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  1. Peanut Butter Industrial Complex: https://mindpersuasion.com/peanut-butter-industrial-complex/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/peanut-butter-industrial-complex https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept21Loop.mp4
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July29Post.mp4 Understanding Modern Frustrations Once I was in elementary school. And I had a crush on my second grade teacher. She gave us this math "test." More like a puzzle. She said we had to race to see who could finish first. I'm pretty sure I finished before everybody else. I thought it was easy. When I was done, I looked around, everybody else was still struggling. But I was too terrified to say anything. I was a shy kid. Then some OTHER kid stood up. The teacher gave HIM a whole bunch of public praise. For being so smart. Even though I'd finished before him. I KNEW what had happened. That I shot myself in the foot, so to speak. To terrified to stand up and IDENTIFY myself as being SEPARATE from everybody else. This is very closely related to the common fear of public speaking. ANYBODY can speak publicly in the right situation. But in these situations, we don't really think of it as "public speaking." Telling jokes when friends are around. But purposely SEPARATING ourselves from a group of STRANGERS is pretty scary. Especially when all those STRANGERS are staring at us. Many things in modern life are both easy yet maddening. We do fantastic things, but nobody notices. Other people do utterly EASY things, and everybody treats them like they are some kind of super hero. This kind of thing is rampant in the self help industry. Especially the kind where the super successful person becomes the super successful guru. "I have a super successful life. Copy what I did and you can be successful, too!" Only it doesn't quite work out for most people. Part of the reason that MOST of our behavior are not anywhere NEAR 100% conscious. So no matter WHAT we do, we don't really know HOW or WHY we did what we did. This is the problem when successful people try and teacher others how to become successful. Chances are they aren't really sure HOW they became successful. Even walking down the street, most of the INPUTS to our senses go straight PAST our conscious minds. This is widely understood phenomenon. But it generally only leads to interesting metaphysical understandings. Not any USEFUL strategies. To get useful strategies, you need to understand the human mind-body system from an objective, pragmatic standpoint. Not only will this give you a huge INSIGHT into the most common causes of frustration, but you'll be able to ELIMINATE them. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/watching-mind/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun28Post.mp4 A very common movie scene is the halftime locker room speech. Where the hero's team is behind at halftime. The coach gives them a rousing speech that fires them up. They come out, destroy the other team, and everybody lives happily ever after. It's also common for guys who are going out to pick up girls to a have some kind of "pre-game" warm up. Some times this involves hitting a bar before to knock back a few and practice some conversations. So when they get to the place where the girls are, they built up their courage. It's also very common for movie heroes to give themselves mirror pep talks before critical events. All these situations presuppose that the extra boost of energy is helpful. Kind of like in the original Mad Max, when he fired up the nitrous oxide to give his "Interceptor" and extra boost of power to overtake the bad guys. But what would happen if you didn't need that extra boost? What would happen if you ALWAYS had the energy you needed? We like underdog movies, and stories about underdog hero's because WE feel like WE are underdogs. We wish somebody would give US a pep talk. We wish WE could pull off a stunning, come from behind victory. In a sense, that is the main PURPOSE of those movies. To BE that "pep talk" for us. To give us a little bit of extra inspiration to hang onto when WE go into whatever situations WE feel we would like that extra bit of juice. These types of stories have been told since the dawn of time. Even way back in the caveman days, sometimes those dudes needed some extra motivation. It wasn't always easy for them. It isn't always easy for us. We can imagine two levels of energy. Our constant, base level energy. And the temporary higher level that we CAN achieve when we REALLY need to. When it's down to you and somebody else for the job. When it's time to ask the girl for her number. When it's time to lay down the law to an office bully. All humans have a two sided story instinct. To listen and remember those motivational parts. The parts we need to get us over the humps. AND to be the story teller to inspire others. Most of the time, we need to be inspired. But sometimes we NEED to step up and inspire others. You can build skills for both. The more you practice, the stronger you'll be. On both sides of that ancient and necessary instinct. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun27Post.mp4 There's a pretty common scene in movies. One guy has got to do something painful to another guy. Like set a broken arm, or put a dislocated shoulder back. The common way is for the guy or gal doing the painful thing to count. "OK, on three..." And then they invariably do the thing halfway between 2 and 3. The idea being to get the guy off guard, so it happens more quickly and less painfully. But this is so common in the movies, the some shows are starting to have the guy getting the bone fixed to KNOW that they're going to do it halfway between 2 and 3. Now, from a pure writing standpoint, they do this so the viewer won't think, "Oh I've seen this before." To have the other guy (the guy getting his bone fixed) know the same thing the viewer is expecting, that the dude's gonna pop his bone back on 2 1/2 instead of on 3. It's kind of cool from a meta, viewers standpoint. But it also presupposes that the guy getting his arm fixed has ALSO watched a bunch of those same shows. Otherwise, how would he know it was coming a 2 and 1/2? All centered around the idea that getting a bone fixed SUCKS. Or getting your shoulder popped back in. I can attest that getting a bone set really DOES suck. Even when they inject you with a bunch of stuff that's supposed to make it NOT suck. It STILL sucks. Which is why even in real life they do it quickly. This is how most of us think about personal development. We imagine whatever it takes to get to where we are is going to SUCK. So we want to get it over as quickly as possible. This is why we LOVE the idea of hypnosis. The idea that somebody can put you to SLEEP and do the work FOR YOU is massively compelling. But as an effective strategy, it's right up there with losing weight while you sleep. Sure, if you have to give ONE speech, it's not a bad idea to just suck it up and get it over with. But the idea of learning skills is completely different. Unfortunately, the ENTIRE self help industry is built around FALSE ideas of "quick fixes." That you need to pay a bunch of money and go to a seminar where you have a BREAKTHROUGH experience. But the truth is actually much, much simpler. AND easier. AND, believe it or not, cheaper. Changing your body through exercise diet takes time. And if you ever STOP, it's easy to backslide. But when anything related to social skills, once you get past a certain point it is self sustaining. This is why going as slow as possible is much better. No seminars, no gurus, no goofy metaphysics. Only a pen some paper, your brain and a few minutes per day. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  5. http://mindpersuasion.com/instinct-persuasion/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun26Post.mp4 Human instincts are extremely powerful for a reason. So powerful that they are impossible to ignore. This was so we didn't have to "think" about what to do every day. The trouble is this is hard to "see" in a real way today. Most people will never have a situation where they are hungry for more than a day, and NOT know where they are going to find food. This is why they say that EVERY SOCIETY is always three meals away from a revolution. If EVERYBODY realizes that there is no more food, it won't be long before everybody goes CRAZY. When otherwise normal people are in situations where they think they might actually DIE, they do crazy things to stay alive. Eating bugs, for example is very common. Most normal people, in normal situations would ONLY eat bugs if there was a lot of money on the line. Like on a TV reality game show, for example. But how much would you need to be paid to cut off your own arm? Or eat a dead guy? No amount of money would make anybody do these things. Yet these are things people HAVE done when the believe they will DIE if they don't. This is how strong our instincts are. They are there to keep us safe, and drive us to do INCREDIBLE things when we believe we are in danger. That's ONE of the problems of modern society. We are never in any kind of REAL danger. Which is good, really good. But it's also safe, really safe. This is one reason why soldiers coming back from combat have issues. The way humans are designed is to operate MOST OF THE TIME in life or death situations. After experiencing that, soldiers can have a hard time getting back to normal life. In fact, the ONLY REASON we invented modern society was to stay safe. To stay as far away from those dangerous situations as possible. For most people, are BIGGEST fears are NOT REAL. For our ancestors, our biggest fears were LITERALLY deadly. Today, most of our fears are social based. Things that will ONLY cause emotional pain. Thing is this emotional pain is RELATED to real, physical pain. Being socially ostracized, way back in the day, was a step closer to death. Getting mauled by a saber-toothed tiger WAS death. So in a way, social fears ARE as REAL as things that CAN kill you. Luckily, there's way to kind of con your way around the fear. To slowly build up an emotional resistance. So social fears are no longer real. And so that they no longer bother you. This means you CAN become socially fearless. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun25Post.mp4 Our instincts are like the Borg from Star Trek. Resistance is futile. This is why the willpower diet ALWAYS fails. The only way to lose weight, and keep it off (which, according to studies is INSANELY difficult) is to MANAGE your hunger. To plan your meals carefully. To not eat fast food more than a couple times a week. It's common to fall for the "Hollywood diet" trap. The idea it that movie stars, since they are always ultra ripped, have discovered some secret diet plan. And they sort of HAVE discovered a secret diet plan. It's not the diet, it's the STRATEGY. The only strategy that will EVER defeat our relentless hunger instinct. The secret weapon that can shut down our desire to eat. What, Dear Reader, is that secret weapon? Another instinct. Our instincts are based on ancient programming. Our conscious brains are very recent. Our reptilian brain and mammalian brain are very thick. Our neo-cortex (new brain) is very thin. So the ONLY way to have a fighting chance against ANY of these deeper instincts is to get ANOHTER deeper instinct on your side. For those Hollywood actors, that other instinct is MASSIVE amounts of social status and genuine authority. For most of us normal humans on a quest to lose weight, we'll have the EXACT same lives after we lose weight. Same jobs. Same friends. Same relationships. All those dudes and ladies in the gym getting ripped? It's to GET more sex and social status and even money. Every time they look at themselves in the mirror, they are IMAGINING tons of social recognition. Instinct vs. Instinct. Any time we try and pit our conscious choice against our deep instincts, it's like what that Russian Boxer said in one of the Rocky movies: "You will lose." The ONLY hope we have of overcoming ANY instinct is to figure out a way to get AS MANY of our other instincts on our side. Which means to take some time to IMAGINE the benefits. And put those benefits in terms of instincts. Napoleon was famous for saying, "Men will die for Ribbons." This means he knew, from experience, the BEST WAY to motivate his troops. To give them rewards (ribbons) in front of everybody. Positive social validation given in front of our peers is a VERY STRONG motivator. I used to read a lot of Tom Clancy. The main character was Jack Ryan. One scene had Jack Ryan being the newly elected president. And he had give his first campaign speech. He, he character, described giving a speech in front of adoring fans like a DRUG he could never have imagined. This is what Napoleon was referring to. This is the BEST feeling in the human experience. To stand up in front of a crowd, give them a MOVING message, and watch them go crazy with appreciation. If you can do this, then EVERYTHING else you want in life will be AUTOMATIC. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun24Post.mp4 Human hierarchies are everywhere. But they are mostly subconscious. The thing about humans is that we are driven by deep instincts. But we are capable of being driven by external triggers that indicate those deeper instincts. For example, by sheer mathematics, men have evolved a natural attraction to women who are, all else equal, younger rather than older. This is simply because the guys of the past who were RANDOMLY programmed to be attracted to younger women had MORE babies. Because a women who starts having babies younger rather than older will have more babies, since she's got more baby years ahead of her. So more kids will be born that have the gene to make the dudes naturally attracted to younger women. Similarly, all else equal, women are genetically programmed to be naturally attracted to older, more powerful men. For the same reasons. Ancient women that had the RANDOMLY programmed genes to be attracted to older, more powerful men had more kids. Since that older, more powerful man could support more kids than a young guy. So over time, more kids were made with the genes that made women naturally attracted to older, more powerful men. All this happened WAY before organized society. Long before money was invented. There are other instincts that can override these deeper, and basic instincts. One of those is social proof. If the entire tribe believes something, that will tend to OVERRIDE the deeper, more ancient instincts. In modern societies, we have all kinds of instincts fighting for our attention. For example, let's say you've got a big reunion coming up. The part of you that wants positive social proof, a very strong instinct, will WANT you to lose weight. But the part of you that wants to eat, ANOTHER very strong instinct, will compete with that. This is really the ONLY WAY to shut down the instincts we don't like. By pitting them against other instincts. Either for real, or by building up powerful emotional images. As mentioned above, we are still very influenced by social hierarchies. Where we are in the hierarchy. Men AND women. Modern experiments show this over and over. Stick ten people in a room, give them a task, and they will QUICKLY and subconsciously self organize into a hierarchy. How do they do this? We can imagine we all are giving off, and reading, some collection of subconscious, non verbal behavior that indicated where WE are on the social hierarchy. So much that every time they do this experiment, the same thing happens. Everybody looks around, reads this energy and AUTOMATICALLY takes their place. The take way is that the MORE of this subconscious, social hierarchy energy you are RADIATING, the higher up the food chain you'll be. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun23Post.mp4 If you were an athlete, you would need to practice two things. Three, if we get technical. The first would be the skills of the particular sport. The second would be strength and flexibility The third would be endurance. We can put these into two basic categories. The direct skills needed, and the supporting skills. Of course, strength, endurance and flexibility aren't really skills. Their more considered part of general health. Even if you aren't an athlete, it would be beneficial to be stronger, more flexible, and have some endurance. Most people recognize the natural impact this will have on your confidence. On a subconscious level, doing things to improve your health sends a strong message to yourself. That you are doing things that aren't particularly enjoyable as you do them, but you know the results will have a positive impact. Any time we do anything that involves this kind of delayed gratification, it has a positive impact on our psyche. We can say the same for mental skills and social skills. There is the direct skills. And then there are the indirect skills. Indirect skills can be things like mental flexibility and strength of focus. The more strongly you focus on any particular subject, particularly one that is not so interesting, the better mental state you'll create. Being mentally lazy is kind of the same as being physically lazy. Soft body, soft mind. Being physically non-lazy is the same as being mentally non-lazy. Strong body, strong mind. One is easy to do. So easy that everybody can do it. One is not so easy. The better you can do these not-so-easy "exercises" the stronger of a mind and body you'll have. The more you'll be able to handle unexpected situations, from both a mental and a physical standpoint. There is another mental strength that will enhance all other mental strengths. This is confidence. It's somewhat similar to physical endurance. It allows you to withstand unfamiliar situations, and be at the top of your game, for a much longer period of time. And just like in sports, you can train endurance in many ways. For example, plenty of people build endurance on stairclimbers and stationary bikes. It's not that they are getting ready for a bike race or mountain climbing contest. But by training AS IF they are getting ready to do those actual things, they build up MASSIVE endurance. Similarly, you can build your confidence AS IF you are getting ready for a particular task, even if you aren't. You will still build the valuable confidence that can be applied everywhere else. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun21Post.mp4 Most people are familiar with the hero's journey idea. The mythological structure of many movies. We tend to see this in blatant hero type movies. Especially all the recent super hero movies that have been made. But the same structure is in most movies. And books and most works of fiction. It's one of those things that you don't really notice. But when you look for it, you see it everywhere. Not only in movies, but in life. The basic hero's journey structure is in three basic parts. The orphan stage, when the hero is alone and bored and looking for adventure. The wandering phase he's kind of stumbling along, meeting new friends and learning about his skills. The warrior phase, when he knows who the bad guy is and everybody's getting ready for the bit battle. In movies with actual heroes, this is easy to see. But the same structure is in dramas, comedies and romance movies. But also in life. Every time we go through a different stages of life, we go through these three phases. Starting school, starting a new job, starting a relationship. We're bored, we're thrust into a new world, we stumble along, then we figure out what we need to do. The question is WHY do we see this structure everywhere? One explanation is that telling these stories and enjoying these stories is an instinct. Imagine a bunch of cavemen sitting around the campfire. This type of story would be very compelling. It would teach the kids that getting out there and hunting is THEIR heroic journey. That the best hunters are treated as hero's. Because hunting is pretty scary. Especially if all you've got is a spear and you need to kill a big enough animal to feed everybody. The leader of the tribe would be the guy telling all these stories. Since the dawn of time, humans have been telling each other stories. Not just to pass the time. But to inspire each other. To motivate each other. If you see any group of people hanging out, what's the easiest way to spot the alpha? The one is talking. The one who is capable of holding everybody's attention. The one whose ideas are slowly getting into everybody's brains and motivating the action. This is TRUE alpha-confidence. Luckily, plenty of experiments have shown that ANYBODY can be an alpha. Most people just wait for it to happen naturally. But you can do exercises to BUILD alpha confidence. And just like any exercise, the more you do, the stronger you'll get. And the BIGGER groups you'll EASILY be able to lead. Big groups that will naturally follow you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun19Post.mp4 In one of the Rocky movies, they had him chasing a chicken. Rocky thought it was stupid. His trainer knew better. Turned out to be a pretty good training technique. Chickens are pretty quick, and are hard to catch. The longer you chase them, the more flexibility and endurance you'll develop. Of course, this was another of the "strange training" themes in plenty of the Rocky movies. Hitting sides of beef, running up sides of mountains, etc. These all play along with the "poor athlete who can't afford expensive equipment" idea. Some people take big coffee cans, fill them with cement and make weights of out them. That's the thing about us humans. We can be pretty flexible when we need to. We even build exercise machines that simulate simpler pieces of equipment. You can run on a treadmill, or run outside on the street. You can use a stairclimber, or go find some actual stairs to run up and down. You can do exercises that SEEM to be geared toward a specific thing, but never intend to do that thing. People that use stairclimbers, for example, aren't likely getting ready for a mountain climbing contest. They do it for the effect on their bodies. Similarly, plenty of these ideas exist for social skills and conditioning. One of the BEST ways to rapidly increase social skills would be to take up public speaking. Since public speaking is terrifying, once you get over THAT fear, all the other fears will be small by comparison. But just like chasing chickens and running on treadmills, you don't actually have to EVER get up and give a speech to get "public speaking confidence." Just like you could never leave your house yet develop the body of a long distance runner. So long had a treadmill somewhere, and did the appropriate exercises, you'd get the results. Turns out there are PLENTY of exercises you can do to develop public speaking confidence. None of which involve speaking publicly. Many of them are purely mental exercises. Imagination exercises. Journaling exercises. Memory building exercises. And just like the guy who never leaves his house yet has a runner's body, you can never get up in front of a crowd, and develop a public speaker's confidence. The kind of confidence that turns heads when you walk into a room. The kind of confidence people are drawn to. Both in times of trouble and times of safety. Alpha confidence. Get Some: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun18Post.mp4 Status is important. At the same time, we like to pretend it's not. It's a happy idea that people will see us for who we REALLY are beyond things like money and status, etc. We all have this deep belief that if people take the time to "get to know us," then they will TRULY appreciate and LIKE who we really are. But in a way, that's kind of selfish. Because every single human out there has a limited amount of time and attention. And they have to decide exactly HOW to use that limited time and attention. Suppose the AVERAGE human crosses paths with 100 people each day. 100 NEW people. Further suppose that EACH one of those people have that SAME idea up in their brain. That if people ONLY took the time to get to know them, then they would like and appreciate who they REALLY are. How long would that take? How long would it take for somebody to get to know YOU? Multiply that by 100. That's how long it would take for EACH HUMAN to get to know all the people they cross paths with on a regular basis. They reason why this is selfish is we expect OTHER PEOPLE to do the work to "get to know us." How many people, on a DAILY basis do you take time to really "get to know"? Not just once or twice, but every single day? Probably not many. The reason is simple logistics. Nobody has enough time OR confidence to go around starting conversations with strangers JUST to get to know them. What would happen if somebody approached YOU out of nowhere, just to "get to know you?" Sure, if they were sexy that would be one thing. But imagine somebody who WASN'T particularly attractive OR interesting? What if you were approached by 100 of these people each day? Life would suck! The idea of OTHER PEOPLE taking the time to "get to know us" is not only extremely selfish (expecting them to do all the work,) but it's also LOGISTICALLY IMPOSSIBLE. If you WANT people to "get to know you" you've got to do the work. You've got to SELL YOURSELF. Not go door and door or anything like that. But when you see somebody that MIGHT be interesting, it's YOUR job to get the ball rolling. This takes confidence. This takes persistence. But there IS a much better position to be in. So that many people WILL naturally want to get to know you. And that gets us back to status. The more STATUS you have, the more people will WANT to get to know you. Not fake status. Real status. Real status is very ancient and is sent and picked up subconsciously. It's a certain kind of confidence. One few people have. Learn to develop THIS kind of confidence, and you'll have REAL status. Ancient status. Attractive status. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun17Post.mp4 Once I was at this local bar. And they had this blues band playing. A local band. Their guitarist was much better than you'd imagine to see in a small local bar playing up on stage. The bar could hold maybe 50 people, if it were packed. But this guy was up there just absolutely shredding. But he was doing it in a way that indicated he didn't need much of his conscious brain. Of course, nobody thinks like this. "Wow, that guy seems to well into the range of unconscious competence!" But when somebody plays guitar without needing to even open his eyes, just playing by feel, even going off on wild tangents, it's clearly a very high level skill. My friend made an interesting remark. "That dude must sleep with his guitar!" Meaning he must spend a LOT of time with his guitar. Practicing. We tend to automatically assume people spend a lot of time practicing when we see them with CERTAIN skills or abilities. If you saw a guy walking down the street with an eight pack and zero body fat, you'd think he spent a lot of time in the gym. Or he didn't drink beer or eat cookies. But for some reason, some skills we don't tend to think of as learned. We tend to think of them as in-born. If we assume, first, that ALL SKILLS can be improved, then WHY, specifically, would people assume the opposite? For example, guys see another guy walk up and effectively talk a girl into feeling happy, outgoing, and attracted. Most guys don't assume he's spent a lot of time practicing. Most guys say he's a "natural." Meaning he just showed up with those skills. But why don't we see a guy playing guitar and assume he's a natural guitar player? Why don't we assume that eight-pack-guy was born that way? Because there is ALWAYS another thought associated with learned skills. Especially observed learned skills. We see a guy up on stage, shredding on his guitar. We assume he spent a lot of time practicing. We QUICKLY imagine our own, usually subconscious, cost-benefit analysis of US spending that same time practicing. Meaning we quickly imagine why HE decided to spend all that time practicing, while we didn't. The answer that generally comes back is we've got better things to do. We don't WANT to become a literal guitar super hero. OK, fine. But why do we label "naturals" as naturals? Because anything that involves social skills is TERRIFYING. We don't even like to CONSIDER the idea of practicing and getting better. But the truth is twofold. Part one is EVERYTHING is a skill. EVERYTHING you can do can be improved. Usually a lot. The second part is practicing social skills is not nearly as terrifying as people think. Quite the opposite. In fact, if you practice correctly, it's actually pretty boring. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun16Post.mp4 If you ever find yourself up against a gang of bad guys, that strategy is pretty straightforward. At least from movie fighting strategy. Figure out which guy is the leader, and punch that guy first. Then the rest of the bad guys will flee. There was a movie a few years ago with Tom Cruise where he had to play this soldier fighting against aliens. He got some "super special" alien blood on him, so he could relive the same day over and over. Eventually, like most complex alien movies, in order to kill ALL the aliens, they had to kill the MAIN alien. Which was essentially the alien brain. This is a very common theme in movies. Mainly because we humans are hierarchical. So it makes perfect sense to kill the dude in charge and you'll be in good shape. It also makes sense to WANT to BE the guy in charge. If you are a good guy, and you are leading a good tribe or group of people, not much is better. The guys up on top get most of the good stuff. In chimps and in humans, social hierarchy is closely correlated with all the stuff we humans generally want. Money, sex, fame, etc. There is one idea binding these two ideas together. Killing the bad guy in charge, and being the good guy in charge. And that is public speaking. If you CAN manage to speak effectively in front of any crowd, for any amount of time, this will be a solid way to demonstrate REAL authority. Especially if your message is compelling. Everybody will be in the crowd watching you. Everybody will notice that everybody is watching you. This will give you both social proof AND authority. The two most powerful subconscious triggers. But to get there, you've got to get over your public speaking fear. A fear nearly EVERYBODY has. A fear nearly EVERYBODY thinks is WORSE than death. This is good news. Why? Because of all the fears up in your brain, fear of public speaking is the greatest. So if you knock out the leading fear, all the rest of your fears will scatter. Just like punching the leader of a gang in the face. So, what, punch yourself in the face? Like in Fight Club? No, nothing that drastic! Turns out there are a ton of simple and easy exercises you can do that will SLOWLY dismantle your public speaking fear. That's a problem with punching the bad guy in the face. He might come back! But if you DISMANTLE your fear, it will never show up again. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  14. Brainwashing Audiences and Amnesia Jumping: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotizing-audiences-and-kangaroos/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun15Loop.mp4
  15. The quickest way to become the alpha of any group. https://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  16. Linguistic reframes are a powerful tool. These are when you take a meaning assumed by somebody, and flip it around until it means something else. Whenever two people are having a conversation, one person will set the frame. The other person will accept the frame. Consider the idea that even among old friends, there is always a very subtle frame contest going on. The word "contest" is too strong. It implies some kind of overt competition. But this is rarely the case. Imagine an old couple. Who has been married for decades. They've evolved a kind of understanding. For when who leads and who follows. This will change based on the context. With close friends it's the same. In some situations, one person leads and the other follows. When the situation changes, the frame hierarchy will change. This is one reason why we become friends with the people we become friends with. It's easy to follow and easy to lead. But when two people are having a conversation and they don't know each other, this "frame contest" will seem less subtle. Sometimes very overt. Especially in something like sales. But the rule is the same. Whoever controls the frame, controls the outcome. The customer wants the cheapest price possible. The salesperson wants the highest price possible. The context is buying or selling, depending on the viewpoint. The frame is exactly HOW this context will play out. This is when skills like reframing come in handy. A very common objection is the price objection. "Gee, I really love this but it's just too expensive." Another common objection, which is a bit more vague is the need to shop around. "Gee, I really like this, but I'd still kind of like to shop around a bit." The problem with reframing STATED objections is they usually aren't the entire story. There is usually something going on beneath the surface. Ultimately, it comes down to value. If the customer REALLY BELIEVED that the product was WELL WORTH the price, they wouldn't need to shop around. This is why it is very helpful to collect objections. Even if you aren't selling anything. To have any idea of the POTENTIAL issues that may come up. And then pre-frame them. How do you pre-frame them? With stories. Stories about other customers, or other people who match your target. Stories with characters that had those same objections, but found out a way to overcome them. This why, BEFORE the objection even comes up (whatever you want from your target) you'll pace it and overcome it. In a way this will create a kind of "objection short circuit" in their brain. So of the objection DOES start to come up, it will vaporize on its own. And they'll never know. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  17. Our language is absolutely filled with metaphors. When people think of metaphors, we usually think of poetry, or literature, or fairy tale type storytelling. But it's hard to speak more than a few words before tossing out a few metaphors. Just take a look that last sentence. "Words" is a metaphor. It is a collection of sounds or squiggly lines that mean absolutely NOTHING to the untrained eye. And they represent and "idea" in mind, another metaphor. If we wanted to be super specific, each "idea" would have to be described according to the EXACT neural configuration. Something that's not even scientifically possible. So every WORD we use is a metaphor unto itself. An extremely OVER SIMPLIFIED description of something much more complex. So when we put a bunch of these words together, to describe a much more complex metaphor, it's metaphor made up of smaller metaphors. And how, exactly, do we "get" these metaphors "out there"? According to that original sentence, we "toss them out." In reality, we move our mouths and throats and make a bunch of sounds. Nobody is actually "tossing" anything. But HOW we describe the "way" we "toss" these things out is instructive. A lot of times, we actually SAY, we are going to "put this out there." We PREFACE a collection of metaphors by saying: "I'm just gonna put this out here..." In reality, this is a BAD idea. Why? One, it breaks the rule of Carnegie. That you can get anybody to do anything so long as they think it was THEIR idea. As soon as you SAY, "I'm just going to put this out there..." it is IMPOSSIBLE to NOT associate that thing you "put out there" with YOU. So if you are including any ADVICE in that "thing" you are "putting out there," BEFORE you even mention the advice, you essentially OBLITERATE any chances it will be taken. Why? Because the OPPOSITE of Carnegie's rule is that NOBODY likes unasked for advice. What's the solution? Easy. It comes from fiction. Fiction, of course, being a very, very, very LONG string of metaphors. What does fiction teach us? SHOW, don't tell. When you SAY, "I'm just gonna put this out here..." you are TELLING. How do you SHOW instead? Don't preface that THING you are putting out there by saying you are putting it out there. Just put it out there. How? Just say it. And LEAVE it for the other person to discover ON THEIR OWN. If you build these metaphors correctly, and put them out there correctly, your targets will do WHATEVER you want. Without EVER knowing how you snuck those ideas into their brains. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  18. Secrets of Unlimited Authority https://mindpersuasion.com/over-the-line/
  19. One of Dale Carnegie's most useful pieces of advice is how to best persuade people. That you can get anybody to do anything so long as they think it was their idea. This is the fundamental idea behind covert hypnosis. The type of conversational hypnosis invented by Dr. Milton Erickson. He would tell a bunch of stories with specifically vague parts. His patients would follow along, and they would have to fill in the vague parts with their own experience. So at the end of a few confusing stories, even though Erickson would be the guy talking, it would FEEL like the patient's ideas. This was Erickson's genius. He would be talking the whole time, but the patient would feel like they solved their problem on their own. Usually subconsciously. The LAST thing Erickson wanted to do was to make it feel like he was giving advice. Advice is the OPPOSITE of Carnegies golden rule. Advice is BLATANT about not being their idea. But Erickson had a huge advantage. People came to him for the specific purpose of solving problems. This is very similar to sales. People specifically talk to sales people to maybe buy something. From a structural perspective, this is very close. Which is why you can use the Milton Model VERY EFFECTIVELY to sell things to people. But it's also why using the Milton Model has limitations socially. Patients EXPECT therapists to solve problems. Customers EXPECT salespeople to sell products. How can you do this socially? Turns out pretty easily. First you need to understand the very basics of human nature. Our deep instinctive desires and fears. Then you can just pay attention to HOW people talk. What they talk about. This will allow you to read their subconscious energy. THEN you can quickly spin a few stories. Some metaphors. About a friend, or a friend of a friend. Or something you saw on TV. From THEIR perspective, you'll just be telling a few stories. Literally putting them "out there." They'll look into the stories and get some ideas. Ideas that will feel like theirs. Ideas which will seem FANTASTIC. They won't have any idea what REALLY happened. That you hid the ideas within those stories. That you kind of put off to the side. This will give you an ENORMOUS amount of social influence. A huge amount of persuasive power. People will do whatever you want. And NOBODY will know, but you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  20. Watching actors give speeches is interesting. Especially when they are nervous. For example, if they give a thank-you speech after getting an award, they frequently rely on notes. (Assuming they don’t go off on a political tangent...) These are people that are the absolute best in the world at communicating carefully crafted words. Normally, the words are written by experts. The actors practice them over and over. When they make movies, they take plenty of takes. They record them from plenty of angles. Even the crappiest movies on Netflix are practiced and filmed and dubbed and cut together. So when you see an A-lister giving a speech, it’s always interesting to see how NORMAL they sound. It’s very easy to imagine that people actually talk like they do in the movies. But when giving a speech in front of others, even the most skilled communicators in the world are too terrified to glance away from their notes. If you ever watched politicians go off on rants, that too is very practiced. Politicians practice those rants over and over in front of staff. AND they hire professional coaches. The idea of somebody just standing up and speaking eloquently and spontaneously off the top of their head is EXTREMELY rare. Even “man on the street” interviews on the news are rehearsed. They stop a guy, and spend a few minutes going over what he wants to say, and let him practice a few times. The people that are the most eloquent persuaders are salespeople. And they are eloquent because they have the SAME conversations with the SAME people over and over. Practicing spontaneous speaking is NOT something most people consider. But it IS something YOU can practice. Funny thing is you don’t need to speak to practice. Because just like martial arts, you can practice certain MOVES over and over again. Until those individual MOVES become second nature. There are certain “moves,” or linguistic patterns that can be practiced over and over, through writing. And since practicing these will build in new neurological connections, you’ll be able to speak in these linguistic patterns. This is something very few people are aware of. Even fewer take the time to practice. So when you make this a habit, you’ll have major advantage. Whenever, and however you do your speaking. AND your writing. Writing, of course, allows you the ability to take something that is already written, already out there being read, and slowly tweak it. So it keeps getting better. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
  21. https://mindpersuasion.com/welcome-the-other/
  22. No matter what you do, you've got to stand out. That is, if you want to be better than average. Every single one of us has to differentiate ourselves somehow. Like it or not, everybody discriminates. If you are standing there on one side of the bar checking out a pretty lady, chances are she's got plenty of dudes to pick from. As much as the goofball politicians try and promise us they make everything fair, when the rubber meets the road, it's anything but. Since that pretty lady has plenty of guys to choose from, she's going to choose the BEST based on HER own subjective values. If you're sitting in a waiting room with 50 other goofs for one job, the hiring boss is ONLY going to pick the best. So if you want to stand out, you've got to be able to DO THINGS most people can't. Or won't. An old movie with Richard Gere and Ed Norton is about a crazy guy (Norton) and his attorney (Gere). This was BEFORE Norton was famous. How'd he get the part? He acted crazy from the beginning. While every other guy was sitting quietly and patiently reading their lines and waiting for their shot, Norton was IN CHARACTER. From the moment he walked into the waiting room, he was acting CRAZY. Robin Williams did the same thing WAY BACK when he auditioned for the part on Mork and Mindy. His first TV show way back in the 70's. All the other actors were GETTING READY to pretend to be an alien. Williams walked in AS an alien. He even sat in his chair upside down. This is how you make an impression. But doing things DIFFERENTLY than everybody else. By standing out. A fantastic way to do that is to be able to get up and speak. When? Whenever you can. Don't be polite. Don't wait until it's your turn. Don't wait for permission. Robin Williams didn't. Ed Norton didn't. How do you speak differently than everybody else? Hypnotically. You can do it in conversations, speeches, any time you move your mouth and words come up. Make yourself memorable, and people will remember you. NOBODY remembers the OHTHER GUYS. The ones BESIDES Norton and Williams who didn't get hired. Stand out. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-hypnosis/
  23. Humans and chimps have 98% similar DNA. Most of us don't like to think of ourselves as animals. We like to believe that, as humans, we are special. From inside our own brains, it sure seems that way. But tons of experiments say otherwise. The Milgram experiment shows we'll do whatever an authority figure tells us do. Few will resist. The Asch experiment shows that we'll do whatever our social peers will do, even when we KNOW it's the wrong thing. Few will resist. If you walk down the street and accidentally make eye contact with somebody, it will be HARD to not bump into them. Because once we make eye contact, we AUTOMATICALLY get into rapport. It's hard to not bump into them (and them into us) because we are AUTOMATICALLY mirroring each other. Even when BOTH of us are consciously trying to NOT bump into each other, EACH of us (or our subconscious minds) are mirroring each other. If you have ever decided to try the willpower diet, you know how impossible it is. When our INSTINCTS tell us to do something, it's impossible to resist. (Just like the Borg: Resistance Is Futile!) So, despite how "distasteful" it may seem to compare ourselves to chimps, it's also VERY helpful. One thing they notice when studying chimps is STATUS is EVERYTHING. The higher the status, the "better" the life. With high enough status, sex (relationships) and food (money) is a RESULT. Below a certain status, both sex and food has to be chased. One DOES NOT equate to the other. Quite often, the MORE you chase one, the LESS you get of the other. This only goes for those chimps BELOW a certain level of social status. Above a certain level, both sex and food are a result. This very much seems to be true in human animals as well. The more STATUS you have, the EASIER things are. So, the MONEY question, how, exactly does one GET status? Luckily, for us humans, there are PLENTY of ways. You can invent something, like Gates. Become a world class investor, like Buffet. You can play sports really well. You can be a charismatic politician. But there is a MUCH EASIER way. One thing that triggers the "that person has high status" instinct is standing up and speaking. When there are a bunch of people sitting and listening, and one guy or gal is standing up and talking, the person talking is going to AUTOMATICALLY trigger the "high status" instinct in EVERYBODY. Despite how terrifying it might seem, getting up and speaking will trigger that high status instinct. But you can make it MUCH more powerful. By speaking hypnotically. By moving people's minds in way that will LAST. Kind of like creating a high status MEME of YOU. That will spread from brain to brain. Like a virus. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-hypnosis/
  24. Things can be different on different time frames. This is one of the sleight of mouth patterns. A problem in the short term can be a benefit in the long term. Or a problem on one meta level can be a benefit on another meta level. In NLP they have the idea of logical levels. Problems on one logical level are more easily solved from another logical level. Weight issues, for example, could be perceived as a physical issue. But often they are emotional issues that manifest themselves on the physical level. And if you ONLY look at them from a physical level, you'll miss most of the deeper issues. Of course the word "deeper" is itself a metaphor. There's nothing obviously "deep" about emotions. Especially the kind of emotions you wear on your sleeve. The sleeve is the part you want everybody to see, so it's up on the surface. Not deep inside, where all the food goes. Many people like the idea of making money in sales. But they quickly wash out when they see how much they have to withstand rejection. If you CAN stand up to rejection, you CAN make a lot of money. (Stand up, as opposed to fall over...What you don't want to buy?...ahhhh!) But on another level, you can make it much easier. But you've got to do something that INITIALLY is pretty scary. So scary that most people don't even consider it. But if you get past the scary part, you'll find the other side is WAY easier than sales. AND there's a lot more money. Even if you get a POWERFUL sales pitch down, you still have to deliver that pitch over and over and over. For example, if you had the best vacuum cleaner sales pitch, so good you sold 20% of clients, you'd STILL have to knock on a bunch of doors. But if you could STAND UP and pitch 50 people at once? A couple of things would happen. One is the rejections would be MUCH EASIER. Because if you're giving a sales pitch to ONE PERSON, you have to spend the same amount of time. Whether they buy or not. But if you pitch 50 people at once, it's a matter of percentages. But even better, is if you are pitching to individual after individual, you would have to adjust your delivery every single time. That's hard! But when pitching from the podium, you can deliver the SAME message over and over. On the front side, it's terrifying. Which is why nobody does it. But on the other side, it's easy. Show up, speak (which is easy since it's the same speech every time) and collect your money. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-hypnosis/
  25. All humans have unmet desires. We are essentially desire fulfilling organisms. We eat, sleep, consume information. All in a cycle. You might eat different food from day to day, but you still have to eat. You might enjoy different leisure activities from day to day, but they still serve the same purpose. Mental stimulation without mental effort. One thing we humans like is stories. Short stories, long stories, epic sagas. And those have the same structures as well. Lately superhero movies have been very popular. Joseph Campbell wrote a book years ago called "The Hero With 1000 Faces." One indication that we like the same stories over and over and over. Which is very helpful if you need to communicate anything. If you take whatever message you'd like to give, and put it in a story format, it will be very effective. Most of the best sales letters are in story format. Regular characters doing regular things. Overcoming regular problems. Weave your idea in there, and they'll go right along with it. This is a lot easier than it seems. Of course, it will take practice. But once you've got it down, you can use the same message over and over. Told in more or less the same story, over and over. Just like Campbell found. We humans respond in the same ways to the same stories. So if you speak in story language, your message will be very well received. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-hypnosis/
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