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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov19Post.mp4 Most everybody would agree that rapport is critical. Nobody would argue that you don't NEED rapport. Or that the opposite of rapport would useful. Rapport, of course, is a feeling you feel with another human. You feel comfortable with them. You don't have a lot of resistance. The more of this "feeling" you have, the easier any kind of communication is. Nobody, unless they'd just escaped from the loony bin, would recommend creating "anti-rapport" before any sales or persuasion. Of being super creepy, super offensive, being super insulting, and THEN trying to ask for a phone number. But the problem of rapport is it's VERY SIMPLE. So simple most people forget about it. It's easy to learn, easy to accept as important. And pretty easy to practice. At least the SURFACE level rapport. Matching body language. And even deeper levels of breathing and speaking rates, etc. This is pretty good, if you can remember to do this. This simple body language based rapport will do WONDERS for any communication. Within this simple body language rapport, you can have much more open and honest conversations. This, of course, happens naturally. When two friends are hanging out, the rapport comes first. The matching body language, etc. is an OUTCOME of that natural rapport. The feelings of inner comfort, due their long friendship is the CAUSE. The body language rapport is the effect. This is also one of those form-function, function-form things. The inner feelings of comfort drive the external rapport. But the external rapport drives the inner feelings of comfort. The idea in persuasion and seduction is to create ONLY the outer rapport, and hopefully lead them to the inner feelings of comfort and connection. But what if you could do both? What if you could create inner, mental and feeling rapport BEFORE you spoke with them? It requires a couple of things. One, to see humans as "emotional resonators." Or potential emotional resonators. This is our natural state. Mom is holding a baby and talking on the phone. Mom shifts into a bad mood while on the phone.. Baby picks up on this, and starts crying. This isn't magic or voodoo. This is based on ALL the non-verbal signals. The quickening of mom's breathing. The tightening of mom's chest and the muscles in her arms. The change in expression on her face. We all were born knowing HOW to read people as "emotional tuning forks." But we shut ourselves off from that when we start to overly focus on the words. The first step is to simply turn OFF your brain. This requires practice, but it's practice you can do anywhere. Once your brain is OPEN, then you simply "vibe" with them. Allow your body language to be an EFFECT of their body language. Allow the thoughts in your mind to be an EFFECT of your body language. IF you are relaxed and open enough, your thoughts will be similar to their thoughts. And you can fine tune them even further by reading the situation. Then you'll be in mental, physical, and emotional resonance. Which before you even SPEAK, they'll imagine you as an old friend. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/telepathic-enhancer/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept01Post.mp4 One of Cialdini's laws of persuasion is "liking." Meaning the more we "like" somebody, the more we'll take whatever they say at face value. For example, imagine you're in some store, looking to maybe purchase something. Let's say it's something you've been wanting for a long time, and it's a few hundred bucks. And just when you're about to turn away, and think about getting it later, you see an old friend. A good friend. A friend you've helped bury bodies, and they've helped you bury bodies. A friend that would help you break out of prison if you needed him. A friend that makes you feel really good when you see him. And he looks at you, and at that thing you are about to buy, and says: "Dude, that thing is AWESOME! I own six of them! Damn you should buy it NOW!" Chances are, that recommendation from a friend would push you over the edge. This is why RAPPORT is so important. When you match somebody's body language, it sends a very STRONG message: "I am like you." This is delivered subconsciously and powerfully. And since most people LIKE THEMSELVES, we tend to like others which we feel FAMILIAR and comfortable with. Body language rapport INCREASES the "liking" law of influence. What else triggers the "liking" law of influence? A pretty face, a small waist and some BIG BOOBS! Well, not necessarily those things, but an attractive person. This is why the halo effect is so powerful. We look at pretty people. We AUTOMATICALLY get a deep subconscious feeling that says, "I like that person!" So when they say stuff, we don't question it NEARLY as much. For example, consider this mental split test. Situation one, you're at your local food court or any place where you need to make a food choice. Then a GORGEOUS woman (or dude if you like) shows up, and whispers seductively in your ear: "Hey sweetie, I really think you should consider choice X, it makes me feel really, really good..." Most normal humans would get choice X. (and maybe a boner...) Now imagine that SAME sentence, but coming from a smelly homeless guy with pee stains all over his pants. And when he whispers that to you, you can feel some of his spittle going inside your ear! Gross, dude! You wouldn't choose X, you'd RUN! But the BEST way to make yourself likeable is to DEMONSTRATE this. Big boobs, rapport, these are all QUICK and unconscious things. A much, much better way to DEMONSTRATE liking is to expand their mind map and stories. To really pay attention to, expand and appreciate the subjective ideas they've got in their mind. Big boobs and rapport are kind of binary. They either exist or they don't. But the MORE you expand THEIR mind map and stories, the MORE they'll like you. So much they'll EAGERLY do whatever you suggest. With a happy smile on their face. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/metaphor-mastery/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July24Post.mp4 Some the easiest to understand concepts are often the best. Or they CAN be the best, if we look deeper inside them. But since they are so easy, we "think" we've got them figured out. Rapport is a fantastic example. It's easy to understand, and easy to do. So easy we forget. Once we start talking to somebody, it's very easy to "forget" all the technical details. ESPECIALLY if we are flowing and having a good time. This is very much like eating. Another INSTINCTIVE pleasure. We start eating something that tastes good, and our brains turn off. But if you can manage to remember to at least check for rapport, just knowing where you are can help. Another VERY POWERFUL and very underutilized "trick" is the quotes pattern. This, like rapport, is very easy to understand. And because it's very easy to understand, it's equally easy to discount as a one-trick gimmick. But this simple technique CAN be used with AMAZING success. Because within the quotes pattern, you can deliver almost anything to anybody, and never get into any trouble. It works PARTICULARLY well if the person you quote is any kind of recognized authority. Example: Say you're at a party, and you're in a group with two other guys (assuming you're a guy, switch the genders however appropriate) and three girls. Each of the girls is attractive, but you barely know them. So, one of the guys is talking about hard it is to date for NON Chads. Since you are also a non-Chad, you want to give him the following, common sense advice: That's really a myth. Women care more about personality than looks. But saying this DIRECTLY, might be a bit uncomfortable. Because you're basically telling a group of people, including three cute ladies, what ladies "really" want. This, of course, might backfire. Enter the quotes pattern. Take that same advice, and put it deeply inside a quotes pattern. Deeply? You could say, "My friend said that..." But nobody knows your friend. You want to set it up so it's coming from an AUTHORITY figure. And since you're about to say what "women really want," why not make that authority figure a woman? And since you're going to use the quotes pattern, why not add some humor? And sexual innuendo? And while you say the sex part, you can look DIRECTLY at the three ladies. So, you say something like this: "I don't know. I was at my buddies house and he was watching some talk show. They had on this Harvard Psychologist, wrote a bunch of books. She was saying, that based on her research, that what women REALLY want is a guy who is confident. Not just conversationally, but confident in the sack. Confident in his ability to GIVE WOMEN PLENTY OF ORGASMS. Like OVER AND OVER AND OVER. I don't know, what do you think about this, ladies?" Of course, when you say the part in all caps, look directly at the ladies. This is just ONE way you can use the powerful quotes pattern. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/humor-brilliance/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun08Post.mp4 When people vibe together, it is a fantastic feeling. The famous, "instant connection" pattern intends to do this. But it kind of misses the mark. It violates the basic rule of fiction, which is show, don't tell. That is, if you assume it was intended to actually be used. It also violates Dale Carnegie's basic rule of persuasion. That you can get anybody to do anything, so long as they believe it was their idea. If you're talking about an instant connection, it's not their idea. In case you aren't familiar, the "instant connection" pattern is when a guy approaches a girl. A girl he's never met before. They start talking, and then he drops in the famous "pattern." The pattern talks ABOUT an instant connection. It goes something like this: "Have you ever met somebody, and there is something about this person. Something that makes you feel totally comfortable with this person. Where you just, click, with this person?" Now, if you are a super shy guy in a seminar, and you'd NEVER have the courage to say that to an attractive lady you don't know, it's very much like fiction. You'll only imagine saying that, and that will give you a good emotional feeling. Kind of like READING fiction. Only in real fiction, the characters are BLATANTLY fictional. But in a seduction seminar, the fictional character is the FUTURE YOU who is bold enough to walk up and say such a goofy thing. But back to the pattern. In order for this pattern to actually work, you have to have a LOT of rapport. And since this pattern is intended to be used on somebody you've just met, this essentially is that "click." Understand what this means. To get the "instant connection" pattern to work, you must first CREATE a deep connection BEFORE you use the "instant connection" pattern. If you DON'T have any rapport, the girl will hold her drink in front of her chest, look at you sideways and answer in the negative. You'll get done with the instant connection pattern, and wait for her to beg for sex. But she'll just look at you and say: "Yeah, uh, no. I've never felt that way. I'm, uh, going to go back to my friends." Which means the instant connection pattern, on it's own, doesn't do squat. The instant connection pattern DOES NOT WORK unless you FIRST have an instant connection. And guess what, if you DO have an instant connection, you don't NEED patterns. Kind of like in the Back To The Future Movies. "Where we're going, we don't NEED roads!" When you can CREATE an instant connection, the words you say ON TOP of that instant connection DO NOT MATTER. Instead, why not focus on building instant connections. With ANYBODY you want. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/intuition/
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Understand Their Thoughts: https://mindpersuasion.com/simple-mind-reading-technique/
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Here's a pretty cool experiment to do next time you're walking down the street. There needs to be a bunch of other people walking around for it to work. You can do it anywhere there are people walking in both directions. First, defocus your eyes so you are kind of looking above everybody's head. So you see the crowd of people as kind of a blur, with you looking past them. You'll find it's very easy to NOT crash into anybody, even without paying attention. Once you experience that, try something different. Instead of looking above everybody making eye contact with somebody as you are moving closer to one another. You don't even need to make eye contact. Just tune your eyes so you are looking at their forehead or chest (be careful!) You'll find when you do this, it's hard to NOT bump into people. Scientists have studied this phenomenon extensively. They set up cameras on huge, extremely busy streets in places like New York. Trying to figure out why, despite so many people walking past each other, few people ever crash into each other. They figure we have some kind of "not crash into another person strategy" in our brains. And it works PERFECTLY so long as we all have the same strategy. Go left, go left, go right, for example. If YOU go left, and the OTHER PERSON goes left, you'll move in opposite directions. It turns out that each individual only needs a very simple strategy. Left, left right, or right, right left, for example. Because all you need to do is move OPPOSITE to the other person. But that all changes once you make eye contact. Once we humans make eye contact we AUTOMATICALLY get into rapport. And when we're in rapport, we automatically MIRROR each other. Which makes it HARD to NOT crash into somebody. This is very similar to how we all think and feel in social situations. EVERYBODY is nervous to some extent. Few people are willing to GO FIRST. But it's the same phenomenon. Everybody is thinking the same thing, so NOBODY interacts. Just like nobody crashes into each other. But as SOON as you create rapport, (which is easy and automatic), crossing the "verbal barrier" is much easier. Because once you know what to look for, you'll see it. A very clear, non-verbal signal that means, "Please start a conversation with me!" The truth about humans is that we are VERY SOCIAL creatures. As those street experiments show, even when two strangers are in a hurry, as soon as they make eye contact (and get into rapport) it is HARD to break rapport. Because being in rapport FEELS FANTASTIC. Imagine how much better simple conversations will be. Once you learn how to safely and systematically create them, you'll discover a whole new world out there waiting. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/communication/
