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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr26Post.mp4 Some of the best conversations I've had didn't include words. One was when I was haggling with a street vendor in Thailand. It was some kind of souvenir. A carved elephant or something. But what made the conversation so memorable was that the woman selling the items was deaf. But she was VERY animated in her haggling. We relied on a calculator to back and forth on price. She wanted a higher price, I wanted a lower price. The conversation lasted twenty minutes, and was very enjoyable. Another interesting conversation I had was in an okonomiyaki-ya in Hiroshima. Kind of like at Benihana, where different people share the same cooking space. It was a Friday night and there was a drunken Japanese businessman a few seats to my right. He'd heard me use some basic Japanese with the cook, and assumed I was fluent. So he went off on a drunken happy rant about something. I had NO idea what he was saying. But since I focused on his body language, it was pretty easy to inject the right grunts and nods in the appropriate places. Another conversation I had was in Scotland. I'd just gotten off the train at Glasgow. Was meeting my buddies in a couple days. But I had no idea where the cheap hotels were. Some old guy saw me, and offered to walk me to the street where all the flophouses were. But on the way, he started telling me a story. Only his accent was thick, I had ZERO idea what he was saying. Imagine a drunken Sean Connery with a mouthful of marbles. I just nodded and smiled and grunted in the appropriate places. Funny thing about being in foreign countries where you don't speak the language. For me, there was three distinct phases. The first is the terror phase. I'm locked out, I can't understand anybody and nobody can understand me. Next is the "breaking the ice stage," where you can kind of figure out how to get your point across, using gestures and facial expressions AND certain location elements, like signs or menu items. The third phase is the BEST part. Where you realize you DON'T NEED words. This is where REAL communication lives. Beneath the words. I've had friends in both Korea and Japan who spoke very LITTLE of the language, yet had very rewarding romantic relationships with NON English speakers. Once you get rid of your dependence on words, you'll find access to a level FAR TOO RICH for words to even describe. Not only do few people KNOW about this level of communication, but fewer still know that with some daily exercises, you can PROJECT massive amounts of strength, power, and leadership on this level. That will be subconsciously picked up by EVERYBODY. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr15Post.mp4 I've lived in, and have been to, plenty of countries where few people speak English. The first few times was pretty scary. It's one thing to be a tourist, and go to tourist places that are expecting you to not speak the local language. But if you're going to some neighborhood grocery store to buy something to eat, unexpected communication requires a lot of thinking. Two things that don't normally go together. Especially when they say something you don't understand, yet they are looking at you with a friendly, pleasant face and expect an answer. No matter how smart you think you are, this will make you feel like an idiot. Once I got over my initial fears of communicating, something else REALLY COOL happened. I started to notice the absolute MASSIVE amount of non-verbal communication. Whenever we talk to people in our native language, we RARELY pay attention to body language. When we are with our friends, we are relaxed. So we don't pay attention to the words OR the body language. When we are talking to somebody new, we pay ALL our attention to the words. But when you surround yourself with people speaking a language you can't understand, there is ONLY non-verbal communication. And guess what? Once you get over any anxieties you may have, speaking ONLY with gestures and other non-verbal communication is ALMOST enough. I've gotten directions, given specific instructions to barbers, and even had a conversation with a doctor while he was removing a cyst. All through gestures and other non-verbal body language. Most people will never truly experience, at least consciously, the VAST AMOUNT of potential of non-verbal communication. Being in a foreign country, surrounded by non-English speakers FORCES you to communicate through body language. But there are plenty of ways to practice this right where you are. It's like practicing anything else. It takes conscious effort, but it's worth it. Just a few minutes a day. And once you see how much information is being passed back and forth, it's like having access to an ENTIRE world of data. If you can consciously communicate in this language, when everybody else is doing it subconsciously and haphazardly? You'll be like the one-eyed guy who is KING in the land of the blind. And since you will be communicating on a level much more powerful than words, the words you do use won't matter nearly as much. Whatever you decide to talk about will be perceived as magnificent. Filled with charisma and magnetic attraction. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar13Post.mp4 The other day I saw this pretty cool gif. One of those short, animated ones. It was (I think) a lady sitting on the edge of a cliff. Not really a cliff, a huge rock formation. The edge wasn't really an edge, more like an ever increasing slope. And since it was a rock, and not dirt, she seemed to have a lot of grip, due to the surface of the rock. But she kept sliding forward. Because the curve was pretty gradual, it looked liked she might go sliding off the edge at any point. Then the camera zoomed out, and you could see what might happen if she slid only a couple more inches further. It was only a small, low resolution, two or three second gif. But it make me wince, and say out loud: "Holy crap, dude!" Just watching things like this makes us FEEL things. They think the part of our brain that makes us feel "sympathetic emotions" when watching others helped to maintain tribal cohesion in our ancient past. If we saw somebody in trouble, we would "feel it" ourselves, and that feeling would motivate us to help get them OUT of trouble. This would motivate us to help others, but partially for our own selfish reasons. By helping them, we eliminate their pain, so we eliminate our pain. We also feel good about ourselves for helping them. They'll remember us for helping them, and so will all the people who saw us help them. Key to all of this the "mirror neuron" effect. We see other people experience things, and we feel the same effect. It's hard to watch a guy on YouTube get kicked in the nuts and NOT wince, at least a little bit. This is ALSO one technique people use to judge us. Not judge in a negative way, but to get a quick read of who we are, our personality, whether we are friend of foe, etc. This happens quickly and mostly subconsciously. You see somebody shifty, and you just KNOW to avoid them. Or you see somebody who is confident and you KNOW they are good person to have around. We are ALWAYS projecting our opinion of ourselves, how we feel about the situation we are in, and how well we think we can handle ourselves. If you are up to no good, and trying to con people, you'll give off the "creepy" kind of vibe. If you are confident in yourself, your abilities, and your overall world in general, this will give off a much different vibe. In a very short handed, powerful way, the more you LIKE YOURSELF, the more others will like you as well. This has to be genuine, and not faked. Luckily, there are plenty of ways that you can slowly, consistently and easily INCREASE how much you like yourself. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct28Post.mp4 Everything comes with costs. This is the unavoidable facet of economics. It's one reason why economics is called the dismal science. Everybody loves the idea of free stuff. Politicians love to promise free stuff. People love to believe we are entitled to free stuff. PT Barnum famously said there is a sucker born every minute. And that we are suckers because we are willing to believe something that is too good to be true. This is always in the form of getting something that we don't have to pay for. Not pay for with money, but pay for with time, risk and importantly, something called opportunity costs. For example, many would LOVE to play guitar like a champ. Bring it to parties, start strumming some beautiful chords. Make up a melody off the top of your head. Impress all the ladies. But GETTING to that level would take a lot of practice. Practice is pretty boring. And while you are practicing, there are tons of things you CAN'T do. Like play video games. Watch TV. Hang out down at the pub. All these things you CAN'T do are the opportunity costs. So economics is DISMAL because it FORCES us to confront ALL the costs. Now, some people are lucky and stumble into success. For them, the opportunity costs are minimal. Because they LOVE to practice more than anything else. But for us normal humans, costs are everywhere. Even in things normally perceived as PURE benefits. For example, take spoken language. This is one thing that we have that all animals don't have. Associated with spoken language is all the thoughts it is connected to. This is a fantastic invention. We are much better off WITH this than without it. But it does come with some costs. What are the costs? By focusing on spoken language, and conscious thoughts, we IGNORE all the stuff going on beneath the surface. We talk to each other using words. Those words create conscious thoughts. But beneath the surface, there is STILL a ton of stuff going on. Stuff related to intuition, subconscious energy, and a TON of non-verbal communication. If you ONLY focus on the surface, you are missing a lot. Luckily, there are some SIMPLE exercises you can do. To SLOWLY recalibrate your non-verbal energy. Both how you project it, and how you read it. Making you much more powerful of a communicator. Than pretty much everybody else you will ever meet. The best part? The best part is two fold. One, is that few people will ever know about this. Two is that the more you do these simple exercises, the stronger you'll get. And the more of an advantage you'll have. Get Started: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug29Post.mp4 One time I was hanging out in my friend's back yard. I was talking to her husband about something. Something related to gardening. I don't know how this particular noun phrase came up, but I said, "worm poop." Something about fishing or fertilizing. But since I was trying to crack a joke, I paused just before the phrase, and said it with a little bit of emphasis. "blah blah blah.....WORM POOP!" My joke worked, and my friend laughed. But their kid, who was running around, stopped and smiled. She looked up, smiled, and said, "Worm poop!" Like she had just discovered something cool. I think she was about four at the time. She picked up on it not because of the words, but because how I said it. AND how her dad reacted. Which was to smile and laugh a little bit. I paused before I said it, I said it with emphasis, and then he laughed. And this sent her little brain a message that this was a "good phrase" to say. She probably understood what it meant. Worms and poop are two words that most little kids would know. This is how our brains are configured. When we are very young, we SOAK UP as much data as we can. But we have to know which data is GOOD and which data is BAD. We come pre-programmed with a lot of ways to find out. Words that are emphasized strongly. Words that are used with strong emotions, happiness, anger, sadness. This is one way we pick up negative money beliefs. All the words that are related to money are usually said with a lot of accompanying stress energy. So before we even know what money means, we associate it with stress. This is also how we pick up ideas about social anxiety. Whenever we hear words about US, they may be tinged with anger, frustration, or other negative emotions. Whenever we express ourselves, and attempt to call attention to ourselves, the response is often negative. Not overtly, but it doesn't need to be. So we grow up with a very strong "brain equation." One that equates expressing ourselves, or calling attention to ourselves, with an expectation of negativity. If this was programmed before we were three or four, this brain equations lives in our subconscious. Which means just thinking about it rationally won't help. But you CAN dig down and DETACH that brain equation. Which will obliterate social anxiety. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July1Post.mp4 It's a very common idea in pop psychology that communication is mostly non-verbal. This is mostly evident in situations where people are kind of "feeling each other out." If you were writing a technical report, short story or script, then the words are obviously WAY more important. But in any one-on-one communication, when you don't know each other well, the words aren't really that important. In job interviews, for example, plenty of companies toss out really off the wall questions NOT because they are interested in the verbal part of your answer, but to see HOW you answer. If you look at them sideways and say, "How the F should I know?!" that will tell them one thing. If your eyes bug out, you panic and remain silent, that will tell them something else. If you remain calm, think out loud and come to a decent answer, that will tell them another thing completely. In any kind of job that isn't based on rote memorization, they very much WANT people who can think of their feet, ESPECIALLY when unexpected things happen. Turns out this is the SAME energy that people look for in natural leaders. It's one thing to have plenty of experience in a lot of specific situations. So when those specific situations come up, you know what to do. But you're on a completely different level when you can come up against completely NEW situations and know how to handle them. Most people, when they come up against the unknown, tend to look around and hope somebody will tell them what to do. Paradoxically, the ability to easily handle the unknown doesn't have much to do with intelligence. It has to do with a rock solid belief in your ability to handle stuff that comes up. Not just the easy stuff. All stuff. The common response that people have, when they get stuck and look around for somebody to tell them what to do is because their brains FREEZE. And once anybody's brain is frozen, in-the-moment creativity is impossible. The trick is to ALWAYS remain relaxed enough so your natural creativity will be as powerful as possible when you need it. Nobody EVER knows what to do in unknown situations. Otherwise they wouldn't be unknown. But so long as you think of a few different POTENTIAL solutions, try each one out just a little bit, you WILL find a solution. And since most people suffer from frozen brain syndrome, YOU will be the person they look to for leadership. Getting to this level is much easier than most people realize. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  7. I'm a big fan of Star Trek. Well, not really a huge fan, and not for all Star Trek. I like some of the shows, and not others. Some of the movies, but not others. In one of the series, they had a woman that was an empath. But a really strong empath. She could read very detailed emotions of others. So whenever bad guys were pretending to be good guys, she would know. When good guys were trying to negotiate, she would help them. Of course, they gave this character this power because it's a commonly wished for trait. The ability to read people's minds. So you know what to say and what to say. If you were to take a couple minutes strolling around a club, you would know WHO was into you, and who wasn't. Or if you were in sales, you could read the minds of your customers and overcome their objections before they said them out loud. Or if you were in a relationship, and something was bothering your partner, you would know what it was and could help them with it. The reason we like to fantasize about skills like this is because we are all pretty lazy. Make no mistake, being lazy is a very powerful trait. Bill Gates, for example, said he values lazy employees. Those are the ones who always come up with better and more efficient ways of doing things. Employees that love to work hard would never make any breakthroughs. They would assume that everybody else loved to work as hard as them. Lucky for us, all inventions are made specifically so we can be MORE lazy. Does this mean we are stuck inside our own heads and can never know what others are thinking? Not at all. Quite the opposite, really. How's that? For one, EVERYBODY is usually thinking the same thing. And two, it's actually pretty easy to see which people want to have a chat and which people don't. After all, NON-VERBAL communication is more than 90%. The rest is really just sounds that go along with the much more important non verbal energy. You can learn to pick up and send this non verbal communication. So when you do start a conversation, with words, it's just a continuation of what's already been going. The cool part is people will LOVE you. Because everybody is always hoping somebody else does the initiation. YOU can be that person. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/communication/
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