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  1. Follow Their Bliss: https://mindpersuasion.com/follow-their-bliss/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  2. Escape Short Time Thinking: https://mindpersuasion.com/escape-short-time-thinking/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  3. The Strongest Close Ever: https://mindpersuasion.com/the-strongest-close-ever/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  4. Build The Virtuous Cycle Of Love https://mindpersuasion.com/build-the-virtuous-cycle-of-love/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  5. Bleu Cheese Bacon Burger https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  6. The Implied One Time Offer: https://mindpersuasion.com/the-implied-one-time-offer/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  7. More Money Better Lovers: https://mindpersuasion.com/more-money-better-lovers/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  8. How To Become A Deity https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  9. The Trinity Salesman https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  10. The Most Beautiful Sales Pitch: https://mindpersuasion.com/the-most-beautiful-sales-pitch/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  11. Become Everybody's Fantasy: https://mindpersuasion.com/become-everybodys-fantasy/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan02_Post.mp4 One of the most common frustrations before ANY meaningful conversation is knowing what to say. Especially if it's with somebody you don't know. Even if it's somebody sitting next to you on an airplane. This is something that most people wish they could do better. Having a regular, friendly conversation with a stranger. So much so that people who are naturally good at this are admired. They make EVERYBODY feel comfortable. A social magnet. Normally, this isn't a big deal. We are born, slide through life, pick up some friends along the way, and hopefully create some more people. But relying on our factory programming doesn't work so much anymore. So the typical response is to learn how to do things like this. To "practice" social skills. This is pretty normal under certain situations. Like in sales. Sales is all about talking to people specifically to build up buying desire. Something most normal people don't normally do. So it's natural to learn how to do this if you are going into sales. For this reason, there is plenty of overlap, in both strategy and vocabulary, between sales and seduction. However, this misses a very important point. Sales is SUPPOSED to be deliberate and overt. When salespeople are having a conversation with a customer, everybody knows what's going on. When a job interviewer is having a conversation with an interviewee, this same process is at work. Everybody knows what's going on. But when talking to strangers socially, this type of strategy CAN easily backfire. The kind of people that are naturally attractive are just being themselves. Just by the way the are, they make others feel good. Imagine being stuck on an airplane with a guy who "seemed" interested in you, but you had a sinking suspicion he or she had an ulterior motive. Like getting you to join their cult or their MLM. This is how conversations can easily feel if you are using overt sales strategies to try and create genuine human desire. The answer not to shrug your shoulders and just assume some people are good at that kind of thing and others aren't. There IS a very powerful conversational style that WILL make you much more attractive to many more people. In a very natural and congruent way. So when they, whoever they are, start to take a liking to you, it will be for their own reasons. Their own deep, subconscious organic reasons. This is a much broader strategy that can work on EVERYBODY. Potential lovers or friends. People you are already in a relationship with. Even kids. Which means once you make this your go-to conversational style, you will become much more attractive to everybody. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/desire-builder/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec29Post.mp4 Let's do an experiment. A kind of future fantasy visualization experiment. Imagine, for a moment, it's a couple years in the future. And you have, somehow, become famous. Think about that. Being famous, but only in the BEST way. The way that you would imagine being the best way. The perfect balance of fame and anonymity, according to your own preferences. First, what would you LIKE to be famous for? For of a creation, like an invention, or a best selling novel? Or more like a behavior? Like a performance of some kind. Acting, music, sports, etc. Is your fame more low key, or high key? Like everybody recognizes you everywhere, always begging for autographs, and your crack team of private bodyguards are always keeping you safe. OR, nobody really knows you're famous until you explain who you REALLY are. And then their eyes get big as they realize, you're THAT person! Where do you live? In a huge house, in a rich and well known neighborhood? Or in a very low key house, where nobody knows who you are? So you can walk the dog in peace. What kind of house do you have? Huge, lots of spacious rooms? Or kind of small, low key, but VERY high quality? What does all your fame-money represent? More like things you could buy, for friends and family? Or time where you don't need to interact with the world if you don't need to? Now, take your time thinking about these simple questions. Questions that I'm asking, without knowing very much about you. Without feedback, there's no much further I can go. I could go on about ideal health, ideal relationships, but within each one of these categories, there're only so many questions I could ask. But now suppose you and I were having a one on one conversation. Meaning the more of you answers I got, the further I could keep asking. Now imagine this scenario. First, take a look at these kinds of questions. This kind, or that kind. Like this, or like that. They don't really require you to say anything. Maybe nod your head one way or the other. Now imagine just relaxing back, maybe on a couch or something. Eyes closed and relaxed. And I kept asking these kinds of questions. For example, just on the theme of your dream house, I could go on for a LONG TIME. Every answer I got out of you, I could keep going deeper and deeper. What would this do for you? You wouldn't have to talk. You wouldn't have to think. Just nod your answer. You'd feel pretty good, right? Now imagine being able to DO THIS for anybody. No speaking on their part required. No thinking on their part required. Just choosing. Even choosing by nodding. How many different kinds of people could you use this on? How many different kinds of people would YOU make feel fantastic because of this? How do you think THEY would feel about YOU because of this? Find Out: https://mindpersuasion.com/desire-builder/
  14. Uncover AI Love: https://mindpersuasion.com/undercover-ai-love/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec28Loop.mp4
  15. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov09Post.mp4 Effective copywriters can make a ton of money. And it's something you can do from pretty much anywhere. So it's a very, very desirable job for a lot of people. The idea is pretty simple. To understand human nature. To understand things like the seven laws of Cialdini. To understand the problems people have that products will alleviate. If you can combine this understanding with some clever and intriguing writing, you CAN make a fortune. Especially if you want to promote any kind of evergreen product. The idea is very simple. Find an evergreen product to promote. One that is always in demand. Write and effect sales page. Get consistent traffic to that sales page. Sit back and watch the money roll in. This is a common DREAM. To make money while you sleep. Now, WHY is this such a compelling dream? One that so many pursue? Many people incorrectly believe that it's due to laziness. That people work very, very hard to "make money while you sleep." I don't believe that is accurate. Consider there is another reason. Practicing writing is easy. Not easy, but it's something you can do in the abstract. Like practicing the piano or Photoshop. And so long as you have another income, there's no rush. Put in an hour a day, and slowly build up your online income. Do this long enough, and consistent enough, and pretty soon your online income will eclipse your "regular" income. THEN you can live the "laptop lifestyle." At least this the idea. But once again, WHY is this idea so compelling? Consider that you get the MONEY from sales, but not the PAIN. What's the pain? Consider that instead of practicing your writing for an hour a day, you practiced your FACE TO FACE sales an hour a day. Or even telephone sales. There are KAJILLION people who dream of becoming a world class copywriter. Few people even CONSIDER being a world class phone sales guy. Why is this? The reason is obvious. The idea of writing a sales letter is BORING. But the idea of calling a bunch of random dudes and trying to sell them things is TERRIFYING. This is EXACTLY why so many people prefer online dating to old school, face to face social situations. Having another human tell you "no thanks" is terrifying. Horrible. Emotionally devastating. At least that's the general idea. But that presumes old school type of persuasion or seduction. Taking the ideas inside YOUR head, putting them out there and saying: "So, here are my reasons for dating or hiring or buying from me. Whatta ya think?" It's very EASY to say NO to that. But supposed you flip the script? Supposed you expanded the ideas in THEIR heads. Expanded them really, really big? Since everybody LOVES their own ideas, they'll LOVE this process. And all those positive feelings you create IN THEM will be naturally and automatically connected to YOU. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-communication/
  16. Toothpaste Apocalypse: https://mindpersuasion.com/toothpaste-apocalypse/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct30Loop.mp4
  17. Wasabi Flavored Dirt: https://mindpersuasion.com/wasabi-flavored-dirt/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct22Loop.mp4
  18. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct01Post.mp4 It's always good to keep some in the tank. It's always good to have a back up plan. Plan A, plan B, plan C, etc. If you only have plan A, and it fails, you won't be in good shape. If you run out of gas in your main tank, and you have a backup tank, you'll be much less likely to get out of trouble. This is common sense, and plenty of saying and anecdotes describe this. Plenty of ways to skin a cat, for example. If you're in sales and you have a lot of flexibility, you'll sell a lot more. If you're intending to get a ladies number and you have a lot of flexibility, you'll get a lot more action. Both require a flexibility of thinking and a flexibility of frame. When people tend to think of "frame domination" they tend to think in blatant terms. A blatantly strong frame that can't be overcome. But in reality, frame flexibility is much, much more powerful. This combined with a relaxed, confident but friendly AND playful attitude will win way more hearts and sales than the "warrior frame." In sales, every time customer comes up with an objection, you accept it, appreciate it, even playfully expand and slowly shift it around. This is best done NON competitively. To HELP the person overcome their own objection so they can buy whatever you are selling. They wouldn't be sitting in front of you if they weren't interested in buying. They wouldn't be sitting in front of you of part of them didn't want your HELP buying. Talking to friends and potential romantic partners is similar. Humans are VERY social. Our brains will bend over backward to find mutually agreeable points of interest. So if you're talking to a lady, and she's got positive body language, she's OPEN to you seducing her. In fact, part of her WANTS to seduce you. But part of her, an ancient instinctive part, needs to make sure. So she'll always put up resistance. But this "resistance" isn't angry, or mean spirited or even confrontational. It's usually very playful and subtle. Think of this as the linguistic dance that must happen before any physical connection. On one level, it may be seem silly and nonsensical. But on a deeper level, it's all about the reframe. Consider that customers and romantic targets WANT to be sold or seduced. But it can't be blatant. It's got to be very subtle. Both customers and seduction target, both male and female, NEED a bit of plausible deniability. They need to feel as if you WORKED for their acquiescence. So that don't feel taken advantage. So, enjoy the dance. Build up your brain power. Every conversation is practice. Every conversation is a dance in itself. Enjoy the game, build your brain, and get more customers and happy friends than you know what to do with. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/mental-strength/
  19. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July11Post.mp4 There are a lot of sales jobs that have the same basic structure. Low entry requirements. Very little training. If you can manage to sell, you can make a lot of money. Most do not. This is the Pareto Principle in action. Or the 80-20 rule. 20% of folks do most (80%) of the work. Work, of course, being relative. 20% of any books for any given publisher will get most of the sales. 20% of dudes will bang most of the ladies. 20% of the salespeople at any sales company will make most of the sales. Now, many people complain about this. They say sales companies should spend a lot of time and money training their employees. After all, they would make the money back, right? Not so fast. Think about the legacy publishing companies. Those old school, hundred year old businesses that served as the holy gatekeepers of fiction BEFORE self publishing became a thing. They had agents, editors, and people who read books just to pass them on to the next level. You'd think with all that experience, all those educated gatekeepers and screeners on their staff, they'd be able to sniff out the winners from the losers, right? Nope. No matter WHAT any organization does, they cannot beat Pareto. The 80-20 rule DOES NOT CARE how you choose. Within ALL the books those well educated literary super geniuses let pass their filters, the 80-20 rule still held true. The top selling books tended to SUBSIDIZE the crappy selling books. Those books that agents, editors, and gatekeepers read and thought to themselves, "Yeah, this will be a best seller!" DID NOT SELL. And guess what? Pareto is a smooth function. Within the top 20%, it still is in effect. That means with the top twenty percent of the top twenty percent does most of the work IN THAT top twenty percent. Which means that 4% (20% of 20%) does 64% (80% of 80%) of the sales. This is why there will ALWAYS be these types of distributions. Turns out those sleazy sales companies that hire anybody with a pulse aren't so stupid. They save a TON of money. Even if they did spend a ton of money on training they'd STILL be trapped in Pareto. And guess who else is a big fan of the Pareto Principle? A huge fan of the 80-20 rule? Mother Nature, that's who. Natural selection. Here you are, a living creature, with a thinking, rational brain. A ton of natural instincts. Just showing up and waiting for an opportunity won't work. Sitting around waiting for somebody else to make life fair won't work. What will work? Getting in the game. And getting some. Before somebody else does. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/obstacle-obliteration/
  20. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr22Post.mp4 Once I was looking to buy something. Something that I could only find from some woman a couple of cities over. We talked on the phone, and negotiated a price. I went to her place, cash in hand, but she started to get cold feet. Even though she hadn't used it in years, she was worried that as soon as she got rid of it, she would want it, need it, and not have it. I understood her concerns. She was still the owner, and she was within her rights to change her mind. But for some reason, I decided I wasn't going to go home without the item. I didn't get angry, I didn't use any sales techniques or objection overcoming strategies. I simply removed EVERYTHING from my brain expect the imagination of a happy transaction. My face was as plain as I could make it. I listened to her explain why she was having second thoughts. But I didn't respond. Just kept looking at her, waiting for her to decide. Now, this is a memory of a thing that happened nearly twenty years ago. Which means it could be heavily influenced by hindsight bias. But I distinctively remember HOLDING that thought, while she wavered. I remember noticing this thought was MUCH DIFFERENT than a wish or a hope. It was a kind of knowing that something GOOD was about to happen. Not just for me, but for both of us. A minute or so later, she smiled, got the thing, I gave her the money and we were both happy. Long time ago I sold insurance. I went to a training by one of the top agents in the local area. This top agent was an ex-cop. Had spent plenty of time in the interrogation room with hardened criminals. Thieves, murderers, rapists, etc. By lucky accident, I was sitting very near the front. This guy had such a STRONG intention, you could feel it just looking at him. Both these events are a DESCRIPTION of having a strong frame. A frame that includes the meaning of the conversation. It was very EASY to tell exactly how and why this guy could sell so much insurance. Why does this thing called "frame" even exist? Conscious language and thought is a very recent invention. Beneath is exists MILLIONS of years of non-verbal communication. With a strong enough frame, you can convince everybody of anything. I have zero doubt that the ex-cop insurance salesman didn't need to worry ONE BIT about the words he used. That guy would only need to sit across from you at YOUR kitchen table. Describe the policy, explain the costs and benefits, and then look at you and say: "What do you think? I think this is a good idea." With a strong enough frame, you can dominate anybody and any situation. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
  21. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar29Post.mp4 There are a lot of ways to leave a positive impression on somebody. Meaning you interact with them, the interaction ends, and you go your separate ways. The more you can leave a positive impression, the more they'll think about you. The more they think about you while they are away from you, the BETTER they'll tend to think about you. If you are a salesperson, and you leave a positive impression on them, as they are shopping around, they'll compare all other salespeople to YOU. The BETTER of an impression you leave, the BETTER you'll look in comparison. And the more likely they'll EAGERLY come back to you. At first, this may seem difficult. After all, it's you against all the other guys, right? But most people, including salespeople, are pretty clueless about leaving a positive impression. Leaving a positive impression PRESUPPOSES they will leave, and then come back. For most salespeople, this is TERRIFYING. But for an enlightened salesperson, this is FANTASTIC. A BEST CASE scenario. Because, as it turns out, leaving a positive impression on people is pretty easy. And, for salespeople, it's much more profitable. The MORE people come to you, and then go shop around, so long as they have a positive impression of YOU in their mind, the more they'll come back. This will not only create a nice, relaxing, enjoyable conversation with every customer who walks into your shop. But it will also create a FLOOD of customers coming BACK because all the other goofs were trying all kinds of short term "game." Even better is if you use this technique socially. Particularly if you are intending to create a romantic relationship. Or MANY romantic relationships. The same structure will happen. First conversation is EASY and relaxed. You are insanely confident BECAUSE you know that the competition doesn't stand a chance. So after they have a nice, relaxing, FIRST conversation with you, they'll talk to the "competition." And all the competition will seem WEAK compared to you. All the competition will seem DESPERATE compared to you. All the competition will seem shallow and hopeless compared to you. Which will cause a secondary FLOOD of people thinking of you. And what happens when people think about you, when they are away from you? They tend to fall in love, that's what. So, the money question. How, specifically, do you CREATE this lasting impressions? First, you STOP trying to impress them with anything that has to do with YOU. You ask them questions that will resonate in their mind. That will make them dig deep to find out the BEST THINGS about themselves. Questions they'll be thinking about for DAYS. Questions that will make YOU look better and better. Especially compared to all the desperate slobbering goofs wandering the Earth. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  22. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar27Post.mp4 Structure is everywhere. Joseph Campbell found that most myths from around the world have the same structure. One he called the "monomyth." Commonly called the "hero's journey." Same basic structure, over and over. Similarly, most popular music has the same basic chord progressions. Once you tune your mind to hear these common chord progressions, you'll see them everywhere. Structure is something that we need to choose to see. It's not something we normally see. Even if you've studied music or mythology your entire life, it's very EASY to "forget" momentarily about structure and focus on content. The melody and the words. The characters and their unique battles of good vs. evil. On the flip side, if you are a pop music writer or a Hollywood screen writer, you can essentially write the SAME THING over and over and over. Different melodies and lyrics on top of the same chord progression. Different characters and battles on top of the same hero's journey. Thought also has similar structure. This can give you huge advantage. How? Once you learn the basic structure of thought, you can talk about the same things and over. Sure, the people you are talking to will think you are talking about different things. Just like most people hear all the songs as being different. Or all the movies as having different characters and stories. But from a structural level, you will see them as being very similar. One of Joseph Campbell's books was called, "The Hero With 1000 Faces." This was because every hero is essentially the SAME CHARACTER. Dorothy, Luke Skywalker, Harry Potter, Peter Parker, Neo, all go through the same character arc. Which means if you can understand the STRUCTURE of human thought, you'll have a massive advantage. The structure of thought is the same as the structure of language. From your perspective, you are having the SAME conversations over and over. From their perspective, you are one of the most profound conversationalists they've ever met. Or the most compelling salesperson they've ever met. Or the most romantic seducer they've ever met. Or the most engaging storyteller they've ever met. This will make it very easy for you to never worry about what to say. Never worry about what to ask. And just like movies and music, once you KNOW the structure, it's easy to flip to either side. Structurally, from a building side. Content based, from an enjoyment side. See the structure beneath words, and lead every conversation, and every emotion exactly where you want them to be. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  23. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb15Post.mp4 When it comes to sales, there are two extremes. On one side, you spend tons of time with each potential client. Build rapport, elicit criteria, leverage criteria, close, overcome objections, close, etc. On the other side you spend the absolute minimum time possible. You give a pitch in less than twenty seconds, and check for interest. If there is ANY interest whatsoever, you covertly put the burden on the customer to qualify themselves. Most beginning salespeople are terrified of this. If you don't have a lot of prospects, this is also very difficult. There are advantages and disadvantages to both sides. But if you find that sweet spot, you can do very, very well. How, specifically, do you find that sweet spot? First, you refine your initial pitch. To make it as compelling as you possibly can. To create as much initial interest as you can. With the right words, and the right hypnotic patterns, you can create interest in pretty much any qualified candidate. Once you create this interest, you begin reeling them in. How? By IMPLYING scarcity. Most people understand scarcity. But applying it is much more subtle. If you blatantly say anything that indicates scarcity, it usually won't work. But if you can IMPLY scarcity, so your target can DISCOVER the scarcity, it will work a million times better. One way to imply scarcity is the "my way or the highway" model. You don't blatantly say that. But you imply that. Once you've got the initial hook set. You imply something like: "This is what I've got to offer. If you're interested, I'll keep talking. But since I don't want to waste your time, any hint from you that this isn't 100% for you, as it is presented, and I'll go find somebody else. After all, plenty of people want this. If not you, somebody else." A funny thing happens when you try the persuade-everybody-with-a-pulse model. Many people have ZERO intention of buying whatever you are selling. But they LIKE being pitched to. They keep asking questions AS IF they are "just about" to buy. But they really have no intention of buying. But if you always make them qualify themselves, you'll not only not waste time on those folks, but you'll INCREASE buying temperature. If you IMPLY (not state overtly) that you've got plenty of other people to talk to, AND you make it clear that ANY uncertainty on their part will get you to LEAVE, it imply a ton of scarcity. And the most powerful buying force of all time. FOMO, or fear of missing out. Create this conversationally, and people will be begging you to stay. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/sugar-baby-hypnosis/
  24. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb05Post.mp4 It's very easy for us silly humans to mix up cause and effect. Or to not notice all the variables that are going on. Take a common example. A guy is talking to a girl, and it's obvious the girl is into the guy. All the guys watching this are wondering WHAT he is saying. The idea is if we can UNDERSTAND what that guy is saying, and somehow emulate that, we can get the same results. This is based on a META assumption about human interactions and communications. We see somebody. We want something from that person, or with that person. We'd like to sell them something. Or get to know them to perhaps start a relationship. Or at the bare minimum, interact with them so they have a good impression of us. Most people ASSUME this is based on what we say to them. The most common question in these situation is "what do I say?" Consider that this assumption is incorrect. AND very dangerous. We have this very superficial idea that our words will leave our mouths, get into their brains and create some of feeling. If this were true, we could walk up, give them a note and it would have the same effect. This is ALMOST how it works in the movies. But consider that the words we use, and more importantly, the phrases and the energy beneath them is ONE variable in ALL the variables that make up how others perceive us. There's another idea that is very important. That overall, beyond our words, beyond our energy, is how WE perceive ourselves. Consider that how WE feel about ourselves is THE most important variable in all communication. Sales, seduction, and everything in between. For example, we tend to be "attracted" to people who are MORE articulate rather than less articulate all else equal. People that can say basic things but in interesting ways are MORE attractive than people who can express those SAME thoughts with much less robust words and phrases. And if you can connect positive energy to your articulation, you will be VERY difficult to resist. You or your ideas or even the products you may be selling. What, specifically, do we mean by positive energy? You LIKE what you are talking about. You LIKE YOURSELF as your talking about it. You LIKE the conversation you are having with the person you are having it with. The actual THING you are talking about is NOT NEARLY as important as all the other stuff. Luckily, you can work on your articulation just like you can work on your pushups or any other skill. And articulation is connected to your brain in a kind of form-function kind of way. You practice one, and you'll practice the other. If you build a daily practice of THIS, your overall attraction and charisma will continue to increase. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
  25. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec11Post.mp4 One common problem both salespeople and social persuaders have is an inability to close. Sales people can give the most fantastic presentations ever, but when it comes to the close, they flounder. Guys and girls can talk a great game, but when it comes time to close, it goes sideways. Both people feel it. Both people know that SOMEBODY should say something. But both sit there, mumbling and suddenly avoiding eye contact. "So, uh, yea, wow, gee..." There are two ways to get around this common problem. One is to ALWAYS close. Close everywhere and often. This, however, is only a superficial solution. It's kind of like ripping a bandage off. It's painful, and you want to get it over with. This is the basic philosophy of number closing everybody who looks in your direction. It kind of, sort of, makes it SEEM like you are being confident. If you tell your buddies you number closed twenty girls in the past weekend, they'd be impressed. After all, most guys are terrified of number closing ONCE, let alone twenty times. But when you look at the stats, they aren't really that great. You ask twenty girls for their number. Fifteen politely decline. Four gave you a number only because they were too shy to say no. That one who was actually interested, was really only interested in the moment. You impressed her with your confidence, your focus, your lack of anxiety. But since that attraction was built QUICKLY, it dissipated quickly. So when you call her a day or so later, she might not even remember you. So, yeah, while number closing twenty girls a week is pretty cool from a confidence, brag to your buddies angle, it's pretty ineffective if you actually want to MEET people. If you want to slowly expand your social circle, and get to KNOW people, number closing everybody with a pulse is not the way to do it. Consider doing the OPPOSITE. This is counter intuitive. This is a LONG GAME strategy. This will build up your REAL confidence. The deep confidence that isn't temporary. The kind of deep confidence that naturally radiates from you when you are ordering a slice of pizza or asking the waitress for a refill on your diet coke. How can you BUILD this confidence? By practicing hit and run compliments. But not OBVIOUS compliments. Not compliments about how they look, or how pretty their eyes are. Compliments about their choices, their decisions. Compliments about THEM. That indicate you see them more deeply than everybody else. What will make these particularly powerful is if you deliver them with linguistic presuppositions. These will make them radiate in their mind much longer. Walk up, deliver the compliment, smile and keep walking. This will create a massive number of memories in your brain. Of people looking at YOU and wanting more. This will add up to a deep and REAL belief that people WANT you. This is something few people will EVER experience. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
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