in the same way. Example: Two people meet, and start talking. The conversation is going FANTASTIC. They are in a groove, and are naturally pushing each other's buttons. But ONE PERSON starts to notice the time. They start to enjoy the conversation less. Pretty soon that person is starting to feel uncomfortable. But the OTHER PERSON is hanging on for dear life. After all, it's a WONDERFUL experience, and they don't want it to end. Unfortunately, the LONGER they hang on, the LESS LIKELY the other person will want to see them again. If EITHER ONE OF THEM decided to leave the conversation after an hour, then BOTH of them would be looking forward to another conversation. But if it stretches to two hours, or even three, now you have a different story. One person is desperate to see the other person. But the other person is wants nothing to do with the other person. Moral of the story? You generally can't go wrong by LEAVING when things are going well. That will tend to create a strong desire in the other person to see you again. Whoever they are. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/walk-away/
  12. Napoleon famously said that men will die for ribbons. He learned from experience that his soldiers would fight much, much harder if he publicly rewarded them for bravery later on. After the battle, the few soldiers who bought the bravest would be brought before the entire army and given a ribbon. When he said men will die for ribbons, he wasn’t referring to the actual ribbon. He was referring to the idea of getting public recognition. Humans respond very strongly to the idea of becoming famous. Much more so if that fame is a result of something they’ve done. Especially if that something actually helped the community in some way. This is a very strong, and very ancient instinct. Each day hunters went out, they all wanted the big kill. Whoever dragged the biggest animal back to camp got MAD props from everybody. Each individual hunter was motivated by their own SELFISH desire to kill something big and get some rock star treatment. But that same selfish desire is what fed the tribe. And since they were all feasting on the same animal, it created tribal cohesion. Whenever people look around a crowded room, they look for people with that “rock star” body language and energy. People that have a history of doing great things and getting recognition for those great things have a certain “way” about them. This is how we can recognize charismatic people from across the room. We not only recognize them, but we also recognize everybody else recognizing them. In a tribe of ancient hunters, or a group of soldiers, you’d have to be a SERIOUS BAMF to get that kind of respect. But in a group of normal humans? Not so much. You only need just a little bit more than everybody else. And since most people aren’t rock stars, or hunters, or special agents, that’s pretty easy. Because that “rock star” frame comes from recent rock star memories. The cool thing is you can find your own rock star memories. And purposely make them as BIG in your mind as possible. Practice building them up. The outside energy, your frame, will be what people notice. All you’ve got to do is find a few memories of when you did ANYTHING with any amount of skill, and felt really good about it. It could be a memory from a week ago, or a memory from ten years ago. Find a few memories, build them up, and practice holding them in mind when you go anywhere socially. You’ll project a rock star frame, and you’ll attract rock star attention. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
  13. Everything runs in cycles. One of the misconceptions of the yin-yang idea is that it's static. The actual symbol, the circle with a half swirl of black and a half swirl of white is based on the sun. It represents the sunrise and sunsets throughout the year. As such, the entire yin-yang idea is based on continuous movement. Yin is ALWAYS turning into Yang, and Yang is ALWAYS turning into Yin. If anybody (especially somebody who wants your $$) tells you your yin-yang is out of balance, they don't know what they are talking about. A great way to think about this is your breath. Breathing in and out is like a circle. At the top, your lungs are full. But you only stay there for a little bit. At the bottom, your lungs are empty. But you only stay there for a little bit. At the top and the bottom, is when your lungs are moving the slowest. As they fill to completely, and empty completely. When they are halfway (going in or going out) is when they are going the fastest. Desire for O2 turns into a desire to get rid of CO2. In and out. You can say the same for the tide, the moon, the Earth, the seasons, and the sun. And up until recently, there was another very essential human behavior that followed this age old natural pattern. Working perfectly. But it doesn't work so much. A similar structure to breathing, but is much more conscious and longer, is eating. Ideally, we go a long time being hungry. Being driven by hunger. The we find something and feast. Sometimes these feasts had huge significance. Communities planned for months. Planning, wanting, feasting. As soon as you cross the threshold from wanting to eating, it's like the top of the breath. Soon you are full. But another cycle that is much longer is two lovers. Being separate and wanting to be together. Having ONLY the memory of each other. The longer they are apart, the MORE they enjoy each other. Of course, being together forever is only a good idea in theory. Kind of like when you are hungry and you really believe you could eat a horse. But within an hour, you realize you can't eat another bite. Once you see your love, you can't get enough of them. But then maybe days or weeks pass, and you need to get out there in the world again. Get in the game. And the missing each other begins. Today, this is very difficult. If you don't get a text every five minutes, you think he or she is cheating on you. But this MISSING is absolutely necessary. So are many other things. If you can consciously build them, you can recreate deep and lasting love. With anybody. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  14. I was watching a documentary the other day about rehab. The theme was pretty common. They took a group of addicts, and put them to work on a farm. One of the ideas behind it is that one needs to be able to deal with physical and emotional discomfort, trial and error type setbacks. But without the crutch of any mind altering chemicals to ease any pain. We are hard wired to move toward pleasure and away from pain. Normally, this is a good thing. Even the pain part. Without pain, there is no motivation to improve. The most successful people say to get better faster, you need to fail more. Failure is the BEST way to learn anything. Practice of any sort, be it sports or music, is essentially trial and error learning. When you do things right, there is no pain, but there is no learning. Without night, there is no day. Without winter, no summer. Human pain, both emotional and physical, is a necessary message. To NOT do something, and do something else. Some pain and discomfort (the dark of night, the cold of winter) we just have to anticipate and prepare for. But other pain is absolutely necessary. Or, it USED to be necessary. Hunger doesn't feel good to anybody. So hunger had to be STRONG enough to motivate us to WORK to create the food we needed. But today, many people are brainwashed into thinking that pain of discomfort of ANY sort is bad, and should be avoided at all costs. This is essentially the core of those rehab programs. Learn to work, learn to try and fail and bounce back. All without taking any shortcuts. Today, there are many, many shortcuts. Most of which won't land you in rehab. But they are JUST as debilitating. Even more so. They slowly eat up your precious time when you COULD be busily learning money making skills and rewarding social skills. If you take a good hard look at ALL of our modern problems, they stem from having ancient instincts in a VERY modern lifestyle. Nowhere is this more obvious that in our romantic relationships. Ask most "game aware" guys and they'll say to "next" at the first sign of trouble. Meaning if your girl isn't behaving right, ditch her and get somebody else. Because this wasn't possible before, people were FORCED to deal with their issues. Some people say it's better this way. Others are very, very lonely. Luckily, if you want to, you CAN build and maintain an INSANELY happy relationship from the ground up. It won't be "set and forget" easy like an oven, but it is possible. And since having a healthy relationship is the foundation for a successful life, you might want to consider it. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  15. Some of the best advice is also the oldest. Depsite how many improvements in thinking and technology, humans are still humans. Jesse Livermore, for example, was a famous stock trader way back before and during the Great Depression. He wrote a famous book which was a fictionalized autobiography. In it he describes how stocks go up and down based on human emotions. Human emotions which are as old as the hills. So while technology improves, science improves, ideas about physical health continue to improve, human emotions will ALWAYS be the same. It is for this reason that many historians say the history is not linear, but cyclical. Even in economics they have the idea of a "business cycle." Booms followed by busts followed by booms. One way that human emotions are always the same is in human relationships. Having a positive and healthy relationship can make everything MUCH easier. Having a negative relationship or no relationship can make everything much more difficult. One of the main problems in modern society is modern society itself. Don't get me wrong, no way would I ever even CONSIDER living without modern technology. But it does come with it's problems. One of the most obvious is our never ending hunger. Way back in the day, it was GOOD to always be hungry. Because always being hungry was a very strong motivating factor to succeed. Today, hunger needs to be carefully managed. Relationships are kind of the same. Today we have so much choice, it can be very difficult to consciously create the right relationship. But just like you can manage your health by consciously eating healthy food, you can manage your relationships by consciously creating and maintaining healthy relationships. One of the biggest mistakes people make about modern relationships is that the like that famous TV oven. Set and forget. This is how they work in the beginning, but the longer you want them to last, the more you need to consciously manage them. Kind of like when we are young, we can get away with eating anything we want. But as we get older, we have to be more careful about how we eat. When relationships are in the early phase, they are pretty easy. But as they grow, they need to be managed. Managed well, they can be incredibly rewarding and insanely beneficial. Left to grow on their own, they CAN become a horror show of emotional anguish. Crossing your fingers and hoping for the best isn't exactly the best strategy. What is? This: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  16. I read a fantastic book a long time ago. Very easy to understand, very accessible. It even had plenty of funny pictures It was written by a husband and wife team. They write a lot of books about self-help type stuff, but from a scientific perspective. This particular book, "Why Men Don't Listen and Why Women Can't Read Maps," is all about the REAL differences between men and women. The last 1/4 of the book is references to all the scientific studies. What was most impressive was that overall, everything about us humans can be understood by understanding where we come from. Not anything esoteric, but biologically. We lived the LONGEST time as hunter-gathers. So all of our instincts were calibrated during that environment. For example, men have very long range, but NARROW vision. Since they were always hunting. Women, on the other hand, have more short range but very WIDE vision. Because they were always gathering. Men don't talk, because talking while hunting is NOT a good idea. Women talk all the time, because talking while gathering is perfectly fine. So a good mental model of WHY we have any particular human characteristic is by imagining a hunter-gatherer environment. Anything we have TODAY, that we DIDN'T have back then is a source of massive problems. Food was scarce back then, but not today. Being always HUNGRY today was GOOD back then, but it's NOT good today. More than 2/3 of adult humans are overweight because of this. Another situation that is MUCH different today is how men and women interact. How we interact, what we say to each other, when we say it, how often we say it. Very much like food, we have TOO MUCH ACCESSIBILITY to each other today, and it causes problems. But there are plenty of other things that also cause plenty of problems. Which is why if you just wing it, relationship wise, you'll have a very LOW success rate. Falling IN love (or lust) is EASY. Maintaining it is the HARD part. Back then, the "set and forget" strategy was perfectly fine. But so was the "eat anything you can" strategy. Both hunger and relationships require CONSTANT management today. With food, it's easy. Well, what to do, specifically, isn't complicated. The same with relationships. What to do isn't so complicated. But knowing is only half the battle. But just like diet and exercise, if you COULD manage to eat healthy and exercise, you WOULD have a healthy body. (BTW, wonder why the hottest diet today is called the PALEO diet?) With relationships, if you COULD manage to do what you NEED to do, you WOULD be able to create a deep, loving, healthy relationship with ANYBODY. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  17. There's a very powerful scene at the end of the movie, "Unforgiven." It's when the bad guy is about to kill the sheriff. And the sheriff says, "I don't deserve to die like this." And just before the bad guy shoots him, he says, "Deserving's got nothing to do with it." There are a lot of ways to interpret that scene, as well as the movie. Since it starred Clint Eastwood, who is nearly always a good guy, it's hard to see him as the bad guy. But according to Eastwood, who also directed, the movie was about how violence just destroys everything in its path. Sometimes with no rhyme or reason. With most hero movies, the good guys win in the end. But the question is always in the back of our minds. Since in real life, the good guys don't always win, and the bad guys never seem to get in trouble. Especially the bad guys that run the world. George Carlin frequently talked about this. He would say things like, "It's called the American Dream because you have to be asleep to believe it." Whenever we watch movies and enjoy stories, there's always an uncertain relationship between the story and real life. Is the story trying change the way we behave? Are stories written based on how we wish we could behave? Many people see certain ideas in certain movies, and get upset because of the not so secret "agenda" of the movie makers. But here's the thing. Stories have been told since before recorded history. Even old myths and biblical stories were once ONLY in the "oral tradition." Meaning they were word of mouth stories LONG before anybody ever wrote them down. And there are surprising similarities between stories from thousands of years ago, and stories today. Even blockbuster movies. This should be a clue. A clue WHY we love these types of movies and stories so much. That just MAYBE, they aren't only for entertainment. That MAYBE, they are supposed to motivate us. Inspire us. Get us to get out there and stop wasting our lives. To wake up, and start to take responsibility. To BE the hero of our own lives. How do you BE the hero? Consider that your mission. To find your own destiny. Identify the bad guys, and conquer them. Not just the ones OUT THERE, but the ones IN HERE. The demons within, and the demons without. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/hero/
  18. There are two ways to make friends. Or create relationships for whatever reason. One way is to go to other people. You see somebody interesting, walk over and start a conversation. The other way is to wait for people to approach you. Both of these have good ways and bad ways. Effective and ineffective. For example, you could approach every person with a pulse, hand them a card (person or business) and give them your "elevator pitch." The twenty second pitch about why the two of you should get together. This is clearly a "numbers game." On the other hand, you could only approach people you naturally "vibe" with and be yourself. Not your "safe to make sure you don't say anything wrong" self but your REAL self. Easy as it seems, this can be difficult. The other way, of waiting to be approached, also has it's good and bad versions. The bad version is to stand in the corner and glare at anybody who looks in your direction. Maybe growl at people if they get too close. The flip side would be to create a bubble of happiness. So when people walk into social situation, the area where you are is "different" somehow. You, and everybody around you are smiling, laughing, louder and more charismatic, as a group, than everybody else. With you at the center. Like a party nucleus of your own party orbiters. This would be very "attractive." Meaning people would see your group, and want to join your group. This would allow you to choose from the BEST of the people who come and hang around your attractive "vibe." Of course, many people would want to approach, but might be a bit on the shy side. But all you would need would be to give them a look that says, "come on over!" How do you learn to generate this vibe? By looking past the surface structure language and words that people use. And see the deeper, more powerful underlying energy. Once you get past the surface structure, the deeper energy is not only much more powerful, but much easier to manage. Especially when you can communicate with people on that level. This is why they'll know (and very much like) there is "something" about you, but they just don't know what. But you will. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  19. Most, if not all, humor is based on ambiguity. One of my favorites is a Grouch Marx joke. "Last night I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got into my pajamas I'll never know..." The first sentence makes it sound like the guy doing the shooting was wearing pajamas. Then the second sentence has the elephant wearing the pajamas. But if you look closely at the first sentence, it can be either one. When we humans come across a sentence that can go in many different ways, we assume the most logical one. Then later, when we find out we were wrong, it feels funny in the brain. With a little practice, you can build a whole communication style based on this one-two pattern. Where you toss out a sentence that COULD be ambiguous (like shooting an elephant in your pajamas) but is generally assumed to be normal. Then a couple seconds later, you toss out more information that contradicts the imagination in their mind that you just created. If you can do this well, and stand up and talk in front of a crowd of people, you can make millions of dollars and be world famous. Because this is the structure of humor. Spontaneous, party humor. Humor that's in movies and sitcoms. And the humor that is part of the absurdity of life. But these types of language is much more powerful than simple jokes. You can fade people's brains, look them directly in the eyes and say things directly to them that you would NEVER get away with otherwise. You can blatantly hypnotize people and they'll go right along with it. Understanding the built in humor potential of language simultaneously means you can understand the built in humor structure of thought. Since most people never really think much about language, or thought, this will seem like you have wizard-like powers of others. How you use these skills is up to you. If you just want to have a little fun, you can quickly be the most popular guy or gal at any social event or party in town. But they can easily be applied to business, or relationships, or pretty much anything. Once you realize that language (and the thought it represents) has a specific structure, the world becomes much more playful. You'll start to see many more opportunities. Every human mind you come across can be your own playground. Filled with buried treasure. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  20. One of the best conversations I've ever had was with a deaf person. In another country where few people speak English. So even if she could speak, we wouldn't be able to understand each other. So how did we communicate? Gestures. Facial expressions. And a calculator. It was on the streets of Bangkok, and I was haggling for a souvenir. It was much more than just trading numbers on a calculator. Every time she gave me a higher price, she did so with the skill of a master storyteller. Explaining to me with facial expressions, gestures, hand motions, exactly why she needed that price. And I did my best to do the opposite. The conversation lasted twenty minutes. And it was one of the most memorable I'd ever had. The second most memorable was a long conversation I had with a drunken Japanese businessman in an okonomiyakiya. This is a type of egg dish that is cooked on a common grill. He was sitting a couple seats down. He spoke to me for about twenty minutes. But I had no idea what he was saying. Since he was speaking Japanese, and I hadn't yet learned it. But I was in a "party-vacation" mood, so I just went it. I tried to decipher his meaning and feeling by his gestures, facial expressions, pauses, etc. I knew just enough to throw in a few, "Really, you don't say!" type statements in between his pauses. Both of these interactions were based zero percent on the words being spoken. Unfortunately, it's the words that keep us from connecting with others. The idea if "knowing what to say" is a common excuse. But in reality, it doesn't matter much. So long you words aren't too crazy, (May I borrow your liver?) you'll be fine. In truth, so long as the underlying energy is fine, everything else will be fine. But as us humans are wont to do, we put the cart before the horse. We think the energy is an EFFECT of the words, when in reality it is a CAUSE. With the right energy, you don't even need words. Without the right energy, no words will work. How do you build the right energy? It's very, very easy. Just get out of your head, and learn to vibe with people. You can vibe with entire rooms just as easily as you can vibe with individuals. The cool thing about this is you can practice without ever needing to say anything. And once you perfect the vibing part, the words will be easy. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/communication/
  21. How do you make an impression on somebody? There are plenty of theories. But let's take a step back and see what that means. There's a time when they don't know you. Then they interact with you. Then there's a later time when that interactions is only a memory. They think of you, and compare you (subconsciously) to all the other people they've interacted with. This goes for every human that talks to other humans. Job interviewers, hot girls and guys that are getting hit on all the time, people with money that want to maybe buy something. What strategies would be BEST for making sure you make a positive impression? So when they think about you, and their interaction with you, it stands out in their mind as being BETTER than all of their other recent interactions. One way would be to walk around doing magic tricks, and telling awesome jokes. Or maybe learning to juggle, or some other complicated party trick. One way would be to wear a few thousand dollars worth of bling. Another way would be to get a ton of plastic surgery, spend countless hours in the gym, so you look like a Greek god or goddess. Or you could do it the easy way. How's that? You're the one who gets the ball rolling. You're the one they find easy to talk to. You're the one they feel most comfortable with, the most quickly. You're the one they tell all their desires to. You're the one who DOESN'T spend tons of time trying to convince them how awesome you are. You're the one who reminds them how awesome THEY are. And even helps them discover that they are more awesome than they thought. This is the kind of people NOBODY forgets. Ever. How do you BECOME this person? By understanding the structure of human nature. By understanding the structure of human communication. By taking the time to build the skills that will serve you for life. The same skills that will allow you to build better relationships, make more money and radiate much more charisma and personal magnetism. What skills are these? The ones you can learn here: http://mindpersuasion.com/communication/
  22. Everything can be improved with practice. But most people are lazy, so they don't practice. This is why there will always be ideas of shortcuts and magic tricks. Especially when it has to do with interpersonal communication. Making money, creating relationships, sales, giving speeches, few people will be brave enough to acknowledge that these are skills. And as skills, (like any other skill) they can be improved with practice. Just like if you spent twenty minutes juggling each day, you would pretty soon be a pretty good juggler. Same with sports or music. But when it comes to talking to other people, even the IDEA of practicing is pretty terrifying for most people. So we are suckers for any thing that sounds like a magic shortcut. Magic pickup lines that put girls into a hypnotic trance where they will eagerly agree to do anything you want. Magic closing techniques that will put your customers into a trance so they'll buy anything you're selling. Magic websites that you can put up with a couple of clicks, and they will make money for you while you sleep. Funny thing is, is once you get a certain level of skill, it DOES seem like magic. And those "magic" lines DO work. Incredibly well. Anybody that spends any amount of time practicing any kind of communication (sales, seduction, public speaking) will get to that tipping point. When they can't remember WHY it ever seemed so hard. When it's something they just DO and it works. This makes it very easy to ignore the practice part. And say things like, "Well, sure, it's easy for HIM!" The idea some people have some inborn skill that others don't. The truth is that since we are ALIVE, we have the same POTENTIAL as everybody else. But we won't realize if we don't acknowledge it. We don't acknowledge it if we think it's something we need to practice. Because we imagine practicing, and it seems terrifying. But that's because we are thinking about practicing the WRONG thing. The trick is to practice the non-verbal part FIRST. If you ONLY practice the words, while ignoring the non-verbal part, it will be clumsy. But the non-verbal part (the part that most people don't even recognize) makes up more than 90% of all communication. This means you can practice the BULK of any communication WITHOUT ever talking to people. Just walking around crowded areas. Projecting and reading body language. This means you can get to the EASY part BEFORE you ever say anything. And this very much IS magic. But only because you are focusing on what most people don't acknowledge. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/communication/
  23. One of the more interesting ideas from economics is the idea of supply and demand. It's one of those things that everybody "knows" (or thinks they know) since we hear those terms all the time. But on a very important scale, the supply-demand creates a pricing system that keeps the entire global economy in an equilibrium. All one needs to know is the price of something, and this will tell them all they need. But it also one of those things that forces us to accept certain truths. Truths that tend to destroy any fantasies we like to have about ourselves. Namely that the more something is in supply, the less valuable it will be. People that become rich and famous do so because they can do something few other people can do. Now, exactly how they get to that point is another issue completely. For most rich and famous people, their lives just happen to click together in a way that allows them to make tons of cash and get tons of fame for just "showing up" and doing whatever they do best. However, the point remains. If you want to get something that other people don't get, you'll need to do things other people don't or won't or can't do. This is true about making money, but it's also true about creating social confidence and charisma. If you go to any social setting, where people go with the idea that they might meet somebody, EVERYBODY has the same ideas. "I'd like to meet somebody, but I don't want to approach anybody." Most people would LOVE to meet somebody interesting. At the same time, most people are TERRIFIED of approaching anybody. Therein lies the paradox. If you want to have a social life that most people only dream of, you'll have to DO THINGS most people can't or won't do. Namely, YOU have to be the one to get the ball rolling. Standing there while other people do all the work is EASY. Everybody can do it. And based on the laws of supply and demand, if everybody can do it, it's not worth much. Everybody on Earth can wait around and hope for SOMETHING to happen. That's easy. Very FEW people will actually get out there and MAKE something happen. This takes skills. Skills take practice. Most people are too lazy and too scared to do anything other than sit around and wait for somebody else to do the work. But if you're willing to slowly practice until you develop skills, you can stand out from the crowd. The more you practice, the more you'll stand out. The more you stand out, the more of the good stuff you'll get. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/communication/
  24. The idea of putting the cart before the horse has been around for a long time. At least as long as carts and horses. In economics, they call this "pushing on a string." It's a function of our ancient monkey brain's inability to understand the relationship between cause and effect. It's common to see two things happening at the same time, and assume one is causing the other. Or if we see two things happening sequentially, we assume the first thing caused the second. If you just landed on planet Earth, and you saw a guy riding in a cart behind a horse, it would be easy to make the cart-horse mistake. The guy in the cart is smarter, so you might imagine the cart is pushing the horse. So you figure a better way would be to put the cart first. In economics, it's a lot more complicated. A bunch of things happen, and the end result is people spend more money. So the central banks figure if they just print more money, it will make those "other things" happen. Unfortunately, this logic isn't any better than thinking the cart is pushing the horse. When humans communicate, we make the same mistake. We think the words are the most important thing. But in reality, they are the LAST thing to happen. And just like economic control freaks, if we ONLY focus on the LAST THING that happened, we'll mess up. What's more important than words? The underlying energy. Rapport or not rapport. Non-verbal interactions or no non-verbal interactions. Confidence or anxiety. With positive energy, the words are not really that important. But with negative energy, no words will work. Words are kind of like icing on the cake. If you put icing on a crappy cake, you'll have a crappy cake with icing. But if you have a REALLY GOOD cake, you don't need icing. This is why focusing ONLY on words when practicing communication skills is missing the 90% of communication that is NON VERBAL. Luckily, that 90% is EASY to practice. Since it doesn't involve talking to anybody. It involves walking around and projecting certain body language. As well as measuring body language. When you FORGET about the words, you'll start to see INSANE amounts of information. It's almost like being psychic, and knowing EXACTLY which people would like to talk to you, and which won't. Once you figure that out, the words are the easiest part. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/communication/
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