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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb03_Post.mp4 There are three basic ways to meet people. One, the oldest and likely the most comfortable, through your social network. Friends of friends, etc. This is when you come "pre-screened" or "pre-qualified." You have less of a burden to "sell yourself." Two, is online, which mostly is online dating. This is very difficult, and very dependent on how you can present yourself WITHOUT referencing your personality or communication skills. This is essentially the same structure as job hunting. Your "resume" or "online profile" gets you in the door. Your interpersonal skills do the rest. Most people underestimate how much personality plays in job interviews. Since you are talking to the hiring guy, you've already PROVED your qualifications. But just like online dating, your qualifications, things people can find out about you WITHOUT needing to talk to you, are ONLY to get your foot in the door. Everything else is based on personality. Since we aren't robots, or Vulcans, but rather, self aware, talking monkey people, people NEED to know they can "vibe" with you. If you have the right resume qualifications, knowledge etc., but NOBODY can stand you, nobody will want to hire you. Similarly, if your online dating profile looks FANTASTIC but you have an abrasive, or a relatively plain personality, you won't get past the first meeting. Luckily, ALL of this, except the social circle method, is based on a BACKWARD idea. The idea that THEY are the judge. And you are the person who needs to impress them. Kind of like those "Talent" TV shows, which are very much like the Gong Show way back in the 70's. The structure is EXACTLY the same. Performers come out on stage desperate to get NOTICED. Desperate to break into "show business." Desperate to gain the approval of the audience and the judges. This is exactly how most people behave during job interviews. Guys who strike out with ladies and folks who are desperate for jobs say and think the SAME thing: "Please, give me a chance!" This mindset is desperate and very unattractive. To both relationship seekers and hiring managers. For a job interview, the answer is pretty simple. This goes beyond simple linguistic tricks, but it does involve a reframe. But you have to build up the right mindset for it to work. First, know your value. Have plenty of options. See any job interviews only a POTENTIAL opportunity for a MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL relationship. Once you have that mindset squared away, instead of saying: "Please give me a chance," you say the opposite: "Why should I work here?" When it comes to meeting people in general, it's kind of similar but MUCH less aggressive. Much, much friendlier. First, ditch the "please accept me" mindset. And replace it with something much, much easier. Much LESS confrontational. One that will make EVERY interaction, even with strangers, much more positive and memorable. Even better is it will build up a POWERFUL mindset based not on wishing or hoping, but on EVIDENCE. A mindset that says people like you. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/first-impressions/
https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec19Post.mp4 The boundary between unconscious competence and conscious competence is a pretty interesting place. This is where your self awareness is most conspicuous. Like when you've JUST about, but not quite, learned something by heart. When we are born, we have a ton of pre-wiring in our brains. Language, basic addition, and plenty of other things. Other things we need to learn as we grow up. In ancient times, this was how to get food, not get eaten, and stay safe in different environments. Humans have figured out how get food in many different ways, in many different environments. Like we have a deep, automatic two way brain signal. Every time we wandered into a new place, we had two questions: Where can we find something to eat? How can we avoid what wants to eat us? These two similar programs are present today. You visit a hotel in a strange city for a business conference. You want to know where the hot nightspots are. You want to know what areas to avoid. In our very advanced, normal society, we can continue to learn. Here's a pretty cool mind experiment. Imagine if you were kidnapped as a baby. And taken, via a time machine, into a future 1000 years from now. You'd grow up and learn things in ELEMENTARY school that haven't been discovered yet. Things that are NOW too complex for even the smartest scientists in the world to wrap their minds around. This is the learning potential that exists in your brain. There are some things, that we try to learn, but we really don't need to. Before, we always wanted to know how to grow food. How to protect ourselves from the elements. How to find animals with fur. How to find safe places to stay. These were always pressing issues for the first dudes who wandered into an unknown territory. Once they'd figured all that stuff out, whoever was BORN into that environment would see it as normal. Stuff that everybody just does. But every time we'd move into a NEW areas, we'd have to figure out stuff all over again. Kind of like now. We aren't exactly moving into new territories PHYSICALLY, but we are metaphorically. Scientifically and intelligently. So there is ALWAYS stuff to learn, and discover, and intent, out at the margins of human knowledge. However there is ONE area where don't need to learn ANYTHING. Not now, not 1000 years ago, not 1000 in the future. The thing that is NOT dependent on technology, or what kind environment we live in. The thing that is programmed in at a DNA level. The thing we do the SAME WAY we've always done. What is that? Making friends and lovers. Because this is NOT based on technology. This is based on human nature. Which has been the same for about 200,000 years. Forget about learning how. Unlearn all the nonsense, and REMEMBER how. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/relationship-generator/