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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec16Post.mp4 Humans are learning machines. We have a both a huge collection of instincts and a nearly infinite learning potential. Infinite doesn't mean you can put an infinite amount of data in your brain. But the things you CAN learn, are infinite. But these require you spend some time learning those things. Unfortunately, most people today have a kind of misguided idea about learning, what learning really means. For most of us, we associate learning with school. Us sitting there. Some teacher telling us things we are supposed to remember. That are supposed to be important. Organized education has been going on way back since the middle ages. People realized that to become a functioning adult, you need a certain "base" collection of skills. This is one key difference between now, and back then. Now we listen or read for information. We take a test, and show we know that information. But for the longest time, learning meant learning skills. How to DO things. This misconception is why things like math seem so hard. We treat it like other subjects. Like we're supposed to just sit there while the teacher talks. Then we know how to do math. But for something like math, it's much more like a sport. One of my favorite professors in college would say that about physics. He said you can't learn basketball by watching basketball. You can't learn physics by watching physics. You need to PRACTICE. Just like sports. Not try to remember, but PRACTICE. This is one key reason we HAVE self awareness. A collective memory. We can WATCH ourselves practice. Humans started in Africa. But then we spread out all over the world. Every time we went into a new area, we had to LEARN how survive. This wasn't by studying academic textbooks describing how to survive. This was LEARNING by trial and error. Getting food, reading the weather, staying safe are META skills. Each environment we went to would require we fine tune how to do those META skills in that new environment. Modern life is very similar. Particularly when it comes to our meta skills, and this new "environment" in which we find ourselves in. Talking to people, making friends, creating romantic relationships, these are META skills. Skills that are programmed into your DNA. All it takes is a bit of fine tuning in the current environment. Something humans have been doing for TENS of thousands of years. Another way to look at this is "re-calibrating" this instinctive relationship building skills for our new environment. Once they are re-calibrated, they will be on auto pilot, like they are supposed to be. Just like everything else humans have been learning since the dawn of time. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/relationship-generator/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug15APost.mp4 Many loops or cycles are self sustaining. Both on a massive, life on Earth scale, and as individuals. You're in a good mood, so you smile at the ladies. Since you're happy when you smile, they smile back. Thereby enhancing your good mood and keeping the cycle going. One theory is that all life on Earth is essentially one gigantic self enhancing, slowly growing organic entity. This can seem pretty metaphysical. All kinds of energy flowing back and forth and growing at the same time. There's an idea that you can "fake it till you make it." This is sometimes true, but only in certain situations. Which situations? The ones that most QUICKLY lead to those self-sustaining, positive loops. For example, if you were to do an experiment to verify this, you might start off with "fake" smiles. So long as you had enough people to smile at, it would work. Holding a smile when you're really neutral doesn't take a lot of energy. Eventually, people would smile back at you. Then your smile would then be natural, and subconscious. This a kind of "prime the pump" kind of thing. Once your "smile-feedback-pump" system was primed, it would take very little emotional energy to keep it going. On the other hand, trying to "fake it till you make" under other situations would be catastrophic. Suppose you happened to be at a nightclub, and they were having an open mic rap battle. Something you'd never done before. And suppose you decided to get up on stage, hoping you'd "fake it till you made it." This is a self sustaining loop that takes WAY more than fake smile. Most people understand this. This is pretty intuitive. Simple fake it till you make it stuff is stuff we do anyway. More complicated fake it till you make it, like rap battles, not so much. But there are some simple things you can do. Things that you won't need to fake, since they'll be very easy. But the natural feedback you get, will be much, much more than the energy you put out. For fake smiles, it's kind of a one-to-one thing. Smile at people, they smile back. But there are a few things that take little energy, but get MASSIVE returns. Smiling is one thing. Smiling says very little about your social status. Little kids in kindergarten can smile at a CEO and the CEO will smile back. But some things that you can practice a little bit at home, and then use them socially will get you MUCH MORE than a one-to-one return. Things are the things that subconsciously demonstrate high status. Which means people will treat you AS IF you are very high status. And once THAT self-sustaining loop gets going, you've got it made. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/p/stage-wizard/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July30Post.mp4 A common piece of advice is to leave everything on the field. If you are playing in a championship game, this is good advice. But sometimes, it's pretty bad advice. More so in some sports than others. Maybe in football, where each game is pretty important. And you've got a week in between games. But for sports like baseball, if you "left everything on the field" every single game, you'd risk injury. The COSTS (potential injury) wouldn't be worth the benefits, of MAYBE eking out a win when you might have otherwise lost. But for many things, this idea of leaving EVERYTHING on the field is HORRIBLE advice. In fact, the opposite is usually much, much better advice. For example, suppose you wanted to learn how to play the piano, and you were starting from scratch. Suppose that you fully understood, and accepted, it would take a year or more of daily consistent practice. Once you have the desire, and you accept what is going to cost, the next step is to figure out HOW you want to practice. If you practiced until you couldn't move your fingers any more, this would be very much like "leaving everything on the field." This would slowly create an association in your mind of: "Practicing the piano = pain and exhaustion" Which would be likely to make you quit. On the other hand, suppose you went much, much slower. So you practiced for maybe 10 minutes every day. So you still enjoyed playing when you STOPPED practicing. You left a lot ON the field. This would slowly build up a much different association: "Practicing the piano = fun" This would be much more likely to shift your thinking. From, "I want to practice the piano until I'm a skilled piano player." To, "My hobby is playing the piano, which I enjoy very much." This creates a very POWERFUL mind shift. From "practice" which is generally a means to an end. To "hobby" which is an end until itself. And much more sustainable. This is a fantastic model to apply to social skills. Most have the "practice until I'm good enough" model. But consider shifting into engaging socially as a HOBBY. This requires you force yourself to specifically NOT leave everything on the field. Leave when you are still having a good time. When the people you are interacting with a still having a good time. This "end on a high note" strategy will make you remember EVERY social interaction fondly. But it will also do something MUCH more powerful. Once you slowly create the "social interactions are fun" memory, your brain will ALWAYS be thinking about how to do better NEXT TIME. Since social instincts are a very POWERFUL driving force. This is something you'll understand once you slowly recalibrate how you feel about them. So any anxiety you may feel now will soon be part of your history. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/May06Post.mp4 Back when I was in high school, I ran cross country. And even before that, I was an avid jogger. And I used to play these tricks on myself when I was out running. One of them was when I turned up my street, and only had a hundred yards left, I would play mind games on myself. I would pretend that I was running to the end of my street. But my house was only halfway up. This would give me some mental energy to push all the way through. This was to counter a habit I'd had of slowing into the finish line. You can find this idea in plenty of areas. Pretending you are going much further than you really are. If you have a target, and you don't hit it, it sucks. But if you can "trick" yourself that your target is much higher than it really is, even if you don't hit your "fake" target, you'll hit your real target. Most people do the opposite. They don't hit their real target. So they pretend that their real target was LOWER than it was. This kind of reframing happens AFTER the fact. The other kind, with the fake target higher, is best done BEFORE the attempt. This is a very useful model to use when learning any kind conversational techniques. This does require you have a long term goal. A long term goal that is a very important, life goal. More of a "horizon" goal than the specific goal. For example, suppose you wanted to become the absolute most persuasive person on Earth. This is not something you can EVER achieve. But it is something you can keep getting CLOSER to. And the more persuasive you are, the much easier life will be. Pretty much everything you can think of REQUIRES you interact with somebody in SOME capacity. Job interviews, writing sales letters, convincing friends and family members, etc. So why not practice on the HARDEST and MOST ABUNDANT targets there are? Who? Attractive women. Most guys have this fantasy that when they see "the one" they'll rise to the occasion. The problem is, most guys have the AFTER THE FACT reframing strategy. They see a girl pop up out of nowhere. They try to talk to her, get her number, etc. They fail spectacularly. And then REFRAME that girl as NOT being the one. As only being PRACTICE. Which means they'll NEVER meet "the one." Instead, consider the opposite strategy. Of deciding, beforehand, that EVERY GIRL you ever talk to is practice. Because once you are comfortable talking to girls, EVERY OTHER persuasive conversation will be EASY by comparison. Job interviews. Convincing friends to go your way. Even girls you are INTERESTED in. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-seduction/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr28Post.mp4 Magic Johnson was famous way back in the day for his "no look pass." The then Lakers played very well together. And combined with Johnson's super human skills, he could literally pass the ball behind him. He had very wide peripheral vision, as many athletes do. Bruce Lee was another athlete who had wide peripheral vision. Of course, in the movies, this was exaggerated, by his super wide eyes when he'd be beating the crap out of everybody around him. A more recent example is a gif that's been going around. Of a baseball player talking to a reporter. Far on the other side of them is a batter hitting a ball. The ball curves toward them, and the player looks quickly, reaches up, and catches it bare handed. They were standing in the outfield, and the time was about 1 or 2 seconds from when it was hit to when he caught it. But the way he caught it was like how a normal human would catch a tennis ball tossed from a couple feet away. Even then, such a "no look catch" would be impressive. There are a few things going on here. One is that we all have that kind of capability. Of training our senses to being highly calibrated to our environment. The totality of our mind-body system BEYOND our very small conscious awareness is EXTREMELY under-utilized. Our mind body systems were calibrated with life was much more dangerous and difficult. To get our needs met, we had to THINK very hard about how to do that. To stay out of trouble, we had to THINK very hard about how to do that. We had to ALWAYS pay very close attention to our environment. Today, only professional athletes come close to what USED TO BE normal. This means that every single human has MASSIVE untapped potential. This DOES NOT mean you can become rich by chanting some magic ancient words. Or by simply ACKNOWLEDGING your potential you will automatically ACCESS your potential. We all have potential like we have PUSH UP potential. ANYBODY can train themselves to do a couple hundred pushups. This is the kind of potential that everybody KNOWS they have. But activating that potential takes a lot of time. AND there isn't much of a payoff. But there IS massive payoffs to activating OTHER kinds of potential. Body language reading, projecting, etc. All of us JUDGE others very quickly. We do so BEFORE we talk to them long enough to see what they're all about. They judge US and we judge THEM. This happens quickly, automatically and subconsciously. We can't NOT do this. But here's the cool part. Just by noticing this about yourself, you'll send a completely different non-verbal message. You'll project a much stronger, non-verbal frame strength. And that's just the beginning. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr12Post.mp4 You'll find feedback loops everywhere. Most of them are hard to predict. More of a general structure. The bigger the system is, the harder it is to predict. Like weather patterns, for example. A huge system with inter-dependent variables. One gigantic feedback system. Impossible to predict. This is why they can only give percentages when talking about rain. But from inside your own head? It's easy. Since you don't NEED to predict anything. You just need to have a direction. Not even a clear destination, only a direction. For example, imagine you have a phone sales job. You call warm leads, and try to sell them a product. There is no possible way you can possibly know BEFOREHAND what particular strategies will work, and which won't. But so long as you a DIRECTIONAL goal, each interaction will help you get there. For phone sales, the directional goal would be more conversations. 1% one week. 2% the next week. 4% the next week. This is, in a nutshell, the reason why HUMANS took over the planet. We had a CONSCIOUS idea of what we wanted. More food, more safety, more sex. And as we kept trying to get those things, we developed a long memory. A memory of what worked, and a memory of what didn't. One way to look at our self awareness is as a SELF COACHING system. A way to keep practicing until you develop new skills to the point of unconscious competence. Or NEW instincts. So long as you spend just a little bit of time practicing every day, you'll continue to get better. Nowadays, people have a LOT of downtime. Most of them are spending it watching Netflix or whatever else is on TV. But what happens if you spend just a LITTLE bit of time increasing your skills? Or learning new skills? Another reason why have such big brains is that's essentially what we did. Back in the old days when all we had was stories to tell, to listen to, or stare into the fire. What did we do when we stared into the fire? We kept playing and re-playing the previous events over and over and over. Thinking of ways we COULD have done things differently. Trying to use our fast growing brains to IMAGINE doing things differently. Of mentally practicing those things until we woke up the next day, and got back in the game. Those that were the MOST successful at this ended up conquering the entire earth. Today is no different. Learn skills. Practice skills. Mentally rehearse for when you get back in the game. And CONQUER the Earth. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar20Post.mp4 Most things are best understood as a numbers game. You talk to 10 girls you might get a couple numbers. You send out a few dozen resumes, and you might get a couple calls. You stand in the batting cages and you might really connect with one out of three or four pitches. This CAN be discouraging. Especially if you focus on every single swing, or approach, or phone call. But the longer you can stretch out your perception, the easier it seems. Especially if you understand from the beginning that it's just a numbers game. Even more so if you are slowly improving. One of the oldest jokes in the entertainment business is the guy walking down the street in New York. He asks a local how to get to Carnegie Hall. The local says, "practice." If you want to get ANYWHERE, you need to practice. On one hand, this kind of sucks. Especially in modern times when everybody is not only entitled but insanely impatient. We want what we want, and we want it NOW. On the other hand, once you get into a routine, you'll ALWAYS be getting some. Getting what? Getting better. When you don't have something but you want something, it can create a paradox of never ending frustration. You want it, you want it NOW, but you don't know HOW you'll get it. This is maddening to say the least. But when you start taking small, tiny, daily steps toward what you want, something pretty cool will happen. In a week or so, you'll look behind you and see how far you've come. You'll look out ahead of you and you'll KNOW how far you'll be going. You'll get rid of that "now-frustration" that is never ending. And replace it with continuous feeling of forward momentum. This means you'll KNOW where you are going. You'll feel it. It will start to change how you feel, what you think, how you speak and behave, and how people perceive you. A "now-frustrated" person is very UN-attractive. Nobody wants to hang around somebody who wants things, wants them now, but doesn't know HOW to get them. This is like hanging around a baby who is constantly screaming. On the other hand, when you develop consistent forward momentum, that is much more attractive. People will you see you, and they IMMEDIATELY notice that you are different than most. They won't see somebody who is dependent on others. They won't see somebody who is frustrated and stuck. They'll see somebody who is going places. Which places? Whichever direction you choose. Transforming your life, and everybody around you. One easy step at a time. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb24Post.mp4 When I was in Boy Scouts, many, many years ago, we'd go on these weeklong backpacking trips once a year. We would each be assigned something to carry for the group. Stoves, food, tents, etc. But we'd also be assigned things for ourselves. Waterproof match containers, compass, first aid kid, etc. We each had a list we'd have to check off before we were allowed to leave. This a useful training exercise. To take a bunch of kids up in the hills for a week. And to train them to check and carry their own stuff. This idea, of a pre-flight checklist is useful in plenty of areas. For example, guys who date more that one lady at a time will have a pre-flight check list of sorts to get their place ready. If a girl comes over and sees evidence of ANOTHER girl, that's not going to go over well. It's a deep instinct to prepare before doing important things. On the flip side, it's good to relax and go with the flow. Going with the flow is good when you're with friends, or if you don't any specific outcome. Where the experience itself is more important than the end. Like going shopping not to buy something specific, but just to kill time while looking in all the windows. Another powerful way "going with the flow" works is ON TOP of intense preparation. For example, when a boxer steps into the ring, he goes with the flow. He doesn't have a specific set of punches in his brain. What he does is based on what the other guy does. One of the most coveted states of human nature is the "flow" state. When you are operating at such high levels of performance AND your conscious mind takes a back seat. Usually this is when there is some kind of competition, like sports. Competitions necessarily involved an unfolding of completely UNEXPECTED events. Events that you must respond to IN THE MOMENT. Most of us are in the "flow state" when we are hanging out with friends. When it's NOT a competition. Not really a flow state, but an unconscious, natural state. However, when we humans talk to strangers, this flow state is very difficult. Since we never know WHAT, specifically, they are going to say. So we are naturally on edge, which keeps us OUT of that flow state of mind. But just like boxing, and other competitions, you CAN reach the flow state. When wonderful words flow without conscious thought. When you don't need to worry AT ALL about "what," specifically to say. When all the words, phrases, gestures and communication that moves organically from your brain to theirs is perfect. Natural, attractive, seductive, mesmerizing. How can you develop this conversational flow state? By practicing the STRUCTURE of language. Which is also the STRUCTURE of thought. And when you can reach this wonderful flow state, AT WILL, with anybody, the world will be yours for the taking. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug27Post.mp4 In banking, they have something called "duration mismatch." When people make deposits, they can take them out at any time. These are called "demand deposits." But when banks lend out money, then lend the money for longer, fixed periods. Which means that on one side, they have, say $1,000,000 in deposits. These are deposits that could, theoretically, be withdrawn at any time. But that same money is lent out, but in fixed terms. Car loans, house loans, etc. These are for much longer periods. Theoretically, if EVERYBODY came to take out their money at once, their would be a big problem. According to the rules, the depositors could take out their money at any time. But the people who borrowed that same money have 5-30 years to pay it back. The duration of the depositors is day to day. The duration of the borrowers is long term. Hence the term, "duration mismatch." Humans have a lot of problems that are based on an idea of "mismatch." For example, if you were to practice an instrument, you would know, without even needing to think, that it would take a while. On the other hand the self-help industry is FILLED with ideas of "instant" this and "instant" that. But consider that EVERTYHING is best seen as a skill. And all skills take time. And most skills have ZERO upper limit. Meaning the more you practice, the better you get. People are drawn to "one weird trick" ideas in things like health, social skills, and money. One because we all WANT those things. We all WANT improvements in those areas. And we want them sooner, rather than later. But more importantly, the idea of the PROCESS of going where we are NOW to where we WANT to be is assumed to be PAINFUL. Getting into better shape is painful. Practicing social skills is painful. Practicing money skills is painful. But that's only because the alternative to the "one weird trick" idea, (which we all kind of know is a con anyway) is the "suck it up and do it" idea. Like ripping off a band aid. Or setting a compound fracture. But this is an unhelpful way of looking at things. A much more resourceful way is to think in terms of SLOW growth. Very, very slow. So slow it seems normal. So slow it's VERY easy. So slow it's NOT painful. And since these are skills with NO upper limit, even if you go REALLY slow, you'll still make daily progress. For the rest of your life. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug25Post.mp4 For some things, practicing is easy. Very, very boring, but easy. Playing the guitar for example. Many people would LIKE to be able to play. But few people do. The reason is pretty simple. We humans won't do anything unless we believe the benefits will be greater than the costs. You might imagine being to hang out somewhere, strum a few chords and get plenty of positive attention. That imagination would be the benefits. And so long as the costs were vague, it would be a fairly strong desire. But when you actually practice, it's boring and frustrating. Pretty soon you start to get a much more accurate picture of the costs. Eventually, the costs will seem GREATER than the benefits. And you stop. This is normal, and VERY rational. Nobody would ever do something where the benefits are NOT clearly greater than the costs. It's got nothing to do with willpower. In fact, willpower is a non-existing metaphor. It's always and only a matter of costs and benefits. If you believe the costs will be greater than the benefits, no amount of willpower will be enough. If you believe the benefits are greater than the costs, then no amount of willpower is necessary. There ARE, however a couple of ways to make the costs LESS and the benefits more. One is to spend more time VISUALIZING the benefits. Spending time journaling all the ways the benefits can manifest. Sticking to the guitar example, if you spent fifteen minutes per day actually practicing, and fifteen minutes per day journaling all the different benefits, this would be much EASIER to sustain. So long as the costs, as you experience them NOW are smaller than the benefits, as you experience them NOW, any skill building will be easy. Especially of the skills come with plenty of built in, INSTINCTIVE benefits. Playing the guitar is close, but there are a lot of variables. A much better and more valuable skill is general social confidence. This comes with TONS of built in benefits. Friendship, romance, business, pretty much anything. Since ANYTHING you want in life will generally involve other people. So building up your people skills, and your people confidence will lead to TONS of benefits. But the same rules apply. Costs and benefits. So long as you keep the costs low, and the benefits high, it will be easy. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July6Post.mp4 One way to think about sales is pure numbers. You can certainly increase your success by learning techniques. You can definitely increase your success by studying your mistakes, and the stuff that worked. It's kind of a "fantasy desire" to get 100% success, but this is impossible. So ultimately, it WILL boil down to numbers. If you talk to ten people, you'll make three sales, for example. Once that gives you a decent daily income, then you start to increase other things. Like how QUICKLY you can disqualify those 7 people who aren't interested. Everything in life can be seen through this lens. Of a numbers game. Once you accept this, and once you accept your level, then it's a matter of becoming more efficient. Of getting the SAME results with less effort. Many people don't like to fail. They try something, and it doesn't pan out. But you can significantly DECREASE the "pain" of failure. The MORE you put all your HOPES on the success of that one thing, the more it will hurt IF you fail. The more you see that one "thing" as one thing among many, the LESS the outcome will matter. This is a LONG GAME strategy. To see EVERYTHING through two lenses. A short term, in the moment lens. And a long term, part of a long term strategy lens. That way, no matter WHAT happens, you'll gain something. Even if you fail, you will still INCREASE your skills. We all have this basic strategy built into our brain. Trial and error. Or trial and feedback. The idea that "there's no such thing as failure, only feedback," is a clever saying. And it's a very OLD clever saying. The trick is not only understand that intellectually. The real task is to understand that emotionally and subconsciously. For some things, that's easy. Learning to play a new video game. Learning to make something from a recipe. These things have a built in acceptance of "trial and error." The things with that build in acceptance we don't even call trial and error. We call it PRACTICE. The real trick is how to see MORE STUFF through this lens of practice. Just the word, "practice," has built in the idea of long game strategy. Turns out there are plenty of ways to slowly TRAIN in the ability to feel, not just know, this practice with many more things. Particularly social skill and financial skills. Because once you subconsciously can practice these just like you can practice video games, then ALL PARTS of life are fun and exciting. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
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If you decided to sell hamburger for a living, you'd open a restaurant. If you wanted to fix engines, you'd open an auto shop. If you wanted to clean houses, you'd have a cleaning business. But if you're a doctor, you'd have a "practice." Why do they call it a practice? Because every patient is unique. Fixing a human is infinitely more complicated than fixing an engine. Imagine taking your car in to get the engine fixed. And imagine the mechanic looked at it, scratched his head and said: "Wow, I've never seen anything like this. I'll need to check with my colleagues and figure out what the problem might be." Most of us would take it to another shop. But with doctors, this is expected. Every single patient is more experience. More experience that they'll be able to use on the next patient. This is one of the reasons why Milton Erickson was such a brilliant hypnotist. He talked to people for years. And he kept seeing the basic same problems over and over. From a structural level, this is very much like a salesperson who gets better and better over time. Coming up with better ways to overcome objections. Coming up with better ways to highlight the benefits of the products. You can also do this with people you've never met before. On one hand, every single person you meet will be unique. But at the same time, they will have the exact same set of instincts that every other human has. And when you can move those instincts with your communication, you will have a lot of interpersonal power. How do you do this? By telling simple stories. Not, "Once upon a time..." stories. But, "That's like this friend I got..." kind of stories. And with these stories, targeting their instincts, you can move their emotions. Away from bad places, and towards good places. This means everybody you talk to will put you in a category all on your own. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
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Everybody has a unique balance with respect to social comfort. Everybody has a point beyond which they'll start to feel social anxiety. Everybody has a point up to which they'll be more outgoing. When we are around friends, this balance is in one place. When we are around strangers, this balance is somewhere else. Regardless of who we are around, we tend to find our own equilibrium. Too much outgoing behavior will get us TOO MUCH attention, and cause us to pull back. Not enough will motivate us to speak up, and push out a bit. Both of these involve the idea of social attention. When we WANT more social attention, we push our social energy OUT. When we are getting TOO MUCH social attention, we pull our social energy BACK. But there is a way to push out as much as you want and NOT get any social attention. Most of the time, when we talk, people look at us. And the stuff we talk about is about us somehow. Something that happened to us. Something we have a strong opinion. So naturally, when we talk about these things, people focus on us. But you can speak about things that are metaphorically off to the side. The longer we speak, the more they'll be focused NOT on us, but on the stories we are telling. Once you realize how easy this is, you can start to put some very, very persuasive ideas within the stories. So persuasive you can get people to do anything you want. And since they are paying attention to the stories, and not you, they won't remember you nearly as much as the stories. This is normal. This is why actors have much more name recognition that screenwriters. This is why characters in movies have much more name recognition than directors. Listening to stories is a very pleasant, and very instinctive process. So once you start speaking in "story language," you can metaphorically step aside. They'll be paying attention to the stories, and not you. This will let you get as crazy as you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
