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  1. Love Magnet https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/LM_Sales.mp4 Sign Up Now
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar24Post.mp4 According to anthropologists, language and conscious thought is why humans eventually took over the planet. Many other animals can learn, but humans can do so collectively. This means we can discover and idea, and share it with others. Once everybody has this idea, it becomes part of the "collective consciousness." This allowed humans to learn as a group. Even from generation to generation. Even while skipping a bunch of generations. This is one of the things that ended the dark ages, and opened up the enlightenment. They started to "re-discover" the things the Greeks did. This is the power of language. The power of thought. It's how two people who have just met can lose hours over a simple dinner date. Talking and sharing and creating a "mutually shared hallucination." When this happens, it is very rare, and very beautiful. When two people talk, and there is mutual physical and sexual attraction, that's pretty cool. But it CAN be pretty nerve wracking. Both people KNOW there is some kind of attraction. So both people are very nervous. They both want to keep this. Neither wants to ruin this. So they both are very careful to NOT say anything stupid. This is essentially how all "organic" relationships start. It usually takes a while. Something like this is HARD to engineer. It has to happen in it's own time. This is why the best relationships come through mutual social circles. There is a lot of possibilities of these random meetings. Where that organically growing attraction can grow. It's also why a lot of people stay with their high school sweet heart. High school is a great place to meet your life partner. It has ALL the ingredients. Mutual social circles. Plenty of opportunities to "find yourself" in a conversation. Plenty of times when you both like the other, but you aren't sure how the other feels about you. These kinds of feelings are the INTENTION of any kind of conscious game. Where you see somebody, you would very much like to get to know them, but you don't have the necessary organic opportunities. You see them, you WANT to create that mutual attraction, but you don't have much time. The tendency is to use an outside-in approach. To use "artificial" game techniques that are meant to IMPRESS the other person. These do work. But they only work in the short term. Sometimes TOO much. Kind of like starting an exercise program too fast. The desire is there, but you might blow out a tendon. What's the solution? Twofold. One, find out ABOUT them. Not in a superficial way. Not in a "who is your favorite band," way. But find out HOW they think. Find out the structure of their thoughts. This will actually CREATE those deep and long lasting conversations that most people think are very, very rare. Once you can GENERATE those "rare" feelings in anybody, you'll be the one they chase. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar10Post.mp4 One of the top compelling forces of persuasion is scarcity. Even when it's blatantly fake, it still works. The less of something there is, the more we want it. The less of something there is, the more we value it. This was famously demonstrated in the cookie jar experiment. A bunch of people were asked to take a cookie from a jar, eat it, and then fill out a taste questionnaire. When the cookie jar was nearly full, it had an average level of quality. When the cookie jar was nearly empty, it had a much HIGHER perceived quality. From a marketing and advertising standpoint, there are TONS of ways to leverage scarcity. Scarcity of product. Scarcity of availability. Scarcity of information. As an individual, there are also plenty of ways to leverage scarcity. To dramatically increase the perceived value of YOU. Remember, same cookie, nearly empty jar = VERY TASTY. Same cookie, full jar = AVERAGE TASTY. Unfortunately, people kind of mess this up. Especially when romance kicks in. This is when you call too much, text too much, make yourself too available. You are making yourself very much like the FULL cookie jar. On the other hand, when you call or text sporadically, and infrequently, this creates the nearly empty cookie jar effect. VERY DELICIOUS! But even within an interpersonal relationship, one that is already established, you can INCREASE or DECREASE your perceived scarcity. Even if you live with somebody, and you both have work from home jobs, and you are both super agoraphobic (scared to go outside). How the heck can you INCREASE scarcity when you live with and see somebody 24/7? By setting boundaries. Personal boundaries are like nearly empty cookie jars. No personal boundaries are like overflowing cookie jars. But this is also a two way street. By setting boundaries, you are demonstrating value. By setting and defining boundaries, you are demonstrating that YOU value YOU. And when YOU value YOU, other people will value YOU. The MORE you value YOU, the more other people will value you. Enter the chicken and the egg. Or the egg and the chicken, whichever you prefer. Simply by CREATING and DEFINING boundaries, YOU will value YOU more. The more you create and set personal boundaries, the more people will value you. Soon, this will become a self-fulfilling cycle. The more you value you more, the more they value you more, which will make you value you more. All it takes is a first few steps. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb23Post.mp4 One of the interesting paradoxes is whatever you prepare for doesn't happen. But if you don't prepare, it will. Sometimes, this is kind of silly, like if you think it's going to rain. If you DON'T bring an umbrella, it will rain. If you DO bring an umbrella, it won't. This is a common idea in many martial arts movies. The whole reason to train and learn how to fight, is so you don't need to fight. If you walk into a bar while radiating SCARED energy, you'll become a target for those types who like to pick on people. On the other hand, if you walk into a bar with confident energy, nobody will mess with you. Quite a lot, if not most, of our communication is NON VERBAL. The way we walk, how fast or slow our eyes dart around the room, our shoulders, etc. Similarly, the more confident you are, the more attractive you'll be. There are two ways to build confidence. One is to simply get out there and get a ton of experience. For example, if you approach a cute girl you've been flirting with, and you have a TON of experience talking to and seducing cute girls, those memories will all be in your subconscious. As you are walking over there, your body language, posture, etc., will reflect all those positive memories. That will make you VERY attractive to her. The closer you get, the more nervous SHE'LL get. On the other hand, if you have few experiences, that will reflect in your body language as well. The closer you get to her, the more nervous YOU'LL get. Since you might not have a lot of experience seducing cute girls, your brain will automatically default to the WORST CASE scenario. She will pick up on you anxiety, and she'll become more confident. So, if you spend lots of time approaching, you'll slowly get more confident. But that takes a LONG TIME. There is a much easier way. A way to build MASSIVE confidence without every needing to approach. It's based on understanding the STRUCTURE of thought and language. When you approach a whole bunch of times, you are SLOWLY re-wiring your brain. But this is a very inefficient, brute force technique. There is a much more elegant way. A much safer and easier way. To re-wire your specific thoughts. To re-wire your specific anxieties and fears. All by some simple writing techniques. This doesn't just work on the ladies. This works on ANY kind of anxiety based on ANY kind of conversation with ANY kind of human. Re-wire your fears, and never worry about rejection again. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb22Post.mp4 There's an economist named Basiat, who is known pretty well in certain economic circles. One is most famous sayings is, "It's not what you see, it's what you don't see." This describes how "reality" really works. Our monkey brains evolved in a very different environment than the one we live in. We could get by, back then, but thinking in very simple, very linear terms. Do X, and you'll get Y. If you get Y, you'll get Z. For most dudes for most of history, there were only three things to think about. Three things that drove ALL our behaviors. Food, sex, and status. And they were all tightly linked together. If you were the best hunter, you got the biggest kill. This provided the most food for everybody. So when you and your team dragged this big kill back to camp, all the people looked at you with admiration and respect. Not because you had on some cool bling, or you had the newest Nikes. Because of what you DID. More specifically, you DID something that would help others. Not entertain them, or make them feel good about themselves. Something tangible that would help them NOT DIE. Whoever killed the biggest animals got the most respect from the tribe. All the cute cave girls were wired to feel AUTOMATIC attraction to the guys getting the most respect. This is a very GENIUS system. A very POWERFUL system. The best hunters got the most status. They got that status because of what they provided TO others. That status created the most attraction in the ladies. So the BEST HUNTERS had the most sex with the hottest ladies. The ladies COMPETED with each other for the top tier men. Remember, these top tier men were top tier because of what they PROVIDED for the tribe. The next generation was produced by the hottest girls, and the best hunters. A PERFECT system. Nobody had to think about ANYTHING. Men simply were DRIVEN to kill the biggest animal they could. Women were DRIVEN to be attracted to the highest status men. This meant everybody got fed, the best dudes and the hottest girls got down with one another and made the best kids. This same DRIVE exists in ALL MEN today. In YOU today. To KILL something (figuratively) FANTASTIC. To get MAD RESPECT because of your actions. Girls DREAM of a hero like this. Guys DREAM of being this hero. Most guys today have it BACKWARDS. They are chasing WOMEN. Or even worse, MONEY. That, Dear Reader, is a BAD IDEA. Instead, chasing the things in life you WANT TO KILL. Things that will make YOU a hero. Seek successes that will make the ladies COMPETE for you. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb03Post.mp4 Motivation is a dangerous thing. It's also a very misunderstood concept. Motivation is the biggest associated ingredient to any kind of success. If you want more money, you need to learn more skills. In order to learn more skills, you need motivation. If you want better health, you need to exercise. In order to exercise, you need motivation. If you want a better relationship, you need to get out there and meet people. To get out there and meet people, you need motivation. This is one reason why decent motivational speakers can easily make millions. Because it's something everybody wants. But the motivation you get from motivational speakers is like candy. It feels fantastic when you are consuming it. When the words are coming out of the speaker's mouth. When everybody is jumping around and screaming and hollering. But a couple hours after it's all over? You're back to where you are started. This is why good motivational speakers make tons of money. You can listen to the same person over and over again. But never really make much progress on those things you need motivation for. You still want more money, a better body, and better relationships. Something is missing from this picture. If motivation was ALL you needed, AND it was possible to be permanently motivated from motivational speakers, then EVERYBODY who ever went to a Tony Robbins seminar would be rich with a six pack and hanging out with super models. But they aren't. In fact, it is a VERY COMMON scene among motivational speakers to see the same types over and over. Some folks spend tens, or even hundreds of thousands of dollars seeing the SAME motivational speakers over and over and over. From a purely objective, scientific standpoint, motivational speakers are not really "motivating" us. Sure, they're making us feel really good. But unless you've got more money, better health, better relationships as a result, they must be doing something else. Here's something else to think about. Nobody NEEDED to be motivated until the last couple hundred years or so. Ancient hunter gathers didn't need to be motivated. At least not by a bunch of imaginary ideas or affirmations or weird chants. They were motivated by their external environment. Back then, if you didn't kill, you didn't eat. It seems that the more successful we are collectively, the EASIER it is to fall behind individually. This makes sense. What's the answer? Consider to ditch the idea of motivation. Instead, consider building MOMENTUM. Of doing something small today. Super easy. Then do the same thing tomorrow. Pretty soon, you'll have a habit. Habits are easy to maintain. Especially if you are practicing something that will enhance all areas of your life. This will create something few people experience. You'll look behind you, and see what you've done. You'll look out ahead of you, and see where you're going. This feeling of forward MOMENTUM will be self sustaining. That's when life feels good. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept10Post.mp4 You can buy a lot of cool stuff online. When I was a kid, if you wanted to buy something NOT from a store, you had to mail order it. Usually stuff that was in the back of comic books. You'd send them a check, and wait for WEEKS for it to come. Yes, WEEKS! Today, if it doesn't come next day, we get angry. On the one hand, it's cool to have stuff so quickly and readily available. On the other hand, it can ruin our ability to delay gratification. Being able to delay gratification is one of the most important META SKILLS. Meta skills are skills that will help you no matter what. It's better to always be improving these meta skills. Health, fitness, communication skills, social skills, interpersonal skills. The problem with living in a same day delivery world is we start to expect EVERYTHING to be instant. But you can find plenty of evidence that this is NOT true. There there still IS hope for us goofy humans. We STILL like TV shows that only come on once per week. Which means we are FORCED to wait. We still have the ability to build stuff and plan for stuff. One common problem today that was also a problem a long time ago was when our stuff came in the mail. Even if it took three weeks, or three hours, it requires assembly. And today as well as decades ago, there were two kinds of people. People who would follow the directions. And those other goofs (ahem) who would wing it. Once I put a desk together. Backward. Didn't read the instructions, figured I'd just eye ball it. Took twice as long. But if you follow the directions, you can generally build things pretty good. For example, my bed frame I bought from Amazon. Took a while to put together. But it is VERY sturdy. Looking at it, you'd never know it came in a box. Many other things we try and wing it, but we tend to mess up. Luckily, if you take some time, there ARE instructions. And if you take the time to follow the instructions, you can build ANYTHING. Even relationships. Friends, lovers, and everybody in between. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept09Post.mp4 What does it mean to put the cart before the horse? Normally horses pull carts. Horses have a lot of strength. Which is why horsepower is a unit of power. Power is energy per time. A cart, on the other hand, can only hold stuff. It can't do anything. So putting the cart before the horse means to get things backwards. Or to misunderstand which part is doing the work. And which part is being effected by the work. Another similar metaphor from self help is "the wake doesn't drive the boat." Boats move under their own power. The wake is behind the boat. A passive effect. This is normally used to talk about how our past doesn't drive our future. Our past is an effect of our past actions. Another similar metaphor is driving by looking in the rear view mirror. Instead of looking ahead, we sometimes look behind. Of course, if you're actually driving, and this isn't a metaphor, you'll crash. Crashing comes when not looking where you are going. All these metaphors are based on misunderstanding cause and effect. This is pretty common for humans. We see cause effect everywhere when it doesn't exist. Which means we mostly misunderstand pretty much everything. The most complicated interactions are emotional. Especially when other people do and say things, and we don't know why. We wonder what they want. We wonder why they did or didn't do what they did. If you aren't careful, we can start to project. We might imagine something bad that happened to us before. And since we FEAR those things happening again, we'll tend to see them when they don't exist. Which can actually CREATE those things. This is hard to see from inside your brain. Human emotional interactions are very complicated. Very easy to misunderstand. Even couples who have been together for a long time have a hard time communicating. However, all humans are driven by our deep instincts. Even if we don't want to acknowledge them. But if you take the time to understand what these instincts are, understanding complex human behavior is much easier. Turns out things are much simpler that we imagine. Because most of the time we are projecting. Which means most of the time we are reading MUCH MORE into a situation that is actually happening. Take a step back and see what makes people tick. You'll be able to predict actions. You'll be able to read emotions. You'll be able to create the relationships you want. And avoid the ones you don't. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept07Post.mp4 One interesting aspect of our language is the metaphors we use. The problem with MOST of these metaphors, is that we really have NO idea why they were chosen. For example, a common expressions is "raining cats and dogs." Everybody knows this means it's raining pretty hard. But nobody really knows why. Sure, there's a few theories, but it's impossible to know. Because who knows how long people used them BEFORE writing them down. Way back in the day, there wasn't much stuff being written. Books and newspapers. Nobody wrote blogs or anything like that. There weren't many newspapers. To get a job writing newspapers, you had to demonstrate a LOT of skill. Similarly, there was no such thing as self publishing back then. In order to become a published author, any company had to have a pretty good idea that your stuff would sell. All this meant that there were very FEW writers. And the editors that looked at these things being written were very CAREFUL about letting weird phrases slip by. Which meant they didn't put stuff like, "raining cats and dogs" into print until it had been a regular part of speech for a LONG TIME. So no matter how sure somebody is of its origins, it's ONLY a guess. There is no way there COULD be a record. And yeah, everybody has their theories. Dogs and cats climbing around on roofs and slipping off during the rain, etc. But based on how language and words evolve, there is no way to tell if that's accurate, or just popular. Even worse are metaphors. Metaphors about who we are and where we came from. A common idea is we have a purpose that is NOT dependent on our choices. As if we were made TO DO something. Sure, if you make a sandwich, the purpose is get eaten. But that isn't determined by the sandwich. That is determined by the maker. So if you DO believe in a "maker" as an entity, then our purpose would be up to THAT person. On the other hand, you might decide to CHOOSE YOUR OWN purpose. Why not? That's kind of the idea anyway. To figure out your skills, abilities, make a few friends along the way, etc. One thing that would help would be to understand not WHY you were made, but HOW you were made. The deep programs running inside your brain. The instincts that serve as the human operating system. Turns that they're not only NOT complicated, but once you figure them out, you may get a huge advantage. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept04Post.mp4 A long time ago, our taste buds were carefully calibrated to our environment. The stuff we liked to eat happened to be very healthy. Maybe once upon a time there were some goofy cave people who liked eating tree bark. Or maybe tree bark mixed with dirt. But since tree bark and dirt isn't part of a healthy caveman diet, those guys all died. So today, nobody has the "tree bark is delicious" genes. It's an interesting discovery that people who existed before the agricultural revolution had slightly different bodies. They were meat eaters. While the post agricultural people ate mostly grains. This slightly changed people's makeup. This was still pretty healthy though. But one of the unrecognized changes AFTER the Industrial Revolution was the introduction to sugar into the modern diet. Ancient cave people RARELY got a taste of sugar. Most modern health problems can be linked to eating over processed foods. From a manufacturing standpoint, it's a dream come true. It's pretty cheap to produce the processed stuff most people eat. The same stuff that's very hard to NOT stop eating once you start. This is a clear case of instincts gone mad. Another case of instincts gone mad is the modern dating dumpster fire. Most people are lonely. Finding a steady and loyal partner is next to impossible. Which is kind of strange, since there's a whole slew of dating sites. But in a sense, it is the same as food. The MORE food technology they create, the WORSE our health gets. The MORE dating technology they create, the WORSE our relationships and emotional health gets. But just like we can use our rational minds to figure out the BEST food to eat to consciously create the BEST health, we can do the same for dating. This means taking the time to find out WHAT people are craving. The thing they aren't getting. It's one thing to eat some junk food. You KNOW it's junk food. It's no mystery WHAT you need to do to get into shape. Eat healthy and exercise. But very few people KNOW why modern dating is such a horrific mess. Which means if you take the time to figure this out, you'll have a HUGE advantage. And you can use this however you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  11. Red Pill vs. Blue Pill: https://mindpersuasion.com/nawalt-red-vs-blue-pill/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July21Loop.mp4
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  13. https://mindpersuasion.com/maximum-compatibility/
  14. The best relationships happen spontaneously. For women, the best romantic idea is to get swept off your feet. Unexpectedly. For men, it’s commonly taught that the best way to talk to a woman is under the idea of “outcome independence.” If you are specifically trying to get a specific outcome, you’ll be much more nervous and upset if it doesn’t happen. Paradoxically, the less you are concerned with an outcome, the more likely it will happen. However, this only works in the contexts of male-female relationships. If you tried this strategy when baking a cake, it would be ridiculous. For example, if you left your house one day, and purposely didn’t care of a cake showed up while you were gone, it wouldn’t. To make a cake, you HAVE to have a solid outcome. You have to KEEP that outcome in mind when baking the cake. If you started thinking about peanut butter sandwiches while baking a cake you might accidentally slip in some peanut butter without knowing it. So being “outcome independent” while baking a cake is a silly idea. So WHY does this work so well in relationships? Because after eating, creating sexual relationships is our PRIME DIRECTIVE. It’s one of those things that happens naturally. Since people have been making people since the dawn of time, it’s kind of programmed into our DNA. You really don’t need to study game or anything like that. But you DO have to have a set of basic social skills. The more of these “outcome independent” interactions you create with potentially compatible people, the more likely it will happen. How, specifically, do you do that? Find somebody that is physically attractive. Before you meet them, make a promise to yourself that NOTHING will happen. ASSUME they are happily in love. With somebody else. And just enjoy them as a NON-RELATIONSHIP-POTENTIAL person. Enjoy their personality. Enjoy the subtle sexual energy. Practice your conversational skills. Think of this as one “seed.” This works if you are a guy or a girl. The more of these seeds you plant, the bigger your garden will grow. And the more confident you’ll be. Imagine having 5, 10, or even TWENTY of these people that you can talk to whenever you feel like it. This will boost your social skills, boost your confidence, and increase the likelihood that a relationship will pop up where you least expect it. And because you’ll have been practicing, you’ll be ready for it. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  15. Deep within us are ancient instincts. Everything we want satisfies one of these instincts. One way to describe them would be in terms of Maslow’s famous hierarchy. At the bottom is basic stuff like food and sex and staying out of the rain. On top are esoteric and undefinable things like “self actualization.” But no matter how you get self actualized, or how long you stay there, you still gotta eat. And if you stay outside in the elements too long, you will die. Even if you DO become self-actualized, it happens inside your biological body. And your biological body comes with urges that keep you from dying. Urges like eating when you are hungry, having sex when you have a willing partner. Running away from an animal that wants to eat you. After all, if a hungry predator sees you meditation, it doesn’t really care if you are self actualized or not. I’m sure from a predator’s standpoint, a self-actualized human tastes just as good as a non-self actualized human. Putting esoteric ideas aside, all of our biological urges, which were given to us to help us stay alive, were “calibrated” during a much different environment that the one we live in now. This is the reason why so many people are overweight. Having the “eat all you can whenever you can” instinct was PERFECT way back in the day. Today, not so much. This is also why relationships are so frikking confusing these days. Our “relationship instincts” were calibrated in a MUCH DIFFERENT environment than we live in. One way is how we deal with “opportunity cost.” Opportunity cost is an economic term that means when you buy X, for a certain amount of money, you CAN’T buy anything else. IF you buy a cheeseburger, you CAN’T buy a burrito with that same money. When this comes to dating, it works the same way. If you are IN a relationship with person X, you CAN’T be in a relationship with everybody else. Way back in the day this wasn’t a big deal. But today, with a kajillion pretty faces bombarding us every single second, it is very much a big deal. But since our deep instincts are still the same, AND our instincts tend to rule our actions, they must be addressed. The good news is if you learn how to do that, your relationships will be much easier and much more rewarding. It will take time, but consider putting in the effort. Because creating very healthy relationship with a compatible person is one of the MOST IMPORTANT things about being human. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  16. One of the secrets of human nature is that we are all human. And despite how different we feel on the inside, we are all very similar. It’s just that our deep dreams, fears, and desires are something that we RARELY share. So we think ours are different. But they really aren’t. If we all had fundamentally different internal wants and needs and fears, it would be impossible for any inventor to be successful. If we all had DIFFERENT internal desires, no ONE invention or idea (or book or song or movie) would be popular to many people. This means that as a human, you have secret inside information. About how other humans think and feel. But if you come at them with advice, it won’t work. All inventions, for example, work because people can CHOOSE to buy them or not buy them. If an inventor tried to be successful by showing on people’s doorstep, forcing himself in their homes, he wouldn’t be nearly as successful. One way to create connections with others is by looking for similarities. Not surface structure similarities, as in the same taste in TV or music, but in structural similarities. This means you have to think in terms of structure. Of how you perceive and describe your experience. And how you can elicit their experience. This takes a little bit of effort. It’s much more detailed than memorizing some lines. But will create much deeper, and much more powerful connections. And since you’ll be creating a two-way connection, you can actually tell if they are compatible or not. One mistake that is common is to create a deep connection, and only THEN start to wonder if you are compatible or not. But by making connections based on structural similarities, rather than superficial surface similarities, it’s much more enjoyable. And it’s much easier. Since when you communicate like this with everybody, and it becomes who you are, the process is much more organic. Since everything will be happening naturally and organically, it won’t feel nearly as nervous. The best part is you can practice this communication style with non-romantic interests, and nobody will know. But sooner or later, real romantic interests will make it VERY EASY on you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  17. Everything must obey the laws of supply and demand. If there is plenty of something, and not a lot of people want it, it’s not going to be worth much. On the other hand, if something is scarce, and lots of people want it, it’s going to be worth plenty. Many people get the idea of economics and relationships messed up. When you go out for lunch, there are plenty of restaurants available. But they each have food. If you need a car, there are plenty of models available. But they all essentially do the same thing. The mistake comes when we think of things like SMV, or sexual market value. This isn’t really appropriate since personal relationships are much more subjective. A car, for example, has to have plenty of objective characteristics. Only after those objective characteristic (price, color, gas mileage, etc.) are satisfied, does subjectivity come into play. But when you are “shopping” for a relationship partner, there is MUCH more subjective difference from person to person. Supply and demand, and many other economics ideas, usually assume a certain amount of uniformity across the available products. But the difference between each individual is much different than between cars. So the term, SMV, is not really appropriate. Because relationships are all about how compatible people are. When shopping for car, you either like the car or you don’t. The car just sits there and is judged by the people shopping for cars. The car doesn’t have a say in the matter. But since relationships are WAY more subjective than shopping, AND compatibility is much more important, the idea of any kind of objective “value” is pretty ridiculous. And by altering your communication, you can make yourself MUCH more valuable to pretty much anybody. This is the whole point of things like education, learning and experience. The person coming OUT of any learning experience is more valuable than the person going in. This is good news. Because the more you improve your “relationship skills” the more “valuable” of a relationship partner you’ll be to more people. This will give you much more choice. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  18. Everything runs in cycles. One of the misconceptions of the yin-yang idea is that it's static. The actual symbol, the circle with a half swirl of black and a half swirl of white is based on the sun. It represents the sunrise and sunsets throughout the year. As such, the entire yin-yang idea is based on continuous movement. Yin is ALWAYS turning into Yang, and Yang is ALWAYS turning into Yin. If anybody (especially somebody who wants your $$) tells you your yin-yang is out of balance, they don't know what they are talking about. A great way to think about this is your breath. Breathing in and out is like a circle. At the top, your lungs are full. But you only stay there for a little bit. At the bottom, your lungs are empty. But you only stay there for a little bit. At the top and the bottom, is when your lungs are moving the slowest. As they fill to completely, and empty completely. When they are halfway (going in or going out) is when they are going the fastest. Desire for O2 turns into a desire to get rid of CO2. In and out. You can say the same for the tide, the moon, the Earth, the seasons, and the sun. And up until recently, there was another very essential human behavior that followed this age old natural pattern. Working perfectly. But it doesn't work so much. A similar structure to breathing, but is much more conscious and longer, is eating. Ideally, we go a long time being hungry. Being driven by hunger. The we find something and feast. Sometimes these feasts had huge significance. Communities planned for months. Planning, wanting, feasting. As soon as you cross the threshold from wanting to eating, it's like the top of the breath. Soon you are full. But another cycle that is much longer is two lovers. Being separate and wanting to be together. Having ONLY the memory of each other. The longer they are apart, the MORE they enjoy each other. Of course, being together forever is only a good idea in theory. Kind of like when you are hungry and you really believe you could eat a horse. But within an hour, you realize you can't eat another bite. Once you see your love, you can't get enough of them. But then maybe days or weeks pass, and you need to get out there in the world again. Get in the game. And the missing each other begins. Today, this is very difficult. If you don't get a text every five minutes, you think he or she is cheating on you. But this MISSING is absolutely necessary. So are many other things. If you can consciously build them, you can recreate deep and lasting love. With anybody. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  19. I was watching a documentary the other day about rehab. The theme was pretty common. They took a group of addicts, and put them to work on a farm. One of the ideas behind it is that one needs to be able to deal with physical and emotional discomfort, trial and error type setbacks. But without the crutch of any mind altering chemicals to ease any pain. We are hard wired to move toward pleasure and away from pain. Normally, this is a good thing. Even the pain part. Without pain, there is no motivation to improve. The most successful people say to get better faster, you need to fail more. Failure is the BEST way to learn anything. Practice of any sort, be it sports or music, is essentially trial and error learning. When you do things right, there is no pain, but there is no learning. Without night, there is no day. Without winter, no summer. Human pain, both emotional and physical, is a necessary message. To NOT do something, and do something else. Some pain and discomfort (the dark of night, the cold of winter) we just have to anticipate and prepare for. But other pain is absolutely necessary. Or, it USED to be necessary. Hunger doesn't feel good to anybody. So hunger had to be STRONG enough to motivate us to WORK to create the food we needed. But today, many people are brainwashed into thinking that pain of discomfort of ANY sort is bad, and should be avoided at all costs. This is essentially the core of those rehab programs. Learn to work, learn to try and fail and bounce back. All without taking any shortcuts. Today, there are many, many shortcuts. Most of which won't land you in rehab. But they are JUST as debilitating. Even more so. They slowly eat up your precious time when you COULD be busily learning money making skills and rewarding social skills. If you take a good hard look at ALL of our modern problems, they stem from having ancient instincts in a VERY modern lifestyle. Nowhere is this more obvious that in our romantic relationships. Ask most "game aware" guys and they'll say to "next" at the first sign of trouble. Meaning if your girl isn't behaving right, ditch her and get somebody else. Because this wasn't possible before, people were FORCED to deal with their issues. Some people say it's better this way. Others are very, very lonely. Luckily, if you want to, you CAN build and maintain an INSANELY happy relationship from the ground up. It won't be "set and forget" easy like an oven, but it is possible. And since having a healthy relationship is the foundation for a successful life, you might want to consider it. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  20. Some of the best advice is also the oldest. Depsite how many improvements in thinking and technology, humans are still humans. Jesse Livermore, for example, was a famous stock trader way back before and during the Great Depression. He wrote a famous book which was a fictionalized autobiography. In it he describes how stocks go up and down based on human emotions. Human emotions which are as old as the hills. So while technology improves, science improves, ideas about physical health continue to improve, human emotions will ALWAYS be the same. It is for this reason that many historians say the history is not linear, but cyclical. Even in economics they have the idea of a "business cycle." Booms followed by busts followed by booms. One way that human emotions are always the same is in human relationships. Having a positive and healthy relationship can make everything MUCH easier. Having a negative relationship or no relationship can make everything much more difficult. One of the main problems in modern society is modern society itself. Don't get me wrong, no way would I ever even CONSIDER living without modern technology. But it does come with it's problems. One of the most obvious is our never ending hunger. Way back in the day, it was GOOD to always be hungry. Because always being hungry was a very strong motivating factor to succeed. Today, hunger needs to be carefully managed. Relationships are kind of the same. Today we have so much choice, it can be very difficult to consciously create the right relationship. But just like you can manage your health by consciously eating healthy food, you can manage your relationships by consciously creating and maintaining healthy relationships. One of the biggest mistakes people make about modern relationships is that the like that famous TV oven. Set and forget. This is how they work in the beginning, but the longer you want them to last, the more you need to consciously manage them. Kind of like when we are young, we can get away with eating anything we want. But as we get older, we have to be more careful about how we eat. When relationships are in the early phase, they are pretty easy. But as they grow, they need to be managed. Managed well, they can be incredibly rewarding and insanely beneficial. Left to grow on their own, they CAN become a horror show of emotional anguish. Crossing your fingers and hoping for the best isn't exactly the best strategy. What is? This: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  21. I read a fantastic book a long time ago. Very easy to understand, very accessible. It even had plenty of funny pictures It was written by a husband and wife team. They write a lot of books about self-help type stuff, but from a scientific perspective. This particular book, "Why Men Don't Listen and Why Women Can't Read Maps," is all about the REAL differences between men and women. The last 1/4 of the book is references to all the scientific studies. What was most impressive was that overall, everything about us humans can be understood by understanding where we come from. Not anything esoteric, but biologically. We lived the LONGEST time as hunter-gathers. So all of our instincts were calibrated during that environment. For example, men have very long range, but NARROW vision. Since they were always hunting. Women, on the other hand, have more short range but very WIDE vision. Because they were always gathering. Men don't talk, because talking while hunting is NOT a good idea. Women talk all the time, because talking while gathering is perfectly fine. So a good mental model of WHY we have any particular human characteristic is by imagining a hunter-gatherer environment. Anything we have TODAY, that we DIDN'T have back then is a source of massive problems. Food was scarce back then, but not today. Being always HUNGRY today was GOOD back then, but it's NOT good today. More than 2/3 of adult humans are overweight because of this. Another situation that is MUCH different today is how men and women interact. How we interact, what we say to each other, when we say it, how often we say it. Very much like food, we have TOO MUCH ACCESSIBILITY to each other today, and it causes problems. But there are plenty of other things that also cause plenty of problems. Which is why if you just wing it, relationship wise, you'll have a very LOW success rate. Falling IN love (or lust) is EASY. Maintaining it is the HARD part. Back then, the "set and forget" strategy was perfectly fine. But so was the "eat anything you can" strategy. Both hunger and relationships require CONSTANT management today. With food, it's easy. Well, what to do, specifically, isn't complicated. The same with relationships. What to do isn't so complicated. But knowing is only half the battle. But just like diet and exercise, if you COULD manage to eat healthy and exercise, you WOULD have a healthy body. (BTW, wonder why the hottest diet today is called the PALEO diet?) With relationships, if you COULD manage to do what you NEED to do, you WOULD be able to create a deep, loving, healthy relationship with ANYBODY. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
  22. I recently read an interesting article about Elon Musk. The super rich, super genius that is going to take us to mars. He was talking about a recent break up he had. What was interesting was the interview had to pause while he went and composed himself. Apparently at the time of the interview, the breakup was fairly recent. He admitted that his biggest fear is being alone. Not with anybody to share his life with. It reminded me of "Rosebud." Rosebud is the name of the sled in the famous Orson Welles movie, "Citizen Kane." A fictionalized account of William Randolph Hearst, the billionaire newspaper man. At the end of the movie, the protagonist whispered, "Rosebud." The name of his childhood sled. He was recalling when he was a young child. Poor but happy. Having fun, being with his family, not worrying about anything. In the movie, his financially poor dad gave him to another family hoping he'd have a better life. It seems plenty of rich and famous people have a secret "weakness." Even the strongest super heroes (like Superman) all have ONE weakness. At the end of the original King Kong, the famous quote (which was really made up for the movie) was about how "it was beauty the killed the beast." This reflects a fundamental part of human nature. Of the human experience. That no matter HOW MUCH outer success we can achieve, if we don't have healthy relationships, we'll feel empty inside. It's almost as if all that worldly success is to keep us from facing what's missing inside. But as the famous line goes, "No matter where you go, there you are." Which means before you embark on ANY "worldly" venture, it might be a good idea to do some introspection. Figure out what's going on deep inside. Embrace it, accept it, and fix whatever needs fixing. This takes time, and can be pretty scary. But it is pretty easy. All you need is your brain, a notebook, and a few minutes a day. Learn More: NLP Mind Magic
  23. I went over to my sister's once. Dinner or something. One of the houses on the block had been torn down. It was a nice neighborhood, with nice houses, so it seemed kind of strange. Turned out the guy's foundation had cracked, so he had to make a new one. Which meant tearing down the house, ripping out the foundation, and pouring another one. Quite an expensive pain. This is why the foundation of anything is so important. With a house, it's pretty obvious. Because houses are physical things with physical plans. There is a right way and a wrong way. Other things, it's not so easy. In sports, for example, if you pick up some "bad habits" like holding the bat wrong, or any other repetitive movement, it can be hard to correct. Even harder that tearing down a house and re-pouring the concrete. That's expensive, but pretty straightforward. Other foundations may not cost anything to fix, but they can be much more difficult. Some are even impossible to fix if you lay the foundation incorrectly. Since most things in our lives aren't things we consciously build, rather they are things that just "happen," this almost guarantees most things will be on shaky foundations. On the other hand, if you are setting out to create something, having a good foundations is pretty easy. All you need to do is understand what you are building. Go slow, take your time, Measure twice, cut once, as they say. Or another common saying is, "If you don't have time to do it right, how are you going to find time to do it over?" Which illustrates the paradox of "hurry up and get it done." The faster you go, the longer it takes. Since going faster tends to create more mistakes. But if you take your time, build slowly and carefully, you'll have something that lasts a lifetime. Nowhere is this more important than in human relationships. With a good relationship, you can do anything. But if you're relationship is on shaky ground, everything else is shaky as well. Luckily, building a good relationships is just as easy as building a house. Learn How: Love Hypnosis
  24. Context is crucial. Something happening in one context is good. Not so good in another. A guy gets rejected by a girl, it could be the worst thing that ever happened to him. On the other hand, if he's with his friends and they are playfully hitting on every girl in site, a particularly clever rejection can make their evening. Especially if it gets everybody laughing. This is one context that can make almost everything better. A few years ago, they released a bunch of pictures from cold war Russia. Never before seen scenes from inside the Iron Curtain. Some were pretty bleak. Shops with the same stuff. One picture was of a big room with people selling apples. They all had the same apples. And they all had the same prices. Nobody looked very happy. But in other pictures, people looked extremely happy. Why? Even though in some pictures they didn't even have shoes, they were smiling. Because they were hanging with their friends and family. If you are rich and alone, it can suck. But if you are poor yet surrounded by loved ones (and a few bottles of vodka) then there's a reason to party. This is the secret of the human spirit. With the right relationships, people will thrive in any context. This is the very best frame through which to see the world. The frame of a loyal and supportive crew. This is one of the reasons why gangster movies, especially about Italian Mafia, is so compelling. We humans love the idea of loyalty. Of having a "family" that you can always depend on, that will never turn on you. That will help you bury the bodies, and never tell a soul. Most people think these relationships are only created by chance. You're either "lucky" or your not. But with an understanding of human nature, and the human condition, you create these loyal relationships at will. Learn How: Love Hypnosis
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