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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July07Post.mp4 Curiosity is a very powerful persuasive tool. Some sales pages for the most goofy sounding ideas work because they create curiosity. Some cheap plastic gizmo that promises to give you X-ray vision, or help you travel back and forth through time will sell. Not because people will actually think it will work. But if they make it sound compelling enough, if the sales page is interesting enough, and it's cheap enough, people will buy it just to see what the deal is. This is a long standing and proven marketing strategy. They even did a study of this on crayons. Both crayons were for sale, side by side. Same exact color, chemical components, etc. One was called "Tangerine Orange." This evoked ZERO curiosity. Tangerines are orange. This crayon is orange. I get it. This creates very little buying interest. But the other crayon was called "millennium orange." (This was back around 2000). When people saw THIS crayon, it "hooked" their brain a little bit more. People saw the tangerine orange and that didn't require ANY thinking to comprehend. But the other one, people HAD to stop and stare at and wonder why the heck it was called millennium orange. Just spending this extra brain time triggered an instinctive response. One that says: "I can't figure this out. This is really interesting!" The same response to X-Ray glasses and mental time machines. If you've even given away too much too soon in a relationship, you've KILLED this effect. Being too available, revealing too much. Everybody likes a little bit of MYSTERY. We like to WONDER about things. We like to THINK about things. We have a kind of "meta curiosity" interest in things we don't understand. We apply this "meta curiosity" in many ways that keeps our brains interested. Movies with twist endings, jokes with unexpected punch lines, even straight up puzzles. We LOVE to wonder about stuff. We LOVE things that seem to be more confusing that we first thought. More complex than we first thought. When you reveal too much, too soon, this creates the OPPOSITE effect. Like a movie that is boring that is predictable. Nobody likes those kinds of movies. Nobody likes those kinds of people. At least not when thinking about initial attraction and having fun. Sure, there is a time to be predictable and boring. Taking care of business, doing your job. But when having fun, meeting people, creating relationships, BE MYSTERIOUS. Be complex. Don't be boring. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/creativity/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun20Post.mp4 Our instincts were calibrated WAY before our brains evolved. Which is good. Really good. Our instincts are essentially automatic compulsions to keep us doing things that are healthy, and avoiding things that are dangerous. One instinct that everybody struggles with is eating. Here's an interesting experiment you can try. Wait until you are really hungry. Like, really, really hungry. And fix yourself (or order) something absolutely DELICIOUS. And while you eat that delicious food, try to do something very brain intensive. NOT watching TV or doing something else passive. Something REALLY difficult like deriving the quadratic equation. Or even doing a complicated long division problem. If you are hungry, and you put food into your mouth, your higher brain functions will SHUT DOWN. You cannot eat AND do long division. At least as efficiently as you can ONLY do long division. This is why your otherwise friendly dog will growl if you put your arms around his neck while he's eating. Our instincts are very OLD. Very powerful. This is why it's very, very difficult, (unless you have a really compelling reason like sex or money) to eat only ONE chip. Or ONE scoop of ice cream. These are true for ALL our instincts. Sex, social validation, and food. Food is easy to see, and easy to manage, if you are so inclined. If you are on a diet, you don't have a cupboard full of chips or a freezer full of ice cream. You don't go to McDonalds and order a salad. The best way to manage your food instinct is to KEEP AWAY from food. This is a food version of the idea of "lead us not into temptation." If you are a wife and your husband works with a bunch of super horny, super promiscuous, super hot, super extroverted secretaries, you'd worry like CRAZY. On the other hand, if you're a wife and your husband worked with a bunch of angry, man hating feminists, you wouldn't worry one bit. But there is one instinct that is equally dangerous, but in a very, very insidious way. This is like the "can't eat one chip" instinct. But it has to do with social interactions. Most guys are terrified of approaching and having a friendly conversation with attractive girls. The common advice is to just grab your nuts, walk over and say, "Hey, baby!" This is utterly HORRIBLE advice. The WORST advice ever. It is kind of HALF right. But it's like planning a bank heist without a getaway plan. Huh? If you ONLY focus on the approach, you are missing a key ingredient. A key ingredient to building MASSIVE social confidence. Not only building massive social confidence, but getting pretty much EVERY GIRL you have a conversation with DESPERATE to see you again. This is very counterintuitive. This is very long game. But this is VERY powerful. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/charming-personality/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/May06Post.mp4 Back when I was in high school, I ran cross country. And even before that, I was an avid jogger. And I used to play these tricks on myself when I was out running. One of them was when I turned up my street, and only had a hundred yards left, I would play mind games on myself. I would pretend that I was running to the end of my street. But my house was only halfway up. This would give me some mental energy to push all the way through. This was to counter a habit I'd had of slowing into the finish line. You can find this idea in plenty of areas. Pretending you are going much further than you really are. If you have a target, and you don't hit it, it sucks. But if you can "trick" yourself that your target is much higher than it really is, even if you don't hit your "fake" target, you'll hit your real target. Most people do the opposite. They don't hit their real target. So they pretend that their real target was LOWER than it was. This kind of reframing happens AFTER the fact. The other kind, with the fake target higher, is best done BEFORE the attempt. This is a very useful model to use when learning any kind conversational techniques. This does require you have a long term goal. A long term goal that is a very important, life goal. More of a "horizon" goal than the specific goal. For example, suppose you wanted to become the absolute most persuasive person on Earth. This is not something you can EVER achieve. But it is something you can keep getting CLOSER to. And the more persuasive you are, the much easier life will be. Pretty much everything you can think of REQUIRES you interact with somebody in SOME capacity. Job interviews, writing sales letters, convincing friends and family members, etc. So why not practice on the HARDEST and MOST ABUNDANT targets there are? Who? Attractive women. Most guys have this fantasy that when they see "the one" they'll rise to the occasion. The problem is, most guys have the AFTER THE FACT reframing strategy. They see a girl pop up out of nowhere. They try to talk to her, get her number, etc. They fail spectacularly. And then REFRAME that girl as NOT being the one. As only being PRACTICE. Which means they'll NEVER meet "the one." Instead, consider the opposite strategy. Of deciding, beforehand, that EVERY GIRL you ever talk to is practice. Because once you are comfortable talking to girls, EVERY OTHER persuasive conversation will be EASY by comparison. Job interviews. Convincing friends to go your way. Even girls you are INTERESTED in. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-seduction/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr26Post.mp4 Some of the best conversations I've had didn't include words. One was when I was haggling with a street vendor in Thailand. It was some kind of souvenir. A carved elephant or something. But what made the conversation so memorable was that the woman selling the items was deaf. But she was VERY animated in her haggling. We relied on a calculator to back and forth on price. She wanted a higher price, I wanted a lower price. The conversation lasted twenty minutes, and was very enjoyable. Another interesting conversation I had was in an okonomiyaki-ya in Hiroshima. Kind of like at Benihana, where different people share the same cooking space. It was a Friday night and there was a drunken Japanese businessman a few seats to my right. He'd heard me use some basic Japanese with the cook, and assumed I was fluent. So he went off on a drunken happy rant about something. I had NO idea what he was saying. But since I focused on his body language, it was pretty easy to inject the right grunts and nods in the appropriate places. Another conversation I had was in Scotland. I'd just gotten off the train at Glasgow. Was meeting my buddies in a couple days. But I had no idea where the cheap hotels were. Some old guy saw me, and offered to walk me to the street where all the flophouses were. But on the way, he started telling me a story. Only his accent was thick, I had ZERO idea what he was saying. Imagine a drunken Sean Connery with a mouthful of marbles. I just nodded and smiled and grunted in the appropriate places. Funny thing about being in foreign countries where you don't speak the language. For me, there was three distinct phases. The first is the terror phase. I'm locked out, I can't understand anybody and nobody can understand me. Next is the "breaking the ice stage," where you can kind of figure out how to get your point across, using gestures and facial expressions AND certain location elements, like signs or menu items. The third phase is the BEST part. Where you realize you DON'T NEED words. This is where REAL communication lives. Beneath the words. I've had friends in both Korea and Japan who spoke very LITTLE of the language, yet had very rewarding romantic relationships with NON English speakers. Once you get rid of your dependence on words, you'll find access to a level FAR TOO RICH for words to even describe. Not only do few people KNOW about this level of communication, but fewer still know that with some daily exercises, you can PROJECT massive amounts of strength, power, and leadership on this level. That will be subconsciously picked up by EVERYBODY. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr22Post.mp4 Once I was looking to buy something. Something that I could only find from some woman a couple of cities over. We talked on the phone, and negotiated a price. I went to her place, cash in hand, but she started to get cold feet. Even though she hadn't used it in years, she was worried that as soon as she got rid of it, she would want it, need it, and not have it. I understood her concerns. She was still the owner, and she was within her rights to change her mind. But for some reason, I decided I wasn't going to go home without the item. I didn't get angry, I didn't use any sales techniques or objection overcoming strategies. I simply removed EVERYTHING from my brain expect the imagination of a happy transaction. My face was as plain as I could make it. I listened to her explain why she was having second thoughts. But I didn't respond. Just kept looking at her, waiting for her to decide. Now, this is a memory of a thing that happened nearly twenty years ago. Which means it could be heavily influenced by hindsight bias. But I distinctively remember HOLDING that thought, while she wavered. I remember noticing this thought was MUCH DIFFERENT than a wish or a hope. It was a kind of knowing that something GOOD was about to happen. Not just for me, but for both of us. A minute or so later, she smiled, got the thing, I gave her the money and we were both happy. Long time ago I sold insurance. I went to a training by one of the top agents in the local area. This top agent was an ex-cop. Had spent plenty of time in the interrogation room with hardened criminals. Thieves, murderers, rapists, etc. By lucky accident, I was sitting very near the front. This guy had such a STRONG intention, you could feel it just looking at him. Both these events are a DESCRIPTION of having a strong frame. A frame that includes the meaning of the conversation. It was very EASY to tell exactly how and why this guy could sell so much insurance. Why does this thing called "frame" even exist? Conscious language and thought is a very recent invention. Beneath is exists MILLIONS of years of non-verbal communication. With a strong enough frame, you can convince everybody of anything. I have zero doubt that the ex-cop insurance salesman didn't need to worry ONE BIT about the words he used. That guy would only need to sit across from you at YOUR kitchen table. Describe the policy, explain the costs and benefits, and then look at you and say: "What do you think? I think this is a good idea." With a strong enough frame, you can dominate anybody and any situation. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr18Post.mp4 A very common communication anxiety is what to say. You are going into a job interview, so you practice what to say. You want to walk across the room and talk to somebody interesting, and you wonder what to say. You've got a number, and you want to call, or text, and you wonder what to say. On the other hand, some people can get away with saying pretty much anything. When we focus only on the words, we miss a LOT of what's going on. In fact, words are only the surface level of much deeper communication that is going on all the time. This is why poker players wear dark glasses and practice not showing ANY kind of facial expressions. It's also why A list actors can be so convincing when the words they are saying a VERY common. It's very possible to get the job, get the girl, get the girl to come to your place with MINIMUM words. How so? A common "truism" in self help areas is that "You'll see it when you believe it." This kind of makes sense, but it's not very helpful. Sure, if you believe you are an attractive person, you'll behave in attractive ways. And that behavior will attract positive attraction from others. But most people completely misunderstand this goofy truism. Even the goofs spouting it. They say, "If you believe it, you'll see it!" But they really only PRETEND to believe it. In reality, this "pretend believing" is more like wishing. If you know anybody who stands in front of the mirror saying a whole bunch of affirmations with strong, but fake, emotions, this is what they are doing. They are pretending very much that they believe what they are saying. Pretend beliefs won't do squat. Because pretend beliefs are the SAME as wishing. If you walk down the street PRETENDING you are attractive, you are really just wishing. This gives off very strange energy. But that statement IS true. It's that the "belief" in the statement, "if believe it, then you'll see it," MUST be genuine belief. Not pretend belief. How do you GET genuine belief? There are two ways. Nearly EVERYBODY has genuine beliefs because of the luck of their situation. Maybe they had good parents. Maybe they got lucky and had a string of positive relationships. Maybe they got lucky and had a few REALLY GOOD teachers in elementary school. Good teachers who filled their heads with positive beliefs. When their brains were still young and programmable. But for the rest of us, what do WE do? Practice, that's what. Turns out that your beliefs, and your frame that carries those beliefs are JUST LIKE muscles. The more you exercise them, the stronger they'll get. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr04Post.mp4 If you rub your fingertip along the rim of a wine goblet, you can get it to "sing." If you hold the right note, you can break that same glass. This is difficult because you have to hold the EXACT frequency that the glass naturally vibrates at. There is a bay in Canada that has a HUGE difference between high tide and low tide. What do all these things have in common? Resonance. When you rub your finger along the tip of the wine goblet, you are "calibrating" the small "micro breaks" in the smoothness until it is the SAME frequency as the glass. When you hold a note, and it resonates an untouched glass, the glass will break. What about high tide and low tide? This is the same principle as a little kid in a bathtub. Moving back and forth with the water to slosh it all over the floor. When the moon creates the tide, it's the same thing. The difference between high tide and tide is a function of the entire system. The water depth, the forces of the moon on the sea, and the physical characteristics of the bay. Resonance is a fantastic concept. Most systems have their natural "frequency." And if you "vibrate" that system at it's resonance frequency, you can get some pretty big disturbances. Sometimes things break. Things that aren't supposed to break. Once the wind happened to match the frequency of a bridge in England. The bring was swinging wildly back and forth. Little kids understand resonance perfectly fine when they swing back and forth on a swing. This is very fun. To move only a little bit, (legs swinging back and forth) but to get some BIG movements. Our emotions also have certain resonance frequencies. And when you vibrate those emotional resonance frequencies, our emotions can feel FANTASTIC. This can be done through music, movies, books, even goofy TV commercials. And just like all the other resonance ideas, this is based on SCIENCE. It is no accident that all stories have the same basic structure. It is no accident that most music has the same basic structure. Human dreams, human desires, human fears also have the same structure. Learn to pace this structure, and you can make ANYBODY feel fantastic. Even better, it is just as repeatable as a wine goblet or a swing set. How, specifically, do you do this? Learn the deep and ancient story structure that has nature has embedded into our DNA. Speak in this structure and move people places they've NEVER been to before. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr02Post.mp4 You can find chickens and eggs everywhere. Well, not actual chickens and eggs, but complicated cause-effect relationships. One of our instincts is to see causal relationships where none exist. They believe this was to help us think much more quickly in our much more dangerous past. But today, this mis-firing cause-effect thing in our brain can be pretty funny. It can also create the aforementioned chickens and eggs. We see two things happening at the same time, and we wonder which came first. The honest answer is that we humans won't like ever know. The world is way more complicated than our monkey brains can make sense of. But some things are very easy to see once we remove some false ideas. Usually these false ideas are based on false fears. Like maybe when you were a kid, and you were scared the first time you jumped into a pool from the high dive. The first few times, it may have been terrifying. Then it became pretty fun. Or maybe the first time you rode a bike, it was pretty scary. But then it became pretty easy. One of the more complex transitions that some people CAN make is first conversations between strangers. Most people are stuck in the "scared of strangers" phase. Where we see somebody new and interesting, and it's ALWAYS pretty scary to make the first move. This actually comes in FOUR levels. Not two, like diving boards and bicycles. The first level is where most people will be and stay for their entire lives. The level that says, "Other people are interesting, but I wish I was better at talking to strangers." The second level is when you realize that talking to people is pretty easy, but only AFTER you realize that the first level is based on a false idea. That we need to present ourselves to others for approval. But once you talk to enough people, you realize that EVERYBODY is pretty much desperate for other people's approval. This is when you figure out how to talk to people. How to ask people simple questions that they'll enjoy thinking about, and answering. Questions that will make them see YOU differently than everybody else. This is when you slowly slide into the third level. Where you realize that most people, after you get over the excitement of talking to strangers, are pretty BORING. Most people don't have very much in their brains. The ideas most people have in their brains about themselves and the world is pretty similar. This is when you get to the third, and fourth stage. When talking to PEOPLE in general is a hobby. Something you do simply because the PROCESS is fun. And when this happens, you'll reach the fourth level switch. When most PEOPLE are interested in YOU. Which will allow YOU to choose the best ones. For whatever reason you want. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar31Post.mp4 A few years ago, a friend of mine asked me to go with her on this weekend business thing. She said it was something she and her sister were interested. She was pretty vague, and didn't make it seem very important. So, since it was Saturday, I wore my Saturday clothes. A pair of shorts, a t-shirt and some sneakers. Everybody else there was wearing a suit. I felt a little out of place. Until I realized it was some kind of MLM scam. The energy at those kinds of places is pretty unique. Everybody has got these strong, yet fake, sense of urgency. After, my friend asked what I thought. I said, yeah, uh, no. MLM's are fantastic if you are the founder. You CAN make a ton of money. But for most other suckers, it's a waste of time. Funny thing is plenty of things have a MLM "structure." Only they aren't cons, they are regular competitions. For every ONE job, you'll get hundreds of applicants. Millions of young people go to Hollywood every year hoping to be famous. Very few do. (many end up in porn...) Tens of millions of high school kids dream of playing professional sports, but few come close to making the cut. Because this is part of life, it's accepted. That's kind of the point of being human. Of figuring out WHERE to aim your skills, so you can do the best. One thing that has made being "famous" much easier is social media. Before, if you were to become "Hollywood famous" you had to have the right look, AND you need to have the right collection of skills. But today, ALL you really need is the right look, and you're in. This is absolutely FANTASTIC. Especially for those of us who are NOT genetically blessed. Wait, what? Because more than ever, being famous requires LITTLE or ZERO skills. Only appearances. That means with just some basic social skills, you can CLEAN UP. It's definitely not a simple as taking your picture and waiting for fame. But it's actually pretty easy. Because with some little-known-about language skills, you can CREATE your own halo effect. Sure, you might not ever be famous on YouTube or Instagram. But whenever there are people around, you CAN become a rock star. Old school, inter-personal charisma. The kind that people FEEL. Not the fake kind based on looks. This means when you operate socially, people will see you. They'll feel you. They'll very much WANT to know you. Giving you a HUGE advantage. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar29Post.mp4 There are a lot of ways to leave a positive impression on somebody. Meaning you interact with them, the interaction ends, and you go your separate ways. The more you can leave a positive impression, the more they'll think about you. The more they think about you while they are away from you, the BETTER they'll tend to think about you. If you are a salesperson, and you leave a positive impression on them, as they are shopping around, they'll compare all other salespeople to YOU. The BETTER of an impression you leave, the BETTER you'll look in comparison. And the more likely they'll EAGERLY come back to you. At first, this may seem difficult. After all, it's you against all the other guys, right? But most people, including salespeople, are pretty clueless about leaving a positive impression. Leaving a positive impression PRESUPPOSES they will leave, and then come back. For most salespeople, this is TERRIFYING. But for an enlightened salesperson, this is FANTASTIC. A BEST CASE scenario. Because, as it turns out, leaving a positive impression on people is pretty easy. And, for salespeople, it's much more profitable. The MORE people come to you, and then go shop around, so long as they have a positive impression of YOU in their mind, the more they'll come back. This will not only create a nice, relaxing, enjoyable conversation with every customer who walks into your shop. But it will also create a FLOOD of customers coming BACK because all the other goofs were trying all kinds of short term "game." Even better is if you use this technique socially. Particularly if you are intending to create a romantic relationship. Or MANY romantic relationships. The same structure will happen. First conversation is EASY and relaxed. You are insanely confident BECAUSE you know that the competition doesn't stand a chance. So after they have a nice, relaxing, FIRST conversation with you, they'll talk to the "competition." And all the competition will seem WEAK compared to you. All the competition will seem DESPERATE compared to you. All the competition will seem shallow and hopeless compared to you. Which will cause a secondary FLOOD of people thinking of you. And what happens when people think about you, when they are away from you? They tend to fall in love, that's what. So, the money question. How, specifically, do you CREATE this lasting impressions? First, you STOP trying to impress them with anything that has to do with YOU. You ask them questions that will resonate in their mind. That will make them dig deep to find out the BEST THINGS about themselves. Questions they'll be thinking about for DAYS. Questions that will make YOU look better and better. Especially compared to all the desperate slobbering goofs wandering the Earth. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar27Post.mp4 Structure is everywhere. Joseph Campbell found that most myths from around the world have the same structure. One he called the "monomyth." Commonly called the "hero's journey." Same basic structure, over and over. Similarly, most popular music has the same basic chord progressions. Once you tune your mind to hear these common chord progressions, you'll see them everywhere. Structure is something that we need to choose to see. It's not something we normally see. Even if you've studied music or mythology your entire life, it's very EASY to "forget" momentarily about structure and focus on content. The melody and the words. The characters and their unique battles of good vs. evil. On the flip side, if you are a pop music writer or a Hollywood screen writer, you can essentially write the SAME THING over and over and over. Different melodies and lyrics on top of the same chord progression. Different characters and battles on top of the same hero's journey. Thought also has similar structure. This can give you huge advantage. How? Once you learn the basic structure of thought, you can talk about the same things and over. Sure, the people you are talking to will think you are talking about different things. Just like most people hear all the songs as being different. Or all the movies as having different characters and stories. But from a structural level, you will see them as being very similar. One of Joseph Campbell's books was called, "The Hero With 1000 Faces." This was because every hero is essentially the SAME CHARACTER. Dorothy, Luke Skywalker, Harry Potter, Peter Parker, Neo, all go through the same character arc. Which means if you can understand the STRUCTURE of human thought, you'll have a massive advantage. The structure of thought is the same as the structure of language. From your perspective, you are having the SAME conversations over and over. From their perspective, you are one of the most profound conversationalists they've ever met. Or the most compelling salesperson they've ever met. Or the most romantic seducer they've ever met. Or the most engaging storyteller they've ever met. This will make it very easy for you to never worry about what to say. Never worry about what to ask. And just like movies and music, once you KNOW the structure, it's easy to flip to either side. Structurally, from a building side. Content based, from an enjoyment side. See the structure beneath words, and lead every conversation, and every emotion exactly where you want them to be. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar26Post.mp4 A useful angle when selling anything is something called a "USP." Or, "unique selling proposition." This only needs to be presented as unique. Meaning even all the competition has the SAME feature, if nobody else is leveraging it, this is an option. So long as it SOUNDS unique, the customers will ASSUME that your product is the ONLY one with this feature. This is a copywriting way to leverage the "first to market" idea. You can be first to market with an actual product. Or you can be first to market with something that everybody else has, but nobody has thought to leverage. The underlying idea is EVERYTHING is a competition. If you show up at a party, and you tell a bunch of jokes that EVERYBODY has already heard, you'll be perceived a certain way. If you are the FIRST person to tell those same jokes, you'll be perceived a much DIFFERENT way. This is a tough thing to think about for most humans. Few people openly embrace the idea of competition. Most of us are happy to stay safely in the middle of the pack, and be told what to do. If you WANT an average life, that's fine. But if you want more, you've got to do more. There are PLENTY of ways to do more. Unfortunately (or rather fortunately, as we'll see in a minute) there are TONS of false beliefs that physical appearances are the MOST important thing. Think of it this way. If EVERYBODY has average thinking skill, communication skills, social skills, then EVERYBODY is going to need something else to compare people. That ends up being looks. Halo effect. This is why pretty people have it much easier than us normal looking people. But that's ONLY if everybody's got the SAME basic, non-physical skills. Now for the good part. Building up social skills is VERY EASY. Especially when you do it differently than everybody else. Most people who ATTEMPT to differentiate themselves socially use the same basic strategies. An "outside in" approach. Of TELLING people ideas about themselves. It's much, much easier the other way. Much, much more powerful the other way. Especially when you GO META. Not only are you asking, rather than telling, but you are asking things that NOBODY has ever been asked before. Meta questions about thinking skills. Meta questions about choosing skills. Meta questions about fantasizing skills. These are easier to ask, and much easier for them to answer. These are much more pleasurable for them to answer. These will get their brains spinning about fantasy futures. The BEST PART is without even trying, they'll associate those fantasy futures with you. This will make you VERY unique. In a VERY good way. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar21Post.mp4 Many guys have problems with girls. Guys would LOVE to know what to say to get certain girls to like them. To get girls to feel certain ways about them. To do certain things. Many girls have problems with guys. Girls would LOVE to know what to say to get certain guys to like them. To get guys to feel certain ways about them. Salespeople have problems with customers. They would LOVE to know what to say to get customers to buy. To buy, buy again, and refer more people to them. This is a very common human problem. We see somebody. We want that other somebody to do something, or feel something, or say something. But we have zero idea what WE can say, so they believe or feel or behave in a way that we want. Even if you want to start a conversation with somebody, knowing what to SAY is often the barrier keeping you on the sidelines. But what if you don't need to SAY anything? No, we aren't talking about using telepathy or any kind of psychic techniques. But what if getting ANYBODY to do ANYTHING wasn't about what you said, but about what kinds of questions you asked? After all, everybody is always eager to talk about themselves. This is what Dale Carnegie said DECADES ago. That everybody is always listening to their favorite radio station. WII FM or "What's In It For Me?" Dale Carnegie also famously said that the best way to be a CHARISMATIC conversationalist is to LISTEN much more than you talk. This is a good START, but that advice doesn't help much. You won't get very far by walking over to that cute girl or guy and saying: "So, tell me about yourself!" Sure, that kind of lame opener works if you are a famous talk show host, but if you are some random guy or girl, people will look at you funny. The REAL question is how, specifically, do you lead them by only asking certain questions? What specific questions do you ask, and in what order? When it comes to questions, and conversational topics, there is CONTENT and there is STRUCTURE. Nearly everybody talks or asks about CONTENT. What's your favorite band. What's your favorite cake icing. How many Watts does your microwave have. You won't get very far by asking content questions. But what about asking structure questions? Questions about HOW they think? How they choose what they like? How they LITERALLY "see themselves" doing things? Not only will this be very unique way of talking, but it will make THEM feel very, very good. Because you start asking them about the structure of their thinking, you can lead them to VERY pleasant feelings. Pleasant feelings they'll associate with you. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb28Post.mp4 If you happened to be wandering through the jungle and found an angry gorilla charging at you, what would be the best response? Those who study primates tell us that you break off eye contact, lower your gaze, perhaps look off to the side. And be as passive as you can. If the gorilla is really angry, he'll put his nose a few fractions of an inch away from yours, and give you the gorilla stare of death. (And probably some pretty nasty breath as well...) Needless to say, this is perhaps the most terrifying thing we can imagine. Even those who've ventured into the jungle for one reason or another say that when a gorilla screams at the top of his lungs, EVERYBODY shuts the hell up. It's like when the gorilla is angry, NOBODY wants to be anywhere near him. Funny thing is gorillas RARELY get physical. Their main power is INTIMIDATION. But it works. It's kind of like a very vicious energy field that automatically creates terror in everybody nearby. We can see this same trait in us humans as well. We are primates, after all. You see two guys getting ready to rumble and they'll try to give each other the gorilla stare. The best example is two boxers who are getting instructed on the rules, just before the fight starts. Nobody needs to tell them this. This is something they don't need to practice. This death stare is a very ancient instinct. This is why it is HARD to make eye contact with strangers for most people. This can work both ways. You can give powerful stares as well as receive them. When gorillas, boxers and bar brawlers give each other the death stare, there aren't many thoughts in their brain. Expect maybe half conscious thoughts of destruction. But what happens if you fill your mind with actual thoughts? Not fear based thoughts like, "Please don't kill me!" But thoughts of playful confidence. This might not be a good idea if the person you're staring at IS actually contemplating violence. But this is EXTREMELY rare. When your brain is filled with plenty of positive ideas, any negative energy in their brain will VANISH. They'll see it on your face. They'll read it in your non-verbal energy. What kind of thoughts are helpful? Curious thoughts. About what they're all about. About what they might say. About how you might turn WHATEVER they say into a playful conversation. We can imagine that inside everybody are two ancient primates. The gorilla side, that is only pure anger. And the playful monkey side, who wants to have fun. If you fill your mind with goofy thoughts and a subtle invitation to play, people will be HAPPY to join you. Especially when you have plenty of built in, playful thought structures at the ready. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb25Post.mp4 A lot of people are worried about AI robots taking over our jobs. That's partially true. If you have a job that's pretty monotonous, chances are a robot is going to be doing it. Flipping burgers, making pizzas, putting together stuff on the assembly line, even surgery. What WON'T ever be taken over by robots? Anything that requires in-the-moment human interaction. This requires something robots will never do. Look at while people while you are talking and they are talking. Read their emotions and adjust your questions and answers accordingly. Help them come to a decision. This is WAY beyond any AI computer's capabilities. Humans have been communicating LONG BEFORE we invented words and language. Just the human face alone has millions of potential facial expressions, based on all the different muscle configurations. Even the BEST body language readers ON EARTH can only really read people consciously and put them into one of two categories. The job? Secret service agents. The categories? Threat, or not a threat. Even then it's pretty difficult. Most communication is NON VERBAL. Sure, words are important. If you tried to get hired simply by smiling, you might end up in the loony bin. Or if you walked up to a cute girl and tried to mime your way into her panties, you'd end up as meme on the internet. Clearly, the highest form of human communication is a combination of words and body language. Or conscious communication and subconscious communication. Subconscious communication is like a cake. Conscious communication is like the icing. A FANTASTIC subconscious communication is much better WITHOUT icing than with the WRONG icing. The wrong icing on an otherwise fantastic cake would be like a guy with a FANTASTIC non-verbal frame. One that has EVERY LADY in the place wishing and hoping he'll approach her. But when he does, he says something goofy like: "Hey, I just want your opinion. Which do you like better, panda meat tacos or watching ladies push baby carriages off cliffs?" This would be like one of those record-scratch scenes in the movies. A fantastic cake with only a LITTLE bit of icing would be like the SAME GUY with the SAME FRAME, but instead of saying any goofy lines, he walks up and says: "Hey," while maintaining rock solid confidence and charisma. But even when dude is NOT saying anything, his brain is in a certain configuration. His brain is thinking certain thoughts. Those THOUGHTS are creating the frame. The confidence, the magnetism, and congruence. So when he DOES speak, and those words RESONATE with his frame, to her he'll be a dream come true. This is when you become unstoppable. When you have an ultra strong frame, and just enough words to maximize it. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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Social Proof Frame Strength: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-proof-frame-strength/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb17Loop.mp4
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb14Post.mp4 Science is pretty cool, but also pretty wacky. Not really, since our brains can't really handle much. At least not intuitively. We can only make sense of very simple interactions. We see A happen, and we can sort of predict that B might happen. Even Bastiat, and old school economist from a couple centuries ago noted this. He said it's not what you see that's important, it's what you don't see. He wasn't talking about ghosts or spirits. He was talking about the more complex outcomes of the things we see. We'll see A happen, and figure that would probably cause B. But what we DON'T see is that B might cause C, and C might lead to D and E, but only under certain conditions. In the realm of economics, this is what explains the "law of unintended consequences." This is because in the world of economics, pretty much EVERYTHING is connected. You change something way over here, and the effects will work it's way through the system. Eventually, sometimes a few years later, it will create outcomes that nobody could have predicted. If you are LOCKED into simple, "A causes B" thinking, you will be very limited. For example, somebody gives you some advice. You imagine doing that advice, and you can't imagine how that advice will lead DIRECTLY to a positive outcome. So you think the advice is wrong, or misguided. This is a trick. To not only protect your ego, but to keep you safely on the sidelines. You get to PRETEND that you are being smart, but not taking risks. But in reality, if anything was that easy, everybody would be doing it. Everybody could hear advice to do A, for example. And everybody would imagine how A would lead directly to B, that positive outcome. And EVERYBODY would do A to get B. And then EVERYBODY would have B. This the trouble with ONLY taking action when you have a sure thing. Since it's a sure thing, EVERYBODY can do it. So if you want to get MORE than you have right NOW, you've got to DO THINGS that others are too scared to try. Nobody ever got rich without taking risks. Nobody get got the hot guy or girl without taking risks. Nobody ever got mad skills without experiencing the opportunity costs. Luckily, you don't need to take HUGE risks. You don't need to expose yourself to HUGE opportunity costs. Just a little bit at a time. While everybody is safely staring at social media, or TV, or whatever their comfort zone allows, you can be building skills. Skills that will get you whatever you want. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/sugar-baby-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb13Post.mp4 Storytelling and hypnosis are very closely related. Therapeutic hypnosis and movies are essentially the same structure. You sit there and let another "entity" do your thinking for you. When you are in the therapist's office, he or she is talking, you've got your eyes closed, and your following along with their words. So long as their words are guiding you toward better and more resourceful emotions, you're pretty good. Similarly, when w watch a movie or even a TV show, we are letting the story do our thinking for us. Most of the time, this is just to relax our brain. But when a movie or show grabs our attention, it can move us through some very POWERFUL emotions. This is essentially what the Greeks discovered, and called Catharsis, way back in the day. A way to specifically move people through a series of specific feelings and emotions. In a way that would give them the feelings, but not of the risk. They could experience, pain, love, loss, grief, success, agony, etc., ALL without upsetting their real lives. The Hero's Journey story is essentially a well calibrated, motivational story. To give the hero enough confidence and get out there and kill the bad guys, and get the rewards. Fame, sex, admiration and respect. Most people spit words without much thought. We have half baked ideas and spit them out with randomly chosen words and phrases. But language is, or can be, EXTREMELY powerful. You can move people's emotions with your words. And once you realize this, you can move them ANYWHERE you want. To inspire, to motivate, to persuade, to seduce. And if you toss in a few well placed ambiguities, something very, very cool will happen. If you tell a story about dragons and knights, it can be pretty entertaining. But they'll remember it being about dragons and knights. But if you carefully calibrate WHERE you put in the specific vagueness, they will remember the story with THEM as the hero. Which means they'll take OWNERSHIP of the ideas in the story. This means with simple words, you can lead ANYBODY to make any decision you want. All while believing it was their idea. Not yours. They'll fall in love with you, if you want. They'll give you money, if you want. They'll wish they'd never met you, if you want. And anything else you can dream up. This hypnotic storytelling skill can be used anywhere words can be spoken. Clubs, bookstores, shopping malls, telephone calls, or anywhere else you can dream of. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/sugar-baby-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb12Post.mp4 We humans have a ton of biases. Normally, we think these are bad. But only if they keep us from getting something. For example, if you tried to make some money in the stock market, you'd have put your biases on hold. This is very, very difficult. This is why very few people can invest successfully for a long time. Even deeper, most successful investors today rely heavily on these AI type "high frequency trading machines." For us humans, it's very, very difficult. Our emotions are ALWAYS with us. So whenever we try and do something, and our biases mess us up, we think they are an example of how broken or messed up we are. But that is a very dangerous mistake. As soon as you say something like "broken," this assumes there is a "non-broken" state. And if we can somehow return to that "non-broken" state, we'll be fine. But what if we just are the way we are? One idea is that we have all our emotions and biases and thinking algorithms based on the way life USED to be way back in the day. So it's not that we are "broken," rather we're out of calibration. This must means we need to figure out how to "manage" our unconscious biases. This is essentially what Jung meant when he said: "Unless you make the unconscious conscious, it will run your life and you will call it fate." He understood that we have a bunch of programs running deep in our unconscious. If we don't understand them, we'll keep trying things, messing up and blaming fate, or the gods, or our "broken-ness," or some other excuse. Lucky for us, our biases are easy to spot in others. This is exactly how advertisers keep getting us to buy things over and over. At the same time, we LIKE buying things. Buying things feels good. In many ways, we have a lot of overlapping biases. For example, let's say you're out shopping. The salesperson is trying to sell you something. You're not sure. But they keep at it, and eventually you buy this thing. But as soon as you make the decision, it feels good. Like we have a bunch of biases that take over when we make a decision. This makes sense. If we bought something, felt cheated, and were angry by the time we got home, that would be pretty bad. It would damage our ego, and we wouldn't get ANY use out of the thing we just bought. On the other hand, once our "post purchase bias" kicks in, it's the exact opposite. We feel good about the purchase. Our ego is intact. And we get a LOT of use out of this. The good news is that you can learn to SPEAK in this "overlapping bias" language. To get pretty much anybody to do pretty much anything, and FEEL GOOD after the decision. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/sugar-baby-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb04Post.mp4 In the preface of Cialdini's book, he talked about how persuasion is really a science. Most, including people who get paid tons of money to come up with effective advertising for huge products, disagree. Most believe that advertising is an art. If you've ever watched the TV show, "Mad Men," it certainly seems like an art. Those skirt chasing, hard drinking dudes led by Don Draper didn't seem like the scientist types. Cialdini's reasons were simple. The things that influence happen outside of our conscious awareness. And we always come up with a post event, rational sounding reason why we THINK we did what we did. Neurologists tell us one of the main functions of the brain is an "after the fact" storytelling device. This makes a lot of sense, from a big picture point of view. The line is extremely blurry between primitive primates and humans. Our self-awareness and language evolved ON TOP OF the previous existing chimp brain. Our ancient instincts are still very much in control. We don't like that idea. We like the idea that WE, the part of us that is watching and choosing is doing the thinking and the choosing. But according to those who study the brain, this isn't the way it is. Which makes perfect sense considering Cialdini's "persuasion is science." The way we "don't" persuade is as follows. Something influences us. Those things that influence us happen OUTSIDE of our conscious awareness. We then MAKE UP a logical sounding reason why we did what we just did. We BELIEVE that reason. So we USE that reason to try and get somebody else to do what we just did. But since that's NOT the real reason, it rarely works. Our ego doesn't like to believe that we suck at anything. So it makes up ANOTHER story. One that says persuasion is an art. A completely mysterious process that few understand. But Cialdini wasn't just some goof with a bunch of random ideas. He did some serious field testing. And again and again, he proved that persuasion IS a science. Understand the science, and you'll never wonder why people do things again. This is hard to do. You'll have to get rid of the idea that your ego is the center of everything. That's likely the hardest part. We WANT to take credit. Our ego is like a little kid who is ALWAYS screaming for attention. Hey! Everybody! Look at me! Look what I can do! But if you CAN manage to turn off your ego? And you take the time to learn the SCIENCE of persuasion? You'll easily turn into a mad scientist. And the entire world will become your laboratory. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb02Post.mp4 I used to know this guy who lived in Japan. He used to be a magician. And he did still did magic as a hobby. Bar tricks, a few shows here and there. Loved to be the center of attention. Absolutely fearless. Would walk to the center of a crowd, start talking, and doing tricks. But he had an interesting business. He started out as a consultant, visiting businesses and helping them land clients. Eventually he started his own business training other consultants. One description of a consultant I heard, from another consultant, is they look at your watch and tell you what time it is. It's kind of surprising, but plenty of high level, high earning people have the same needs as us normal folk. They just need to be told what they are doing is OK. That their ideas and plans are OK. And plenty of people are willing to pay plenty of money to be told what they want to hear. This is one of the secrets of marketing. To tell people what they want to hear. We all have the same fears and desires. But most of us are too busy complaining about those fears and desires to notice that everybody else is saying the same thing. Joseph Campbell wrote a book called, "The Hero With 1000 Faces." The first of many books about the Hero's Journey. We all love that same Hero's Journey because it reflects our own fears and inhibitions. For example, most hero's don't leave their comfort zone voluntarily. They need to be forced out. Even modern hero's are more or less forced onto the journey. Why is this? We all feel the call, but most of us are too terrified to take a step outside of our comfort zone. We LOVE the idea of a mentor coming and FORCING us out. If you can combine these two basic ideas, you can make quite an impact. How's that? First, by understanding people's fears and concerns. Second, but putting them in a hero's journey format. Of course, simply because it's called the "Hero's Journey" doesn't need it has a be a three hour epic. That same, three-part structure can be delivered through a quick metaphor, a short anecdote, or even the recalling of something that happened to you earlier that day. When you combine these two structures, you'll find opportunities for them everywhere. It's kind of like rubbing your finger over the rim of a wine glass. With the right frequency, you can make them sing. Speak to people with the right frequency, and they'll never forget you. Use this however you like. But if you like to write, or like the idea of writing, your words will resonate with them on deep and profound levels. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion./hypnotic-copywriting/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan28Post.mp4 One way to think about our conscious awareness is as a "new instinct" generator. Whenever we learn something to the point of unconscious competence, it's essentially a new instinct. Imagine you were relaxing at home, watching TV with half eaten pizza on the coffee table in front of you. And imagine a mouse ran across the pizza. You'd jump and suddenly wake up. This reaction is a programmed instinct. Or imagine you were walking down the street, your mind on auto pilot. Then suddenly you looked up and a super GORGEOUS person was smiling at you as if the wanted to bang you silly. You would have a reaction. An instinctive reaction. But we can also practice skills until they become JUST as automatic. Generally speaking, programmed instincts are drivers and responders. Drivers to make us sleepy or hungry. Responders that wake us up in case of danger or opportunities, mostly for food or sex. But new instincts, or skills programmed to the point of unconscious competence can respond to our desires. Like if you learned an instrument to the point of unconscious competence, this would be an "instinct" that you have full control over. A mouse running across your pizza, or a super sexy person essentially grabs your attention without your consent. But learned instincts are different. They are under our complete control. What is likely the BEST new instinct to create is one few think of as a skill. Which means if YOU practice this, you will have a huge advantage. Language is something we do INSTINCTIVELY. We learn it unconsciously. Nobody remembers learning how to speak. And for most people, spitting out whatever words pop into their mind is good enough. But if you practice language, it can become as deadly as martial arts. Or it's opposite, the powers of unconscious persuasion and seduction. This is combining a programmed instinct with a new, consciously chosen set of skills. Very much like martial arts. If you don't spend any time training, and somebody attacks you, you'll respond automatically. And you'll look like those politicians who get into fights. Very clumsy, very off balance and VERY silly. This is most of us speak. But if you train your language, you'll have much more choice how to respond. Or how to speak proactively to CREATE the result you want. Persuasion, seduction, humor, anything. For most people, language is back and forth and NOT something we feel any control over. But when you practice language, it will be like seeing an ENTIRE world of opportunity. Not just in speaking, but in writing. You train in writing, and it will automatically train your speaking. Most people have a vague idea, spit out a bunch of poorly chosen words, and hope for the best. After you train in new language instincts, you'll never need to hope again. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan26Post.mp4 The student loan debt crisis is a perfect storm. The idea of going to college is very, very compelling. To be "taught" how to do something. And get a degree, and then use that degree as your ticket to success. At least, that's the theory. It seems like a fantastic idea. Especially when student loans are so easy go get. It even makes sense on a financial level. Borrow some money, get an education, get a decent job, pay back the loan, and get on with your life. Only for a lot of people, it's not working out so well. In fact, many people are finding it's like living in a horror movie. Tons of debt, no hope of ever paying it off. These are the kinds of things that keep you awake at night. Everybody needs money. And so long as you make it honestly, more money is better than less money. This is essentially the American Dream. The dream that many people think is dead. This isn't really an American dream, this is the HUMAN dream. It has been since the dawn of time. The idea of finding SOME way to make some money. The more money you make, the less you need to worry about the petty stuff. It's not that money creates happiness. But with enough money to pay the bills and not have to worry too much, you can CREATE the space in which to PURSUE happiness. The happiness that comes from relationships, increasing skills, and following your bliss. That is still possible. It won't happen magically, but if you can think outside the box a bit, you still can create a decent future. How so? A lot of people are worried that robots are going to take all our jobs. Sure, they'll take some. But not the ones that require PEOPLE skills. Human skills. Skills like communication and persuasion. Consider the following scenario. You learn some basic writing skills. You learn some basic persuasion skills. You keep honing your skills. So long as you keep getting better, you'll keep increasing your earning potential. You have many advantages. One is the rapidly shrinking ability of most folks to delay gratification. If you keep practicing, you'll keep getting better. Consider a contest. Between YOU and somebody who borrows $50K to get a four year degree in any NON-science or math related degree. If four years, what do they have? A lot of debt, and if they're lucky, a job at Starbucks. What would YOU have? Four years is a long time. But with only an hour a day of practice, your brain and your laptop, you'd EASILY have six figure skills. Likely a lot more and likely a lot sooner. Especially if you Start Now: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
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Culinary Trainwreck: https://mindpersuasion.com/culinary-trainwreck/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan04Loop.mp4
