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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar20Post.mp4 Most things are best understood as a numbers game. You talk to 10 girls you might get a couple numbers. You send out a few dozen resumes, and you might get a couple calls. You stand in the batting cages and you might really connect with one out of three or four pitches. This CAN be discouraging. Especially if you focus on every single swing, or approach, or phone call. But the longer you can stretch out your perception, the easier it seems. Especially if you understand from the beginning that it's just a numbers game. Even more so if you are slowly improving. One of the oldest jokes in the entertainment business is the guy walking down the street in New York. He asks a local how to get to Carnegie Hall. The local says, "practice." If you want to get ANYWHERE, you need to practice. On one hand, this kind of sucks. Especially in modern times when everybody is not only entitled but insanely impatient. We want what we want, and we want it NOW. On the other hand, once you get into a routine, you'll ALWAYS be getting some. Getting what? Getting better. When you don't have something but you want something, it can create a paradox of never ending frustration. You want it, you want it NOW, but you don't know HOW you'll get it. This is maddening to say the least. But when you start taking small, tiny, daily steps toward what you want, something pretty cool will happen. In a week or so, you'll look behind you and see how far you've come. You'll look out ahead of you and you'll KNOW how far you'll be going. You'll get rid of that "now-frustration" that is never ending. And replace it with continuous feeling of forward momentum. This means you'll KNOW where you are going. You'll feel it. It will start to change how you feel, what you think, how you speak and behave, and how people perceive you. A "now-frustrated" person is very UN-attractive. Nobody wants to hang around somebody who wants things, wants them now, but doesn't know HOW to get them. This is like hanging around a baby who is constantly screaming. On the other hand, when you develop consistent forward momentum, that is much more attractive. People will you see you, and they IMMEDIATELY notice that you are different than most. They won't see somebody who is dependent on others. They won't see somebody who is frustrated and stuck. They'll see somebody who is going places. Which places? Whichever direction you choose. Transforming your life, and everybody around you. One easy step at a time. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar19Post.mp4 Most of us have plenty of goals. Things we'd like to have, or be able to do. But we either never start, or we've started and given up a few times. Why is goal setting so hard? There can only be two reasons. One is that the thing we are after is unachievable. Or the process we are doing to get the thing is incorrect. Both are hard to stomach. Believing we want something that is impossible is pretty depressing. Equally depressing is to admit we are always doing it wrong. Both have the same result. We want something, but we'll never get it. Money, love, a better job, a better body, etc. Just for a moment, let's assume the second reason. That we're doing it wrong. If we are doing it wrong, that means we can figure out how to do it right. The common way, which we'll assume is the wrong way, is to create a TON of motivation, and charge forward as hard as we can. We'll assume this is the wrong way since it rarely works. But when we try again, we violate Einstein's principle of insanity. Of trying the SAME thing but expecting a different result. Weight loss, strengthening, social confidence, we use the SAME structure, and fail, most of the time. What's the structure? Muscle up and plow through the pain! Grab your balls and go talk to her! Suck it up, get out of bed an hour early and hit the pavement! Look terror in the eye, and knock on enough doors until you get enough sales! Yeah, uh, no. That doesn't work. That whole, create a bunch of motivation of thin air and power through the pain. We need a better way. Or at least another way that doesn't suck so fricking much. The problem is based on economics. And how we compare what we WANT to what we THINK will get us there. Both are based on how well we IMAGINE things. The costs and the benefits. But as we start knocking on doors, or talking to random girls, or running before sunrise, the COSTS become more real. But the benefits are STILL in our imagination. Before we start, it SEEMS the benefits are worth the costs. But the more we push forward with ONLY motivation, the REAL costs get bigger every day. Imagine if you went into your favorite burger shop. And you looked up and saw a burger combo for $4. Uh yea, I'd like the burger combo. But when you went to pay, they wanted $50. Added fees, taxes, etc. Would you pay? Hell, no! Same with motivation. Eventually the REAL costs get so big it's RATIONAL to stop paying. What's the better way? Go. Really. Slow. Keep the costs as SMALL as possible. Forget that motivation nonsense. Instead, build MOMENTUM. Because momentum is self-sustaining. Momentum can lead you ANYWHERE. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar18Post.mp4 All problems of modern society can be described as "instinct-mismatch." Back in the day, we were ALWAYS hungry. That was good. The HUNGRIER you were, the more motivated you were to get out and kill something. Not only to get out and kill something, but to eat AS MUCH as you could whenever you had a chance. PERFECT for the time before. Really, really horrible for modern society. Most other instincts are like this. Fantastic back in the day, horrible today. Social signals, relationships, social status, all perfectly calibrated for primitive times. All being horrifically misfired today. Probably the ONLY instinct that serves us is fear of dangerous animals. If we saw a tiger following us today, it would scare the crap out of us JUST LIKE back in the day. Of course, this is a pretty useless instinct as not a lot of people see tigers on their morning walk. But on a meta-level, we are much less likely to make the necessary TRANSITIONS we did back in the day. Way back in the day, we transitioned from being DEPENDENT to being PROVIDERS. If you were a slacker back in the day, you'd left behind. Today, finding out ways to game the system is a fantastic career choice. Especially if you're a banker! One way this plays out is how we MEASURE ourselves. If you were a little kid back in the day, AND today, your self worth was based on how well, or how poorly, other people treated you. Eventually, usually when you were old enough to walk around on your own, you started to DEFINE your self worth. There were no politicians on TV telling you how special you were. There were no classes in college telling you how it is somebody else's responsibility to take care of you. Every single human that survived long enough to send their DNA into the future learned a very important rule. One that is VERY RARE today. One that little kids back then were FORCED to learn. The rule? If you don't kill, you don't eat. Back then, all successful humans had to DEFINE their worth to the tribe on a daily basis. The BETTER you provided REAL VALUE to the tribe, the more they valued you. Nobody could just "decide" to be valuable or special "just because." Now, this may be offensive to many people. And that's fine. Plenty of people have ZERO PROBLEM letting OTHERS take care of them their whole lives. But as we alluded before, we STILL have these ancient instincts. So when YOU choose to take responsibility for your life, that will trigger these ancient instincts in others. Ancient instincts that say YOU are a very valuable human. Much more so than all the other entitled goofs running around. This, of course, will give you a HUGE advantage. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar17Post.mp4 We humans love competition. For fun, for business, and for fun. However, it's very easy to shy away from any kind of competition. For kids, this is pretty normal. You'll find plenty of little league sports that are easing the kids into competition. The first step is to get them running around and moving with other kids. The next step is to get them switching from offense to defense, or at least understanding what they mean. During this phase, they "score" but they don't "keep score." In most sports, this is a reminder of ancient battles of territoriality. Protect your goal, attack the other player's goal. Even in chess, they use the words "attack" and "defend." Eventually, the kids will start keeping score. They'll know the difference between the thrill of victory, and the agony of defeat. This is very, very necessary for a healthy personality. Because competition is EVERYWHERE. You want that ideal job? So do a lot of other folks. You want that cute girl or guy? So do a lot of other folks. You want that perfect house in that perfect neighborhood? So do plenty of other folks. It CAN be possible, in some areas, to avoid competition completely. This makes life VERY safe, but also VERY boring. Competition is where the fun is. Even when watching a football game with your buddies on a Sunday afternoon, they conversation will have competition built into it. Who can tell the funniest joke. Who can come up with the cleverest insults to the refs. Who can jump up and scream the loudest and the most enthusiastically when their team scores. Competition is like that one mohawk dude from one the Mad Max movies. "You! You can run! But you can't hide!" Some competitions are easier to face than others. It's VERY EASY to give up. Especially in modern society, where pretty much EVERYTHING is easy. At least not dangerous. But the MORE you can embrace and engage in competition, the better you'll do. Not in a caveman, battle to the death way. But in the friendly, "attack the other guy's king," chess way. And very often, how strong your competition FRAME is, the better you'll do. This is EXACTLY why boxers give each other the scare of death before the bell rings. This same thing takes place in the boardroom, on the tennis court, and while hanging out with friends. Most of the time, this "competition frame" is fake. A conscious ATTEMPT to demonstrate some kind of dominance. But a REAL and GENUINE competition is VERY powerful. Because it's NOT fake. It's congruent. A deep belief in yourself. Not even to win, but to ENJOY the game. It's one thing to try and fake a dominance frame. But when you present a congruent, "I'm going enjoy this," frame, it will be very rare, and very powerful. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar16Post.mp4 Holding a strong frame is a very necessary skill. One might say it's THE most important skill. Socrates was murdered for proving that all the goofs in charge couldn't "prove" anything they thought was a logical reason for being in power. Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius noted that EVERYTHING is opinion. One dude famously came up with the basic idea that EVERYBODY is governed by the ancient law, "might makes right." This might not seem to be true, especially in a polite society. But if you tune your brain to see this structure, you'll see it everywhere. Most conversations, even casual ones, are "idea contests." And they are NOT a bunch of logicians like Spock dissecting each idea to find the strongest, objective, TRUTH. Idea contests, between friends and presidential hopefuls are based on how STRONGLY you present your idea. Cult leaders have an INSANELY strong connection to their crazy beliefs. That is why they are so compelling. Their frame strength is HUGE. The most charismatic politicians don't really have any ideas better or worse than the rest of the power hungry goofs. They just present them with very strong frames. This does make sense. We humans split from chimps several million years ago. We only invented language a hundred thousand years ago. What exists UNDER our language? A very ancient, hierarchy contest. Primates live in hierarchies. Humans live in hierarchies. The STRONGER your frame, the higher up you'll be. The higher up you get, the BETTER everything will be. More money, more sex, more love, more opportunities, more everything. This is something that NOBODY wants you to know. Particularly those at the TOP. The ones that HAVE the most power. Funny how once they GET power, they tell us we SHOULDN'T want power. That we should behave like good little primates and do as we're told. When chimps compete for hierarchy dominance, they do through naked aggression. When humans compete for hierarchy dominance, we do through frame battles. Most of which are done by friendly people sharing friendly ideas. If you don't know about this stuff, it seems VERY fair, polite, even CIVILIZED. But underneath that politeness is the ANCIENT frame battle that powers all primates, including us. Now for the MONEY question. How can you BUILD your frame? Are we like chimps, where we are more or less BORN into our level of status? Not according to Marcus Aurelius, the Roman Emperor. He was born with a speech impediment. But that didn't stop him. He overcame it by filling his mouth with rocks and yelling at the ocean. And taking plenty of time to increase his oratory skills. Pulling himself up by his bootstraps to become leader of the known world. If you WANT to increase you frame strength you can. Even better is that today we live in a world where the average frame strength is about as WEAK as it's ever been. Which means with just a little bit of practice, you can DOMINATE. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar15Post.mp4 It's common to have folks who are successful in one area of life, but suck in others. A common movie character, and fairly common real life character is the guy who is a smooth-playing, lady-killer. The guy whose got tons of notches on his bed, but always behind on his rent. Or the guy who is the killer of the boardroom, master of negotiations, but gets floored and obliterated when his wife says she is leaving him. This is also true in sports. Michael Jordan, arguably one of the best basketball players of all time, absolutely sucked at baseball. He tried and failed miserably. Many "skills" are like this. Very narrowly applicable. Others are much more widely applicable. Things like general endurance, muscle strength and agility. The more you have all three of these, the more you'll be better in pretty much any sport. Mental skills can also be treated the same way. Take confidence for example. You might have mad confidence that you can cook the most delicious meal west of the Mississippi. You might also have mad confidence to play some decent songs on the piano, so long as nobody is watching. But when there's a party, and somebody mentions that you play, you shrink inside, terrified somebody might ask you to perform. Most of us are plenty confident doing plenty of things, so long as nobody is watching. But even the most accomplished actors suffer from stage fright. Some A-list actors NEVER watch their own movies. So long as other people are telling them WHAT to say, how to say it, their fine. But they are TERRIFIED of having to objectively judge themselves. This is one skill is very rare, but very powerful if you can cultivate it. The one skill that says: If I like my performance, that's all that matters. If I'm satisfied with my accomplishments, that's all that matters. Most of us try VERY HARD to pretend to believe this, but this is human self deception at its finest. If we TRULY didn't care what others thought about us, we would feel the SAME doing things in front of others as when doing those same things on our own. VERY FEW people truly feel this way. But consider this to be one of the most holy grail ideals of our human existence. To live as if OUR value of OURSELVES is more important than others' value of us. It's very EASY to fake this. To pretend it is real. But very, very few people live this. If you can approach this, the benefits are enormous. If you can slowly improve this, the benefits will continue to grow. Because the more YOU like and genuinely approve of yourself, so will everybody else. Most people follow others. But once you genuinely like and approve of yourself, others will follow you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar13Post.mp4 The other day I saw this pretty cool gif. One of those short, animated ones. It was (I think) a lady sitting on the edge of a cliff. Not really a cliff, a huge rock formation. The edge wasn't really an edge, more like an ever increasing slope. And since it was a rock, and not dirt, she seemed to have a lot of grip, due to the surface of the rock. But she kept sliding forward. Because the curve was pretty gradual, it looked liked she might go sliding off the edge at any point. Then the camera zoomed out, and you could see what might happen if she slid only a couple more inches further. It was only a small, low resolution, two or three second gif. But it make me wince, and say out loud: "Holy crap, dude!" Just watching things like this makes us FEEL things. They think the part of our brain that makes us feel "sympathetic emotions" when watching others helped to maintain tribal cohesion in our ancient past. If we saw somebody in trouble, we would "feel it" ourselves, and that feeling would motivate us to help get them OUT of trouble. This would motivate us to help others, but partially for our own selfish reasons. By helping them, we eliminate their pain, so we eliminate our pain. We also feel good about ourselves for helping them. They'll remember us for helping them, and so will all the people who saw us help them. Key to all of this the "mirror neuron" effect. We see other people experience things, and we feel the same effect. It's hard to watch a guy on YouTube get kicked in the nuts and NOT wince, at least a little bit. This is ALSO one technique people use to judge us. Not judge in a negative way, but to get a quick read of who we are, our personality, whether we are friend of foe, etc. This happens quickly and mostly subconsciously. You see somebody shifty, and you just KNOW to avoid them. Or you see somebody who is confident and you KNOW they are good person to have around. We are ALWAYS projecting our opinion of ourselves, how we feel about the situation we are in, and how well we think we can handle ourselves. If you are up to no good, and trying to con people, you'll give off the "creepy" kind of vibe. If you are confident in yourself, your abilities, and your overall world in general, this will give off a much different vibe. In a very short handed, powerful way, the more you LIKE YOURSELF, the more others will like you as well. This has to be genuine, and not faked. Luckily, there are plenty of ways that you can slowly, consistently and easily INCREASE how much you like yourself. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar10Post.mp4 One of the top compelling forces of persuasion is scarcity. Even when it's blatantly fake, it still works. The less of something there is, the more we want it. The less of something there is, the more we value it. This was famously demonstrated in the cookie jar experiment. A bunch of people were asked to take a cookie from a jar, eat it, and then fill out a taste questionnaire. When the cookie jar was nearly full, it had an average level of quality. When the cookie jar was nearly empty, it had a much HIGHER perceived quality. From a marketing and advertising standpoint, there are TONS of ways to leverage scarcity. Scarcity of product. Scarcity of availability. Scarcity of information. As an individual, there are also plenty of ways to leverage scarcity. To dramatically increase the perceived value of YOU. Remember, same cookie, nearly empty jar = VERY TASTY. Same cookie, full jar = AVERAGE TASTY. Unfortunately, people kind of mess this up. Especially when romance kicks in. This is when you call too much, text too much, make yourself too available. You are making yourself very much like the FULL cookie jar. On the other hand, when you call or text sporadically, and infrequently, this creates the nearly empty cookie jar effect. VERY DELICIOUS! But even within an interpersonal relationship, one that is already established, you can INCREASE or DECREASE your perceived scarcity. Even if you live with somebody, and you both have work from home jobs, and you are both super agoraphobic (scared to go outside). How the heck can you INCREASE scarcity when you live with and see somebody 24/7? By setting boundaries. Personal boundaries are like nearly empty cookie jars. No personal boundaries are like overflowing cookie jars. But this is also a two way street. By setting boundaries, you are demonstrating value. By setting and defining boundaries, you are demonstrating that YOU value YOU. And when YOU value YOU, other people will value YOU. The MORE you value YOU, the more other people will value you. Enter the chicken and the egg. Or the egg and the chicken, whichever you prefer. Simply by CREATING and DEFINING boundaries, YOU will value YOU more. The more you create and set personal boundaries, the more people will value you. Soon, this will become a self-fulfilling cycle. The more you value you more, the more they value you more, which will make you value you more. All it takes is a first few steps. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar09Post.mp4 When I was in high school, I had a lot of friends who liked to work on cars. They LOVED the movie, "Mad Max." The guy had a cool car with a cool engine. Not only did he have a huge "blower" but a nitrous oxide injections system. Whenever he was chasing the bad guys, he'd casually flip the nitrous switch and his car would faster than everybody else's. This is a very common theme with good guys vs. bad guys. The good guys ALWAYS have a secret stash of power somewhere. Even on one of the Star Trek crossover movies, the Next Generation and the original, they had a conversation between the two engineers. Scotty, the original engineer, was asking the Next Generation engineer how fast the engines would go. Then he asked him again, how fast they REALLY went. Confused, the Next Generation engineer game him the same answer. To which Scotty said, "never tell the captain how fast the engines will REALLY go." This, unfortunately, is one story we tell ourselves. That if we REALLY wanted to do something, we could. It's just that we really don't want to. We very much LIKE to believe that we'll "rise to the occasion" if we need to. But we never really need to. This is a very comfortable, and very safe self deception that keeps us on the sidelines. But it's also based on another misunderstanding. We see somebody do something that WE want to do. And we imagine US doing that same thing, and we imagine it is TERRIFYING. So we assume, that the ONLY way we'll be able to do that is by gaining tons of CONFIDENCE. That we'll need that confidence to overcome the fears and anxieties between where we are, and where we want to be. This is not true. This is confusing COURAGE and CONFIDENCE. Courage is doing things that are scary. That's useful, but it's HORRIBLE strategy. Especially for day to day things, like talking to attractive people, speaking our mind, and being assertive when we need to. Courage is one of those "only when you need it" things. Saving people from burning buildings, stopping a murder in progress, etc. For everything else, we need CONFIDENCE. Confidence is simply a bunch of memories of doing something successfully. Most people are confident making toast, confident doing their laundry, confident telling raunchy jokes to their buddies. Because we've done that stuff before, we KNOW we can do it again. But what about the other stuff? Talking comfortably to strangers, being persuasive and seductive, or giving an effective speech? Turns out gaining confidence in those areas is pretty easy. It's all a matter of re-calibrating your memories. Of learning how to better reference the experiences you've already had. And when you do this, you'll be surprised how EASY most everything really is. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar07Post.mp4 A common prank to play on friends is to put a sign on somebody's back. This is also a common tactic of school yard bullies. Everybody sees the sign, and laughs. But the guy with the sign can't see it, so he doesn't know why people are laughing at him. With friends, this can be pretty funny. But in a bullying situation, it can be vicious and mean. One way to think of teasing among friends is a "toughening up" to protect against the bullies. Like play fighting between lion cubs. Another way to look at the "sign on the back" prank is the difference between objective and subjective. When you have a sign on your back, it's objective to everybody. But from a subjective standpoint, you have no idea why they are laughing. So in the bully situation, this brings up your worst fears. This is our ancient brains at work. We have a very strong, very ancient "better safe than sorry" mechanism built in. Our ancient ancestors assumed the worst when they heard a strange noise. The guys that DIDN'T assume the worst were eventually eliminated from the gene pool. Unfortunately, that "better safe than sorry" programming is still alive and kicking. When we don't know what, specifically, is wrong, we can assume the worst. So if you're walking around with a sign on your back, and people are laughing at you don't know why, we tend to assume the worst. At least on a subconscious level. This is why we also have the "play fighting" instinct. To slowly toughen us up. Unfortunately, many of us don't have a lot of experience with play fighting. We are wandering around as adults, and we are still vulnerable to plenty of things in our external environment that will trigger our "worst case fears" response. This can create some pretty bad cycles. We fear the worst, so we behave in a way that will increase the probability of the worst. On the other hand, people with a lot of "play fighting" experience will have the opposite effect. They tend to assume the best, which will cause them to behave in way that will increase the likelihood of those positive things happening. Another way to see this continuum is within cause-effect. Those who feel more "at cause" will tend to see positive things. Others, who feel they are more of "an effect" will tend to see negative things. One person feels in control of their environment. Another person feels at the mercy of the SAME environment. Luckily, how we see ourselves within our environment is VERY flexible. Which means no matter where you are now, you can always get better. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July1Post.mp4 It's a very common idea in pop psychology that communication is mostly non-verbal. This is mostly evident in situations where people are kind of "feeling each other out." If you were writing a technical report, short story or script, then the words are obviously WAY more important. But in any one-on-one communication, when you don't know each other well, the words aren't really that important. In job interviews, for example, plenty of companies toss out really off the wall questions NOT because they are interested in the verbal part of your answer, but to see HOW you answer. If you look at them sideways and say, "How the F should I know?!" that will tell them one thing. If your eyes bug out, you panic and remain silent, that will tell them something else. If you remain calm, think out loud and come to a decent answer, that will tell them another thing completely. In any kind of job that isn't based on rote memorization, they very much WANT people who can think of their feet, ESPECIALLY when unexpected things happen. Turns out this is the SAME energy that people look for in natural leaders. It's one thing to have plenty of experience in a lot of specific situations. So when those specific situations come up, you know what to do. But you're on a completely different level when you can come up against completely NEW situations and know how to handle them. Most people, when they come up against the unknown, tend to look around and hope somebody will tell them what to do. Paradoxically, the ability to easily handle the unknown doesn't have much to do with intelligence. It has to do with a rock solid belief in your ability to handle stuff that comes up. Not just the easy stuff. All stuff. The common response that people have, when they get stuck and look around for somebody to tell them what to do is because their brains FREEZE. And once anybody's brain is frozen, in-the-moment creativity is impossible. The trick is to ALWAYS remain relaxed enough so your natural creativity will be as powerful as possible when you need it. Nobody EVER knows what to do in unknown situations. Otherwise they wouldn't be unknown. But so long as you think of a few different POTENTIAL solutions, try each one out just a little bit, you WILL find a solution. And since most people suffer from frozen brain syndrome, YOU will be the person they look to for leadership. Getting to this level is much easier than most people realize. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
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  13. When you were a kid, your mom was worried about you hanging out with the wrong crowd. Studies show that our adult personalities are made of two things. Genetics, which we get from our parents. And our non-family peer group, what we get from our friends. This is why when if you start hanging out with bad influences, your parents will be worried. This is also why the Eddie Haskell character from "Leave it to Beaver" was funny. When he was around Wally and Beaver (the two main characters) he was a bad influence. But as soon as an adult showed up, he turned up the charm. The interesting thing is specifically HOW we "pick up" those bad habits from the Eddie Haskell characters. We don't consciously copy them. We unconsciously model them. We unconsciously "soak up" their qualities. This only works if we ADMIRE them. We don't unconsciously soak up characteristics from people we DON'T admire. This is why modeling rarely works in the classroom. Unless the teacher has an ATTRACTIVE frame, and part of that attractive frame is doing what they are teaching. This is why it is VERY HARD to teach ANYTHING you aren't really passionate about. Saying you're passionate won't work. You have to BE passionate. If you were a math teacher, for example, and you REALLY LOVED doing long division, your students would have a much easier time learning it. But since most teachers don't really enjoy long division, most students think it sucks. Because most teachers recognize that it sucks. The most important thing you can do is be passionate about YOURSELF. The more you are naturally passionate about YOURSELF, the more others will naturally be attracted to you BECAUSE of that passion for yourself. This doesn't mean standing in front of the mirror and saying, "I love you," for ten minutes every morning. This means you SHOW your passion by how much you enjoy BEING yourself. If you ENJOY being in your own skin, living your own life, then everybody else will very much want to be around you. But here's the weird part. It doesn't matter WHAT it is about your life, or being YOU, that you enjoy so much. So long as you REALLY DIG your life, so will everybody else. Maybe that comes across as how you appreciate imagining your life in a year or two. Maybe that comes across when you stop and really appreciate the simple things. Most people get confused, and think they need to have objectively valuable CONTENT. Money, looks, status, etc. But you don't. You just need to start practicing a few simple mental exercises to BUILD your self appreciation. The MORE you appreciate YOURSELF, the more others will appreciate YOU. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/walk-away/
  14. Ok so I never Thought I'd say this!! And I'm not embarrassed, at all, Here is my story! I've always had medium sized perky breasts, hot body to match. not skinny not fat, I felt healthy and sexy. So since my break up, I guess I've been a bit stressed, and noticed my bra was too big, so are all my clothes, I've shrunk all over. Not happy, with the breasts shrinking , but I'm going to try the Perfect Breasts Video for a while. And another Sexy Body one(not sure yet.). Bikini Body Is My Choice I'll get back with how I'm travelling in a few weeks. This will be good .. ( . )( .)
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