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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct16Post.mp4 Once I was hanging out a buddies house. We had just come back from a long backpacking trip. Since his apartment complex had a pretty large laundry room, we decided we'd do all our laundry there. While we were hanging out, I grabbed a magazine and went the restroom. While I was in there, I saw a spider. A big one. I immediately recoiled. But then I laughed. We'd just got back from backpacking. No showers for a week. Sleeping on a tarp, on the ground. Surrounded by bugs and fish (that we caught and ate) and even a few deer and bears. Under this context, seeing a spider or any other critter wouldn't even register. But in a clean bathroom, where it's NOT expected, it can seem a bit unsettling. Context is everything. Expectations are also very important. For example, imagine a waiter at a restaurant. They introduce themselves, ask questions and make recommendations to strangers all the time. They expect to ask questions, and have them answered. The customers expect to be asked questions, and have them answered. But that same waiter in different environment might be the shyest person you'll ever meet. He wouldn't dare approach a stranger, ask questions and make recommendations. But this is EXACTLY why people go to social places. To meet people. To ask questions. To be asked questions. And to make recommendations. What recommendations? Simple ones like this: "Hey, I enjoyed talking to you. Why don't we exchange numbers so we can get together sometime?" Sometimes this is easy. Sometimes this is extremely difficult. One common way to approach this "problem" is to develop a very strong frame. After all, if you have a strong frame, a compelling frame, it's much easier to make suggestions. But this is one of those things that is very easy in theory, but very hard in practice. Holding a strong frame is not so easy when you are talking to somebody you just met. And when the entire reason you are talking to them is they have something you'd like to have. Their presence, their energy, their personality, etc. So the common response is to keep building a very strong frame. So strong it's the strongest frame around. This is possible, but it's very difficult. The opposite, on the other hand, is very easy. To purposely come with a WEAKER frame. And to ask easy to answer questions from that weaker frame. Questions that will build up their desire and attraction to YOU. Very uncommon, very powerful, and very, very easy. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct11Post.mp4 They say that no man is an island. What does this mean, specifically? Nobody can exist on their own. Even you happen to have a fat enough bank account, and nice cabin far away from society, it is impossible to survive without other people. The stuff you buy has to be made by other people. The plumbing and electricity in your home has to be maintained by other people. Once a science writer tried, as an experiment, to make a toaster from scratch. Something that you can get for $20. Something so simple we take it for granted. But he wanted to see how complicated it would to build one. Entirely from scratch. Not buying the parts and putting them together. But creating the copper and the metal and the rubber and everything. It turned out that it was impossible. That's just the toaster. Making bread would be equally difficult. Grow the wheat, grind the wheat, mix it with water, put it in the oven. Of course, that oven would be need to be made. So even if you've got tons of money, getting what you want absolutely depends on other people. Sometimes this is as easy as handing over the cash, and them handing over whatever it is you want. Some bread, a toaster, etc. But what about things that can't be purchased? Like friendship or love? What about the money itself? Turns out this is where most people have the most trouble. The non-financial transactions. Making friends, creating relationships, and creating fat income streams. This isn't something they teach in school. Not even business school. Sure, they have all kinds of theories. But these theories are pretty vague. Especially when it comes to making friends and collecting romantic partners. The most common advice is very, very vague. Be yourself. Be more confident. Make a move. Easy for those who do those things easily. But what about the rest of us? What SPECIFICALLY do we do? What SPECIFICALLY do we say? Luckily, there is a system. A very simple system. To get from where you are, to where you want to be. To create fantastic feelings in others. So they'll be MORE than willing to help you get what you want. Whatever it is. Especially if it comes from them. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept15Post.mp4 Humans tend to externalize quite a bit. It's a very useful instinct. Imagine an ancient dude is out hunting. He tosses his spear at a animal and misses. If he got angry or upset at himself, that would NOT be very effective. Externalizing, on the other hand, would be very effective. Getting mad at the animal. This would cause anger. Anger would create more energy and motivation. This worked perfectly back in the day. When it was US vs. our environment. US were the people we lived with. The people we grew up with. Our environment was other animals. Other tribes. Or forces of nature that were treated like people. The gods of the sky, etc. Today, our instincts are flip flopped. Hunger is the easiest to understand. Back then, the rule was simple. Eat whatever tastes good. Eat as much as you can. Eating as much as you can was necessary because food was hard to find. Eating whatever tasted good was necessary, since there was a high correlation between good tasting food and healthy food. Tree bark, dirt, etc., didn't taste good and it wasn't healthy. Fresh meat tasted good and it was healthy. So were vegetables, fruits, some plants. Today, if we BLINDLY follow our hunger instincts, we'll get metabolic syndrome. Obesity, stress, high cholesterol, high blood pressure. We have to use our conscious minds to regulate our hunger instinct. Our externalizing instinct is also similarly messed. Back then, our environment was stuff that we needed to kill, or was trying to kill us. Today, our environment is other people. Back then, trying to kill an animal and getting mad at the animal was very useful. Today, trying to interact with other people, and getting mad at them if we don't, is NOT a useful strategy. Luckily, we can use our conscious minds to understand, tame and regulate our social instincts. Turns out this is MUCH EASIER than regulating our hunger instinct. Hunger is life or death. Social instincts are not. Which means when you figure out HOW to regulate and manage both your social instinct and your externalizing instinct, social interactions are MUCH easier. Which social interactions? All of them. Friends, lovers and everything in between. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instict/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept14Post.mp4 There are a lot of cartoon events that make for useful metaphors. A common one is when Wiley E. Coyote runs off a cliff. And he doesn't know he's no longer on solid ground. He stops, looks the viewer, and holds up a sign. He has to hold up a sign since coyotes can't speak. The sign usually says something like, "uh oh..." This is a very applicable metaphor. Useful for when describing something that has gone on too long. And what worked before is no longer working. Only nobody realizes it. The idea being that once people realize what's happening, they'll have a "Wiley E Coyote" moment. Then everything collapses. Lately, this metaphor has been applied to our economy. Specifically, the MASSIVE amount of global debt. Supposedly, everybody is going to realize that it's no longer working. And we'll all plummet to our death. Or something. But like many metaphors, they are very easily misapplied. The map, as they say, is not the territory. Even in the cartoon, Wiley E never dies. Even though if anybody DID run off a cliff, they would. Gravity is pretty quick. But collapsing economies usually take a while. Plenty of things can go on FAR longer than people think. From a purely historical standpoint, every single society that has ever existed has ended. Sometimes slowly and boringly. Sometimes quickly and chaotically. But they all end. One of the reasons may be that our mind-body systems were not exactly created to keep large societies. Our mind-body systems were designed to live in small, tight-knit communities. Where everybody knew everybody. And everybody had the idea that if you wanted to consume, you had to produce. Even a few decades ago, you won't find nearly the social problems we have today. From a pure social issue standpoint, we ran off the cliff long, long time ago. And only now are we starting to realize it. This is another MIS-APPLICATION of that metaphor. Wiley E Coyote is ONE dude. Society is made up of MILLIONS. And unless we've got our arms linked together, and we are all running of the cliff at the same time, we can not only survive, but thrive. It's just matter of understanding HOW our instincts are causing so much modern disasters. Once you figure this out, it's actually pretty easy to NOT run off the cliff with every other goof. You just need to stop and think for yourself. Look around, figure out what you want, and get it. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept13Post.mp4 Being told what to do is a comfortable feeling. If somebody tells you what to do, there isn't any worry or anxiety. If somebody tells you what to do, there is little risk. If somebody tells you what to do, so long as you follow the instructions, even if it doesn't work, you can't get in trouble. There are also many drawbacks to being told what to do. You are limited by the person telling you what to do. If they run out of choices, so you do. If they are up to no good, and they keep that from you, you may get in more trouble than you realize. The, "I was only following orders" excuse doesn't usually work out so well. We generally LOVE the idea of being told what to do when it involves money and social skills. If you wanted to learn how to ride a unicycle, you would need to practice. Nobody would ever think they could read a book on how to ride a unicycle and get it right the first time. But for some reason, we think we can learn how to make money or get people to do things WITHOUT needing to practice. Everything takes practice. But since most of us are terrified of practicing social skills or money skills, we pretend that's not true. Kind of like a meta cognitive dissonance. But there are some very sneaky ways to practice these things. Especially when you have a secret operators manual for the human brain. When looking at ourselves, from our own brains, we can be VERY confusing. But when you step back, and take our conscious, self-awareness OUT of the picture, it's surprisingly easy. Turns out that humans are the EASIEST to "train" animals there are. We are so easy to train we can train ourselves. This is one reason why we HAVE self awareness. But you don't need to "train" anybody. Just understand our very basic collection of instincts. Social validation instincts. Social status instincts. Communication instincts. Attraction instincts. And the most important collection of instincts there. Love instincts. Turns out love IS a very, very powerful feeling. But it's not based on magic, or alchemy, or metaphysics. Pure science. The BEST kind of science. The science that is easy to understand objectively. But the absolute BEST feeling there is subjectively. Understand the difference, and you'll see. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept10Post.mp4 You can buy a lot of cool stuff online. When I was a kid, if you wanted to buy something NOT from a store, you had to mail order it. Usually stuff that was in the back of comic books. You'd send them a check, and wait for WEEKS for it to come. Yes, WEEKS! Today, if it doesn't come next day, we get angry. On the one hand, it's cool to have stuff so quickly and readily available. On the other hand, it can ruin our ability to delay gratification. Being able to delay gratification is one of the most important META SKILLS. Meta skills are skills that will help you no matter what. It's better to always be improving these meta skills. Health, fitness, communication skills, social skills, interpersonal skills. The problem with living in a same day delivery world is we start to expect EVERYTHING to be instant. But you can find plenty of evidence that this is NOT true. There there still IS hope for us goofy humans. We STILL like TV shows that only come on once per week. Which means we are FORCED to wait. We still have the ability to build stuff and plan for stuff. One common problem today that was also a problem a long time ago was when our stuff came in the mail. Even if it took three weeks, or three hours, it requires assembly. And today as well as decades ago, there were two kinds of people. People who would follow the directions. And those other goofs (ahem) who would wing it. Once I put a desk together. Backward. Didn't read the instructions, figured I'd just eye ball it. Took twice as long. But if you follow the directions, you can generally build things pretty good. For example, my bed frame I bought from Amazon. Took a while to put together. But it is VERY sturdy. Looking at it, you'd never know it came in a box. Many other things we try and wing it, but we tend to mess up. Luckily, if you take some time, there ARE instructions. And if you take the time to follow the instructions, you can build ANYTHING. Even relationships. Friends, lovers, and everybody in between. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept06Post.mp4 Few people would disagree that the modern dating scene is a train wreck. A train carrying a bunch of dumpster fires. Headed toward a cliff. Being driven by some drunken clowns. And everybody riding the train is hammered and passed out. OK, so maybe a little over dramatic. But spend any time on any of the online dating sites and apps, and it's like walking through a jungle at the edge of time. All kinds of monsters and witches and ghosts. Acting all sweet and friendly on the outside. But secretly wanting to bake you into a pie. OK, so it's not THAT bad. But it's far from ideal. It's not THAT much different then the growing obesity problem. (see what I did there?) Way back in the day, being super hunger was a great instinct. Not only being hungry, but REALLY enjoying eating. That twin instinct keep people looking for food. And it MAXIMIZED how much we would store as extra energy. Today, that same instinct that helped us is killing us. Kind of like the guy on the ship during a storm. The boat was rocking, so he grabbed onto the first thing he could see. Which was the anchor. He hang on for dear life, and the anchor saved him. Only a couple hours later, when the weather was calm, they dropped the anchor. But he STILL held on. And what helped him before ended up killing him. This is what happens today when we BLINDLY follow our instincts. Metabolic syndrome and dating disasters. Obesity is pretty easy to understand. Not only is it physical, but it's pretty linear. Eat too much, and you've got problems. Manage your hunger, and you can avoid problems. But all the INSTINCTS that are built into human relationships are much more complex. Much more NON-LINEAR. And much more emotional. Which CAN make them much harder to manage. If you WING it, like pretty much everybody else, you risk ending up on the clown train of death. But if you take the time to UNDERSTAND the love instincts, you can get a massive advantage. Avoiding heartbreak. Knowing BEST how to screen people, to create the best relationships. You'll even be able to predict which of your friends' relationships will last, and which won't. Kind of like having a secret set of blue prints for modern love. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept05Post.mp4 I've always liked science. When I was a kid I'd read science books. Once in high school, our teacher was talking about some obscure scientific concept. He asked if anybody had heard of it, and I raised my hand. He asked me where I'd heard about it. And I said it was from a science magazine. That brought a chuckle from everybody else. I guess high school kids reading science magazines isn't quite normal. In physics, their are four basic forces. Two nuclear forces, electromagnetism, and gravity. They goal is to come up with one meta theory that ties them all together. Some are close, others are not. The two nuclear forces operate on very, very tiny levels. Gravity, on the other hand, operates on MASSIVE levels. So far, nobody has a clue how you might relate the two. Add in quantum mechanics, and it gets even more confusing. They say what we know about science is like the coastline of a tiny island. And what we don't know represents the ocean. Which means the more of what we know, the more we realize we don't know. Human nature is like this. There is a LOT that seems utterly confusing. Like the meaning of life. Or if you're a guy, what women really like. If you're a girl, it's pretty easy. At least in the short term. There's that one joke that's been going around online for years. Two lists of what to do to create attraction in the opposite sex. For guys, to create attraction in girls, there are tons of stuff. All complicated, all emotional, all romantic. For girls, to create attraction in guys, it's pretty simple. Show up naked. Trying to understand things like human nature and the meaning of life from inside our own brains is pretty difficult. But it's actually not so hard once you take an objective view. In fact, it can be pretty easy. For example, most people know about things like social proof. Social proof is a powerful advertising technique. It can also be used and dating. Understanding it from the outside is easy. Being effected by it from the inside is hard to spot, unless you are deliberately looking for it. All our social instincts are like this. And all our social instincts can combine to create some very powerful feelings. When it comes down to it, our main "purpose" is pretty basic. Get enough food, don't get killed and make more people. Understanding how all our instincts conspire to make this happen is pretty fascinating. And very useful. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept04Post.mp4 A long time ago, our taste buds were carefully calibrated to our environment. The stuff we liked to eat happened to be very healthy. Maybe once upon a time there were some goofy cave people who liked eating tree bark. Or maybe tree bark mixed with dirt. But since tree bark and dirt isn't part of a healthy caveman diet, those guys all died. So today, nobody has the "tree bark is delicious" genes. It's an interesting discovery that people who existed before the agricultural revolution had slightly different bodies. They were meat eaters. While the post agricultural people ate mostly grains. This slightly changed people's makeup. This was still pretty healthy though. But one of the unrecognized changes AFTER the Industrial Revolution was the introduction to sugar into the modern diet. Ancient cave people RARELY got a taste of sugar. Most modern health problems can be linked to eating over processed foods. From a manufacturing standpoint, it's a dream come true. It's pretty cheap to produce the processed stuff most people eat. The same stuff that's very hard to NOT stop eating once you start. This is a clear case of instincts gone mad. Another case of instincts gone mad is the modern dating dumpster fire. Most people are lonely. Finding a steady and loyal partner is next to impossible. Which is kind of strange, since there's a whole slew of dating sites. But in a sense, it is the same as food. The MORE food technology they create, the WORSE our health gets. The MORE dating technology they create, the WORSE our relationships and emotional health gets. But just like we can use our rational minds to figure out the BEST food to eat to consciously create the BEST health, we can do the same for dating. This means taking the time to find out WHAT people are craving. The thing they aren't getting. It's one thing to eat some junk food. You KNOW it's junk food. It's no mystery WHAT you need to do to get into shape. Eat healthy and exercise. But very few people KNOW why modern dating is such a horrific mess. Which means if you take the time to figure this out, you'll have a HUGE advantage. And you can use this however you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
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  11. One question that is tough to answer is what you do for a living. You could be in the middle of a conversation with a cutie and everything could be going smoothly. But then the "what do you do?" questions pops up. There are a couple of things to understand about this. One is there are always two layers of communication. Conscious and subconscious. If the conscious layer sounds good, but the subconscious doesn't, it will come across as incongruent. This is why movie acting isn't as easy as it appears. On the surface it seems pretty easy. Just remember your lines, right? But if you've ever seen a crap movie with crap acting, then you know that the lines are only a tiny part. The best actors have the best underlying energy to go along with their lines. So even if you have a decent sounding job, if you deliver your job description with some less than confident energy, it will kill attraction. But the opposite won't work either. If you work at Jack in the Box, and really enjoy your job, that might not be a good answer either. More important than how you make money now is what your plans are for the future. Not your hopes or wishes, but PLANS. If she asks what you do, no matter WHAT your current job is, so long as you deliver a solid PLAN for the future, it will INCREASE attraction. How do you do this? The first step is to actually CREATE a plan. Write it out. Start where you are, and write out your PLANS for the future. The steps you'll need to get there. Keep journaling these steps over and over. Until they are hard wired into your brain. Until it makes you feel ALIVE when you think about it and say it. When you think about your plan for the future, it should seem MUCH more compelling than any ONE girl. This is what creates very deep and irresistible female attraction. Of hearing a guy who doesn't chase girls, but chases his LIFE. But if you ONLY chase your life, girls won't naturally follow. You've got to interact with them. Not to try and seduce them, just to have friendly conversations. Make a habit of this, and pretty soon plenty of girls will be thinking of you. And all you'll have to do is choose the best one. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
  12. One of the biggest killers of attraction is to make your intentions known. One of Dale Carnegie's most helpful insights is the idea that you can get anybody to do anything so long as they believe it's their idea. Which means if you are CONSCIOUSLY trying to create attraction, it won't work very well. Best case is you are her only choice. And she ALREADY has a baseline level of attraction. But if you come out of nowhere, and start talking to her, it's very difficult to CREATE attraction from nothing. It's especially hard if she sense's that is your intention. If she DOES become attracted to you, it will be IN SPITE OF your conscious efforts. Why is this? Because you absolutely cannot consciously create attraction. This is the deep natural subconscious attraction. This ISN'T a girl consciously deciding the TYPE of guy she wants. When it comes to girls and guys, a food metaphor is appropriate. Nobody can CONVINCE you (or anybody else) to LIKE a certain kind of food. Sure, they can convince you that it's healthy, and good for you. But only your SUBCONSCIOUS can determine if you LIKE something or not. If it gives you PLEASURE while you eat it or think about eating it. But you CAN figure out how to COOK SOMETHING that has a high probability of being liked to many people. You can do some reverse engineering of what many people eat. Find out what kind of restaurants are popular, etc. So if you were having a dinner party, for example, you could figure out BEFORE HAND what kind of food people would like. Then make that. But it would be IMPOSSIBLE to talk somebody into liking something that they didn't like. Sure, you could convince them it was HEALTHY. That they SHOULD eat it. But you'd never be able to convince somebody to like it. Girls being attracted to guys works exactly the same way. The guys that she is NATURALLY attracted to is beyond her choice. And it's beyond your choice as well. At least in the short term. If a girl REALLY likes you, you can get away with a lot. If a girl DOESN'T like you, there's not much you can do. But if you understand the types of guys she and other girls NATURALLY like, you can slowly build in those characteristics. Turns out there are some very SIMPLE exercises that you can do. The MORE you do the, the more girls will be naturally attracted to you. While you can't get A GIRL to like you, you CAN get many, many GIRLS to like you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
  13. It's very common to want a surefire set of techniques. Either for persuasion or seduction. The idea that you could memorize a set of phrases and lines that would work on everybody. There certainly ARE a large collection of courses that teach that. But when you understand how marketing works, it makes sense. There are a lot of courses that teach memorized patterns simply because there is a lot of demand. Just like there is a lot of demand for super hero movies, that's what they make. But is it REALLY possible? If you have a LONG ENOUGH set of patterns, and you practice enough, it certainly CAN work. If you think of any persuasive character on TV or in the movies, that is how they sell. They have a sales pitch that sounds fantastic. Mesmerizing even. Their pitch is SO wonderful that their target only has to sit there and listen, spellbound. And that spellbound energy translates into buying energy. Or romantic energy. Clearly, if you could memorize a five or ten minute soliloquy, filled with gorgeous metaphors and language patterns, you could seduce anybody. But that would take a LOT of work. And some top level acting skills. Luckily, there is a much EASIER way. The whole angle of memorized lines and patterns is based on giving the person YOUR REASONS why they should do what YOU want. Sure, if your reasons are fantastic, and they are delivered with a lot of charisma, this will work. But it's MUCH easier to use THEIR reasons. When we do things for our own reasons, there is LITTLE resistance. There are many ways to do this. One way is to become proficient in the Milton Model. To speak in specifically vague language patterns. So they will necessarily fill in the blanks with their own information. This takes a lot of practice. There is an even EASIER method. That won't feel AT ALL like persuasion or seduction. Because you're only asking very simple questions. Questions they will ENJOY answering. It's a combination of two very powerful techniques. One is a simple technique to elicit their deepest desires. In a way that doesn't involve much thinking on their part. And while you are doing that, you can also elicit their THINKING STRUCTURES. Everybody has these. But few people know about them. So when you elicit their desires, and their thinking structure, you can carefully wrap them around any suggestion. In sales, this is pretty easy. But now, it's easy to do in seduction as well. Because simply the act of eliciting these thought structures will create a MASSIVE connection. Between you and them. And when you do so WHILE also eliciting their deep desires, those will also be associated with you as well. All will happen naturally and subconsciously. So it WILL be their idea. Learn How: http://mindepersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  14. Some of the deadliest or most dangerous ideas are the ones that seem the safest. For example, there’s the idea of our comfort zone. By definition, inside is safe, outside is dangerous. So it makes sense to stay inside. At least in the short term. But the longer you stay inside, the harder it is to go outside. This goes way beyond simple things like social skills. Since the dawn of time humans have been oscillating between safety and catastrophe. We stay as safe for as long as we possibly can. Then something FORCES us to move. And that “thing” is so dangerous and potentially deadly we have to invent new ways of dealing with it. But then that creates whole different level of safety. And the cycle repeats. Sometimes that results in evolutionary bottlenecks. When only a few of any species survives. That means the new “inventions” to deal with the threat are genetic responses. The structure is similar, whether it is over the course of a couple years, or a couple hundred thousand. The longer you remain safely inside your comfort zone, the harder it will be to go outside. Another seemingly safe thing to do in the short term that can be deadly in the long term is confirmation bias. Especially when it comes to the people we hang out with. Confirmation bias makes us hang out with the people that have the same opinions, ideas, tastes and beliefs. Pretty soon we start to think that we are “right” and everybody else is “wrong.” One fantastic habit to get into is simply meeting people outside your comfort zone. This be as simple as having a very simple conversation with people you normally deal with. Co workers, waiters, retail staff, etc. Just exchanging a few common pleasantries will go a long ways in making your comfort zone get a lot bigger. One critically important skill is being able to have a conversation with an interesting stranger when the opportunity presents itself. After all, any relationship, be it business, friendship, or romance will be with somebody that starts off as a stranger. And if you’re “having simple conversations with strangers” skills are lacking, why not practice them? The better you build THAT skill, the more people you can meet. The more people you meet, the more relationships (of all kinds) you can create. There are plenty of ways to start as easily as you can, so you can grow your comfort zone as comfortably as you can. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  15. The best relationships happen spontaneously. For women, the best romantic idea is to get swept off your feet. Unexpectedly. For men, it’s commonly taught that the best way to talk to a woman is under the idea of “outcome independence.” If you are specifically trying to get a specific outcome, you’ll be much more nervous and upset if it doesn’t happen. Paradoxically, the less you are concerned with an outcome, the more likely it will happen. However, this only works in the contexts of male-female relationships. If you tried this strategy when baking a cake, it would be ridiculous. For example, if you left your house one day, and purposely didn’t care of a cake showed up while you were gone, it wouldn’t. To make a cake, you HAVE to have a solid outcome. You have to KEEP that outcome in mind when baking the cake. If you started thinking about peanut butter sandwiches while baking a cake you might accidentally slip in some peanut butter without knowing it. So being “outcome independent” while baking a cake is a silly idea. So WHY does this work so well in relationships? Because after eating, creating sexual relationships is our PRIME DIRECTIVE. It’s one of those things that happens naturally. Since people have been making people since the dawn of time, it’s kind of programmed into our DNA. You really don’t need to study game or anything like that. But you DO have to have a set of basic social skills. The more of these “outcome independent” interactions you create with potentially compatible people, the more likely it will happen. How, specifically, do you do that? Find somebody that is physically attractive. Before you meet them, make a promise to yourself that NOTHING will happen. ASSUME they are happily in love. With somebody else. And just enjoy them as a NON-RELATIONSHIP-POTENTIAL person. Enjoy their personality. Enjoy the subtle sexual energy. Practice your conversational skills. Think of this as one “seed.” This works if you are a guy or a girl. The more of these seeds you plant, the bigger your garden will grow. And the more confident you’ll be. Imagine having 5, 10, or even TWENTY of these people that you can talk to whenever you feel like it. This will boost your social skills, boost your confidence, and increase the likelihood that a relationship will pop up where you least expect it. And because you’ll have been practicing, you’ll be ready for it. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  16. One of the biggest “deep skills” you can develop is the long game. This is considered “deep skill” because it’s not only intangible, but it’s something that isn’t testable. Developing the ability to play chess, for example, is a mental skill. But it is something you can test and measure. The same with many mental skills. Usually this happens in school, or in any kind of work related certification. You are given some information, you are tested on this information, and then if you can demonstrate that you KNOW this information, you’ll be given a piece of paper as proof. Usually from a recognizable authority. This is necessary for many reasons. If you show up for a job saying you can do a bunch of stuff, but you don’t have any proof, the guy hiring you would have to take a risk. On the other hand, if you had pieces of paper from recognized authorities showing that you indeed had those skills, there would be much less risk required on his part. But other skills that don’t come with pieces of paper are also fairly measurable. Sales is one of these. You might say you can sell well. Anybody who wanted to hire you could easily see whether or not you could sell in a short amount of time. So even if you didn't any certificates or diplomas, you could still demonstrate this skill. But some skills are skills that simply cannot be demonstrated. At least in the short term. They can be measured, they can’t be tested. To the extent that they can, they are very, very subtle. Hence the term, “deep skills.” Like being able to play the long game. Playing the long game means holding an intention in mind for a long time. It necessarily has to be the SAME intention. Most people start off with an intention, find out how hard it is to manifest that intention, and then CHANGE their intention. And then because of the magic of hindsight bias, they pretend they HAD that intention all along. But being able to hold the SAME intention (and not just pretend) is something that is very rare. And it is only something that can be tested over a long time. It’s also one of the most important skills in building a mutually enjoyable, emotionally and sexually satisfying relationship. You have to FIRST have the kind of person in mind that you want to get with. All based on NON-PHYSICAL criteria. Then you have to HOLD that intention while you go looking for them. Then when you FIND THEM, you have to build attraction and desire. This requires very strong long game skills. But here’s the thing. If you can master the long game skills of relationship engineering, you can master ANYTHING. Because in the game of life, the winners are the ones with the LONGEST game. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  17. One of the biggest transitions to make in life is from child to adult. The childhood model to the adult model. The childhood model says that there are some things that are out of our control, and it’s somebody else’s responsibility to provide those things for us. The adult model says it’s completely our responsibility to get our needs met. The more adult you can be, the more resourceful you’ll be. The more you stay in the childhood model, the more dependent you’ll be on others. Of course, many people don’t like this idea. Not one bit. People in power LOVE the childhood model. That’s the MAIN REASON for their power. “Put me in charge and I’ll make sure you get your needs met.” This can work fine, for some things. But other things REQUIRE we force ourselves into the adult mindset. Whenever we are dealing with one-on-one relationships of any kind, the worst thing we can do is retreat into the childhood mindset, where we think we are ENTITLED to something from the other person. This is different from clearly stated agreements and contracts. On a fundamental level, a feeling of emotional entitlement is VERY unattractive. Especially coming from an adult. But most folks these days have some form of this “energy.” Shaking it seems hard. Impossible even. But on the OTHER SIDE of that is immense power. Once you fully embrace your responsibility, especially within romantic relationships, you can create anything you like. This takes time and patience. And you’ll have to release any fantasy of magic “just happening.” But once you embrace your own responsible “creator,” you can create. Creating is much better than sitting around waiting for something to happen. Imagine two scenarios. Both take place in the same location. A location with plenty of attractive people you’d LOVE to get together with, for whatever reason. Situation one is where you gaze out over the crowd, feeling powerless and “hoping” something will “happen.” Situation two is when you feel powerful and are deciding which person with whom you’ll MAKE something happen. Feeling total confidence that it will work just as you want it to. Which situation would you prefer? Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  18. All humans are hard wired for efficiency. To to BE efficient, but to always SEEK better efficiency. For example, if a monkey is hungry, he'll look around. And he'll only get the banana that seems the easiest. Meaning he'll naturally put in the LEAST amount of effort to get the most return. When we humans think like this, it comes across in many ways. One way is when we are haggling for the cheapest price. Whenever we buy something, we would want the same thing for less cost. And whoever is selling something would want more money for the same thing. Some people LOVE to haggle, some people don't. They say that if something is too good to be true, then it usually is. PT Barnum famously said there was a sucker born every minute. What came next isn't normally included in that famous quote. But it's JUST as important, if not more. And that is those "suckers" that are born every minute, are suckers BECAUSE they are willing to BELEIVE something that is too good to be true. Most things worth getting are going to take effort. While we would all LOVE to believe in a "lose weight while you sleep" diet, all you need to do is look around and see that there's no such thing. If there WERE, everybody would be skinny. One of the MOST IMPORTANT things to have is a healthy relationship. This is just as true now as it was thousands or even hundreds of thousands of years ago. It's tough to it alone. But to have somebody to confide in, to have your back, to share sexual and emotional intimacy makes EVERTYTHING easier. Goals are easier to achieve, pain is easier to bear. The problem is that FEW people have such a relationship. But the truth is that most people don't put a lot of effort in. At least the RIGHT effort. Getting INTO relationships is easy. Anybody can do it. Maintaining them is the hard part. But maintaining a relationship with somebody you aren't compatible with is not only difficult, but it's pointless. But since most people are desperate when they are single, they'll get into a relationship with nearly anybody. So long as they are physically attractive enough. But as soon as the physical thrill is gone, that's when it gets tough. A much better way is to choose non-physical criteria BEFORE you get into a relationship. Most people don't have those. And they DO take time to create. But once you do, it's a lot easier. Working on relationships with somebody you are deeply compatible with is much less difficult. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  19. I was watching a documentary the other day about rehab. The theme was pretty common. They took a group of addicts, and put them to work on a farm. One of the ideas behind it is that one needs to be able to deal with physical and emotional discomfort, trial and error type setbacks. But without the crutch of any mind altering chemicals to ease any pain. We are hard wired to move toward pleasure and away from pain. Normally, this is a good thing. Even the pain part. Without pain, there is no motivation to improve. The most successful people say to get better faster, you need to fail more. Failure is the BEST way to learn anything. Practice of any sort, be it sports or music, is essentially trial and error learning. When you do things right, there is no pain, but there is no learning. Without night, there is no day. Without winter, no summer. Human pain, both emotional and physical, is a necessary message. To NOT do something, and do something else. Some pain and discomfort (the dark of night, the cold of winter) we just have to anticipate and prepare for. But other pain is absolutely necessary. Or, it USED to be necessary. Hunger doesn't feel good to anybody. So hunger had to be STRONG enough to motivate us to WORK to create the food we needed. But today, many people are brainwashed into thinking that pain of discomfort of ANY sort is bad, and should be avoided at all costs. This is essentially the core of those rehab programs. Learn to work, learn to try and fail and bounce back. All without taking any shortcuts. Today, there are many, many shortcuts. Most of which won't land you in rehab. But they are JUST as debilitating. Even more so. They slowly eat up your precious time when you COULD be busily learning money making skills and rewarding social skills. If you take a good hard look at ALL of our modern problems, they stem from having ancient instincts in a VERY modern lifestyle. Nowhere is this more obvious that in our romantic relationships. Ask most "game aware" guys and they'll say to "next" at the first sign of trouble. Meaning if your girl isn't behaving right, ditch her and get somebody else. Because this wasn't possible before, people were FORCED to deal with their issues. Some people say it's better this way. Others are very, very lonely. Luckily, if you want to, you CAN build and maintain an INSANELY happy relationship from the ground up. It won't be "set and forget" easy like an oven, but it is possible. And since having a healthy relationship is the foundation for a successful life, you might want to consider it. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
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