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Social Proof Frame Strength: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-proof-frame-strength/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb17Loop.mp4
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb14Post.mp4 Science is pretty cool, but also pretty wacky. Not really, since our brains can't really handle much. At least not intuitively. We can only make sense of very simple interactions. We see A happen, and we can sort of predict that B might happen. Even Bastiat, and old school economist from a couple centuries ago noted this. He said it's not what you see that's important, it's what you don't see. He wasn't talking about ghosts or spirits. He was talking about the more complex outcomes of the things we see. We'll see A happen, and figure that would probably cause B. But what we DON'T see is that B might cause C, and C might lead to D and E, but only under certain conditions. In the realm of economics, this is what explains the "law of unintended consequences." This is because in the world of economics, pretty much EVERYTHING is connected. You change something way over here, and the effects will work it's way through the system. Eventually, sometimes a few years later, it will create outcomes that nobody could have predicted. If you are LOCKED into simple, "A causes B" thinking, you will be very limited. For example, somebody gives you some advice. You imagine doing that advice, and you can't imagine how that advice will lead DIRECTLY to a positive outcome. So you think the advice is wrong, or misguided. This is a trick. To not only protect your ego, but to keep you safely on the sidelines. You get to PRETEND that you are being smart, but not taking risks. But in reality, if anything was that easy, everybody would be doing it. Everybody could hear advice to do A, for example. And everybody would imagine how A would lead directly to B, that positive outcome. And EVERYBODY would do A to get B. And then EVERYBODY would have B. This the trouble with ONLY taking action when you have a sure thing. Since it's a sure thing, EVERYBODY can do it. So if you want to get MORE than you have right NOW, you've got to DO THINGS that others are too scared to try. Nobody ever got rich without taking risks. Nobody get got the hot guy or girl without taking risks. Nobody ever got mad skills without experiencing the opportunity costs. Luckily, you don't need to take HUGE risks. You don't need to expose yourself to HUGE opportunity costs. Just a little bit at a time. While everybody is safely staring at social media, or TV, or whatever their comfort zone allows, you can be building skills. Skills that will get you whatever you want. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/sugar-baby-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb13Post.mp4 Storytelling and hypnosis are very closely related. Therapeutic hypnosis and movies are essentially the same structure. You sit there and let another "entity" do your thinking for you. When you are in the therapist's office, he or she is talking, you've got your eyes closed, and your following along with their words. So long as their words are guiding you toward better and more resourceful emotions, you're pretty good. Similarly, when w watch a movie or even a TV show, we are letting the story do our thinking for us. Most of the time, this is just to relax our brain. But when a movie or show grabs our attention, it can move us through some very POWERFUL emotions. This is essentially what the Greeks discovered, and called Catharsis, way back in the day. A way to specifically move people through a series of specific feelings and emotions. In a way that would give them the feelings, but not of the risk. They could experience, pain, love, loss, grief, success, agony, etc., ALL without upsetting their real lives. The Hero's Journey story is essentially a well calibrated, motivational story. To give the hero enough confidence and get out there and kill the bad guys, and get the rewards. Fame, sex, admiration and respect. Most people spit words without much thought. We have half baked ideas and spit them out with randomly chosen words and phrases. But language is, or can be, EXTREMELY powerful. You can move people's emotions with your words. And once you realize this, you can move them ANYWHERE you want. To inspire, to motivate, to persuade, to seduce. And if you toss in a few well placed ambiguities, something very, very cool will happen. If you tell a story about dragons and knights, it can be pretty entertaining. But they'll remember it being about dragons and knights. But if you carefully calibrate WHERE you put in the specific vagueness, they will remember the story with THEM as the hero. Which means they'll take OWNERSHIP of the ideas in the story. This means with simple words, you can lead ANYBODY to make any decision you want. All while believing it was their idea. Not yours. They'll fall in love with you, if you want. They'll give you money, if you want. They'll wish they'd never met you, if you want. And anything else you can dream up. This hypnotic storytelling skill can be used anywhere words can be spoken. Clubs, bookstores, shopping malls, telephone calls, or anywhere else you can dream of. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/sugar-baby-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb12Post.mp4 We humans have a ton of biases. Normally, we think these are bad. But only if they keep us from getting something. For example, if you tried to make some money in the stock market, you'd have put your biases on hold. This is very, very difficult. This is why very few people can invest successfully for a long time. Even deeper, most successful investors today rely heavily on these AI type "high frequency trading machines." For us humans, it's very, very difficult. Our emotions are ALWAYS with us. So whenever we try and do something, and our biases mess us up, we think they are an example of how broken or messed up we are. But that is a very dangerous mistake. As soon as you say something like "broken," this assumes there is a "non-broken" state. And if we can somehow return to that "non-broken" state, we'll be fine. But what if we just are the way we are? One idea is that we have all our emotions and biases and thinking algorithms based on the way life USED to be way back in the day. So it's not that we are "broken," rather we're out of calibration. This must means we need to figure out how to "manage" our unconscious biases. This is essentially what Jung meant when he said: "Unless you make the unconscious conscious, it will run your life and you will call it fate." He understood that we have a bunch of programs running deep in our unconscious. If we don't understand them, we'll keep trying things, messing up and blaming fate, or the gods, or our "broken-ness," or some other excuse. Lucky for us, our biases are easy to spot in others. This is exactly how advertisers keep getting us to buy things over and over. At the same time, we LIKE buying things. Buying things feels good. In many ways, we have a lot of overlapping biases. For example, let's say you're out shopping. The salesperson is trying to sell you something. You're not sure. But they keep at it, and eventually you buy this thing. But as soon as you make the decision, it feels good. Like we have a bunch of biases that take over when we make a decision. This makes sense. If we bought something, felt cheated, and were angry by the time we got home, that would be pretty bad. It would damage our ego, and we wouldn't get ANY use out of the thing we just bought. On the other hand, once our "post purchase bias" kicks in, it's the exact opposite. We feel good about the purchase. Our ego is intact. And we get a LOT of use out of this. The good news is that you can learn to SPEAK in this "overlapping bias" language. To get pretty much anybody to do pretty much anything, and FEEL GOOD after the decision. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/sugar-baby-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb04Post.mp4 In the preface of Cialdini's book, he talked about how persuasion is really a science. Most, including people who get paid tons of money to come up with effective advertising for huge products, disagree. Most believe that advertising is an art. If you've ever watched the TV show, "Mad Men," it certainly seems like an art. Those skirt chasing, hard drinking dudes led by Don Draper didn't seem like the scientist types. Cialdini's reasons were simple. The things that influence happen outside of our conscious awareness. And we always come up with a post event, rational sounding reason why we THINK we did what we did. Neurologists tell us one of the main functions of the brain is an "after the fact" storytelling device. This makes a lot of sense, from a big picture point of view. The line is extremely blurry between primitive primates and humans. Our self-awareness and language evolved ON TOP OF the previous existing chimp brain. Our ancient instincts are still very much in control. We don't like that idea. We like the idea that WE, the part of us that is watching and choosing is doing the thinking and the choosing. But according to those who study the brain, this isn't the way it is. Which makes perfect sense considering Cialdini's "persuasion is science." The way we "don't" persuade is as follows. Something influences us. Those things that influence us happen OUTSIDE of our conscious awareness. We then MAKE UP a logical sounding reason why we did what we just did. We BELIEVE that reason. So we USE that reason to try and get somebody else to do what we just did. But since that's NOT the real reason, it rarely works. Our ego doesn't like to believe that we suck at anything. So it makes up ANOTHER story. One that says persuasion is an art. A completely mysterious process that few understand. But Cialdini wasn't just some goof with a bunch of random ideas. He did some serious field testing. And again and again, he proved that persuasion IS a science. Understand the science, and you'll never wonder why people do things again. This is hard to do. You'll have to get rid of the idea that your ego is the center of everything. That's likely the hardest part. We WANT to take credit. Our ego is like a little kid who is ALWAYS screaming for attention. Hey! Everybody! Look at me! Look what I can do! But if you CAN manage to turn off your ego? And you take the time to learn the SCIENCE of persuasion? You'll easily turn into a mad scientist. And the entire world will become your laboratory. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb02Post.mp4 I used to know this guy who lived in Japan. He used to be a magician. And he did still did magic as a hobby. Bar tricks, a few shows here and there. Loved to be the center of attention. Absolutely fearless. Would walk to the center of a crowd, start talking, and doing tricks. But he had an interesting business. He started out as a consultant, visiting businesses and helping them land clients. Eventually he started his own business training other consultants. One description of a consultant I heard, from another consultant, is they look at your watch and tell you what time it is. It's kind of surprising, but plenty of high level, high earning people have the same needs as us normal folk. They just need to be told what they are doing is OK. That their ideas and plans are OK. And plenty of people are willing to pay plenty of money to be told what they want to hear. This is one of the secrets of marketing. To tell people what they want to hear. We all have the same fears and desires. But most of us are too busy complaining about those fears and desires to notice that everybody else is saying the same thing. Joseph Campbell wrote a book called, "The Hero With 1000 Faces." The first of many books about the Hero's Journey. We all love that same Hero's Journey because it reflects our own fears and inhibitions. For example, most hero's don't leave their comfort zone voluntarily. They need to be forced out. Even modern hero's are more or less forced onto the journey. Why is this? We all feel the call, but most of us are too terrified to take a step outside of our comfort zone. We LOVE the idea of a mentor coming and FORCING us out. If you can combine these two basic ideas, you can make quite an impact. How's that? First, by understanding people's fears and concerns. Second, but putting them in a hero's journey format. Of course, simply because it's called the "Hero's Journey" doesn't need it has a be a three hour epic. That same, three-part structure can be delivered through a quick metaphor, a short anecdote, or even the recalling of something that happened to you earlier that day. When you combine these two structures, you'll find opportunities for them everywhere. It's kind of like rubbing your finger over the rim of a wine glass. With the right frequency, you can make them sing. Speak to people with the right frequency, and they'll never forget you. Use this however you like. But if you like to write, or like the idea of writing, your words will resonate with them on deep and profound levels. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion./hypnotic-copywriting/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan28Post.mp4 One way to think about our conscious awareness is as a "new instinct" generator. Whenever we learn something to the point of unconscious competence, it's essentially a new instinct. Imagine you were relaxing at home, watching TV with half eaten pizza on the coffee table in front of you. And imagine a mouse ran across the pizza. You'd jump and suddenly wake up. This reaction is a programmed instinct. Or imagine you were walking down the street, your mind on auto pilot. Then suddenly you looked up and a super GORGEOUS person was smiling at you as if the wanted to bang you silly. You would have a reaction. An instinctive reaction. But we can also practice skills until they become JUST as automatic. Generally speaking, programmed instincts are drivers and responders. Drivers to make us sleepy or hungry. Responders that wake us up in case of danger or opportunities, mostly for food or sex. But new instincts, or skills programmed to the point of unconscious competence can respond to our desires. Like if you learned an instrument to the point of unconscious competence, this would be an "instinct" that you have full control over. A mouse running across your pizza, or a super sexy person essentially grabs your attention without your consent. But learned instincts are different. They are under our complete control. What is likely the BEST new instinct to create is one few think of as a skill. Which means if YOU practice this, you will have a huge advantage. Language is something we do INSTINCTIVELY. We learn it unconsciously. Nobody remembers learning how to speak. And for most people, spitting out whatever words pop into their mind is good enough. But if you practice language, it can become as deadly as martial arts. Or it's opposite, the powers of unconscious persuasion and seduction. This is combining a programmed instinct with a new, consciously chosen set of skills. Very much like martial arts. If you don't spend any time training, and somebody attacks you, you'll respond automatically. And you'll look like those politicians who get into fights. Very clumsy, very off balance and VERY silly. This is most of us speak. But if you train your language, you'll have much more choice how to respond. Or how to speak proactively to CREATE the result you want. Persuasion, seduction, humor, anything. For most people, language is back and forth and NOT something we feel any control over. But when you practice language, it will be like seeing an ENTIRE world of opportunity. Not just in speaking, but in writing. You train in writing, and it will automatically train your speaking. Most people have a vague idea, spit out a bunch of poorly chosen words, and hope for the best. After you train in new language instincts, you'll never need to hope again. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan26Post.mp4 The student loan debt crisis is a perfect storm. The idea of going to college is very, very compelling. To be "taught" how to do something. And get a degree, and then use that degree as your ticket to success. At least, that's the theory. It seems like a fantastic idea. Especially when student loans are so easy go get. It even makes sense on a financial level. Borrow some money, get an education, get a decent job, pay back the loan, and get on with your life. Only for a lot of people, it's not working out so well. In fact, many people are finding it's like living in a horror movie. Tons of debt, no hope of ever paying it off. These are the kinds of things that keep you awake at night. Everybody needs money. And so long as you make it honestly, more money is better than less money. This is essentially the American Dream. The dream that many people think is dead. This isn't really an American dream, this is the HUMAN dream. It has been since the dawn of time. The idea of finding SOME way to make some money. The more money you make, the less you need to worry about the petty stuff. It's not that money creates happiness. But with enough money to pay the bills and not have to worry too much, you can CREATE the space in which to PURSUE happiness. The happiness that comes from relationships, increasing skills, and following your bliss. That is still possible. It won't happen magically, but if you can think outside the box a bit, you still can create a decent future. How so? A lot of people are worried that robots are going to take all our jobs. Sure, they'll take some. But not the ones that require PEOPLE skills. Human skills. Skills like communication and persuasion. Consider the following scenario. You learn some basic writing skills. You learn some basic persuasion skills. You keep honing your skills. So long as you keep getting better, you'll keep increasing your earning potential. You have many advantages. One is the rapidly shrinking ability of most folks to delay gratification. If you keep practicing, you'll keep getting better. Consider a contest. Between YOU and somebody who borrows $50K to get a four year degree in any NON-science or math related degree. If four years, what do they have? A lot of debt, and if they're lucky, a job at Starbucks. What would YOU have? Four years is a long time. But with only an hour a day of practice, your brain and your laptop, you'd EASILY have six figure skills. Likely a lot more and likely a lot sooner. Especially if you Start Now: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
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Culinary Trainwreck: https://mindpersuasion.com/culinary-trainwreck/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan04Loop.mp4
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Desire Overtone Analysis: https://mindpersuasion.com/desire-overtone-analysis/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/desire-overtone-analysis https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec15Loop.mp4
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov04Post.mp4 One theory from evolutionary psychology is called mismatch theory. It's all about how our instincts were calibrated, way back in the day. And how they are being mis fed today. Hunger is easiest one to understand. Our mind body system was calibrated in an environment where we were always hungry. The food we could get was scarce. Both the amount and the type. Mostly meat, fat, a few fruits here and there, and whatever else we could find naturally growing. This never ending hunger motivated us to always be on the lookout for something to eat. As soon as we found something to eat, THAT became our number one priority. When you are REALLY hungry, and you start eating something, it's very hard to maintain conscious control. We have tons of instincts. These instincts helped us stay alive back when life was really dangerous. The stuff we did that KEPT us alive felt really good. Stuff that was dangerous felt really bad. Being hungry, loud noises, and negative social approval. All of these were signals that something was wrong. That something needed to be fixed. If you were to study martial arts, you could do so for many reasons. Health, confidence, even spiritual reasons. But if you ONLY wanted to know how to defend against an attacker, it wouldn't take as long. Carry some pepper spray. Practice pulling it out and spraying it in their eyes. Or practice ramming your keys in somebody's eyes. Or practice kicking somebody in the nuts, or punching them in the throat. None of these are elegant. They are only meant to disable the bad guy so you can run away. In order to do this, you need to know the soft spots. The eyes, the throat, the groin. The strategy is pretty simple. Hit them in the soft spots and run. Funny thing is even practicing these very basic defensive skills gives you plenty of confidence. It turns out we have a lot of emotional soft spots as well. Related to our very ancient social instincts. That ones that make us feel terrible when we are misbehaving socially. There are plenty of linguistic defensive skills to hit your enemies in those emotional soft spots. And just like practicing physical defense, practice linguistic defense will give plenty of confidence. Even better is when you do these mentally. While staring at your enemy. It will them a very creepy feeling. One that says it's a very BAD idea to mess with you. Ever. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
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Mind Control Pheromones: https://mindpersuasion.com/mind-control-pheromones/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov04Loop.mp4
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov01Post.mp4 I was watching this discussion the other day. A couple of guys on TV were talking about the problems most people have. One guy was saying it's because we don't get enough sleep. Another guy was saying it's because we eat crap food. Another guy said it was because everybody's broke. It reminded me of a video series I was watching on differential equations. A simple example is the predator prey problem. You've got grass, which is dependent on the rain. You've got rabbits, which eat the grass. And you've got foxes, which eat the rabbits. A change in rain will change the grass, which will change the rabbits, which will change the foxes. Three of the four variables (foxes, rabbits, grass) are interdependent. Change one, and you change other three. But they are also dependent on the rain, which is a function of weather. Something that super genius humans with super powerful computers have trouble predicting. This problem, a system of three or more interdependent variables, is what led to the idea of chaos theory. Of knowing the rules, but at the same time being utterly incapable of using those same rules to predict the future. They use huge computers to simulate things like the predator-prey problem. They set the initial conditions, and predict what the system will be like in a year or so. Then they go back and change those same initial conditions, but by making as tiny changes as they can. And the result, a year out, is WAY different than the first time. This is why they can't predict the weather with very much accuracy more than a few days out. Large trends, sure. But when and where it will rain, the exact temperature? Not a chance. Now imagine how many variables there are in a large human society. Kajillions. Many of them interdependent. Many of them based on human intentions. Human intentions which change every second. You're walking down the street, in a good mood. You smile at a sexy person, and they smile back. Now you're in a fantastic mood. But what if you smile at that same pretty person, and they flip you the bird? Or spit at you? Now your mood is ruined. One interaction, out of the hundreds of interactions you have per day. Talk about chaos theory! Trying to predict what other people will do is hopeless. Even worse if your happiness is dependent on other people. All you can do is improve how you INTERACT with others. You can't change what they will do. But you most certainly can change how you can RESPOND to them. Not just a little. But a lot. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct28Post.mp4 Everything comes with costs. This is the unavoidable facet of economics. It's one reason why economics is called the dismal science. Everybody loves the idea of free stuff. Politicians love to promise free stuff. People love to believe we are entitled to free stuff. PT Barnum famously said there is a sucker born every minute. And that we are suckers because we are willing to believe something that is too good to be true. This is always in the form of getting something that we don't have to pay for. Not pay for with money, but pay for with time, risk and importantly, something called opportunity costs. For example, many would LOVE to play guitar like a champ. Bring it to parties, start strumming some beautiful chords. Make up a melody off the top of your head. Impress all the ladies. But GETTING to that level would take a lot of practice. Practice is pretty boring. And while you are practicing, there are tons of things you CAN'T do. Like play video games. Watch TV. Hang out down at the pub. All these things you CAN'T do are the opportunity costs. So economics is DISMAL because it FORCES us to confront ALL the costs. Now, some people are lucky and stumble into success. For them, the opportunity costs are minimal. Because they LOVE to practice more than anything else. But for us normal humans, costs are everywhere. Even in things normally perceived as PURE benefits. For example, take spoken language. This is one thing that we have that all animals don't have. Associated with spoken language is all the thoughts it is connected to. This is a fantastic invention. We are much better off WITH this than without it. But it does come with some costs. What are the costs? By focusing on spoken language, and conscious thoughts, we IGNORE all the stuff going on beneath the surface. We talk to each other using words. Those words create conscious thoughts. But beneath the surface, there is STILL a ton of stuff going on. Stuff related to intuition, subconscious energy, and a TON of non-verbal communication. If you ONLY focus on the surface, you are missing a lot. Luckily, there are some SIMPLE exercises you can do. To SLOWLY recalibrate your non-verbal energy. Both how you project it, and how you read it. Making you much more powerful of a communicator. Than pretty much everybody else you will ever meet. The best part? The best part is two fold. One, is that few people will ever know about this. Two is that the more you do these simple exercises, the stronger you'll get. And the more of an advantage you'll have. Get Started: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct25Post.mp4 A long, long time ago, I took a class in differential equations. We had learned a very simple, and very elegant way to solve equations. Except I couldn't quite wrap my mind around it. I had to rely on old school techniques. More like brute force techniques. After one test, the professor wrote a note on my test. I had gotten a decent score, so he couldn't quite criticize me. But I got the feeling he was messing with me nonetheless. One of those things that seems like a compliment but is really a covert insult. The whole purpose of the test was to demonstrate this new, elegant, problem solving technique. I didn't do that. I used old school, brute force methods. He wrote something to the effect that I was a good "soldier." That I was busily in the trenches using some very powerful "hand to hand combat" techniques. Since this was the LAST math class I would ever have to take, and the semester was nearly over, I just let it slide. But this type of thing happens quite a lot. We hang on to old school, hand to hand combat techniques. When there is much subtler, much more powerful techniques. The other night I watched this documentary on business scams. They hire pretty much anybody. And put them out on the street selling junk. The offer very little training. From a corporate standpoint, this is a pretty good model. Spend a little bit of money making crap products. Hire anybody with a pulse to sell them. Pay them ONLY commissions. The company only needs to collect whatever profits they make. They don't really care if 80% of their "salespeople" wash out. These companies are like those fish that eat half their babies. If you are too slow, you don't deserve to live. From an individual's standpoint, you CAN make money. But you need TONS of hustle. TONS of energy. TONS of "fake" charisma. All very old school, hand to hand combat, brute force techniques. Any time you have to consciously CREATE a bunch of charisma and motivation and energy, it's not very efficient. It's hard to maintain, and it never lasts. Luckily, there is a much more elegant way. One that makes any kind of EXTERNAL game much more natural. Much more efficient. Much more effective. It requires you do some simple daily exercises. Safely in your home. Safely in your brain. The more you do these exercises, the LESS you'll need to worry about any kind of outer game. You'll just need to show up. And let your inner game do all the work. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct21Post.mp4 When I was a kid me and my buddies liked to play Jedi. I was in elementary school when the very first Star Wars came out. I saw a TV show where they showed how they made the sound for the blasters. They would hit telephone cables with a wrench. Those really thick metal cables that connect the poles to the ground. If you hit them with a wrench, the vibration sounds will make the original Star Wars blaster sound. As soon as me and my buddies saw that, we'd take a wrench out of our garages, ride bikes all over town to find and hit those cables. Another way was with those doors at the supermarket that open automatically. Perfect for pretending to be a Jedi as a kid. We never could really figure out how to levitate stuff. But even better than levitating things was doing the Jedi mind trick. Telling somebody what to do, waving your hand, and them mindlessly doing it. This is a VERY sought skill. It's one reason why so many people LOVE the idea of hypnosis. Especially conversational hypnosis. The idea of getting people to do whatever you want without resistance is pretty powerful. This is actually why conversational hypnosis was invented in the first place. Before conversational hypnosis, there was old school, direct hypnosis. Watch this watch while I count down from ten. You are getting sleepier and sleepier. Your eyelids are getting heavier and heavier. This works pretty good in the movies. But it turns out that when people go to get hypnotized for real, it's not so easy. Not a lot of people are willing to let some stranger monkey around in their brain while they're knocked out. It takes a while to get comfortable enough. This is why Milton Erickson created covert hypnosis. He wanted to knock them out much quicker. So he invented the storytelling type of hypnosis. Purposely confusing stories. These kind of went in the opposite direction. People were expected to be told to relax, close their eyes, etc. Instead, Dr. Erickson would start telling these stories. But they were purposely complex and vague. So much that their conscious minds pretty much said: Forget it. I give up. I'm outta here. Another way to get around the getting-comfortable-with-the-hypnotist problem was the idea of fractionation. Of putting somebody into and out of hypnosis several times on one session. Turns out you can find fractionation in many, many places. And it's pretty easy to use on many, many people. That's just one of the ways you can apply this deep persuasion technique. Learn More: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct20Post.mp4 What makes a classic movie? Nobody really knows. It's one of those things we all know when we see it. But if anybody could make on purposely, they would. Even decent movies vs. crappy movies. We all agree, more or less, which movies are really good, and which ones are really crappy. Sure, we disagree on the so-so movies. But classic movies like, "The Godfather," or "Citizen Kane," are pretty unanimous. Few people would watch "The Godfather," and say: "Yeah, that movie sucked." Nobody would ever watch "Howard The Duck," and think that they'd just seen the next classic of the ages. But the weird thing is that while we can all agree that movies like "The Godfather," are awesome, and movies like "Howard The Duck," pretty much suck, nobody can CREATE something that is awesome. For every Godfather, there are tons of movies that suck. But while they were making those movies, they all thought they were going to be awesome. Nobody makes a crappy movie on purpose. Even Al Pacino, when he was making The Godfather, thought HE sucked. He admitted that while they were filming the movie, he kept having self doubts. He thought people would see him, think he sucked as an actor, and that would be that. All this is due to the simple idea that things we value, we value SUBJECTIVELY. If somebody told you to make a cube made out of a certain mix of metal, and had a certain density and set of measurements, it would be easy. You wouldn't create it, measure all the dimensions, and hand it off to your boss thinking, "Gee I hope his scale measures weight the same way my scale does!" That would be silly! We all like good things. But it's equally hard to CREATE good things. One common idea in marketing is "you are not your market." If you absolutely LOVE peanut butter sandwiches, and can't live without them, that doesn't mean you'd be successful opening up a peanut butter sandwich restaurant. One common reason most businesses fail is they are too attached to THEIR OWN idea of success. To the extent you can be absolutely OBEDIENT to the demands of the market, you'll be successful. This is also why we all have a deep fear of expressing what WE subjectively like and want. We KNOW everybody is else might have a different opinion. We a movie, we think it's awesome, and can't wait to tell everybody. But then we read some online reviews and find out that everybody else on the planet think it absolutely sucked. So we tend to keep our opinions to ourselves. This means that everybody is FILLED with opinions, desires and fantasies that they are DYING to share. If you help them express them, expand them and validate them, they'll do ANYTHING for you. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct19Post.mp4 Many things can be seen from two completely different perspectives. Once I was with a bunch of friends. We'd just sat down in a restaurant, and were looking over at the menu. My friend noticed that his water glass was different than all the rest. Same size, but a slightly different shape. He immediately took this to mean that something was wrong with him. Of course, he was only being about 5% serious. But this is a common response whenever we are singled out for any reason. Another friend was quick with the helpful reframe. "That doesn't mean you are worse than everybody, that means you are better than everybody!" Both can be equally correct. We can be singled out because there is something wrong with us. Or we can be singled out because we are special in some way. Our brains are quick with these kinds of reframes. We can turn bugs into features, and features into bugs. Usually very quickly and subconsciously. This may indeed be a deep human instinct. A necessary human instinct. Way back in the day, in order to get our daily calories, we had to put in a lot of effort. And a lot of that effort was of the trial and error kind. Of chasing an animal, or several animals, a long time before we caught and killed it. Or shaking a bunch of trees before we got enough bananas to eat. We are pretty good with doing this with ourselves. Turning failures into positives. We kind of suck at doing this with others. Especially when it comes to people who are naturally gifted. Nowadays, there's a lot of ideas associated with some kind of "privilege." That some people, by their lucky virtue of genetics, have it easy. And the rest of us normal goofs have to work harder. But this is also something you can easily reframe. People that are exceptionally attractive, for example, DO have it easy. Studies have shown this. But only in some situations. The situations that call for deep intellect, long game planning, effective conversational and social skills, these are not associated with super gorgeous people. Because super gorgeous folks rarely feel any need to develop any of those deep traits. Super gorgeous people just show up, and by virtue of their gorgeousness, they can get their feet into doors most of us can't. But that's all they can do. Get their foot into a door, stand on the other side of that door, and look pretty. But with some very targeted conversational skills, you can make yourself much more attractive, from a subconscious energy standpoint, than the most gorgeous person on Earth. You can BUILD your own halo effect as big as you want. With whomever you want. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct15Post.mp4 If you are a kid, your mom doesn't want you hanging around with sketchy characters. Because you'll unconsciously soak up bad behaviors. This is how humans learn. Most teachers attempt this ancient technique, but they fail miserably. Learning and well as teaching are both instincts. They have to be. Since humans brains have been growing very large for at least a million years. Right around when we discovered fire. This was long before language was invented. But we still had to learn, and to teach. Plenty of lower animals do this. Just not as well as us humans. We learn, and teach, through a process called modeling. This is one of those buzzwords everybody uses but nobody understands. If you've ever been around kids, and you accidentally let loose an F-bomb, you know exactly what modeling is. Even if the kid didn't notice, you and all the other adults will. Even if you don't have kids, and you are hanging with a bunch of buddies somewhere, if there is a group of kids nearby, everybody will NATURALLY keep the f-bombs to a minimum. We even SAY why. We don't want to "teach" them bad words. Even though we're not standing up in front of a chalk board. "Ok, children, repeat after me: Mother fu....." Just saying these words out loud is enough. This is how modeling works. The learner UNCONSCIOUSLY picks up things from the TEACHER. Back in the old days of apprenticeships, the apprentice would watch and copy the master. The master wouldn't need to talk. The apprentice wouldn't need to listen or take notes or study. Just watch and copy. Copy consciously, and copy unconsciously. This is why your mom doesn't want you hanging out with hoodlums. Because of all the unconscious things you may pick up. Why is this important? Because we choose our friends, and lovers, based on how well we LIKE to pick up things from them unconsciously. How we like to unconsciously teach them. This is EXACTLY why the phrase, "imitation is the deepest form of flattery" is absolutely correct. So the best way to let somebody know you like and appreciate them is to copy them. However, this presents a problem. Suppose you see somebody you want to get to know. And you want to make a nice impression. It wouldn't be a good idea to get close and start copying all their movements. That would be CREEPY. But this is where a related idea comes in. To be interesting TO somebody, you need to be interested IN that somebody. This is very close to the "imitation = flattery" idea. Luckily, there is a very simple, and very straightforward set of questions you can ask. Easy to ask, easy to answer, and will make them feel VERY GOOD about you. Learn How: http://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct12Post.mp4 Pretty people have it much easier than non pretty people. This is something that everybody kind of feels, and knows, but it's extremely hard to talk about. But it happens to be one of those things that can lead to some stunning realizations. A rough metaphor would be if you have deep money anxiety. Like most people do. Most people hate to balance their bank account. You go to the ATM, and even if you know you just got paid, you got this horrible fear of getting the dreaded, "insufficient funds" message. This leads to all kinds of horrible, mostly subconscious, conclusions. The halo effect is similar. If we do admit there IS a halo effect, it's bad for everybody. At least initially. If you are one of the pretty people, it means that it's not really YOU that's doing the work. It's your genetic gifts. Nobody gives a crap about your ideas and thoughts and beliefs. So long as they are coming out of a pretty face, that's good enough. This is why naturally attractive people HATE to be told that their success is largely due to their looks. On the flip side, normal looking folks like us HATE the halo effect idea just as much. Since we're NOT genetically gifted with gorgeous looks, there's not much we'll EVER be able to do. Both sides are correct, but only in a VERY superficial way. Because with a little effort, you can CREATE your own halo effect. No matter HOW you look. How's that? First, let's understand exactly HOW the halo effect works. It's not conscious. It's purely subconscious. The halo effect is when we feel a deep physical attraction. A deep and ancient POSITIVE feeling. And whatever the pretty person is talking about will be UNCONSCIOUSLY associated with that ancient, deep, positive feeling. It's critical to understand this is NOT conscious. Which means if you can CREATE a positive feeling in the other person, it will have the SAME effect. Even better is a genetically based halo effect has only one setting. Because it's based on their physical presence. But a custom made halo effect is based on their unique dreams and desires and fantasies. Which means you can BUILD it as strongly as you want. And since it's based ONLY on the ideas that exist inside THEIR brain, it doesn't matter WHO you are. It doesn't matter WHAT you look like. Not only does it NOT matter who you are or what you look like, since EVERYBODY'S got an endless stream of desires in their brain, you can use this technique on anybody you want. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct09Post.mp4 A long time ago, I had a low level job as a technician. Some big shot was coming to see me. A guy that was way above my pay grade gave me some inside dope. That the big shot coming to see me was thinking about starting another department. And she was maybe think about involving me somehow. Needless to say, I was nervous. The reason for her visit was completely different. So I had to pretend I didn't really know that she was there to also give me the once over. She showed up, we did our thing, she thanked me she left. A couple days later my inside guy called me and said she was impressed. That made me feel pretty good. Being able to impress somebody is a common desire. If you see an attractive person across the room, being able to impress them would feel fantastic. If you have a job interview, being able to impress the hiring guy is a good skill to have. If you wanted to be an actor, you would need to impress the guy doing the choosing. Even if you wanted to cook a meal for your friends, being able to impress them with your skills is a very nice feeling. When Darth Vader and Luke Skywalker fought with light sabers the first time, that's exactly what Vader said: "Impressive." Clearly, being able to impress people would help you in pretty much ANY situation. Sure, you could learn certain skills to impress people. Cooking skills, acting skills, light saber dueling skills. But those are pretty contextual. If you walked up to a stranger and told them you could make the perfect souffle, they might be impressed, they might not be. To impress people in social settings, particularly strangers, would be a VERY nice skill to have. It would increase your social proof. It would increase your authority. It would significantly expand your social network. All things that would make you much more attractive. Luckily, there is a VERY SIMPLE way to do this. When most people think about impressing others, we think about impressing THEM with the ideas in OUR brains. This is the absolute HARDEST way to do that. The easiest way is to impress them with how well we can find interesting ideas in THEIR brain. It turns out that the simplest way to be impressive TO others is to be impressed BY others. Luckily, there is a very simple, step by step, linguistic structure to do EXACTLY that. Learn how, and impressing people EVERYWHERE will be second nature. Get Started: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct08Post.mp4 In sales, they have an idea of a laydown. This is somebody who stumbles into your shop. You give them the memorized sales pitch, and they don't object at all. They look at you and say, "Wow, that's EXACTLY what I was looking for!" And then you give them the price. And they say, "Wow, that's way cheaper than I thought!" They buy whatever you are selling, and everybody lives happily ever after. This, however, is very, very rare. It's about as rare as walking up to a gorgeous girl and saying: "Hey, you don't know me, but wanna have sex?" And her thinking about it and saying: "Sure, why not? Let's go to my place!" This happens to be the most common male sex fantasy. And the basic plot of every "bang bus" porn movie. Guys driving down the street in a creepy van, pulling up to a super hot girl wearing very revealing clothing and asking her to come on in the van. "Sure, I was hoping to be asked to join a gang bang!" Of course, there is fantasy, and there is reality. The reality is you may talk to 50 girls, or guys, and get 2-3 phone numbers. And those may even be given to politely get rid of you. If you listen to any hiring sales pitch, every sales job sounds like easy money. All you have to do is memorize a pitch, and the customers will LOVE to buy. But just like extremely unrealistic sex fantasies, the reality is much different. The reality is you MAY get one laydown every few months. Not enough to even pay ONE month's rent. At same time, a memorized pitch SOUNDS like a good idea. If you can somehow come up with a really good memorized pitch, it's easy, once you memorize it. This idea is based on not having a regular, back and forth conversation. Having back and forth conversations with strangers is not something most people are comfortable doing. ESPECIALLY if the purpose of the conversation is to get something from them. Like a sale, or a number, or even them to agree to your idea. But this is ONLY uncomfortable from the position of the ASKER. If you are ultimately going to ASK THEM something, you know it. They know it. They can feel it. The solution? Don't ask. Instead, build up their desire. Turns out this is VERY EASY. It's kind of goofy at first, but when you get the hang of it, you'll be blown away by how simple it is. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct06Post.mp4 When I was a kid I got this robot for Christmas. This was WAY back in the day before a lot of electronics started to become commercially available. It ran on batteries and basically just walked. When I was a kid, Japanese monster movies were popular. They had the famous ones, Godzilla, Rodan, etc. But there was one that I particularly liked. As a kid I only knew it as "Giant Robot." The government (or somebody) built this huge robot. But a kid was the first one who activated it. And he could command the robot by talking into his watch. The commands always started with, "Giant Robot..." and then the command. I (and probably every other kid who watched that movie) LOVED to imagine having my own giant robot. Many people are attracted to the idea of hypnosis for two main reasons. One is that we can (allegedly) use hypnosis to get others to do what we want. The other is that we can solve our own problems with hypnosis. Most people imagine being able to use hypnosis on others very much like the kid used on Giant Robot. To simply give them commands and watch them obey. This is how it is used in the movies. Say the magic phrase, snap your fingers and BOOM, they're in a trance. If it were only so easy! But movie hypnosis is not like real hypnosis. Real hypnosis DOES work. But it's a bit more complicated than using a magic word or phrase. If humans could be so easily controlled, all the women would be pregnant, and all the men would be broke. Luckily, this is NOT the case. But there are plenty of ways to create the same outcome. Of getting the other person to do whatever you want. It's only a little bit more complicated than in the movie. It requires first talking to them, and asking them some questions. Very easy to answer questions. They aren't quite questions that you can memorize. You WILL have to do some thinking. But once you figure it out, it's very easy to ask anybody the right questions in the right order. Each one you ask, they'll easily answer. Because every time they answer, they'll feel better. And after only a few questions, they WILL be very eager to do whatever it is you want them to. Even better is they'll truly believe it was THEIR idea. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug20Post.mp4 There's a psychological idea called the "pushback effect." If you've ever gotten into an argument online, you've no doubt experienced it. This, like most of our biases, is something that's easily seen in others, but very hard to see in ourselves. Which means it is an ego-based survival instinct. The pushback effect is triggered when somebody tries to counter your argument. The INSTINCT is to hold fast, regardless of the other person's logic. The MORE you come at the opponent with logic, the MORE they'll dig into their position. Our beliefs are very much associated with our identity. This goes along with the "beliefs as food" idea. We don't really eat food because it's healthy. We eat food because it tastes good. Way back in the day, this was perfect. The BETTER something tasted, the BETTER it was for us. Meat and fat were ideal, as they were dense sources of needed calories. Sweet fruit even better. Roots, and tubers, not so much. They were better than nothing, but not as good as a freshly killed slab of meat. Of course, today, with recent discoveries in chemistry, food is engineered to be delicious. But at the cost of health. Beliefs can operate the same way. We don't believe things because they are true. We believe things because the help us and make us feel good. So when somebody attacks our beliefs, it very much FEELS like they are attacking US. Hence the pushback effect. Somebody attacks our beliefs, which makes us dig in. Very much like a physical confrontation. If somebody pushes you, you push them back. Nearly all "fighting technology" is based on pushing back BETTER than they pushed you. Only few are based on NOT pushing back, but instead using THEIR energy. This can be done conversationally as well. Not in arguments, but in persuasion and influence. For any purpose. Sales, friend making and seduction. Since the pushback effect is based on ego, it's very HARD to turn off. But if you can manage to turn it off, and simply ask very easy to answer, linguistically calibrated questions, they will feel FANTASTIC. Even enjoyable conversations between friends have the pushback effect. Each person is very subconsciously trying to OUTDO the other. But once you shut off your ego, they will be able to EXPAND. The more they EXPAND the better they feel. And when you carefully allow them to expand their ego, they'll be willing to do whatever you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug18Post.mp4 There are a quite a lot of truisms. The problem with truisms is three fold. One is that they are popular. Two is that they are true. Three is where the problems begin. It's how our brain treats "knowledge" and "experience." If you hear something once, it might seem like a good idea. But if you hear it a bunch of times, and eventually begin to repeat it yourself, then it starts to FEEL very familiar. But familiar in a superficial way. Not in a deep, experiential way. You can tell that somebody has this level of "knowledge" when you ask them to explain EXACTLY what they mean. But they can't. They have a weird combination of KNOWING that something is true. They know it as well as their own name. But they can't explain HOW or WHY it's true. When people have ideas, you can tell how they explain them. They say things like, "Well if you think about it, it makes sense." Since that's how THEY experience it inside their own brain. They've ACCEPTED the idea from others. The idea makes them feel good. They've thought about that idea a whole bunch of times. But they've never take the time to actually take apart the idea. This type of thing pops up ALL OVER THE PLACE in self help and self development. Entire seminars are filled with gurus saying these truisms in a whole bunch of different ways. But never once explaining how EXACTLY to apply them. Here's an example. A very common, and often repeated marketing strategy is as follows: "Encourage their dreams, allay their fears, and throw rocks at their enemies." This SOUNDS fantastic. Who wouldn't want their dreams encouraged? Who wouldn't want their fears allayed? Who wouldn't want help throwing rocks at their enemies? Everybody would. Which is why this is GOOD advice and TERRIBLE advice at the same time. Good advice because it rings very true. Terrible advice because it doesn't explain HOW, specifically, to do that. For example, how, exactly would you ENCOURAGE somebody's dreams? You could say something silly and common: "You should TOTALLY go after your dreams!" Or ask them what their dreams are. And then say: "Yeah! You should totally do that!" Problem is that this is the SAME strategy that every other fake goof tries. If you went into an upscale department store, and tried on an expensive shirt, THIS is what they'd say: "That shirt looks great! You'll DEFINITELY get laid!" This is an ATTEMPT to encourage your dreams. Unfortunately, it's the same fake line that EVERY salesperson uses. Luckily, there is a very specific set of linguistic techniques that you can learn. To make it very easy to elicit and BUILD up their dreams. And some more specific linguistic techniques to ENCOURAGE their dreams. In ways they've NEVER experienced. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/get-anybody/
