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  1. Acquired Taste Seduction Pattern: https://mindpersuasion.com/acquired-taste-seduction-pattern/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  2. Aircraft Carrier Brain: https://mindpersuasion.com/aircraft-carrier-brain/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  3. Inch By Inch Mastery: https://mindpersuasion.com/inch-by-inch-mastery/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  4. The Unseen Third Option: https://mindpersuasion.com/the-unseen-third-option/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  5. Escape Short Time Thinking: https://mindpersuasion.com/escape-short-time-thinking/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  6. Low Value Demanding Humans: https://mindpersuasion.com/low-value-demanding-humans/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  7. Checkmate Everybody: https://mindpersuasion.com/checkmate-everybody/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  8. Plant Seeds Of Love: https://mindpersuasion.com/plant-the-seeds-of-love/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan24_Post.mp4 One of the biggest changes in human history has to do with how we perceive time. Way, way back in the day, if you were hungry, you had to do SOMETHING to satisfy that hunger. And this usually meant turning another animal INTO food. But then the agricultural revolution happened. Humans were hunter gatherer nomads for a couple hundred thousand years. But then within just a few thousand years, we transformed from hunters to farmers. This FORCED us to change how we perceived time. Instead of doing something TODAY to benefit TODAY, we had to think about the future. Farmers do things TODAY so they'll benefit in a few months. And if they keep this going long enough, the stuff they benefit from TODAY is stuff that they did a few months ago. Through the long transition between hunters and farmers, we were FORCED by our environment to DELAY GRATIFICATION. This is, perhaps, one of our most powerful traits. If you can delay gratification, you can gain a HUGE advantage over most other humans. Once you delay gratification, you stop using your brain to think about acting today to benefit today. You start to naturally think about acting today to benefit tomorrow, or next week, next month or even next year. The BETTER you can do this, the stronger your LONG GAME thinking skills will be. And if you look at all the dudes now and historically who have built HUGE EMPIRES, either for good or for evil, one thing they all had in common was an appreciation of the LONG GAME. This contrast, long game vs. short game finds its way into many metaphors. Politician X is playing checkers (short game) while politician Y is playing chess (long game.). Country X has a five year plan, but country Z has a 100 year plan. The people to MAKE THINGS HAPPEN have very, very long game plans. The people who watch things happen have medium game plans. The people always wandering around confused, asking "what happened?" rarely have ANY plans. Binge watching, thoughtless eating, wishing for easy and magical answers to complex questions. It's no secret that the long game thinkers, the dudes in charge, wish EVERYBODY was stuck in the "what just happened?" section of society. And if all you do is show up, and do what you're told, that's where you'll be. On the other hand, if you can slowly ease yourself into longer and longer game thinking, and stronger and stronger skills of delayed gratification, you'll no longer be a victim. You'll be an operator. Creating whatever you want. Mind follows body, and body follows mind. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/ideal-health/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb20Post.mp4 Things that feel good in the short term rarely feel good in the long term. Unless, of course, those short term positive feelings are riding on top of a long term positive trend. For example, suppose you're training to run a 10K. You've got a target time in mind, and your nearly there. You've had a good run that day, and you're sitting down to eat some dinner. You cook a healthy meal. While you are eating it, the taste (which is secondary to the health aspects) reminds you of the path you are on. You look back into your recent history, and feel good. You look into your future, and feel even better. You imagine what it will be like when you cross the finish line under your target time. That particular meal is a REMINDER of all those good feelings. Good feelings that are a result of YOUR behaviors. This is likely one of the best feelings there is. Now think of somebody who hasn't done squat. Their ONLY concern is for the pleasure of the MOMENT. One that doesn't reference any past nor future. For food, this would be like eating a dozen donuts with a 2 liter bottle of soda. While watching a brainless TV show or movie. Feels good IN THE MOMENT. But not so much in the long term. This is a PERFECT metaphor for the dating market. Guys practice plenty of in-the-moment game. They spend tons of energy on clothing, hair styles, shoes and short term conversational styles. It works IN THE MOMENT, but only in the moment. Imagine a guy is wearing some decent clothing. He's practiced a few openers, some jokes and a few conversational techniques. This works for SHORT TERM attraction. Very much like donuts and Pepsi work for SHORT TERM mouth pleasure. But the next day, if he's lucky enough to wake up next to her, he's got to KEEP pushing with all his conscious might. This takes a TON of mental energy. Which makes it VERY unsustainable. On the other hand, think of a much more enlightened "player." He "in-the-moment" pleasure might SEEM to be less. But like our 10K runner, it's riding on top of a much longer term trend. One that is NOT dependent on luck. What trend would this be? Slowly building up his natural, masculine core. One that is part of who he is, so he doesn't have to THINK about it. If our runner trains correctly, he'll glide right to the finish line in under his target time. He'll ENJOY the race. Similarly, the enlightened "player" will simply have natural conversations with ladies that he DOES NOT need to think about consciously. And EVERY conversation with EVERY LADY, or perhaps even EVERY HUMAN will be like our runners healthy dinner. Absolutely DELICIOUS, not because of the in-the-moment taste, but because of the self generated TREND towards success it represents. When you're doing this for health, it feels pretty good. But when you're building a trend toward a stronger masculine core, there is nothing better. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec28Post.mp4 Many things have two time components. Short term and long term. These are almost always inversely proportional to one another. For example, sleeping in and then eating carne asada nachos along with a bottle of Jack Daniels feels very good in the short term. But it will kill you in the long term. On the other hand, getting up early, doing some calisthenics, and carefully monitoring your caloric intake most definitely SUCKS in the short term. But it will generate some very LONG term gains. Another common human trait is to get bad things over with as quickly as possible. Like pulling of a bandage. Or setting a bone. Or doing your taxes. If you combine these two you CAN end up in disaster. Especially when it comes to attempting to create attraction in the ladies. Generally it works like this. A guy sees a cute girl. He is getting some signs of interest, but you can never be too sure unless you go over there and say hey. So, the guy uses the bone setting approach. To get it OVER with as quickly as possible. But guys also tend to try the short term approach. To try to generate attraction RIGHT NOW. This very rarely works. Even the most confident guys, when trying this technique, have a VERY LOW success rate. Instead, consider flipping the script on BOTH models. One, forget about short term attraction. Attraction is BEST created in HER mind when you're not around. When she's thinking about you. Wondering about you. This, after all, was how feelings of love and attraction happened naturally. When she was thinking about you, and not knowing WHEN or even IF she would see you again. So, if you walk over there and make it OBVIOUS you want to jump in her panties, she'll never WONDER about you. Since she KNOWS that all she has to do is call and you'll come running. How, specifically, can you create the wonderful wondering effect that most ladies are desperate for these days? One is to become a Man with a Plan. A guy who's got a lot more going on in his life that trying to jump in any girl's panties who gives him more than a nanosecond of eye contact. Two, is when you talk to her, makes sure she's NOT SURE if you are interested in her or not. How do you do this? By asking her questions about HER. Not to judge her, not to qualify her, but just to get a better picture of her. Ask her about her future plans, her dreams, and whatever else she LIKES about herself. No judgement, but also not obvious compliments. Ask her, become interested in her, and leave while she's still feeling good. Then she'll wonder about you and HOPE that she sees you again. Start to do this normally, not just with cute girls, but with everybody, and pretty soon the world will be filled with cute girls wondering about you. And hoping you contact them again. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
  12. Misdirection Word Magic: https://mindpersuasion.com/misdirection-word-magic/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/magic-word-misdirection https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov06Loop.mp4
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct19Post.mp4 Many things can be seen from two completely different perspectives. Once I was with a bunch of friends. We'd just sat down in a restaurant, and were looking over at the menu. My friend noticed that his water glass was different than all the rest. Same size, but a slightly different shape. He immediately took this to mean that something was wrong with him. Of course, he was only being about 5% serious. But this is a common response whenever we are singled out for any reason. Another friend was quick with the helpful reframe. "That doesn't mean you are worse than everybody, that means you are better than everybody!" Both can be equally correct. We can be singled out because there is something wrong with us. Or we can be singled out because we are special in some way. Our brains are quick with these kinds of reframes. We can turn bugs into features, and features into bugs. Usually very quickly and subconsciously. This may indeed be a deep human instinct. A necessary human instinct. Way back in the day, in order to get our daily calories, we had to put in a lot of effort. And a lot of that effort was of the trial and error kind. Of chasing an animal, or several animals, a long time before we caught and killed it. Or shaking a bunch of trees before we got enough bananas to eat. We are pretty good with doing this with ourselves. Turning failures into positives. We kind of suck at doing this with others. Especially when it comes to people who are naturally gifted. Nowadays, there's a lot of ideas associated with some kind of "privilege." That some people, by their lucky virtue of genetics, have it easy. And the rest of us normal goofs have to work harder. But this is also something you can easily reframe. People that are exceptionally attractive, for example, DO have it easy. Studies have shown this. But only in some situations. The situations that call for deep intellect, long game planning, effective conversational and social skills, these are not associated with super gorgeous people. Because super gorgeous folks rarely feel any need to develop any of those deep traits. Super gorgeous people just show up, and by virtue of their gorgeousness, they can get their feet into doors most of us can't. But that's all they can do. Get their foot into a door, stand on the other side of that door, and look pretty. But with some very targeted conversational skills, you can make yourself much more attractive, from a subconscious energy standpoint, than the most gorgeous person on Earth. You can BUILD your own halo effect as big as you want. With whomever you want. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
  14. The Real Reason Behind Tobacco Ads: https://mindpersuasion.com/long-game-occultist/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/why-there-arent-any-tobacco-ads-on-tv https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug11Loop.mp4
  15. https://mindpersuasion.com/seduction-revenge/
  16. Reframing is a very powerful skill. And it can be used in many, many ways. The most common is in the moment. Somebody throws a playful insult your way, you reframe it and toss it back. Of course, reframes don't always help us. We sometimes turn a weakness into a strength. So we don't to suffer any ego pain. For example, a guy spots a pretty girl across the room. He wants to approach her, but loses his nerve. Instead of admitting the truth, that he wants to approach her but he's too nervous, he reframes it into a positive. To protect his ego. He "notices" something about the girl. Which in itself is another reframe. He uses that "meaning" as a positive reason NOT to approach. For example, she might be wearing a tight dress. Which he reframes to be a BAD thing. To mean she's not a "good" girl. And since he ONLY wants to date "good" girls, he DOESN'T approach. The funny thing it was the tight dress he noticed in the first place. That SAME THING that created the desire, was used to reframe the event to protect his ego. This is the mental gymnastics our brains do all the time. Another common reframe is when we PURPOSELY take a bad event and try to find something GOOD about it. Like how every cloud has a silver lining. The "silver lining" is the good reframe about a bad event, the cloud. Or turning lemons into lemonade. When life gives you lemons (bad things) you reframe them into good things (lemonade). Generally speaking, when reframes happen unconsciously, we do them to protect our ego. The more you can reframe things consciously, the more you can choose whatever meaning you want. This takes mental skills. Mental practice. And it requires you KNOW what you want out of life. Beyond general things like more money and more sex. That you have a direction. And you've been on that path for a while. The LONGER you are on any path toward bigger and better things, the better you'll be at reframing clouds into silver linings and lemons into lemonade. Because just like an ancient traveler, you might have a destination in mind, but not be quite sure HOW to get there. So long as you keep moving forward, you'll get there. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/long-game/
  17. All humans come pre-programmed with massive potential. But it is ONLY potential. Some people have a head start, some don't. For example, coal, as it is buried in the ground, can be interpreted as potential energy. If you dig up the coal, and burn it to boil water, the steam can turn things around do work. Like power locomotives or create electricity. But some coal is easy to get, some coal is hard to get. Human potential is the same. Some are born with potential that is very easy to access. Their natural skills are very close to skills that are in-demand, and can make them a lot of money. Attractiveness, athleticism, a beautiful singing voice, acting skills, etc. Some have skills that are more deeply buried. They take more work to get out. But once they are OUT, they are just as valuable as those who come with much more valuable factory settings. But those with more deeply buried potential actually have an advantage. Those with valuable factory settings don't have much of a choice. Suppose a kid was born with a gorgeous singing voice. All through school, they were encouraged to enhance their singing voice. If they had positive role models and coaches, they'd have a million dollar career by the time they were in the late teens or early twenties. So far so good, right? But what happens if they realized along the way they didn't really WANT to be a singer? They wouldn't really have much of a choice. On the other hand, normal people with much more deeply buried potential, would have a lot more choice in how they SHAPE their potential. This is where the coal metaphor is only a metaphor. Coal is coal, no matter how deeply or shallowly it's buried. Once you get it out of the ground, there's only a few ways you can use it. But raw human potential, the deeper it is, the more CHOICE you have with how you shape it AS you bring it out. This DOES require that you actually take the time to "bring it out." What does this mean, exactly? To "bring it out?" It means to slowly develop skills. In demand skills that will get you paid and make your life easier and more enjoyable. Social skill, communication skills, thinking skills, creating skills. The more you develop this LONG GAME skills, the more choice you'll have with your potential. Which is UNLIMITED. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/long-game/
  18. When I was a kid, there was a famous TV commercial. It was for an attorney that specialized in personal injury. Their most famous client won a huge lawsuit. And the commercial ended with the happy client saying: "Lawyer X got me 2.2 million dollars!" (Of course he said the guy's name, not lawyer x...) But then the laws changed. "They" made it illegal to say how much you MIGHT get on TV. So the NEW commercial was the same guy. Only this time, he said: "Lawyer X got me, well, you know!" Since he was already famous, people remembered the old amount. Most of the time, when this stuff happens, people assume it was because of a government intervention. That our elected officials are tirelessly working to protect us poor citizens by being taken advantage by those evil corporatists. The truth is this is rarely true. In reality, the government is the one being taken advantage of by the corporations. Because elected officials can ONLY think in short term time frames. Election cycles. For example, now it's JUST BARELY 2019, and news about the 2020 election is EVERYWHERE. Corporations, on the other hand, can play the LONG GAME. Here is fantastic example that I actually learned from studying game theory. Back when TV was first invented, there were two main tobacco companies. And the prospect of TV, or more importantly, TV advertising, posed an interesting problem. A problem that is IDEAL to study in game theory. The IDEAL SOLUTION for each company was to NOT advertise. If one of them advertised, and the other didn't, the one who DIDN'T would lose market share. But if they BOTH advertised, that would not be optimal. They would both be spending MORE money, but neither would gain market share. Since they BOTH had about 50% each. So the best case was for a LAW to be passed prohibiting TV advertising for tobacco. That would mean neither of the two companies, NOR could any new companies advertise on TV. TV advertising represented a near guarantee REVENUE LOSS. Since either would spending money to NOT lose market share. But a law prohibiting tobacco ads on TV was the IDEAL solution. Of course, most people believe that our wonderful government wanted to protect our fragile little minds. They wanted to protect us from the evil tobacco companies. When it was likely the lobbyists for the tobacco companies who covertly pushed the governments to outlaw TV tobacco ads. Of course, when you are playing the LONG GAME, letting government goofs take the credit is OK. Like any other strategy, LONG GAME is neutral. You can use it to build your empire, or destroy your enemy's empire. Up to you. But if you DON'T play the long game, you can bet plenty of other people are. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/long-game/
  19. One of the biggest stumbling blocks is our natural inability to live with uncertainty. This "fear" comes across in many ways. We have a ton of biases, things that filter out things our subconscious doesn't want us to see. Cognitive dissonance is a general term for many of these. There is something in our environment, or a certain interpretation of something in our environment, that represents DANGER to our ego. So our cognitive dissonance, or a collection of biases, KEEPS US from seeing that. Any time we can avoid admitting that we SUCK, or we MIGHT SUCK, this pops up. And our brains are VERY CLEVER and VERY SLIPPERY in how it manifests this. For example, you'll read about a "strategy." Usually a strategy that is based on some kind of social interaction. A complex social interaction that will either get you affection or money. The TWO THINGS that are the most important. Since they (money and sex) represent survival and reproduction. But if the strategy involves ANY KIND of uncertainty, this can be very troubling. Our lightning fast subconscious will extrapolate. We'll imagine trying that strategy, and failing. And that means if we fail, we WILL NEVER get money or sex. Since this represents a huge FAILURE on a deep level, we don't even ALLOW OURSELVES to contemplate this. So we REFRAME our fears into strengths. And we do this on a SUBCONSCIOUS level, so we don't even know we are doing this. This usually comes across consciously as being skeptical. We express this "healthy skepticism" as wanting PROOF that the strategy works. After all, only a MORON would rush forward and try something so foolish, right? At least this is what we tell ourselves. Unfortunately, with a little bit of uncomfortable SCIENTIFIC LOGIC, this need for proof is actually IRRATIONAL. See, if there was any PROOF that any money or romantic strategy worked, that would mean some IMPOSSIBLE THINGS. For one, the OTHER PEOPLE we would be using these strategies on would be ROBOTS. If we could see ONE PERSON using a strategy, and we expected ourselves to use that exact same strategy, and get the exact same results, that would also mean that WE are robots. The truth is that EVERY interaction between any two humans involves a TON of uncountable and immeasurable variables. You have the same conversation with the same person on two different days, and you'll get two different results. Two different people try the same pick up line on the same girl, and they'll both get different results. So the idea of waiting for "proof" is illogical. And it ONLY serves to protect your ego. The real secret to getting anything is to TRY SOMETHING. Something where you DON'T KNOW what is going to happen. This is the only real way to learn anything. Fortunately, most people are TERRIFIED of doing this. Which means if YOU can, and do it consistently, you will CLEAN UP. Money, love, success, whatever you want. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/long-game/
  20. If you wanted to make a sandwich, it would be easy. So long as you had some bread, and some stuff to put between the bread, you'd be OK. On the other hand, if you had a whole bunch of stuff, and a whole bunch of different bread, it MIGHT be difficult. If you were hungry but you didn't know what you wanted. You might stare at all your bread. Stare at all the stuff you could put between them. On the other hand if you had an idea of what you wanted, it would be quick. On the other hand, if you were hungry, knew what you wanted, but ALL you had was an empty jar of mayonnaise, you'd be in trouble. No bread, no meat, nothing to eat. You can think of anything in these simple terms. With a strong choice, and plenty of options, getting what you want is easy. With only a vague desire, and plenty of options, it's difficult. Plenty of studies show that when we have too much choice, it's actually worse than having NO choice. They give one group of kids a choice of two "prizes" to take home. They give another group of kids no choice. They just give them a prize. Turns out the kids that have NO choice are happier. The ones that choose "prize A," for example, always second guess themselves. Plenty of marketers have also found this out. Pasta sauce makers, for example, have found that if they INCREASE the flavors too much, people buy LESS. For choosing pasta sauce, the sweet spot is 2-4 choices. Anything beyond 4 is too confusing. Of course, the opposite isn't much better. Of KNOWING what you want and having NO choice. Obviously, the BEST situation would be to KNOW what you wanted, and to have PLENTY of different ways to satisfy that desire. This goes way beyond sandwiches and pasta sauces. Many people spend WAY too long wondering what they want to "be" when they "grow up." Unfortunately, we don't have an UNLIMITED TIME to choose. It only feels that way when we are young. But the clock is always ticking. The best situation is to have plenty of choices, plenty of time, and plenty of options. And being able to have a LONG VIEW so you can choose not only for today, but WAY out into the future. The better you can see how the future MIGHT unfold, the better you'll be able to choose. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/long-game/
  21. When I was a kid I used to play golf. My friends and I would play at this nine hole course next to our junior high school. I had some hand-me-down clubs, and it was only $5 to play. One hole gave me problems. We had to hit over the water. Seeing the water always messed me up. Then another kid gave me some fantastic advice. Advice that I keep playing in my mind whenever I need it. And that was to pretend the water was green grass. To negatively hallucinate the obstacle. So I could see and focus on the objective beyond it. Of course, he didn't put it like this. He just told me to pretend the water was grass. But in effect, this is a very powerful strategy. Whenever you have a long term objective, but a shorter term obstacle is in the way. Even metaphorically, this can mess us up. The short term obstacle tends to grab our attention. So we lose sight of the longer term goal. That phrase, "lose sight" is VERY appropriate. Even when thinking metaphorically, we still speak in terms of SEEING things. If you are thinking about a long term objective, but the short term obstacle is messing you up. Another visual metaphor is that short term obstacle is CLOUDING your vision. You can't SEE the big picture. If you can see your objective with TUNNEL VISION, you are purposely excluding the things you don't want to see. All visual metaphors that are IDEAL for describing ideas. It turns out that purposely practicing SEEING THINGS in your mind's eye can help. For example, if it's Monday, and you've got a lot of things to accomplish. You can LITERALLY close your eyes and SEE each day. Then you can SEE what you'll be enjoying on the weekend. This is something you can practice. And just like anything else, the more you practice, the better you'll get. So if you practice looking toward the weekend with tunnel vision on EASY objectives, you'll get better and better. At first, you'll only be "strong enough" to exclude mundane obstacles you'll need to deal with. But pretty soon, if you STRENGTHEN your tunnel vision, you'll be able to VISUALIZE outcomes that are further and further out in the future. Seeing further goals out in the future requires two separate skills. One is having a LONG VIEW. Two is being able to purposely exclude the things you don't want to see. Just like pretending water is really grass. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/long-game/
  22. If you learn something that's helpful in one context, it's sometimes not so helpful in another context. Once my friend talked me into going snowboarding. I had done a lot of skateboarding when I was younger. I mistakenly assumed they would be similar. It took me a long time to get from the top to the bottom. Even though it LOOKED the same, it was completely different. Very rarely will you get a professional athlete that is skilled in more than one sport. Plenty of us have baggage from childhood. We "learn" certain things that are helpful in certain contexts. But they mess us up as adults. For example, most kids learn between the ages of 2-3 that is CAN be dangerous to be outgoing and expressive. So later in adulthood, we WANT to express ourselves, but we feel a deep and barely perceptible anxiety. This even works with our instincts. What helped us humans a LONG time ago is a pain today. Way, way, back in the day, it was a benefit to be hungry. It was a benefit to eat everything you could whenever you have a chance. Obviously, that strategy today isn't so helpful. Today, if you want to stay healthy, you've got to think a little bit about what and how often you eat. Many of our other instincts are the same. Helpful back then, not so much today. One of them is how and who we learn from. Way back then, and even recently, it was a good strategy to simply copy those older than you. When you were old enough, you could take over. But today, that strategy won't work so well. The skills that were helpful even ten years ago aren't so helpful today. Just like we need to think about what and how often we eat, we need to think about what we learn. One of the biggest mistakes is thinking somebody can TELL US what we need to do. This is very dangerous. Mainly because it FEELS comfortable. To be told EXACTLY what to do. Because if there really WAS a step by step plan for ANYTHING, everybody would be able to do it. And if EVERYBODY could do it, it wouldn't be worth much. The trick is to find out on your own what to do. And how to do it. This is not easy. This requires living with a little bit of uncertainty. It requires SLOWLY expanding your comfort zone. Many people cannot or will not do this. Which means if YOU can, you will have a huge advantage. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/long-game/
  23. The main objective of any business is a positive ROI. Doesn't matter if you are selling peanut butter sandwiches, or making jet engines. ROI means "return on investment." And since people started selling things to each other, the goal has always been the same. Spend X dollars on the back end, and make MORE than X dollars on the front end. If you spend $10 on bread and peanut butter, and make back $20 by selling sandwiches, you've got an ROI of 100%. On the other hand, if you spend ten bucks on bread and peanut butter, eat one sandwich for every one you sell, and only make back $5, you will have a net LOSS of 50%. On a pure energy standpoint, we ALL are "programmed" with a positive ROI constraint. For every 100 calories we expend, we need to get back MORE than 100 calories in energy. Otherwise we'll die of starvation. When bears and squirrels get ready for winter, they FATTEN up. The eat MORE than they need, so they can live off the excess. Working and saving money is the same idea. The more money you have saved, the longer you can live without needing work. The more fat a bear has saved up, the longer it can sleep without needing to eat. Even when we operate with others, we try to maximize our ROI. When you are applying for a job, you want to get the MOST money for the LEAST amount of work expected. If you are hiring somebody, you want to pay them the LEAST amount of money while getting them to do the MOST amount of work. When you are negotiating a price, as a buyer, you want to get the lowest price. When you are negotiating a price, as a seller, you want to get the highest price. Even in a romantic relationship, both parties want to GIVE the least and GET the most. Every single time you get out and operate within the world, this deep and ancient positive ROI programming is always operating. There are two basic factors which determine how well you can get an ROI. One is the amount of "stuff" you have to offer. Two is your time frame. It CAN make perfect since to "sacrifice" short term ROI to get much more longer term ROI. The LONGER you can calculate your "overall" ROI the more flexibility you have. The less you can do this, the more EASILY you'll be manipulated and exploited by others. You can't lose the battle to win the war if you can ONLY see the battle. But the LONGER out you can see, the more short term "losses" can add up to long term success. Extend your view long enough, and you will win it all. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/long-game/
  24. When I was a kid I loved geometry. It was one of the only classes where I actually enjoyed doing the homework. Particularly the proofs. Now, I was always a science geek. I'd always been getting in trouble by doing experiments with things. But geometry was always fascinating. Taking a couple of abstract ideas, and then using them to PROVE something else that was equally abstract. There are a few things in geometry that are simply ASSUMED to be true. Like two parallel lines won't ever touch. Or any two points can make a line. The two-points-make-a-line idea is pretty useful. It's the one thing that was necessary to figure out how to fix longitude. Latitude is easy, as it's based on the stars. But longitude requires being able to accurately measure time. And something called "dead reckoning." Which means you have to look behind you and know EXACTLY where you were a certain time period before. That way you'll have two points, and the time. This way you can calculate EXACTLY where you are. AND exactly where you'll be in a certain time, so long as you stay on course. This is also helpful in personal development. Imagine, for example, if you just started jogging one year ago. And one year ago, you could barely walk half a mile. Now you can run five without stopping. And you know reasonably well how fast you can run five miles. You can use the same basic concept. Look back into your past one year. And see where you WERE to where you ARE. This can give you a reasonable expectation of where you'll BE. The FURTHER back you can look into your past, the FURTHER you'll be able to look into your future. The trouble comes when you don't have much between a year ago and now. If a year ago you spent most of your time watching TV and wishing something would change, and TODAY you spend most of your time watching TV and wishing something would change, well.... As soon as you start SOMETHING different, something WILL change. And do something a little DIFFERENT each day, you'll build flexibility. The more things you can look back on, the more flexible you're future will be. So everything you do TODAY will slowly drift into your past. And so long as you do something DIFFERENT each day, you'll be simultaneously building your past as well as your future. So, what will YOU do differently today? Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/long-game/
  25. One of the most coveted interpersonal "feelings" is one of outcome independence. Meaning you are totally relaxed in the moment. The less you seem concerned about the outcome, the more likely you'll get a positive outcome. For example, let's consider two sales people. One is VERY HIGHLY dependent on the outcome. This guy would be extremely worried about NOT making the sale. Which would make him very aggressive trying to make the sale. He would come across as pushy and wouldn't take no for an answer. He might even get angry if customers didn't buy. On the other hand, consider a guy who didn't mind if he made a sale or not. Why would he not care? Perhaps he was truly concerned with customer satisfaction. He only wanted to sell if the customer wanted to buy. Or maybe he would get paid no matter what. One strong reason to be outcome independent is understanding the numbers. Even if somebody gets paid pure commission, the longer view they take, the easier this will be. If they KNOW, based on experience, that one out of ten will buy something, they can simply relax. Instead of seeing every customer and thinking, "I hope they buy!" they'll instead see each customer and think, "Hmm, I wonder if they'll buy." Talking to a customer from the second frame of mind would be much more relaxing. Both from the customer's and the salesperson's standpoint. The LONGER your view, the more you can see each individual interaction as a TINY part in the whole. The SHORTER your view, the more anxious you'll be. The more each and every conversation will feel like it's do or die. There are many ways to cultivate this long view. One is to have a lot of experience. Another is to practice seeing EACH interaction as a learning opportunity. This starts by looking at each interaction AFTER it happens. And using it as a source of improvement. The more you do this, the easier it gets. Pretty soon you'll develop a real time "outcome independent" feeling. Another way to look at it is where you put your focus. If you ONLY focus on the short term, you'll ONLY see the short term. Success is fantastic. Failure is horrible. But the LONGER your view, the less each interaction means. Pretty soon, no matter WHAT happens in the short term, it will FEEL like success. This will significantly increase your confidence, and your chances of success. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/long-game/
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