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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan11_Post.mp4 There's an idea in biology called "co-evolution." It's when two different species develop an overlapping relationship. Based on overlapping, self interest. The best example is like bees and flowers. The bees get free nectar from the flowers. The flowers get free pollination from the bees. Neither have self awareness, so neither has any idea what's going on. The math is a bit complex, and we'll need a bit of game theory to see how this would evolve. But we can simplify it a bit. You could imagine a bunch of different types of flowers and a bunch of different types of bees. The two that just happened to have this overlapping "selfishness" would replicate the most. Maybe some bees loved nectar, but they didn't have those prickly things. Maybe some flowers had tons of nectar, but they kept their pollen somewhere else. After however many generations of natural selection, the two species that replicated the most were the flowers with their pollen next to the free nectar. And the bees who both loved nectar and had the prickly things so while they got free nectar, they would pollinate (help the flowers have sex) by going from flower to flower. You'll see this combination a lot. Sex and energy, or sex and food. The same goes with primates. We evolved a love of fruit. The fruit has a sweet taste, just like nectar. And the payoff for the "free" fruit is the seeds on the inside. Monkeys and other animals eat fruit, and poop out the seeds. Getting free food, and in exchange, helping the provider of the food by helping it replicate. This also exists between humans. Back in the day, the best hunters would get the most social status. This was in exchange for providing the most food. The best hunters, or providers of the most food, would be rewarded with the highest social status. This social status then created attraction in the ladies. The most providers of food for the tribe got the most sex. The intermediary idea was social status. Today, it's even better. We've taken that intermediary "social status" and replaced it with something else. What is that something else? Money. As soon as humans started living in larger groups we needed money. One, because there were many more things we needed, besides some animal meat. And because we lived in larger and larger societies, having social status wouldn't quite work. So, money was a natural invention. You do something for somebody and the give you money. You can take that money and pay somebody else, who does something for you. The more stuff you do for others, the more money you get. The more money you get, the more you pay others to give you what you want. So long as the entire group is using the same money, this group can be as BIG as it needs to be. Like today, our planet has 7 BILLION people. All buying and selling things to each other. All using money, a place holder, a potential energy of this ancient overlapping self interest. Get Some: https://mindpersuasion.com/prosperity-mindset/
https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec26Post.mp4 There's an interesting scene from the old movie, "Jaws." That movie has a lot of iconic scenes. This isn't really one of them. But it is kind of interesting. Not likely an original scene, as this particular scene, in different forms, but the same structure, can be found everywhere. Not just the movies. Anyhow, it was early in the movie. A few people had washed up dead. A bunch of people were arguing over what to do. Nobody had any real authority. Everybody was talking over everybody else. The one dude shut them all up by dragging his fingernails over the chalk board. Once they all shut up, he explained what was what. Another similar scene was in "The Road Warrior." Part II of the original Mad Max. Max had found a relatively safe compound. But they needed to move, but they had to smuggle out their secret stash of petrol. Similar to the scene from Jaws, everybody was talking over each other. Finally Max silenced them all by whistling. Once he had their attention, he gave them the solution. "Two days ago I saw a vehicle that can haul that tanker. You wanna get out of here? Talk to me." All humans are driven by instincts. Food, sex, safety. And a ton of social instincts. As much as we pretend we don't care what others think, we do. If we show up and people stop talking, look at us, and then pretend nothing happens, that feels HORRIBLE. On the other hand, if we solve some problem, and then return to our "group" and they spontaneously give us a standing ovation, that feels fantastic. Most of the time, we are safely in the middle. Doing everything we can to avoid the negative side. And trying our best to come up with any answer to any potential problem. Normally this evolves into those "idea contests" where everybody is talking over each other. Our deep fantasy is to be that guy that has the REAL answer. To wait patiently, send some signal for everybody to shut the F up, and then drop in the solution. And then calmly drop in the Mad Max solution: "You wanna get out of here? Talk to me." In the movies, this has to be heavily dependent on content. Content that is part of the story. How to find and kill the shark. How to escape the crazy motorcycle killers hanging around outside your compound. But this desire, to be "the guy" with the solution is WAY more ancient. Which means it's NOT based on content. It can't be. It's based on deep confidence, deep feelings of certainty. This simple idea, "you wanna get out of here, you talk to me," does not even need words. The right glance, the right head movement is often all you need. And when you can speak like a true leader, with true authority, words won't matter. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/commanding-voice/
https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov04Post.mp4 One theory from evolutionary psychology is called mismatch theory. It's all about how our instincts were calibrated, way back in the day. And how they are being mis fed today. Hunger is easiest one to understand. Our mind body system was calibrated in an environment where we were always hungry. The food we could get was scarce. Both the amount and the type. Mostly meat, fat, a few fruits here and there, and whatever else we could find naturally growing. This never ending hunger motivated us to always be on the lookout for something to eat. As soon as we found something to eat, THAT became our number one priority. When you are REALLY hungry, and you start eating something, it's very hard to maintain conscious control. We have tons of instincts. These instincts helped us stay alive back when life was really dangerous. The stuff we did that KEPT us alive felt really good. Stuff that was dangerous felt really bad. Being hungry, loud noises, and negative social approval. All of these were signals that something was wrong. That something needed to be fixed. If you were to study martial arts, you could do so for many reasons. Health, confidence, even spiritual reasons. But if you ONLY wanted to know how to defend against an attacker, it wouldn't take as long. Carry some pepper spray. Practice pulling it out and spraying it in their eyes. Or practice ramming your keys in somebody's eyes. Or practice kicking somebody in the nuts, or punching them in the throat. None of these are elegant. They are only meant to disable the bad guy so you can run away. In order to do this, you need to know the soft spots. The eyes, the throat, the groin. The strategy is pretty simple. Hit them in the soft spots and run. Funny thing is even practicing these very basic defensive skills gives you plenty of confidence. It turns out we have a lot of emotional soft spots as well. Related to our very ancient social instincts. That ones that make us feel terrible when we are misbehaving socially. There are plenty of linguistic defensive skills to hit your enemies in those emotional soft spots. And just like practicing physical defense, practice linguistic defense will give plenty of confidence. Even better is when you do these mentally. While staring at your enemy. It will them a very creepy feeling. One that says it's a very BAD idea to mess with you. Ever. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/