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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct19Post.mp4 Many things can be seen from two completely different perspectives. Once I was with a bunch of friends. We'd just sat down in a restaurant, and were looking over at the menu. My friend noticed that his water glass was different than all the rest. Same size, but a slightly different shape. He immediately took this to mean that something was wrong with him. Of course, he was only being about 5% serious. But this is a common response whenever we are singled out for any reason. Another friend was quick with the helpful reframe. "That doesn't mean you are worse than everybody, that means you are better than everybody!" Both can be equally correct. We can be singled out because there is something wrong with us. Or we can be singled out because we are special in some way. Our brains are quick with these kinds of reframes. We can turn bugs into features, and features into bugs. Usually very quickly and subconsciously. This may indeed be a deep human instinct. A necessary human instinct. Way back in the day, in order to get our daily calories, we had to put in a lot of effort. And a lot of that effort was of the trial and error kind. Of chasing an animal, or several animals, a long time before we caught and killed it. Or shaking a bunch of trees before we got enough bananas to eat. We are pretty good with doing this with ourselves. Turning failures into positives. We kind of suck at doing this with others. Especially when it comes to people who are naturally gifted. Nowadays, there's a lot of ideas associated with some kind of "privilege." That some people, by their lucky virtue of genetics, have it easy. And the rest of us normal goofs have to work harder. But this is also something you can easily reframe. People that are exceptionally attractive, for example, DO have it easy. Studies have shown this. But only in some situations. The situations that call for deep intellect, long game planning, effective conversational and social skills, these are not associated with super gorgeous people. Because super gorgeous folks rarely feel any need to develop any of those deep traits. Super gorgeous people just show up, and by virtue of their gorgeousness, they can get their feet into doors most of us can't. But that's all they can do. Get their foot into a door, stand on the other side of that door, and look pretty. But with some very targeted conversational skills, you can make yourself much more attractive, from a subconscious energy standpoint, than the most gorgeous person on Earth. You can BUILD your own halo effect as big as you want. With whomever you want. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
One of the biggest problems we humans have is with logic. We believe that we think logically. We believe that we make decisions logically. But in reality, nearly all of our decisions are emotional. However, we also seem to have a need to remember our decisions as having logical and rational reasons behind them. And what is the structure of logic and reason? Cause and effect. If you've ever heard the phrase, "correlation doesn't imply causation," it's because we always confuse the two. Correlation is when two things are related. More shark attacks happen in summer, because more people are swimming. More ice cream is sold during summer, because it's hot. So ice cream sales and shark attacks are related. When one goes up, the other goes up. But it would be silly to say that buying ice cream CAUSES shark attacks. Or if you get bit by a shark it makes you want to buy ice cream. They are correlated, but NOT in a cause-effect way. But all our thoughts are LINKED together in a cause-effect way. Either a cause-effect way, or in a complex equivalent way. What is a complex equivalent? Any time we think one thing MEANS something else. People smiling at me MEANS they think I'm sexy. Or as my friends tell me, people smiling at me MEANS they think I'm funny looking. Nearly all our thoughts are structured this way. And most of them are wrong. Unless your thoughts are about proven scientific principles, they are an opinion. What does this mean? This means with a little practice, you can OBLITERATE any thought you like. Now, why would you want to do that? For one, it would make destroying insults a lot of fun. It would be build up your reputation as being a BAMF. It would also make you a party hero. Since you could take ANY statement anybody said, and flip it around until EVERYBODY is laughing. Or you could take the limiting beliefs inside you brain and smash them like a paper cup. What beliefs? Beliefs like making money IS hard. Talking to cute girls IS hard. Asking your boss for a raise IS difficult or scary. Once you understand the REAL fragility of our thought structures, you can have a lot of fun. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/verbal-assassin/