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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov08Post.mp4 Metaphors are very helpful, and they are also very dangerous. They are helpful as they ease the transmission of ideas from brain to brain. They facilitate communication. They don't need to be accurate. So long as everybody has an internal idea of what they mean. We all have plenty of shared experiences. But these shared experiences are very hard to articulate. For example, say you see a cute girl across the room. You start walking over, but then you lose your nerve. So you slightly shift your trajectory and walk somewhere else. All the while pretending that was your initial plan. You do this so nobody will know, except you and your buddies, that you chickened out at the last minute. This is a very common experience. So when you came back, and face your friends, EVERYBODY knows what's up. They ask, "Why did you abort?" You answer, "Just wasn't feeling it." They know what you mean. You know what you mean. But supposed you were hosting an exchange student from another planet. A creature that was like Spock. Pure logic. He wouldn't understand why you used the term "abort." He would have no clue what it means to say, "not feeling it." Between humans, these two simple phrases, "abort" and "not feeling it" convey a TON of information. But to a Vulcan, they would be meaningless. This is how metaphors work to convey a TON of information, utterly rich in emotional complexity, with only a few phrases. However, when we argue, metaphors are the LAST thing we need. Because metaphors used to argue tend to completely miss the point. When having a verbal confrontation, often metaphors get in the way. They make very simple arguments SOUND complex. But if you pay close attention, the metaphors are REALLY saying some very, very simple ideas. Your idea is stupid. No, your idea is stupid. You are stupid! No, YOU are stupid!! If you pay close attention to any disagreement, especially online, this is basically the structure. Even worse is when you have a bunch of people on either side of the argument. Because the colorfully metaphorical statement of "you are stupid" means a great deal to one side. Just like "abort" and "not feeling" it means a great deal. The trick is to train yourself to look beneath the metaphors. To FORCE the other person to present their case in NON metaphorical terms. Because when they do that, they will be forced to admit their ENTIRE argument is of the form, "you" or "your idea" is stupid. Once you get them to admit that, it's very easy to crush their position. Just keep asking them why they think that. Since nearly ALL arguments are based on emotions, and NOT logic, this is an easy way to WIN every single argument. With anybody. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct13Post.mp4 If you were to approach strangers on the street and try and sell them a religion, this would be one of the hardest sells there is. In sales, there is the hard sell, and the soft sell. The soft sell is much, uh, softer. It's when the salesperson is the opposite of pushy. Like the guy who works in the electronics store and is paid only 10% of his salary on commission. And he's a tech geek so he knows everything about everything. He enjoys talking about the products. And since he only gets a little bit of a bump of he sells something, it's not that important to him. He'd much rather have a friendly conversation with the stuff he likes talking about. These are the guys and gals that are the most natural salespeople. Which, paradoxically, are the ones that make the least from each sale. On the other hand, you get somebody in the same situation whose ENTIRE salary is based on commission. For these folks, if they don't sell, they can't pay their rent. So THESE conversations are going to be the most hard sell oriented. Now consider a guy approaching people on the street to sell some religion. They really believe that if they don't convince you, your SOUL is in danger. It's one thing to walk into a shop. You have at least SOME interest in the stuff they are selling. But if somebody approaches you cold on the street, trying to pitch some religion, this has an EXTREMELY low closing rate. But the flip side is pretty fun. If you see a couple of goofs approaching you. And you KNOW they are going to sell you some religion. From this perspective, it is VERY EASY to mess with them. Ask a few meta model questions, and pretty soon they WON'T know how to answer them. They are EXPECTING a few minutes of the hard sell. Of them pitching and you resisting. They are NOT expecting some meta model questions designed to get SPECIFIC answers. Once I got rid of two Mormons in less than a minute. After only a few meta model questions, they were looking at their watches. They couldn't get away from me fast enough! I purposely kept a LOWER frame. I purposely asked targeted meta model questions. My INTENTION was to generate confusion in their minds, about their own religion. And with a lower framed, and some meta model questions, it was EASY. And it's equally easy to create ANY intention by combining a specifically lower frame, and some directed meta model questions. Not only is it EASY, but it's very, very fun. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
When people go on first dates, they hope to "click." If you've experienced this, it's pretty cool. Most of the time, though, it's like slowly peeling back the layers. Getting to know somebody over a long period of time. If you ask any female about a guy she's been dating for less than a month, unless there have been fireworks, she'll still be in the "deciding stage." Most of the time, under normal circumstances, it can take a while to feel comfortable enough to "open up" to somebody. So when you DO meet somebody that you automatically "click" with, it's pretty cool. What's happening during those rare events? On the one hand, you feel totally comfortable with one another. When two humans communicate, there are hundreds of variables, mostly unconscious. Some mesh well, some don't. This is normal. But when MOST of them mesh well, you get that instant feeling of deep connection. (Pro Tip: TALKING about an "instant connection" won't do squat!) Further, you each behave in a way that NATURALLY pushes each other's buttons, further intensifying the effect. This is what most ladies refer to as "love at first sight," when everything is happening like magic. But you CAN significantly increase the odds of this happening. And contrary to what most people think, it's NOT about saying or doing the RIGHT things. It's about NOT doing and NOT saying the WRONG things. Most people are pretty timid at first when it comes to sharing deep things about themselves. So that "click" feeling happens when both people feel the SAME about those deep things. But there is another way than hoping for random chance. It involves turning OFF your internal "judge." It involves REFRAINING from taking an "authoritative position." Most sales and persuasion techniques teach the opposite. They say you HAVE TO first get rapport, THEN you have to LEAD the other person. This DEFINES taking an authoritative position. Which means unless you have MASSIVE charisma, or they are REALLY submissive, trying to lead won't work. Which is why the opposite works so well. Shut off all inner judgment. Turn off that part of you that wants to shout out "ME TOO!" every time they talk about something interesting. You just sit back, be as neutral as possible, and keep asking them questions. And watch THEM light up like crazy. Click Here To Learn More