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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct28Post.mp4 Everything comes with costs. This is the unavoidable facet of economics. It's one reason why economics is called the dismal science. Everybody loves the idea of free stuff. Politicians love to promise free stuff. People love to believe we are entitled to free stuff. PT Barnum famously said there is a sucker born every minute. And that we are suckers because we are willing to believe something that is too good to be true. This is always in the form of getting something that we don't have to pay for. Not pay for with money, but pay for with time, risk and importantly, something called opportunity costs. For example, many would LOVE to play guitar like a champ. Bring it to parties, start strumming some beautiful chords. Make up a melody off the top of your head. Impress all the ladies. But GETTING to that level would take a lot of practice. Practice is pretty boring. And while you are practicing, there are tons of things you CAN'T do. Like play video games. Watch TV. Hang out down at the pub. All these things you CAN'T do are the opportunity costs. So economics is DISMAL because it FORCES us to confront ALL the costs. Now, some people are lucky and stumble into success. For them, the opportunity costs are minimal. Because they LOVE to practice more than anything else. But for us normal humans, costs are everywhere. Even in things normally perceived as PURE benefits. For example, take spoken language. This is one thing that we have that all animals don't have. Associated with spoken language is all the thoughts it is connected to. This is a fantastic invention. We are much better off WITH this than without it. But it does come with some costs. What are the costs? By focusing on spoken language, and conscious thoughts, we IGNORE all the stuff going on beneath the surface. We talk to each other using words. Those words create conscious thoughts. But beneath the surface, there is STILL a ton of stuff going on. Stuff related to intuition, subconscious energy, and a TON of non-verbal communication. If you ONLY focus on the surface, you are missing a lot. Luckily, there are some SIMPLE exercises you can do. To SLOWLY recalibrate your non-verbal energy. Both how you project it, and how you read it. Making you much more powerful of a communicator. Than pretty much everybody else you will ever meet. The best part? The best part is two fold. One, is that few people will ever know about this. Two is that the more you do these simple exercises, the stronger you'll get. And the more of an advantage you'll have. Get Started: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug29Post.mp4 One time I was hanging out in my friend's back yard. I was talking to her husband about something. Something related to gardening. I don't know how this particular noun phrase came up, but I said, "worm poop." Something about fishing or fertilizing. But since I was trying to crack a joke, I paused just before the phrase, and said it with a little bit of emphasis. "blah blah blah.....WORM POOP!" My joke worked, and my friend laughed. But their kid, who was running around, stopped and smiled. She looked up, smiled, and said, "Worm poop!" Like she had just discovered something cool. I think she was about four at the time. She picked up on it not because of the words, but because how I said it. AND how her dad reacted. Which was to smile and laugh a little bit. I paused before I said it, I said it with emphasis, and then he laughed. And this sent her little brain a message that this was a "good phrase" to say. She probably understood what it meant. Worms and poop are two words that most little kids would know. This is how our brains are configured. When we are very young, we SOAK UP as much data as we can. But we have to know which data is GOOD and which data is BAD. We come pre-programmed with a lot of ways to find out. Words that are emphasized strongly. Words that are used with strong emotions, happiness, anger, sadness. This is one way we pick up negative money beliefs. All the words that are related to money are usually said with a lot of accompanying stress energy. So before we even know what money means, we associate it with stress. This is also how we pick up ideas about social anxiety. Whenever we hear words about US, they may be tinged with anger, frustration, or other negative emotions. Whenever we express ourselves, and attempt to call attention to ourselves, the response is often negative. Not overtly, but it doesn't need to be. So we grow up with a very strong "brain equation." One that equates expressing ourselves, or calling attention to ourselves, with an expectation of negativity. If this was programmed before we were three or four, this brain equations lives in our subconscious. Which means just thinking about it rationally won't help. But you CAN dig down and DETACH that brain equation. Which will obliterate social anxiety. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July1Post.mp4 It's a very common idea in pop psychology that communication is mostly non-verbal. This is mostly evident in situations where people are kind of "feeling each other out." If you were writing a technical report, short story or script, then the words are obviously WAY more important. But in any one-on-one communication, when you don't know each other well, the words aren't really that important. In job interviews, for example, plenty of companies toss out really off the wall questions NOT because they are interested in the verbal part of your answer, but to see HOW you answer. If you look at them sideways and say, "How the F should I know?!" that will tell them one thing. If your eyes bug out, you panic and remain silent, that will tell them something else. If you remain calm, think out loud and come to a decent answer, that will tell them another thing completely. In any kind of job that isn't based on rote memorization, they very much WANT people who can think of their feet, ESPECIALLY when unexpected things happen. Turns out this is the SAME energy that people look for in natural leaders. It's one thing to have plenty of experience in a lot of specific situations. So when those specific situations come up, you know what to do. But you're on a completely different level when you can come up against completely NEW situations and know how to handle them. Most people, when they come up against the unknown, tend to look around and hope somebody will tell them what to do. Paradoxically, the ability to easily handle the unknown doesn't have much to do with intelligence. It has to do with a rock solid belief in your ability to handle stuff that comes up. Not just the easy stuff. All stuff. The common response that people have, when they get stuck and look around for somebody to tell them what to do is because their brains FREEZE. And once anybody's brain is frozen, in-the-moment creativity is impossible. The trick is to ALWAYS remain relaxed enough so your natural creativity will be as powerful as possible when you need it. Nobody EVER knows what to do in unknown situations. Otherwise they wouldn't be unknown. But so long as you think of a few different POTENTIAL solutions, try each one out just a little bit, you WILL find a solution. And since most people suffer from frozen brain syndrome, YOU will be the person they look to for leadership. Getting to this level is much easier than most people realize. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
I'm a big fan of Star Trek. Well, not really a huge fan, and not for all Star Trek. I like some of the shows, and not others. Some of the movies, but not others. In one of the series, they had a woman that was an empath. But a really strong empath. She could read very detailed emotions of others. So whenever bad guys were pretending to be good guys, she would know. When good guys were trying to negotiate, she would help them. Of course, they gave this character this power because it's a commonly wished for trait. The ability to read people's minds. So you know what to say and what to say. If you were to take a couple minutes strolling around a club, you would know WHO was into you, and who wasn't. Or if you were in sales, you could read the minds of your customers and overcome their objections before they said them out loud. Or if you were in a relationship, and something was bothering your partner, you would know what it was and could help them with it. The reason we like to fantasize about skills like this is because we are all pretty lazy. Make no mistake, being lazy is a very powerful trait. Bill Gates, for example, said he values lazy employees. Those are the ones who always come up with better and more efficient ways of doing things. Employees that love to work hard would never make any breakthroughs. They would assume that everybody else loved to work as hard as them. Lucky for us, all inventions are made specifically so we can be MORE lazy. Does this mean we are stuck inside our own heads and can never know what others are thinking? Not at all. Quite the opposite, really. How's that? For one, EVERYBODY is usually thinking the same thing. And two, it's actually pretty easy to see which people want to have a chat and which people don't. After all, NON-VERBAL communication is more than 90%. The rest is really just sounds that go along with the much more important non verbal energy. You can learn to pick up and send this non verbal communication. So when you do start a conversation, with words, it's just a continuation of what's already been going. The cool part is people will LOVE you. Because everybody is always hoping somebody else does the initiation. YOU can be that person. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/communication/