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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July3Post.mp4 A common failure that everybody has plenty of experience with is "paralysis by analysis." This is nearly always in situations involving social skills or financial skills. Both of these involve putting ourselves "out there." If you try something socially, and it doesn't work, it feels awful. If you try something financially, and it doesn't work, it feels awful. Our lighting fast brains are VERY adept at extrapolating. We walk up to somebody, say hi, ask for their number, and they say no. Our brains extrapolate that outcome to the WORST possible conclusion, meaning that we will die alone. We'll end up being one of those creepy old people that kids are terrified of. Or we may try a financial endeavor and fail. So the extrapolated outcome to that is we'll end up broke. Poor, homeless and eating out of dumpsters. Because both of these fears exist BELOW our conscious awareness, we convince ourselves that BEFORE we get in the game, we want to make sure we have the RIGHT strategy. We think about this, we think about that, etc. We think if we can develop the perfect, bullet proof strategy BEFORE we take action, we WON'T fail and end up living alone in a dumpster. Unfortunately, BOTH sides of this common thought process are WRONG. First of all, your brain is VERY FAST, but it is VERY inaccurate. We evolved a very powerful, "better safe than sorry" thinking process. Which was helpful even if it was wrong most of the time. But this was only helpful in an environment when there were animals that LITERALLY were trying to eat us. We haven't been living in modern society long enough for our ancient brains to catch up. The other side is equally false. The idea of coming up with a bullet proof strategy. This is because NOBODY can predict the outcome of events. Particularly social and financial events. Without going too far down the rabbit hole, CHAOS theory says that we can't predict ANYTHING more than a few steps out. Otherwise weathermen wouldn't be wrong half the time. What's the answer? Luckily, there is a SUPER GENIUS learning strategy built into your brain. A NEW INSTINCT generator. This is what happens whenever you learn something to the level of UNCONSCIOUS COMPETENCE. It becomes NEW INSTINCT. Most people do this with music and sports and whatever they do for their job. But you can also do it for social and financial situations. It requires that you RE-CALIBRATE your ancient instincts for the modern world. So that learning to talk to attractive people can be JUST AS mechanical and practicing free throws or playing the scales on the piano. Which means the MORE you practice, the BETTER you'll get. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
I had a boss a while ago that wasn't very computer literate. Not only that, but she had her own PC, and the PC the rest of us in the office had to use. She would always put new programs on the group PC. When we would complain, she would always act like our complaints were unfounded. "But it just runs in the background," she would say. As if not seeing a program running means you wouldn't be influenced by it. Since she didn't use that particular computer, she didn't experience how utterly slow all these other programs made it. We'd be trying to do our work, and all these other programs that were "running in the background," would be making things impossible. It's common to notice your PC is running slow, so you open up the task manager. If you see some weird looking software name that's using 90% of your system resources, it's common to look up the name. And if you find out it's safe to turn off, you can turn it off. Once you turn it off, your computer is fast and usable again. Sometimes these programs are part of the OS. They are built so you CAN'T turn them off. You just have to wait until they are finished running. Our brains work very much like a PC operating system. We have stuff running in the foreground, our conscious brain. And the stuff running in the background, our subconscious brain. Sometimes the stuff running in the background slows us up considerably. For example, if you are doing a mentally intensive task, like studying calculus for an exam, but you're worried about something, it's IMPOSSIBLE to concentrate. On the other hand, if your brain is free from worry, it's a lot easier and a lot more effective to study. Sometimes we give each other advice, that SOUNDS good, but it's also kind of useless. Like we'll be trying to do something, but we can't. We can't because something is bothering us. Like one of these background programs hogging up our resources. A friend will notice and ask what's up. "I can't stop thinking about X," we say. "Dude," they reply, "It's useless to worry about something you can't control," they advise us. "Just let it go," they proclaim. Easy in theory, impossible in practice. How, EXACTLY do we "let something go?" If if were that easy, it wouldn't be bothering us in the first place. Are they REALLY expecting us to say: "Oh, just let it go! Why didn't I think of that!" Unfortunately, getting rid of background programs isn't as obvious as hitting Control+Alt+Delete and just hitting "end program." But there IS a way. And once you learn how, you will gain back TONS of mental processing power. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/