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  1. If you watch a lot of movies, you'll start to see patterns. Long ago, when the first Harry Potter movies started coming out, a buddy of mine was perplexed. He didn't read the books, and wanted to know what all the fuss was about. So he went to see the first movie. After he saw it, he was still a bit perplexed. "Dude, it's just like Star Wars. I don't get it," he said. And he was correct. An orphan finds out he's special. This special orphan has to go on a mission. To find and kill some bad guy. Harry and Voldemort, Luke and Vader. Luke had a light saber and was a Jedi. Harry had a magic wand, and was a wizard. In fiction, they say there are only seven basic stories. If you study music, you'll find the same chord progressions in pretty much every song. Funny thing about humans is most of us tend to pay attention to the CONTENT, but not the STRUCTURE. The STRUCTURE of every hero's journey movie is essentially the same. An orphan finds out he's special. He meets a bunch of friends, and has to fight against a bad guy. When Joseph Campbell wrote the book about this structure, after studying mythology from around the world, gave it an appropriate title: "The Hero With 1000 Faces." Luke Skywalker, Harry Potter, Neo, Peter Parker, Dorothy, and on and on. This is a very, very cool thing. Because once you understand the STRUCTURE of something, coming with different content is VERY easy. What else has a similar structure? Humor. Nearly all humor is based on ambiguity. A quick story, and then the "punch line." The punch line nearly ALWAYS leverages some kind of ambiguity. Some jokes are set up so we assume the ambiguity goes one way, but it goes the other. The famous Groucho Marx joke: "Last night I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got into my pajamas I'll never know!" Even elementary school yard riddles are based on ambiguity. Why is six afraid of seven? Seven ate nine! What did the ocean say when the tide came in? Long time no sea! Why did the boy study on an airplane? He was in high school! Once you understand the structure of humor, telling jokes is easy. Making up jokes is easy. Because built into our language is a TON of ambiguity. Once you start playing with other people's ambiguity, you can have a lot of fun. Wanna know what ELSE is based a lot of vague ambiguity? Hypnosis. And when you combine the structure of hypnosis with humor, a wizard you will become. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  2. Everybody loves to laugh. Nobody really knows why. But we can imagine a kind of split test. Like advertisers and marketers do. Send two different ads to two different zip codes. Then see which one works best. Keep the good one, ditch the old one. If you keep doing this, you'll eventually have a very highly converting ad. This works just as well on sales pages. Human evolution can be thought of as a very long, organically evolving split test. Every generation has people made from the previous generation. Of course, there are a few mistakes. The mistakes that are better, in terms of replication, are kept. The mistakes that are worse, are not. So, once upon a time, we can imagine two tribes of people. One tribe that had a sense of humor. And another tribe that was always serious. Since WE all have a since of humor, it's clear the funny people won out over the serious people. This likely happened way before we became humans. Since lower primates also have this playful instinct. Perhaps laughing serves as a kind anxiety relief. Like a pressure valve. One thing we humans also tend to do is commiserate. Next time you're around a group of friends, sit back and listen. You'll find they inevitably start to complain about something. A person in particular. Society in general. This is an attempt to share a painful burden. This is easy. Making light of shared burden is not so easy. And since most humans tend to take the easy route, we tend to complain rather than use our humor instinct. Leveraging your humor instinct takes a bit of thinking. A special kind of "humor intelligence." But if you do it correctly, you'll be very appreciated. Anybody can complain. Few people can spin complaints around into funny stories. This is why comedians make so much money. People LOVE listening to them. And most comedians take random things that happen to random people. But they make them very interesting, and very funny. All the way back in history they had court jesters. Everybody KNOWS the necessity to make fun of the king. Most people expect to pay a lot of money to listen to a guy tell jokes. So if you show up and start SPEAKING with a special kind of "humor language" people will think you're some kind of wizard. And you'll be welcome everywhere, and always in demand. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  3. If you're going to sell something to somebody, there are basically two ways. The thing about sales is it's all about numbers. No matter what kind of technique you're using, you'll never sell all people. You won't even sell most people. The name of the game is to always IMPROVE your percentages. You can improve how well you qualify. So you don't even start your "pitch" until you KNOW you have a high probability candidate. Somebody who WANTS the kind of thing you are selling. And who wants it NOW. These types of sales jobs are hard to find. Why? Because this requires a lot of TRAINING. And guess what? Most companies that hire sales people also know it's about numbers. See, they know that some people are natural sellers, and others aren't. Which means if they keep hiring people, and teach them the bare minimum, eventually they'll get a few that are pretty good salespeople. This type of sales is like human automation. Human automation in hiring. Human automation in selling. Technique is not that important to this model. Numbers is king. This is the HARD way to sell. What's the easy way? Sitting down with or speaking to a warm client. Finding out ALL their criteria. Expanding their criteria. Getting them to think about what they want. To build up a HUGE ball of desire in their brain. They more they talk, the BIGGER their desire gets. The bigger their desire gets, the more likely they are to buy. This is the absolute EASIEST way to sell something to somebody. But you can also use this technique socially. When you're selling, it's obvious to everybody it's a persuasive conversation. But if you were speaking to somebody socially, there isn't supposed to be ANY reason for the conversation. Other than just to get to know each other hopefully enjoy each other's company. The META intention is to find a few people whose company you REALLY enjoy. This is SUPPOSED to happen naturally and organically. And it can. From THEIR perspective. But from YOUR perspective, you'll have a few secret weapons up your sleeve. (or in your brain) And that is a thorough understanding of what ALL people want. If you guide the conversation here, and use the same strategy you'd use in a sales situation, but much more covertly, it will work just as well. Except they'll start to see YOU as somebody they want to hang around. They'll see YOU in a much different category than everybody else. A much BETTER category. To them, it will seem like an organic process. A VERY LUCKY accident that they met you. But YOU'LL know the truth. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  4. There are plenty of ways to use covert hypnosis. Most people immediately think of two categories. Sales and seduction. Once you learn how to use covert hypnosis effectively, you can make a ton of money in sales. Naturally, there is a learning curve. Luckily, this is an ENDLESS learning curve. Meaning the more you practice, the better you get. The better you get, the more money you'll make. If you enjoy talking to people, eliciting their criteria, and then using covert hypnosis to leverage their criteria, this is a pretty good way to make a living. Same with seduction. Even if you never "close the deal," being able to speak to people socially and get them fired up is a LOT of fun. Many people start off learning covert hypnosis for seduction, hoping to get laid. But then they discover just how FUN it is talking to people. Using patterns to turn up their energy and excitement. Even if you NEVER want to see them again. It's common to see the world through filters. People that you WANT to have sex with, and people you don't. People you WANT to sell things to, and people you don't. People you WANT to become friends with, and people you don't. Most tend to use these filters subconsciously. If you see somebody that DOESN'T pass these filters, they kind of get lost in the background. But it turns out that these are the MOST FUN to play with. To PRACTICE using patters on. Why? Because you have nothing to lose, since you don't way to create any kind of relationship. That means you have EVERYTHING to gain. Being able to walk up to ANYBODY you see and get them in a good, happy outgoing mood is a very POWERFUL skill to have. Forget about those goofs in those billion dollar movies running around PRETENDING to be superheroes. Being the guy or gal who makes EVERYBODY feel better is the REAL super power. One you can practice every single day. And like any other skill, the more you practice, the better you get. The better you get, the more fun you'll have. Then you'll notice the TRUTH about these linguistic super powers. That once you see how much FUN you can have with ordinary people, you'll start to see opportunities EVERYWHERE. Opportunities for love. Opportunities for business. Opportunities for friendship. And ENDLESS opportunities for playful happiness. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  5. Hypnosis and humor have a lot in common. Both use ambiguity in a very specific way. The Milton Model, created by and named after Dr. Milton Erickson, carefully uses vague and confusing language. You can use it to create a structural story, but with a lot of vague elements. The guy listening to the story will sort of "get" the structure, but he'll have to fill in the vague information with his own content. The final feeling is a story told TO him by the hypnotist, but it's filled up with a lot of his own content. So he feels as though he's actually gone through the story himself, even though he's only been listening. There are also plenty of short term, brain-fading techniques. Like when I went fishing with my brother and a couple of his buddies last weekend. He was telling us about when they went to this seminar to learn hypnosis for sales. And then he was telling them that when you learn hypnosis and use it for both sales and seduction. You can use it this way to get a lot more money and get a lot more sex. In that short description (involving two things everybody wants, sex and money) there are TONS of undefined pronouns. He, they, etc. Since they are surrounding interesting ideas, namely about learning hypnosis to make money and get more sex, we tend to fill those pronouns in with whatever works best for us. When using Milton Model hypnosis, there are plenty of ways to leverage these purposely vague language patterns. When the vagueness is stretched out over time, it creates a very squishy feeling in your brain. But when the vagueness or ambiguity is quick, it creates a much different feeling. Why did the boy study on an airplane? Because he was in high school. In that particularly lame joke, the word "high" has two meanings at once. You'll find this in plenty of humor. One of my favorites comes from Groucho Marx: Last night I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got into my pajamas I'll never know! This works by creating a meaning that is assumed, and then quickly changing the meaning to something else. All three of these forms of conversational hypnosis are great fun in social situations. Turning people's brains into pancake batter, making people giggle at silly things, or even getting them to fixate on fantastic ideas (sex and money) surrounded by tons of vagueness. These three hypnotic powers will make you a party super star. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  6. Imagine two fighters. Boxers if you will. One guy has spent tons of time practicing lots of techniques. The other guy, not so much. But the first guy, with all the moves, is in very terrible condition. He is barely able to stand up after a couple minutes. He's so exhausted, he hangs on to the other fighter for dear life. But the second fighter, the guy who has very little techniques is in VERY good shape. He can dance and around and bounce on his feet for a full twelve rounds. Who do you think would win the fight? Unless the first guy got lucky, he would be too tired to do much. None of his advanced techniques would do squat if he was too tired to lift his arms. When it comes to any kind of martial art, it's clear that physical conditioning is as important, if not more, than the actual fighting techniques. Now, this metaphor is not entirely realistic. Because it would be hard to practice fighting techniques without also getting into shape. So we can imagine another pair of fighters. This time, their skills are equal. But one guy is in WAY better shape than the other guy. Obviously, the guy who was in better shape would win. What's this got to do with anything? When it comes to social behavior, interactive social behavior, there is inner game, and outer game. Outer game is kind of like the technical skills. Knowing what to say, and how to say it. Inner game is much more like physical conditioning. In a fighting metaphor, if you are too tired, you can't really use any of your technical skills. In a social situation, a weak inner game means you'll be spending A LOT of brainpower being worried or anxious. So any of the stuff you practiced before won't to mind. This is EXACTLY what happens when you practice a speech until you've got it down PERFECTLY. But then when you stand up to give it, it VANISHES from your brain. Your brain essentially freezes. This is why having solid inner game is much, much more important than any outer game techniques. But most people don't pay much attention to inner game. Since most people don't know HOW to strengthen their inner game. Most people simply assume that stronger inner game comes from experience. But this is incorrect. In fact, there are plenty of ways to build up a rock solid inner game, just like you could build up rock solid conditioning. You can do this alone, without needing to interact with anybody. And the longer you practice, the stronger your inner game will be. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  7. One way to understand attractive personalities is to think in terms of ancient societies. Our brains, bodies and instincts are the same as they were tens of thousands of years ago. We humans just don't evolve very quickly. So, what personality characteristics are MOST attractive? The biggest problem in ancient societies was getting enough food. Of handling problems that came up during that process. Back then, you HAD to be productive. You had to be able to get stuff done. And the more stuff you could get done, the more TRUE CONFIDENCE you would radiate. Not confidence based on anything fake. Confidence based on real memories of real experiences where you were successful. This may not be something you want to hear, but humans send and receive a TON of information via subconscious body language. So if you truly FEEL confident, everybody is going to know. If you are trying to fake confidence, it may work for a little while, but it won't last through a conversation. This is exactly WHY girls test guys. To see if their confidence is REAL or FAKE. Just that she's testing you is a bad sign. If she is testing you, her subconscious DOUBTS your confidence. But it's easy to create REAL confidence, even if you don't feel it. At least right now. The trick is not to conjure it up in the moment. This is the FAKE confidence that invites frame tests. Real confidence can be built using ONLY the memories in your brain. It takes time, but it is VERY POWERFUL. You can do this with any emotional state you want. Even building in various switches for various emotional states. People that are naturally charismatic and outgoing do this NATURALLY. Meaning they NATURALLY recall and reference positive memories. This creates a string of positive experiences. Which keeps the whole positive charisma cycle going. You can, however, jump start this process. Kind of like priming a pump. Just take some time, find plenty of decent memories and PURPOSELY reference those. And you can create that SAME outgoing, friendly, charismatic attitude. This is THE most important thing. It only seems like it's not because so FEW people have this natural, outgoing charm. But when you take the time to build it, you'll see. Once you have a collection of positive inner game states, layering some outer game behaviors on top will be EASY. Making you the most attractive person around. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  8. There is a clear discrepancy between what we say we want, and what we really want. The things we TELL ourselves (and each other) what we want is based partially on what we SHOULD want. But the things we actively GET, especially when nobody's looking, is what we REALLY want. This is one main reason why marketing studies must be done like medical studies. As objectively as possible. If you ask people for feedback, they'll tell you what they think you WANT to hear. So marketers have to take care to set up special studies so they can OBSERVE what people choose. Similarly, whenever anybody does any medical research, and the data is SELF-REPORTED, it's almost always flawed. Especially if it involves eating. Nobody is totally honest when they report what they REALLY ate. When thinking about humans and attraction, there is a common idea. That you should ignore what people SAY, and watch what people DO. But there is ONE THING that people SAY that want, and also respond to. The ONE quality we all both consciously acknowledge is desirable. And will subconsciously acknowledge as desirable. What is this mysterious trait? A sense of humor. Everybody SAYS they value humor. AND people naturally gravitate AROUND people who HAVE a strong sense of humor. Maybe because humor is a function both an inner and outer game. True outer game humor reflects inner game STRENGTH. Especially self-deprecating humor. This can be VERY DANGEROUS. Many people attempt self deprecation without being 100% congruent. So in a sense, they are kind of fishing for compliments. But if you can use self-deprecating humor with 100% congruence, it will be VERY ATTRACTIVE. Because it demonstrates massive inner confidence. This is the underlying "energy" of the "agree and amplify" response to any playful insults. "Dude, that shirt is ugly!" "I know, right! I got the UGLIEST shirt in the shop! Winner Winner chicken dinner!" This is HARD to pull off if you don't feel it. But if you DO feel it, the surface structure doesn't need to be complex. It can be very, very simple. Paradoxically, the BEST self-deprecating humor demonstrates the STRONGEST confidence around. It's almost like you are proudly challenging anybody to an insult contest. Where YOU can insult you better than anybody else can insult you. Only exceptionally confident people with exceptionally strong frames can do this. Which means that ONLY learning the words aren't enough. You must also build up your inner game. You can learn that here: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  9. There's a lot of math problems floating around online. They usually have a catchy title. Like, "90% of adults fail this third grade math problem." One I've seen a few times involves something called "order of operations." Say you've got a math problem with some addition signs, subtraction signs, multiplication signs and division signs. According to the strict rules of math, you MUST do them in the correct order. Otherwise you'll get the wrong answer. This is why many adults will "fail" those third grade problems. Because adults will FORGET the correct "order of operations." For example, consider the following math problem: 3+3x7=? You're supposed to do the 3x7 BEFORE you add the other 3. If you do them from left to right, like reading, and add the two 3s's and THEN multiply by 7, you'll get the wrong answer. But in English, this order of operations doesn't exist. It's only assumed. But this means you can have a LOT of fun. For example, say you went to a party. And somebody asked how it was. And you reported: There were a lot of pretty girls and people there. Most people would naturally assume the correct meaning. That there were a lot of people. And AMONG those people were some pretty girls. But you can misinterpret that on purpose. And assume that the group of "pretty girls" and the group of "people" are two different groups. So you might reply: "And the pretty girls, they were aliens or something?" When you learn to pay attention to the potential ambiguity in EVERYDAY speech, you can have a lot of fun. See, it's one thing to drop jokes. You say something funny, and people laugh. And then that's that. But when you purposely reframe ambiguity, it also INVITES other people to participate in. To PLAY ALONG with the joke. For example, in the pretty girls and people joke, you can EASILY go off on how "pretty girls" are a completely different species. Like they're from another planet, etc. This is the REAL SKILL of world class party humor. It's the kind of humor that can involve EVERYBODY. Not just some goof standing there hogging all the attention. And with the right inner game, you can covertly create a HUMOR CONTEST where everybody is trying to come up with the CRAZIEST examples. On whatever reframe you just dropped. All it takes is a little tweaking of how you view language. Do this and people will LOVE to have you around. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  10. One of the biggest stumbling blocks to starting a conversation is knowing what to say. You see somebody across the room. You smile, they smile. You flirt, the flirt. But then the thought of walking across the room and starting a conversation keeps you stuck. What would you say? Or you're in line somewhere. Maybe somebody is cute in front or in back of you. You or they glance around, your eyes meet, and you give each other the universal "What's up" nod. But then the same problem pops up. What do you say? You may even go online in search of "conversation starters." There is certainly no end of examples. But before you practice for hours in front of a mirror, consider this. Humans have been anatomically "humans" for about a hundred thousand years. Before that, we weren't yet humans. But we still communicated with each other perfectly. When they study chimps, even though chimps don't talk to each other, they have an EXTREMELY complicated social structure. So, what does this mean? Instead of coming up with a witty conversation starter, you should give people bananas? Not really, although that would be better than nothing. (Hey. You're cute. Here's a banana...) The point is the WORDS you say are not nearly as important as how you say them. And the first words you exchange with anybody only serve ONE function. To shift you from NOT being in a conversation, to BEING in a conversation. So make it as EASY on THEM as possible. It's tempting to try and say something clever, to impress them. But always remember you want to make it as EASY on them as possible. After all, the first words back and forth are really only so you can VIBE with your energy. If you words are too complex, both of you will be too nervous to do that. And for the first couple of minutes, all you really need to do is say some VERY simple things. Once they are comfortable with you, then you can start asking some easy to answer questions. How they answer will give you MUCH MORE insight into any memorized lines. Even when you are hanging out with close friends, the underlying ENERGY of the conversation is much more important the words. In fact, unless you are landing a jet via radio instructions, or listening to instructions on how to de-fuse a bomb, most of the time the words are IRRELEVANT. Focus on the underlying energy instead, and everything will be much easier. There are plenty of exercises to show you how. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  11. Imagine you were just about to walk into a party. And RIGHT before you opened the door, a super sexy person gave you a super sexy look. That would put you in a very GOOD mood. On the other hand, imagine the opposite. Right when you were about to walk into a party, a dog came up and peed on your leg. And the dog's owner, and all her friends, stood their laughing. That would put you in a very BAD mood. Most people accept this as normal. Stuff happens OUTSIDE of us. Then that puts us in a certain mood. That certain mood affects our behavior. Which affects the stuff around us. The people, etc. That can either KEEP us in a bad mood, or KEEP us in a good mood. If we happen to run into a string of GOOD things happening around us, we'll be in a GOOD mood. On the other hand, if we run into a string of BAD things happening around us, we'll be in a BAD mood. We say we're having a BAD day. Or we're having a GOOD day. But here's the thing. It's not really the THINGS that are happening around us. Once they happen, they are OVER. But their memory lingers for a while. In a sense, our conscious is a never-ending stream of what is happening, what we THINK is about to happen, and what just HAPPENED. And what JUST HAPPENED is projected forward slightly, affecting the events AS they happen. But we CAN have a huge amount of control over this. It's not based on magic, or metaphysics. Any more than doing pushups would make you stronger. Or running every day would burn body fat. If you PRACTICE remembering certain things, you can build up the STRENGTH of those memories. Build them up strong enough, and you can recall them whenever you want. So much that they can OVERPOWER anything that is happening around you. Putting you in such a good mood, that YOU become the CAUSE. And everybody else's mood will be an effect. Giving you the power to CHANGE the mood of everybody around you. What kind of memories do you want to recall? What kind of feelings do you want to HAVE whenever you want them? Any kind you want. So long as you are willing to build them, you will have them. You can build them as STRONG as you want. There is NO upper limit. Any feeling, any time, anywhere. A frame so strong that EVERYBODY wants in. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/ Till next time, George Hutton
  12. Being an entertainer is a valuable skill. Most of PUA tactics include demonstrating value. The bulk of the Mystery Method involves doing various bar tricks. Magic tricks, sleight of hand tricks, etc. They all have the same thing in common. Of the person you are trying to impress not needing to do anything. If you have plenty of tricks up your sleeve, this can be a fantastic way of standing out. Since most goofs CAN'T, even a couple of tactics can work wonders. But they do have their drawbacks. For one, if you happen to REALLY hit if off with somebody, you'll eventually run out of material. Once the REAL YOU comes up, it might not be the same. If you've ever seen famous comedians or actors when they are NOT being filmed or interviewed, they are MUCH DIFFERENT than on stage. Of course, if you're ONLY after hit-and-run fun, then having a half hour of material is really all you need. Show up, demonstrate value, pick your prize and have fun. However, if you want to develop deeper relationships, you'll need to be MORE than an entertainer. This is the other half of being socially outgoing that most people miss. There's a lot more than just showing up and entertaining the crowd. The flip side is how comfortable you make others feel. If you can not only tell a few jokes, and create good feelings, but also help shy folks come out of their shell, you'll be head and shoulders above any one-trick pony. And it turns out that easing others out of their shell is pretty easy. Even better, the longer you do it, the easier it gets. It's opposite being an entertainer type. The longer you entertain, the HARDER it gets. People start to build expectations. That's why it's usually only good for short term fun. But if you want to create REAL relationships, with friends, lovers, and everybody in between, then having the "make others feel comfortable around you" skill is a definite plus. It's easy to learn, and easy to do. And after you practice it for just a few minutes, they'll actually remember YOU much more than the tricksters. Why? Because EVERYBODY can enjoy the trickster. They do the same tricks for EVERYBODY. But when you flip the script, and find out what's important about ONE person in particular, then they KNOW you are focused ONLY on them. Which means they'll remember you much, much longer than anybody who's telling jokes or doing magic tricks. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  13. One flexible source of meaning is any cause-effect. Our brains seem to struggle with any kind of cause-effect. If you are a scientist, and you need to PROVE that A causes B, it's not so easy. A common phrase that illustrates this is the famous, "correlation doesn't imply causation." Somebody, either in person or online, will mention that something causes something else. Or they'll imply it with the many handy linguistic tools built in to our brain. Then somebody will wisely say (or post): "Well you know, correlation doesn't mean causation." These can lead to some interesting discussions. And some heated arguments. But they can ALSO lead to some pretty funny statements. Or purposeful "misinterpretations" of what people say. Our language is FILLED with ambiguities. If you were to learn to SPEAK in ambiguities, it would take a while. But it would be INSANELY powerful, as speaking articulately and specifically in terms of ambiguities is what covert hypnosis is all about. But if you can pluck out any of the ambiguities that we silly humans say all the time, and PURPOSELY misunderstand them, it can be VERY FUNNY. Not just cause-effect statements, but something called "scope ambiguity." A scope ambiguity is the driving force behind the famous Groucho Marx joke: "Last night I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got into my pajamas I'll never know!" Once you train your brain to SEE these, you'll see them EVERYWHERE. For example, let's say you have a friend who said she went out to get the paper in her bathrobe, and her neighbor saw her. "The other day I was getting my paper and my neighbor saw me in my bathrobe. It was pretty embarrassing!" You COULD say: "Your neighbor? In your bathrobe?" To which your friend would say: "Yes!" To which you'd reply in mock horror: "What was your neighbor doing in your bathrobe?" Obviously, this is pretty silly. But it's also very EASY. And it's also potentially very CATCHY. Meaning if your friend is in a playful mood (if you're at a party or a bar and the drinks are flowing) she can play along with the "new reality." This what happens when you build a party frame. Somebody says something normal. Which most people do most of the time. Then YOU take it and REFRAME it into something goofy. Since a fun, goofy frame is BETTER than a normal, boring frame, people will tend to join in. And play along with the idea that your friend has a weird neighbor that is somehow sneaking into her house and getting her clothing. And then standing outside wearing it like no big deal. Once you train your brain to reframe cause-effect statements and scope ambiguities, you'll see them EVERYWHERE. Giving you TONS of opportunities to make people laugh out loud. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  14. A common human curse is to think of the PERFECT think to say, but way too late. The trick of using humor effectively is you not only need to have something clever to say, but you gotta say it quick. Whenever somebody says something, and it has humor potential, that humor potential has a VERY SHORT half-life. Maybe a second or two. If you the right thing, but not quick enough, it will be lame instead of funny. It's like our brains only keep the most recently said things. And you must say the funny part while those thought patterns are still resonating. Recognizing you COULD have said something, but didn't is ONLY the first step. There is a scene from the movie, "8 Mile," where the main character (played by Eminem) is riding on a bus. While he was looking out the window, he was busily scribbling potential rhymes to be used in upcoming rap battles. Copywriters keep something called a "swipe file." Any time they hear or read anything interesting, a metaphor, simile, colorful adjective phrase, they write it down. If you want to be fast with the funny, you've got to do the same. It's not something many people think about. And it's certainly not something you'd talk about. But consider keeping a WRITTEN file of clever comebacks and witty sayings. This will keep you ready when the time comes. Another way to prepare is to take a few minutes every night, and write down the things you heard. And then when you've got ZERO pressure, think of some ways you could have REFRAMED those statements. When you combine these two ideas, you'll soon develop some POWERFUL and very funny comebacks. Why? Because most people talk about the same stuff. Most people have the same basic collection of statements and descriptions they use when they talk about the same things. So when you tune your brain to find useful comebacks, AND spend some time looking at the statements you hear, after the fact, this will build into a pretty powerful skill. Is it a lot of work? Not really. A few extra minutes every day. Is it being "fake" or "not genuine?" Not if you practice to the point of unconscious competence. A fat guy eating burgers on the couch is being real. The same guy a year later who runs five miles a day is also being real. The more you TRAIN (mind or body or language), the better you'll get. All while maintaining a sense of the real you. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  15. One of the most "famous" hypnosis patterns is the quotes pattern. It's so famous it's in plenty of movies. A common way is when one guy threatens another guy. For example, imagine two guys are sitting next to each other at a bar. They are sworn enemies, but they are pretending to be normal citizens. One guy looks at the other and says: "If I were doing something important, and somebody tried to stop me, I'd have to look at him, take a deep breath and say that if you tried to stop me I'd have to kill you." As he's quoting some imaginary person saying something to another imaginary person, he's saying the same thing to his real enemy. But since this is a movie trick, and it's obvious to everybody that's what he's doing, it's not very "covert." So if that's how you used it in real life, everybody would know. The whole point of covert hypnosis is that NOBODY knows you're using it. If you go around telling people you are using covert hypnosis, it's pretty silly. That would be like telling everybody you were invisible. And when you use covert hypnosis, you're supposed to be careful, so nobody knows. If you actually were invisible, and you bumped into people while you were out walking around, (or were talking loudly to yourself) that would be just a silly. There IS, however, a very powerful way to use the quotes pattern. And that's to sandwich it in between a couple of stories. The different the stories are the better. The first story could be about some weird Twilight Zone episode you saw. The second story could be about an ancient recipe for lasagna that was recently discovered near the pyramids. Then the middle story has all the quotes. And when you finish the pyramid story, and then the Twilight Zone story, people's brains will be so scrambled they won't remember much of anything. The outside stories are kind of set ups. Kind of like how a magician on stage talks a good game. You're focusing on his face and his story you don't notice his hands. So when you sandwich a bunch of quotes in the middle of a couple non-related and crazy stories, it's kind the same thing. Only instead of sleight of hand, or even sleight of mouth, it's more like sleight of brain. And since this is just for fun, the only technique you need to remember is the quotes part. Which is pretty easy. But there's a lot more fun to be had with language. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  16. Next time you are in the middle of a randomly flowing conversation, do this experiment. Watch not only how people talk, but watch how the content of the conversation is an organically evolving "thing." Kind of like a beach ball at a concert or sporting event. People kind of see it bouncing around. When it comes their way they try and keep it bouncing around. Watch people watching this imaginary "conversational ball" floating around. Most people are doing a couple of things when they are NOT talking. They are paying attention to whoever is talking. And they are trying to come up with a related story or anecdote. So if this imaginary conversation ball comes their way, they can add to it and keep it bouncing around. When the conversation dies out, it's very much like "dropping the ball." Everybody looks around for somebody to hopefully get it going again. Very much like standing in a circle and hitting a volleyball around, or playing hacky sack. The longer the ball keeps flowing, the better. But this is difficult (and create anxiety) if you don't happen to have any stories or related anecdotes. The longer you stand there without talking, the more you start to get worried that everybody is watching you stand there without talking. This leads to the most common "reason" for social anxiety. "I don't know what to say." Luckily, there is a very easy solution. And that is instead of focusing on CONTENT, start to train your ears and brain to focus on STRUCTURE. The structure of any random conversation is very similar. And it's filled with possibility. For you to reach in there, tweak it, and create some very happy, and very goofy feelings in their brains. And since this structure is something few people ever notice, it will make you look like you're on another level than everybody else. Even if you borrow the content from other people. This means you don't have to have any stories, or clever anecdotes or tales of adventure. Just the ability to playfully tweak the structure of anybody's conversation. This is the kind of party skills that not only make you memorable, but an IN DEMAND party guest. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  17. One way to quickly put people in a trancey mood is to talk about trancey things. It's one thing to specifically use hypnotic language structures, and either hypnotize them directly, or use covert hypnosis. But much easier way, especially if you are getting started, is to talk about trancey things. Things that do the work on their own. Their are plenty of interesting paradoxes in math and physics. But if you ONLY talk about the paradoxes, it won't be much different than a regular conversation. One person throws out one idea, and another person throws out another idea, etc. And if everybody's talking about their latest experience playing video games, and you talk about some paradox of the number line, it might not go over well. But if you sandwich it between two sort of related stories, it will scramble their brains pretty well. In case you don't happen to have a lot of math paradoxes at the ready, there's an even easier way. You take whatever the structure it is of the other idea, and go up a meta level. And instead of talking about "things" talk about ideas. For example, imagine somebody was talking about some boring class they had to take at school. And the reason they were taking it was it was part of their major. They would be taking the interesting classes later. There's a lot of "me too" type stories that would have that same structure. Doing something boring that you MUST do before doing the thing you WANT to do. But instead of talking about normal things (like doing your taxes, or doing an unpaid internship) talk about trancey things. Like thinking boring thoughts that you MUST think before you can think interesting thoughts that you WANT to think. And to keep track, inside your mind you can be thinking about doing something like cleaning your room before you can play video games. But outside, you're talking about thinking boring thoughts and putting them in order before you can think the more fun and interesting thoughts. It sounds similar, from a structural level, but people will have a hard time following along. They'll watch you closely, trying to pay attention, but when you're finished (and you're acting like you talked about something completely normal) they'll look at you with a weird expression on their face. "Yeah, that's, uh, um....what?" And then you can talk about the REAL thing, (the thing you were thinking about when talking about the trancey thing), as another example. This will slowly guide them back to normal thinking land, but they'll have a kind of "hole" in their memory. There's all kinds of fun party tricks you can use with hypnosis to differentiate yourself from everybody else. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  18. There are many ways to put things or people into categories. For example, you could sort everybody on Earth into two categories. Those who are taller than you, and those who aren't. Those who are older and younger than you. And collection of things can be sorted in plenty of ways. One way to sort things is the type of things people talk about. An interesting experiment to do is to sit back mentally and be an observer. You can even do this while watching TV. Our brain has plenty of built in sorting features, most of which are running all the time. But other sorting criteria can be shifted, and this can be pretty interesting. For example, next time you are listening to some people talk, shift your filters to see if they are talking about themselves, or other people. Ideas about themselves, their wants and desires, or their ideas about other people. Or you can play around just for fun. Are they talking about more tangible things, or intangible things? Focus on the nouns they are using. Are they physical things, or ideas? Another idea, which is very helpful, is to sort between content, and structure. This is something that few people even think about. But training yourself to switch between content and structure can be VERY powerful. Focusing on tangible things or intangible ideas, for example, is looking at their content from a structural level. Another funny way to sort their language is to look for any ambiguities, particularly scope ambiguities. For example, I was watching a TV show the other night. And one of the characters was talking about potentially eating something with particular zeal. And she said something like, "I'll attack it like a chocolate cake." Meaning the thing in question, that she was going to "attack," was going to be "attacked" AS IF the thing in question was a chocolate cake. Meaning she was going to eat it aggressively and deliciously. But you could ALSO interpret that statement to mean: "I'll attack that just like a chocolate cake would attack it!" To which one might innocently ask: "How exactly does a chocolate cake attack something?" If you train yourself to look for these kinds of ambiguities (which you'll see everywhere once you start looking), and ask simple (and silly) questions like the one above, they'll have a pretty funny effect. Because when people talk, they kind of just spit out jumbles of words without much thought. But when you ask a question that PRESUPPOSES the "other" meaning of any of their ambiguities, it will make them do a couple of mental stutter steps while they try and figure out what the heck you are talking about. The result is usually pretty funny. Once you see how many hidden opportunities there are in everyday language, making people laugh can be second nature. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  19. There is this really goofy movie on Netflix (or maybe Amazon) called "Punching the Clown." It's comical story about the rise and fall of this guy who plays the guitar on stage while "singing" the lamest jokes you could ever imagine. Every event that caused his rise was a misinterpretation. Every event that caused his fall was equally a misinterpretation. If you're a fan of very dry, very tongue-in-cheek comedy, I highly recommend it. One of my favorite scenes is where he's "auditioning" for this very high level talent agent. The hero ALWAYS tells his jokes as if they are songs, while he's "singing" them along with his guitar strumming. Central to the whole them is the guy is REALLY not very funny, but because of all the misunderstandings, everybody thinks he's the second coming of Groucho Marx. As he's auditioning, the agent interrupts him several times, and says something like: "OK, why don't you play me the FUNNIEST one. The one that is the MOST FUNNY, right from the beginning." And the hero keeps starting various song-jokes, and the agent keeps interrupting him and saying the same thing. The entire movie is very "meta" in that it looks at humor, and what humor is, and how it's constructed. A way of looking at a non-funny guy, but from a humorous angle, but in scenes that are carefully scripted to be as dryly humorous as possible. This, in a nutshell, is the problem with any kind of COVERT hypnosis. Non-covert hypnosis is easy. You know you're using it. You're subject knows you're using it. Everybody watching knows you're using it. But with COVERT hypnosis, nobody knows but you. In fact, it really ONLY WORKS if nobody but you knows it. Which is why it's very HARD to see a real example of covert hypnosis. Since once you know it's an example of covert hypnosis, it's no longer covert, and it won't have the same effect. This is the SAME type of thing that happens when you DON'T GET a joke. It's ONLY funny if it HITS YOU all at once. If it has to be explained to you, it won't be funny. No joke is. Which is why when it comes to covert hypnosis, it's very similar to fight club. In that the first rule of fight club is to NOT talk about fight club. When you're using direct party hypnosis tricks (getting people zonked out and speaking Martian) it's ok to tell everybody what they're doing. But when using any of the COVERT party hypnosis tricks, it's best to NOT mention anything to anybody what you are doing. Just drop a few covert mind bombs here and there and stand back and watch the fun. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  20. Both humor and hypnosis are based on carefully used ambiguity. Why is six afraid of seven? Seven ate nine. 7 8 9 Ate and eight are phonetic ambiguities. Same sound, different meaning. Luckily, English has tons of built in potential for ambiguity. The more you understand, the more you can fade people's brains at will. When most people talk, most people listen. But WHILE they are listening, they are busily trying to come up with something else to say. Something to ADD to the conversation. There are basically two ways to keep people from doing that. One is to become a powerfully mesmerizing storyteller. To have powerful charisma, facial expressions, gestures, etc. AND to have some very interesting stories. But if you're like most normal humans, you don't go on a lot of archeological digs, or find any time portals or anything like that. If you're like most normal humans, you have some pretty normal stories. So being famous as the guy who always goes on adventures is out of the question for most of us. So, what's the OTHER WAY to keep people's minds from wandering while you're talking? Use plenty of ambiguities. There are simple ways, and incredibly complex ways. Short bursts of ambiguities in sentences, or long drawn out nested stories (that are really about nothing) but make their brains feel like squishy sponges filled with paste. Here's an example. It's generally considered to be THE most ambiguous sentence in English. "Time flies like an arrow." It could mean that time goes really fast, like an arrow. It could be instructions. Measure the speed of flies like you measure the speed of an arrow. Or it could be a description about a certain type of fly. Fruit flies like a banana, house flies like your dinner, and time flies like an arrow. But for most normal humans, when they see that sentence, they immediately ASSUME it means the first thing. That time goes by quickly, just like an arrow goes by quickly. This is one of the techniques to fade their brains. Throw in a sentence that has some ambiguity. That will be interpreted one way. But then later, add some more information that will FORCE them to interpret it the other way. Only by the time you get to that second bit of information, that first sentence, with the ambiguity and it's first assumed meaning, will be slipping away from their short term memory. When THAT happens, all other stray thoughts will STOP. And they'll be intensely focused on what you are saying. And they WON'T really know why. All they'll REALLY know is that for some reason, YOU are the most interesting person they've ever met. And they somehow can't keep their brain off you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  21. English has a lot of ambiguities built in. It makes sense, considering the history of humans and language. Human language first showed up 50,000 years ago or so. Nobody really knows, since there wasn't a record until people started writing stuff down. And most people didn't start writing stuff down until they had a need to. And this was most likely for accounting reasons. Rich people wanted to keep track of how much stuff they had, and how much people owed them. But before that, we can imagine what kind of stuff people talked about. Hunting strategies, tools, and all the stories they made up at night while looking up at the stars. The stuff they described at the time when language was invented was pretty simple. Not a lot of intangible nouns. Now, however, there are TONS of intangible nouns. Tons of metaphors that are used to described extremely complicated things. Metaphors about collections of metaphors. Even something as "scientific" as mathematics may just be a metaphor. It's sort of an idealized description of the physical world. But some if the ideas in mathematics aren't really that tangible. Things like different types of infinities, irrational numbers, imaginary numbers. (Once I had a professor in college who said ALL numbers are imaginary.) We can look at this confusing collection of words that we use to describe our world in a few ways. One is to be in awe of the world, and walk around with child-like wonder. That's kind of cool, but it's also kind of hard to keep up. Another way is to have tons of fun. There are plenty of ways you can say things that make our brains feel funny. This is pretty much the reason we make and enjoy jokes. One source of never-ending amusement is when the news media says funny things on accident. For example, once a weatherman promised ten inches of snow one evening. That night, it didn't snow. The female anchor, before turning the news over to the weatherman, wanted to remind everybody that he said it was going to snow, but it didn't. Unfortunately (for her at least) she turned to him and said: "Where're those ten inches you promised me last night?" As soon as she said, she realized her mistake. The rest of the news crew (everybody, including everybody on TV) couldn't stop laughing for a couple minutes. Human language has HUGE opportunities for laughter. For fun. And for much deeper trancey effects. Which makes learning how to do this the PERFECT party skill. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  22. Most, if not all, humor is based on ambiguity. One of my favorites is a Grouch Marx joke. "Last night I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got into my pajamas I'll never know..." The first sentence makes it sound like the guy doing the shooting was wearing pajamas. Then the second sentence has the elephant wearing the pajamas. But if you look closely at the first sentence, it can be either one. When we humans come across a sentence that can go in many different ways, we assume the most logical one. Then later, when we find out we were wrong, it feels funny in the brain. With a little practice, you can build a whole communication style based on this one-two pattern. Where you toss out a sentence that COULD be ambiguous (like shooting an elephant in your pajamas) but is generally assumed to be normal. Then a couple seconds later, you toss out more information that contradicts the imagination in their mind that you just created. If you can do this well, and stand up and talk in front of a crowd of people, you can make millions of dollars and be world famous. Because this is the structure of humor. Spontaneous, party humor. Humor that's in movies and sitcoms. And the humor that is part of the absurdity of life. But these types of language is much more powerful than simple jokes. You can fade people's brains, look them directly in the eyes and say things directly to them that you would NEVER get away with otherwise. You can blatantly hypnotize people and they'll go right along with it. Understanding the built in humor potential of language simultaneously means you can understand the built in humor structure of thought. Since most people never really think much about language, or thought, this will seem like you have wizard-like powers of others. How you use these skills is up to you. If you just want to have a little fun, you can quickly be the most popular guy or gal at any social event or party in town. But they can easily be applied to business, or relationships, or pretty much anything. Once you realize that language (and the thought it represents) has a specific structure, the world becomes much more playful. You'll start to see many more opportunities. Every human mind you come across can be your own playground. Filled with buried treasure. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
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