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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb16Post.mp4 Long time ago, I watched this amateur cage fight. They weren't exactly in a cage. It was a regular boxing ring, but it was in the ground floor of this huge shopping complex. The dudes started off pretty good, but they both got really tired really quickly. After no more than a minute, both guys were exhausted. They would try to throw a punch or two, and then hang on to each other in a tight clench. The kind of thing when boxers or fighters are barely able to keep standing. The kind of thing you see in the last round of a prize fight. These two out of shape dudes were like that after less than a minute. No matter how many punches or blocks you know, once you start breathing hard, they'll be pretty useless. You can say the same thing for interpersonal skills. Just like fighting has skills and stamina, interpersonal skills have skills and confidence. You can memorize the best lines, the most compelling closes, and most seductive stories and patterns. But if you are too nervous, they won't work. Fighters that are too tired to throw a punch may as well not know any punches. If you are too nervous to spit game, then it doesn't matter HOW much you know or are capable of. Imagine two fighters, one has TONS of skills, but is out of breath after less than minute. Other guy has very basic skills, but MASSIVE conditioning. All the well conditioned fighter has to do is wait until the other guy is tired out. Similarly, imagine two guys going after one girl. One guy has MAD game, but he's to terrified to use it. The other guy has very little game, but massive confidence. The girl only knows that one guy will approach her, and say hey. Other other guy won't. Which guy will she go home with? IF you had to choose, confidence and some VERY BASIC communication skills will WIN every single time. Kind of like what Mark Twain said about reading. The difference between people who CAN'T read and the people who DON'T read is NOTHING. Most guys practice game, and techniques to AVOID just walking up and saying "hey." But for most girls, regular social skilled backed by STRONG confidence is plenty sexy enough. Luckily, you can build confidence WITHOUT approaching any ladies. Which means when your confidence IS strong enough, it will happen automatically. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept29Post.mp4 A lot of things we humans do is to avoid facing tough issues. Eating, sex, TV, alcohol, drugs, etc. But unless we face these tough issues, they won't go away. For most of us, these aren't nearly as dramatic as on TV or in the movies. For most of us, these are like Mark Twain fears. Mark Twain famously said that 90% of his fears never happened. But unless you realize this, they will SEEM real. Which is the basis of one of those clever acronyms. F.E.A.R = "false enemies appearing real" The problem is unless you look at them in the eye, and PROVE to yourself they are false, they will act as if they are real. In every hero's journey story is what Joseph Campbell called the "belly of the whale experience." It's when Luke had to go into the cave in "Empire Strikes Back" to face Vader. It's when Gandalf the Gray faced the demon of hell that "shall not pass." And became Gandalf the White. It's when Hercules had to spend time in Hell before becoming a hero. It's also when Jonah was in the belly of a literal whale. And when Jesus was in the tomb for three days. Why are these "belly of the whale" experiences in nearly every hero's journey story? Because unless we face our FALSE FEARS inside, we'll never be able to face our real obstacles in the world. The obstacles in the real world are NEVER as big and scary as we THINK our inner fears and demons are. The ones that come in the middle of the night. Those pesky worries that invade an otherwise good night's sleep. Back in the times of hunters and gatherers, our deepest fears were VERY dangerous. They involved killing a huge animal that didn't want to be killed. For most ancient hunters, unless they literally FACED this fear, they would never get the good stuff in life. The mad social status. The crazy sex. The rock star treatment. All that was on the OTHER SIDE of facing their fears. Literally face to face with a much larger animal that very much DID NOT WANT to be killed. So every story they listened to around the campfire growing up had heroes who faced much bigger monsters. Dragons and demons and witches. If you never face your inner fears, the good things in life will always be out of reach. If you DO face your inner fears, the good things in life will be possible. Not easy, but possible. Mechanical even. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/seven-rules/
Mark Twain is famous for a lot of interesting quotes. One of them is regarding the difference between somebody who CAN'T read and somebody who DOESN'T read. Nothing. Meaning that have a skill and not exercising is the same as NOT having the skill. This is an interesting way to look at things. We all like to believe we COULD do something if we REALLY WANTED to. But we never really want to, so we never do it. There is a myth that we'll somehow "rise to the occasion." Meaning if a situation presents itself, we'll somehow behave much better than we normally behave. It's one thing to hold something in reserve, but if you NEVER use what you THINK you have in reserve, you might not actually have that. If you were an alien studying humans, and you had NO IDEA what was going on in their heads, you might be puzzled. For example, you would see TONS of people spending TONS of money on weight loss products, but nobody ever really loses any weight. One excuse we tell ourselves when we learn some "skills" is that at least we "know" something that we didn't know before. Meaning if we REALLY WANTED to, we could use those skills. On a much broader scale, those aliens would watch people read all kinds of self improvement books, but never really improving. Their bank accounts would be the same. Their relationships would be the same. Their jobs would be the same. The aliens might wonder what the heck is IN those books. On the one hand, the self help industry is a BILLION DOLLAR industry. So their are a lot of IDEAS being "consumed." On the other hand, not a lot of people are making any actual changes. What gives? If EVERYBODY is following the same courses and ideas, and NOBODY is doing anything different, there are two possible answers. One is that humans are incapable of changing. But that CAN'T be right. Because plenty of people HAVE made significant changes. In finance, in health, in relationships. What's the other possible answer? That maybe there is a fundamental flaw in the STRUCTURE of all those self development courses. Suppose the aliens ran an experiment. And they compared how people consume FICTION to how they consumed self development books. They might conclude they are the SAME. They read them, they have some fantastic imaginations, and when they finish, they go back to normal. Could it be the secret to real change doesn't like in those books? Maybe it's something that YOU need to discover on your own. Through careful, deliberate action. What if THAT were true? Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/goal-setting-sucks/