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  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb06_Post.mp4 They say there are two tragedies in life. Getting your goals, and not getting your goals. This doesn't make much sense, at first. But consider each one. You have achieved ALL your goals. Sure, it feels good for a bit. But then what? Assume you've spent most of your adult life going after your most coveted goals. You've spent years, or even decades. Every day you wake up with burning desire. An ambition driven fire in your belly. To GET that most coveted goal. So, what do you do now? Order some take out, chill and Netflix? Take away that ambition that has DRIVEN you, and you'll start to feel pretty lousy. Luckily, for most of us, and most of the time, we NEVER really reach PEAK goal achievement. Which means that whatever goal we do find, after we relax for a bit, ANOTHER one will keep popping up. So, getting ALL your goals means NOTHING else pops up. What about the other "worst" thing that can happen? Not getting your goals? This is likely worse. Far worse. To have plenty of life left. To have plenty of years of productivity left, but to somehow be FORCED to accept those things you want are FOREVER out of each. That would most DEFINITELY suck. This may even be why we have so many biases. So we'll keep trying REGARDLESS of what contrary evidence lays before us. You may even say this is the human spirit. To keep trudging forward despite the horrible odds. The happy place, of course, is in the middle. To really believe you are ON YOUR WAY to greatness. There's another seeming dichotomy. But instead of goals, we can be a bit more specific. Love, romance, relationships, sexual desires. When it comes this category, there are also TWO horrible outcomes. One is being desperately in love with somebody who wants NOTHING to do with you. The other, potentially much worse, is having somebody else desperately in love with YOU that you want nothing to do with. One makes you feel your heart's desire is out of reach. The other makes feel there is nowhere to hide. Of course, just like goal seeking, there IS a happy medium. For goals it's always in the process of getting more and better stuff, whatever stuff that might be. For love, it's having plenty of options. And within those options, there are some that think YOU are a potential option. This requires a slightly different strategy. Different than the two strategies that end in the two disastrous endpoints. Of finding somebody, chasing them, and them calling the cops. Or waiting around till somebody starts chasing you, and then you trying to find a place to hide. A middle ground that allows you to meet and have a profound effect on as many people as possible. But in a low key way so that EVERYBODY always has maximum choice. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/first-impressions/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb05_Post.mp4 Imagine two or three of your best traits. Your absolutely most attractive characteristics. Not ones that exist, but ones that could exist. Ones that aren't exactly fantasy (Like being able to fly), but things you genuinely like about yourself. Things you'd also very much like to IMPROVE about yourself. Like you are really friendly. Or you've got a great sense of humor. Or even a non-personality trait. Like something you really like to study or learn. (not video game hacks!) Even something you haven't even started yet, but would really LIKE to be able to master. A hobby, a sport, an instrument, a skill. Now imagine having a couple of traits, or desires, in some kind of a social situation. And you see somebody across the room. And you would very much like to walk over and tell them about yourself. Or perhaps even deeper, not needing any kind of "communication" intermediary. You look at them, and your eyes meet, you both kind of smile awkwardly, and break off eye contact. And you are suddenly hit by a deep knowing. That if they only KNEW those things about you, it would work. If there was somehow you could convey these deep dreams and desires that you have for your life and yourself. That if there was some way they KNEW these things about you, not just superficially, but deeply. A powerful emotional connection. As if they could see your soul, appreciate your soul, and CHERISH your soul. What of life would have if you could have this "self-identity transmission process"? Meaning you could somehow convey these things about you, to them. Not through your words, as words are kind of clunky. Things that exist in our brains are far to hard to express with mere words. At least words from the brain of one human to another human in a first meeting within a social setting. But what if you could play some kind of long game? What if you could speak to them in a way that would make THEM desperate to find out about YOU? And through this filter, of them wanting to know VERY MUCH what makes you tick, they would much more likely to accept and appreciate those deep things about you. And because they genuinely wanted to know these things, they wouldn't put you on the spot. Not give you only a minute to spit out your best thoughts of yourself. But they would be patient and considerate to help you get those ideas out of your head. Because they are extremely interested in everything there is to know about you. What would THIS do for your social life? Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/first-impressions/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb01_Loop.mp4 One common but rare experience is meeting somebody you just "click" with. Not necessarily in a romantic setting, but a friendship or even a random conversation. For example, when I was younger I used to play golf. I sucked, and I had some hand me down clubs, but it was fun. If only to get outside and walk around on the grass for a couple hours. But one thing you run into when playing golf is if you aren't playing with four people, you end up getting stuck with somebody. They send out groups of four every five minutes or so. So if you show up with three people, you're going to get stuck with somebody. Kind of like on a ski lift, if you're single, you'll get stuck with another single. But ski lifts are short and it's pretty easy to just sit and be polite for the few minutes. But a round of golf takes a couple hours, at least. So if you get stuck with a weirdo it kinds of sucks. But sometimes, you get "put" with somebody that you kind of click with. Not that you become best buddies or anything. But you tend to share the same outlook, since of humor, world view etc. So it's EASY to pass the time while you're waiting for the slowpokes in front of you. This makes a round of golf very FUN. On the other hand, if you get stuck with an unfunny stick in the mud, it CAN suck. You have to be careful about the f-bombs and dirty jokes, etc. If you meet an attractive person socially, and you click, this is also a very cool feeling. But it's also considered to be very rare. Even the metaphors we use to describe this indicate we don't feel much in control. We say things like, "I hope I meet somebody." Meaning that are tons of random people out there, and meeting "somebody" we can click with is a rare event. But consider this paradigm, or model. Inside, we are VERY similar. We all want the same things. We all want to avoid the same things. Everybody wants more money, a better job, a better living arrangement, better sex, etc. Nobody wants to see their boss, or balance their bank account, or get up on Monday morning. Suppose, just for a minute, that meeting people you "click" with wasn't REALLY about compatibility? What if was more about simply releasing the more or less "false" exterior and letting loose with our inner selves? It turns out the inner structure of what everybody wants is pretty easy to pace. Pace with your language. So the more you talk to them, the more you'll click. The more you click, the more you'll enjoy the experience. So instead of "hoping" to "meet people" you click with, you'll be CHOOSING who you WANT to click with. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/slippery-slope-language/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec20Post.mp4 Acquired tastes are pretty cool. We tend to think of them as taking time, and not being instantly delicious. For example, once I had a Vietnamese coworker. She brought in some Vietnamese food to work. Our boss came in, took a bite and said: "Hmm, must be an acquired taste." Which is the opposite of saying: "Wow, this is delicious!" Saying it must be an acquired taste is kind of like saying you think it tastes like crap but you get that other people like it. But even that statement is not accurate. Since she's Vietnamese, she's always eaten that food, and it's probably always tasted good. It would be kind of weird to have a culture that has to develop an acquired taste for their own food. Of course, since we live on fast food planet, where all food is chemically engineered to not only taste IMMEDIATELY delicious but be VERY addictive, it's hard to imagine an acquired taste. But it happens. For example, if you drink coffee, particularly black coffee, once upon a time that tasted terrible. UNTIL you felt the caffeine buzz. Your brain associated the good feeling of the buzz with the taste of your coffee. Same with alcohol. Nobody enjoys the taste of alcohol. UNTIL you feel the buzz. Then you associate the feeling of the buzz with the taste. Other acquired tastes take longer. Like if you are serious about getting into shape. And you SLOWLY shifted from a diet of nachos to chicken and broccoli. If you are ONLY concerned with the taste, nobody would ever eat chicken and broccoli. But as you slowly get into shape, build your confidence, starting get more looks from sexy people, that feels good. All those good feelings are associated with the taste of chicken. And the fear of losing all your gains (confidence and glances from sexy people) is associated with the nachos. So you actually feel BAD when you eat nachos. This kind of thing isn't ONLY associated with food. We humans are plenty of acquired "behavior" that isn't IMMEDIATELY gratifying. But once you build up a habit and see the LONG TERM gains of doing what is initially not pleasurable in itself, this when the cool things start to happen. This is what WILL happen when you TRAIN IN the idea and behavior of outcome independence. At first, it's HARD to leave a pleasant conversation without hanging on for dear life. Pleasant conversations with strangers are like food. Our instincts want us to "consume" as much as you can. But when you "leave some on your plate" this builds. What does it build into? If you leave every conversation WITHOUT closing, without hanging on for dear life, this will build MASSIVE social confidence. You'll build a naturally outgoing personality. One that OTHER PEOPLE will pursue. Which means you'll never need to worry about closing ever again. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/relationship-generator/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec17Post.mp4 The flow state is a very sought after state. Normally it involves athletes that are in competitive sports. The flow state is when you've got a very high level skill trained into unconscious competence. But because it's a competitive sport, you have no idea what's coming next. A similar but completely different kind of flow state is the kind musicians talk about. But those guys practice their songs a kajillion times. But even then, the feedback loop between the audience and the musicians is unexpected. This is perhaps, why high level musicians tend to speak about "otherworldly" forces joining them on stage. This is also different in a completely different way. In a competitive sport, like tennis or boxing or basketball, both teams or both players want OPPOSITE outcomes. Player A wants to win, and B to lose. Player B wants to win, ad A to lose. Very, very confrontational. On the other hand, a world class guitarist riffing up on stage is giving the audience EXACTLY what they want. And the guitarist is getting exactly what HE wants. Very, very NON confrontational. From a purely, mind body engineering standpoint, flow states under competitive sports are much more interesting. Because they are much, much rarer. It's one thing to practice something over and over until it becomes second nature, or unconsciously competent. Every time you drive to work or sing in the shower you are essentially in the flow state. But because it's a low level flow state, it's not so interesting. This might be ONE of the reasons video games are so compelling. No matter what level you play at, so long as you are slowly improving, your unconscious competence, within a competitive scenario, is always improving. Being the flow state FEELS very, very good. But sometimes we make things competitive when they shouldn't be. When some guy is jamming up on stage, getting MASSIVE positive validation from the crowd, all while playing original music, that ALSO feels fantastic. That's when those rare conversations with people where we just "click" also feel good. They are not the confrontational type. Where both of are trying to win. It's the mutual enjoyment type. Where each is enjoying other. This is how we are SUPPOSED to engage. But one way to kill this wonderful feeling before it starts is to WANT something FROM the other person. This is why seduction and persuasion conversations can feel so confrontational. Like a frame battle. But if you re-calibrate how you see ALL social engagements, you'll flow naturally and regularly. Just like it's supposed to be. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/relationship-generator/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec16Post.mp4 Humans are learning machines. We have a both a huge collection of instincts and a nearly infinite learning potential. Infinite doesn't mean you can put an infinite amount of data in your brain. But the things you CAN learn, are infinite. But these require you spend some time learning those things. Unfortunately, most people today have a kind of misguided idea about learning, what learning really means. For most of us, we associate learning with school. Us sitting there. Some teacher telling us things we are supposed to remember. That are supposed to be important. Organized education has been going on way back since the middle ages. People realized that to become a functioning adult, you need a certain "base" collection of skills. This is one key difference between now, and back then. Now we listen or read for information. We take a test, and show we know that information. But for the longest time, learning meant learning skills. How to DO things. This misconception is why things like math seem so hard. We treat it like other subjects. Like we're supposed to just sit there while the teacher talks. Then we know how to do math. But for something like math, it's much more like a sport. One of my favorite professors in college would say that about physics. He said you can't learn basketball by watching basketball. You can't learn physics by watching physics. You need to PRACTICE. Just like sports. Not try to remember, but PRACTICE. This is one key reason we HAVE self awareness. A collective memory. We can WATCH ourselves practice. Humans started in Africa. But then we spread out all over the world. Every time we went into a new area, we had to LEARN how survive. This wasn't by studying academic textbooks describing how to survive. This was LEARNING by trial and error. Getting food, reading the weather, staying safe are META skills. Each environment we went to would require we fine tune how to do those META skills in that new environment. Modern life is very similar. Particularly when it comes to our meta skills, and this new "environment" in which we find ourselves in. Talking to people, making friends, creating romantic relationships, these are META skills. Skills that are programmed into your DNA. All it takes is a bit of fine tuning in the current environment. Something humans have been doing for TENS of thousands of years. Another way to look at this is "re-calibrating" this instinctive relationship building skills for our new environment. Once they are re-calibrated, they will be on auto pilot, like they are supposed to be. Just like everything else humans have been learning since the dawn of time. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/relationship-generator/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec15Post.mp4 The idea of outcome independence is very compelling. Very compelling for two reasons. For two reasons on both sides of the equation. We all have experiences of both sides of the equation. We all know the more we want something the harder we try, and this can cause anxiety, which messes up our performance. Kind of like when you are ALMOST to the point of being unconsciously competent at something. For example, suppose you wanted to learn how to juggle. And you were getting better and better a juggling three objects. There you were in the park, juggling three bean bags with your buddies. You're talking, laughing, joking, AND juggling. But then three super hot ladies come strolling by. Now you start to WORRY about looking bad. This causes a lot of anxiety, which shifts you back down into the conscious competence part. This makes you pay way too much attention to the bean bags, and you mess up. On the other hand, think of something you do very, very well, and have for many years. Riding a bike for example. For example, you are your buddy are riding your bikes slowly down a bike path. Two ladies come on from a different bike path and are SLOWLY passing you. Because your skill of riding a bike is very, very, unconsciously competent, you don't crash. Sure you're energy changes, your conversation with your buddies change. But you are MUCH less likely to crash your bike that you would mess up in juggling. Although this IS a fairly common scene in romantic comedies. Some goof is so overwhelmed with an unexpected beauty he crashes his bike into a tree, or goes down some stairs into the subway. This is funny because we all have this experience. Of doing something, seeing somebody attractive, and then messing up. When the thing we are doing is talking to THEM this is very, very frustrating. At the same time, most of us have an experience of just "flowing" within a natural conversation. When you TRULY don't expect anything. Even this, non-expectation, is NOT a choice. It just HAPPENS. So the advice SEEMS kind of like good advice. But how can you just "be" outcome independent? Especially when your ancient instincts are SCREAMING at you to be successful? It would be equally impossible to STOP eating once you get to 800 calories. Suppose you were on strict diet. Only three meals 2400 calories per day. And for dinner, your friends shows up with TONS of fast food. It would be IMPOSSIBLE to be halfway through a burger and just stop. Your instincts won't let you. Similarly, it's very, very hard to just "forget" about having any outcome when you are talking to a gorgeous person. At least in the short term. However, when you switch to the long view, everything changes. And you CAN flow much more consistently. On auto pilot. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/relationship-generator/
  14. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov27Post.mp4 There are a lot of metaphors about getting to know people. Peeling back the onion layers, etc. There are a lot of metaphorical expressions that describe what it's like to be in this process. "I think I like him/her." "I'm not sure how I feel about him/her." There's also ideas that describe what it's like to fall for somebody who is not our "type." This is something that's much easier to see in somebody else. Somebody you know falls hard and fast for somebody. Everything just kind of "clicked." Or perhaps the "stars aligned." However it happens, suddenly both parties are head over heels with each other. Without the usually careful, long, "getting to know you phase." This is when the real "truth" about human sex and romance comes out. And that is those things we slowly need to "get to know" about each other aren't nearly as important as we think they are. How do we know? Because if any of your friends got together with somebody very quickly, they'll suddenly "like" things they NEVER expressed they liked before. For example, say the guy or gal they've fallen for LOVES slapstick comedies. Your friend will say they've ALWAYS liked slapstick comedies, even though they've NEVER mentioned this before. Why is this? Because feelings of love are the SECOND STRONGEST feeling in the world. Perhaps the strongest, depending on how you define a "feeling." Hunger is necessary. The longer you go without eating, the more of this necessary survival instinct will take over you brain. But so long as you are getting fed, LOVE is the most powerful feeling on Earth. Why? It had to be. Babies take a LONG TIME to become self sufficient. Back in the day, single moms didn't have much of a chance. So the bond between mom and had to be strong enough. Consider that the main reason for all our biases is to "recalibrate" our brains so the person we're having sex with is the PERFECT person for us. So, why do we take time finding out their sense of humor, what their hobbies are, etc.? Especially if we know our brains are going to re-calibrate themselves anyway? And if it is necessary to find out all about those extra things (hobbies, etc.) how does LOVE at first sight happen? Consider that the slow dance of dating and finding out about each other really serves a deeper purpose. One that is NOT necessary. Not if you don't want it to. You can CREATE that love at first sight feeling. In anybody you want. What happens after that is up to you. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/seductive-eye-contact/
  15. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct08Post.mp4 All living creatures must live under the ever present laws of economics. Everything has a cost. If you are a monkey and you want to climb a tree to get a banana, that simple act will have costs and benefits. The benefits are the calories in the banana. The costs are the calories of climbing the tree. And the risk. Every creature needs energy. Every creature needs to move to get energy. This is same as the "it takes money to make money" theory. It takes energy to get energy. For nearly all animals, this is programmed in. Bears instinctively to go the part of the river where salmon jump up stream. Mother nature has calibrated this system very well. The salmons swim upstream to lay eggs. Many die along the way. Many make it just tot that last stretch, only to get eaten. Yet, enough slip by the bears jaws to lay eggs, and keep the salmon population stable. Humans are different. We have self awareness. Self awareness that allows us to look at all the different choices, and make the "best" decision. Of course, the "best" decision is very, very subjective. If you're only goal is to enjoy yourself, and you're hungry, the "best" decision may be a double bacon cheeseburger. But if you're hungry and you're in training, the "best" decision may be something else. This part of our thinking can be difficult. Frustrating. Of recognizing that what we do NOW can effect two different futures. Our near term future, and our long term future. This is particularly difficult when the path forward is not so clear. If you're rent is due in two weeks, it's pretty obvious that spending all your rent money TODAY is a bad idea. This is much more complex in social situations. Where everything is always in flux. Even more difficult, and more frustrating is when sex and romance are potential outcomes. This is when self sabotage can creep in. Or outright ego protecting, self deception. This is when we become SO DESPERATE to create a positive outcome, we act very INCONGRUENT with our true selves. But the more you are focused on creating ONLY short term success, the less likely you'll enjoy long term success. For example, if you eat NOTHING but bacon cheeseburgers, your daily food enjoyment will be very pleasant. But your long term health will be obliterated. In you focus ONLY on short term relationship success, this will have the same impact. Your LONG term emotional health will obliterated. You act fake in the short term, to create short term sex and love. But NONE of those short term flings will pan out. They CAN'T. Because they were built on a false presentation of your personality. On the other hand, if you act more congruent, you may have different enjoyment in the short term, but your long term will be much, much better. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/nice-guy-killer/
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  17. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar24Post.mp4 According to anthropologists, language and conscious thought is why humans eventually took over the planet. Many other animals can learn, but humans can do so collectively. This means we can discover and idea, and share it with others. Once everybody has this idea, it becomes part of the "collective consciousness." This allowed humans to learn as a group. Even from generation to generation. Even while skipping a bunch of generations. This is one of the things that ended the dark ages, and opened up the enlightenment. They started to "re-discover" the things the Greeks did. This is the power of language. The power of thought. It's how two people who have just met can lose hours over a simple dinner date. Talking and sharing and creating a "mutually shared hallucination." When this happens, it is very rare, and very beautiful. When two people talk, and there is mutual physical and sexual attraction, that's pretty cool. But it CAN be pretty nerve wracking. Both people KNOW there is some kind of attraction. So both people are very nervous. They both want to keep this. Neither wants to ruin this. So they both are very careful to NOT say anything stupid. This is essentially how all "organic" relationships start. It usually takes a while. Something like this is HARD to engineer. It has to happen in it's own time. This is why the best relationships come through mutual social circles. There is a lot of possibilities of these random meetings. Where that organically growing attraction can grow. It's also why a lot of people stay with their high school sweet heart. High school is a great place to meet your life partner. It has ALL the ingredients. Mutual social circles. Plenty of opportunities to "find yourself" in a conversation. Plenty of times when you both like the other, but you aren't sure how the other feels about you. These kinds of feelings are the INTENTION of any kind of conscious game. Where you see somebody, you would very much like to get to know them, but you don't have the necessary organic opportunities. You see them, you WANT to create that mutual attraction, but you don't have much time. The tendency is to use an outside-in approach. To use "artificial" game techniques that are meant to IMPRESS the other person. These do work. But they only work in the short term. Sometimes TOO much. Kind of like starting an exercise program too fast. The desire is there, but you might blow out a tendon. What's the solution? Twofold. One, find out ABOUT them. Not in a superficial way. Not in a "who is your favorite band," way. But find out HOW they think. Find out the structure of their thoughts. This will actually CREATE those deep and long lasting conversations that most people think are very, very rare. Once you can GENERATE those "rare" feelings in anybody, you'll be the one they chase. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  18. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar10Post.mp4 One of the top compelling forces of persuasion is scarcity. Even when it's blatantly fake, it still works. The less of something there is, the more we want it. The less of something there is, the more we value it. This was famously demonstrated in the cookie jar experiment. A bunch of people were asked to take a cookie from a jar, eat it, and then fill out a taste questionnaire. When the cookie jar was nearly full, it had an average level of quality. When the cookie jar was nearly empty, it had a much HIGHER perceived quality. From a marketing and advertising standpoint, there are TONS of ways to leverage scarcity. Scarcity of product. Scarcity of availability. Scarcity of information. As an individual, there are also plenty of ways to leverage scarcity. To dramatically increase the perceived value of YOU. Remember, same cookie, nearly empty jar = VERY TASTY. Same cookie, full jar = AVERAGE TASTY. Unfortunately, people kind of mess this up. Especially when romance kicks in. This is when you call too much, text too much, make yourself too available. You are making yourself very much like the FULL cookie jar. On the other hand, when you call or text sporadically, and infrequently, this creates the nearly empty cookie jar effect. VERY DELICIOUS! But even within an interpersonal relationship, one that is already established, you can INCREASE or DECREASE your perceived scarcity. Even if you live with somebody, and you both have work from home jobs, and you are both super agoraphobic (scared to go outside). How the heck can you INCREASE scarcity when you live with and see somebody 24/7? By setting boundaries. Personal boundaries are like nearly empty cookie jars. No personal boundaries are like overflowing cookie jars. But this is also a two way street. By setting boundaries, you are demonstrating value. By setting and defining boundaries, you are demonstrating that YOU value YOU. And when YOU value YOU, other people will value YOU. The MORE you value YOU, the more other people will value you. Enter the chicken and the egg. Or the egg and the chicken, whichever you prefer. Simply by CREATING and DEFINING boundaries, YOU will value YOU more. The more you create and set personal boundaries, the more people will value you. Soon, this will become a self-fulfilling cycle. The more you value you more, the more they value you more, which will make you value you more. All it takes is a first few steps. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  19. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb23Post.mp4 One of the interesting paradoxes is whatever you prepare for doesn't happen. But if you don't prepare, it will. Sometimes, this is kind of silly, like if you think it's going to rain. If you DON'T bring an umbrella, it will rain. If you DO bring an umbrella, it won't. This is a common idea in many martial arts movies. The whole reason to train and learn how to fight, is so you don't need to fight. If you walk into a bar while radiating SCARED energy, you'll become a target for those types who like to pick on people. On the other hand, if you walk into a bar with confident energy, nobody will mess with you. Quite a lot, if not most, of our communication is NON VERBAL. The way we walk, how fast or slow our eyes dart around the room, our shoulders, etc. Similarly, the more confident you are, the more attractive you'll be. There are two ways to build confidence. One is to simply get out there and get a ton of experience. For example, if you approach a cute girl you've been flirting with, and you have a TON of experience talking to and seducing cute girls, those memories will all be in your subconscious. As you are walking over there, your body language, posture, etc., will reflect all those positive memories. That will make you VERY attractive to her. The closer you get, the more nervous SHE'LL get. On the other hand, if you have few experiences, that will reflect in your body language as well. The closer you get to her, the more nervous YOU'LL get. Since you might not have a lot of experience seducing cute girls, your brain will automatically default to the WORST CASE scenario. She will pick up on you anxiety, and she'll become more confident. So, if you spend lots of time approaching, you'll slowly get more confident. But that takes a LONG TIME. There is a much easier way. A way to build MASSIVE confidence without every needing to approach. It's based on understanding the STRUCTURE of thought and language. When you approach a whole bunch of times, you are SLOWLY re-wiring your brain. But this is a very inefficient, brute force technique. There is a much more elegant way. A much safer and easier way. To re-wire your specific thoughts. To re-wire your specific anxieties and fears. All by some simple writing techniques. This doesn't just work on the ladies. This works on ANY kind of anxiety based on ANY kind of conversation with ANY kind of human. Re-wire your fears, and never worry about rejection again. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  20. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb22Post.mp4 There's an economist named Basiat, who is known pretty well in certain economic circles. One is most famous sayings is, "It's not what you see, it's what you don't see." This describes how "reality" really works. Our monkey brains evolved in a very different environment than the one we live in. We could get by, back then, but thinking in very simple, very linear terms. Do X, and you'll get Y. If you get Y, you'll get Z. For most dudes for most of history, there were only three things to think about. Three things that drove ALL our behaviors. Food, sex, and status. And they were all tightly linked together. If you were the best hunter, you got the biggest kill. This provided the most food for everybody. So when you and your team dragged this big kill back to camp, all the people looked at you with admiration and respect. Not because you had on some cool bling, or you had the newest Nikes. Because of what you DID. More specifically, you DID something that would help others. Not entertain them, or make them feel good about themselves. Something tangible that would help them NOT DIE. Whoever killed the biggest animals got the most respect from the tribe. All the cute cave girls were wired to feel AUTOMATIC attraction to the guys getting the most respect. This is a very GENIUS system. A very POWERFUL system. The best hunters got the most status. They got that status because of what they provided TO others. That status created the most attraction in the ladies. So the BEST HUNTERS had the most sex with the hottest ladies. The ladies COMPETED with each other for the top tier men. Remember, these top tier men were top tier because of what they PROVIDED for the tribe. The next generation was produced by the hottest girls, and the best hunters. A PERFECT system. Nobody had to think about ANYTHING. Men simply were DRIVEN to kill the biggest animal they could. Women were DRIVEN to be attracted to the highest status men. This meant everybody got fed, the best dudes and the hottest girls got down with one another and made the best kids. This same DRIVE exists in ALL MEN today. In YOU today. To KILL something (figuratively) FANTASTIC. To get MAD RESPECT because of your actions. Girls DREAM of a hero like this. Guys DREAM of being this hero. Most guys today have it BACKWARDS. They are chasing WOMEN. Or even worse, MONEY. That, Dear Reader, is a BAD IDEA. Instead, chasing the things in life you WANT TO KILL. Things that will make YOU a hero. Seek successes that will make the ladies COMPETE for you. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
  21. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb03Post.mp4 Motivation is a dangerous thing. It's also a very misunderstood concept. Motivation is the biggest associated ingredient to any kind of success. If you want more money, you need to learn more skills. In order to learn more skills, you need motivation. If you want better health, you need to exercise. In order to exercise, you need motivation. If you want a better relationship, you need to get out there and meet people. To get out there and meet people, you need motivation. This is one reason why decent motivational speakers can easily make millions. Because it's something everybody wants. But the motivation you get from motivational speakers is like candy. It feels fantastic when you are consuming it. When the words are coming out of the speaker's mouth. When everybody is jumping around and screaming and hollering. But a couple hours after it's all over? You're back to where you are started. This is why good motivational speakers make tons of money. You can listen to the same person over and over again. But never really make much progress on those things you need motivation for. You still want more money, a better body, and better relationships. Something is missing from this picture. If motivation was ALL you needed, AND it was possible to be permanently motivated from motivational speakers, then EVERYBODY who ever went to a Tony Robbins seminar would be rich with a six pack and hanging out with super models. But they aren't. In fact, it is a VERY COMMON scene among motivational speakers to see the same types over and over. Some folks spend tens, or even hundreds of thousands of dollars seeing the SAME motivational speakers over and over and over. From a purely objective, scientific standpoint, motivational speakers are not really "motivating" us. Sure, they're making us feel really good. But unless you've got more money, better health, better relationships as a result, they must be doing something else. Here's something else to think about. Nobody NEEDED to be motivated until the last couple hundred years or so. Ancient hunter gathers didn't need to be motivated. At least not by a bunch of imaginary ideas or affirmations or weird chants. They were motivated by their external environment. Back then, if you didn't kill, you didn't eat. It seems that the more successful we are collectively, the EASIER it is to fall behind individually. This makes sense. What's the answer? Consider to ditch the idea of motivation. Instead, consider building MOMENTUM. Of doing something small today. Super easy. Then do the same thing tomorrow. Pretty soon, you'll have a habit. Habits are easy to maintain. Especially if you are practicing something that will enhance all areas of your life. This will create something few people experience. You'll look behind you, and see what you've done. You'll look out ahead of you, and see where you're going. This feeling of forward MOMENTUM will be self sustaining. That's when life feels good. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
  22. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept10Post.mp4 You can buy a lot of cool stuff online. When I was a kid, if you wanted to buy something NOT from a store, you had to mail order it. Usually stuff that was in the back of comic books. You'd send them a check, and wait for WEEKS for it to come. Yes, WEEKS! Today, if it doesn't come next day, we get angry. On the one hand, it's cool to have stuff so quickly and readily available. On the other hand, it can ruin our ability to delay gratification. Being able to delay gratification is one of the most important META SKILLS. Meta skills are skills that will help you no matter what. It's better to always be improving these meta skills. Health, fitness, communication skills, social skills, interpersonal skills. The problem with living in a same day delivery world is we start to expect EVERYTHING to be instant. But you can find plenty of evidence that this is NOT true. There there still IS hope for us goofy humans. We STILL like TV shows that only come on once per week. Which means we are FORCED to wait. We still have the ability to build stuff and plan for stuff. One common problem today that was also a problem a long time ago was when our stuff came in the mail. Even if it took three weeks, or three hours, it requires assembly. And today as well as decades ago, there were two kinds of people. People who would follow the directions. And those other goofs (ahem) who would wing it. Once I put a desk together. Backward. Didn't read the instructions, figured I'd just eye ball it. Took twice as long. But if you follow the directions, you can generally build things pretty good. For example, my bed frame I bought from Amazon. Took a while to put together. But it is VERY sturdy. Looking at it, you'd never know it came in a box. Many other things we try and wing it, but we tend to mess up. Luckily, if you take some time, there ARE instructions. And if you take the time to follow the instructions, you can build ANYTHING. Even relationships. Friends, lovers, and everybody in between. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  23. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept09Post.mp4 What does it mean to put the cart before the horse? Normally horses pull carts. Horses have a lot of strength. Which is why horsepower is a unit of power. Power is energy per time. A cart, on the other hand, can only hold stuff. It can't do anything. So putting the cart before the horse means to get things backwards. Or to misunderstand which part is doing the work. And which part is being effected by the work. Another similar metaphor from self help is "the wake doesn't drive the boat." Boats move under their own power. The wake is behind the boat. A passive effect. This is normally used to talk about how our past doesn't drive our future. Our past is an effect of our past actions. Another similar metaphor is driving by looking in the rear view mirror. Instead of looking ahead, we sometimes look behind. Of course, if you're actually driving, and this isn't a metaphor, you'll crash. Crashing comes when not looking where you are going. All these metaphors are based on misunderstanding cause and effect. This is pretty common for humans. We see cause effect everywhere when it doesn't exist. Which means we mostly misunderstand pretty much everything. The most complicated interactions are emotional. Especially when other people do and say things, and we don't know why. We wonder what they want. We wonder why they did or didn't do what they did. If you aren't careful, we can start to project. We might imagine something bad that happened to us before. And since we FEAR those things happening again, we'll tend to see them when they don't exist. Which can actually CREATE those things. This is hard to see from inside your brain. Human emotional interactions are very complicated. Very easy to misunderstand. Even couples who have been together for a long time have a hard time communicating. However, all humans are driven by our deep instincts. Even if we don't want to acknowledge them. But if you take the time to understand what these instincts are, understanding complex human behavior is much easier. Turns out things are much simpler that we imagine. Because most of the time we are projecting. Which means most of the time we are reading MUCH MORE into a situation that is actually happening. Take a step back and see what makes people tick. You'll be able to predict actions. You'll be able to read emotions. You'll be able to create the relationships you want. And avoid the ones you don't. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  24. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept07Post.mp4 One interesting aspect of our language is the metaphors we use. The problem with MOST of these metaphors, is that we really have NO idea why they were chosen. For example, a common expressions is "raining cats and dogs." Everybody knows this means it's raining pretty hard. But nobody really knows why. Sure, there's a few theories, but it's impossible to know. Because who knows how long people used them BEFORE writing them down. Way back in the day, there wasn't much stuff being written. Books and newspapers. Nobody wrote blogs or anything like that. There weren't many newspapers. To get a job writing newspapers, you had to demonstrate a LOT of skill. Similarly, there was no such thing as self publishing back then. In order to become a published author, any company had to have a pretty good idea that your stuff would sell. All this meant that there were very FEW writers. And the editors that looked at these things being written were very CAREFUL about letting weird phrases slip by. Which meant they didn't put stuff like, "raining cats and dogs" into print until it had been a regular part of speech for a LONG TIME. So no matter how sure somebody is of its origins, it's ONLY a guess. There is no way there COULD be a record. And yeah, everybody has their theories. Dogs and cats climbing around on roofs and slipping off during the rain, etc. But based on how language and words evolve, there is no way to tell if that's accurate, or just popular. Even worse are metaphors. Metaphors about who we are and where we came from. A common idea is we have a purpose that is NOT dependent on our choices. As if we were made TO DO something. Sure, if you make a sandwich, the purpose is get eaten. But that isn't determined by the sandwich. That is determined by the maker. So if you DO believe in a "maker" as an entity, then our purpose would be up to THAT person. On the other hand, you might decide to CHOOSE YOUR OWN purpose. Why not? That's kind of the idea anyway. To figure out your skills, abilities, make a few friends along the way, etc. One thing that would help would be to understand not WHY you were made, but HOW you were made. The deep programs running inside your brain. The instincts that serve as the human operating system. Turns that they're not only NOT complicated, but once you figure them out, you may get a huge advantage. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  25. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept04Post.mp4 A long time ago, our taste buds were carefully calibrated to our environment. The stuff we liked to eat happened to be very healthy. Maybe once upon a time there were some goofy cave people who liked eating tree bark. Or maybe tree bark mixed with dirt. But since tree bark and dirt isn't part of a healthy caveman diet, those guys all died. So today, nobody has the "tree bark is delicious" genes. It's an interesting discovery that people who existed before the agricultural revolution had slightly different bodies. They were meat eaters. While the post agricultural people ate mostly grains. This slightly changed people's makeup. This was still pretty healthy though. But one of the unrecognized changes AFTER the Industrial Revolution was the introduction to sugar into the modern diet. Ancient cave people RARELY got a taste of sugar. Most modern health problems can be linked to eating over processed foods. From a manufacturing standpoint, it's a dream come true. It's pretty cheap to produce the processed stuff most people eat. The same stuff that's very hard to NOT stop eating once you start. This is a clear case of instincts gone mad. Another case of instincts gone mad is the modern dating dumpster fire. Most people are lonely. Finding a steady and loyal partner is next to impossible. Which is kind of strange, since there's a whole slew of dating sites. But in a sense, it is the same as food. The MORE food technology they create, the WORSE our health gets. The MORE dating technology they create, the WORSE our relationships and emotional health gets. But just like we can use our rational minds to figure out the BEST food to eat to consciously create the BEST health, we can do the same for dating. This means taking the time to find out WHAT people are craving. The thing they aren't getting. It's one thing to eat some junk food. You KNOW it's junk food. It's no mystery WHAT you need to do to get into shape. Eat healthy and exercise. But very few people KNOW why modern dating is such a horrific mess. Which means if you take the time to figure this out, you'll have a HUGE advantage. And you can use this however you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
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