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  1. Easy Sex Love Magic: https://mindpersuasion.com/easy-sex-love-magic/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  2. Brain Hacking Love Process: https://mindpersuasion.com/brain-hacking-love-process/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  3. Ghost For Hire https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  4. Never Get Flaked On Again: https://mindpersuasion.com/never-get-flaked-on-again/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  5. Love Potion Reversal https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  6. Twin Weapons Of Love: https://mindpersuasion.com/twin-weapons-of-love/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  7. Snake Charmer https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  8. Why Opportunities Are Everywhere https://mindpersuasion.com/why-opportunities-are-everywhere/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  9. The Science Of Love: https://mindpersuasion.com/the-science-of-love/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec07Post.mp4 One of the coolest ideas, in my option, about the big bang is the idea of time and space. Meaning that time and space itself expanded after the big bang. For example, imagine a balloon, existing as a tiny speck. Then the balloon quickly inflates. And suppose there are a bunch of self aware, really tiny societies living on the surface of the balloon. So long as the balloon will continuously expand (like they think the universe is) every society will think THEY are the center of the universe. No matter which point of view you take, you'll look at all the other societies and see them as ALL going further away from you. At the same time, EVERYBODY started at that same tiny point. So everybody is expanding away from everybody else. AND everybody has a legitimate claim on being the center of the universe. One of the biggest confusions within our self-aware monkey brain is correlation and causation. For example, say something happened a long, long time ago. But nobody remembers it, since it was so long ago. And everything that happens TODAY is an "effect" for that thing long, long ago. This is one of the reasons we confuse causation for correlation. If event A causes events B, C, D, and E, then B, C, D, and E will all be correlated. But if you don't remember or know about A, then trying prove anything OTHER than correlation between B, C, D, and E will be futile. Even WORSE is everybody will have their own pet theories of HOW B, C, D, and E are related. But since nobody remembers A, they'll all be CLOSE but not entirely correct. Close enough so they think their idea is the RIGHT one. But not able to prove anything, so everybody else can have a REASON to disagree. This is, essentially, the modern dating market. What do girls like? Guys with money, right? Nope. Otherwise ex-con bad boys would never be able to get laid. They like pretty boy Chad types, right? Nope, plenty of evidence of ugly ass dudes getting plenty of action. They like famous people like rock stars and movie stars, right? Nope those dudes get raked over the coals during divorce just like everybody else. All these ideas of what women "like" are like the B, C, D, and E. They are all RESULTS of "A," which is what they REALLY want. B, C, D, and E USED TO BE signs of A. But that was long ago. Now, you may have B, C, D, and E but NOT A. B, C, D and E are all outward expressions. Money, fame, looks, gorgeous face and six packs. A is very INTERNAL. A subconscious view of yourself and the world. And it comes out through how you speak, walk and act. It is IMPOSSIBLE to fake. So when YOU build it, you WILL dominate. Over EVERYBODY. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-dominance/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov26Post.mp4 We silly humans have a hard time with cause and effect. Particularly when things are linked. But plenty of things can be mathematically linked, but have zero causality. A famous example is ice cream and sharks. During the summer, people eat more ice cream. During the summer, there are more shark attacks. So, you could create a positive correlation between the two. But, it would be silly that eating ice cream causes shark attacks. Like every time you bite into any kind of ice cream, some poor dude is getting bit into by a shark. Or if you're out swimming, and a shark bites off your leg, you'll respond with a telepathically sent impulse to get people to eat ice cream. But other things aren't so obvious. In the previous example, it's easy to see the common thing. The same thing, the heat of the summer, causing both things. But often this third element is hidden. Or even more complicated, there are WAY more elements. Consider the common advice of "being yourself." We are "ourselves" with close friends. With new people, most people take a while to "be themselves." Both nice guys, and guys who study and practice "game" are PURPOSELY not being themselves. Nice guys assume that if they be "nice," they'll be "entitled" to some kind of reward. This is kind of subconscious, as they really BELIEVE that is their natural behavior. Guys who practice game are purposely and deliberately not being themselves. But what about naturals? Consider that naturals ARE naturals because they feel confident being themselves around EVERYBODY. They stroll up to pretty ladies and ARE their true selves right off the bat. But if you only see the surface, you'll create "game" based on their behaviors and communication. That is missing the point. Kind of like thinking that ice cream sales drive shark attacks. For naturals, it's not their actual actions, it's their CONGRUENCE that is so attractive. Juts like little kids. Everybody likes little kids because they aren't being "fake" nice or running some kind of game. When they are happy they let everybody know they are happy. Consider this cause-effect paradox. The ultimate goal for any guy or gal looking for action is to get the point where you can express your real self. They can express their real self. And you both like each other's real self. THEN you have sex. And AFTER sex, you both experience that post orgasmic "after glow." But what if you could create that "after glow" but BEFORE you even speak to them. How could this be possible? Consider that finding somebody who gets and appreciates us, AND wants to have sex with us creates some very POWERFUL emotions. And those emotions drive that mutual gaze of love. But what if you could CREATE those emotions ON YOUR OWN? And share them with ANYBODY you wanted? How would THAT affect your social life? Learn How: https://mindperusasion.com/seductive-eye-contact/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov07Post.mp4 There are three basic categories of all persuasion. Most everybody, including seasoned sales people, use the first one. This is the stereotypical TV salesman. He or she is very charismatic and well spoken. A guy or gal who radiates genuine frame strength, based on a lot of factors. One is that they're a genuinely good person. Somebody who has finally found their niche in life. Selling TVs or cars or whatever else they are selling. They are like the stereotypical Zig Ziglar door to door salesman who USES and LOVES the pots and pans he is selling. So when he tells you they are the BEST pots and pans in the world, you believe him. You believe him because HE believes him. This is also true in friend-to-friend persuasion. If you've seen a movie and you genuinely thought it was the BEST movie in the world, it will be very EASY to convince all your friends to see it. This is the IDEAL type of Level I persuasion. What is Level I? (I just made that up so don't go googling it...) The ideas in the head of the persuader are ALL that is used to persuade. The target sits passively and listens. The problems with this level are obvious. Unless the persuader (friend, lover or random stranger) is VERY congruent, it won't work. Even if the ideas in the persuader's head are a pretty good fit for what's in the target's head, it won't work. Any kind of "fake" or "creepy" energy won't work. Like if the persuader drives a Toyota, and he's trying to sell you a Chevy. Even if the points he makes about the Chevy may match what the target is looking for, something will be "off." This is why this type of sale is very, very, hit and miss. But because it's easy to teach, it's the one most commonly used. What's Level II? When you FIRST find out about what they want. If you're in sales, this is pretty easy. Ask them about what they're looking for, ask about all their criteria, etc., and not only is it EASIER but it's much more RELAXING. Unfortunately, this is very hard to do in social settings. "Hey, lemme ask you a question: What's the most important thing you're looking for in a sexual relationship?" This might make for some funny Tik Tok's but in real life you'll get a kick in the nuts. What's Level III? When you FORGET about leading them anywhere specific. And instead build up positive feelings about GENERALLY positive things. Best past experiences, ideal future experiences. Luckily, these are the SAME for everybody. The more you ask, the better they'll feel. The better they feel, the more they'll ENJOY you. Your presence, your voice, your ideas, and whatever else you've got in mind. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-communication/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov05Post.mp4 A very important aspect of human nature is our dreaming mind. Ever since humans invented fire, the battle for hierarchical supremacy has been a thinking contest. All the young cave kids would look up at the stars at night and dream. Now they might somebody slay the monster like the hero of the stories. Life way back then was VERY harsh, but very simple. The two critical things for ANY living entity is food (energy) and sex. For humans, this was manifested through the dreaming mind. The storytelling and story listening mind. Old guys tell stories to the kids. Stories about heroes who do great things, kill huge monsters and get the great rewards. These stories have powered humans since the dawn of time. Kids lay next to the smoldering fire and dream of growing up to be the hero. Those ancient humans that were the hungriest did better than those who were less hungry. Those ancient humans that were the horniest, and could ONLY get laid after demonstrating productivity (killing monsters) did much better than those without that ceaseless sex drive. Those that were motivated the most by those stories did better than those who weren't. Feeding our dreaming mind is just as critical to our survival as feeding our guts. Today, however, most everything is a trainwreck. It's HARD to dream when everything comes easy. At least enough food to not die. And sex if you're willing to lower your standards and wear some thick beer goggles. But that dreaming instinct still lives there. Otherwise, movies, books, fiction, video games wouldn't exist. All those serve the same purpose. To allow us to imagine we are much better than we are. To allow us to believe we are much more capable than we've been. But here's the thing. It's very, very easy to elicit that same dreaming mind conversationally. The hardest part is keeping your yap shut. Keep your yap shut and NOT try and impress them with the ideas in your head. And allow yourself to BE IMPRESSED by the ideas in their head. Particularly their fantasies and dreams. When we are openly wondering about a potential future this is VERY hypnotic. Similar to movie hypnosis. Sure, if you can talk a good game, you can create the same effect. But that's very difficult. It takes a lot of practice. But when you use the ideas that already EXIST? And you build them as BIG and BRIGHT and COMPELLING as possible? Their wonderful hypnotic future fantasies will be subconsciously connected to YOU. Particularly your voice and your presence. Give ANYBODY this gift, and they will NEVER forget you. Ever. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-communication/
  14. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct24Post.mp4 One of my favorite shows from a few decades ago was the X-files. Not just because it was about aliens or anything. But how it was written. Specifically, the two characters could each describe what had happened, during any particular episode, according to their own viewpoint. The doctor could always and legitimately describe things scientifically. The UFO guy could always describe things paranormally. Many movies that this kind of ambiguity build in. When it ends, nobody's sure what really happened. Some movies are so carefully written, based ONLY on the things that happened in the movie, it could go either way. Inception was like that. In the end, was he finally awake, or was he still dreaming? This is also a very common metaphor you'll find. Are we awake, or are we dreaming? One the coolest things about science is you get these same basic structures happening over and over. Atoms bounce around and form molecules. Why do they form molecules? It's easier, from a purely energy standpoint, to exists as a molecule rather than two single atoms. And going all the way up from this very simple structure, you can find your way into human nature. Atoms become molecules. Inorganic molecules become organic molecules. Organic molecules become life. Life replicates and makes more life. Then a bunch of stuff happens (stuff science might never understand) and you get humans. But humans continue this. We bounce around and create relationships. Stick a bunch of strangers together in kindergarten and we'll form friendships. Stick a bunch of strangers together who've all past puberty, take your eyes off them for a second, and they'll start banging each other. Well, not literally, but once kids pass puberty there is a WHOLE different dynamic. A whole new level of energy. Give them enough time, and MORE PEOPLE will pop into existence. This, of course, has been going on since the dawn of time. Nobody had to teach anybody how to do this. If you took a bunch of random people from around the world, and put them on an island with enough supplies, you'd eventually get more people. Even if they specifically chose one person each from each language. Humans hang out, make friends, fall in love, and make more people. Just as repeatedly as atoms will form molecules. Nobody needs to learn how to do this. But many of us need to REMEMBER how. Get rid of false expectations, drop some false fears, and get in the game. (Just be sure to bring a couple condoms... just in case...) Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/personal-magnetism/
  15. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July19Post.mp4 When it comes to meeting new people, we have a best case outcome and a worst case outcome. The best case and the worst case are time dependent. The increase of one creates a fear of the other. Because they are two sides of the same coin. The worst case is rejection. But not just your average run of the mill, "I have a boyfriend" rejection. A deep, personal, "I see who you really are and I want nothing to do with you" rejection. This is the deep fear ALL humans carry around with us. It is so deep, it is so ever present, most of us have forgotten about it. It keeps us from talking to the people we want to. It keeps us from applying for the jobs we'd love. That deep, persistent feeling that we will tell others about ourselves, they'll understand part of our inner selves, and reject us BECAUSE of this. This is also the source of self sabotage. Both in love and in business. You might have a job that you really like. You get a promotion. You are making a lot of money. But part of you feels like an imposter. Like one day they are going to find out that they hired the wrong guy. That YOU don't really DESERVE that. Or if you're in a relationship. You're getting closer and closer. The sex is getting better and better. But that doubt starts to pop up. What if she finds out who I REALLY am? Then she'll run away SCREAMING! And I'll be ALONE forever! This is what the Kinks meant in their song, "Destroyer." "You get a good thing going and you blow yourself out..." Of course, the flip side is the opposite in EVERY WAY. They see the REAL YOU and they like you even more BECAUSE of the real you. This is the source of the romantic "connection." The one lover who really "gets" the other lover. The one thing we are ALWAYS looking for. Somebody SEES us. Somebody who GETS us. And because they see, understand and appreciate us, that makes them want US even more. This is true for EVERY HUMAN. You, those people you pass by every day on your way to work, and all those super gorgeous people you'd LOVE to interact with. EVERYBODY has this two sided coin. Angel on one side, demon on the other. This gives you a HUGE advantage. Especially when you learn a very simple technique to talk to people so you will focus ONLY on their angel. This will give them a sense of conversational pleasure they've NEVER experienced before. And if you want, (be careful!) you can literally make them fall in love with you. The best part? It requires ZERO exposure on your part. Meaning you can build up THEIR pleasure and desire SO MUCH no matter how terrible you may think you are, they will NEVER want to leave you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/conversation-hero/
  16. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun25Post.mp4 If you've ever made the switch from regular soda to diet soda, it might be a little harsh at first. But it's easy to get used to. And if you drink regular soda by accident, it will taste like pure sugar water. This happens to your taste buds, if you gradually shift to a healthier diet. If you get into the habit of eating healthy, processed food taste really bad. If you re-calibrate your taste buds to the natural sweetness of fruit, eating some ice cream would be too much. If you work out regularly, but can't for some reason, it feels like something's missing. Some negative loops are HARD to escape from. If you start eating processed food, and spend a lot of time being as lazy as possible this is a HARD cycle to escape from. But some loops are so bad, you do anything to escape from them. For example, imagine if all you ate for a few meals in a row was PURE junk food. Like nothing but extra sugar soft drinks and donuts. After a couple of days, your body would be STARVING for something more substantial. If you were really depressed and stayed in bed, eating junk food and watching Netflix, you'd eventually feel COMPELLED to get up and at least stretch. The modern world is messed up in a lot of ways. Every where you look, you can find examples of a "race to the bottom." This, of course, is just a metaphor. Nobody is really trying to get to the "bottom." But companies always try and out do each other. There is always competition. But in most areas now, companies and people are competing for how EASY they can make things. How INSTANT they can make things. Not LITTLE we need to think to consume things. This makes us have shorter and shorter attention spans. Which makes them compete even more for quicker, easier, and lazier thinking based things. But deep inside, we STILL have our ancient instincts. Instincts for food, instincts for real social validation, and instincts for sex. Most relationships today are in the "junk food" category. Fake looks, fake personalities, fake everything. But everybody out there still craves that which fed our ancient instincts for hundreds of thousands of years. When it comes to relationships most people's brains have been destroyed by online dating. We've been trained to decide within LESS than a second wether we want to hook up with somebody. There is NO WAY we would have survived if this was natural. It is not. What is natural? It's the one thing that EVERYBODY is craving. Even if they don't know it. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/seductive-frame/
  17. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/May05Post.mp4 One man's problem is another man's opportunity. The same situation, seen from a more resourceful mindset, looks much, much different than it does to somebody with a more limited mindset. For example, plenty of guys get at least a little bit upset when their lady gushes over movie stars or musicians or athletes. Some see this as a sign of disrespect. That she should refrain from speaking about such feelings. Or even having such feelings. Most guys have a false beliefs that they are super hero alpha killers. That their gal MUST behave with utmost respect and deference. They even go on forums and complain that their gal is "misbehaving." Like a dog that peed on the carpet. How do I train my dog to stop doing this? All this is the PROBLEM state. What is the OPPORTUNITY within this problem? An unsatisfied woman. Very few men and women in relationships feel ABSOLUTELY satisfied. Even among life long best friends there are good things and bad things. But more importantly, how can you LEVERAGE this problem state? Of many, many, unsatisfied women out there? For one, understand WHAT specifically they want. That actor, that musician or athlete, what do THEY represent? The hero of every love story. The UNATTAINABLE goal. The MAN all the ladies are lusting for but can't have. Most guys, and most gals today are very BORING. We don't spark each other's emotions very well. For most of us, being sexually, romantically and emotionally STARVED makes it EASY for us to get into relationships. When you are STARVING, anything edible is good. This, again, is a HUGE opportunity. There is three basic steps to make it work. And work well. Step one, is you learn some basic storytelling skills. Storytelling that has heroes, deep emotions, romance and passion built into them. Then you drop in a few covert techniques. To subconsciously connect the FEELINGS in the stories to you. The next step is the EASIEST. Split. No not, like in gymnastics. But LEAVE. Leave her alone to think about the stories. To think about the emotions in them. And let her ancient cause-effect generator, that lives in EVERYBODY'S brain, to get to work. Meaning that every time she thinks of a hero, or romantic fantasy emotions, she will UNCONSCIOUSLY think of you. This will create a deep longing in her, that she, perhaps, has NEVER felt. Why do you think woman LOVE romance stories, vampire stories, forbidden lover stories? Be the one to CREATE those feelings in her, and you'll find out. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-seduction/
  18. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar29Post.mp4 There are a lot of ways to leave a positive impression on somebody. Meaning you interact with them, the interaction ends, and you go your separate ways. The more you can leave a positive impression, the more they'll think about you. The more they think about you while they are away from you, the BETTER they'll tend to think about you. If you are a salesperson, and you leave a positive impression on them, as they are shopping around, they'll compare all other salespeople to YOU. The BETTER of an impression you leave, the BETTER you'll look in comparison. And the more likely they'll EAGERLY come back to you. At first, this may seem difficult. After all, it's you against all the other guys, right? But most people, including salespeople, are pretty clueless about leaving a positive impression. Leaving a positive impression PRESUPPOSES they will leave, and then come back. For most salespeople, this is TERRIFYING. But for an enlightened salesperson, this is FANTASTIC. A BEST CASE scenario. Because, as it turns out, leaving a positive impression on people is pretty easy. And, for salespeople, it's much more profitable. The MORE people come to you, and then go shop around, so long as they have a positive impression of YOU in their mind, the more they'll come back. This will not only create a nice, relaxing, enjoyable conversation with every customer who walks into your shop. But it will also create a FLOOD of customers coming BACK because all the other goofs were trying all kinds of short term "game." Even better is if you use this technique socially. Particularly if you are intending to create a romantic relationship. Or MANY romantic relationships. The same structure will happen. First conversation is EASY and relaxed. You are insanely confident BECAUSE you know that the competition doesn't stand a chance. So after they have a nice, relaxing, FIRST conversation with you, they'll talk to the "competition." And all the competition will seem WEAK compared to you. All the competition will seem DESPERATE compared to you. All the competition will seem shallow and hopeless compared to you. Which will cause a secondary FLOOD of people thinking of you. And what happens when people think about you, when they are away from you? They tend to fall in love, that's what. So, the money question. How, specifically, do you CREATE this lasting impressions? First, you STOP trying to impress them with anything that has to do with YOU. You ask them questions that will resonate in their mind. That will make them dig deep to find out the BEST THINGS about themselves. Questions they'll be thinking about for DAYS. Questions that will make YOU look better and better. Especially compared to all the desperate slobbering goofs wandering the Earth. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  19. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec28Post.mp4 Many things have two time components. Short term and long term. These are almost always inversely proportional to one another. For example, sleeping in and then eating carne asada nachos along with a bottle of Jack Daniels feels very good in the short term. But it will kill you in the long term. On the other hand, getting up early, doing some calisthenics, and carefully monitoring your caloric intake most definitely SUCKS in the short term. But it will generate some very LONG term gains. Another common human trait is to get bad things over with as quickly as possible. Like pulling of a bandage. Or setting a bone. Or doing your taxes. If you combine these two you CAN end up in disaster. Especially when it comes to attempting to create attraction in the ladies. Generally it works like this. A guy sees a cute girl. He is getting some signs of interest, but you can never be too sure unless you go over there and say hey. So, the guy uses the bone setting approach. To get it OVER with as quickly as possible. But guys also tend to try the short term approach. To try to generate attraction RIGHT NOW. This very rarely works. Even the most confident guys, when trying this technique, have a VERY LOW success rate. Instead, consider flipping the script on BOTH models. One, forget about short term attraction. Attraction is BEST created in HER mind when you're not around. When she's thinking about you. Wondering about you. This, after all, was how feelings of love and attraction happened naturally. When she was thinking about you, and not knowing WHEN or even IF she would see you again. So, if you walk over there and make it OBVIOUS you want to jump in her panties, she'll never WONDER about you. Since she KNOWS that all she has to do is call and you'll come running. How, specifically, can you create the wonderful wondering effect that most ladies are desperate for these days? One is to become a Man with a Plan. A guy who's got a lot more going on in his life that trying to jump in any girl's panties who gives him more than a nanosecond of eye contact. Two, is when you talk to her, makes sure she's NOT SURE if you are interested in her or not. How do you do this? By asking her questions about HER. Not to judge her, not to qualify her, but just to get a better picture of her. Ask her about her future plans, her dreams, and whatever else she LIKES about herself. No judgement, but also not obvious compliments. Ask her, become interested in her, and leave while she's still feeling good. Then she'll wonder about you and HOPE that she sees you again. Start to do this normally, not just with cute girls, but with everybody, and pretty soon the world will be filled with cute girls wondering about you. And hoping you contact them again. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
  20. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct16Post.mp4 Once I was hanging out a buddies house. We had just come back from a long backpacking trip. Since his apartment complex had a pretty large laundry room, we decided we'd do all our laundry there. While we were hanging out, I grabbed a magazine and went the restroom. While I was in there, I saw a spider. A big one. I immediately recoiled. But then I laughed. We'd just got back from backpacking. No showers for a week. Sleeping on a tarp, on the ground. Surrounded by bugs and fish (that we caught and ate) and even a few deer and bears. Under this context, seeing a spider or any other critter wouldn't even register. But in a clean bathroom, where it's NOT expected, it can seem a bit unsettling. Context is everything. Expectations are also very important. For example, imagine a waiter at a restaurant. They introduce themselves, ask questions and make recommendations to strangers all the time. They expect to ask questions, and have them answered. The customers expect to be asked questions, and have them answered. But that same waiter in different environment might be the shyest person you'll ever meet. He wouldn't dare approach a stranger, ask questions and make recommendations. But this is EXACTLY why people go to social places. To meet people. To ask questions. To be asked questions. And to make recommendations. What recommendations? Simple ones like this: "Hey, I enjoyed talking to you. Why don't we exchange numbers so we can get together sometime?" Sometimes this is easy. Sometimes this is extremely difficult. One common way to approach this "problem" is to develop a very strong frame. After all, if you have a strong frame, a compelling frame, it's much easier to make suggestions. But this is one of those things that is very easy in theory, but very hard in practice. Holding a strong frame is not so easy when you are talking to somebody you just met. And when the entire reason you are talking to them is they have something you'd like to have. Their presence, their energy, their personality, etc. So the common response is to keep building a very strong frame. So strong it's the strongest frame around. This is possible, but it's very difficult. The opposite, on the other hand, is very easy. To purposely come with a WEAKER frame. And to ask easy to answer questions from that weaker frame. Questions that will build up their desire and attraction to YOU. Very uncommon, very powerful, and very, very easy. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
  21. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct11Post.mp4 They say that no man is an island. What does this mean, specifically? Nobody can exist on their own. Even you happen to have a fat enough bank account, and nice cabin far away from society, it is impossible to survive without other people. The stuff you buy has to be made by other people. The plumbing and electricity in your home has to be maintained by other people. Once a science writer tried, as an experiment, to make a toaster from scratch. Something that you can get for $20. Something so simple we take it for granted. But he wanted to see how complicated it would to build one. Entirely from scratch. Not buying the parts and putting them together. But creating the copper and the metal and the rubber and everything. It turned out that it was impossible. That's just the toaster. Making bread would be equally difficult. Grow the wheat, grind the wheat, mix it with water, put it in the oven. Of course, that oven would be need to be made. So even if you've got tons of money, getting what you want absolutely depends on other people. Sometimes this is as easy as handing over the cash, and them handing over whatever it is you want. Some bread, a toaster, etc. But what about things that can't be purchased? Like friendship or love? What about the money itself? Turns out this is where most people have the most trouble. The non-financial transactions. Making friends, creating relationships, and creating fat income streams. This isn't something they teach in school. Not even business school. Sure, they have all kinds of theories. But these theories are pretty vague. Especially when it comes to making friends and collecting romantic partners. The most common advice is very, very vague. Be yourself. Be more confident. Make a move. Easy for those who do those things easily. But what about the rest of us? What SPECIFICALLY do we do? What SPECIFICALLY do we say? Luckily, there is a system. A very simple system. To get from where you are, to where you want to be. To create fantastic feelings in others. So they'll be MORE than willing to help you get what you want. Whatever it is. Especially if it comes from them. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
  22. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept15Post.mp4 Humans tend to externalize quite a bit. It's a very useful instinct. Imagine an ancient dude is out hunting. He tosses his spear at a animal and misses. If he got angry or upset at himself, that would NOT be very effective. Externalizing, on the other hand, would be very effective. Getting mad at the animal. This would cause anger. Anger would create more energy and motivation. This worked perfectly back in the day. When it was US vs. our environment. US were the people we lived with. The people we grew up with. Our environment was other animals. Other tribes. Or forces of nature that were treated like people. The gods of the sky, etc. Today, our instincts are flip flopped. Hunger is the easiest to understand. Back then, the rule was simple. Eat whatever tastes good. Eat as much as you can. Eating as much as you can was necessary because food was hard to find. Eating whatever tasted good was necessary, since there was a high correlation between good tasting food and healthy food. Tree bark, dirt, etc., didn't taste good and it wasn't healthy. Fresh meat tasted good and it was healthy. So were vegetables, fruits, some plants. Today, if we BLINDLY follow our hunger instincts, we'll get metabolic syndrome. Obesity, stress, high cholesterol, high blood pressure. We have to use our conscious minds to regulate our hunger instinct. Our externalizing instinct is also similarly messed. Back then, our environment was stuff that we needed to kill, or was trying to kill us. Today, our environment is other people. Back then, trying to kill an animal and getting mad at the animal was very useful. Today, trying to interact with other people, and getting mad at them if we don't, is NOT a useful strategy. Luckily, we can use our conscious minds to understand, tame and regulate our social instincts. Turns out this is MUCH EASIER than regulating our hunger instinct. Hunger is life or death. Social instincts are not. Which means when you figure out HOW to regulate and manage both your social instinct and your externalizing instinct, social interactions are MUCH easier. Which social interactions? All of them. Friends, lovers and everything in between. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instict/
  23. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept14Post.mp4 There are a lot of cartoon events that make for useful metaphors. A common one is when Wiley E. Coyote runs off a cliff. And he doesn't know he's no longer on solid ground. He stops, looks the viewer, and holds up a sign. He has to hold up a sign since coyotes can't speak. The sign usually says something like, "uh oh..." This is a very applicable metaphor. Useful for when describing something that has gone on too long. And what worked before is no longer working. Only nobody realizes it. The idea being that once people realize what's happening, they'll have a "Wiley E Coyote" moment. Then everything collapses. Lately, this metaphor has been applied to our economy. Specifically, the MASSIVE amount of global debt. Supposedly, everybody is going to realize that it's no longer working. And we'll all plummet to our death. Or something. But like many metaphors, they are very easily misapplied. The map, as they say, is not the territory. Even in the cartoon, Wiley E never dies. Even though if anybody DID run off a cliff, they would. Gravity is pretty quick. But collapsing economies usually take a while. Plenty of things can go on FAR longer than people think. From a purely historical standpoint, every single society that has ever existed has ended. Sometimes slowly and boringly. Sometimes quickly and chaotically. But they all end. One of the reasons may be that our mind-body systems were not exactly created to keep large societies. Our mind-body systems were designed to live in small, tight-knit communities. Where everybody knew everybody. And everybody had the idea that if you wanted to consume, you had to produce. Even a few decades ago, you won't find nearly the social problems we have today. From a pure social issue standpoint, we ran off the cliff long, long time ago. And only now are we starting to realize it. This is another MIS-APPLICATION of that metaphor. Wiley E Coyote is ONE dude. Society is made up of MILLIONS. And unless we've got our arms linked together, and we are all running of the cliff at the same time, we can not only survive, but thrive. It's just matter of understanding HOW our instincts are causing so much modern disasters. Once you figure this out, it's actually pretty easy to NOT run off the cliff with every other goof. You just need to stop and think for yourself. Look around, figure out what you want, and get it. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  24. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept13Post.mp4 Being told what to do is a comfortable feeling. If somebody tells you what to do, there isn't any worry or anxiety. If somebody tells you what to do, there is little risk. If somebody tells you what to do, so long as you follow the instructions, even if it doesn't work, you can't get in trouble. There are also many drawbacks to being told what to do. You are limited by the person telling you what to do. If they run out of choices, so you do. If they are up to no good, and they keep that from you, you may get in more trouble than you realize. The, "I was only following orders" excuse doesn't usually work out so well. We generally LOVE the idea of being told what to do when it involves money and social skills. If you wanted to learn how to ride a unicycle, you would need to practice. Nobody would ever think they could read a book on how to ride a unicycle and get it right the first time. But for some reason, we think we can learn how to make money or get people to do things WITHOUT needing to practice. Everything takes practice. But since most of us are terrified of practicing social skills or money skills, we pretend that's not true. Kind of like a meta cognitive dissonance. But there are some very sneaky ways to practice these things. Especially when you have a secret operators manual for the human brain. When looking at ourselves, from our own brains, we can be VERY confusing. But when you step back, and take our conscious, self-awareness OUT of the picture, it's surprisingly easy. Turns out that humans are the EASIEST to "train" animals there are. We are so easy to train we can train ourselves. This is one reason why we HAVE self awareness. But you don't need to "train" anybody. Just understand our very basic collection of instincts. Social validation instincts. Social status instincts. Communication instincts. Attraction instincts. And the most important collection of instincts there. Love instincts. Turns out love IS a very, very powerful feeling. But it's not based on magic, or alchemy, or metaphysics. Pure science. The BEST kind of science. The science that is easy to understand objectively. But the absolute BEST feeling there is subjectively. Understand the difference, and you'll see. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  25. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept10Post.mp4 You can buy a lot of cool stuff online. When I was a kid, if you wanted to buy something NOT from a store, you had to mail order it. Usually stuff that was in the back of comic books. You'd send them a check, and wait for WEEKS for it to come. Yes, WEEKS! Today, if it doesn't come next day, we get angry. On the one hand, it's cool to have stuff so quickly and readily available. On the other hand, it can ruin our ability to delay gratification. Being able to delay gratification is one of the most important META SKILLS. Meta skills are skills that will help you no matter what. It's better to always be improving these meta skills. Health, fitness, communication skills, social skills, interpersonal skills. The problem with living in a same day delivery world is we start to expect EVERYTHING to be instant. But you can find plenty of evidence that this is NOT true. There there still IS hope for us goofy humans. We STILL like TV shows that only come on once per week. Which means we are FORCED to wait. We still have the ability to build stuff and plan for stuff. One common problem today that was also a problem a long time ago was when our stuff came in the mail. Even if it took three weeks, or three hours, it requires assembly. And today as well as decades ago, there were two kinds of people. People who would follow the directions. And those other goofs (ahem) who would wing it. Once I put a desk together. Backward. Didn't read the instructions, figured I'd just eye ball it. Took twice as long. But if you follow the directions, you can generally build things pretty good. For example, my bed frame I bought from Amazon. Took a while to put together. But it is VERY sturdy. Looking at it, you'd never know it came in a box. Many other things we try and wing it, but we tend to mess up. Luckily, if you take some time, there ARE instructions. And if you take the time to follow the instructions, you can build ANYTHING. Even relationships. Friends, lovers, and everybody in between. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
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