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If you're in a really good mood, then you can look out into the world and see nothing but opportunity. On the other hand, if you are in a bad mood, (maybe you just got yelled at by your boss) then everything looks like crap. It's very easy to feel like the world is cause, and we are effect. Makes you feel small and insignificant. And because our monkey brains are hard wired to be hyper-sensitive to anything that might mean danger, it's EASY to fall into a negative cycle. Somebody bad happens, and then we start to focus on the BILLIONS of things that COULD mean more bad stuff is about to happen. It's enough to make you want to hide under your bed all day! Luckily, it's fairly easy to take control of your brain. Just choose what to focus on. This is hard at the beginning, but it's definitely a strength that can help in ALL areas of your life. Choosing where you point your brain instead of letting it choose on its own. Then you can focus on all the ways where you are a NET POSITIVE influence on the world. All it takes is getting out side, and specifically looking for examples. Walk down the street with a smile on your face, and ONLY FOCUS on those who smile back. Forget all the rest. Maybe the first day you get one or two. Next day maybe two or three. If you KEEP THIS UP, you'll have a deep and solid feeling that YOU make the world a BETTER place simply by existing. This feeling, of course, will spur you to WANT to get involved in the world a lot more. And with a lot more creativity. There are a kajillion things out there you can focus your brain on. YOU get to choose whether you let IT control YOU, or YOU control IT. Click Here to learn more.
I remember once when I was a kid, way back in 3rd grade. I had to pee really bad, but I was afraid to ask for permission. It was the beginning of the school year, and I didn't really like the teacher. She was pretty scary. AND I was in the back of the room. So I sat there, holding my junk, hoping recess would come before I peed my pants. The teacher stopped and asked me in front of everybody if I needed to pee. I was glad to go, but I was also embarrassed for having being called out. Kind of what I was trying to avoid in the first place. We tend to do things like this. We want something, but we're afraid to ask for it. Usually because we're afraid of two very common human fears. Being the center of attention, and rejection. And if we imagine those two things can come at the same time, we are generally pretty timid. But as you get older, you we tend to see those as things that can hold us back. Both socially and financially. The strategy most of us use is to simply power through. Fake it until we make it. Feel the fear and do it anyway. While repeating things to ourselves like, "fortune favors the brave," or "go big or go home," or "no guts, no glory." While these work, they take a lot of effort, and a lot of motivation. And it's easy to slip back. I remember when I made the decision to go through all ten speeches of the toastmasters program. Most nights before class, I had to FORCE myself to go. It was very EASY to come up with excuses not to. Luckily I belonged to a very close and supportive group. But we don't always have that advantage. Especially if you've got a job where you might have to stand up at a moment's notice and give a speech. Fortunately, there's a lot of ways to "sneak around" your fears instead of muscling through them. It does take a little of time, but you'll never have to leave the safety of your comfort zone. Ever. Click Here to learn more.
One thing that we humans have that other animals don't is our imagination. Sure, some animals can be trained through association, but most of the time they are running on pure instinct. Unfortunately, a lot of us don't use our imagination other than to waste time, or worse, imagine the WORST possible outcome. But as Einstein said, "Imagination is everything." And as a tool, it's got plenty of uses. For example, you can "try out" a few different scenarios, and see which one might work the best. Or you can use it to build in new behaviors, especially AFTER you try something and it doesn't work out so well. One way is to look back on an event that didn't go as you'd hoped. Then change it around, so you behaved slightly differently, and got a much better result. Then run through that NEW situation in your brain. If you do that enough times (not just once or twice) AND with sufficient emotion, your brain will start to remember THAT as if it really happened. So next time you're in a similar situation, you will REMEMBER that as if you've done it before, so the NEW behavior will be natural. Another way is to look at a certain event, and then break it down into components. Kind of like a sports team watching a video of a recent game. They can watch what didn't work, as well as what DID work. If you review whatever WORKED, over and over, that will reinforce that. Even if the overall outcome was not so great, by focusing on the part that went well, you'll be building in the experience of "every time I take action, I improve myself in some way." This will help you take better and better action each successive time. However, this, like any other practice, takes time. Like building a muscle, the more you do it the stronger you'll get. Unfortunately, most people practice the WRONG way to think. They imagine the WORST possible outcome. This creates tons of anxiety, so if they ever DO take action, they're not nearly performing as well as they could. This gives them the "feeling" of, "See, I KNEW that would happen!" You can control your brain, and your life. Or you can let your fears control you, your brain, and your life. One is easy, but won't get you very much. It's also very common, and is the way most people operate. The other way takes a little bit of effort, at least in the short term. But in the long term, the results are SIGNIFICANTLY better. Click Here to learn more.