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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct11Post.mp4 They say that no man is an island. What does this mean, specifically? Nobody can exist on their own. Even you happen to have a fat enough bank account, and nice cabin far away from society, it is impossible to survive without other people. The stuff you buy has to be made by other people. The plumbing and electricity in your home has to be maintained by other people. Once a science writer tried, as an experiment, to make a toaster from scratch. Something that you can get for $20. Something so simple we take it for granted. But he wanted to see how complicated it would to build one. Entirely from scratch. Not buying the parts and putting them together. But creating the copper and the metal and the rubber and everything. It turned out that it was impossible. That's just the toaster. Making bread would be equally difficult. Grow the wheat, grind the wheat, mix it with water, put it in the oven. Of course, that oven would be need to be made. So even if you've got tons of money, getting what you want absolutely depends on other people. Sometimes this is as easy as handing over the cash, and them handing over whatever it is you want. Some bread, a toaster, etc. But what about things that can't be purchased? Like friendship or love? What about the money itself? Turns out this is where most people have the most trouble. The non-financial transactions. Making friends, creating relationships, and creating fat income streams. This isn't something they teach in school. Not even business school. Sure, they have all kinds of theories. But these theories are pretty vague. Especially when it comes to making friends and collecting romantic partners. The most common advice is very, very vague. Be yourself. Be more confident. Make a move. Easy for those who do those things easily. But what about the rest of us? What SPECIFICALLY do we do? What SPECIFICALLY do we say? Luckily, there is a system. A very simple system. To get from where you are, to where you want to be. To create fantastic feelings in others. So they'll be MORE than willing to help you get what you want. Whatever it is. Especially if it comes from them. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept29Post.mp4 A lot of things we humans do is to avoid facing tough issues. Eating, sex, TV, alcohol, drugs, etc. But unless we face these tough issues, they won't go away. For most of us, these aren't nearly as dramatic as on TV or in the movies. For most of us, these are like Mark Twain fears. Mark Twain famously said that 90% of his fears never happened. But unless you realize this, they will SEEM real. Which is the basis of one of those clever acronyms. F.E.A.R = "false enemies appearing real" The problem is unless you look at them in the eye, and PROVE to yourself they are false, they will act as if they are real. In every hero's journey story is what Joseph Campbell called the "belly of the whale experience." It's when Luke had to go into the cave in "Empire Strikes Back" to face Vader. It's when Gandalf the Gray faced the demon of hell that "shall not pass." And became Gandalf the White. It's when Hercules had to spend time in Hell before becoming a hero. It's also when Jonah was in the belly of a literal whale. And when Jesus was in the tomb for three days. Why are these "belly of the whale" experiences in nearly every hero's journey story? Because unless we face our FALSE FEARS inside, we'll never be able to face our real obstacles in the world. The obstacles in the real world are NEVER as big and scary as we THINK our inner fears and demons are. The ones that come in the middle of the night. Those pesky worries that invade an otherwise good night's sleep. Back in the times of hunters and gatherers, our deepest fears were VERY dangerous. They involved killing a huge animal that didn't want to be killed. For most ancient hunters, unless they literally FACED this fear, they would never get the good stuff in life. The mad social status. The crazy sex. The rock star treatment. All that was on the OTHER SIDE of facing their fears. Literally face to face with a much larger animal that very much DID NOT WANT to be killed. So every story they listened to around the campfire growing up had heroes who faced much bigger monsters. Dragons and demons and witches. If you never face your inner fears, the good things in life will always be out of reach. If you DO face your inner fears, the good things in life will be possible. Not easy, but possible. Mechanical even. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/seven-rules/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept19Post.mp4 There are two ways to respond to the world. This assumes that every single human will look out into the world and see it as being LESS than ideal. This must be true. Since all humans will always have a collection of unmet needs. Food, water, protection from the elements. Emotional, sexual, relationship needs. All these need to come from our environment. So at any given time, every single one of us looks out into the world. When we do so, we have a collection of things in our mind that we would like FROM the world. Some are conscious and simple. Some are unconscious and utterly complex. Some things can be satisfied quickly and easily. Some may take a lifetime, and we still may fall short. How we RESPOND to this common human experience will define our lives. When we are very young, we are helpless. We absolutely DEPEND on those around us who have much more power than us. Those who have many more resources than us. Up to a certain age, it is absolutely necessary to expect OTHER PEOPLE to satisfy our needs. But beyond a certain age, we need to start getting our own needs in our own way. You may even say this is the main PURPOSE of our life. To MAXIMIZE the stuff we can get FROM the world. By interacting WITH the world. Of course, part of this involves recognizing that the entire world is filled with other people. With every one having that same exact strategy. To interact WITH the world. To get their needs met FROM the world. It's common to think that SOME of our needs are still NOT our responsibility. Even as adults. How can this be? This would REQUIRE that some adults have the responsibility of TAKING CARE of those they will never meet. Non relatives. This is a dangerous idea. Of expecting your needs to be met by people you will never meet. It's one thing to put energy INTO the system, and expect energy OUT OF the system. Energy in being work, time, effort, etc. Energy out being money, goods, things we need for life, etc. This is healthy. This natural. Put in, and get out. As you go through life, you maximize the ratio. By making the things you PUT IN more and more valuable. And that you can do with less and less effort. But if you only expect to get things OUT, without also putting things IN, that creates problems. Because what if EVERYBODY on Earth decided to do that? The flip side is that you can figure out how to MAXIMIZE the ratio of inputs and outputs. Creating a much better life. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/seven-rules/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept15Post.mp4 Humans tend to externalize quite a bit. It's a very useful instinct. Imagine an ancient dude is out hunting. He tosses his spear at a animal and misses. If he got angry or upset at himself, that would NOT be very effective. Externalizing, on the other hand, would be very effective. Getting mad at the animal. This would cause anger. Anger would create more energy and motivation. This worked perfectly back in the day. When it was US vs. our environment. US were the people we lived with. The people we grew up with. Our environment was other animals. Other tribes. Or forces of nature that were treated like people. The gods of the sky, etc. Today, our instincts are flip flopped. Hunger is the easiest to understand. Back then, the rule was simple. Eat whatever tastes good. Eat as much as you can. Eating as much as you can was necessary because food was hard to find. Eating whatever tasted good was necessary, since there was a high correlation between good tasting food and healthy food. Tree bark, dirt, etc., didn't taste good and it wasn't healthy. Fresh meat tasted good and it was healthy. So were vegetables, fruits, some plants. Today, if we BLINDLY follow our hunger instincts, we'll get metabolic syndrome. Obesity, stress, high cholesterol, high blood pressure. We have to use our conscious minds to regulate our hunger instinct. Our externalizing instinct is also similarly messed. Back then, our environment was stuff that we needed to kill, or was trying to kill us. Today, our environment is other people. Back then, trying to kill an animal and getting mad at the animal was very useful. Today, trying to interact with other people, and getting mad at them if we don't, is NOT a useful strategy. Luckily, we can use our conscious minds to understand, tame and regulate our social instincts. Turns out this is MUCH EASIER than regulating our hunger instinct. Hunger is life or death. Social instincts are not. Which means when you figure out HOW to regulate and manage both your social instinct and your externalizing instinct, social interactions are MUCH easier. Which social interactions? All of them. Friends, lovers and everything in between. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instict/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept14Post.mp4 There are a lot of cartoon events that make for useful metaphors. A common one is when Wiley E. Coyote runs off a cliff. And he doesn't know he's no longer on solid ground. He stops, looks the viewer, and holds up a sign. He has to hold up a sign since coyotes can't speak. The sign usually says something like, "uh oh..." This is a very applicable metaphor. Useful for when describing something that has gone on too long. And what worked before is no longer working. Only nobody realizes it. The idea being that once people realize what's happening, they'll have a "Wiley E Coyote" moment. Then everything collapses. Lately, this metaphor has been applied to our economy. Specifically, the MASSIVE amount of global debt. Supposedly, everybody is going to realize that it's no longer working. And we'll all plummet to our death. Or something. But like many metaphors, they are very easily misapplied. The map, as they say, is not the territory. Even in the cartoon, Wiley E never dies. Even though if anybody DID run off a cliff, they would. Gravity is pretty quick. But collapsing economies usually take a while. Plenty of things can go on FAR longer than people think. From a purely historical standpoint, every single society that has ever existed has ended. Sometimes slowly and boringly. Sometimes quickly and chaotically. But they all end. One of the reasons may be that our mind-body systems were not exactly created to keep large societies. Our mind-body systems were designed to live in small, tight-knit communities. Where everybody knew everybody. And everybody had the idea that if you wanted to consume, you had to produce. Even a few decades ago, you won't find nearly the social problems we have today. From a pure social issue standpoint, we ran off the cliff long, long time ago. And only now are we starting to realize it. This is another MIS-APPLICATION of that metaphor. Wiley E Coyote is ONE dude. Society is made up of MILLIONS. And unless we've got our arms linked together, and we are all running of the cliff at the same time, we can not only survive, but thrive. It's just matter of understanding HOW our instincts are causing so much modern disasters. Once you figure this out, it's actually pretty easy to NOT run off the cliff with every other goof. You just need to stop and think for yourself. Look around, figure out what you want, and get it. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept13Post.mp4 Being told what to do is a comfortable feeling. If somebody tells you what to do, there isn't any worry or anxiety. If somebody tells you what to do, there is little risk. If somebody tells you what to do, so long as you follow the instructions, even if it doesn't work, you can't get in trouble. There are also many drawbacks to being told what to do. You are limited by the person telling you what to do. If they run out of choices, so you do. If they are up to no good, and they keep that from you, you may get in more trouble than you realize. The, "I was only following orders" excuse doesn't usually work out so well. We generally LOVE the idea of being told what to do when it involves money and social skills. If you wanted to learn how to ride a unicycle, you would need to practice. Nobody would ever think they could read a book on how to ride a unicycle and get it right the first time. But for some reason, we think we can learn how to make money or get people to do things WITHOUT needing to practice. Everything takes practice. But since most of us are terrified of practicing social skills or money skills, we pretend that's not true. Kind of like a meta cognitive dissonance. But there are some very sneaky ways to practice these things. Especially when you have a secret operators manual for the human brain. When looking at ourselves, from our own brains, we can be VERY confusing. But when you step back, and take our conscious, self-awareness OUT of the picture, it's surprisingly easy. Turns out that humans are the EASIEST to "train" animals there are. We are so easy to train we can train ourselves. This is one reason why we HAVE self awareness. But you don't need to "train" anybody. Just understand our very basic collection of instincts. Social validation instincts. Social status instincts. Communication instincts. Attraction instincts. And the most important collection of instincts there. Love instincts. Turns out love IS a very, very powerful feeling. But it's not based on magic, or alchemy, or metaphysics. Pure science. The BEST kind of science. The science that is easy to understand objectively. But the absolute BEST feeling there is subjectively. Understand the difference, and you'll see. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept10Post.mp4 You can buy a lot of cool stuff online. When I was a kid, if you wanted to buy something NOT from a store, you had to mail order it. Usually stuff that was in the back of comic books. You'd send them a check, and wait for WEEKS for it to come. Yes, WEEKS! Today, if it doesn't come next day, we get angry. On the one hand, it's cool to have stuff so quickly and readily available. On the other hand, it can ruin our ability to delay gratification. Being able to delay gratification is one of the most important META SKILLS. Meta skills are skills that will help you no matter what. It's better to always be improving these meta skills. Health, fitness, communication skills, social skills, interpersonal skills. The problem with living in a same day delivery world is we start to expect EVERYTHING to be instant. But you can find plenty of evidence that this is NOT true. There there still IS hope for us goofy humans. We STILL like TV shows that only come on once per week. Which means we are FORCED to wait. We still have the ability to build stuff and plan for stuff. One common problem today that was also a problem a long time ago was when our stuff came in the mail. Even if it took three weeks, or three hours, it requires assembly. And today as well as decades ago, there were two kinds of people. People who would follow the directions. And those other goofs (ahem) who would wing it. Once I put a desk together. Backward. Didn't read the instructions, figured I'd just eye ball it. Took twice as long. But if you follow the directions, you can generally build things pretty good. For example, my bed frame I bought from Amazon. Took a while to put together. But it is VERY sturdy. Looking at it, you'd never know it came in a box. Many other things we try and wing it, but we tend to mess up. Luckily, if you take some time, there ARE instructions. And if you take the time to follow the instructions, you can build ANYTHING. Even relationships. Friends, lovers, and everybody in between. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept09Post.mp4 What does it mean to put the cart before the horse? Normally horses pull carts. Horses have a lot of strength. Which is why horsepower is a unit of power. Power is energy per time. A cart, on the other hand, can only hold stuff. It can't do anything. So putting the cart before the horse means to get things backwards. Or to misunderstand which part is doing the work. And which part is being effected by the work. Another similar metaphor from self help is "the wake doesn't drive the boat." Boats move under their own power. The wake is behind the boat. A passive effect. This is normally used to talk about how our past doesn't drive our future. Our past is an effect of our past actions. Another similar metaphor is driving by looking in the rear view mirror. Instead of looking ahead, we sometimes look behind. Of course, if you're actually driving, and this isn't a metaphor, you'll crash. Crashing comes when not looking where you are going. All these metaphors are based on misunderstanding cause and effect. This is pretty common for humans. We see cause effect everywhere when it doesn't exist. Which means we mostly misunderstand pretty much everything. The most complicated interactions are emotional. Especially when other people do and say things, and we don't know why. We wonder what they want. We wonder why they did or didn't do what they did. If you aren't careful, we can start to project. We might imagine something bad that happened to us before. And since we FEAR those things happening again, we'll tend to see them when they don't exist. Which can actually CREATE those things. This is hard to see from inside your brain. Human emotional interactions are very complicated. Very easy to misunderstand. Even couples who have been together for a long time have a hard time communicating. However, all humans are driven by our deep instincts. Even if we don't want to acknowledge them. But if you take the time to understand what these instincts are, understanding complex human behavior is much easier. Turns out things are much simpler that we imagine. Because most of the time we are projecting. Which means most of the time we are reading MUCH MORE into a situation that is actually happening. Take a step back and see what makes people tick. You'll be able to predict actions. You'll be able to read emotions. You'll be able to create the relationships you want. And avoid the ones you don't. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept08Post.mp4 There are two basic ways you can cook. One is to follow a recipe step by step. This doesn't require you know anything about anything. Only that you can follow directions. If you are careful, you can create some pretty good stuff. On the other hand, if know some basics, you can invent your own stuff. Which kinds of things go with others. Some sales jobs offer very little training. They are based on pure numbers. They give you a list of names and numbers, and a script. The more people you call, the more you'd sell. Similarly, the more people they'd hire, they more sales the company would get. Even better is if everybody is paid on commission. At least from the company's perspective. This way, they would need to pay the people who can't sell. Only the people who can. These types of companies tend to sell very basic products and services. The better of a salesperson you are, the higher quality stuff you could sell. The more money you could make. This requires knowing a bit about human nature. Which turns out is pretty simple. Similarly, there are tons of tricks and techniques about how to get a girl to fall for you. Or how to get a guy to fall for you. Even more prevalent are all the ideas, books and courses about how to get your ex back. If you went ahead 1000 years into the future, people would still be trying to find out how to get people to fall for them. Love is the most confusing yet most coveted thing out there. Or in here. But it's not really that complicated. When you are IN love, or OUT of love, it's insanely hard to understand from inside your own head. But from several different viewpoints, and timelines, it's pretty easy. Easy to understand, easy to predict. Which means when it does happen, it will be much more enjoyable. Not only that, but you can accelerate it. Enhance it. Even create it. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept07Post.mp4 One interesting aspect of our language is the metaphors we use. The problem with MOST of these metaphors, is that we really have NO idea why they were chosen. For example, a common expressions is "raining cats and dogs." Everybody knows this means it's raining pretty hard. But nobody really knows why. Sure, there's a few theories, but it's impossible to know. Because who knows how long people used them BEFORE writing them down. Way back in the day, there wasn't much stuff being written. Books and newspapers. Nobody wrote blogs or anything like that. There weren't many newspapers. To get a job writing newspapers, you had to demonstrate a LOT of skill. Similarly, there was no such thing as self publishing back then. In order to become a published author, any company had to have a pretty good idea that your stuff would sell. All this meant that there were very FEW writers. And the editors that looked at these things being written were very CAREFUL about letting weird phrases slip by. Which meant they didn't put stuff like, "raining cats and dogs" into print until it had been a regular part of speech for a LONG TIME. So no matter how sure somebody is of its origins, it's ONLY a guess. There is no way there COULD be a record. And yeah, everybody has their theories. Dogs and cats climbing around on roofs and slipping off during the rain, etc. But based on how language and words evolve, there is no way to tell if that's accurate, or just popular. Even worse are metaphors. Metaphors about who we are and where we came from. A common idea is we have a purpose that is NOT dependent on our choices. As if we were made TO DO something. Sure, if you make a sandwich, the purpose is get eaten. But that isn't determined by the sandwich. That is determined by the maker. So if you DO believe in a "maker" as an entity, then our purpose would be up to THAT person. On the other hand, you might decide to CHOOSE YOUR OWN purpose. Why not? That's kind of the idea anyway. To figure out your skills, abilities, make a few friends along the way, etc. One thing that would help would be to understand not WHY you were made, but HOW you were made. The deep programs running inside your brain. The instincts that serve as the human operating system. Turns that they're not only NOT complicated, but once you figure them out, you may get a huge advantage. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept05Post.mp4 I've always liked science. When I was a kid I'd read science books. Once in high school, our teacher was talking about some obscure scientific concept. He asked if anybody had heard of it, and I raised my hand. He asked me where I'd heard about it. And I said it was from a science magazine. That brought a chuckle from everybody else. I guess high school kids reading science magazines isn't quite normal. In physics, their are four basic forces. Two nuclear forces, electromagnetism, and gravity. They goal is to come up with one meta theory that ties them all together. Some are close, others are not. The two nuclear forces operate on very, very tiny levels. Gravity, on the other hand, operates on MASSIVE levels. So far, nobody has a clue how you might relate the two. Add in quantum mechanics, and it gets even more confusing. They say what we know about science is like the coastline of a tiny island. And what we don't know represents the ocean. Which means the more of what we know, the more we realize we don't know. Human nature is like this. There is a LOT that seems utterly confusing. Like the meaning of life. Or if you're a guy, what women really like. If you're a girl, it's pretty easy. At least in the short term. There's that one joke that's been going around online for years. Two lists of what to do to create attraction in the opposite sex. For guys, to create attraction in girls, there are tons of stuff. All complicated, all emotional, all romantic. For girls, to create attraction in guys, it's pretty simple. Show up naked. Trying to understand things like human nature and the meaning of life from inside our own brains is pretty difficult. But it's actually not so hard once you take an objective view. In fact, it can be pretty easy. For example, most people know about things like social proof. Social proof is a powerful advertising technique. It can also be used and dating. Understanding it from the outside is easy. Being effected by it from the inside is hard to spot, unless you are deliberately looking for it. All our social instincts are like this. And all our social instincts can combine to create some very powerful feelings. When it comes down to it, our main "purpose" is pretty basic. Get enough food, don't get killed and make more people. Understanding how all our instincts conspire to make this happen is pretty fascinating. And very useful. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept04Post.mp4 A long time ago, our taste buds were carefully calibrated to our environment. The stuff we liked to eat happened to be very healthy. Maybe once upon a time there were some goofy cave people who liked eating tree bark. Or maybe tree bark mixed with dirt. But since tree bark and dirt isn't part of a healthy caveman diet, those guys all died. So today, nobody has the "tree bark is delicious" genes. It's an interesting discovery that people who existed before the agricultural revolution had slightly different bodies. They were meat eaters. While the post agricultural people ate mostly grains. This slightly changed people's makeup. This was still pretty healthy though. But one of the unrecognized changes AFTER the Industrial Revolution was the introduction to sugar into the modern diet. Ancient cave people RARELY got a taste of sugar. Most modern health problems can be linked to eating over processed foods. From a manufacturing standpoint, it's a dream come true. It's pretty cheap to produce the processed stuff most people eat. The same stuff that's very hard to NOT stop eating once you start. This is a clear case of instincts gone mad. Another case of instincts gone mad is the modern dating dumpster fire. Most people are lonely. Finding a steady and loyal partner is next to impossible. Which is kind of strange, since there's a whole slew of dating sites. But in a sense, it is the same as food. The MORE food technology they create, the WORSE our health gets. The MORE dating technology they create, the WORSE our relationships and emotional health gets. But just like we can use our rational minds to figure out the BEST food to eat to consciously create the BEST health, we can do the same for dating. This means taking the time to find out WHAT people are craving. The thing they aren't getting. It's one thing to eat some junk food. You KNOW it's junk food. It's no mystery WHAT you need to do to get into shape. Eat healthy and exercise. But very few people KNOW why modern dating is such a horrific mess. Which means if you take the time to figure this out, you'll have a HUGE advantage. And you can use this however you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
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Hindsight Bias and Time Travel: https://mindpersuasion.com/the-history-erasure-paradox/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/erasure-of-personal-history https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug07Loop.mp4
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One question that is tough to answer is what you do for a living. You could be in the middle of a conversation with a cutie and everything could be going smoothly. But then the "what do you do?" questions pops up. There are a couple of things to understand about this. One is there are always two layers of communication. Conscious and subconscious. If the conscious layer sounds good, but the subconscious doesn't, it will come across as incongruent. This is why movie acting isn't as easy as it appears. On the surface it seems pretty easy. Just remember your lines, right? But if you've ever seen a crap movie with crap acting, then you know that the lines are only a tiny part. The best actors have the best underlying energy to go along with their lines. So even if you have a decent sounding job, if you deliver your job description with some less than confident energy, it will kill attraction. But the opposite won't work either. If you work at Jack in the Box, and really enjoy your job, that might not be a good answer either. More important than how you make money now is what your plans are for the future. Not your hopes or wishes, but PLANS. If she asks what you do, no matter WHAT your current job is, so long as you deliver a solid PLAN for the future, it will INCREASE attraction. How do you do this? The first step is to actually CREATE a plan. Write it out. Start where you are, and write out your PLANS for the future. The steps you'll need to get there. Keep journaling these steps over and over. Until they are hard wired into your brain. Until it makes you feel ALIVE when you think about it and say it. When you think about your plan for the future, it should seem MUCH more compelling than any ONE girl. This is what creates very deep and irresistible female attraction. Of hearing a guy who doesn't chase girls, but chases his LIFE. But if you ONLY chase your life, girls won't naturally follow. You've got to interact with them. Not to try and seduce them, just to have friendly conversations. Make a habit of this, and pretty soon plenty of girls will be thinking of you. And all you'll have to do is choose the best one. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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Long, long ago, we humans didn't need to think very much. We were DRIVEN by our instincts. Those with the strongest instincts survived. Since food was hard to get, those who were always the HUNGRIEST were the most successful. Sexual desire is another powerful instinct. Humans are primates. And different primates have different strategies on how to deal with sex. Human females don't make it obvious when they are ovulating. Other primates, like chimps, do. Plenty of studies have shown that when a woman is ovulating, she finds a different type attractive than when she is not. Whether she acts on this attraction is a completely different story. Kind of like eating. If you are on a diet, and it's important to you, you'll feel ATTRACTED to certain foods, but not eat them. Just like men and women can feel ATTRACTION to certain people and not act on it. It wasn't always like this. Our instincts were created to DRIVE our behavior. So when ancient cave ladies were ovulating, they were naturally attracted to the MOST ALPHA looking and acting guy around. This makes sense in an ancient setting. When it was VERY important for her to have kids with a guy who would have the HIGHEST probability of providing for her and her kids. But just like hunger can be managed, so can attraction. If we ONLY ate what looked good, we'd all super fat. If we ONLY blindly obeyed our sexual desires, we'd be a mess. However, there is one thing that usually doesn't get much attention. And the attention it DOES get is the wrong kind. What I'm referring to is MALE sexual desire. When dudes get horny, they get desperate. And since most dudes are very UNDERSEXED, most dudes are VERY DESPERATE. Women know this. All too well. Just look at any girl that's got tons of orbiters. She KNOWS she can manipulate them. The trick is to NOT be one of those guys. Desperate for female attention and affection. How do you do this? There are TWO very powerful ways. One is to make a habit of making small talk with anybody you can. Men, women, old people, young people. Once you develop the habit of talking to anybody, anywhere, anytime about anything, you'll radiate a different kind of energy. The second is to get a handle on your sexual energy. If you wanted to stay healthy, you'd have to feel hungry and not eat. No way around that. To radiate non-needy energy, you'd do the same with your sexual energy. Feel it, but learn to live with it. WITHOUT expressing it. Napoleon Hill talked about this. Many ultra successful people know this. The BEST part is if you combine this with some very basic social skills, you will send out a very rare energy to women. It will make you seem unattainable, and therefore VERY attractive. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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There are a lot of over the counter "drugs" that are marketed for weight loss. And when it comes to weight loss, there's really ONE way to do it. You MUST burn more calories than you consume. This means you can either INCREASE the calories you burn, and keep the calories you consume constant. Or DECREASE the calories you consume, and keep the calories you burn constant. Or, of course, any combination. No matter WHAT kind of pills you take for weight loss, they will do one of those two things. Some are stimulants, and they speed up your metabolism. Some are appetite suppressants, and help you consume less. Some do both. But some are very tricky, especially how they are marketed. There was one company that got into trouble a few years back. Their whole angle was the magical sounding, "Lose weight while you sleep." Their particular pills were "precursors." These are building blocks of larger chemicals. The larger chemicals these precursors allegedly made were human growth hormone, or HGH. If you get an injection of REAL HGH, it IS like magic. Increased metabolism, faster healing, etc. A real fountain of youth. But the weight loss pill's angle was you'd take these precursor, they would "link up together" in your blood to build HGH. Then the HGH would do the job of making you lose weight while you slept. As a half baked idea, it DOES sound pretty convincing. But as a fully baked idea, it's not really so great. I would be like dumping all the "precursors" to a building, and waiting for a building to magically appear. Bricks, cement, lumbar, nails, paint etc. If you put all that stuff in a pile and waited, NOTHING would happen. You would need the actual builders to put the stuff together. And the plans, and somebody to PAY them. That's why those "lose weight while you sleep" pills never worked, and the company that was marketing them got in trouble with the FCC. But the idea of precursors IS a good one. Because no matter WHAT you are building, you NEED the smaller components. If you are going to make a sandwich, you need bread and peanut butter (or whatever else). But sandwiches, houses, HGH, these are NON-SENTIENT entities. When it comes to people, we have these programs that are already running. Our instincts are ALWAYS driving us to do things. Eat, sleep, reliever ourselves, get horny, get new stuff. And since we are EXTREMELY SOCIAL creatures, we have TONS of social instincts. That's why we LOVE meeting new people. That's why we LOVE hanging out with friends. And when you can carefully elicit the right social-instinct-precursors in the right order, that will add up to some POWERFUL social desire. And you can stick that desire to anything you want. You, your ideas, your products. Anything. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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It's very common to want a surefire set of techniques. Either for persuasion or seduction. The idea that you could memorize a set of phrases and lines that would work on everybody. There certainly ARE a large collection of courses that teach that. But when you understand how marketing works, it makes sense. There are a lot of courses that teach memorized patterns simply because there is a lot of demand. Just like there is a lot of demand for super hero movies, that's what they make. But is it REALLY possible? If you have a LONG ENOUGH set of patterns, and you practice enough, it certainly CAN work. If you think of any persuasive character on TV or in the movies, that is how they sell. They have a sales pitch that sounds fantastic. Mesmerizing even. Their pitch is SO wonderful that their target only has to sit there and listen, spellbound. And that spellbound energy translates into buying energy. Or romantic energy. Clearly, if you could memorize a five or ten minute soliloquy, filled with gorgeous metaphors and language patterns, you could seduce anybody. But that would take a LOT of work. And some top level acting skills. Luckily, there is a much EASIER way. The whole angle of memorized lines and patterns is based on giving the person YOUR REASONS why they should do what YOU want. Sure, if your reasons are fantastic, and they are delivered with a lot of charisma, this will work. But it's MUCH easier to use THEIR reasons. When we do things for our own reasons, there is LITTLE resistance. There are many ways to do this. One way is to become proficient in the Milton Model. To speak in specifically vague language patterns. So they will necessarily fill in the blanks with their own information. This takes a lot of practice. There is an even EASIER method. That won't feel AT ALL like persuasion or seduction. Because you're only asking very simple questions. Questions they will ENJOY answering. It's a combination of two very powerful techniques. One is a simple technique to elicit their deepest desires. In a way that doesn't involve much thinking on their part. And while you are doing that, you can also elicit their THINKING STRUCTURES. Everybody has these. But few people know about them. So when you elicit their desires, and their thinking structure, you can carefully wrap them around any suggestion. In sales, this is pretty easy. But now, it's easy to do in seduction as well. Because simply the act of eliciting these thought structures will create a MASSIVE connection. Between you and them. And when you do so WHILE also eliciting their deep desires, those will also be associated with you as well. All will happen naturally and subconsciously. So it WILL be their idea. Learn How: http://mindepersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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The best relationships happen spontaneously. For women, the best romantic idea is to get swept off your feet. Unexpectedly. For men, it’s commonly taught that the best way to talk to a woman is under the idea of “outcome independence.” If you are specifically trying to get a specific outcome, you’ll be much more nervous and upset if it doesn’t happen. Paradoxically, the less you are concerned with an outcome, the more likely it will happen. However, this only works in the contexts of male-female relationships. If you tried this strategy when baking a cake, it would be ridiculous. For example, if you left your house one day, and purposely didn’t care of a cake showed up while you were gone, it wouldn’t. To make a cake, you HAVE to have a solid outcome. You have to KEEP that outcome in mind when baking the cake. If you started thinking about peanut butter sandwiches while baking a cake you might accidentally slip in some peanut butter without knowing it. So being “outcome independent” while baking a cake is a silly idea. So WHY does this work so well in relationships? Because after eating, creating sexual relationships is our PRIME DIRECTIVE. It’s one of those things that happens naturally. Since people have been making people since the dawn of time, it’s kind of programmed into our DNA. You really don’t need to study game or anything like that. But you DO have to have a set of basic social skills. The more of these “outcome independent” interactions you create with potentially compatible people, the more likely it will happen. How, specifically, do you do that? Find somebody that is physically attractive. Before you meet them, make a promise to yourself that NOTHING will happen. ASSUME they are happily in love. With somebody else. And just enjoy them as a NON-RELATIONSHIP-POTENTIAL person. Enjoy their personality. Enjoy the subtle sexual energy. Practice your conversational skills. Think of this as one “seed.” This works if you are a guy or a girl. The more of these seeds you plant, the bigger your garden will grow. And the more confident you’ll be. Imagine having 5, 10, or even TWENTY of these people that you can talk to whenever you feel like it. This will boost your social skills, boost your confidence, and increase the likelihood that a relationship will pop up where you least expect it. And because you’ll have been practicing, you’ll be ready for it. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
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One of the biggest “deep skills” you can develop is the long game. This is considered “deep skill” because it’s not only intangible, but it’s something that isn’t testable. Developing the ability to play chess, for example, is a mental skill. But it is something you can test and measure. The same with many mental skills. Usually this happens in school, or in any kind of work related certification. You are given some information, you are tested on this information, and then if you can demonstrate that you KNOW this information, you’ll be given a piece of paper as proof. Usually from a recognizable authority. This is necessary for many reasons. If you show up for a job saying you can do a bunch of stuff, but you don’t have any proof, the guy hiring you would have to take a risk. On the other hand, if you had pieces of paper from recognized authorities showing that you indeed had those skills, there would be much less risk required on his part. But other skills that don’t come with pieces of paper are also fairly measurable. Sales is one of these. You might say you can sell well. Anybody who wanted to hire you could easily see whether or not you could sell in a short amount of time. So even if you didn't any certificates or diplomas, you could still demonstrate this skill. But some skills are skills that simply cannot be demonstrated. At least in the short term. They can be measured, they can’t be tested. To the extent that they can, they are very, very subtle. Hence the term, “deep skills.” Like being able to play the long game. Playing the long game means holding an intention in mind for a long time. It necessarily has to be the SAME intention. Most people start off with an intention, find out how hard it is to manifest that intention, and then CHANGE their intention. And then because of the magic of hindsight bias, they pretend they HAD that intention all along. But being able to hold the SAME intention (and not just pretend) is something that is very rare. And it is only something that can be tested over a long time. It’s also one of the most important skills in building a mutually enjoyable, emotionally and sexually satisfying relationship. You have to FIRST have the kind of person in mind that you want to get with. All based on NON-PHYSICAL criteria. Then you have to HOLD that intention while you go looking for them. Then when you FIND THEM, you have to build attraction and desire. This requires very strong long game skills. But here’s the thing. If you can master the long game skills of relationship engineering, you can master ANYTHING. Because in the game of life, the winners are the ones with the LONGEST game. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
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Deep within us are ancient instincts. Everything we want satisfies one of these instincts. One way to describe them would be in terms of Maslow’s famous hierarchy. At the bottom is basic stuff like food and sex and staying out of the rain. On top are esoteric and undefinable things like “self actualization.” But no matter how you get self actualized, or how long you stay there, you still gotta eat. And if you stay outside in the elements too long, you will die. Even if you DO become self-actualized, it happens inside your biological body. And your biological body comes with urges that keep you from dying. Urges like eating when you are hungry, having sex when you have a willing partner. Running away from an animal that wants to eat you. After all, if a hungry predator sees you meditation, it doesn’t really care if you are self actualized or not. I’m sure from a predator’s standpoint, a self-actualized human tastes just as good as a non-self actualized human. Putting esoteric ideas aside, all of our biological urges, which were given to us to help us stay alive, were “calibrated” during a much different environment that the one we live in now. This is the reason why so many people are overweight. Having the “eat all you can whenever you can” instinct was PERFECT way back in the day. Today, not so much. This is also why relationships are so frikking confusing these days. Our “relationship instincts” were calibrated in a MUCH DIFFERENT environment than we live in. One way is how we deal with “opportunity cost.” Opportunity cost is an economic term that means when you buy X, for a certain amount of money, you CAN’T buy anything else. IF you buy a cheeseburger, you CAN’T buy a burrito with that same money. When this comes to dating, it works the same way. If you are IN a relationship with person X, you CAN’T be in a relationship with everybody else. Way back in the day this wasn’t a big deal. But today, with a kajillion pretty faces bombarding us every single second, it is very much a big deal. But since our deep instincts are still the same, AND our instincts tend to rule our actions, they must be addressed. The good news is if you learn how to do that, your relationships will be much easier and much more rewarding. It will take time, but consider putting in the effort. Because creating very healthy relationship with a compatible person is one of the MOST IMPORTANT things about being human. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
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Everything must obey the laws of supply and demand. If there is plenty of something, and not a lot of people want it, it’s not going to be worth much. On the other hand, if something is scarce, and lots of people want it, it’s going to be worth plenty. Many people get the idea of economics and relationships messed up. When you go out for lunch, there are plenty of restaurants available. But they each have food. If you need a car, there are plenty of models available. But they all essentially do the same thing. The mistake comes when we think of things like SMV, or sexual market value. This isn’t really appropriate since personal relationships are much more subjective. A car, for example, has to have plenty of objective characteristics. Only after those objective characteristic (price, color, gas mileage, etc.) are satisfied, does subjectivity come into play. But when you are “shopping” for a relationship partner, there is MUCH more subjective difference from person to person. Supply and demand, and many other economics ideas, usually assume a certain amount of uniformity across the available products. But the difference between each individual is much different than between cars. So the term, SMV, is not really appropriate. Because relationships are all about how compatible people are. When shopping for car, you either like the car or you don’t. The car just sits there and is judged by the people shopping for cars. The car doesn’t have a say in the matter. But since relationships are WAY more subjective than shopping, AND compatibility is much more important, the idea of any kind of objective “value” is pretty ridiculous. And by altering your communication, you can make yourself MUCH more valuable to pretty much anybody. This is the whole point of things like education, learning and experience. The person coming OUT of any learning experience is more valuable than the person going in. This is good news. Because the more you improve your “relationship skills” the more “valuable” of a relationship partner you’ll be to more people. This will give you much more choice. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
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One of the biggest transitions to make in life is from child to adult. The childhood model to the adult model. The childhood model says that there are some things that are out of our control, and it’s somebody else’s responsibility to provide those things for us. The adult model says it’s completely our responsibility to get our needs met. The more adult you can be, the more resourceful you’ll be. The more you stay in the childhood model, the more dependent you’ll be on others. Of course, many people don’t like this idea. Not one bit. People in power LOVE the childhood model. That’s the MAIN REASON for their power. “Put me in charge and I’ll make sure you get your needs met.” This can work fine, for some things. But other things REQUIRE we force ourselves into the adult mindset. Whenever we are dealing with one-on-one relationships of any kind, the worst thing we can do is retreat into the childhood mindset, where we think we are ENTITLED to something from the other person. This is different from clearly stated agreements and contracts. On a fundamental level, a feeling of emotional entitlement is VERY unattractive. Especially coming from an adult. But most folks these days have some form of this “energy.” Shaking it seems hard. Impossible even. But on the OTHER SIDE of that is immense power. Once you fully embrace your responsibility, especially within romantic relationships, you can create anything you like. This takes time and patience. And you’ll have to release any fantasy of magic “just happening.” But once you embrace your own responsible “creator,” you can create. Creating is much better than sitting around waiting for something to happen. Imagine two scenarios. Both take place in the same location. A location with plenty of attractive people you’d LOVE to get together with, for whatever reason. Situation one is where you gaze out over the crowd, feeling powerless and “hoping” something will “happen.” Situation two is when you feel powerful and are deciding which person with whom you’ll MAKE something happen. Feeling total confidence that it will work just as you want it to. Which situation would you prefer? Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
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All humans are hard wired for efficiency. To to BE efficient, but to always SEEK better efficiency. For example, if a monkey is hungry, he'll look around. And he'll only get the banana that seems the easiest. Meaning he'll naturally put in the LEAST amount of effort to get the most return. When we humans think like this, it comes across in many ways. One way is when we are haggling for the cheapest price. Whenever we buy something, we would want the same thing for less cost. And whoever is selling something would want more money for the same thing. Some people LOVE to haggle, some people don't. They say that if something is too good to be true, then it usually is. PT Barnum famously said there was a sucker born every minute. What came next isn't normally included in that famous quote. But it's JUST as important, if not more. And that is those "suckers" that are born every minute, are suckers BECAUSE they are willing to BELEIVE something that is too good to be true. Most things worth getting are going to take effort. While we would all LOVE to believe in a "lose weight while you sleep" diet, all you need to do is look around and see that there's no such thing. If there WERE, everybody would be skinny. One of the MOST IMPORTANT things to have is a healthy relationship. This is just as true now as it was thousands or even hundreds of thousands of years ago. It's tough to it alone. But to have somebody to confide in, to have your back, to share sexual and emotional intimacy makes EVERTYTHING easier. Goals are easier to achieve, pain is easier to bear. The problem is that FEW people have such a relationship. But the truth is that most people don't put a lot of effort in. At least the RIGHT effort. Getting INTO relationships is easy. Anybody can do it. Maintaining them is the hard part. But maintaining a relationship with somebody you aren't compatible with is not only difficult, but it's pointless. But since most people are desperate when they are single, they'll get into a relationship with nearly anybody. So long as they are physically attractive enough. But as soon as the physical thrill is gone, that's when it gets tough. A much better way is to choose non-physical criteria BEFORE you get into a relationship. Most people don't have those. And they DO take time to create. But once you do, it's a lot easier. Working on relationships with somebody you are deeply compatible with is much less difficult. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/lovers/
