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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July27Post.mp4 We like people with strong frames. This is as instinctive as liking food that tastes good. We like people who are confident that they can handle things that come up. But unfortunately, there are very few people like this in real life. And the "alpha types" in the movies are almost always incorrectly written. Very serious, never smiling, always scowling, kind of a brooding, loner type. What would a REAL alpha be like? Let's imagine this from an ancient, instinctive perspective. Alpha, of course, is a leader. The guy who figures out what to do. The guy who makes sure EVERYBODY is taken care of. The guy you can approach and ask for help if you need to. The guy who makes sure that the team brings home the food. And that they are all safe. And the alpha is the guy who inspires the tribe. The guy who motivates them to do the scary stuff. Like an ideal football coach. Not mean, not a pushover, but a guy who wants you to win, and wants you to win by stepping up. I had a friend that was a baseball coach. He had a very clever way of testing his players to see if they were in "game mode." For example, if he had a pitcher that was struggling, he'd walk out to the mound. He wanted to test his frame of mind. If he was relaxed and confident, he would pass the test. If was too nervous, too worried to concentrate, he wouldn't pass the test. What was the test? A simple joke. The kind jokes baseball players tell each other when they are relaxed, and clowning. Humor is a very, very versatile tool. He would watch the pitcher's face, and see how he reacted. If there was no reaction, he was too stressed. On the other hand, if he could forget the game just for a second, and laugh, then he was OK. Consider that a fine sense of humor is a very necessary alpha trait. If you take yourself too seriously, it's going to give off weird vibes. A sense of humor can be considered the ULTIMATE alpha trait. Why? Having a SENSE of humor requires very fine emotionally calibrated intelligence. You have to know when to listen to somebody they are being serious. You have to know when their emotions shift, and the right time to deliver a humorous reframe. Even better is if you can experience your own problems and make jokes about them. Both to yourself, and to others. This demonstrates to others that no matter what happens, you won't lose your mental balance. This is a true definition of leadership. By effectively being able to lead yourself, you'll easily be able to lead others. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/humor-brilliance/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar16Post.mp4 Holding a strong frame is a very necessary skill. One might say it's THE most important skill. Socrates was murdered for proving that all the goofs in charge couldn't "prove" anything they thought was a logical reason for being in power. Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius noted that EVERYTHING is opinion. One dude famously came up with the basic idea that EVERYBODY is governed by the ancient law, "might makes right." This might not seem to be true, especially in a polite society. But if you tune your brain to see this structure, you'll see it everywhere. Most conversations, even casual ones, are "idea contests." And they are NOT a bunch of logicians like Spock dissecting each idea to find the strongest, objective, TRUTH. Idea contests, between friends and presidential hopefuls are based on how STRONGLY you present your idea. Cult leaders have an INSANELY strong connection to their crazy beliefs. That is why they are so compelling. Their frame strength is HUGE. The most charismatic politicians don't really have any ideas better or worse than the rest of the power hungry goofs. They just present them with very strong frames. This does make sense. We humans split from chimps several million years ago. We only invented language a hundred thousand years ago. What exists UNDER our language? A very ancient, hierarchy contest. Primates live in hierarchies. Humans live in hierarchies. The STRONGER your frame, the higher up you'll be. The higher up you get, the BETTER everything will be. More money, more sex, more love, more opportunities, more everything. This is something that NOBODY wants you to know. Particularly those at the TOP. The ones that HAVE the most power. Funny how once they GET power, they tell us we SHOULDN'T want power. That we should behave like good little primates and do as we're told. When chimps compete for hierarchy dominance, they do through naked aggression. When humans compete for hierarchy dominance, we do through frame battles. Most of which are done by friendly people sharing friendly ideas. If you don't know about this stuff, it seems VERY fair, polite, even CIVILIZED. But underneath that politeness is the ANCIENT frame battle that powers all primates, including us. Now for the MONEY question. How can you BUILD your frame? Are we like chimps, where we are more or less BORN into our level of status? Not according to Marcus Aurelius, the Roman Emperor. He was born with a speech impediment. But that didn't stop him. He overcame it by filling his mouth with rocks and yelling at the ocean. And taking plenty of time to increase his oratory skills. Pulling himself up by his bootstraps to become leader of the known world. If you WANT to increase you frame strength you can. Even better is that today we live in a world where the average frame strength is about as WEAK as it's ever been. Which means with just a little bit of practice, you can DOMINATE. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar14Post.mp4 Getting free stuff is easy. Expecting free stuff is even easier. This is a very dangerous trap. Even for pure economic reasons, it's very dangerous. It doesn't take a lot of skill to receive free stuff. It doesn't take a lot of skill to expect free stuff. On the other hand, it's pretty easy to convince people that they "deserve" or they "should" get free stuff. Sure, if you are perfectly happy to stay safely in the middle, never be more than average, this is a decent strategy. On the other hand, if you want more than what you have now, if you want to have and BE better than average, you've got to DO better than average things. One of the most critical distinctions a person has to make in life is understanding the difference between "you" and your behaviors. We all see the world through the lens of the "I" inside of "us." But all the other people can ONLY see our behaviors. The things we do. The things we produce or create. They absolutely CAN NOT see the "I" inside. Not the "I," nor the opinion we have of that "I" inside. At the same time, that "I" inside drives our outer behaviors. Those things others HAVE to use to make a determination about us. The way we walk, the way we talk, the content of our speech, the content of our lives. When we are young, there is only "I" inside. But as we transition out and into the world, we need to see the "I" inside as only the DRIVING force of our behaviors. When we are young, that "I" inside is defined and determined by others, by how they treat us. But as we get older, that "I" inside is only a starting point. We have to transition to defining that "I" inside not by others, but by our own behaviors and actions. ANYBODY can be lazy and not productive, and still hang on to the idea that the "I" inside is spectacular, special and unique. But unless we are still DEPENDENT on others for our survival, NOBODY is going to give ANY consideration to OUR opinion of ourselves. The ONLY thing that those around us can use to judge us by is our BEHAVIORS. Most of this is subconscious and something most folks never think about. Most people will NEVER get past the point of a childhood description of the "I" inside and the behaviors it drives. But there is MUCH MORE potential than our factory settings. The most important transition is to begin to re-define, on a daily basis, your own interpretation of that "I" inside. Better "I" creates better behaviors, which creates better responses, which creates a more robust description of the "I" inside. Get this cycle going, and never stop. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar09Post.mp4 When I was in high school, I had a lot of friends who liked to work on cars. They LOVED the movie, "Mad Max." The guy had a cool car with a cool engine. Not only did he have a huge "blower" but a nitrous oxide injections system. Whenever he was chasing the bad guys, he'd casually flip the nitrous switch and his car would faster than everybody else's. This is a very common theme with good guys vs. bad guys. The good guys ALWAYS have a secret stash of power somewhere. Even on one of the Star Trek crossover movies, the Next Generation and the original, they had a conversation between the two engineers. Scotty, the original engineer, was asking the Next Generation engineer how fast the engines would go. Then he asked him again, how fast they REALLY went. Confused, the Next Generation engineer game him the same answer. To which Scotty said, "never tell the captain how fast the engines will REALLY go." This, unfortunately, is one story we tell ourselves. That if we REALLY wanted to do something, we could. It's just that we really don't want to. We very much LIKE to believe that we'll "rise to the occasion" if we need to. But we never really need to. This is a very comfortable, and very safe self deception that keeps us on the sidelines. But it's also based on another misunderstanding. We see somebody do something that WE want to do. And we imagine US doing that same thing, and we imagine it is TERRIFYING. So we assume, that the ONLY way we'll be able to do that is by gaining tons of CONFIDENCE. That we'll need that confidence to overcome the fears and anxieties between where we are, and where we want to be. This is not true. This is confusing COURAGE and CONFIDENCE. Courage is doing things that are scary. That's useful, but it's HORRIBLE strategy. Especially for day to day things, like talking to attractive people, speaking our mind, and being assertive when we need to. Courage is one of those "only when you need it" things. Saving people from burning buildings, stopping a murder in progress, etc. For everything else, we need CONFIDENCE. Confidence is simply a bunch of memories of doing something successfully. Most people are confident making toast, confident doing their laundry, confident telling raunchy jokes to their buddies. Because we've done that stuff before, we KNOW we can do it again. But what about the other stuff? Talking comfortably to strangers, being persuasive and seductive, or giving an effective speech? Turns out gaining confidence in those areas is pretty easy. It's all a matter of re-calibrating your memories. Of learning how to better reference the experiences you've already had. And when you do this, you'll be surprised how EASY most everything really is. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar08Post.mp4 The discovery of electricity was a pretty pivotal thing. It led to a lot more stuff to be invented. Electricity, at it's core, is energy. The story of human history is closely related to the story of energy. How, specifically, is electricity made? You spin some magnets around some copper wires and it creates an electrical current. But this was ONLY possible once they discovered fossil fuels. You could, theoretically, create electricity by burning wood. But since wood doesn't burn very hot, AND it burns up pretty quickly, you'd need a TON of wood to power a couple of houses. You can also power steam engines with wood. The concept is the same. This is something the ancient Greeks knew about. You burn wood, boil some water, and the rising steam makes things spin around. This is how they make electricity, only they don't burn wood. They use coal, or nuclear energy, or sometimes the heat from deep within the Earth. But this process ONLY works if you have ENOUGH energy to boil ENOUGH water to spin the things around to make electricity. This is one reason why all of Galileo's inventions were only on paper. Everything NEEDS energy. Our bodies need energy. The story of human progress is the story of more and more energy use. First, we had to use OUR OWN energy to run after animals. Then we could leverage the energy of fire, to hunt, to cook, and to stay safe. Then agriculture, which leverages the sun, the earth, some nutrients, human planning, and water. The more ENERGY we've figured out how to use, the more progress we make. You can easily draw a parallel to individual human behavior. You can understand the skills, but not have the "energy" to use them. You can make the most beautiful and compelling presentations in front of a mirror, but collapse into a heap of anxiety whenever somebody watches you. This is very similar to knowing HOW to boil water to spin things around, but not having enough ENERGY to make it worthwhile. When it comes to inter personal behavior, there are SKILLS and there is the ENERGY behind those skills. All the skills without the energy is very much like Galileo's drawings. They look cool in the ABSTRACT. But without much energy, they don't DO much. Energy, on the other hand, is very powerful. Personal energy much more so. Because when you speak with just a LITTLE BIT of energy, it will make EVERYTHING much better. And when you increase both? Both power, and the skills that are driven by that POWER? You become unstoppable. What kind of power is this? Find Out: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar07Post.mp4 A common prank to play on friends is to put a sign on somebody's back. This is also a common tactic of school yard bullies. Everybody sees the sign, and laughs. But the guy with the sign can't see it, so he doesn't know why people are laughing at him. With friends, this can be pretty funny. But in a bullying situation, it can be vicious and mean. One way to think of teasing among friends is a "toughening up" to protect against the bullies. Like play fighting between lion cubs. Another way to look at the "sign on the back" prank is the difference between objective and subjective. When you have a sign on your back, it's objective to everybody. But from a subjective standpoint, you have no idea why they are laughing. So in the bully situation, this brings up your worst fears. This is our ancient brains at work. We have a very strong, very ancient "better safe than sorry" mechanism built in. Our ancient ancestors assumed the worst when they heard a strange noise. The guys that DIDN'T assume the worst were eventually eliminated from the gene pool. Unfortunately, that "better safe than sorry" programming is still alive and kicking. When we don't know what, specifically, is wrong, we can assume the worst. So if you're walking around with a sign on your back, and people are laughing at you don't know why, we tend to assume the worst. At least on a subconscious level. This is why we also have the "play fighting" instinct. To slowly toughen us up. Unfortunately, many of us don't have a lot of experience with play fighting. We are wandering around as adults, and we are still vulnerable to plenty of things in our external environment that will trigger our "worst case fears" response. This can create some pretty bad cycles. We fear the worst, so we behave in a way that will increase the probability of the worst. On the other hand, people with a lot of "play fighting" experience will have the opposite effect. They tend to assume the best, which will cause them to behave in way that will increase the likelihood of those positive things happening. Another way to see this continuum is within cause-effect. Those who feel more "at cause" will tend to see positive things. Others, who feel they are more of "an effect" will tend to see negative things. One person feels in control of their environment. Another person feels at the mercy of the SAME environment. Luckily, how we see ourselves within our environment is VERY flexible. Which means no matter where you are now, you can always get better. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct23Post.mp4 I've always been a huge science geek. Way back in Junior High school, I was actually a member of a science book of the month club. I'd read all kinds of books on quantum physics, relativity, etc. Of course, all the math had been stripped out and they were more like philosophy-science than anything difficult. Ever since the dawn of time, humans have been trying to figure out why and how stuff works. The more stuff you understand, the more stuff you can do. Nobody could go to the moon until they understood enough of the science. Some science, even though it's mathematically simple, is hard for us to wrap our monkey brains around. Like Einstein's famous equation. The one that says energy and matter are essentially the SAME thing. It's where nuclear energy comes from. You got a nucleus. You split it in half. You weigh both halves, and they add up to LESS than the original amount. The matter has been converted to energy. This is hard for our brains to wrap around. We look around and we see a bunch of stuff. When this stuff is MOVING, the two things together are energy. But at the quantum level, stuff IS energy. This is only something we humans have been capable of understanding in the last couple hundred years. Language is another curious thing. Most of us don't think much about it. We have these random thoughts, that we spit out with random words. We hear somebody else speaking. Their words go into our brains and create thoughts. Our thoughts make more words that go over into their brain. This cycle keeps going. Most of the time, it's completely out of our conscious awareness. Sure, we KNOW we are having a conversation. We KNOW the stuff we are talking about. But it's kind of like walking down to the 7-11 to buy a box of frozen burritos. You KNOW where you are going. You KNOW why you are going. But HOW you are going isn't something you think about. You just kind of point your brain in that direction, and away you go. But people who study language know there IS a connection between thoughts and words. And that by learning to pay attention to the structure of language, you can understand the structure of thought. Yours and that of others. Kind of like quantum physics for your brain. How can you use this technology? Any way you want. Offensively. Defensively. Playfully. Hypnotically. Seductively. Learn More: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct05Post.mp4 If you were walking down the street, and somebody punched you in the face, that would suck. But you would also plenty of ways to get back. Most people who saw it would agree that it sucks. And plenty of times when this happens, people step in. This is the kind of unwritten rules of a civil society. You can't walk around punching people. So when most people see somebody do this, they don't like it. Even if they didn't step in, if you called the cops, plenty of people would be more than willing to help out. Even in bars or sporting events, when alcohol is involved and people are heated, the "no fighting" rule is generally in place. If two guys are in each others' face screaming, their buddies would watch. Both because that's kind of entertaining. But also to step in just in case they cross over from verbal attacks to physical attacks. If a punch or two is thrown, most people would grab their buddies and pull them back. Getting into a fight may feel good in the moment, but the ramifications can be ruinous. If one of the fighter's has a particularly good lawyer, the other guy can be financially destroyed. All these ideas are built in to society and built in to our brains. To keep random violence from breaking out. But plenty of times people can mess with your verbally. And it can be equally devastating. Especially if it happens in front of others. Many people are very skilled in covert insults. The art of putting people down while looking clever at the same time. Structurally, it's very much like the school yard bully. The bully doesn't have a lot of confidence. The only way he can feel better is by putting others down. This happens socially all the time. Among friends, this is very playful and necessary. But when somebody is only pretending to be your friend, it can be devastating. When you're in a meeting a work, and somebody says something that doesn't quite feel right. Like they just put you down in front of others. You know it, they know it, but you feel utterly defenseless. Sometimes you can TRY to respond, but do so less can confidently, it makes you look even worse. Some people are just natural bullies. They are naturally gifted in the art in the covert put down. Luckily there is a way to respond. To defend yourself. Or to utterly obliterate them. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/weaponized-hypnosis/
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Why Being Yourself Is Excellent Advice: https://mindpersuasion.com/be-yourself-is-excellent-advice/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July23Loop.mp4
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July2Post.mp4 A lot of things exists on continuums. One side is one extreme, another side is another extreme. For example, a very common idea is to be motivated by pain or pleasure. Either being motivated by moving away from pain. Or being motivated toward pleasure. Most are a mix of the two. Too far on either side can cause problems. If you are ONLY motivated away from pain, once you get far enough away so the pain diminishes, you'll lose your motivation. You'll always start things, but never finish. On the other hand, if you are ONLY motivated toward pleasure, the pain won't bother you. You'll always be focused on big projects while late bills pile up. Another continuum is being a cause or an effect. Most people would LOVE the idea of having an easy life, where people tell them EXACTLY what to do, and they do it. And it's get them paid enough to pay the bills and live a decent life. On the other hand, there are people who HATE to be told what to do. These types are always doing their own thing, for better or for worse. Most people with their factory settings, and hope for the best. They are halfway between pain and pleasure, halfway between cause and effect, and that's good enough. But the thing about us humans is we have two kinds of instincts. Our factory setting, and new ones. New instincts are anything we can learn to the level of unconscious competence. Most folks only learn easy things to this level. Things that people teach them. Very few are self-motivated enough to ACTIVELY go out and learn skills. But if you happen to be one of those rare types, you can learn any skill you want. You can move your factory settings to anywhere you want. You can be AT CAUSE when you want to be. You can relax and be an effect when you want to be. This is the real benefit of realizing your ability to learn new instincts. That ANY factory settings you have are ONLY a recommendation. You can be like most people, and accept these and hope for the best. Or you can consciously CHOOSE which new instincts you want, and build them in. Kind of like the difference between choosing an off the shelf computer. Or building one from scratch. To whatever specifications you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July1Post.mp4 It's a very common idea in pop psychology that communication is mostly non-verbal. This is mostly evident in situations where people are kind of "feeling each other out." If you were writing a technical report, short story or script, then the words are obviously WAY more important. But in any one-on-one communication, when you don't know each other well, the words aren't really that important. In job interviews, for example, plenty of companies toss out really off the wall questions NOT because they are interested in the verbal part of your answer, but to see HOW you answer. If you look at them sideways and say, "How the F should I know?!" that will tell them one thing. If your eyes bug out, you panic and remain silent, that will tell them something else. If you remain calm, think out loud and come to a decent answer, that will tell them another thing completely. In any kind of job that isn't based on rote memorization, they very much WANT people who can think of their feet, ESPECIALLY when unexpected things happen. Turns out this is the SAME energy that people look for in natural leaders. It's one thing to have plenty of experience in a lot of specific situations. So when those specific situations come up, you know what to do. But you're on a completely different level when you can come up against completely NEW situations and know how to handle them. Most people, when they come up against the unknown, tend to look around and hope somebody will tell them what to do. Paradoxically, the ability to easily handle the unknown doesn't have much to do with intelligence. It has to do with a rock solid belief in your ability to handle stuff that comes up. Not just the easy stuff. All stuff. The common response that people have, when they get stuck and look around for somebody to tell them what to do is because their brains FREEZE. And once anybody's brain is frozen, in-the-moment creativity is impossible. The trick is to ALWAYS remain relaxed enough so your natural creativity will be as powerful as possible when you need it. Nobody EVER knows what to do in unknown situations. Otherwise they wouldn't be unknown. But so long as you think of a few different POTENTIAL solutions, try each one out just a little bit, you WILL find a solution. And since most people suffer from frozen brain syndrome, YOU will be the person they look to for leadership. Getting to this level is much easier than most people realize. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
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http://mindpersuasion.com/instinct-persuasion/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun26Post.mp4 Human instincts are extremely powerful for a reason. So powerful that they are impossible to ignore. This was so we didn't have to "think" about what to do every day. The trouble is this is hard to "see" in a real way today. Most people will never have a situation where they are hungry for more than a day, and NOT know where they are going to find food. This is why they say that EVERY SOCIETY is always three meals away from a revolution. If EVERYBODY realizes that there is no more food, it won't be long before everybody goes CRAZY. When otherwise normal people are in situations where they think they might actually DIE, they do crazy things to stay alive. Eating bugs, for example is very common. Most normal people, in normal situations would ONLY eat bugs if there was a lot of money on the line. Like on a TV reality game show, for example. But how much would you need to be paid to cut off your own arm? Or eat a dead guy? No amount of money would make anybody do these things. Yet these are things people HAVE done when the believe they will DIE if they don't. This is how strong our instincts are. They are there to keep us safe, and drive us to do INCREDIBLE things when we believe we are in danger. That's ONE of the problems of modern society. We are never in any kind of REAL danger. Which is good, really good. But it's also safe, really safe. This is one reason why soldiers coming back from combat have issues. The way humans are designed is to operate MOST OF THE TIME in life or death situations. After experiencing that, soldiers can have a hard time getting back to normal life. In fact, the ONLY REASON we invented modern society was to stay safe. To stay as far away from those dangerous situations as possible. For most people, are BIGGEST fears are NOT REAL. For our ancestors, our biggest fears were LITERALLY deadly. Today, most of our fears are social based. Things that will ONLY cause emotional pain. Thing is this emotional pain is RELATED to real, physical pain. Being socially ostracized, way back in the day, was a step closer to death. Getting mauled by a saber-toothed tiger WAS death. So in a way, social fears ARE as REAL as things that CAN kill you. Luckily, there's way to kind of con your way around the fear. To slowly build up an emotional resistance. So social fears are no longer real. And so that they no longer bother you. This means you CAN become socially fearless. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun25Post.mp4 Our instincts are like the Borg from Star Trek. Resistance is futile. This is why the willpower diet ALWAYS fails. The only way to lose weight, and keep it off (which, according to studies is INSANELY difficult) is to MANAGE your hunger. To plan your meals carefully. To not eat fast food more than a couple times a week. It's common to fall for the "Hollywood diet" trap. The idea it that movie stars, since they are always ultra ripped, have discovered some secret diet plan. And they sort of HAVE discovered a secret diet plan. It's not the diet, it's the STRATEGY. The only strategy that will EVER defeat our relentless hunger instinct. The secret weapon that can shut down our desire to eat. What, Dear Reader, is that secret weapon? Another instinct. Our instincts are based on ancient programming. Our conscious brains are very recent. Our reptilian brain and mammalian brain are very thick. Our neo-cortex (new brain) is very thin. So the ONLY way to have a fighting chance against ANY of these deeper instincts is to get ANOHTER deeper instinct on your side. For those Hollywood actors, that other instinct is MASSIVE amounts of social status and genuine authority. For most of us normal humans on a quest to lose weight, we'll have the EXACT same lives after we lose weight. Same jobs. Same friends. Same relationships. All those dudes and ladies in the gym getting ripped? It's to GET more sex and social status and even money. Every time they look at themselves in the mirror, they are IMAGINING tons of social recognition. Instinct vs. Instinct. Any time we try and pit our conscious choice against our deep instincts, it's like what that Russian Boxer said in one of the Rocky movies: "You will lose." The ONLY hope we have of overcoming ANY instinct is to figure out a way to get AS MANY of our other instincts on our side. Which means to take some time to IMAGINE the benefits. And put those benefits in terms of instincts. Napoleon was famous for saying, "Men will die for Ribbons." This means he knew, from experience, the BEST WAY to motivate his troops. To give them rewards (ribbons) in front of everybody. Positive social validation given in front of our peers is a VERY STRONG motivator. I used to read a lot of Tom Clancy. The main character was Jack Ryan. One scene had Jack Ryan being the newly elected president. And he had give his first campaign speech. He, he character, described giving a speech in front of adoring fans like a DRUG he could never have imagined. This is what Napoleon was referring to. This is the BEST feeling in the human experience. To stand up in front of a crowd, give them a MOVING message, and watch them go crazy with appreciation. If you can do this, then EVERYTHING else you want in life will be AUTOMATIC. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun21Post.mp4 Most people are familiar with the hero's journey idea. The mythological structure of many movies. We tend to see this in blatant hero type movies. Especially all the recent super hero movies that have been made. But the same structure is in most movies. And books and most works of fiction. It's one of those things that you don't really notice. But when you look for it, you see it everywhere. Not only in movies, but in life. The basic hero's journey structure is in three basic parts. The orphan stage, when the hero is alone and bored and looking for adventure. The wandering phase he's kind of stumbling along, meeting new friends and learning about his skills. The warrior phase, when he knows who the bad guy is and everybody's getting ready for the bit battle. In movies with actual heroes, this is easy to see. But the same structure is in dramas, comedies and romance movies. But also in life. Every time we go through a different stages of life, we go through these three phases. Starting school, starting a new job, starting a relationship. We're bored, we're thrust into a new world, we stumble along, then we figure out what we need to do. The question is WHY do we see this structure everywhere? One explanation is that telling these stories and enjoying these stories is an instinct. Imagine a bunch of cavemen sitting around the campfire. This type of story would be very compelling. It would teach the kids that getting out there and hunting is THEIR heroic journey. That the best hunters are treated as hero's. Because hunting is pretty scary. Especially if all you've got is a spear and you need to kill a big enough animal to feed everybody. The leader of the tribe would be the guy telling all these stories. Since the dawn of time, humans have been telling each other stories. Not just to pass the time. But to inspire each other. To motivate each other. If you see any group of people hanging out, what's the easiest way to spot the alpha? The one is talking. The one who is capable of holding everybody's attention. The one whose ideas are slowly getting into everybody's brains and motivating the action. This is TRUE alpha-confidence. Luckily, plenty of experiments have shown that ANYBODY can be an alpha. Most people just wait for it to happen naturally. But you can do exercises to BUILD alpha confidence. And just like any exercise, the more you do, the stronger you'll get. And the BIGGER groups you'll EASILY be able to lead. Big groups that will naturally follow you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun19Post.mp4 In one of the Rocky movies, they had him chasing a chicken. Rocky thought it was stupid. His trainer knew better. Turned out to be a pretty good training technique. Chickens are pretty quick, and are hard to catch. The longer you chase them, the more flexibility and endurance you'll develop. Of course, this was another of the "strange training" themes in plenty of the Rocky movies. Hitting sides of beef, running up sides of mountains, etc. These all play along with the "poor athlete who can't afford expensive equipment" idea. Some people take big coffee cans, fill them with cement and make weights of out them. That's the thing about us humans. We can be pretty flexible when we need to. We even build exercise machines that simulate simpler pieces of equipment. You can run on a treadmill, or run outside on the street. You can use a stairclimber, or go find some actual stairs to run up and down. You can do exercises that SEEM to be geared toward a specific thing, but never intend to do that thing. People that use stairclimbers, for example, aren't likely getting ready for a mountain climbing contest. They do it for the effect on their bodies. Similarly, plenty of these ideas exist for social skills and conditioning. One of the BEST ways to rapidly increase social skills would be to take up public speaking. Since public speaking is terrifying, once you get over THAT fear, all the other fears will be small by comparison. But just like chasing chickens and running on treadmills, you don't actually have to EVER get up and give a speech to get "public speaking confidence." Just like you could never leave your house yet develop the body of a long distance runner. So long had a treadmill somewhere, and did the appropriate exercises, you'd get the results. Turns out there are PLENTY of exercises you can do to develop public speaking confidence. None of which involve speaking publicly. Many of them are purely mental exercises. Imagination exercises. Journaling exercises. Memory building exercises. And just like the guy who never leaves his house yet has a runner's body, you can never get up in front of a crowd, and develop a public speaker's confidence. The kind of confidence that turns heads when you walk into a room. The kind of confidence people are drawn to. Both in times of trouble and times of safety. Alpha confidence. Get Some: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
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If you're going to sell something to somebody, there are basically two ways. The thing about sales is it's all about numbers. No matter what kind of technique you're using, you'll never sell all people. You won't even sell most people. The name of the game is to always IMPROVE your percentages. You can improve how well you qualify. So you don't even start your "pitch" until you KNOW you have a high probability candidate. Somebody who WANTS the kind of thing you are selling. And who wants it NOW. These types of sales jobs are hard to find. Why? Because this requires a lot of TRAINING. And guess what? Most companies that hire sales people also know it's about numbers. See, they know that some people are natural sellers, and others aren't. Which means if they keep hiring people, and teach them the bare minimum, eventually they'll get a few that are pretty good salespeople. This type of sales is like human automation. Human automation in hiring. Human automation in selling. Technique is not that important to this model. Numbers is king. This is the HARD way to sell. What's the easy way? Sitting down with or speaking to a warm client. Finding out ALL their criteria. Expanding their criteria. Getting them to think about what they want. To build up a HUGE ball of desire in their brain. They more they talk, the BIGGER their desire gets. The bigger their desire gets, the more likely they are to buy. This is the absolute EASIEST way to sell something to somebody. But you can also use this technique socially. When you're selling, it's obvious to everybody it's a persuasive conversation. But if you were speaking to somebody socially, there isn't supposed to be ANY reason for the conversation. Other than just to get to know each other hopefully enjoy each other's company. The META intention is to find a few people whose company you REALLY enjoy. This is SUPPOSED to happen naturally and organically. And it can. From THEIR perspective. But from YOUR perspective, you'll have a few secret weapons up your sleeve. (or in your brain) And that is a thorough understanding of what ALL people want. If you guide the conversation here, and use the same strategy you'd use in a sales situation, but much more covertly, it will work just as well. Except they'll start to see YOU as somebody they want to hang around. They'll see YOU in a much different category than everybody else. A much BETTER category. To them, it will seem like an organic process. A VERY LUCKY accident that they met you. But YOU'LL know the truth. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
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A lot of the way reality works is really backwards. One reason is we humans have a tough time with any "cause-effect" ideas. We tend to assume connections where none exist. This has been demonstrated in children as young as six months. They believe it allowed for quick thinking back in the days of hunters and gathers. Many of our problems today stem from having hunter-gatherer instincts in a modern world. Another problem arises when we understand the relationships between our beliefs and the things we see. Most people believe they more or less see the world the way it is. And if something NEW pops up, they'll blend this NEW thing into their existing belief system. The underlying idea is that our reality around us CREATES our belief systems. When in many cases it's the other way around. Imagine a guy who is really shy and nervous. He has a belief that women think he is disgusting. This makes him feel like crap. And every time he talks to a woman, he sends out "creep vibes." This creep vibes are from his belief about himself. And these creep vibes CREATE the rejection he fears. However, he thinks this is PROOF that his beliefs are correct. When in reality, it's his beliefs that CREATE his reality. The problem with this is how the heck do you change your beliefs when you have no experiences with anything else? If we humans could just rewrite our beliefs at will, life would be MUCH easier. So most of us don't bother. We just assume things about the world. Many people don't even acknowledge that the world behaves like we TELL it to. Nobody can tell much about you. So they have to use YOUR interpretation of you as a guide. If you think you suck, they'll think you suck. Of course, nobody walks up and says, "Hi! I suck!" We project that with our frame. If you have a weak frame, it's interpreted by others before you even open your mouth. If you have a strong frame, it's interpreted by others before you even open your mouth. A good way to describe your frame is the sum total of your beliefs regarding your value. If you believe you don't provide much value, nobody else will. If you believe you provide TONS of value, everybody else will. But this belief has to be true in ALL LEVELS. It's common to have strong beliefs about yourself at the conscious level, but very weak beliefs at the subconscious level. These subconscious beliefs are the ones that make up your frame. Luckily, there's a pretty easy way to change them. To systematically build up a MASSIVE frame, just like you could build muscles. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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There's a lot of cool exercises you do in NLP seminars. One is a lie detector test. First you get a partner, then you calibrate each other. Each person tells three truths, and three lies. Everybody has a collection of "tells" that they give off when they are lying. Telling the truth is easy. So when people tell the truth, we are very congruent. When we tell a lie, we are incongruent. Conflicted. We all have a collection of instincts that allow us to sniff out social cheaters. So when we are purposely lying, we are aware that the person we are lying to has those instincts. That causes fear and uncertainty. All that "energy" that we use to "look" normal is what causes the tells. And during this exercise, when you and other person KNOW you are lying, the other person can calibrate your tells. Then once you're each calibrated, you play the game. You ask each other questions. And sometimes you lie to each other, sometimes you tell the truth. But once you've calibrated, it's spooky accurate how well you can tell your partner is lying. This is EXACTLY why professional poker players are VERY CAREFUL about giving on any signals. They usually wear hats and glasses. The thing is, though, that we are ALWAYS communication. Even if you're just sitting there, watching people, you are giving off TONS of information. Everybody is doing this all the time. And everybody has tons of stuff we're worried about all the time. And everybody has a lot of conflicted ideas about being in social situations. Except when we see somebody that is TOTALLY congruent. Some that has very LITTLE inner conflict, both consciously and subconsciously. They stand out like a beacon. They are VERY ATTRACTIVE to a whole bunch of different people. Men, women, old people, little kids. These the natural leaders. The natural "go to" people when there are sudden problems. The folks with MASSIVELY strong frames. How do you get one of these massively strong frames? Easy. All you have to do is identify and eliminate all your inner conflicts. You can do this all by yourself. Doing these is like doing pushups. If you try a couple pushups once, it won't do squat. But if you do pushups every day for a few months, you'll be VERY STRONG. The same goes with these frame building exercises. Do them everyday, and pretty soon you'll have a strong and VERY attractive frame. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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Voltaire is famous for saying, "Give me ten minutes to talk away my ugly face and I'll bed the queen of France." Humans have been around for a long, long time. But spoken language for only a little bit. Written language even less. But communication is as ancient as the hills. Crows caw at each other, and the frequency of the caws are important. Slow, drawn out caws mean one thing. Quick caws in succession mean something else entirely. If you were hiking through the jungle, and you happened across a silverback gorilla, you'd know what to do. You wouldn't fight him. You wouldn't run. You would instinctively lower your eyes and become as passive as possible. Even if you're hiking in the local mountains and you see a wild animal, you would know instantly that making any sudden moves is not a good idea. This means that we know intuitively exactly how to communicate with a wide range of non-human animals. It may seem silly to see standing frozen and quiet as communication, but it is intended to convey a message to the receiver. More importantly, that "message" is hopefully going to create a specific outcome. In the case of the gorilla or the other wild animal, the desired outcome is not to be killed or eaten. All communication is essentially the same thing. We see another "animal" (usually another human) and we INSTANTLY have an idea of what we would like THEM to do. And we come up with our best "guess" of how to make that happen. The problems start when we humans assume that outcome is mostly dependent on the words we use. But words are largely irrelevant. One way to see this is when they do studies on humans. They put us into groups. And we ALWAYS form hierarchies. Quickly and subconsciously. Everywhere we go, we form hierarchies. Consider that we humans are ALWAYS doing that. Sending and interpreting signals. Unconscious, non-verbal signals. So we always know where we stand in the social hierarchy. This means we've got good news and bad news. The BAD news is most of the time, before you even open your mouth, all the other people in the room, including you, have already determined WHERE you are on the social hierarchy. This is highly correlated to your frame strength. The stronger your frame, the higher you are. And vice versa. So if you see a cute person across the room, before you even make your way across, he or she has ALREADY DECIDED on your frame strength. You've made a first impression before you even open your mouth. Now the good news. The REALLY good news. There are some simple exercises you can do in the safety of your own home (and your own mind) that will consistently IMPROVE your frame strength. And just like physical exercises, the more you do, the stronger you'll get. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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Hi! I'm winging it here. I'm pretty sure someone with George's expertise can put it together properly, but I came up with some ideas and know the wordings need to be changed etc .... I just want something to emphasize always looking ones best (hair, makeup, nails, well groomed, and presentable always) because first impressions matter and self love is the key. That can be another one . "I love myself so much. I am always well groomed and looking neat". Well something like that. I'm just brainstorming here to help with some new ideas. LOL. Also it doesn't have to be called DIva or have anything I worded the way I wrote it either. Thanks! Namaste' I am a diva. I always look well put and well made. I stand out from the crowd. I stand out from all the rest. My finger and toe nails are always well painted. My hair and makeup are always in tact. I shine no matter where I go or do. I glow like a superstar. I have excellent posture. I am brilliant. Everyone wants to be me. I am fabulous. I am one of a kind and unique. I always look presentable whether I am at home alone, running errands, on the street, or at work. No matter where I am or where I go, with who I am or not, I always look my best. I even look my best when I am alone. I always look ready to go out and tackle the world. I am always ready for an invitation. I look like a celebrity. I am an over night sensation. Everybody loves me and wants to be like me . I am a superstar. I glow. I shine. It's fun to be me. I always come up with the best ideas. I always look my best. My hair and nails and make up are always in tact. I always look clean, refreshed, organized, and presentable. I always smell good. My teeth and gums are always clean, healthy, white, and shiny. I have a great smile. I never look a mess or sloppy. I always look good, super cool , and super hot. Everyone wants to have a body like mine. I have a hot looking hourglass figure body. I have a small waist and flat abs. I have nice curves. I have no cellulite. I have no love handles. My body looks even better than a famous celebrities body. I am beautiful. I am attractive. Where ever I go I always look classy. Everyone wants to meet me and be by friend. Everyone celebrates me. I am the center of attention where ever I go . I am loved. I am appreciated by all. Everyone wants to be my friend. People like that I always look presentable and fresh and so clean. People like it that my appearance is always on spot and that I always look neat. I inspire others to always look their best as well. I always look well put together. People think I am famous. Everyone always wants to accommodate me. I keep a healthy diet. I drink plenty of water. I get plenty of rest and sleep. My life is organized. I am self disciplined. Everything in my life is good. I have it together and always look my best. I motivate others to love themselves as well and look/be like me. etc....
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What's the easiest way to get a girl to like you? This technique will work every time. But it only works if it's the FIRST thing she sees you do. The reason it works so well is few guys can pull it off. It's not complicated, but for many guys it is nearly impossible. Most guys are too busy coming up with clever lines and techniques. Or spending hours a day online trying to interpret and decipher her signals. Or maybe hours a day in the gym hoping a chiseled body will get them "noticed." So, what's the "trick?" The method that will virtually GURANTEE most girls will be attracted to you? Walk up and start talking to them. Right off the bat. But not with an attitude of "I hope you like me." An attitude of, "Hey, you're pretty cute, what's your personality like?" If you are confident enough to walk over (most guys aren't) and you're relaxed enough to have a NORMAL conversation (most guys aren't), she'll make a LOT of assumptions about you. Since you're confident and you're not treating her like a queen BEFORE you even talk to her, she's going to ASSUME you've got a lot of girls waiting for you. Either literally or metaphorically. In her experience with guys, ONLY the guys who have a lot of experience talk to girls like they are no big deal. But since you'll be talking to her in a relaxed, confident way, she'll assume something else about you. You aren't too interested in having sex. At least not until you get to know her. This will make her CRAZY for you. Just this simple attitude, and only a few minutes will do everything. Authority, social proof, all taken care of. Most guys NEVER get to this level. They believe you need to approach a ton of girls before you get to his level of confidence. But in reality, there is a shortcut. All it takes is your daily NORMAL experience, and your creative imagination. Learn How: Zero Fear Game
