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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec14Post.mp4 Humans have a collection of deep instincts, and conscious desires. The deep instincts operate more or less subconsciously. Our conscious desires are kind of how those are represented up on the surface. You don't have to remember to get hungry. If you don't eat, that will happen automatically. But it's up to you and your conscious brain to figure out HOW to satisfy that desire. For something simple like eating, the transition from subconscious instinct, to conscious desire, to action, to satisfaction happens pretty automatically. To the extent ALL our subconscious instincts can go through this process, life is pretty good. Our basic instincts are pretty simple. We need food. We need to stay within a certain temperature range. We need emotional acceptance from others. We need to do things, and get recognition for our efforts. We need sex. Take away any of these for long, and life can get lonely, frustrating, and difficult. But within these deep needs is also a possible way to satisfy those needs. Since most people will never be hungry and NOT know how to fix that, we can focus on the rest. It turns out that if you satisfy ONE of those needs, it can trigger all the rest. The more recognition you get from others, for doing things that they value, the more of other things you'll get. Namely, sexual and emotional intimacy, as well as respect and admiration from your social group. You get all these satisfied, you've got it made. So, how do you do that, specifically? The first step is to get a bunch of memories in your brain that says people like and appreciate you. Most people don't have that. Most people have a mix of fear and apprehension. So when they walk into work, a social situation or an unknown crowd, there's a mix of anticipation and anxiety. But with a long memory of people looking at you with admiration and respect, you'll soon learn to EXPECT that. Not from any false memories, but from real experiences. The money question, of course, is do you CREATE those real experiences. How do you interact with people so they will look at you with admiration and respect? Even better, how do you interact with people so when you leave, they look at you with admiration, respect and an obvious desire for you to hang around longer? So you build up a strong positive memory that says people WANT you around. People want you to STAY around. You do that by accurately pacing the things YOU KNOW exist in the brain. And accept and validate those things. This is the true secret. Figure out what YOU want most from others. And then give THAT to others first. Do that, and you will want for nothing. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec08Post.mp4 Linguistic presuppositions can be a very, very powerful weapon. But as they are almost always used subconsciously, and defensively. Kind of like we tend to favor injured parts of our body. For example, if you've got a sore left elbow, you'll tend to keep it close. It's instinctive and protective. You don't want it exposed. Similarly, we have tons of ideas we like. But we wouldn't really feel comfortable defending them logically. This is why using the meta model can get you in a lot of trouble, very, very quickly. The meta model can target with laser like precision the ideas we have in our brains. Ideas we don't want to discuss out in the open. The meta model is NOT a party skill. But linguistic presuppositions CAN be. But only if used consciously and positively. For example, consider the one called, "subordinate clause of time." Suppose you and your spouse were going out to get dinner. And you would LIKE to go to restaurant X. But you're kind of afraid that if you make that a conscious choice, they might disagree. So you'd very much like to slide the idea of going to restaurant X into an otherwise normal conversation. And you do so by putting the focus on something ELSE in that same sentence. Say, for example, your spouse or partner wants to see a certain movie. And seeing that movie is not such big deal for you. But it's a big deal for them. So you say: "Hey, after we have dinner at restaurant X, how about we go see movie Y?" The having dinner at restaurant X is presupposed. Assumed be true. Using the "subordinate clause of time" pattern. And the focus is on movie Y. Hopefully, they won't argue against restaurant X. On the other hand, if you said, "Hey do you want to go to restaurant X, and then go watch movie Y?" That invites them to change either choice, if they feel like it. There are plenty of ways to positively use presuppositions. For example, say your buddy is eyeing a cute girl across the room. You COULD say: "Hey, why don't you go talk to her?" Or you COULD say: "Hey, IF you go and talk to her, I'll buy you a beer." Or you could be clever and presuppose it's going to happen. Look at him, look at her, look at your watch and say: "Hey, we need to get there before happy hour ends. AFTER you go talk to her, I'll buy the first round. Let's get going." Not only are there plenty of presuppositions (about twenty) but there are TONS of way to PRESUPPOSE good things about other people. Most people give blatant compliments. But when you presuppose compliments, and hide them inside sentences, they'll leave their mind spinning. And when you use them as a "hit and run" technique, they'll have a positive feeling in their brain. And they'll wonder who YOU are. To Learn how, visit: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec06Post.mp4 A very powerful law of influence, which operates outside of conscious awareness, is commitment and consistency. This is the psychology behind sales funnels. This is why it's hard to change your mind once you've stated your opinion publicly. One reason why this law is so powerful is it conserves thinking. Our brains are very powerful, but they are huge energy hogs. We don't like to think if we don't have to. This is why doing things that are familiar are so comfortable. If you had a choice between riding your bicycle up and over a huge hill, or riding around that same hill, most normal people would ride around the hill. Riding around the hill would take less energy, and therefore be more pleasant, than riding up and over the hill. When we go out to eat, for example, we tend to stick to familiar choices. Going to a new restaurant, and looking over a new menu, and taking a risk on a new dish, would be like riding over a huge hill. That takes a lot of mental energy. On the other hand, ordering something you KNOW is going to taste good takes very little energy. So, we tend to choose the mentally easier choice. Especially if the MAIN reason for going out to eat is to enjoy some friendly conversations with friends. If you go somewhere new, that would take energy away from your pleasant conversations. This is also why we are much more reserved around strangers. We have to be careful what we say and how we act. If you reveal too much too quickly, you might kill any chances of a happy friendship or romantic relationship. Since knowing what and when to reveal things is mostly a conscious process, it is very brain intensive. So talking to new people is like riding over a huge hill. Hanging out with friends is like riding around and enjoying the view. Imagine if you met somebody who did ALL the work. They did all the talking. They somehow knew you. They knew the REAL you. Not only did they know the REAL you, but they accepted the real you. They appreciated the real you. And they did all this in a way that required very LITTLE of your brain energy. And they made it very clear they DID NOT want nor expect anything from you. They weren't trying to get you to join their MLM group or get you to join their cult. They were just being friendly. How would you feel about that person? More importantly, how can you BE that person? Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec05Post.mp4 I had this crazy nightmare once. I told my friend about it, but then I forgot. Later, he told me a story that matched my nightmare perfectly. He knew that I'd forgotten. As he was explaining it, he phrased it as if it was something that was about to happen. For a while, I was freaked out. I thought I was trapped in some kind of inter-dimensional rift. Finally I told him that what he'd just described was exactly like a dream I'd had. I thought maybe I'd tapped into some time travel, telepathic, future prediction dream technique. He started laughing and told me what had happened. That he was essentially telling me what I'd told him a couple weeks ago, but forgot. While he was telling me, it was like reality had broken. After he told me that I'd told him before, and forgot, I felt like an idiot. He, of course, thought it was pretty funny. And it was. After I got over my fear of the universe being broken, I thought it was pretty funny as well. The reason it was a horrifying experience for me was because the dream itself had been about magnificent death and destruction. Had the dream been about rock star sex parties, it would have been a much, much more enjoyable experience. This is EXACTLY why people love going to see psychics. We all have the same basic fears and desires. But since most of us rarely take time to look at these in detail, they live very vaguely in our subconscious. But with a little bit of practice, you can learn to "read" people's fears and desires. Describe their future in terms of these deep dreams. Of course, how you do this will have a HUGE impact on how they feel about you. If you deliver these readings as common things we all share, they won't have much of an impact. But if you deliver them as if you are noticing something very unique about them, they will be FASCINATED. Fascinated in your ability to read them to accurately. Fascinated that you've discovered their unique dreams. This will make them feel very good. Better than they have in a long, long time. Perhaps the best they've felt in their adult lives. If you deliver these correctly, they will associate this good feeling with you. Which, of course, you can leverage however you like. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/cold-reading/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec04Post.mp4 Imagine this scenario. You're at a party or social gathering. Bar, pub, club, etc. You see a cute girl or guy across the room. They're flirting with you. You're flirting with them. You've exchanged eye contact a few times. Flirty, quick, coupled with a slight, perhaps embarrassed smile. From a purely objective standpoint, it's on. On like Donkey Kong. But from inside your own subjective brain, it's kind of like what old school announcer for the Lakers, Chick Hearn used to say: "Ladies and gentlemen it's nervous time at the Forum!" This is a problem with humans. Objectively, things are easy. Subjectively, those very same things are terrifying. Without question, the most common thing that keeps us frozen is the age old question: "What do I say?" You know there is some deep, subconscious, even animal attraction. But it would be a bit silly to just walk over, get closer to them and only stare. It would be even worse to walk over and say: Hi. Uh, hi. And then stand there and stare. A common response is to memorize a bunch of lines and patterns. Even some short term personality behaviors. This can work, but once you run out of memorized material, you're back in the same situation. The more importance you place on them, the harder this is. Job interviews, asking your boss for a raise, talking a cute girl or guy into becoming interested enough to exchange numbers. Anxiety is like crippleware on your computer. As soon as anxiety kicks in, it sucks up all your thinking resources. But what if you KNEW what they were thinking? What if you KNEW what they wanted, and what they didn't want? Sherlock Holmes is famous for being able to read situations with insane accuracy. Of course, that's in books and movies, where the truth is expected to be stretched. But it IS possible. Not to look at her left pinkie, notice the slight indention in the right side of the tip, and guess that she'd been baking cookies earlier that day. But you can learn to read her body language. The way her eyes are looking around the room. The particular situation she is in. This will allow you to pace what's on her mind. Not control, or give advice, or demonstrate any weird pick up skills. But pace. To speak the same thoughts she is thinking. Most people only notice what's on the outside. You have pretty eyes! You have nice shoes! Your boobs look delicious! Anybody with a pair of working eyeballs can do that. But sense what's on her mind? And pace it, as if what she or he is thinking is completely normal? This will impress them far more than any other line-memorizing goof out there. Impress who? Anybody. Guys, girls, hiring managers, next door neighbors, friends, lovers and whoever else you want. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/cold-reading/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov23Post.mp4 When talking about persuasion and seduction, it's very common to focus on what words to say. People imagine going into a situation, they imagine somebody they'd like to meet. But then they get stuck on what, specifically, to say. When we tend to imagine unknown social situations, we tend to imagine our worst fears. We imagine the other person saying something that we don't know how to handle. This keeps us stuck. Even if we imagine how to respond to that, then our social fears pop up and we imagine them responding to us in a way that will get us stuck again. This is what happens when you take something as free flowing as communication, but think of it in terms of chess match. Sure, if you are studying or practicing chess, it makes perfect sense to think these terms. Of what they might do. And how you might counter what they might do. And how they might counter your counter. But human communication is not so conscious. Human communication is much more fluid, and subconscious. It's much more like a boxing match. Not in that it's combative, or confrontation. But boxing matches, much like communication, are much more fluid. If you have a boxing match next week, and you're focused on what kind of punch to throw, you're missing the point. To prepare for a boxing match, you train your entire mind body system to know what to do. So your conscious brain doesn't have to think. If you train in enough muscle memory and reflexes, you don't NEED your conscious mind as soon as the bell rings. Communication is the same way. But it's much, much better. Very few people study the structure of communication. Very few people even think about something like the structure of communication. So when you do study and practice, just a little bit, you'll have a HUGE advantage. Even better, is when people communicate, they WANT the other person to make them feel good. This is the OPPOSITE of a boxing match. They WANT you to make them laugh. They WANT you to create good emotions. They WANT you to create a positive and lasting impression. When you study the structure of communication, this is very, very easy. Because it's not about WHAT you say that's important. Not the content. If you learn to speak in structure language, you will be recognized as being much, much different than everybody else. Much, much better than everybody else. Much, much more attractive and interesting than everybody else. When you speak in structure language, no matter WHO you talk to, they'll ALWAYS want more. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov22Post.mp4 The fear of rejection is very, very common. It's a remnant of our childhood. All kids ask for a billion things. Even if a kid has a 50% success rate, this also means they have a 50% failure rate. Which means even the most successful humans have a crap ton of memories of asking and being told no. Sometimes with patience and kindness. Sometimes with anger and frustration. But we humans are pretty resilient. If you have kids, you maybe wish sometimes that your kids weren't so resilient. We keep pushing forward until we get what we want. All kids are pretty much programmed with a "keep asking until you get it" program. When we are adults, this childhood program is still running. Part of us feels as if we need to ask for whatever we want from others. Even if we don't express what we want through a question, we still feel some of that "asking energy." This is why most normal humans feel a small echo of that potential rejection with the silliest things. Like asking for more water from a waiter, or sending back the wrong dish. This is much more pronounced when we are in social situations. With a waiter or anybody in any kind of business situation, it's kind of their job to do what we want. But if you see an attractive person across the room, asking for their number seems a BILLION times more difficult than asking for more fries. However, asking is NOT appropriate. Nobody sees themselves as the holder of goodness. Of the giver of pleasure. To give or withhold their goodness based on HOW us poor peasants ask. EVERYBODY has the same collections of anxieties. So asking is the WRONG strategy. Instead, consider a strategy of CREATING PLEASURE. Not giving pleasure. Not exchanging pleasure. Not using the idea of pleasure to get what you want. Of just being a person who CREATES pleasure in others. All humans have a cause-effect generator in our brains. This has been demonstrated scientifically in children as young as six months. It's believed to be a very, very necessary evolutionary trait. So what? When YOU make it a habit of causing pleasure in others, just because you enjoy doing that, that will trigger the cause-effect generator. By creating pleasure in others, you will create the following equation in their brains: YOU = GOOD TIMES When more and more people start to see you like this, this will kick off some powerful and ancient attraction triggers. Social proof, authority and sexual desire. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov20Post.mp4 Hacks are very compelling. Way back when I was in Junior High school, my friends and I all played video games. The kind where you had to put in a quarter. Some games had "patterns" that only some kids knew about. Knowing about these patterns was pretty cool. Many games had different patterns for different levels. Most kids I knew had the patterns for lower levels, but not for higher levels. Trying to figure out what the patterns were was as fun as the game. Once I came across a coupon in the Sunday Paper for a free candy bar. Absolutely free, no strings. I immediately called my buddy and we went on an excavation in all the garbage cans and dumpers in the neighborhood. This coupon was on the last page of the Sunday comics. As expected, plenty of people didn't see it. As a result, we got TONS of free candy. Today, you'll find that same kind of thinking. Of finding secret shortcuts. Occasionally, you'll have what essentially is an inefficient market. Most markets are pretty efficient. They tend to fill in the gaps pretty quickly. But if you can find those gaps, and you have the resources to exploit them, you can make some serious cash. For example, at some racetracks they have a "pick six." If you get the winning horse in the first six races, you win a ton of money. But this is kind of like a lottery. If nobody wins, it rolls over until the next week. And a few times, gangsters have found these inefficient markets. Meaning if they bet EVERY combination of the first six races, it will cost LESS than the total prize. If they get enough of their soldiers down to the track in time to make all the bets? Easy money! Inefficient markets this are very rare, but if you keep an eye out, you CAN capitalize on them. There is also the same kind of thing in human thinking. Our brains are NOT logic devices. They are NOT truth seeking devices. Our language is FILLED with inaccuracies and gaping wide holes. Most of us think in vague terms, and speak in vague terms. Normally, this is OK. But it's also a very powerful EXPLOIT. It involves learning how to SPEAK a little differently. How to THINK a little differently. It is a very LITERAL way to hack into people's brains. Temporarily, or for more longer terms. This conversational technique was invented by a Dr. who wanted to help people. But since these are tools, you can use them for pretty much anything you want. (Don't let the name fool you.) Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov18Post.mp4 Social skills are necessary. But social skills are also very difficult to practice. Anything that has social skills built into it is something we don't even think of as skills to learn and improve. We tend to put them in the category of being good at them, or not being good at them. Being shy or outgoing. Being introverted or extroverted. There's even some very complex ideas about a personality TYPE. And once you determine your type, that's it. If you're not the "type" to make a lot of money, oh well. If you're not the "type" to be good with the ladies, oh well. If you're not the "type" to do well in job interviews, oh well. This is like MANY of our self-accepted limitations. They have two sides. One side is it feels very comfortable. Very safe. Because claiming to be a "type" absolutely absolves us of the responsibility. We can even pretend it's not our fault we can't get what we want. We are, after all, programmed with DNA, and an upbringing that we had nothing to do with, right? Sure, we'd LOVE to make more money, but that's just the way it goes. We'd love to be more socially outgoing and playful around attractive people, but that's just the way it goes. You CAN accept your limitations. You CAN accept that you'll NEVER do better than you are now. That it's not your fault. That's common, and safe, but pretty boring. Or you can slowly improve yourself. Imagine if nobody knew about exercise. Everybody just ate whenever they got hungry. And they ate whatever tasted good. Some people had jobs in factories. Some people had jobs behind desks. Some people were WAY overweight, but they figured that was JUST the way there were. Other people who were in shape, well, those guys are just lucky. That would be SILLY! Clearly, there's plenty of evidence that people CAN improve their health. It's certainly not easy. But it's absolutely possible. Increasing social skills is the same way. So long as you do it slowly, safely and consistently, you WILL get better. Sure, it won't be like magic. It won't happen overnight. But it WILL happen. One of the biggest fears of improving social fears is the idea of getting rejected. But there are plenty of ways you can improve your social skills without EVER worrying about rejection. A lot of ways to improve your playfulness, without EVER worrying about rejection. A lot of ways to improve our overall attraction, without EVER worrying about rejection. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov15Post.mp4 In fiction, there several common archetypes. A fictional hero must be relatable. Which means we must be able to see ourselves in that hero. Part of being a relatable hero is having flaws. The same human flaws we all have. But heroes also have mad skills. Mad skills we wish we all had. Mad skills we all want to strive for. We LOVE the idea of having super powers. Of being able to do things other people can't do. So we can HELP people. To make people feel better. This is a deep human desire. Perhaps the most powerful human instinct. To get out into the world, do something magnificent, and be recognized for our heroic efforts. This is the basic structure of every hero's journey story told since the dawn of time. Even BEFORE the dawn of time. Since way back before we could write stuff down, we could tell stories. Language and storytelling are two sides of the same coin. Our language is filled with metaphors. Abstract ideas that describe deeply intellectual and cerebral concepts. Being able to hallucinate is also a very powerful skill. Every young hunter that went out for the first time was helped by his imaginary role models. The exact SAME archetypes who help us modern humans in modern stories. Language is very powerful. Language is magical, mystical. Yet at the same, language is much more than the words. If you ever travel a foreign country, you'll find it's pretty easy to have a conversation WITHOUT words. Once I haggled with a deaf person over the price of a souvenir. For about twenty minutes. Even though no words were being spoken, my head was filled with pictures. Pictures delivered from her brain to mine. Delivered by facial expressions, gestures, and some very powerful eye contact. Most people don't think about words or the ideas they represent. Most people have half baked thoughts and spit them out with poorly chosen words. Master the art of language, and you will master the art of thought. Simply by being present, and speaking, you will have a super hero impact on those lucky enough to be in your sphere of influence. This is something most never consider. Of being able to improve the quality of your language. Of being able to improve the quality of your thought. But in between thought and language is magic. Spellbinding mind control that will leave a lasting impression. Learn modern magic, and become a wizard. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov14Post.mp4 When we humans interact with one another, we very much want to create a positive reaction. This is so deeply instinctive we rarely think about it. Generally speaking, there are only three categories of interaction, with respect to outcome. The most common is we interact with others, and we want very much to create a positive impression. Second is we want them to leave us alone. Third is when we want to be aggressive and defeat them. This can be in a physical confrontation. This can be in a direct argument. This can be by outframing them somehow. The first category is the most interesting. The better you can create better feelings in others, the easier pretty much every else will do. For example, imagine if you had a magic pendant. And whenever you wore it, it would have a magic affect on people. They would see you, and feel really good. And they would associate that good feeling with you. So whatever you wanted, they would be willing to help. If they were selling something, they'd give you a really good deal. If you were selling something, they would want to buy it. If there were any potential sexual or romantic chemistry, your magic pendant would ignite it. Most people are DESPERATE for this kind of affect on others. But few have any idea HOW to create it. Most of us try to say and do things that we HOPE will have that impact. Particularly when we see an attractive person. We want to interact with them in a way that will create positive emotions. We say and do things HOPING they will "create" those positive emotions. Most people are absolutely CLUELESS on how this works. The interactivity between language and thought. And the interactivity between thought and emotions. We say things hoping they will create thoughts. Which we hope will create the right emotions. If we are lucky, we create some positive feelings once in a while. But most of the time, for most people, this process is haphazard at best. But that's if you are targeting the surface level language. What's really important is the underlying emotions. A powerful shortcut is to bypass the surface level language altogether. And operate directly on thoughts and emotions. Much less haphazard. Much more repeatable, controllable, and predictable. The best part is nobody will know what's going on except for you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov13Post.mp4 There are two ways to make an impression on somebody. One is to be "better" than everybody else. This is what nearly everybody does. Even when we are having regular conversations with regular people, everybody tends to outdo one another. The loudest laugh, the most interesting comment or anecdote. Most of the stuff most people do is done to hopefully impress others. Imagine, just for a moment, that nobody was allowed to talk about things like watching documentaries, or other non-fictional material. Sure, we like to watch those things because they are interesting, but we also like to watch those things so we can talk about how we like to watch those things. Few people "brag" about how they love to watch brainless superhero movies. But plenty of people "brag" about how they watch documentaries. Check any online dating profile, and people will tend to use the idea that they watch documentaries as a kind of positive trait about themselves. Documentaries kind of give us "ammunition" to use when discussing important things with important people. When we need to have interesting and important sounding opinions. But this kind of thing really doesn't get people's juices flowing. Most people like to feel good feelings. Happy feelings. Funny feelings. Excited feelings. Romantic feelings. Sexual feelings. Talking about how we spend time watching TED talks sort of makes us sound smart, but it doesn't create the feelings people REALLY want to feel. Few people have the ability to just show up and make people feel good. When we try to do this, we try to relate funny stories. Things that happened to us. But this is STILL a kind of competition. Whoever can relate the most interesting, and hopefully funny stories. This can be fun. But it's also presents the "fastest gun in the west" problem. Once you establish yourself as a funny anecdote type person, it's pretty EASY to outdo. You tell a goofy story about some guy you met on the bus. Somebody else can easily outdo you by looking in THEIR brain and finding an equally funny store. "Hey, that's like that one guy I saw other day..." And just like that, your time in the spotlight is over. The solution? Outframe EVERYBODY. Forget about competing based on CONTENT. Outframe everybody by focusing on STRUCTURE. When you focus on content, it automatically reminds people of other, similar content. Which leads to never ending content contests. But when you switch to using structure, nobody will have any IDEA what you just did. But they'll have a funny feeling in their brain. One that is hard to match. Since it's very hard to define. This will give YOU a reputation that nobody else can ever come close to. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov11Post.mp4 A very common issue is as follows. A guy or gal will want something socially. Maybe a date, maybe a sale, maybe simply increasing their network. They make an attempt. And it doesn't go very well. For a guy, it might be talking to a girl to get her number. For a gal, it might be the same. Talking to somebody, sort of "feeling it" but not knowing quite how to close. Or it could be somebody who is at a networking meeting, but they don't get as many contacts as they'd wished. The basic structure, though, is the same. A person interacts socially, and gets a less than desirable result. So they go home, go online and ask the Internet for advice. So far, so good. The Internet is a FANTASTIC invention. A very, very HELPFUL invention. But when it comes to giving advice on how to behave in social situations, it falls very short. Because when you describe your problem, you do so ONLY with words. And when you get the ideas from others, it comes ONLY in words. Social communications is VERY MUCH based on non-verbal energy. IMPOSSIBLE to describe in words. If you have the right energy, the words don't really matter. If you have the wrong energy, no words will work. Operating socially is very much like any kind of competitive sport. What you do is very much dependent on what the other person just did. And the only way to improve how you respond, in the moment, to what the other guy just did is to practice. At least in sports. But there is some very powerful techniques you can use socially. That make it much EASIER to respond in the moment. To respond in the moment much more spontaneously. Much less dependent on outcome. The reason outcome independence works so well is it frees up TONS of extra brain processing time. If you HAVE an outcome, you will always have that outcome in the back of your mind. It's like trying to work on your PC with a software update going on in the background. That software update makes everything SUPER SLOW. So if you are holding an outcome in mind, even subconsciously, it will make it much more difficult to respond in the moment. But here's the best part. Since all humans are social animals, we all have the SAME outcome programmed deeply into our instincts. We WANT to create positive social relationships. So you don't NEED to have an outcome. It's already programmed into your DNA. It's programmed into their DNA. Whoever they are. The easiest way to practice outcome independence? Literally, have ZERO outcome. Except to make people smile, laugh and have a good time. If you can do that, people will do everything to keep you around. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  14. If you watch a lot of movies, you'll start to see patterns. Long ago, when the first Harry Potter movies started coming out, a buddy of mine was perplexed. He didn't read the books, and wanted to know what all the fuss was about. So he went to see the first movie. After he saw it, he was still a bit perplexed. "Dude, it's just like Star Wars. I don't get it," he said. And he was correct. An orphan finds out he's special. This special orphan has to go on a mission. To find and kill some bad guy. Harry and Voldemort, Luke and Vader. Luke had a light saber and was a Jedi. Harry had a magic wand, and was a wizard. In fiction, they say there are only seven basic stories. If you study music, you'll find the same chord progressions in pretty much every song. Funny thing about humans is most of us tend to pay attention to the CONTENT, but not the STRUCTURE. The STRUCTURE of every hero's journey movie is essentially the same. An orphan finds out he's special. He meets a bunch of friends, and has to fight against a bad guy. When Joseph Campbell wrote the book about this structure, after studying mythology from around the world, gave it an appropriate title: "The Hero With 1000 Faces." Luke Skywalker, Harry Potter, Neo, Peter Parker, Dorothy, and on and on. This is a very, very cool thing. Because once you understand the STRUCTURE of something, coming with different content is VERY easy. What else has a similar structure? Humor. Nearly all humor is based on ambiguity. A quick story, and then the "punch line." The punch line nearly ALWAYS leverages some kind of ambiguity. Some jokes are set up so we assume the ambiguity goes one way, but it goes the other. The famous Groucho Marx joke: "Last night I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got into my pajamas I'll never know!" Even elementary school yard riddles are based on ambiguity. Why is six afraid of seven? Seven ate nine! What did the ocean say when the tide came in? Long time no sea! Why did the boy study on an airplane? He was in high school! Once you understand the structure of humor, telling jokes is easy. Making up jokes is easy. Because built into our language is a TON of ambiguity. Once you start playing with other people's ambiguity, you can have a lot of fun. Wanna know what ELSE is based a lot of vague ambiguity? Hypnosis. And when you combine the structure of hypnosis with humor, a wizard you will become. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  15. Everybody loves to laugh. Nobody really knows why. But we can imagine a kind of split test. Like advertisers and marketers do. Send two different ads to two different zip codes. Then see which one works best. Keep the good one, ditch the old one. If you keep doing this, you'll eventually have a very highly converting ad. This works just as well on sales pages. Human evolution can be thought of as a very long, organically evolving split test. Every generation has people made from the previous generation. Of course, there are a few mistakes. The mistakes that are better, in terms of replication, are kept. The mistakes that are worse, are not. So, once upon a time, we can imagine two tribes of people. One tribe that had a sense of humor. And another tribe that was always serious. Since WE all have a since of humor, it's clear the funny people won out over the serious people. This likely happened way before we became humans. Since lower primates also have this playful instinct. Perhaps laughing serves as a kind anxiety relief. Like a pressure valve. One thing we humans also tend to do is commiserate. Next time you're around a group of friends, sit back and listen. You'll find they inevitably start to complain about something. A person in particular. Society in general. This is an attempt to share a painful burden. This is easy. Making light of shared burden is not so easy. And since most humans tend to take the easy route, we tend to complain rather than use our humor instinct. Leveraging your humor instinct takes a bit of thinking. A special kind of "humor intelligence." But if you do it correctly, you'll be very appreciated. Anybody can complain. Few people can spin complaints around into funny stories. This is why comedians make so much money. People LOVE listening to them. And most comedians take random things that happen to random people. But they make them very interesting, and very funny. All the way back in history they had court jesters. Everybody KNOWS the necessity to make fun of the king. Most people expect to pay a lot of money to listen to a guy tell jokes. So if you show up and start SPEAKING with a special kind of "humor language" people will think you're some kind of wizard. And you'll be welcome everywhere, and always in demand. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  16. If you're going to sell something to somebody, there are basically two ways. The thing about sales is it's all about numbers. No matter what kind of technique you're using, you'll never sell all people. You won't even sell most people. The name of the game is to always IMPROVE your percentages. You can improve how well you qualify. So you don't even start your "pitch" until you KNOW you have a high probability candidate. Somebody who WANTS the kind of thing you are selling. And who wants it NOW. These types of sales jobs are hard to find. Why? Because this requires a lot of TRAINING. And guess what? Most companies that hire sales people also know it's about numbers. See, they know that some people are natural sellers, and others aren't. Which means if they keep hiring people, and teach them the bare minimum, eventually they'll get a few that are pretty good salespeople. This type of sales is like human automation. Human automation in hiring. Human automation in selling. Technique is not that important to this model. Numbers is king. This is the HARD way to sell. What's the easy way? Sitting down with or speaking to a warm client. Finding out ALL their criteria. Expanding their criteria. Getting them to think about what they want. To build up a HUGE ball of desire in their brain. They more they talk, the BIGGER their desire gets. The bigger their desire gets, the more likely they are to buy. This is the absolute EASIEST way to sell something to somebody. But you can also use this technique socially. When you're selling, it's obvious to everybody it's a persuasive conversation. But if you were speaking to somebody socially, there isn't supposed to be ANY reason for the conversation. Other than just to get to know each other hopefully enjoy each other's company. The META intention is to find a few people whose company you REALLY enjoy. This is SUPPOSED to happen naturally and organically. And it can. From THEIR perspective. But from YOUR perspective, you'll have a few secret weapons up your sleeve. (or in your brain) And that is a thorough understanding of what ALL people want. If you guide the conversation here, and use the same strategy you'd use in a sales situation, but much more covertly, it will work just as well. Except they'll start to see YOU as somebody they want to hang around. They'll see YOU in a much different category than everybody else. A much BETTER category. To them, it will seem like an organic process. A VERY LUCKY accident that they met you. But YOU'LL know the truth. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  17. There are plenty of ways to use covert hypnosis. Most people immediately think of two categories. Sales and seduction. Once you learn how to use covert hypnosis effectively, you can make a ton of money in sales. Naturally, there is a learning curve. Luckily, this is an ENDLESS learning curve. Meaning the more you practice, the better you get. The better you get, the more money you'll make. If you enjoy talking to people, eliciting their criteria, and then using covert hypnosis to leverage their criteria, this is a pretty good way to make a living. Same with seduction. Even if you never "close the deal," being able to speak to people socially and get them fired up is a LOT of fun. Many people start off learning covert hypnosis for seduction, hoping to get laid. But then they discover just how FUN it is talking to people. Using patterns to turn up their energy and excitement. Even if you NEVER want to see them again. It's common to see the world through filters. People that you WANT to have sex with, and people you don't. People you WANT to sell things to, and people you don't. People you WANT to become friends with, and people you don't. Most tend to use these filters subconsciously. If you see somebody that DOESN'T pass these filters, they kind of get lost in the background. But it turns out that these are the MOST FUN to play with. To PRACTICE using patters on. Why? Because you have nothing to lose, since you don't way to create any kind of relationship. That means you have EVERYTHING to gain. Being able to walk up to ANYBODY you see and get them in a good, happy outgoing mood is a very POWERFUL skill to have. Forget about those goofs in those billion dollar movies running around PRETENDING to be superheroes. Being the guy or gal who makes EVERYBODY feel better is the REAL super power. One you can practice every single day. And like any other skill, the more you practice, the better you get. The better you get, the more fun you'll have. Then you'll notice the TRUTH about these linguistic super powers. That once you see how much FUN you can have with ordinary people, you'll start to see opportunities EVERYWHERE. Opportunities for love. Opportunities for business. Opportunities for friendship. And ENDLESS opportunities for playful happiness. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  18. Hypnosis and humor have a lot in common. Both use ambiguity in a very specific way. The Milton Model, created by and named after Dr. Milton Erickson, carefully uses vague and confusing language. You can use it to create a structural story, but with a lot of vague elements. The guy listening to the story will sort of "get" the structure, but he'll have to fill in the vague information with his own content. The final feeling is a story told TO him by the hypnotist, but it's filled up with a lot of his own content. So he feels as though he's actually gone through the story himself, even though he's only been listening. There are also plenty of short term, brain-fading techniques. Like when I went fishing with my brother and a couple of his buddies last weekend. He was telling us about when they went to this seminar to learn hypnosis for sales. And then he was telling them that when you learn hypnosis and use it for both sales and seduction. You can use it this way to get a lot more money and get a lot more sex. In that short description (involving two things everybody wants, sex and money) there are TONS of undefined pronouns. He, they, etc. Since they are surrounding interesting ideas, namely about learning hypnosis to make money and get more sex, we tend to fill those pronouns in with whatever works best for us. When using Milton Model hypnosis, there are plenty of ways to leverage these purposely vague language patterns. When the vagueness is stretched out over time, it creates a very squishy feeling in your brain. But when the vagueness or ambiguity is quick, it creates a much different feeling. Why did the boy study on an airplane? Because he was in high school. In that particularly lame joke, the word "high" has two meanings at once. You'll find this in plenty of humor. One of my favorites comes from Groucho Marx: Last night I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got into my pajamas I'll never know! This works by creating a meaning that is assumed, and then quickly changing the meaning to something else. All three of these forms of conversational hypnosis are great fun in social situations. Turning people's brains into pancake batter, making people giggle at silly things, or even getting them to fixate on fantastic ideas (sex and money) surrounded by tons of vagueness. These three hypnotic powers will make you a party super star. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  19. Imagine two fighters. Boxers if you will. One guy has spent tons of time practicing lots of techniques. The other guy, not so much. But the first guy, with all the moves, is in very terrible condition. He is barely able to stand up after a couple minutes. He's so exhausted, he hangs on to the other fighter for dear life. But the second fighter, the guy who has very little techniques is in VERY good shape. He can dance and around and bounce on his feet for a full twelve rounds. Who do you think would win the fight? Unless the first guy got lucky, he would be too tired to do much. None of his advanced techniques would do squat if he was too tired to lift his arms. When it comes to any kind of martial art, it's clear that physical conditioning is as important, if not more, than the actual fighting techniques. Now, this metaphor is not entirely realistic. Because it would be hard to practice fighting techniques without also getting into shape. So we can imagine another pair of fighters. This time, their skills are equal. But one guy is in WAY better shape than the other guy. Obviously, the guy who was in better shape would win. What's this got to do with anything? When it comes to social behavior, interactive social behavior, there is inner game, and outer game. Outer game is kind of like the technical skills. Knowing what to say, and how to say it. Inner game is much more like physical conditioning. In a fighting metaphor, if you are too tired, you can't really use any of your technical skills. In a social situation, a weak inner game means you'll be spending A LOT of brainpower being worried or anxious. So any of the stuff you practiced before won't to mind. This is EXACTLY what happens when you practice a speech until you've got it down PERFECTLY. But then when you stand up to give it, it VANISHES from your brain. Your brain essentially freezes. This is why having solid inner game is much, much more important than any outer game techniques. But most people don't pay much attention to inner game. Since most people don't know HOW to strengthen their inner game. Most people simply assume that stronger inner game comes from experience. But this is incorrect. In fact, there are plenty of ways to build up a rock solid inner game, just like you could build up rock solid conditioning. You can do this alone, without needing to interact with anybody. And the longer you practice, the stronger your inner game will be. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  20. One way to understand attractive personalities is to think in terms of ancient societies. Our brains, bodies and instincts are the same as they were tens of thousands of years ago. We humans just don't evolve very quickly. So, what personality characteristics are MOST attractive? The biggest problem in ancient societies was getting enough food. Of handling problems that came up during that process. Back then, you HAD to be productive. You had to be able to get stuff done. And the more stuff you could get done, the more TRUE CONFIDENCE you would radiate. Not confidence based on anything fake. Confidence based on real memories of real experiences where you were successful. This may not be something you want to hear, but humans send and receive a TON of information via subconscious body language. So if you truly FEEL confident, everybody is going to know. If you are trying to fake confidence, it may work for a little while, but it won't last through a conversation. This is exactly WHY girls test guys. To see if their confidence is REAL or FAKE. Just that she's testing you is a bad sign. If she is testing you, her subconscious DOUBTS your confidence. But it's easy to create REAL confidence, even if you don't feel it. At least right now. The trick is not to conjure it up in the moment. This is the FAKE confidence that invites frame tests. Real confidence can be built using ONLY the memories in your brain. It takes time, but it is VERY POWERFUL. You can do this with any emotional state you want. Even building in various switches for various emotional states. People that are naturally charismatic and outgoing do this NATURALLY. Meaning they NATURALLY recall and reference positive memories. This creates a string of positive experiences. Which keeps the whole positive charisma cycle going. You can, however, jump start this process. Kind of like priming a pump. Just take some time, find plenty of decent memories and PURPOSELY reference those. And you can create that SAME outgoing, friendly, charismatic attitude. This is THE most important thing. It only seems like it's not because so FEW people have this natural, outgoing charm. But when you take the time to build it, you'll see. Once you have a collection of positive inner game states, layering some outer game behaviors on top will be EASY. Making you the most attractive person around. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  21. There is a clear discrepancy between what we say we want, and what we really want. The things we TELL ourselves (and each other) what we want is based partially on what we SHOULD want. But the things we actively GET, especially when nobody's looking, is what we REALLY want. This is one main reason why marketing studies must be done like medical studies. As objectively as possible. If you ask people for feedback, they'll tell you what they think you WANT to hear. So marketers have to take care to set up special studies so they can OBSERVE what people choose. Similarly, whenever anybody does any medical research, and the data is SELF-REPORTED, it's almost always flawed. Especially if it involves eating. Nobody is totally honest when they report what they REALLY ate. When thinking about humans and attraction, there is a common idea. That you should ignore what people SAY, and watch what people DO. But there is ONE THING that people SAY that want, and also respond to. The ONE quality we all both consciously acknowledge is desirable. And will subconsciously acknowledge as desirable. What is this mysterious trait? A sense of humor. Everybody SAYS they value humor. AND people naturally gravitate AROUND people who HAVE a strong sense of humor. Maybe because humor is a function both an inner and outer game. True outer game humor reflects inner game STRENGTH. Especially self-deprecating humor. This can be VERY DANGEROUS. Many people attempt self deprecation without being 100% congruent. So in a sense, they are kind of fishing for compliments. But if you can use self-deprecating humor with 100% congruence, it will be VERY ATTRACTIVE. Because it demonstrates massive inner confidence. This is the underlying "energy" of the "agree and amplify" response to any playful insults. "Dude, that shirt is ugly!" "I know, right! I got the UGLIEST shirt in the shop! Winner Winner chicken dinner!" This is HARD to pull off if you don't feel it. But if you DO feel it, the surface structure doesn't need to be complex. It can be very, very simple. Paradoxically, the BEST self-deprecating humor demonstrates the STRONGEST confidence around. It's almost like you are proudly challenging anybody to an insult contest. Where YOU can insult you better than anybody else can insult you. Only exceptionally confident people with exceptionally strong frames can do this. Which means that ONLY learning the words aren't enough. You must also build up your inner game. You can learn that here: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  22. There's a lot of math problems floating around online. They usually have a catchy title. Like, "90% of adults fail this third grade math problem." One I've seen a few times involves something called "order of operations." Say you've got a math problem with some addition signs, subtraction signs, multiplication signs and division signs. According to the strict rules of math, you MUST do them in the correct order. Otherwise you'll get the wrong answer. This is why many adults will "fail" those third grade problems. Because adults will FORGET the correct "order of operations." For example, consider the following math problem: 3+3x7=? You're supposed to do the 3x7 BEFORE you add the other 3. If you do them from left to right, like reading, and add the two 3s's and THEN multiply by 7, you'll get the wrong answer. But in English, this order of operations doesn't exist. It's only assumed. But this means you can have a LOT of fun. For example, say you went to a party. And somebody asked how it was. And you reported: There were a lot of pretty girls and people there. Most people would naturally assume the correct meaning. That there were a lot of people. And AMONG those people were some pretty girls. But you can misinterpret that on purpose. And assume that the group of "pretty girls" and the group of "people" are two different groups. So you might reply: "And the pretty girls, they were aliens or something?" When you learn to pay attention to the potential ambiguity in EVERYDAY speech, you can have a lot of fun. See, it's one thing to drop jokes. You say something funny, and people laugh. And then that's that. But when you purposely reframe ambiguity, it also INVITES other people to participate in. To PLAY ALONG with the joke. For example, in the pretty girls and people joke, you can EASILY go off on how "pretty girls" are a completely different species. Like they're from another planet, etc. This is the REAL SKILL of world class party humor. It's the kind of humor that can involve EVERYBODY. Not just some goof standing there hogging all the attention. And with the right inner game, you can covertly create a HUMOR CONTEST where everybody is trying to come up with the CRAZIEST examples. On whatever reframe you just dropped. All it takes is a little tweaking of how you view language. Do this and people will LOVE to have you around. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  23. One of the biggest stumbling blocks to starting a conversation is knowing what to say. You see somebody across the room. You smile, they smile. You flirt, the flirt. But then the thought of walking across the room and starting a conversation keeps you stuck. What would you say? Or you're in line somewhere. Maybe somebody is cute in front or in back of you. You or they glance around, your eyes meet, and you give each other the universal "What's up" nod. But then the same problem pops up. What do you say? You may even go online in search of "conversation starters." There is certainly no end of examples. But before you practice for hours in front of a mirror, consider this. Humans have been anatomically "humans" for about a hundred thousand years. Before that, we weren't yet humans. But we still communicated with each other perfectly. When they study chimps, even though chimps don't talk to each other, they have an EXTREMELY complicated social structure. So, what does this mean? Instead of coming up with a witty conversation starter, you should give people bananas? Not really, although that would be better than nothing. (Hey. You're cute. Here's a banana...) The point is the WORDS you say are not nearly as important as how you say them. And the first words you exchange with anybody only serve ONE function. To shift you from NOT being in a conversation, to BEING in a conversation. So make it as EASY on THEM as possible. It's tempting to try and say something clever, to impress them. But always remember you want to make it as EASY on them as possible. After all, the first words back and forth are really only so you can VIBE with your energy. If you words are too complex, both of you will be too nervous to do that. And for the first couple of minutes, all you really need to do is say some VERY simple things. Once they are comfortable with you, then you can start asking some easy to answer questions. How they answer will give you MUCH MORE insight into any memorized lines. Even when you are hanging out with close friends, the underlying ENERGY of the conversation is much more important the words. In fact, unless you are landing a jet via radio instructions, or listening to instructions on how to de-fuse a bomb, most of the time the words are IRRELEVANT. Focus on the underlying energy instead, and everything will be much easier. There are plenty of exercises to show you how. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  24. Imagine you were just about to walk into a party. And RIGHT before you opened the door, a super sexy person gave you a super sexy look. That would put you in a very GOOD mood. On the other hand, imagine the opposite. Right when you were about to walk into a party, a dog came up and peed on your leg. And the dog's owner, and all her friends, stood their laughing. That would put you in a very BAD mood. Most people accept this as normal. Stuff happens OUTSIDE of us. Then that puts us in a certain mood. That certain mood affects our behavior. Which affects the stuff around us. The people, etc. That can either KEEP us in a bad mood, or KEEP us in a good mood. If we happen to run into a string of GOOD things happening around us, we'll be in a GOOD mood. On the other hand, if we run into a string of BAD things happening around us, we'll be in a BAD mood. We say we're having a BAD day. Or we're having a GOOD day. But here's the thing. It's not really the THINGS that are happening around us. Once they happen, they are OVER. But their memory lingers for a while. In a sense, our conscious is a never-ending stream of what is happening, what we THINK is about to happen, and what just HAPPENED. And what JUST HAPPENED is projected forward slightly, affecting the events AS they happen. But we CAN have a huge amount of control over this. It's not based on magic, or metaphysics. Any more than doing pushups would make you stronger. Or running every day would burn body fat. If you PRACTICE remembering certain things, you can build up the STRENGTH of those memories. Build them up strong enough, and you can recall them whenever you want. So much that they can OVERPOWER anything that is happening around you. Putting you in such a good mood, that YOU become the CAUSE. And everybody else's mood will be an effect. Giving you the power to CHANGE the mood of everybody around you. What kind of memories do you want to recall? What kind of feelings do you want to HAVE whenever you want them? Any kind you want. So long as you are willing to build them, you will have them. You can build them as STRONG as you want. There is NO upper limit. Any feeling, any time, anywhere. A frame so strong that EVERYBODY wants in. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/ Till next time, George Hutton
  25. Being an entertainer is a valuable skill. Most of PUA tactics include demonstrating value. The bulk of the Mystery Method involves doing various bar tricks. Magic tricks, sleight of hand tricks, etc. They all have the same thing in common. Of the person you are trying to impress not needing to do anything. If you have plenty of tricks up your sleeve, this can be a fantastic way of standing out. Since most goofs CAN'T, even a couple of tactics can work wonders. But they do have their drawbacks. For one, if you happen to REALLY hit if off with somebody, you'll eventually run out of material. Once the REAL YOU comes up, it might not be the same. If you've ever seen famous comedians or actors when they are NOT being filmed or interviewed, they are MUCH DIFFERENT than on stage. Of course, if you're ONLY after hit-and-run fun, then having a half hour of material is really all you need. Show up, demonstrate value, pick your prize and have fun. However, if you want to develop deeper relationships, you'll need to be MORE than an entertainer. This is the other half of being socially outgoing that most people miss. There's a lot more than just showing up and entertaining the crowd. The flip side is how comfortable you make others feel. If you can not only tell a few jokes, and create good feelings, but also help shy folks come out of their shell, you'll be head and shoulders above any one-trick pony. And it turns out that easing others out of their shell is pretty easy. Even better, the longer you do it, the easier it gets. It's opposite being an entertainer type. The longer you entertain, the HARDER it gets. People start to build expectations. That's why it's usually only good for short term fun. But if you want to create REAL relationships, with friends, lovers, and everybody in between, then having the "make others feel comfortable around you" skill is a definite plus. It's easy to learn, and easy to do. And after you practice it for just a few minutes, they'll actually remember YOU much more than the tricksters. Why? Because EVERYBODY can enjoy the trickster. They do the same tricks for EVERYBODY. But when you flip the script, and find out what's important about ONE person in particular, then they KNOW you are focused ONLY on them. Which means they'll remember you much, much longer than anybody who's telling jokes or doing magic tricks. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
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