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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec10Post.mp4 There's a pretty cool technique from covert hypnosis. It's called "blurred realities." It's when you are quoting somebody, but it's not clear who. This can create a sense of confusion. Confusion is kind of like taking up brain processor resources, so you can slip ideas into their brain more easily. For example, if you walked up to a really cute girl and said: "I think you're pretty. I think you should give me your phone number." It would be absolutely clear what was going on. Saying that directly, unless you were super confident, would make you nervous. Hearing that directly, unless SHE was super confident, would make her nervous. Nervousness tends to HEIGHTEN the conscious critic. On the other hand, supposed you walked up and said this: "Hi, you remind me of my brother's wife. When they meet he walked right up, looked her in the eye and said, you are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen, I think we should be together." This is also referred to as the "quotes pattern." It allows you to say some blatant things to people with absolute plausible deniability. Another way to use the blurred reality is to tell a bunch of stories within a bunch of stories. And inside one of the nested stories, one character is talking to another character. But the things that character says to the other character also hold true other stories around that middle story. They also can work between the story teller and the story listener. This will give the listeners are very slippery feeling their brain. It is a very real, very unexpected, and very fuzzy hypnotic effect. And it will make you, the storyteller, seemingly capable of real magic. But there's also another way to use the blurred reality technique. Start to talk about your own abstract feelings and emotions. Not just the direct emotions, but emotions about emotions, and judgments about emotions. This takes some courage, since you'll need to look inside and explore your own emotions. But here's the cool part. We ALL, more or less, have those same emotions and meta emotions. So when you talk about your own emotions, you can apply the blurred reality technique. By deliberately using your pronouns in a specific way, even though YOU are talking about, and referencing YOUR OWN inner emotions, the other person will start to believe you are reading their minds. Which will make you seem like a much more powerful wizard. A mind reading wizard. Something most people only believe exist in movies and comic books. But there you are. In the flesh, performing real magic. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov25Post.mp4 A fairly common movie scene is where one character whispers something into another character's ear. Nobody watching knows what was said. Nobody in the audience knows what was said. If done well, this is a pivotal scene. Mystery makes everything seem much more enjoyable. This has been proven experimentally. Some researches did a marketing split test. They had two crayons. One called "Tangerine Orange." The other called "Millennium Orange." The second one, the one with the weird sounding name, outsold the first, by a lot. This is why those movie scenes work so well. Everybody is wondering what was said. Our brains don't like unfinished business. When something happened, and we don't know what, that makes us WANT to know what. This is not a conscious thing. This comes across as more INTEREST in that which we don't know about. This is why a lot of guys have learned, the hard way, to maintain a certain sense of mystery. If the girl knows EVERYTHING about them, there is no mystery. Why does mystery work so well? Let's go back to the crayon experiment. Unless you specifically WANTED an orange crayon, you wouldn't be very interested in the Tangerine Orange. There is NOTHING about that crayon you don't know. The other one, Millennium Orange, has a bit of mystery. And when we don't know the full reason behind something, our brains will tend to fill in the blanks. But here's the important part. The VERY important part, so make sure you read this correctly. When we fill in the blanks with our OWN subconscious information, we do so with ideas that we would LIKE to believe. We don't look at a crayon and think, "Wow, Millennium Orange. I bet it's called that for some really DUMB reason!" Instead we think it must be called Millennium Orange for a very COOL reason. And while we stand their and fantasize about WHAT that cool reason may be, it makes us WANT that crayon more and more. In those movies, when characters whisper to one another, we the audience, the other characters, ASSUME that whispered thing was very PROFOUND. This is why the best movies NEVER REVEAL what was whispered. Because no matter WHAT the writers come up with, it will NEVER match our best case, subconscious imaginations. This is why revealing EVERYTHING about yourself to a potential relationship partner is a BAD idea. Because when you have a little bit of mystery, your love interest will fill in the blanks with his or her BEST CASE imagination. So when you TELL THEM, it will ALWAYS be less interesting that what they imagined. Even better is when you learn to speak in ways that are PURPOSELY VAGUE. So everybody who hears you will fill in the blanks with THEIR best case imagination. This is entire idea behind covert hypnosis. Purposely vague language. So your listeners can imagine the VERY BEST about you they can. Automatically, subconsciously, and instinctively. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov24Post.mp4 One major paradox of human thinking is the difference between cause and effect. Everybody and their sister has heard or said the phrase, "correlation doesn't mean causation." This means we all are both fooled by this and skeptical of this. Evolutionary psychologists believe this is a function of survival. Our brains evolved to be quick, but not accurate. Everything cost something, and our brains aren't any different. The cost of having a very fast brain is that many of our assumptions are incorrect. Turns out that thinking quickly is much more important than thinking accurately. So even today, this cause-effect mystery messes us up. For example, you see a guy talking to a girl. The girl is attracted to the guy. The guy is attracted to the girl. Attraction happens subconsciously, automatically. But we don't like that idea. We like the idea of being able to CONSCIOUSLY create attraction. Of saying the right things in the right order. Kind of like we practice for job interviews. It feels they same. They have something we want. And in order to get it (a number, some affection, a job) we've got to say the right things. Only in a job interview, the words we say go through a much more objective filter in the other guy's brain. Since they are hiring for very objective reasons. Some people hire for emotional reasons, and this rarely works out. Nepotism, because the candidate is hot, etc. Objectively hiring people tends to work much better. But what about in social situations? A common mistake in any kind of consciously learned "game" is by reversing cause and effect. A guy is confident, and he's talking to a girl. His subconscious perceives that she's attracted him. Her subconscious perceives he's attracted to her. This fantastic and unconscious feedback loop creates a good feeling in both. They both sort of know the other person likes them. And they both sort of know they like the other person. This attraction feedback loop is the CAUSE. The EFFECT is the words they are using. The mistake comes when we think the WORDS are the cause, and the attraction is the effect. This is a very natural and common mistake to make. Most people ONLY think about the surface level language. Most people are unaware of the emotions and subconscious communication going on beneath the surface. If you only focus on the top, you'll HAVE to play the numbers game. Keep talking to people and HOPE you get lucky. Or, you can learn to speak subconsciously. Covertly. Hypnotically. And CREATE attraction at will. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov22Post.mp4 The fear of rejection is very, very common. It's a remnant of our childhood. All kids ask for a billion things. Even if a kid has a 50% success rate, this also means they have a 50% failure rate. Which means even the most successful humans have a crap ton of memories of asking and being told no. Sometimes with patience and kindness. Sometimes with anger and frustration. But we humans are pretty resilient. If you have kids, you maybe wish sometimes that your kids weren't so resilient. We keep pushing forward until we get what we want. All kids are pretty much programmed with a "keep asking until you get it" program. When we are adults, this childhood program is still running. Part of us feels as if we need to ask for whatever we want from others. Even if we don't express what we want through a question, we still feel some of that "asking energy." This is why most normal humans feel a small echo of that potential rejection with the silliest things. Like asking for more water from a waiter, or sending back the wrong dish. This is much more pronounced when we are in social situations. With a waiter or anybody in any kind of business situation, it's kind of their job to do what we want. But if you see an attractive person across the room, asking for their number seems a BILLION times more difficult than asking for more fries. However, asking is NOT appropriate. Nobody sees themselves as the holder of goodness. Of the giver of pleasure. To give or withhold their goodness based on HOW us poor peasants ask. EVERYBODY has the same collections of anxieties. So asking is the WRONG strategy. Instead, consider a strategy of CREATING PLEASURE. Not giving pleasure. Not exchanging pleasure. Not using the idea of pleasure to get what you want. Of just being a person who CREATES pleasure in others. All humans have a cause-effect generator in our brains. This has been demonstrated scientifically in children as young as six months. It's believed to be a very, very necessary evolutionary trait. So what? When YOU make it a habit of causing pleasure in others, just because you enjoy doing that, that will trigger the cause-effect generator. By creating pleasure in others, you will create the following equation in their brains: YOU = GOOD TIMES When more and more people start to see you like this, this will kick off some powerful and ancient attraction triggers. Social proof, authority and sexual desire. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov17Post.mp4 Being a hypnotist is a good label. If you show up at a party, and tell people you are hypnotist, they'll be intrigued. They may also be a little worried. Once, a long time ago, I was in a conversation with a business colleague. I mentioned in passing that I was studying hypnosis, as a hobby. He began to joke that I had been secretly implanting ideas into his mind. He was being half serious. This is the affect when you develop the reputation as a hypnotist. Even as a hobby. The first thing you'll learn about hypnosis is most of is done in the mind of the subject. So when you develop the right frame, they'll go right along with your hypnotic language. The reason? Most people believe that hypnosis is some kind of magic. Mainly because of how it's portrayed in the movies. TV and movie hypnotists have super powers of mind control. They just snap their fingers and people go right into a trance. In real life, it's quite like that. But they don't know that. Even better is when you use some patterns from COVERT hypnosis. All the stuff in the movies, on TV, and even up on stage are all DIRECT hypnosis. Covert hypnosis only works when nobody but you knows you are using it. So they CAN'T use it in the movies. So when you learn a few techniques specifically designed to create short term confusion, it will only ADD to your mysterious reputation. Hypnotists are masters of language. Hypnotists are masters of the mind. But there is also HUGE overlap between the structure of hypnosis, and the structure of humor. When you combine all of these, you'll have the BEST party reputation ever. You'll be in-the-moment funny. You'll be a master of the reframe. You'll be able to spit mind confusion that will take a few minutest to recover from. So if you DO decide to do any direct hypnosis, people will be much more eager to obey your from the trance state. This is when the REAL fun begins. You can get them to forget their names. You can get them to speak Martian. Or whatever else you feel like doing. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
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Misdirection Word Magic: https://mindpersuasion.com/misdirection-word-magic/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/magic-word-misdirection https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov06Loop.mp4
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Mind Control Pheromones: https://mindpersuasion.com/mind-control-pheromones/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov04Loop.mp4
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct28Post.mp4 Everything comes with costs. This is the unavoidable facet of economics. It's one reason why economics is called the dismal science. Everybody loves the idea of free stuff. Politicians love to promise free stuff. People love to believe we are entitled to free stuff. PT Barnum famously said there is a sucker born every minute. And that we are suckers because we are willing to believe something that is too good to be true. This is always in the form of getting something that we don't have to pay for. Not pay for with money, but pay for with time, risk and importantly, something called opportunity costs. For example, many would LOVE to play guitar like a champ. Bring it to parties, start strumming some beautiful chords. Make up a melody off the top of your head. Impress all the ladies. But GETTING to that level would take a lot of practice. Practice is pretty boring. And while you are practicing, there are tons of things you CAN'T do. Like play video games. Watch TV. Hang out down at the pub. All these things you CAN'T do are the opportunity costs. So economics is DISMAL because it FORCES us to confront ALL the costs. Now, some people are lucky and stumble into success. For them, the opportunity costs are minimal. Because they LOVE to practice more than anything else. But for us normal humans, costs are everywhere. Even in things normally perceived as PURE benefits. For example, take spoken language. This is one thing that we have that all animals don't have. Associated with spoken language is all the thoughts it is connected to. This is a fantastic invention. We are much better off WITH this than without it. But it does come with some costs. What are the costs? By focusing on spoken language, and conscious thoughts, we IGNORE all the stuff going on beneath the surface. We talk to each other using words. Those words create conscious thoughts. But beneath the surface, there is STILL a ton of stuff going on. Stuff related to intuition, subconscious energy, and a TON of non-verbal communication. If you ONLY focus on the surface, you are missing a lot. Luckily, there are some SIMPLE exercises you can do. To SLOWLY recalibrate your non-verbal energy. Both how you project it, and how you read it. Making you much more powerful of a communicator. Than pretty much everybody else you will ever meet. The best part? The best part is two fold. One, is that few people will ever know about this. Two is that the more you do these simple exercises, the stronger you'll get. And the more of an advantage you'll have. Get Started: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct25Post.mp4 A long, long time ago, I took a class in differential equations. We had learned a very simple, and very elegant way to solve equations. Except I couldn't quite wrap my mind around it. I had to rely on old school techniques. More like brute force techniques. After one test, the professor wrote a note on my test. I had gotten a decent score, so he couldn't quite criticize me. But I got the feeling he was messing with me nonetheless. One of those things that seems like a compliment but is really a covert insult. The whole purpose of the test was to demonstrate this new, elegant, problem solving technique. I didn't do that. I used old school, brute force methods. He wrote something to the effect that I was a good "soldier." That I was busily in the trenches using some very powerful "hand to hand combat" techniques. Since this was the LAST math class I would ever have to take, and the semester was nearly over, I just let it slide. But this type of thing happens quite a lot. We hang on to old school, hand to hand combat techniques. When there is much subtler, much more powerful techniques. The other night I watched this documentary on business scams. They hire pretty much anybody. And put them out on the street selling junk. The offer very little training. From a corporate standpoint, this is a pretty good model. Spend a little bit of money making crap products. Hire anybody with a pulse to sell them. Pay them ONLY commissions. The company only needs to collect whatever profits they make. They don't really care if 80% of their "salespeople" wash out. These companies are like those fish that eat half their babies. If you are too slow, you don't deserve to live. From an individual's standpoint, you CAN make money. But you need TONS of hustle. TONS of energy. TONS of "fake" charisma. All very old school, hand to hand combat, brute force techniques. Any time you have to consciously CREATE a bunch of charisma and motivation and energy, it's not very efficient. It's hard to maintain, and it never lasts. Luckily, there is a much more elegant way. One that makes any kind of EXTERNAL game much more natural. Much more efficient. Much more effective. It requires you do some simple daily exercises. Safely in your home. Safely in your brain. The more you do these exercises, the LESS you'll need to worry about any kind of outer game. You'll just need to show up. And let your inner game do all the work. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct22Post.mp4 In sales there is an idea of the laydown. A customer who puts up zero resistance. They walk in and say they are thinking buying one of your products. You give a short presentation or demo, and boom. Bob's your Uncle. "Sounds great!" They say, pulling out their credit card. A similar experience happens with dating. But since dating is much more complicated, and subconscious, we tend to use more complex metaphors. For sales, it's easy. Since the buyer was easy to persuade, you can use metaphors to describe the buyer. One reason is you see tons of customers all day. Or like once when I went to get a haircut. I just wanted a buzz, so it was easy. They lady looked at me and said: "Customers like you are easy money." That's pretty blatant. But it's also true. With sales and customers, there are plenty of metaphorical labels that essentially describe the same thing. Doing very little work to get money from the customer. Even customers know this. They often refer to themselves as being "easy." But dating and relationships are much different. Very few people date like they sell things to customers. So the metaphors are much different. They are generally not used to describe the person, but the experience. To the extent they DO describe the person, they are somewhat derogatory. She's an easy lay. He's got deep pockets. When we are NOT being derogatory, we describe the experience of meeting people. The experience of getting to know people. Usually in terms of losing time. Or how well we "click" together. Even Einstein understood this. He described relativity in terms how the BEST way to pass time, and the WORST way to pass time. Times moves very slowly when you are sitting on a hot stove. Times moves very quickly when you are sitting with a pretty girl. In both sales dating, there are a lot of metaphors that indicate it's very much OUT of our control. In both dating and sales, they say it's a numbers game. The more shots on goal you take, the higher your chances of scoring. The more you keep putting people in your sales funnel, the more sales you'll get coming out the bottom. But this assumes that both the salesperson and the relationships seeker don't have much persuasion technology. Other than to say, "Here's the product, what do you think?" Or "Here I am, what do you think?" But it turns out there is a very easy to significantly INCREASE the value of what they think. About you or your product. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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Emergent Sentient Consciousness https://mindpersuasion.com/emergent-sentient-consciousness/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/emergent-sentient-consciousness https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct22Loop.mp4
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct21Post.mp4 When I was a kid me and my buddies liked to play Jedi. I was in elementary school when the very first Star Wars came out. I saw a TV show where they showed how they made the sound for the blasters. They would hit telephone cables with a wrench. Those really thick metal cables that connect the poles to the ground. If you hit them with a wrench, the vibration sounds will make the original Star Wars blaster sound. As soon as me and my buddies saw that, we'd take a wrench out of our garages, ride bikes all over town to find and hit those cables. Another way was with those doors at the supermarket that open automatically. Perfect for pretending to be a Jedi as a kid. We never could really figure out how to levitate stuff. But even better than levitating things was doing the Jedi mind trick. Telling somebody what to do, waving your hand, and them mindlessly doing it. This is a VERY sought skill. It's one reason why so many people LOVE the idea of hypnosis. Especially conversational hypnosis. The idea of getting people to do whatever you want without resistance is pretty powerful. This is actually why conversational hypnosis was invented in the first place. Before conversational hypnosis, there was old school, direct hypnosis. Watch this watch while I count down from ten. You are getting sleepier and sleepier. Your eyelids are getting heavier and heavier. This works pretty good in the movies. But it turns out that when people go to get hypnotized for real, it's not so easy. Not a lot of people are willing to let some stranger monkey around in their brain while they're knocked out. It takes a while to get comfortable enough. This is why Milton Erickson created covert hypnosis. He wanted to knock them out much quicker. So he invented the storytelling type of hypnosis. Purposely confusing stories. These kind of went in the opposite direction. People were expected to be told to relax, close their eyes, etc. Instead, Dr. Erickson would start telling these stories. But they were purposely complex and vague. So much that their conscious minds pretty much said: Forget it. I give up. I'm outta here. Another way to get around the getting-comfortable-with-the-hypnotist problem was the idea of fractionation. Of putting somebody into and out of hypnosis several times on one session. Turns out you can find fractionation in many, many places. And it's pretty easy to use on many, many people. That's just one of the ways you can apply this deep persuasion technique. Learn More: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct20Post.mp4 What makes a classic movie? Nobody really knows. It's one of those things we all know when we see it. But if anybody could make on purposely, they would. Even decent movies vs. crappy movies. We all agree, more or less, which movies are really good, and which ones are really crappy. Sure, we disagree on the so-so movies. But classic movies like, "The Godfather," or "Citizen Kane," are pretty unanimous. Few people would watch "The Godfather," and say: "Yeah, that movie sucked." Nobody would ever watch "Howard The Duck," and think that they'd just seen the next classic of the ages. But the weird thing is that while we can all agree that movies like "The Godfather," are awesome, and movies like "Howard The Duck," pretty much suck, nobody can CREATE something that is awesome. For every Godfather, there are tons of movies that suck. But while they were making those movies, they all thought they were going to be awesome. Nobody makes a crappy movie on purpose. Even Al Pacino, when he was making The Godfather, thought HE sucked. He admitted that while they were filming the movie, he kept having self doubts. He thought people would see him, think he sucked as an actor, and that would be that. All this is due to the simple idea that things we value, we value SUBJECTIVELY. If somebody told you to make a cube made out of a certain mix of metal, and had a certain density and set of measurements, it would be easy. You wouldn't create it, measure all the dimensions, and hand it off to your boss thinking, "Gee I hope his scale measures weight the same way my scale does!" That would be silly! We all like good things. But it's equally hard to CREATE good things. One common idea in marketing is "you are not your market." If you absolutely LOVE peanut butter sandwiches, and can't live without them, that doesn't mean you'd be successful opening up a peanut butter sandwich restaurant. One common reason most businesses fail is they are too attached to THEIR OWN idea of success. To the extent you can be absolutely OBEDIENT to the demands of the market, you'll be successful. This is also why we all have a deep fear of expressing what WE subjectively like and want. We KNOW everybody is else might have a different opinion. We a movie, we think it's awesome, and can't wait to tell everybody. But then we read some online reviews and find out that everybody else on the planet think it absolutely sucked. So we tend to keep our opinions to ourselves. This means that everybody is FILLED with opinions, desires and fantasies that they are DYING to share. If you help them express them, expand them and validate them, they'll do ANYTHING for you. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct19Post.mp4 Many things can be seen from two completely different perspectives. Once I was with a bunch of friends. We'd just sat down in a restaurant, and were looking over at the menu. My friend noticed that his water glass was different than all the rest. Same size, but a slightly different shape. He immediately took this to mean that something was wrong with him. Of course, he was only being about 5% serious. But this is a common response whenever we are singled out for any reason. Another friend was quick with the helpful reframe. "That doesn't mean you are worse than everybody, that means you are better than everybody!" Both can be equally correct. We can be singled out because there is something wrong with us. Or we can be singled out because we are special in some way. Our brains are quick with these kinds of reframes. We can turn bugs into features, and features into bugs. Usually very quickly and subconsciously. This may indeed be a deep human instinct. A necessary human instinct. Way back in the day, in order to get our daily calories, we had to put in a lot of effort. And a lot of that effort was of the trial and error kind. Of chasing an animal, or several animals, a long time before we caught and killed it. Or shaking a bunch of trees before we got enough bananas to eat. We are pretty good with doing this with ourselves. Turning failures into positives. We kind of suck at doing this with others. Especially when it comes to people who are naturally gifted. Nowadays, there's a lot of ideas associated with some kind of "privilege." That some people, by their lucky virtue of genetics, have it easy. And the rest of us normal goofs have to work harder. But this is also something you can easily reframe. People that are exceptionally attractive, for example, DO have it easy. Studies have shown this. But only in some situations. The situations that call for deep intellect, long game planning, effective conversational and social skills, these are not associated with super gorgeous people. Because super gorgeous folks rarely feel any need to develop any of those deep traits. Super gorgeous people just show up, and by virtue of their gorgeousness, they can get their feet into doors most of us can't. But that's all they can do. Get their foot into a door, stand on the other side of that door, and look pretty. But with some very targeted conversational skills, you can make yourself much more attractive, from a subconscious energy standpoint, than the most gorgeous person on Earth. You can BUILD your own halo effect as big as you want. With whomever you want. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct15Post.mp4 If you are a kid, your mom doesn't want you hanging around with sketchy characters. Because you'll unconsciously soak up bad behaviors. This is how humans learn. Most teachers attempt this ancient technique, but they fail miserably. Learning and well as teaching are both instincts. They have to be. Since humans brains have been growing very large for at least a million years. Right around when we discovered fire. This was long before language was invented. But we still had to learn, and to teach. Plenty of lower animals do this. Just not as well as us humans. We learn, and teach, through a process called modeling. This is one of those buzzwords everybody uses but nobody understands. If you've ever been around kids, and you accidentally let loose an F-bomb, you know exactly what modeling is. Even if the kid didn't notice, you and all the other adults will. Even if you don't have kids, and you are hanging with a bunch of buddies somewhere, if there is a group of kids nearby, everybody will NATURALLY keep the f-bombs to a minimum. We even SAY why. We don't want to "teach" them bad words. Even though we're not standing up in front of a chalk board. "Ok, children, repeat after me: Mother fu....." Just saying these words out loud is enough. This is how modeling works. The learner UNCONSCIOUSLY picks up things from the TEACHER. Back in the old days of apprenticeships, the apprentice would watch and copy the master. The master wouldn't need to talk. The apprentice wouldn't need to listen or take notes or study. Just watch and copy. Copy consciously, and copy unconsciously. This is why your mom doesn't want you hanging out with hoodlums. Because of all the unconscious things you may pick up. Why is this important? Because we choose our friends, and lovers, based on how well we LIKE to pick up things from them unconsciously. How we like to unconsciously teach them. This is EXACTLY why the phrase, "imitation is the deepest form of flattery" is absolutely correct. So the best way to let somebody know you like and appreciate them is to copy them. However, this presents a problem. Suppose you see somebody you want to get to know. And you want to make a nice impression. It wouldn't be a good idea to get close and start copying all their movements. That would be CREEPY. But this is where a related idea comes in. To be interesting TO somebody, you need to be interested IN that somebody. This is very close to the "imitation = flattery" idea. Luckily, there is a very simple, and very straightforward set of questions you can ask. Easy to ask, easy to answer, and will make them feel VERY GOOD about you. Learn How: http://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct12Post.mp4 Pretty people have it much easier than non pretty people. This is something that everybody kind of feels, and knows, but it's extremely hard to talk about. But it happens to be one of those things that can lead to some stunning realizations. A rough metaphor would be if you have deep money anxiety. Like most people do. Most people hate to balance their bank account. You go to the ATM, and even if you know you just got paid, you got this horrible fear of getting the dreaded, "insufficient funds" message. This leads to all kinds of horrible, mostly subconscious, conclusions. The halo effect is similar. If we do admit there IS a halo effect, it's bad for everybody. At least initially. If you are one of the pretty people, it means that it's not really YOU that's doing the work. It's your genetic gifts. Nobody gives a crap about your ideas and thoughts and beliefs. So long as they are coming out of a pretty face, that's good enough. This is why naturally attractive people HATE to be told that their success is largely due to their looks. On the flip side, normal looking folks like us HATE the halo effect idea just as much. Since we're NOT genetically gifted with gorgeous looks, there's not much we'll EVER be able to do. Both sides are correct, but only in a VERY superficial way. Because with a little effort, you can CREATE your own halo effect. No matter HOW you look. How's that? First, let's understand exactly HOW the halo effect works. It's not conscious. It's purely subconscious. The halo effect is when we feel a deep physical attraction. A deep and ancient POSITIVE feeling. And whatever the pretty person is talking about will be UNCONSCIOUSLY associated with that ancient, deep, positive feeling. It's critical to understand this is NOT conscious. Which means if you can CREATE a positive feeling in the other person, it will have the SAME effect. Even better is a genetically based halo effect has only one setting. Because it's based on their physical presence. But a custom made halo effect is based on their unique dreams and desires and fantasies. Which means you can BUILD it as strongly as you want. And since it's based ONLY on the ideas that exist inside THEIR brain, it doesn't matter WHO you are. It doesn't matter WHAT you look like. Not only does it NOT matter who you are or what you look like, since EVERYBODY'S got an endless stream of desires in their brain, you can use this technique on anybody you want. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct09Post.mp4 A long time ago, I had a low level job as a technician. Some big shot was coming to see me. A guy that was way above my pay grade gave me some inside dope. That the big shot coming to see me was thinking about starting another department. And she was maybe think about involving me somehow. Needless to say, I was nervous. The reason for her visit was completely different. So I had to pretend I didn't really know that she was there to also give me the once over. She showed up, we did our thing, she thanked me she left. A couple days later my inside guy called me and said she was impressed. That made me feel pretty good. Being able to impress somebody is a common desire. If you see an attractive person across the room, being able to impress them would feel fantastic. If you have a job interview, being able to impress the hiring guy is a good skill to have. If you wanted to be an actor, you would need to impress the guy doing the choosing. Even if you wanted to cook a meal for your friends, being able to impress them with your skills is a very nice feeling. When Darth Vader and Luke Skywalker fought with light sabers the first time, that's exactly what Vader said: "Impressive." Clearly, being able to impress people would help you in pretty much ANY situation. Sure, you could learn certain skills to impress people. Cooking skills, acting skills, light saber dueling skills. But those are pretty contextual. If you walked up to a stranger and told them you could make the perfect souffle, they might be impressed, they might not be. To impress people in social settings, particularly strangers, would be a VERY nice skill to have. It would increase your social proof. It would increase your authority. It would significantly expand your social network. All things that would make you much more attractive. Luckily, there is a VERY SIMPLE way to do this. When most people think about impressing others, we think about impressing THEM with the ideas in OUR brains. This is the absolute HARDEST way to do that. The easiest way is to impress them with how well we can find interesting ideas in THEIR brain. It turns out that the simplest way to be impressive TO others is to be impressed BY others. Luckily, there is a very simple, step by step, linguistic structure to do EXACTLY that. Learn how, and impressing people EVERYWHERE will be second nature. Get Started: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct08Post.mp4 In sales, they have an idea of a laydown. This is somebody who stumbles into your shop. You give them the memorized sales pitch, and they don't object at all. They look at you and say, "Wow, that's EXACTLY what I was looking for!" And then you give them the price. And they say, "Wow, that's way cheaper than I thought!" They buy whatever you are selling, and everybody lives happily ever after. This, however, is very, very rare. It's about as rare as walking up to a gorgeous girl and saying: "Hey, you don't know me, but wanna have sex?" And her thinking about it and saying: "Sure, why not? Let's go to my place!" This happens to be the most common male sex fantasy. And the basic plot of every "bang bus" porn movie. Guys driving down the street in a creepy van, pulling up to a super hot girl wearing very revealing clothing and asking her to come on in the van. "Sure, I was hoping to be asked to join a gang bang!" Of course, there is fantasy, and there is reality. The reality is you may talk to 50 girls, or guys, and get 2-3 phone numbers. And those may even be given to politely get rid of you. If you listen to any hiring sales pitch, every sales job sounds like easy money. All you have to do is memorize a pitch, and the customers will LOVE to buy. But just like extremely unrealistic sex fantasies, the reality is much different. The reality is you MAY get one laydown every few months. Not enough to even pay ONE month's rent. At same time, a memorized pitch SOUNDS like a good idea. If you can somehow come up with a really good memorized pitch, it's easy, once you memorize it. This idea is based on not having a regular, back and forth conversation. Having back and forth conversations with strangers is not something most people are comfortable doing. ESPECIALLY if the purpose of the conversation is to get something from them. Like a sale, or a number, or even them to agree to your idea. But this is ONLY uncomfortable from the position of the ASKER. If you are ultimately going to ASK THEM something, you know it. They know it. They can feel it. The solution? Don't ask. Instead, build up their desire. Turns out this is VERY EASY. It's kind of goofy at first, but when you get the hang of it, you'll be blown away by how simple it is. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct06Post.mp4 When I was a kid I got this robot for Christmas. This was WAY back in the day before a lot of electronics started to become commercially available. It ran on batteries and basically just walked. When I was a kid, Japanese monster movies were popular. They had the famous ones, Godzilla, Rodan, etc. But there was one that I particularly liked. As a kid I only knew it as "Giant Robot." The government (or somebody) built this huge robot. But a kid was the first one who activated it. And he could command the robot by talking into his watch. The commands always started with, "Giant Robot..." and then the command. I (and probably every other kid who watched that movie) LOVED to imagine having my own giant robot. Many people are attracted to the idea of hypnosis for two main reasons. One is that we can (allegedly) use hypnosis to get others to do what we want. The other is that we can solve our own problems with hypnosis. Most people imagine being able to use hypnosis on others very much like the kid used on Giant Robot. To simply give them commands and watch them obey. This is how it is used in the movies. Say the magic phrase, snap your fingers and BOOM, they're in a trance. If it were only so easy! But movie hypnosis is not like real hypnosis. Real hypnosis DOES work. But it's a bit more complicated than using a magic word or phrase. If humans could be so easily controlled, all the women would be pregnant, and all the men would be broke. Luckily, this is NOT the case. But there are plenty of ways to create the same outcome. Of getting the other person to do whatever you want. It's only a little bit more complicated than in the movie. It requires first talking to them, and asking them some questions. Very easy to answer questions. They aren't quite questions that you can memorize. You WILL have to do some thinking. But once you figure it out, it's very easy to ask anybody the right questions in the right order. Each one you ask, they'll easily answer. Because every time they answer, they'll feel better. And after only a few questions, they WILL be very eager to do whatever it is you want them to. Even better is they'll truly believe it was THEIR idea. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept05Post.mp4 I've always liked science. When I was a kid I'd read science books. Once in high school, our teacher was talking about some obscure scientific concept. He asked if anybody had heard of it, and I raised my hand. He asked me where I'd heard about it. And I said it was from a science magazine. That brought a chuckle from everybody else. I guess high school kids reading science magazines isn't quite normal. In physics, their are four basic forces. Two nuclear forces, electromagnetism, and gravity. They goal is to come up with one meta theory that ties them all together. Some are close, others are not. The two nuclear forces operate on very, very tiny levels. Gravity, on the other hand, operates on MASSIVE levels. So far, nobody has a clue how you might relate the two. Add in quantum mechanics, and it gets even more confusing. They say what we know about science is like the coastline of a tiny island. And what we don't know represents the ocean. Which means the more of what we know, the more we realize we don't know. Human nature is like this. There is a LOT that seems utterly confusing. Like the meaning of life. Or if you're a guy, what women really like. If you're a girl, it's pretty easy. At least in the short term. There's that one joke that's been going around online for years. Two lists of what to do to create attraction in the opposite sex. For guys, to create attraction in girls, there are tons of stuff. All complicated, all emotional, all romantic. For girls, to create attraction in guys, it's pretty simple. Show up naked. Trying to understand things like human nature and the meaning of life from inside our own brains is pretty difficult. But it's actually not so hard once you take an objective view. In fact, it can be pretty easy. For example, most people know about things like social proof. Social proof is a powerful advertising technique. It can also be used and dating. Understanding it from the outside is easy. Being effected by it from the inside is hard to spot, unless you are deliberately looking for it. All our social instincts are like this. And all our social instincts can combine to create some very powerful feelings. When it comes down to it, our main "purpose" is pretty basic. Get enough food, don't get killed and make more people. Understanding how all our instincts conspire to make this happen is pretty fascinating. And very useful. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug20Post.mp4 There's a psychological idea called the "pushback effect." If you've ever gotten into an argument online, you've no doubt experienced it. This, like most of our biases, is something that's easily seen in others, but very hard to see in ourselves. Which means it is an ego-based survival instinct. The pushback effect is triggered when somebody tries to counter your argument. The INSTINCT is to hold fast, regardless of the other person's logic. The MORE you come at the opponent with logic, the MORE they'll dig into their position. Our beliefs are very much associated with our identity. This goes along with the "beliefs as food" idea. We don't really eat food because it's healthy. We eat food because it tastes good. Way back in the day, this was perfect. The BETTER something tasted, the BETTER it was for us. Meat and fat were ideal, as they were dense sources of needed calories. Sweet fruit even better. Roots, and tubers, not so much. They were better than nothing, but not as good as a freshly killed slab of meat. Of course, today, with recent discoveries in chemistry, food is engineered to be delicious. But at the cost of health. Beliefs can operate the same way. We don't believe things because they are true. We believe things because the help us and make us feel good. So when somebody attacks our beliefs, it very much FEELS like they are attacking US. Hence the pushback effect. Somebody attacks our beliefs, which makes us dig in. Very much like a physical confrontation. If somebody pushes you, you push them back. Nearly all "fighting technology" is based on pushing back BETTER than they pushed you. Only few are based on NOT pushing back, but instead using THEIR energy. This can be done conversationally as well. Not in arguments, but in persuasion and influence. For any purpose. Sales, friend making and seduction. Since the pushback effect is based on ego, it's very HARD to turn off. But if you can manage to turn it off, and simply ask very easy to answer, linguistically calibrated questions, they will feel FANTASTIC. Even enjoyable conversations between friends have the pushback effect. Each person is very subconsciously trying to OUTDO the other. But once you shut off your ego, they will be able to EXPAND. The more they EXPAND the better they feel. And when you carefully allow them to expand their ego, they'll be willing to do whatever you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug18Post.mp4 There are a quite a lot of truisms. The problem with truisms is three fold. One is that they are popular. Two is that they are true. Three is where the problems begin. It's how our brain treats "knowledge" and "experience." If you hear something once, it might seem like a good idea. But if you hear it a bunch of times, and eventually begin to repeat it yourself, then it starts to FEEL very familiar. But familiar in a superficial way. Not in a deep, experiential way. You can tell that somebody has this level of "knowledge" when you ask them to explain EXACTLY what they mean. But they can't. They have a weird combination of KNOWING that something is true. They know it as well as their own name. But they can't explain HOW or WHY it's true. When people have ideas, you can tell how they explain them. They say things like, "Well if you think about it, it makes sense." Since that's how THEY experience it inside their own brain. They've ACCEPTED the idea from others. The idea makes them feel good. They've thought about that idea a whole bunch of times. But they've never take the time to actually take apart the idea. This type of thing pops up ALL OVER THE PLACE in self help and self development. Entire seminars are filled with gurus saying these truisms in a whole bunch of different ways. But never once explaining how EXACTLY to apply them. Here's an example. A very common, and often repeated marketing strategy is as follows: "Encourage their dreams, allay their fears, and throw rocks at their enemies." This SOUNDS fantastic. Who wouldn't want their dreams encouraged? Who wouldn't want their fears allayed? Who wouldn't want help throwing rocks at their enemies? Everybody would. Which is why this is GOOD advice and TERRIBLE advice at the same time. Good advice because it rings very true. Terrible advice because it doesn't explain HOW, specifically, to do that. For example, how, exactly would you ENCOURAGE somebody's dreams? You could say something silly and common: "You should TOTALLY go after your dreams!" Or ask them what their dreams are. And then say: "Yeah! You should totally do that!" Problem is that this is the SAME strategy that every other fake goof tries. If you went into an upscale department store, and tried on an expensive shirt, THIS is what they'd say: "That shirt looks great! You'll DEFINITELY get laid!" This is an ATTEMPT to encourage your dreams. Unfortunately, it's the same fake line that EVERY salesperson uses. Luckily, there is a very specific set of linguistic techniques that you can learn. To make it very easy to elicit and BUILD up their dreams. And some more specific linguistic techniques to ENCOURAGE their dreams. In ways they've NEVER experienced. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug15Post.mp4 Cialdini laws can be found everywhere. These are very much like biases, in that you can see them in others, but it's very hard to see them in ourselves. For example, social proof, authority, and commitment and consistency are three of Cialdini's laws. And these three ideas are behind most beliefs in our brain. Most of us NEVER take the time to consider any of our most closely held ideas. Humans didn't evolve by being slow thinking logicians. Humans evolved by thinking quickly. As a means to an end. The END was not "truth." The END was safety, food, sex, social status, etc. Advertisers know all about Cialdini laws. Even before Cialdini showed up. Social proof, authority, scarcity, commitment and consistency, you'll find these in all things sold. But since they operate BENEATH conscious awareness, we can ONLY see them in other people. We are not robots, we are not Vulcans. We are ILLOGICALLY thinking, emotionally driven humans. And we very much NEED to believe we are logical. Normally, this isn't a problem. Normally, this is a BENEFIT. If you had to logically prove everything, not only would be you lonely, but you'd be EXTREMELY depressed. Unless you are hard core scientist who NEVER leaves the lab, (and is married to a robot sex doll), being illogical and emotional is WHO WE ARE. The problem comes when we try and PERSUADE others. We tend to make decisions emotionally. Based largely on Cialdini laws. But THEN, because we have a need to BELIEVE that we are logical and rational, even when we aren't, we come up with a logical sounding reason WHY we did what we just did. When we only tell ourselves these reasons, that's PERFECT. But if we use these SAME REASONS to try and influence others, it won't work. Since they aren't the REAL reasons. Luckily, there is a way to temporarily SHUT DOWN this post logic imagination. Which is essentially an ego protection tool. Once shut off (temporarily) you can talk to others to BUILD up their deep desire. The STRONGER their desire is, the more they'll enjoy talking to you. The more they'll be ATTRACTED to the things you are talking about. The more they'll want to DO THEM. The more they'll want to DO YOU, but you gotta be careful. Because this works VERY QUICKLY, and very strongly, the LAST thing you want is somebody you DON'T KNOW being super attracted to you. So go slow, and you'll be fine. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug14Post.mp4 Being assertive is difficult. Very few people are naturally assertive. Even people who are considered assertive are really aggressive. To be truly assertive means to speak your truth without any emotional energy. The idea is you say what's on your mind, and accept ANY response from the other person. To be assertive means that you CANNOT change the thinking or behaviors or ideas of the other person. Theoretically, this is the BEST way to communicate. To effectively speak your truth. Clearly state your boundaries, your intentions and desires. Accept the people that respect you. Disqualify the people that don't. However, there is a HUGE difference between theory and reality. In THEORY we only need to eat 2200 calories a day. In THEORY we should be getting 8 hours of sleep a night. Theories don't help much. Because WE live in reality. And the reality about asking for what you want is it's HARD. Most people suck at it. Most people are timid when asking for more water at a restaurant. Walk up to an attractive person and "state our truth?" Please! "Hi, I just wanted to tell you that I think you're very attractive and I would very much enjoy having sex with you." In THEORY, that's all you need. But in reality? You'd get punched in the FACE! Clearly, we need another plan. A better plan. An easier plan. Sure, you COULD approach ten people a day, until you build up some confidence. But what if you get punched ten times a day, in the FACE?! You could find a therapist that would help you get to your deeper issues. Heal your inner child. Connect with your higher power. Ain't nobody got time that! We want results, we want them quick. AND we are lazy, and impatient. Luckily, there is a solution. A set of simple questions you can ask. Questions that are easy to answer. Questions that don't make it seem like you are trying to GET something. Questions that are all about THEM. NEVER about you. Questions that will build up their desire. So strongly, they'll start to see YOU through that desire. Which means everything will be THEIR idea. And since you NEVER need ANY kind of close, or speak any kind of "truth," you'll never feel even a HINT of anxiety. Nor will there ever be any rejection. This does require you DO a couple of things. But they are NOT things that create any anxiety or invite any rejection. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/get-anybody/
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