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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July06Post.mp4 They say that our memories can't distinguish between a false memory and real memory. There is plenty of data to support this. For example, most of our memories are false anyhow. But these false memories drive our behaviors, as if they are real. This usually involves how we give intentions to actors in our mind. We remember the behavior, the things others did or said. But we tend to imagine the worst case intentions behind those words or actions. But this false memory idea also works when you purposely create false memories. A famous study was done on basketball players. They separated them into three groups. One practiced normally. One didn't practice. One practiced, but only mentally. For the same duration as the real practice people, this third group only imagined practicing. But the real practice group and the imaginary practice group improved about the same. As you'd expect, the non practice group didn't. But there is a very clever way to leverage this "fake" memory idea. People judge other people quickly and subconsciously. Most of this has to do with the strength of our frame. This has to do with our level of confidence in any particular situation. On a very deep, very subconscious, and very ancient level, we are very attracted to folks who have a strong belief that they can handle themselves. We feel the opposite of attraction around strangers who exhibit the opposite. Of not having any clue what to do. This is essentially the difference between having a strong frame and a weak frame. But most of us are not really either extreme. Not super charismatic cult leaders. But not helpless wallflowers hiding in the corner. So people need to interact with us to get more data. To see if they are attracted to us, or not. Beyond first impressions, how we handle ourselves conversationally is the next level of determination. This is where "fake memories" can come in helpful. If you have a lot of real memories, of interacting with real people, in a lot of real situations, that will come across how you speak. From a purely organic standpoint, people have creativity based on how much they've passively soaked up from others. If you've been stuck inside a room your whole life, only watching reruns of "Leave it to Beaver," your language will reflect that. But if you have a lot of interpersonal experience, your language will reflect that. Normally this is all done organically. You develop creativity organically. You "sense" for creativity in others organically. But you can build creativity consciously, deliberately, and consistently. Which will add to your natural attraction and frame strength. And the cool thing about creativity is it increases exponentially. Giving you a huge advantage. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/creativity/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun11Post.mp4 When I was very young, I went with my older brother to local university. He was in some internship program, and he had to go and do some kind of paperwork. I had about an hour to kill, so I went off exploring. I found this upper level in the gym, next to the office where he was doing his stuff. They had a ton of high jump cushions all stacked up. Maybe about two layers of 6 or 7 mats. There was also this kind of catwalk you could get up by a ladder. About 10 or 20 feet above the mats. Naturally, I took full advantage of this hidden treasure. I must've climbed that ladder 20 times. Falling is fun. But only when you have a soft landing. On the other hand, if you jump off a tall building, only to land on concrete, that's not so fun. This is the kind of stuff that happens in cartoons. Somebody will jump off a roof, land on some concrete, and be flattened. Then they'll unflatten themselves and get up and walk away. The reason this is in children's cartoons is that fear if heights is a built in instinct. This is why it takes most kids a while to jump off a high dive in the pool. This metaphor can also be applied to personalities. We even use the same kind of language. Suppose you look across the room and see somebody that is nervous, closed off, worried and anxious. A common metaphor would that they are stiff. A common suggestion to them would be to loosen up. Nobody likes interacting with stiff people, just like nobody likes jumping onto concrete. We'd rather talk to somebody who is relaxed, open and friendly. These same adjectives could be used to describe those mats I kept jumping into. We don't like stiff people because we have to walk on eggshells. We might say something that might offend them. But with somebody who's open, relaxed, and friendly, they look very "forgiving." Another metaphor that is used to described physical things. Soft, not hard. So, it is clear that being relaxed and open are better than being stiff and worried. The money question is HOW can you be relaxed and open? The reason people are closed off and stiff is they DON'T KNOW what to do or what to say. From inside their brain, and maybe inside your brain, EVERYBODY seems mysterious. So, how can you fix that? By learning to read between the lines. Learning to read the air. Learn to read things like body language and non-verbal behavior. This will give you MUCH MORE information. About everybody around you. So you'll know who's really nice, and who's just pretending. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/intuition/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun04Post.mp4 Steve Martin made a movie a long, long time ago called, "The Lonely Guy." He didn't have any friends. He'd go out eat by himself. He'd have a "cover" that he was a food critic. But that was after he'd sat down. When he'd walk in, and ask for a table for one, everybody would stop. All the people in the restaurant, in the middle of their conversations, would stop and look at him. They'd even have a spotlight on him. This is how it feels for most of us, when we go social places alone. "Hey! Who is that weirdo? Why doesn't he have any friends?" We even get this feeling when walking across a room to introduce yourself. As soon as we live the safety of our group, or the safety of the wall we are leaning against, we feel exposed. As if everybody is going to STOP what they are doing and watch us. "Hey! Everybody! Look at that guy, all by himself, walking across the room to talk to that pretty girl!" The truth is, nobody really think this. Unless you are PROJECTING that kind of energy. The nervous, "I'm doing something wrong" energy. The "I'm doing something I shouldn't be doing" energy. How can you NOT project that energy? Easy. Don't FEEL that energy. Yeah, I know, much easier said than done. But guess what? The energy you feel, and project, is something you can PRACTICE. For example, imagine you'd never ridden a unicycle before, and you tried to ride it across the room. If you were uncertain and off balance, it would show on your face. People would watch you, but they would feel a certain way. A "hey that guy's about to crash" kind of way. But suppose you practiced? Suppose you rode a unicycle across the room with a confident and playful expression across your face? They'd look at you much DIFFERENTLY. You can practice feeling comfortable in social situations JUST LIKE you could (if you wanted to) practice riding a unicycle. Social situations require skills. Skills take practice. So long as you practice slowly, you'll get better. But here's the thing. If you became a super confident unicycle rider, what would that get you? It might be a cool party trick. But riding a unicycle, in and of itself, doesn't do much. After you get over the thrill of learning something difficult, it'd be boring. But social skills come pre-loaded with plenty of good feelings. Humans are social animals. Which means the more social skills you practice, the more you'll enjoy life. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-charisma/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun03Post.mp4 There are two kinds of instincts. Those in our DNA, and those in our brain. Those in our DNA are things like hunger, sex, fear of snakes, etc. The ones in our brain are things that we've learned to the point of unconscious competence. Riding a bike, tying our shoes, playing music or sports if you are a musician and athlete. Some of these secondary instincts are set and forget, like riding a bike. Some are things you can continuously improve and enhance. Like sports, music, and communication. Some of our ancient instincts give us trouble today. Hunger is the biggest one. Our response to positive and negative social signals, like validation, are another. Our ancient brains were programmed to do things that helped out the tribe. Provide REAL value. Things like food and protection. In response, we got positive social validation. If we did something that endangered the tribe, like attract the attention of a couple of hungry tigers, we got some NASTY looks. This kept us all behaving in a way that would help out the tribe. Kept us motivated to ALL do good things and avoid doing bad things. These two are probably the two biggest instincts that give us grief today. Hunger and social validation. Since they are deeply programmed, genetic instincts, we can NEVER shut them off. They can only be managed. Trying to ignore negative social attention is like trying to ignore hunger. Very difficult. But there are some other things that SEEM like instincts, but they are really the LEARNED kind of instincts. The things that are NOT programmed into our DNA. But were programmed into our BRAINS. These are a different kind of instinct. A third kind. The kind that were programmed into our brains by ACCIDENT. Nobody learns to tie their shoes by accident. Nobody learns to drive a car, or play the guitar by accident. These are examples of consciously chosen and practiced instincts. The good kind. The main reason we have such big brains. To program in as many of these POSITIVE instincts as we can. But what about the third kind? The kind that slipped into our brains without our permission? The kind that slipped in when we were very young? This don't need to be "unlearned," rather, they need to be detached. Which "instincts" are these? The ones that makes us afraid in social situations. Once upon a time, you were NOT afraid in social situations. Then a bunch of ideas got put into your brain WITHOUT your permission. Without your choosing. The first two are under our control. Either to manage them, since they live in our DNA. Or to enhance them, which you do every time you practice something. But the third kind? They don't belong there. So get rid of them. And get BACK enjoying social situations like you used to. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-charisma/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/May31Post.mp4 Most things fall prey to the dismal science. The dismal science being economics. Why dismal? Because economics forces us to confront the harsh truths of life. That everything costs something. That there is no free lunch. For example, a common expression in business is that you can have it fast, you can have it cheap, and you can have it high quality. But you can only pick two. If it's fast AND high quality, it's going to be VERY EXPENSIVE. It it's cheap and high quality, it's to take a LONG TIME. But for some things, this only SEEMS to be true. For things out there, in the world, economics rules. For for inside our brains, how we think about things, it doesn't HAVE to be that way. For example, consider the common trajectory of the normal human. We are born with these wide open, spongy brains. We are learning machines. This description, "learning machines," is based on how much we ENJOY learning. When we are very young, we absolutely CRAVE information. Data. So we are compelled to run around and explore things as much as possible. As we grow older, this relentless craving for data gets hammered down. That's why when we are adults, and we act "childish" we are told to "grow up." But consider that there are two components to "childish" behavior. Children are young and not quite responsible for their actions. So they run around and play, and fill their brains with data. But as we grow up, we learn from experience that some things invite negative responses from the world. So by the time we are responsible adults, we are much less excited. But it doesn't have to be this way. Sure, everybody else is this way, so it feels comfortable. But so long as you can consciously differentiate between "good" excitement and "bad" excitement, you can have a LOT more fun. Think about being a kid. You had tons of excitement, but no money. Anything that costs money, you had to ask the adults. As an adult, it's the opposite. You've got money, but very little excitement. Think of this in terms of four quadrants. No money, and no excitement. This is a poor adult. No money, and tons of excitement. This is everybody as a child. Money, but no excitement. This is most adults. But there is the fourth quadrant. One few people know exist. Money AND excitement. Being an adult, capable of making money, saving money, spending money AND having the outgoing, socially fearless confidence of a child. Here's the secret. All the fears that were programmed into you were done so by adults who were RESPONSIBLE for you. Not all the other adults you come across in your daily life. Re-calibrate your mind, and live in the fourth quadrant. When life is fun, and ALWAYS filled with playful opportunities. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-charisma/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/May30Post.mp4 There's an idea in psychology that us humans come with a "blank slate." That our minds are perfectly void of anything. This is a fantastic idea if you want to be a brainwashing politician. Those dudes LOVE the idea of implanting beliefs in people's brains to build a better society. That way, no matter how miserably any society fails, the political goofs in charge can say to themselves: "Hmm, maybe we need a better set of ideas. Once we put THOSE ideas in everybody's brain, they'll all BEHAVE like they SHOULD!" Luckily, this is far from the truth. Imagine taking somebody who is naturally gifted in music or art and trying to make them a programmer. Or imagine taking somebody who loves building things, or taking things apart and putting them back together, and forcing them to become a piano player. But even deeper, we all have SOME basic circuitry in our brains. They do these goofy experiments with little kids. Six month old babies. And we have some basic wiring, even then. Many of it based on cause-effect type thinking. They'll show them a banana and a knife. Then they'll put the banana and the knife behind a screen, and out pops a knife and two banana halves. The babies facial expression says, "Cool. No problem." But then they put an orange the screen, and on the other side out pops two banana halves. The babies facial expression says, "Dude, WTF?!" They can even show how babies can count before they can tell the difference between people and wooden blocks. This is pretty cool, from a Mother Nature standpoint. It gives us humans a head start, AND a pretty big brain once we grow up. A brain capable of MASSIVE stuff. Just think of the stuff we'll invent in the next couple hundred years. Of course, not everything is all peaches and cream in the brain-land. That cause-effect thing in our brain is ALWAYS on. This is why it's so easy for silly reporters to link a couple of goofy ideas. Eating Peanut Butter Linked To Premature Ejaculation! But it's also the source of ALL social anxiety. See, when you were a kid, you were pretty cute. At first. But then when you screamed your brains out every few minutes, and were running having fun exploring your world, the adults were driven insane. So they had to keep you under control. Did they have time to lovingly explain why it's not such a good idea to run around screaming your brains out, and tipping over everything in sight, in the SUPERMARKET? No, they did not. They just screamed right back at you. Unfortunately, this created a very UNHELPFUL cause-effect link. "Self expression = DANGER" The good news is once you UNHOOK that false belief, you can run around and play again. With attractive and sexy adults. And make THEM scream with pleasure. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-charisma/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/May29Post.mp4 Whether you are religious or not, plenty of human wisdom can be found in religious texts. This is a pretty common idea. Of taking something that is true. But if you attribute this "true" idea to some no name, nobody will believe it. This is our ancient "authority" instinct at work. If any thing comes from an unknown person, we won't pay any attention. But if the same idea comes from a recognized authority figure, even a made up deity, we'll pay close attention. For example, of the quotes from Jesus is about not playing the middle. Take one side, or the other. Don't play it safely down the middle. The way He said it was something about not being hot nor cold, but being lukewarm. And get spit out of His mouth. This is a very common idea. A very normal and rational idea. Don't hem and haw in the middle. Pick a side and stick to it. Be one way or the other. Of course, like many other ancient truisms, this is much, much more easily said than done. Take any type of social behavior. Or any kind of human communication. We very much WANT to make a good impression. That's one side. But we also don't want to get rejected. That's other side. So we play it safely down the middle. We behave or speak very carefully, so we don't get rejected. But that very safe behavior makes it nearly impossible to get either. We don't get rejected, since we're not really asking for anything. But we don't make a good impression, since we're not behaving in any way that is memorable. Even people that are blatantly offensive will at least be remembered. And those types might even have a higher chance, all else equal of getting SOMETHING. But if we stay safely in the middle? No rejection, but not lasting impression either. This is the classic "nice guy" behavior. Nice guys are not really nice. They are just too afraid to ask for what they want. Then they get angry when people don't "reward" them for their niceness. But guess what? Unless you can break out of your nice shell, you'll keep getting the same results. Not dangerous, but very boring and very safe. How can you break out of the nice guy shell? Realize the false beliefs that are keeping you trapped inside the nice guy comfort zone. The thing you fear really doesn't exist. Or it does, but only in your mind. In reality, people are desperate for YOU (yes, YOU) to express your true self. Nobody wants to be around safe and polite nice guys and gals. People WANT to be around guys and gals who express their TRUE selves, and don't really care who accepts them or not. The paradox is if you LIKE YOURSELF enough to not really care who rejects you or not, nearly everybody will accept you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-charisma/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar02Post.mp4 One common trait that most people enjoy is a sense of humor. It's one thing most ladies like in their men. It's one thing that most people dig in their friends. Even most movies, no matter how serious they are, need to have a bit of comic relief. Psychologist believe that humor is a kind of pressure relief valve. When we laugh, our bodies quickly tense up and then relax. Even animals like to goof around, seemingly for the same reason. But what goes in your brain when you laugh? What, specifically, is the structure of humor? One simple structure is ambiguity. In conversational hypnosis, there are different kinds of ambiguity. There is the long, stretched out ambiguity that is very trance like and easy to leverage things like commands, anchors, and post hypnotic suggestions. Then there is the very sudden, unexpected ambiguity. Like phonological ambiguity. When a word or phrase hits our brain, but it means two things at the same time. Why did the boy study on the airplane? He was in high school. Which building in town has the most stories? The library. What starts with "e," ends with "e," but only contains one letter? An envelope. Some jokes are set ups for these ambiguous punch lines. Often a common phrase that means one thing, but in the context of the joke means something completely different. For example, one day an elephant was walking through the jungle and fell into a hole. He called his buddy, the mouse, for help. The mouse showed up in his Ferrari, and pulled him out with his winch. A week later the mouse fell into the same hole. The mouse called his buddy the elephant to help him out. The elephant straddled the hole, and lowered his dick into the hole, telling the mouse to grab on. The mouse grabbed on, and the elephant pulled his buddy out. Moral of the story? If you've got a big dick, you don't need a Ferrari. Now, it's one thing to fill your head with jokes to tell at parties. But as SOON as you start talking, everybody knows a punch line is coming. A MUCH BETTER way to create funny feelings in their brains is to be able to come up with these different meanings in the moment. This will give you a lot of power. Because with the same linguistic structures, you can reframe ANYTHING into anything else. You can take something somebody says, and flip it around to a completely different meaning. Turn a snide comment back on the speaker. Turn a limiting belief into a positive belief. Turn a random, common complaint, about anything, into a reason to laugh. Once you learn the structure of linguistic reframing, NO IDEA will be safe from your ninja skills. You'll be an idea assassin, bringer of good times and destroyer of evil intentions. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec14Post.mp4 Humans have a collection of deep instincts, and conscious desires. The deep instincts operate more or less subconsciously. Our conscious desires are kind of how those are represented up on the surface. You don't have to remember to get hungry. If you don't eat, that will happen automatically. But it's up to you and your conscious brain to figure out HOW to satisfy that desire. For something simple like eating, the transition from subconscious instinct, to conscious desire, to action, to satisfaction happens pretty automatically. To the extent ALL our subconscious instincts can go through this process, life is pretty good. Our basic instincts are pretty simple. We need food. We need to stay within a certain temperature range. We need emotional acceptance from others. We need to do things, and get recognition for our efforts. We need sex. Take away any of these for long, and life can get lonely, frustrating, and difficult. But within these deep needs is also a possible way to satisfy those needs. Since most people will never be hungry and NOT know how to fix that, we can focus on the rest. It turns out that if you satisfy ONE of those needs, it can trigger all the rest. The more recognition you get from others, for doing things that they value, the more of other things you'll get. Namely, sexual and emotional intimacy, as well as respect and admiration from your social group. You get all these satisfied, you've got it made. So, how do you do that, specifically? The first step is to get a bunch of memories in your brain that says people like and appreciate you. Most people don't have that. Most people have a mix of fear and apprehension. So when they walk into work, a social situation or an unknown crowd, there's a mix of anticipation and anxiety. But with a long memory of people looking at you with admiration and respect, you'll soon learn to EXPECT that. Not from any false memories, but from real experiences. The money question, of course, is do you CREATE those real experiences. How do you interact with people so they will look at you with admiration and respect? Even better, how do you interact with people so when you leave, they look at you with admiration, respect and an obvious desire for you to hang around longer? So you build up a strong positive memory that says people WANT you around. People want you to STAY around. You do that by accurately pacing the things YOU KNOW exist in the brain. And accept and validate those things. This is the true secret. Figure out what YOU want most from others. And then give THAT to others first. Do that, and you will want for nothing. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug27Post.mp4 In banking, they have something called "duration mismatch." When people make deposits, they can take them out at any time. These are called "demand deposits." But when banks lend out money, then lend the money for longer, fixed periods. Which means that on one side, they have, say $1,000,000 in deposits. These are deposits that could, theoretically, be withdrawn at any time. But that same money is lent out, but in fixed terms. Car loans, house loans, etc. These are for much longer periods. Theoretically, if EVERYBODY came to take out their money at once, their would be a big problem. According to the rules, the depositors could take out their money at any time. But the people who borrowed that same money have 5-30 years to pay it back. The duration of the depositors is day to day. The duration of the borrowers is long term. Hence the term, "duration mismatch." Humans have a lot of problems that are based on an idea of "mismatch." For example, if you were to practice an instrument, you would know, without even needing to think, that it would take a while. On the other hand the self-help industry is FILLED with ideas of "instant" this and "instant" that. But consider that EVERTYHING is best seen as a skill. And all skills take time. And most skills have ZERO upper limit. Meaning the more you practice, the better you get. People are drawn to "one weird trick" ideas in things like health, social skills, and money. One because we all WANT those things. We all WANT improvements in those areas. And we want them sooner, rather than later. But more importantly, the idea of the PROCESS of going where we are NOW to where we WANT to be is assumed to be PAINFUL. Getting into better shape is painful. Practicing social skills is painful. Practicing money skills is painful. But that's only because the alternative to the "one weird trick" idea, (which we all kind of know is a con anyway) is the "suck it up and do it" idea. Like ripping off a band aid. Or setting a compound fracture. But this is an unhelpful way of looking at things. A much more resourceful way is to think in terms of SLOW growth. Very, very slow. So slow it seems normal. So slow it's VERY easy. So slow it's NOT painful. And since these are skills with NO upper limit, even if you go REALLY slow, you'll still make daily progress. For the rest of your life. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug26Post.mp4 One of the most powerful words is "because." A study demonstrated this. A woman was waiting in line at a copy machine. She asked if she could cut in line, and most people said no. Then she asked if she could cut in line BECAUSE her car was parked in a towing zone. Most people said yes. Then the researchers had her ask again, only this time, the reason made no sense. She asked if she could cut in line BECAUSE she had copies to make. And most people said yes. Researchers have also done plenty of studies on young children. As young as six months. They suspect we have a kind of "cause-effect generator" in our brains. Evolutionary psychologists believe this helped us to think much more quickly. As you likely know, our brains a very fast, but not very accurate. Turns out this wasn't such a big deal back in the old days. When we had to chase food, and predators were chasing us. But in modern times, it's much, much more complicated. We make a lot of causal connections when we are very young. Much too young to understand what's going on. Unfortunately, unless those early causal connections are "undone" by later life, they will shape how we see the world. A common example is a little kid touches a hot stove. And develops a phobia of the stove. But under normal situations, that kid will grow up around that stove. And associate that stove with food, eating, meals, meal preparation. All GOOD associations. Those good associations will naturally and organically overwrite the bad associations. For people who feel socially confident and outgoing, a similar process happened. Most kids learn a few times that expressing any desire is dangerous. Kids run around, happy and playful, and the adults yell at them. The learned association is, "expressing desire = bad." For lucky kids, they later detach that with opposite experiences. "Expressing desire = good" But for others, that doesn't happen. This is the source of social anxiety. It doesn't mean they're broken, or deficient. It only means some old programs are still operating. Luckily, it's pretty easy to overwrite them. And once they are overwritten, you can be your natural, outgoing and expressive self. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug25Post.mp4 For some things, practicing is easy. Very, very boring, but easy. Playing the guitar for example. Many people would LIKE to be able to play. But few people do. The reason is pretty simple. We humans won't do anything unless we believe the benefits will be greater than the costs. You might imagine being to hang out somewhere, strum a few chords and get plenty of positive attention. That imagination would be the benefits. And so long as the costs were vague, it would be a fairly strong desire. But when you actually practice, it's boring and frustrating. Pretty soon you start to get a much more accurate picture of the costs. Eventually, the costs will seem GREATER than the benefits. And you stop. This is normal, and VERY rational. Nobody would ever do something where the benefits are NOT clearly greater than the costs. It's got nothing to do with willpower. In fact, willpower is a non-existing metaphor. It's always and only a matter of costs and benefits. If you believe the costs will be greater than the benefits, no amount of willpower will be enough. If you believe the benefits are greater than the costs, then no amount of willpower is necessary. There ARE, however a couple of ways to make the costs LESS and the benefits more. One is to spend more time VISUALIZING the benefits. Spending time journaling all the ways the benefits can manifest. Sticking to the guitar example, if you spent fifteen minutes per day actually practicing, and fifteen minutes per day journaling all the different benefits, this would be much EASIER to sustain. So long as the costs, as you experience them NOW are smaller than the benefits, as you experience them NOW, any skill building will be easy. Especially of the skills come with plenty of built in, INSTINCTIVE benefits. Playing the guitar is close, but there are a lot of variables. A much better and more valuable skill is general social confidence. This comes with TONS of built in benefits. Friendship, romance, business, pretty much anything. Since ANYTHING you want in life will generally involve other people. So building up your people skills, and your people confidence will lead to TONS of benefits. But the same rules apply. Costs and benefits. So long as you keep the costs low, and the benefits high, it will be easy. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun29Post.mp4 A long time ago I worked in a lab. One day, an engineer and I were doing an experiment. It involved slowly adding this organic chemical to a solution, and waiting for something to happen. Once that something happened, it would happen VERY quickly. And the threshold for the amount of the organic chemical we were adding was TINY. Meaning one drop too many, and we'd miss the reaction. I was putting in a fraction of a drop, we'd wait a couple minutes, and then repeat. We couldn't let our minds wander, as once the reaction started, we had to take a ton of data. While we were waiting, I glanced at the bottle of this organic chemical. I read on the back where they got it from. Salmon semen. It was a chemical that was found only in salmon semen. Which meant that once upon a time, somebody figured out how to extract that chemical from salmon semen. HOW that happened is anybody's guess. I guess that's what scientists do. They figure out some pretty outside the box ways of using things. Once I went to a do it yourself center. I wanted to make a hanger rod for a my closet. It was kind of a weird closet that didn't have a hanger rod. I imagined getting the individual parts, and building it myself. I asked the lady working there, and she seemed to only be able to imagine a box that said: "Tools to make your own hanger for a closet." She seemed to only want to look for a box that had the word "Closet hanger" on it. A lot of people are like that. Things have uses, and that's the ONLY thing they are supposed to be used for. Or the flip side. If you want something, you need to find something made SPECIFICALLY for that purpose. Luckily, there are plenty of goofy scientific types that decide to research salmon semen for other potential uses. Not only does this outside the box thinking work for THINGS, it also works for skills. For example, most people who study martial arts don't do that so they can beat up people. They do it because it builds overall confidence. And overall confidence is something that is EXTREMELY flexible. When it comes to general confidence, there are two basic kinds. Physical confidence, and social confidence. Physical confidence builds a "meta belief" that you can handle yourself in any physical situation. Zombie apocalypse, bar fight, juggling contest, etc. Social confidence builds a "meta belief" that you can handle yourself in any social situation. Job interview, sales meeting, seduction opportunity, etc. How can you build social confidence? With This: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  14. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun17Post.mp4 Once I was at this local bar. And they had this blues band playing. A local band. Their guitarist was much better than you'd imagine to see in a small local bar playing up on stage. The bar could hold maybe 50 people, if it were packed. But this guy was up there just absolutely shredding. But he was doing it in a way that indicated he didn't need much of his conscious brain. Of course, nobody thinks like this. "Wow, that guy seems to well into the range of unconscious competence!" But when somebody plays guitar without needing to even open his eyes, just playing by feel, even going off on wild tangents, it's clearly a very high level skill. My friend made an interesting remark. "That dude must sleep with his guitar!" Meaning he must spend a LOT of time with his guitar. Practicing. We tend to automatically assume people spend a lot of time practicing when we see them with CERTAIN skills or abilities. If you saw a guy walking down the street with an eight pack and zero body fat, you'd think he spent a lot of time in the gym. Or he didn't drink beer or eat cookies. But for some reason, some skills we don't tend to think of as learned. We tend to think of them as in-born. If we assume, first, that ALL SKILLS can be improved, then WHY, specifically, would people assume the opposite? For example, guys see another guy walk up and effectively talk a girl into feeling happy, outgoing, and attracted. Most guys don't assume he's spent a lot of time practicing. Most guys say he's a "natural." Meaning he just showed up with those skills. But why don't we see a guy playing guitar and assume he's a natural guitar player? Why don't we assume that eight-pack-guy was born that way? Because there is ALWAYS another thought associated with learned skills. Especially observed learned skills. We see a guy up on stage, shredding on his guitar. We assume he spent a lot of time practicing. We QUICKLY imagine our own, usually subconscious, cost-benefit analysis of US spending that same time practicing. Meaning we quickly imagine why HE decided to spend all that time practicing, while we didn't. The answer that generally comes back is we've got better things to do. We don't WANT to become a literal guitar super hero. OK, fine. But why do we label "naturals" as naturals? Because anything that involves social skills is TERRIFYING. We don't even like to CONSIDER the idea of practicing and getting better. But the truth is twofold. Part one is EVERYTHING is a skill. EVERYTHING you can do can be improved. Usually a lot. The second part is practicing social skills is not nearly as terrifying as people think. Quite the opposite. In fact, if you practice correctly, it's actually pretty boring. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  15. Pop art tends to pace the human condition very well. Especially pop music and popular TV. The song, "Destroyer," from the Kinks, for example, has the following line: "You get a good thing going and you blow yourself out..." The song, "Should I stay or should I go," from The Clash has a similar line: "This indecision's bugging me..." A common trope in movies is the hero starts to fall hard for their romantic interest. But they have a deep fear. That their romantic interest will find out who they REALLY are, and flee. Perhaps you've felt this before? You start doing something pretty good. It could be a relationship, or a job, or even something you're doing just for fun. Pretty soon you start to perform BETTER than you'd hoped or expected. And that deep fear creeps up. That voice inside your head that says: "Dude, you have no business doing this. Pretty soon you'll mess up like you ALWAYS do, and then everybody will know what a LOSER you really are!" Perhaps it's not those exact words. Sometimes it's just a deep, dark suspicion. As soon as we feel that suspicion, and the anxiety that it creates, we're as good as done. The ANXIETY interferes with our thinking. Pretty soon we are operating with MUCH LESS brain capacity that we have available. And just like clockwork, we mess up. And trip over our own feet. This is essentially the most common self destructive STRUCTURE that makes up the human condition. But guess what? You can DISMANTLE this common structure so it doesn't bother you again. It requires you understand why this structure is the way it is. It's SOMEWHAT like our hunger instinct. Way back in the day, it was a massive benefit to ALWAYS be thinking about food. To eat as much as you could whenever you could. Kind of like a family on a road trip. If you see a gas station, you fill up. "Gee honey, we're making good time, I think we can make it to the next gas station, wherever it is!" Uh, yeah... No. But just like hunger can be managed, so can this "self destructive instinct." Even better, is this self destructive instinct is MUCH EASIER to manage than hunger. Because food is, after all, necessary to NOT DIE. All that other junk up in our brain? Not so much. Once you understand the emotional structure of this EXTREMELY COMMON self-destructive worry and anxiety, you can get rid of it. Once and for all. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  16. Humans are driven by instincts. And we have been for a long, long time. Long before we developed self-awareness and language. What instincts? Things that keep us safe, and happy. Things that keep us out of danger. You don't need to learn to be afraid of snakes. Experiments on babies show that in the first few days, we are naturally drawn toward sweet smells and tastes. And we naturally turn away from pungent smells like garlic. Unless the baby's mother is a garlic eater, then the baby comes out naturally attracted to garlic. Because we are highly social creatures, we have a lot of social instincts. We don't like being alone. Solitary confinement is one of the worst ways to punish us. One of the most motivating instincts is social proof. This plays out in many, many ways. Advertisers have known this for decades. We tend to gravitate towards things that are popular. Authority is another powerful motivator. Because of both of these instincts, social proof and authority, we tend to organize into hierarchies. Study after study shows this. It's not like in the movies, where they have a big, drawn out fight over who gets to be the alpha. It happens quickly and subconsciously. This is how all our instincts drive us. Quickly and subconsciously. When you pass by a bakery, you don't need your conscious mind to decide to feel like eating something. Your ancient brain smells the bread, and makes you hungry. This is why losing weight by willpower is very, very difficult. Any time you try and OVERRULE your subconscious instincts with your rational, self-aware mind, you will have a difficult time. One of the curious things about us humans is we make all decisions with our emotions. Emotions driven by these very powerful and very ancient instincts. That's not the curious part. The curious part is we need, or rather our ego needs, to come up with a rational sounding, logically believable reason WHY we did what we just did. We don't like to say things like, "I bought this because everybody else was buying it." That sounds silly! We need to have rational, logical reasons. But these rational, logical reasons are only to make our egos feel better. They aren't the real reasons. Problems pop up with we BELIEVE these logical reasons are the real reasons. And we use them to try and understand ourselves. And to understand others. This CAN make life very, very confusing and frustrating. How to make it easy? How to make it simple? Understand the emotional reasons for our decisions. And their decisions. This will give you x-ray vision into not only your own thinking, but everybody else's. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  17. Dale Carnegie came across a lot of golden tips back in the day. He started his deal during the depression. When people were struggling. Kind of like today. All his ideas in his famous book, "How To Win Friends And Influence People," came from a public speaking club he founded. It was kind of a lab for interpersonal ideas. People would go out and try things, and come back, and give a speech. The speeches were restricted to ONLY two minutes. So they had to be quick, they had to be engaging, and they had to be packed with information. One of the golden nuggets was the idea of HOW, specifically, to be interesting TO other people. This, of course, is a deep human desire. To meet somebody, make an impression, and get them interested in you. Either for romance or for business, this skill would obviously come in VERY handy. The simple takeaway that Carnegie found was to be interesting TO other people, all you really need to do is be interested IN them. Now, this sounds simple. But most people have trouble with this simple advice. Why? Because most people find other people kind of boring. But here's the thing. It's EASY to be interested in interesting people. Being interested in interesting people won't get you very far. And you'll have tons of competition. Because if YOU find somebody interesting, so do plenty of other people. This is why attractive females have it so easy. Tons of dudes are always hanging around doing whatever she asks. A real skill is to be interested in the PERSON. Not the appearance. This is pretty easy once you take apart the structure of language. When you learn to ask a few questions and follow up questions. By looking at the relationship between their thoughts and their words, your interest in them will go far deeper than anybody else's. Especially when you use covert hypnosis to significantly amplify their existing desire. EVERYBODY wants something. So much that this pretty much all anybody talks about. So if you can turn off your own brain, listen to their desires and use the patterns from covert hypnosis to EXPAND their desires, they'll remember YOU much more than anybody else. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  18. Imagine if a rich person reached out to you. They wanted to do some kind of experiment. Maybe a new reality show or something. Every day, they'd give you a stack of $100's. All you had to do was hand them out. Walk up, introduce yourself, hand them a c-note, and bounce. For every person that accepted a hundred bucks, you'd get $20. Would that be fun? Would that be easy? Or would you be worried about getting rejected? Here's another mind experiment. Imagine you were hosting a party. But the only people coming were shy introverts. One new person would come every fifteen minutes. And as soon as they came in, you'd have to talk to them and find out certain things about them. And for every two people you introduced, and got a conversation flowing between them, you'd get $1,000. Meaning you'd have to find enough about each introverted party guest to introduce one shy introvert to another, and convince them they had enough in common to have a friendly conversation. Would you be able to do this? Or would you be too worried to start a conversation? The meaning of these goofy mind experiments is that once you put enough INCENTIVE into anything, it can seem easy. Walking up to people and introducing yourself to give out money seems easy. But walking up to people just to say hey seems difficult. But why would it? Imagine somebody says hey to you while waiting in line. They aren't trying to pick you up. They aren't trying to sell you anything. They're just saying hey. Would you be angry? Would they be interrupting your important thoughts about what you were having for dinner that night? Or watching on TV? What about the party host idea? Talking to people enough to find out information, so you can introduce them to other people seems EASY if you are going to get paid. But why not just to enjoy talking to people? Most people enjoy conversations. Humans are very social animals. Unless you are going to OVERTLY seduce or sell somebody, most people WELCOME a friendly conversation. But you can do much, much more than have a friendly conversation. You can learn to talk to people so they NEVER forget you. So they always remember. Not as that weird or awkward person, but as they cool party person. The one they want to see again. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  19. One of the most common fears is the fear of rejection. When you think about learning skills, we can put them into two categories. Those that involve other people, and those that don't. Those that DON'T involve other people are things you do on your own. Learning software, instruments, playing sports. Sports sort of involves other people, but it doesn't invoke the fear of rejection. Even in one-on-one sports like boxing and martial arts since they are performance based and not choice based. Meaning each person does their best, and whoever performs the best wins. On the other hand, any skill that involves talking to others, and giving them the choice to accept or reject your idea, this can create MASSIVE anxiety. Anything involving sales, or public speaking, or seduction. These cause so much anxiety that we don't tend to think of them as skills. We think of them of things we can do, or things we can't do. Thinking about practicing martial arts, for example, doesn't create the same anxiety. Even if you were making a decision to get a certain rank that would take a few years, the decision would involve some "unpleasant" ideas. It wouldn't be an easy decision. It would take a lot of dedication, practice, exercise, and specifically NOT doing enjoyable things like eating Big Macs and watching TV all day. But it wouldn't be scary. On the other hand, if you imagined practicing every day for an HOUR on social skills, that would be VERY DIFFICULT to even think about. The idea of going out, for ONE HOUR each and every day, just talking to strangers, for the sole purpose of improving your social skills. Since even the IDEA of doing that creates anxiety in so many people, most people don't put social skills into the "practicable skills" section of their brain. It goes in the binary, "I can do this" or "I can't do this" section of their brain. Ask somebody who trains regularly what their hobbies are. They'll say something like, "I practice martial arts twice a week, and a practice the piano on weekends." NOBODY would say something like, "Well, I practice talking to strangers twice a week." That just sounds silly! What does this mean? This means that EVERYBODY you see out in public has these SAME fears. Everybody likes the idea of talking to interesting people. But everybody is also terrified of going first. Now, one idea is to simply start approaching people, knowing they are just as nervous as everybody else. But there is a MUCH easier way. And that is to re-calibrate your energy so you become extremely APPROACHABLE. That you radiate energy that DISSOLVES everybody's fear around you. So they see YOU as different from everybody else. Somebody who is very EASY to approach. Even better this is something you can practice all on your own. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/presence/
  20. Most of the time our brains work as repeaters. We soak up ideas from others, and then pass them right along. Way back in the days of dangerous living, Mother Nature decided that a fast and inaccurate brain was much better than a slow and accurate brain. So we developed a LOT of short cuts in thinking. Our brains are VERY expensive organs. Independent thinking is VERY difficult. Two of the most powerful short cuts in thinking are social proof and authority. Most people are perfectly OK so long as they are in a group of like minded people who are being directed by a recognized authority. But it gets kind of fuzzy when we start to consider the ideas in our heads. If we have a question, we ask our friends. "Is this right?" we ask. Since we all have the same ideas in our brains, all given to us from the same authority figure, everybody says the same thing. "Yeah, this is right," they say. Normally, this is perfectly fine. But then again, most folks are comfortable doing the SAME things every day for their entire lives. It's been said that MOST of us live lives of "quiet desperation." Meaning we ALWAYS have a collection of unmet needs, anxieties, and stuff we WANT but can't get. The problem comes when we realize that actually doing something DIFFERENT requires breaking from the pack. Of thinking and acting differently from our social reference group. So most of us THINK about it, but don't do it. We are QUIET, since we are afraid of breaking from the pack. We are DESPERATE because we want things our current lives are producing. Most folks will live their ENTIRE LIVES in this state. Too scared to leave the pack, and the comfortable suggestions of authority figures. But wishing we could get MORE than being a mindless member can provide. Here's the thing. If getting stuff ABOVE AVERAGE were easy, everybody would do it. There is, however, a clever shortcut. A way to slowly re-build our social proof and authority. Kind of like slowly replacing a diet of fast food with healthy food. You don't switch at once. You take your time to find replacement food that is HEALTHY, but also tastes pretty good. This takes time, but it's VERY POSSIBLE. We can slowly and consciously replace both our social reference group and the authorities we follow. Not based on the comfort, but the results. Just like we can reverse engineer our food, we can reverse engineer our social instincts. Getting us MUCH BETTER results without having to go without the positive aspects of social proof and authority. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/gurutrap/
  21. We use a lot of metaphors in our language. In fact, it is pretty hard to NOT use metaphors. For example, in that sentence up there, the word "it" is a metaphor for a process or an idea, and it is metaphorically described as "hard." Hard can refer to a physical object, (like a hard wall or a hard boiled egg) but it can also mean difficult or complicated. One common metaphor is the metaphorical gradient between "fresh" and "stale." Physically, it can refer to food. When it's "fresh" it's just out of the oven. Still warm. The most delicious. But let it sit around, and it will get "stale." It won't taste as good. We like things that are "fresh," and we don't like things that are "stale." We also use these terms to describe experiences. When something is "new" and "fresh" it's exciting. We are still in the "discovery phase." And one of the BEST feelings of being a human is discovering something new. Something that keeps getting better. This is why the beginning of a sexual relationship is one of (or can be one of) the most magical thing a human can experience. The only thing that may be better is the beginning of a new PERSON. When relationships get "old" we refer to them as "stale." Plenty of us have been in those same, boring old relationships. You do the same things, go to the same places. That "new" and "exciting" feeling is gone. This is when people start to stray. The human brain doesn't do well when life is boring. We CRAVE new experiences. It's very hard to live life when you're doing the SAME THINGS day after day. However, and paradoxically, we can also be simultaneously TERRIFIED of something anything "new." Because doing something new implies risk, which implies potential failure, which implies negative feelings. So at the same time, we are CRAVING a new experience, but TERRIFIED of making it happen at the same time. This is one of the reasons why the HERO'S JOURNEY (the story that has been repeated a kajillion times since we were cavemen) is so compelling. The "hero" is FORCED to do something new. Something that propels him on a NEW adventure. That is our human DREAM COME TRUE. To be FORCED into a situation that lets us achieve our greatest potential. But here's the thing. If you are waiting for stormtroopers to come and kill your family before you go on your great adventure, you might be waiting a while. In real life, the hero's journey begins with YOU. When you DECIDE to make the journey. When you accept the potential for failure, and go forward anyway. That is when your journey begins. Get Started: Click Here To Learn How
  22. The idea of going back in time is pretty cool. Especially those movies where an adult switches bodies with a kid in high school. Imagine being able to go back to high school knowing what you know now! One of my favorite time travel movies is called "Primer," which is a low budget indy film. One of the reasons I like it is was realistic (as much as time travel movies can be). That the FIRST thing the characters did when they realized they could go back through time was to figure out how to game the stock market. One of the reasons we like the idea is few of us look back on any part of our history and think, "Yep, I handled that absolutely PERFECTLY!" I'm sure you, like most people, have incidents in your past that you'd rather not think about. I know I do! Another sci-fi type idea that's pretty popular is mind reading. Being able to read other people's thoughts. Playing poker, negotiating, knowing which girls to talk to, etc. The truth is that this is more likely than most people realize. Most people have the same desires and the same fears. Most people don't like going to work, they aren't best buddies with their boss, they worry about their bills and they are terrified of rejection. Most would like to be more confident socially, but are afraid to try. Which means you, as an advanced social operator, already have a head start. You can be the one to not reject them. You can be the one to let them know that meeting new people can be easy and enjoyable. Just imagine your worst fears, with regards to social situations, and then talk to THEM to make sure THEIR worst fears don't come true. That way YOU can be the person to make everything happen. Click Here To Learn How
  23. I love watching movies. All kinds, but in particular I'm a big fan of the "found footage" genre. Many people think they suck, but for some reason I find them entertaining. A normal group of people doing normal things and then a bunch of ghosts or aliens or something shows up and kills everybody. There are some really good ones, and some not so good ones. It's easy to understand why they are pretty popular, at least with movie makers. They're cheap to make (you don't need a lot of equipment or expensive actors) and the potential is huge, due to viral marketing. One of the originals, "The Blair Witch Project" from back in the 90's was purely viral marketing. They spent less than a million to make it, and ended up making tons. What worked even better, from a marketing standpoint was "Paranormal Activity." It cost less than a million to make, and grossed over 250 million worldwide. Mostly by word of mouth, or "viral marketing." If you can leverage viral marketing, you can MASSIVE return for very little cost. Even in your own life. If you have a good reputation in your social circle, you're "pre-vetted" for a lot of things. Relationships, jobs, or if you're throwing a party. Word gets around and everybody wants to help you. This isn't as difficult as it seems, even if you don't have very much of a social circle. All you need to do is get out there, and interact with others in the right way. Get interested in them, instead of talking about yourself. Pretty soon you can be the guy or girl that everybody wants to be around. All through word of mouth. Any time you need anything, you can tap your social circle, and they'll have your back. Click Here to Learn More
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