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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/May06Post.mp4 Back when I was in high school, I ran cross country. And even before that, I was an avid jogger. And I used to play these tricks on myself when I was out running. One of them was when I turned up my street, and only had a hundred yards left, I would play mind games on myself. I would pretend that I was running to the end of my street. But my house was only halfway up. This would give me some mental energy to push all the way through. This was to counter a habit I'd had of slowing into the finish line. You can find this idea in plenty of areas. Pretending you are going much further than you really are. If you have a target, and you don't hit it, it sucks. But if you can "trick" yourself that your target is much higher than it really is, even if you don't hit your "fake" target, you'll hit your real target. Most people do the opposite. They don't hit their real target. So they pretend that their real target was LOWER than it was. This kind of reframing happens AFTER the fact. The other kind, with the fake target higher, is best done BEFORE the attempt. This is a very useful model to use when learning any kind conversational techniques. This does require you have a long term goal. A long term goal that is a very important, life goal. More of a "horizon" goal than the specific goal. For example, suppose you wanted to become the absolute most persuasive person on Earth. This is not something you can EVER achieve. But it is something you can keep getting CLOSER to. And the more persuasive you are, the much easier life will be. Pretty much everything you can think of REQUIRES you interact with somebody in SOME capacity. Job interviews, writing sales letters, convincing friends and family members, etc. So why not practice on the HARDEST and MOST ABUNDANT targets there are? Who? Attractive women. Most guys have this fantasy that when they see "the one" they'll rise to the occasion. The problem is, most guys have the AFTER THE FACT reframing strategy. They see a girl pop up out of nowhere. They try to talk to her, get her number, etc. They fail spectacularly. And then REFRAME that girl as NOT being the one. As only being PRACTICE. Which means they'll NEVER meet "the one." Instead, consider the opposite strategy. Of deciding, beforehand, that EVERY GIRL you ever talk to is practice. Because once you are comfortable talking to girls, EVERY OTHER persuasive conversation will be EASY by comparison. Job interviews. Convincing friends to go your way. Even girls you are INTERESTED in. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-seduction/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar15Post.mp4 It's common to have folks who are successful in one area of life, but suck in others. A common movie character, and fairly common real life character is the guy who is a smooth-playing, lady-killer. The guy whose got tons of notches on his bed, but always behind on his rent. Or the guy who is the killer of the boardroom, master of negotiations, but gets floored and obliterated when his wife says she is leaving him. This is also true in sports. Michael Jordan, arguably one of the best basketball players of all time, absolutely sucked at baseball. He tried and failed miserably. Many "skills" are like this. Very narrowly applicable. Others are much more widely applicable. Things like general endurance, muscle strength and agility. The more you have all three of these, the more you'll be better in pretty much any sport. Mental skills can also be treated the same way. Take confidence for example. You might have mad confidence that you can cook the most delicious meal west of the Mississippi. You might also have mad confidence to play some decent songs on the piano, so long as nobody is watching. But when there's a party, and somebody mentions that you play, you shrink inside, terrified somebody might ask you to perform. Most of us are plenty confident doing plenty of things, so long as nobody is watching. But even the most accomplished actors suffer from stage fright. Some A-list actors NEVER watch their own movies. So long as other people are telling them WHAT to say, how to say it, their fine. But they are TERRIFIED of having to objectively judge themselves. This is one skill is very rare, but very powerful if you can cultivate it. The one skill that says: If I like my performance, that's all that matters. If I'm satisfied with my accomplishments, that's all that matters. Most of us try VERY HARD to pretend to believe this, but this is human self deception at its finest. If we TRULY didn't care what others thought about us, we would feel the SAME doing things in front of others as when doing those same things on our own. VERY FEW people truly feel this way. But consider this to be one of the most holy grail ideals of our human existence. To live as if OUR value of OURSELVES is more important than others' value of us. It's very EASY to fake this. To pretend it is real. But very, very few people live this. If you can approach this, the benefits are enormous. If you can slowly improve this, the benefits will continue to grow. Because the more YOU like and genuinely approve of yourself, so will everybody else. Most people follow others. But once you genuinely like and approve of yourself, others will follow you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb14Post.mp4 Science is pretty cool, but also pretty wacky. Not really, since our brains can't really handle much. At least not intuitively. We can only make sense of very simple interactions. We see A happen, and we can sort of predict that B might happen. Even Bastiat, and old school economist from a couple centuries ago noted this. He said it's not what you see that's important, it's what you don't see. He wasn't talking about ghosts or spirits. He was talking about the more complex outcomes of the things we see. We'll see A happen, and figure that would probably cause B. But what we DON'T see is that B might cause C, and C might lead to D and E, but only under certain conditions. In the realm of economics, this is what explains the "law of unintended consequences." This is because in the world of economics, pretty much EVERYTHING is connected. You change something way over here, and the effects will work it's way through the system. Eventually, sometimes a few years later, it will create outcomes that nobody could have predicted. If you are LOCKED into simple, "A causes B" thinking, you will be very limited. For example, somebody gives you some advice. You imagine doing that advice, and you can't imagine how that advice will lead DIRECTLY to a positive outcome. So you think the advice is wrong, or misguided. This is a trick. To not only protect your ego, but to keep you safely on the sidelines. You get to PRETEND that you are being smart, but not taking risks. But in reality, if anything was that easy, everybody would be doing it. Everybody could hear advice to do A, for example. And everybody would imagine how A would lead directly to B, that positive outcome. And EVERYBODY would do A to get B. And then EVERYBODY would have B. This the trouble with ONLY taking action when you have a sure thing. Since it's a sure thing, EVERYBODY can do it. So if you want to get MORE than you have right NOW, you've got to DO THINGS that others are too scared to try. Nobody ever got rich without taking risks. Nobody get got the hot guy or girl without taking risks. Nobody ever got mad skills without experiencing the opportunity costs. Luckily, you don't need to take HUGE risks. You don't need to expose yourself to HUGE opportunity costs. Just a little bit at a time. While everybody is safely staring at social media, or TV, or whatever their comfort zone allows, you can be building skills. Skills that will get you whatever you want. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/sugar-baby-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb10Post.mp4 Humans are fantastic at self deception. We want something, but we are too terrified to try and get it. So we pretend we don't want it. Even better, is we do this by taking the reason we don't want it, and use that very same reason to make ourselves feel BETTER than everybody else. Humans are not only primates, but hierarchical primates. Self-organizing, hierarchical primates. But since the primate, self-organizing hierarchy part of us was around LONG before conscious thought, it operates mostly subconsciously. And part of being a hierarchical primate is ALWAYS needing to come up with a story of WHY we are better than everybody else. For example, guy sees a cute girl at a bar. He would LOVE to get down with her. But he imagines approaching, and getting shot down. Or worse, he imagines approaching, being successful in the short term, but getting his emotions obliterated in the long term. This happens in two or three nanoseconds. What comes next is the ego protection reframe. He decides to NOT approach. But he does in a way that makes him feel BETTER for not approaching. As if he COULD approach if he wanted, but he's choosing not to. Why? Because SHE is not his type. She is INFERIOR in some way. I mean, just look at the way she's dressed! Of course, this is all a lie. How do we KNOW it's a lie? Because if she walked over and seduced him, he would NOT resist. Not one bit. If she decided to seduce him, get him to fall in love with her, have a couple of his children, he would not resist. Life is funny that way. The way we are SUPPOSED to do things is the HARDEST way. Men are supposed to approach women. Men are supposed to get the ball rolling. But few men do. This is one of the main reasons why so many women are ANGRY today. If you're a man, and you want to stand out, you've got to get off the sidelines. There's no other way. If you're a woman, it's much, much easier than you realize. But ONLY if you do the OPPOSITE of what you're supposed to do. Most ladies believe it's the man's job to approach, and to get the ball rolling. Sure, that's the common idea. But that's just a suggestion. Kind of like a red light in the middle of nowhere. If you are a lady, and you would like to clean up, there's NEVER been a better time. Clean up how? Any way you want. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/sugar-baby-hypnosis/
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Rich Romans and Broke Samurai: https://mindpersuasion.com/broke-samurais-and-wealthy-romans/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July22Loop.mp4
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https://mindpersuasion.com/sex-beliefs-and-social-status/
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Most things can easily be seen in two parts. Night and day. Yin and Yang. Good and bad. Parasympathetic and sympathetic. Working and resting. Creating and re-creating. Sleeping and waking. Darkness and light. This is one of those chicken and egg questions. Does our body have all kind of dual functions because that is the nature of the universe? Or do we only perceive it so BECAUSE our body has plenty of dual functions? These kinds of questions are fun to talk about. But the essentially don't help us much. A lot of things can be seen in many different ways. I had a girlfriend in high school and we'd always get into arguments. I would like to talk about these things. While she would wish somebody would show up and tell us the answer. Some people like to search. Others would rather know. Sometimes, though, you don't to have to do one or the other. Take working and relaxing, for example. Way back in the day, there was a very clear distinction between the two. Working was the acquisition of needed calories to stay alive. Hunting or farming. And then later working in a factory. There was work, which was hard. Then there was relaxation, which was easy. But today, most everything is in a transition. Probably a very significant one. So the idea of ONLY working or ONLY relaxing isn't such a good idea any more. It makes sense to find activities that satisfy BOTH. There is an idea that we SHOULD love our job. Consider that to be an IDEAL, not an achievable goal. Ultimately, we do jobs because we get money. But the more you ENJOY doing the things you get money, the easier it will seem. And the more you'll enjoy thinking about it. If you HATE your job, it's hard to creatively think about how to make it more productive and lucrative. But if you can start to slide into a job you enjoy more, dreaming up better ways of being productive won't be so bad. You can start by looking at any overlaps between hobbies and skill learning. If you can find a hobby that is enjoyable on its, AND may point you in the direction of money-making skills, you could be onto something. Ideally you'd like to have a collection of skills that satisfy three criteria. You enjoy doing them, you're good at it, AND you can make some decent money. You hit all three and you've got it made. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-help-fail/
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https://mindpersuasion.com/consciousness-hallucination/
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One of the reasons economics is called the “dismal science” is because of the idea of opportunity costs. If you’ve got ten bucks in your pocket, you can buy whatever you can get for ten bucks. Whatever you decide to buy, when you hand over that ten bucks, that’s the direct cost. The opportunity costs are all the things you CAN’T buy once you make your decision. Say you’re in fast food land. And you decide to buy a gigantic carne asada burrito combo with your ten bucks. The opportunity costs are all the things you CAN’T buy once you decide on the burrito. Nachos, burgers, a fat blunt, anything. Opportunity costs are one of the main reason we don’t go after goals. Everybody wants more money, more love, more sex, more free time, quieter neighbors, more respect, etc. But we also enjoy all the stuff we enjoy. And once we start doing things to GET the things we want, we MUST stop doing some of the things we like doing. Even WORSE is the idea that we are wasting our time. Meaning we might spend year trying something that will hopefully get us more money, but what if it doesn’t work? That would be horrible! Not only can we NOT DO the things we would have done (opportunity costs) but the stuff we ARE doing aren’t getting us SQUAT! Instead, we prefer to “imagine” that one day through some kind of “magic” the stuff we want will just “happen” somehow. Without any effort on our part. In the present moment, this is an easy and comfortable thought. But since it’s a fantasy, thinking this way comes with its own opportunity costs. While you are sitting around waiting for the magic wish fairy to show up, you could be doing REAL things that will give you REAL improvement. Developing the base skills that NEED to exist beneath every other skill. The mental practice and rehearsal exercises that will make all other skills easy. The mental foundations of ALL success. What are these, exactly? You can learn all about them. Here: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
