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  16. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov24Post.mp4 I love horror movies. Good horror movies are hard to find. But the ones that ARE good, are really good. Believable character arcs. A careful calibration of deep and ancient human fears. Especially ones that have a really SICK reveal at the end. Who the villain is, etc. One such movie is "Orphan." Good build up, horrific ending. Starts out pretty predictable. Couple is thinking about adopting. They adopt a kid that SEEMS normal, but then everything falls apart. I remember one scene in particular. One that made me shrink in my seat. The family had a son, and right off the bat, the adopted daughter and the blood son were in conflict. The son had a tree house. He was starting to suspect she was EVIL. So he was hiding behind a rock, watching her walk to his tree house. She was getting ready to light it on fire or something. The audience was seeing things from the little kid's point of view. He hiding behind the rock, her walking perpendicularly toward the tree house. About twenty yarsd away. Then she STOPPED, and at the same time STARED right at the kid. And the audience. This is very, very ancient fear. Of watching some predator HOPING they don't notice you. If the predator stops DEAD in it's tracks, and STARES right at you, it's all over. If you run, they'll chase you and eat you. If you stay where you are, they'll closely walk closely to you and eat you. There's even one REAL photo of guy JUST BEFORE he got eaten by a tiger. Horrific. Dude fell into the tiger cage. He was crouching down, head bowed, his over his face. Tiger was starting DIRECTLY at him. Tiger's head was about a foot higher than the poor guy. That would be a HORRIBLE way to die. The WORST imaginable. Eye contact, especially from a stranger, kicks of that same, flight or fight response. If you are checking out a pretty lady and she glances at you WITHOUT smiling, you feel like you've committed a felony. But at the same time, eye contact is the most FANTASTIC thing you can ever experience. You meet a pretty lady. You have some nice sex. You're laying in bed together, looking at each other's reflections in each other's eyes. Your brain is shut OFF, and you are in LOVE MODE. At least temporarily. Now, here's the question. Suppose you could CREATE that kind of eye contact with strangers? To send them a signal of mutual self acceptance and appreciation? What would THAT do for your confidence? Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/seductive-eye-contact/
  17. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept21Post.mp4 One of our biggest worries is knowing what to say. Job interviews, meeting new friends, talking to cute guys or girls. When two people meet each other for the first time, even with random strangers, we go into a kind of "defense mode." Everybody has a whole bunch of different layers. When you are with old and close friends, you can "let it all hang out." Fart, burp, drop as a many f-bombs as you want. But if you did that during a job interview, or on a first date, it would probably backfire. This makes rational sense. From a logical, outside in perspective, takes time to get to know somebody. It takes time for people to get to know us. A very, very common problem is knowing how, specifically to make a good first impression. Especially if you ONLY have a few precious minutes. Job interviews, first dates or first conversations. Many people have TONS of experience of how much people like you once they get to know you. But how most people get to know you happens organically and mostly subconsciously. This is the biggest problem with modern dating. There aren't many opportunities to organically "get to know people." So we have to consciously do something that is normally left to an organic and natural process. You see somebody, you'd like to get to know them, and you KNOW that if they took the time to get to know you, they'd like you. Maybe not fall-in-love like you but, at least enjoy from a friendly, conversational perspective. The problem is that THEY feel the same way. THEY would also like people to give them a chance. So we end up with a world where everybody has the same feeling, and the same strategy. That if only OTHER PEOPLE would "give" them a chance to get to know them, then these "other people" would like them. And when you get a roomful or a planet full of people waiting around to be GIVEN a chance, you get a lot of frustration. And since most people use the "onion strategy" this takes even longer, which creates even more frustration. What is the "onion strategy"? Of of starting from the outside layer, and then SLOWLY peeling back all the layers to the inside. Just thinking about this causes frustration. Small talk on the outer later. A number exchange a little bit deeper. A few texts back and forth a little bit deeper. Meeting for drinks a little bit deeper. As soon as we see somebody we'd LIKE to know, we subconsciously imagine ALL the work it would take to show them the real us. And for us to know the real them. The common response to this is to be as fake as possible. On as many layers as possible. Lucky for us, there IS another way. To ignore all that surface level stuff and LEAD with your inner, true self. This is not based on conversations, or words or even conscious strategies. Just a "re-calibration" of your inner core. So who you REALLY are resonates so strongly all you need to do is show up. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-mindset/
  18. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July17Post.mp4 One common piece of advice, if you want to approach an attractive person, is act like they are your friend. This is slightly different than the "be yourself" advice, but its intentions are the same. When you are with your friends, you are yourself. The idea is pretty simple. When you are yourself, you are your most congruent. Your brain is working the quickest. The most uninhibited by social anxiety. You can respond playfully to your buddies at the highest level of efficiency. This is the result of being in close rapport. Being in rapport has many different levels. But being in rapport with closer friends is about the best you can get. So when they say, "be yourself," when they approach, it's actually good advice. And the idea of treating them like a friend is the same thing. A different means to the same end. Most normal humans, when they talk to an attractive stranger, are, right out of the gait, much less efficient. Much less congruent. We want something, otherwise we wouldn't have approached. We are nervous, because we might ask and they might say no. This means unless they see us, and ALREADY have a good idea they'd like to get to know us BEFORE we open our mouths, this strategy is likely to fail. This is why most people believe that LOOKS are really important. They only SEEM to be because everybody approaches strangers with a mix of desire, hope, and nervousness. But this rabbit hole goes even deeper. Because when you mix hope, anxiety and uncertainty, you also get, as an automatic response from your ancient brain, is a WORST case scenario. When you approach a friend, you have ZERO of this "energy." When you approach a stranger that YOU'VE already decided you want to get to know, but mix in worry and anxiety, that creates a nervous frame. This frame is RESONATED in them. Even if we don't know people, we get into and out of rapport with strangers ALL THE TIME. This is a function of our ancient, social animal instincts. So it's IMPOSSIBLE for them to not pick up on your nervous energy. Again, this is why people THINK that looks are the most important. Because really good looks, or outward signs of wealth are the ONLY THINGS that can overcome this common nervousness. Do you need to be attractive, or wealthy to approach your friends? Nope. And when you approach strangers with this same frame, they'll respond to YOU the same way your friends will. But it's not as simple as just "being yourself." But you can practice this frame. This very strong frame of SELF ACCEPTANCE. It's just like doing pushups. It might suck at the beginning, but when you build up the power of this self-acceptance frame, something FANTASTIC will happen. You really WILL accept yourself. This means you WILL be yourself, around everybody. Not only will all social anxiety VANISH, but when you approach, they will feel this non-anxiety, self acceptance energy. And talking to them will be a piece of cake. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/conversation-hero/
  19. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr21Post.mp4 This place where I used to live had an arm wrestling stand set up near the main station. It was just a tallish table, with a couple of slots for people to put their elbows in. It was only up during the summer. Where guys could stop and compete on their way home from drinking in the pubs around the station. On the other hand, they also have professional arm wrestlers. People spend their career getting stronger and stronger for arm wrestling competitions. Most of us, however, only arm wrestle under certain scenarios. A lot of physical contests are like this. We compete once in a while. But at the same time, there are plenty of niche sports where people compete for a living. Plenty of sports based game shows, etc. You'll find this same thing in public speaking. Most of us are terrified of public speaking. Some people are pretty good at public speaking, so they have jobs or careers around this skill. But some people compete based on public speaking. Usually in debates, but sometimes in single speeches. But for those who really want to clean up, they have jobs that are based on their public speaking performance, like sales jobs, etc. But they also PRACTICE public speaking techniques. Even rarer are people who realize that public speaking is a very useful skill in general, so they practice it. Sure, it's one thing to practice public speaking because it's a hobby. But to practice this because you can consciously earn more money is a pretty rare thing. Even rarer are general personality traits. The only people that tend to practice these are guys who practice game. To develop interpersonal confidence and communication skills so you can get more sex. That makes sense. At least to some people. To the general, mainstream population, practicing any kind of "pick up" technique to get more sex would be perceived as kind of creepy. But there are much deeper skills. Much more powerful skills. More than contextual confidence. Even deeper than confidence itself. These are things that most people don't even know about. Let alone know how to practice. This involves the MEANING of things. The meaning of conversations. The meaning of reality. It turns out the meaning of most everything is really up to interpretation. Most people don't even consider this. Most people just show up and accept the general consensus. But when you realize just how flexible meaning is? Not only will you gain a lot more control, but you can do so covertly. This will give you an enormous amount of power. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
  20. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb23Post.mp4 One of the interesting paradoxes is whatever you prepare for doesn't happen. But if you don't prepare, it will. Sometimes, this is kind of silly, like if you think it's going to rain. If you DON'T bring an umbrella, it will rain. If you DO bring an umbrella, it won't. This is a common idea in many martial arts movies. The whole reason to train and learn how to fight, is so you don't need to fight. If you walk into a bar while radiating SCARED energy, you'll become a target for those types who like to pick on people. On the other hand, if you walk into a bar with confident energy, nobody will mess with you. Quite a lot, if not most, of our communication is NON VERBAL. The way we walk, how fast or slow our eyes dart around the room, our shoulders, etc. Similarly, the more confident you are, the more attractive you'll be. There are two ways to build confidence. One is to simply get out there and get a ton of experience. For example, if you approach a cute girl you've been flirting with, and you have a TON of experience talking to and seducing cute girls, those memories will all be in your subconscious. As you are walking over there, your body language, posture, etc., will reflect all those positive memories. That will make you VERY attractive to her. The closer you get, the more nervous SHE'LL get. On the other hand, if you have few experiences, that will reflect in your body language as well. The closer you get to her, the more nervous YOU'LL get. Since you might not have a lot of experience seducing cute girls, your brain will automatically default to the WORST CASE scenario. She will pick up on you anxiety, and she'll become more confident. So, if you spend lots of time approaching, you'll slowly get more confident. But that takes a LONG TIME. There is a much easier way. A way to build MASSIVE confidence without every needing to approach. It's based on understanding the STRUCTURE of thought and language. When you approach a whole bunch of times, you are SLOWLY re-wiring your brain. But this is a very inefficient, brute force technique. There is a much more elegant way. A much safer and easier way. To re-wire your specific thoughts. To re-wire your specific anxieties and fears. All by some simple writing techniques. This doesn't just work on the ladies. This works on ANY kind of anxiety based on ANY kind of conversation with ANY kind of human. Re-wire your fears, and never worry about rejection again. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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  22. Anti Anxiety Nightmare: https://mindpersuasion.com/anti-anxiety-nightmare/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov05Loop.mp4
  23. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept03Post.mp4 One of our biggest thinking problems is mistaking correlation and causation. You'll see this everywhere. What's particularly amusing is if you trace a purely scientific research study. First it's written purely by academics for academics. Generally published in some kind of academic journal. Which means it needs to be approved an editor of an academic journal. But academic types need to earn a living just like everybody else. And many of these live off grants. And grants come from politicians. Which are the LEAST scientific people in society. So the next phase, after the academic paper is published, is to have it RE-WRITTEN by a science writer. For a more mainstream, yet still kind of scientific publication. Science writers are writers FIRST who have a working knowledge about science. So they need to dumb it down a little bit. And use some metaphors that aren't quite accurate. The next phase is when it's picked up by mainstream media. Which means it's SIGNIFICANTLY dumbed down for the masses. And given some kind of "hook." This is the stuff people read and talk about to make themselves sound intelligent. "Hey, have you heard the latest research?" "No, what is it?" "They found a link between bananas and erectile dysfunction!" "Wow, that's fascinating!" "Of course, correlation doesn't mean causation..." The problem with our ancient, instinctive cause-effect generator is not only was it calibrated for MUCH simpler times, it wasn't even supposed to be accurate. It was more of a "better safe than sorry" mechanism. If you THOUGHT that MAYBE there was a tiger hiding behind a bush, you MIGHT run away. But if your dumb caveman brain said, "Rustling bushes MEANS tiger" you'd run away much, much quickly. Our cause-effect generator was a FIGHT OR FLIGHT safety mechanism. It wasn't meant to find correlations between bananas and boners. But since it's an INSTINCT it's very hard to deal with. Especially when something BAD happens. Are brains are absolutely NOT wired to accept randomness. We HAVE to find reasons. Even super silly ones. Like not being able to get a boner because you ate too many bananas. But when something BAD happens, and there is no OBVIOUS cause, we have to FIND one. And the most common CAUSE of bad things is US. Somebody bad happens, and we ASSUME that we did something wrong. Even if was a random accident. When humans get dumped, (because we eat too many bananas) we always wonder: What did I do wrong? What's even WORSE is that because this is an instinct, all the BAD THINGS that happened when you were younger, you ASSUMED they were your fault. They. Were. Not. De-program yourself, and start enjoying life. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
  24. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug26Post.mp4 One of the most powerful words is "because." A study demonstrated this. A woman was waiting in line at a copy machine. She asked if she could cut in line, and most people said no. Then she asked if she could cut in line BECAUSE her car was parked in a towing zone. Most people said yes. Then the researchers had her ask again, only this time, the reason made no sense. She asked if she could cut in line BECAUSE she had copies to make. And most people said yes. Researchers have also done plenty of studies on young children. As young as six months. They suspect we have a kind of "cause-effect generator" in our brains. Evolutionary psychologists believe this helped us to think much more quickly. As you likely know, our brains a very fast, but not very accurate. Turns out this wasn't such a big deal back in the old days. When we had to chase food, and predators were chasing us. But in modern times, it's much, much more complicated. We make a lot of causal connections when we are very young. Much too young to understand what's going on. Unfortunately, unless those early causal connections are "undone" by later life, they will shape how we see the world. A common example is a little kid touches a hot stove. And develops a phobia of the stove. But under normal situations, that kid will grow up around that stove. And associate that stove with food, eating, meals, meal preparation. All GOOD associations. Those good associations will naturally and organically overwrite the bad associations. For people who feel socially confident and outgoing, a similar process happened. Most kids learn a few times that expressing any desire is dangerous. Kids run around, happy and playful, and the adults yell at them. The learned association is, "expressing desire = bad." For lucky kids, they later detach that with opposite experiences. "Expressing desire = good" But for others, that doesn't happen. This is the source of social anxiety. It doesn't mean they're broken, or deficient. It only means some old programs are still operating. Luckily, it's pretty easy to overwrite them. And once they are overwritten, you can be your natural, outgoing and expressive self. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
  25. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug24Post.mp4 Externalizing is a very common human trait. It's when WE have a problem. But we don't want to admit it. So we imagine the problems is OUT THERE. It works metaphorically like a semi-permeable membrane. The kind around our cells that only lets good stuff in. And keeps out the bad stuff. Every aspect of our mind-body system was put there for a reason. Unfortunately, a lot of it is outdated. Like government computer systems. The problem is when use our natural defense systems too much. Externalizing is a powerful and necessary way to protect our ego. Way back in the day, when life was very dangerous and difficult, having a weak ego was DEADLY. It was always go-time. But today, life is MUCH more complicated. Back in the day, it was us, our buddies and our environment. Back in the day, our environment was the natural world. Trees, rocks, unexpected thunderstorms, animals, both predator and prey. Simple. Kill or be killed. Today, it's not so simple. In fact, it's WAY complicated. In the old days you either KILLED something in the environment, literally. Or that thing KILLED you. Literally. Today our environment is OTHER PEOPLE. Nobody is going to kill us. And we aren't going to kill anybody. Unfortunately, many of our programs haven't quite caught up. So our instincts need re-calibrating. So does our natural learner. Our natural learn KNOWS that takes plenty of practice to get something down. Music, sports, etc. But our natural learner doesn't quite see this with social situations. Our natural learner sees social situations as a kill or be killed type of thing. Which is why EVERYBODY is intimidated in social situations. Some a little. Some a lot. But unless you can turn down the natural anxiety to workable levels, you'll stay on the sidelines. And keep telling yourself the problem is OUT THERE. So long as you believe the problem is OUT THERE, you'll never feel comfortable. But once you accept that at least part of the problem is INSIDE, then you can fix it. Re-calibrate it. Get in the game and start learning some skills. But, won't that be terrifying? Nope. Re-calibrating your social instincts is actually pretty BORING. Like studying history, when you'd rather be playing video games. But if you do a few minutes a day, you'll eventually reach a tipping point. When getting in the game is FUN. Like it should be. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
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