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  1. https://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  2. One question that is tough to answer is what you do for a living. You could be in the middle of a conversation with a cutie and everything could be going smoothly. But then the "what do you do?" questions pops up. There are a couple of things to understand about this. One is there are always two layers of communication. Conscious and subconscious. If the conscious layer sounds good, but the subconscious doesn't, it will come across as incongruent. This is why movie acting isn't as easy as it appears. On the surface it seems pretty easy. Just remember your lines, right? But if you've ever seen a crap movie with crap acting, then you know that the lines are only a tiny part. The best actors have the best underlying energy to go along with their lines. So even if you have a decent sounding job, if you deliver your job description with some less than confident energy, it will kill attraction. But the opposite won't work either. If you work at Jack in the Box, and really enjoy your job, that might not be a good answer either. More important than how you make money now is what your plans are for the future. Not your hopes or wishes, but PLANS. If she asks what you do, no matter WHAT your current job is, so long as you deliver a solid PLAN for the future, it will INCREASE attraction. How do you do this? The first step is to actually CREATE a plan. Write it out. Start where you are, and write out your PLANS for the future. The steps you'll need to get there. Keep journaling these steps over and over. Until they are hard wired into your brain. Until it makes you feel ALIVE when you think about it and say it. When you think about your plan for the future, it should seem MUCH more compelling than any ONE girl. This is what creates very deep and irresistible female attraction. Of hearing a guy who doesn't chase girls, but chases his LIFE. But if you ONLY chase your life, girls won't naturally follow. You've got to interact with them. Not to try and seduce them, just to have friendly conversations. Make a habit of this, and pretty soon plenty of girls will be thinking of you. And all you'll have to do is choose the best one. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
  3. One of the biggest killers of attraction is to make your intentions known. One of Dale Carnegie's most helpful insights is the idea that you can get anybody to do anything so long as they believe it's their idea. Which means if you are CONSCIOUSLY trying to create attraction, it won't work very well. Best case is you are her only choice. And she ALREADY has a baseline level of attraction. But if you come out of nowhere, and start talking to her, it's very difficult to CREATE attraction from nothing. It's especially hard if she sense's that is your intention. If she DOES become attracted to you, it will be IN SPITE OF your conscious efforts. Why is this? Because you absolutely cannot consciously create attraction. This is the deep natural subconscious attraction. This ISN'T a girl consciously deciding the TYPE of guy she wants. When it comes to girls and guys, a food metaphor is appropriate. Nobody can CONVINCE you (or anybody else) to LIKE a certain kind of food. Sure, they can convince you that it's healthy, and good for you. But only your SUBCONSCIOUS can determine if you LIKE something or not. If it gives you PLEASURE while you eat it or think about eating it. But you CAN figure out how to COOK SOMETHING that has a high probability of being liked to many people. You can do some reverse engineering of what many people eat. Find out what kind of restaurants are popular, etc. So if you were having a dinner party, for example, you could figure out BEFORE HAND what kind of food people would like. Then make that. But it would be IMPOSSIBLE to talk somebody into liking something that they didn't like. Sure, you could convince them it was HEALTHY. That they SHOULD eat it. But you'd never be able to convince somebody to like it. Girls being attracted to guys works exactly the same way. The guys that she is NATURALLY attracted to is beyond her choice. And it's beyond your choice as well. At least in the short term. If a girl REALLY likes you, you can get away with a lot. If a girl DOESN'T like you, there's not much you can do. But if you understand the types of guys she and other girls NATURALLY like, you can slowly build in those characteristics. Turns out there are some very SIMPLE exercises that you can do. The MORE you do the, the more girls will be naturally attracted to you. While you can't get A GIRL to like you, you CAN get many, many GIRLS to like you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
  4. It's very common to want a surefire set of techniques. Either for persuasion or seduction. The idea that you could memorize a set of phrases and lines that would work on everybody. There certainly ARE a large collection of courses that teach that. But when you understand how marketing works, it makes sense. There are a lot of courses that teach memorized patterns simply because there is a lot of demand. Just like there is a lot of demand for super hero movies, that's what they make. But is it REALLY possible? If you have a LONG ENOUGH set of patterns, and you practice enough, it certainly CAN work. If you think of any persuasive character on TV or in the movies, that is how they sell. They have a sales pitch that sounds fantastic. Mesmerizing even. Their pitch is SO wonderful that their target only has to sit there and listen, spellbound. And that spellbound energy translates into buying energy. Or romantic energy. Clearly, if you could memorize a five or ten minute soliloquy, filled with gorgeous metaphors and language patterns, you could seduce anybody. But that would take a LOT of work. And some top level acting skills. Luckily, there is a much EASIER way. The whole angle of memorized lines and patterns is based on giving the person YOUR REASONS why they should do what YOU want. Sure, if your reasons are fantastic, and they are delivered with a lot of charisma, this will work. But it's MUCH easier to use THEIR reasons. When we do things for our own reasons, there is LITTLE resistance. There are many ways to do this. One way is to become proficient in the Milton Model. To speak in specifically vague language patterns. So they will necessarily fill in the blanks with their own information. This takes a lot of practice. There is an even EASIER method. That won't feel AT ALL like persuasion or seduction. Because you're only asking very simple questions. Questions they will ENJOY answering. It's a combination of two very powerful techniques. One is a simple technique to elicit their deepest desires. In a way that doesn't involve much thinking on their part. And while you are doing that, you can also elicit their THINKING STRUCTURES. Everybody has these. But few people know about them. So when you elicit their desires, and their thinking structure, you can carefully wrap them around any suggestion. In sales, this is pretty easy. But now, it's easy to do in seduction as well. Because simply the act of eliciting these thought structures will create a MASSIVE connection. Between you and them. And when you do so WHILE also eliciting their deep desires, those will also be associated with you as well. All will happen naturally and subconsciously. So it WILL be their idea. Learn How: http://mindepersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  5. Some of the deadliest or most dangerous ideas are the ones that seem the safest. For example, there’s the idea of our comfort zone. By definition, inside is safe, outside is dangerous. So it makes sense to stay inside. At least in the short term. But the longer you stay inside, the harder it is to go outside. This goes way beyond simple things like social skills. Since the dawn of time humans have been oscillating between safety and catastrophe. We stay as safe for as long as we possibly can. Then something FORCES us to move. And that “thing” is so dangerous and potentially deadly we have to invent new ways of dealing with it. But then that creates whole different level of safety. And the cycle repeats. Sometimes that results in evolutionary bottlenecks. When only a few of any species survives. That means the new “inventions” to deal with the threat are genetic responses. The structure is similar, whether it is over the course of a couple years, or a couple hundred thousand. The longer you remain safely inside your comfort zone, the harder it will be to go outside. Another seemingly safe thing to do in the short term that can be deadly in the long term is confirmation bias. Especially when it comes to the people we hang out with. Confirmation bias makes us hang out with the people that have the same opinions, ideas, tastes and beliefs. Pretty soon we start to think that we are “right” and everybody else is “wrong.” One fantastic habit to get into is simply meeting people outside your comfort zone. This be as simple as having a very simple conversation with people you normally deal with. Co workers, waiters, retail staff, etc. Just exchanging a few common pleasantries will go a long ways in making your comfort zone get a lot bigger. One critically important skill is being able to have a conversation with an interesting stranger when the opportunity presents itself. After all, any relationship, be it business, friendship, or romance will be with somebody that starts off as a stranger. And if you’re “having simple conversations with strangers” skills are lacking, why not practice them? The better you build THAT skill, the more people you can meet. The more people you meet, the more relationships (of all kinds) you can create. There are plenty of ways to start as easily as you can, so you can grow your comfort zone as comfortably as you can. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  6. The best relationships happen spontaneously. For women, the best romantic idea is to get swept off your feet. Unexpectedly. For men, it’s commonly taught that the best way to talk to a woman is under the idea of “outcome independence.” If you are specifically trying to get a specific outcome, you’ll be much more nervous and upset if it doesn’t happen. Paradoxically, the less you are concerned with an outcome, the more likely it will happen. However, this only works in the contexts of male-female relationships. If you tried this strategy when baking a cake, it would be ridiculous. For example, if you left your house one day, and purposely didn’t care of a cake showed up while you were gone, it wouldn’t. To make a cake, you HAVE to have a solid outcome. You have to KEEP that outcome in mind when baking the cake. If you started thinking about peanut butter sandwiches while baking a cake you might accidentally slip in some peanut butter without knowing it. So being “outcome independent” while baking a cake is a silly idea. So WHY does this work so well in relationships? Because after eating, creating sexual relationships is our PRIME DIRECTIVE. It’s one of those things that happens naturally. Since people have been making people since the dawn of time, it’s kind of programmed into our DNA. You really don’t need to study game or anything like that. But you DO have to have a set of basic social skills. The more of these “outcome independent” interactions you create with potentially compatible people, the more likely it will happen. How, specifically, do you do that? Find somebody that is physically attractive. Before you meet them, make a promise to yourself that NOTHING will happen. ASSUME they are happily in love. With somebody else. And just enjoy them as a NON-RELATIONSHIP-POTENTIAL person. Enjoy their personality. Enjoy the subtle sexual energy. Practice your conversational skills. Think of this as one “seed.” This works if you are a guy or a girl. The more of these seeds you plant, the bigger your garden will grow. And the more confident you’ll be. Imagine having 5, 10, or even TWENTY of these people that you can talk to whenever you feel like it. This will boost your social skills, boost your confidence, and increase the likelihood that a relationship will pop up where you least expect it. And because you’ll have been practicing, you’ll be ready for it. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  7. One of the biggest “deep skills” you can develop is the long game. This is considered “deep skill” because it’s not only intangible, but it’s something that isn’t testable. Developing the ability to play chess, for example, is a mental skill. But it is something you can test and measure. The same with many mental skills. Usually this happens in school, or in any kind of work related certification. You are given some information, you are tested on this information, and then if you can demonstrate that you KNOW this information, you’ll be given a piece of paper as proof. Usually from a recognizable authority. This is necessary for many reasons. If you show up for a job saying you can do a bunch of stuff, but you don’t have any proof, the guy hiring you would have to take a risk. On the other hand, if you had pieces of paper from recognized authorities showing that you indeed had those skills, there would be much less risk required on his part. But other skills that don’t come with pieces of paper are also fairly measurable. Sales is one of these. You might say you can sell well. Anybody who wanted to hire you could easily see whether or not you could sell in a short amount of time. So even if you didn't any certificates or diplomas, you could still demonstrate this skill. But some skills are skills that simply cannot be demonstrated. At least in the short term. They can be measured, they can’t be tested. To the extent that they can, they are very, very subtle. Hence the term, “deep skills.” Like being able to play the long game. Playing the long game means holding an intention in mind for a long time. It necessarily has to be the SAME intention. Most people start off with an intention, find out how hard it is to manifest that intention, and then CHANGE their intention. And then because of the magic of hindsight bias, they pretend they HAD that intention all along. But being able to hold the SAME intention (and not just pretend) is something that is very rare. And it is only something that can be tested over a long time. It’s also one of the most important skills in building a mutually enjoyable, emotionally and sexually satisfying relationship. You have to FIRST have the kind of person in mind that you want to get with. All based on NON-PHYSICAL criteria. Then you have to HOLD that intention while you go looking for them. Then when you FIND THEM, you have to build attraction and desire. This requires very strong long game skills. But here’s the thing. If you can master the long game skills of relationship engineering, you can master ANYTHING. Because in the game of life, the winners are the ones with the LONGEST game. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  8. One of the biggest transitions to make in life is from child to adult. The childhood model to the adult model. The childhood model says that there are some things that are out of our control, and it’s somebody else’s responsibility to provide those things for us. The adult model says it’s completely our responsibility to get our needs met. The more adult you can be, the more resourceful you’ll be. The more you stay in the childhood model, the more dependent you’ll be on others. Of course, many people don’t like this idea. Not one bit. People in power LOVE the childhood model. That’s the MAIN REASON for their power. “Put me in charge and I’ll make sure you get your needs met.” This can work fine, for some things. But other things REQUIRE we force ourselves into the adult mindset. Whenever we are dealing with one-on-one relationships of any kind, the worst thing we can do is retreat into the childhood mindset, where we think we are ENTITLED to something from the other person. This is different from clearly stated agreements and contracts. On a fundamental level, a feeling of emotional entitlement is VERY unattractive. Especially coming from an adult. But most folks these days have some form of this “energy.” Shaking it seems hard. Impossible even. But on the OTHER SIDE of that is immense power. Once you fully embrace your responsibility, especially within romantic relationships, you can create anything you like. This takes time and patience. And you’ll have to release any fantasy of magic “just happening.” But once you embrace your own responsible “creator,” you can create. Creating is much better than sitting around waiting for something to happen. Imagine two scenarios. Both take place in the same location. A location with plenty of attractive people you’d LOVE to get together with, for whatever reason. Situation one is where you gaze out over the crowd, feeling powerless and “hoping” something will “happen.” Situation two is when you feel powerful and are deciding which person with whom you’ll MAKE something happen. Feeling total confidence that it will work just as you want it to. Which situation would you prefer? Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  9. All humans are hard wired for efficiency. To to BE efficient, but to always SEEK better efficiency. For example, if a monkey is hungry, he'll look around. And he'll only get the banana that seems the easiest. Meaning he'll naturally put in the LEAST amount of effort to get the most return. When we humans think like this, it comes across in many ways. One way is when we are haggling for the cheapest price. Whenever we buy something, we would want the same thing for less cost. And whoever is selling something would want more money for the same thing. Some people LOVE to haggle, some people don't. They say that if something is too good to be true, then it usually is. PT Barnum famously said there was a sucker born every minute. What came next isn't normally included in that famous quote. But it's JUST as important, if not more. And that is those "suckers" that are born every minute, are suckers BECAUSE they are willing to BELEIVE something that is too good to be true. Most things worth getting are going to take effort. While we would all LOVE to believe in a "lose weight while you sleep" diet, all you need to do is look around and see that there's no such thing. If there WERE, everybody would be skinny. One of the MOST IMPORTANT things to have is a healthy relationship. This is just as true now as it was thousands or even hundreds of thousands of years ago. It's tough to it alone. But to have somebody to confide in, to have your back, to share sexual and emotional intimacy makes EVERTYTHING easier. Goals are easier to achieve, pain is easier to bear. The problem is that FEW people have such a relationship. But the truth is that most people don't put a lot of effort in. At least the RIGHT effort. Getting INTO relationships is easy. Anybody can do it. Maintaining them is the hard part. But maintaining a relationship with somebody you aren't compatible with is not only difficult, but it's pointless. But since most people are desperate when they are single, they'll get into a relationship with nearly anybody. So long as they are physically attractive enough. But as soon as the physical thrill is gone, that's when it gets tough. A much better way is to choose non-physical criteria BEFORE you get into a relationship. Most people don't have those. And they DO take time to create. But once you do, it's a lot easier. Working on relationships with somebody you are deeply compatible with is much less difficult. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  10. I was watching a documentary the other day about rehab. The theme was pretty common. They took a group of addicts, and put them to work on a farm. One of the ideas behind it is that one needs to be able to deal with physical and emotional discomfort, trial and error type setbacks. But without the crutch of any mind altering chemicals to ease any pain. We are hard wired to move toward pleasure and away from pain. Normally, this is a good thing. Even the pain part. Without pain, there is no motivation to improve. The most successful people say to get better faster, you need to fail more. Failure is the BEST way to learn anything. Practice of any sort, be it sports or music, is essentially trial and error learning. When you do things right, there is no pain, but there is no learning. Without night, there is no day. Without winter, no summer. Human pain, both emotional and physical, is a necessary message. To NOT do something, and do something else. Some pain and discomfort (the dark of night, the cold of winter) we just have to anticipate and prepare for. But other pain is absolutely necessary. Or, it USED to be necessary. Hunger doesn't feel good to anybody. So hunger had to be STRONG enough to motivate us to WORK to create the food we needed. But today, many people are brainwashed into thinking that pain of discomfort of ANY sort is bad, and should be avoided at all costs. This is essentially the core of those rehab programs. Learn to work, learn to try and fail and bounce back. All without taking any shortcuts. Today, there are many, many shortcuts. Most of which won't land you in rehab. But they are JUST as debilitating. Even more so. They slowly eat up your precious time when you COULD be busily learning money making skills and rewarding social skills. If you take a good hard look at ALL of our modern problems, they stem from having ancient instincts in a VERY modern lifestyle. Nowhere is this more obvious that in our romantic relationships. Ask most "game aware" guys and they'll say to "next" at the first sign of trouble. Meaning if your girl isn't behaving right, ditch her and get somebody else. Because this wasn't possible before, people were FORCED to deal with their issues. Some people say it's better this way. Others are very, very lonely. Luckily, if you want to, you CAN build and maintain an INSANELY happy relationship from the ground up. It won't be "set and forget" easy like an oven, but it is possible. And since having a healthy relationship is the foundation for a successful life, you might want to consider it. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
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