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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept13Post.mp4 Being told what to do is a comfortable feeling. If somebody tells you what to do, there isn't any worry or anxiety. If somebody tells you what to do, there is little risk. If somebody tells you what to do, so long as you follow the instructions, even if it doesn't work, you can't get in trouble. There are also many drawbacks to being told what to do. You are limited by the person telling you what to do. If they run out of choices, so you do. If they are up to no good, and they keep that from you, you may get in more trouble than you realize. The, "I was only following orders" excuse doesn't usually work out so well. We generally LOVE the idea of being told what to do when it involves money and social skills. If you wanted to learn how to ride a unicycle, you would need to practice. Nobody would ever think they could read a book on how to ride a unicycle and get it right the first time. But for some reason, we think we can learn how to make money or get people to do things WITHOUT needing to practice. Everything takes practice. But since most of us are terrified of practicing social skills or money skills, we pretend that's not true. Kind of like a meta cognitive dissonance. But there are some very sneaky ways to practice these things. Especially when you have a secret operators manual for the human brain. When looking at ourselves, from our own brains, we can be VERY confusing. But when you step back, and take our conscious, self-awareness OUT of the picture, it's surprisingly easy. Turns out that humans are the EASIEST to "train" animals there are. We are so easy to train we can train ourselves. This is one reason why we HAVE self awareness. But you don't need to "train" anybody. Just understand our very basic collection of instincts. Social validation instincts. Social status instincts. Communication instincts. Attraction instincts. And the most important collection of instincts there. Love instincts. Turns out love IS a very, very powerful feeling. But it's not based on magic, or alchemy, or metaphysics. Pure science. The BEST kind of science. The science that is easy to understand objectively. But the absolute BEST feeling there is subjectively. Understand the difference, and you'll see. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept08Post.mp4 There are two basic ways you can cook. One is to follow a recipe step by step. This doesn't require you know anything about anything. Only that you can follow directions. If you are careful, you can create some pretty good stuff. On the other hand, if know some basics, you can invent your own stuff. Which kinds of things go with others. Some sales jobs offer very little training. They are based on pure numbers. They give you a list of names and numbers, and a script. The more people you call, the more you'd sell. Similarly, the more people they'd hire, they more sales the company would get. Even better is if everybody is paid on commission. At least from the company's perspective. This way, they would need to pay the people who can't sell. Only the people who can. These types of companies tend to sell very basic products and services. The better of a salesperson you are, the higher quality stuff you could sell. The more money you could make. This requires knowing a bit about human nature. Which turns out is pretty simple. Similarly, there are tons of tricks and techniques about how to get a girl to fall for you. Or how to get a guy to fall for you. Even more prevalent are all the ideas, books and courses about how to get your ex back. If you went ahead 1000 years into the future, people would still be trying to find out how to get people to fall for them. Love is the most confusing yet most coveted thing out there. Or in here. But it's not really that complicated. When you are IN love, or OUT of love, it's insanely hard to understand from inside your own head. But from several different viewpoints, and timelines, it's pretty easy. Easy to understand, easy to predict. Which means when it does happen, it will be much more enjoyable. Not only that, but you can accelerate it. Enhance it. Even create it. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug22Post.mp4 A long, long time ago, human brains started to get really big. Eventually, a decision had to be made. Because our brains were getting so big, there was a problem with birth. There were essentially two choices. The first choice was that our hips could keep getting wider and wider, so our brains to keep getting bigger and bigger. That wasn't such a good option, because that would force us back to walking on four legs. So the next option was to have us born WAY before we were finished. This is why humans are helpless for the first couple of years. Compare this too all other mammals, who are mobile. Soon after they are born, every other mammal can get up and walk around. We humans, on the other hand, just lay there and stare off into space. For two whole years! Even after we can get up and walk around, our brains are still being built. In one study, they showed a bunch of kids a puppet show. A kid in the puppet show had some chocolate, and put it in a GREEN cupboard. Then later his mom took some of the chocolate out. She made a cake, and then she put it back into the BLUE cupboard. Then the original kid came back. And said he wanted some chocolate. The question to the kids WATCHING the puppet show was WHERE would he look? Not where the chocolate was, but where he THOUGHT it was. The older kids figured it out. But the kids four and younger couldn't. These means even four year old kids, who can walk around and use language pretty well, STILL don't understand about human intentions. They can't extrapolate what happened before and use that to guess what people are thinking. This is why plenty of our limiting beliefs are so, uh, LIMITING. They were programmed in BEFORE our brains were finished. Before we understood how OUR intentions are different from OTHER people's intentions. Before we could understand how to GUESS other people's intentions. For some lucky folks, with positive and supportive role models, they don't much of a problem. But for everybody else, we still are stuck with a lot of these limiting beliefs. Perhaps the most DANGEROUS and INSIDIOUS limiting beliefs is the one that creates social anxiety. The one that makes us feel anxious and nervous every time we even THINK about expressing ourselves. The more intelligent you are, the WORSE this feels. Since this was programmed on an emotional, NON-intelligent level. Luckily, there is a solution. A slow, safe gradual we to REMOVE social anxiety. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July31Post.mp4 Most people like the idea of being told what to do. Plenty of self development courses are built around this idea. "Watch over my shoulder as I make millions," kind of thing. Step by step blueprints. But simple economics tells us this is impossible. Simple economics and a little bit of thought. Imagine some "guru" DID manage to discover the "secret" to success. And he packed seminar room after seminar room. And told all the attendees the step by step "blueprint" for success. That would work IF they all defined success as building a birdhouse. Or making a cake. Or doing anything that could be done by following a recipe. If EVERYBODY is doing the same thing, and getting the same result, then there will be a LOT of those "results" out there. Which means they won't be worth much. A lot of young adults today are in DEEP trouble. They borrowed a ton of money, to go to college and be told "exactly" what to do. Now all they have is a much of debt. And not many marketable skills. The reason we LOVE the idea of being told EXACTLY what to do is it absolves us of responsibility. We don't need to take any risks. If we do EXACTLY what we are told, and it doesn't work, it's not our fault. If you CAN manage to find a way to be TOLD what to do, AND it happens to pay the bills, this is a dream come true. You get ALL the benefits, and NONE of the risks. If you wanted to stay in the middle of the pack this MAY be possible. If you want an average life, an average relationship, and a bunch of average memories up in your brain, that MAY be possible. Safe, but not a lot of fun. Not very exciting. Worse, is you would NEVER have the ability to dream. It's one thing to DREAM about finding a winning lottery ticket. This is pure fantasy. Even thinking of winning the lottery by buying a ticket is nearly pure fantasy. The odds are more than ten million to one. Dreaming based on your ACTIONS is much more realistic. Much more compelling. When you look BACK over the last few years, and then EXTRAPOLATE what MIGHT come in the future, this is where the human spirit lives. When your dreams are TETHERED to your actions and your history. Any goof can imagine finding magic riches. But few people can dream of slowly CREATING riches. Which one are you? Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/watching-mind/
  5. The Coming Collective Consciousness Shift: https://mindpersuasion.com/future-life-regression-hypnosis/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/future-timeline-hypnosis https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July24Loop.mp4
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July2Post.mp4 A lot of things exists on continuums. One side is one extreme, another side is another extreme. For example, a very common idea is to be motivated by pain or pleasure. Either being motivated by moving away from pain. Or being motivated toward pleasure. Most are a mix of the two. Too far on either side can cause problems. If you are ONLY motivated away from pain, once you get far enough away so the pain diminishes, you'll lose your motivation. You'll always start things, but never finish. On the other hand, if you are ONLY motivated toward pleasure, the pain won't bother you. You'll always be focused on big projects while late bills pile up. Another continuum is being a cause or an effect. Most people would LOVE the idea of having an easy life, where people tell them EXACTLY what to do, and they do it. And it's get them paid enough to pay the bills and live a decent life. On the other hand, there are people who HATE to be told what to do. These types are always doing their own thing, for better or for worse. Most people with their factory settings, and hope for the best. They are halfway between pain and pleasure, halfway between cause and effect, and that's good enough. But the thing about us humans is we have two kinds of instincts. Our factory setting, and new ones. New instincts are anything we can learn to the level of unconscious competence. Most folks only learn easy things to this level. Things that people teach them. Very few are self-motivated enough to ACTIVELY go out and learn skills. But if you happen to be one of those rare types, you can learn any skill you want. You can move your factory settings to anywhere you want. You can be AT CAUSE when you want to be. You can relax and be an effect when you want to be. This is the real benefit of realizing your ability to learn new instincts. That ANY factory settings you have are ONLY a recommendation. You can be like most people, and accept these and hope for the best. Or you can consciously CHOOSE which new instincts you want, and build them in. Kind of like the difference between choosing an off the shelf computer. Or building one from scratch. To whatever specifications you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  7. Tofu and the Neolithic Revolution https://mindpersuasion.com/the-history-of-corn/
  8. Most people have heard about the four levels of learning. Unconscious incompetence, when you don't know you suck. Conscious incompetence, when you know that you suck. Conscious competence, when you don't suck, but you've got to use all your brain power to not suck. Then unconscious competence, where you can do it fairly well without needing to think. Many things that we learn come through these four categories. Tying your shoes, writing, driving, riding a bicycle, making a burrito. But there are some skills we come pre-programmed with. Like communication is a skill that we become unconsciously competent at without ever needing to think. We learn to speak before we are fully conscious. But if you were to learn another language, you'd have to go through the four stages. But you can also take something that already exists at the level of unconscious competence, and bring it back up to the level of conscious competence, and make it better. This is essentially what actors do. They take their natural, unconscious speaking patterns and consciously practice them. You can also do this with things like persuasion and seduction. Take your natural communication strategies, bring them up to the level of conscious competence, practice them until they are much more effective. Then drop them back down to the level of unconscious competence. This is the natural process when you take any skill, and improve it through practice. For most skills, there is no upper limit to the level of unconsciously competence. The more you practice, the better you get. Beliefs are similar, but a bit different. Beliefs are exactly skills. But they affect many other skills. Beliefs are like language, in that we learned them much before we were fully conscious humans. But very much like learning to speak better, you can learn to "believe better." How do you do this? More or less the same way. Do some work to find and examine your old beliefs. Rebuild them until they are better and more appropriate. Then practice believing them, until they drop back down to the level of unconscious competence. The thing about beliefs is they affect MANY different skills. So if you target the right beliefs, they will create a kind of domino effect on your skills. Find them, rebuild them, practice them, and drop them back down. Once this happens, a LOT of things will become much easier and much more effective. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  9. One of Cialdini's important laws is called "Commitment and Consistency." It's kind of complex how it works, especially from a persuasion standpoint. It's the idea behind sales funnels. You buy a product for $3. Then you buy another product for $19 from the same place. Then you buy another one for $49. Sales funnels use this PLUS scarcity. Each additional sales is a "one time offer." So they are combining TWO of Cialdini's laws. The law of Commitment and Consistency (you already bought one, so one more is consistent) and Scarcity (one time offer).. If you study Cialdini, you'll find the seven laws being used in nearly all advertising. Usually in clever combinations. The Holy Grail of advertising is to create FOMO. Fear of missing out. This usually involves at least THREE Cialdini laws. Most of the time FOMO happens organically and spontaneously. If it does, it's a marketers dream come true. You get a bunch of goofs on TV talking about some product. This gives you authority. Then all your friends are talking about that product. This gives you social proof. Then you realize that these products are hard to get. This gives you scarcity. All these add up to FOMO. Meaning if you WAIT, the products will be GONE. And all your friends will have one, except for you. This is the same psychology behind market bubbles. Everybody is buying, and the price keeps going up. Higher and higher prices mean that LOWER prices are getting scarcer and scarcer. Warren Buffet famously said that when your idiot next door neighbor is getting rich, you can be sure you're in a market bubble. Many of Cialdini laws play out in VERY interesting and complicated ways. One of them is that the older we get, the more set in our ways we become. This is Commitment and Consistency in action. Doing NEW things requires a lot of brain power. We don't like using brain power if we don't have to. But some things we keep even if they don't quite "work." This is how our limiting beliefs are formed. We took on a belief when we were very young. It was formed from a protective, defensive standpoint. But as adults, they no longer support us. They do the opposite. They KEEP US from doing what we want. But unless we find them, DISPROVE them, and then rewrite them, they'll keep working. The process not that different, structurally, from rebuilding an engine. It's a pain to take it apart and put it back together. But once it's back together, it's faster, stronger and much more powerful. Do this with any belief you want. So you can do any behavior you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  10. A few months back they had a new chess computer. Called "Deep Learning," it wasn't really a chess computer. More a "meta computer." Up until that point, the only way to build a chess computer was to program it to play chess. Meaning you had to give it algorithms to reference from any position. So when the computer saw a opponent's position, it had to calculate all the potential moves. But doing that, "calculating all the potential moves," had to be programmed in. Meaning somebody had to put in all the rules and algorithms based on each potential position. But the new "Deep Learning" algorithm was much more meta. They just gave this computer the rules of chess and told it to play against itself. To essentially learn from trial and error. And when they finally played each other, it wasn't even close. The Deep Learning computer obliterated the then FASTEST and BEST chess engine. Essentially this was TWO STYLES of learning. The old way of, "Tell me exactly what to do in each situation." Against the new way of "learn by trial and error." The first way is very compelling to most of us. Because it REMOVES all the risk. And it absolves us of responsibility. If we are TOLD exactly what to do, and we do that, AND it doesn't work, it's NOT our fault. Since we were doing EXACTLY what we were told. Sadly, many people would prefer to be told what to do, step by step, and live a life of mediocrity. So long as they never have to take a risk, and never take much responsibility, they are OK with that. If you want more, you've got to do more. Luckily, all humans come PROGRAMMED with tons of learn by trial and error algorithms. We are much more like the new, MORE POWERFUL computer. But this requires we don't have any anxieties or fears about what we are learning to do. Learning by trail and error in this situations is generally called PRACTICE. That's exactly what you are doing when practicing free throws, or practicing the piano, or practicing solving algebra problems. Practicing IS learning by trial and error. Only when we think in terms of practicing in social situations does it start to get kind of scary. Which is almost always what we think about when we think about making money. But you can practice making money skills just as easily as you can practice piano or basketball skills. And once you REMOVE the anxiety and social fears, it will be JUST LIKE practicing anything else. The more you practice, the better you get. The better you get, the more money you make. As long as you want, as much as you want. Once you remove the negative beliefs, it's purely mechanical. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/money-brain/
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  12. Most people are aware of the four stages of learning. Unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence and unconscious competence. The final stage, unconscious competence, is when you know stuff by heart. When you can play a song on the piano without thinking. Or bake a cake from memory while talking on the phone. And when it comes to getting to that last level, there are two "sub" levels. The first is when you learn something completely new. This is how most people think of that last level. Learning to ride a bike, tie your shoes, drive, juggle a few bean bags, etc. But there's another sub level many don't consider. It's the one Bruce Lee referred to when he said (paraphrased): "Before Jeet Kun Do, a punch is just a punch. During Jeet Kun Do, a punch is a careful balance of energy and breathing and intention and focus. After Jeet Kun Do, a punch is just a bunch. But a much more efficient and deadly punch." What he was referring to is taking something that is ALREADY at the level of unconscious competence. Then purposely bringing it back down to the level of conscious competence. Looking at it carefully, and improving it. And then PRACTICING it to the level of unconscious competence again. This is how athletes and musicians and artists make their living. Especially if they are competitive. They are ALWAYS trying to increase the level of unconscious competence. The level they can play at without thinking. The more they practice, the better they get. Most of us don't think like this. Most of us think in terms of learning something until we're done learning. Then we can get back to our comfortable auto-pilot lives. Consider, however, the importance of one skill. One skill you have NOW at the level of unconscious competence. And purposely downgrading that to the level of conscious competence. And carefully enhancing it, rearranging it, improving it. And practicing until it is at a completely NEW level of unconscious competence. A level that Bruce Lee called more efficient and deadly. What skill is that? Your spoken language. How you translate your thoughts into words. Like a first level punch, your words are just words. Sloppy, off balance, chaotic, and not very effective. But after you UPGRADE them, they will be effective and deadly. And since VERY FEW PEOPLE ever even consider improving how they think and speak, you'll have a huge advantage. Over everybody. On Earth. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/verbal-assassin/
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  14. Linguistic presuppositions are a very powerful grammatical structure. They are when you "hide" things inside of a sentence. Kind of like covertly slipping small ideas into people's brains. For example, consider this sentence: "Linguistic presuppositions are powerful." If I just said that on its own it would be easy to disagree with. You could say, "No they aren't." But I could take that same idea and hide it in a sentence. For example: One of the reasons linguistic presuppositions are so powerful is because they let you control other people's thinking without them knowing it. The above sentence works like a "sleight of hand." Where a magician does something on one side, where he wants your attention, but the REAL magic is being done where nobody is looking. In the above sentence, most people would focus on the part about controlling other people's thinking. If you read the above sentence, it would be difficult mentally to say: "Wait a minute, I disagree that linguistic presuppositions are powerful." This structure, of hiding ideas inside long winded sentences is what you see political pundits on TV do all the time. But the idea of something be PRESUPPOSED is very, very powerful. Because you can presuppose a lot, not only through words, but through actions. One of the most common "ideas" from TV shows involving lawyers and cops is the "one time offer." The district attorney is talking to the bad guy and offers him a deal. But then he says the magic words. That it's a one time offer. This evokes both scarcity and the fear of missing out (FOMO). Both are VERY POWERFUL when eliciting the desired actions from your targets. Sales people use it all the time, because it works. But there's a way to PRESUPPOSE this "one time offer" energy in your behaviors. Your subconscious non verbal communication. A way to build in the IDEA into your personality that YOU are a "one time offer." This is the polar opposite of "desperation energy." Desperation energy is like an offer that NEVER EXPIRES. Needless to say, if an offer NEVER expires, it won't be very compelling. Especially when it comes across as a very needy, "please accept me" type of energy. The opposite is very rare. Very attractive. Very valuable. Because it ALWAYS radiates that combination of scarcity and FOMO. And because it comes through your subconscious behavior, it's always implied. Presupposed. Which will not only make YOU insanely attractive, but it will make everybody else very motivated to ACT FAST. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/walk-away/
  15. When you were a kid your mom was worried about you hanging out with the wrong crowd. All moms are worried about their kids hanging out with the wrong crowd. Because we tend to pick up "bad habits" that way. A few decades of data show this to be true. The idea of nature vs. nurture is an old one. Take the idea that wealthy people have more books in their houses. Which of these come first? Does their desire to read books give them knowledge (from the books) and then they use that knowledge to make money? Is the desire to learn things the SAME knowledge that helps them make money? If you give a bunch of books to poor people, will they become rich? The trouble with questions like this is they are VERY HARD to test. Any kind of question about human behavior can only be guessed at. So what about nurture vs. nature? There IS plenty of data they can look at. And that is data from twins. Identical twins born together and raised in the same house. Identical twins raised apart. Adopted kids raised in the same house. Non identical twins raise together (same house) and separately. The data is pretty clear. There are TWO main things that create our ADULT behavior. Half is our genes, the other half our NON-FAMILY peer group. This is why mom was so worried about you hanging with the wrong crowd. Because we DO tend to pick up habits from our friends. If we have "good" friends, we pick up good habits. If we have "bad" friends we pick up bad habits. The REAL QUESTION is HOW, exactly, do we pick up those bad habits? We model. We subconsciously copy the behavior from people we admire. If that means doing homework and getting good grades, that's good. If that means smoking and robbing liquor stores, that's bad. But this is only ONE WAY we "pick up" behavior. There are many ways to "pick up" behavior. Sometimes we are "trained" by our environment. This is essentially how we pick up habits from friends. They (our friends) are our environment. Our environment which TRAINS us. Or we can TRAIN ourselves. This is when practice things like sports, music and multiplication tables. Or we can TRAIN others. Most people try to do this, but not successfully. The trick to training others is to be as COVERT and as SUBCONSCIOUS as you can. Meaning the more they DON'T KNOW they are being trained, the easier it is to train them. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  16. Once when I was very young, my dad and I were watching our dog run around the back yard. The dog got near a small apple tree. My dad remarked that he didn't want our dog to get a taste of the apples. At the time, I had no idea what he meant. But later I did. An apple tree, to a dog, is just a regular tree. And since dogs don't generally eat trees, they don't think of an apple tree as anything special. But this particular tree was pretty small. Small enough so the dog could reach some of the apples. My dad was worried that if the dog ate one of the apples off the tree, she would realize that particular tree had some food. And she would eat ALL the apples. Beginner's luck CAN be pretty fun, but it can also be terrible. Usually the more obvious it is, the less dangerous it is. If you walked up to a craps table in Vegas, for example, and tossed down some money and won, you would KNOW it was beginner's luck. Because you were in Vegas, you would KNOW that gambling is very risky. On the other hand, if you tried your hand at investing, and got lucky, you might actually conclude that investing is easy. A friend actually did that, by making a spectacularly boneheaded mistake. He actually bought the WRONG stock. This was way back in first Internet bubble of the late nineties. The stock he WANTED to buy was less than a dollar. The stock he DID buy was less than a dollar. But he got the ticker symbol wrong. But the stock he DID buy, went up by over 1000% in the next couple months. He invested a little UNDER $300, and got back a little OVER $3000. This essentially TRAINED HIM that investing was EASY. A lesson that later led him to lose EVERYTHING when the bubble popped around 2000. Learning the wrong lessons can be CATASTROPHIC. Learning the RIGHT lessons can be EXTREMELY helpful. Even more, the actual process of learning (self training) is pretty easy. Just as easy as training others. And so long as you have their best interests in mind, you can train them to do ANYTHING and they'll never know. We humans are trained by our environment all the time. So when you slowly train in certain behaviors in others, they'll never know the difference. They'll think it's natural. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  17. All humans are motivated by two things. Two very vague, and very strong motivators. They color all our thinking and acting. We want more of one thing, and less of another. One is pleasure, one is pain. Pain and pleasure are extremely vague ideas. But everything we either move towards, or move away from, can be put in one of these two categories. Things we want, and things we don’t want. This is how all humans learn. When we do things “correctly” it FEELS good. When we make a “mistake,” it FEELS bad. Since we are naturally programmed to do more stuff that FEELS good, we tend to self correct. Especially when we have a much larger goal on the other side of whatever we are practicing. For example, imagine you had a vision in mind of being the star basketball player of your school, and all the good stuff that came along with that. Because that END POINT was so compelling, the natural trial and error would be self motivating. The mistakes you made while practicing wouldn’t be so bad. Because they would give you valuable feedback to get CLOSER to your ultimate goal. All learning (or practicing) is enjoyable if WE are going toward a bigger goal that WE chose. On the other hand, if you are forced to sit and listen to some cranky old lady talk about long division, it SUCKS. You have no idea WHY you are learning such a horrific thing. So when you make a mistake, it REALLY sucks. When you do it correctly, it might feel good, but only because there is no pain. If you happen to be the teacher’s pet type, then doing long division correctly will give you pleasure. This is why the best teachers always find a reason to give their students proper motivation. To explain WHY they need to learn such boring stuff. Learning something for YOUR OWN reasons is fun and sometimes exhilarating. Learning something “just because” pretty much sucks for everybody. But there is another way to inspire people. Completely subconsciously. When you are overtly teaching or training, everybody KNOWS why they are doing what they are doing. To the extent they have a good reason, they’ll enjoy it. But you can also teach completely subconsciously. Not just information, but behaviors. So long as you are SUBCONSCIOUSLY motivating them by THEIR pleasure points, you can slowly train ANYBODY to do pretty much ANYTHING. Needless to say, this is a very POWERFUL skill. How many ways can YOU imagine using it? Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  18. They say a directionless arrow never misses its target. Meaning if you just randomly shoot an arrow without choosing a target, you can’t miss. On the other hand, if you shoot an arrow at a target, you most definitely CAN miss. Why would you want to shoot an arrow without aiming at anything? Maybe it’s fun. Maybe you like to watch the arrow sail through the air. Maybe you like to imagine your an archer in an ancient battle. None of those guys really aimed. They just sort of picked and angle and hoped for the best. With a bunch of archers on one side of a battlefield, and a bunch of soldiers on the other, you’re bound to hit something. Unfortunately, this isn’t a very good life strategy. Imagine a guy going out to meet girls. Ideally, he’d LOVE to end up with a sex party threesome with a couple of disease-free, porn star freaks. But most normal dudes will take whatever they can get. Which usually ends up not being much. This is like just shooting your arrow in a battle and hoping for the best. Instead, consider the idea of having an actual target. The threesome might be a bit too much. At least in the short term. Believe it or not, having a long term, “horizon goal” of having tight enough game to talk ANY group of females into a sex party is a worthy goal. One that is WAY out there. One that compels you to keep improving. The best way to keep improving is to choose very tiny, very achievable goals. Week one might be getting eye contact and smiles from five ladies. Week two might be getting a few short conversations. Week three might be getting some actual phone numbers. Week four might be going on one date. Most guys DON’T like this. It seems LONG and tedious. Most guys want the sex party RIGHT THE F NOW! But here’s the great paradox of life. The bigger your target is (sex party, for example) the less forward progress you’ll make. The smaller your target, the more RAPID you’ll make forward progress. This is a harsh question, but consider it. Instead of “sex party” swap out any equally desirable goal. Beach house, corporate president, etc. How closer are you to that goal compared to one year ago? Now imagine doing the slow, week by week plan. Assuming you’d stick to it, and make slow, gradual, tortoise like progress, how far would you be in a year? This is the secret to real tangible achievements. The kind that will make your friends ultra jealous. The slower you go, the faster you’ll get there. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  19. In sports, a common saying is “leave it on the field.” Which means when you play a big game, you put in 100% effort. So when the game is over, you’ve given everything. This is a fantastic idea for sports. The problem with metaphors like this is when they are misapplied. For example, let’s say you wanted to walk across the room and talk to somebody. The “leave everything on the field” approach isn’t so appropriate. When you’re playing sports, especially an important game, winning is the ONLY thing. (Except maybe for little league...) Any team that loses the championship game and shrugs it off as a learning experience may be missing the point. Imagine your favorite team after losing the superbowl or the world series or the world cup. “Well, we didn’t win, but the important thing was we learned a lot about our capabilities and we tried some new plays which worked out pretty well.” Most people would be understandably angry. But this is an IDEAL response for anything that is NOT sports. In fact, not getting a hundred percent success rate is a very, very good thing. Paradoxically, when you DO get a hundred percent success in anything that is NOT sports, you won’t really know why. Which means you won’t learn much. Which means you won’t get much better. Which means your ONLY strategy is to “get lucky.” On the other hand, shooting for about an 60-70% success rate is perfect. Because everything that DOESN’T work is the best teacher. This hard to wrap your mind around for most people. Especially if ALL you can see is in a short term time frame. Which is why having a LONG term time frame is essential. So long as you see any interaction or event as ONE of many, on a continuous unfolding future, it’s much easier to accept feedback. The more you can accept ALL feedback, most importantly NEGATIVE feedback, the better you can improve. This is easy in the beginning of the baseball season, for example. There are always a lot of games still to be played. How, specifically, can you cultivate this mindset? By creating something called Horizon Goals. Undefined, but positive goals WAY out in the future. At a skill level much higher than you have now. So that any interaction in the present is more easily seen as PRACTICE. Once you see every interaction as partial practice for the next, continuous improvement is simple. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  20. Once I was on this backpacking trip. We were going up over the first pass. If you’ve never been on a multi-day backpacking trip, the first day is always the hardest. You drive up as high as you can and park. Then you walk up and over a pretty high mountain range. Once you get on the other side of that first mountain range, that’s when the fun starts. You more or less walk flat (at least compared to the first day). Huge valleys, no people, meadows, streams, lakes filled with trout, wild animals, etc. It’s all very much worth the first day. And on this particular day, we were going over switchbacks. These long zig-zags that slowly go up to a high mountain pass. On this particular hike, there were a LOT of switchbacks. Going back and forth, slowly upward, for several hours. And each switchback was long. So long that when you got to the end, you couldn’t tell if you were at the top or not. It was VERY EASY to convince yourself you were at the top. You could see the trail going up, and then only blue sky. The closer you got, the more you started to convince yourself that you were almost there. But then you’d get to the end, and you’d have to turn and go up another LONG leg up the side of the mountain. Physical and mental torture all at once. Almost there, almost there, almost there, aw crap! Over and over and over. This how many things in life seem. You’ll be pursuing a goal. So much you’ve got tunnel vision. So much you start to think that once you complete this goal, you’ll be on easy street. Unfortunately, it ain’t like that. Not one bit. Paradoxically, the MORE you convince yourself that the next goal is going to be the culmination of your life, the more motivated you’ll be to get it. But once you get it, and see it’s true context, it CAN be a let down. This paradox is hard to accept. That from the vantage point of the VERY END of your life, they’ll be TONS of stepping stones into your future. But BEFORE you achieve each of those individual stepping stones, convincing yourself THAT is going to be THE ONE is the best way to get motivated. That’s just the way it is. The easiest way to shift from that “aw crap” moment is to just keep on huffing it toward your next milestone. This plays out in many areas. Your financial life, your love life, your career life, your spiritual life, your health. But the MORE of those milestones you achieve, the easier it is to maintain your momentum. And you can start, or re-start, from WHEREVER you are. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  21. There’s a common metaphor of a “branch swinging monkey.” It’s often used by disgruntled men to describe certain women, but it can pretty much describe anybody. As the disgruntled men use it, it refers to women who stay in one relationship until the next one is firmly established. Kind of like a monkey who swings from branch to branch. Men who get cheated on use it to describe their exes. They didn’t want to leave the current relationship until the next one was firmly in hand. But that metaphor isn’t entirely accurate. Meaning if you’ve got the metaphorical monkey swinging through the jungle, there are TWO WAYS he or she can swing from branch to branch. One way is the safe and comfortable way. And that is to ONLY let go of the previous branch when the next one is firmly in hand. This is safe, but it’s limited. Your range of motion is necessarily limited to where branches are overlapping enough so one monkey can hold two at any given time. But there’s another way to branch swing. One that allows for MUCH MORE movement. To get WAY OUT THERE where few monkeys have ever gone before. And that is to let go of your current branch while you are still on the upswing. And catapult yourself toward the next branch, even if you can’t see it. This will allow you to travel through jungles that have trees that aren’t right next to each other. Kind of like how Spiderman swings through downtown. Letting go of one web, flying through the air, attached to nothing, before shooting another web. In real life, this means confronting a rather uncomfortable paradox. One the one hand, most of us are terrified to take any action unless we KNOW we will be successful. On the other hand, if you look back over the last few years, there is NO WAY you could have predicted you’d be EXACTLY where you are today. The paradox is that your life is completely under your control. But it is also completely unpredictable beyond a few days. If you ONLY allow yourself to do things you KNOW will be successful, you’re like the monkey who is terrified to let go of one branch until he has another firmly in hand. On the other hand, if you do things just to see what will happen, and full embrace it, you’ll go much further. This is like the monkey (and Spiderman) who sails through the air, only with the self confidence that he’ll be able to grab SOMETHING before he crashes to the ground. And yes, you WILL crash to the ground. Both monkeys and Spiderman crash on occasion. But unless you’re willing to crash, you’ll never get very far out there. Get started taking action, and live. Don’t just exist. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  22. One of the myths of NLP is in it’s most common name. “The Study Of Excellence.” The idea is you can find something that is “excellent.” Then you can study it. And if you study it well enough, you can recreate that excellence yourself. This is how NLP was created in the first place. By COPYING people who were ALREADY excellent communicators. But there are a couple problems with that. Imagine a regular mall. Imagine that mall over the course of about thirty years. Shops come and go. Some last longer than others. Trends change. Demographics change. The economy changes. Suppose in that one mall, that’s been there for 30 years, there are three stores that have lasted the whole time. From the standpoint of “studying excellence,” all you’d have to do would be to “study” exactly what those three stores did, and you could reproduce it. Right? Not really. Because every single year, each one of those stores had NO IDEA whether they would be successful. Put it this way. Let’s suppose you had 64 people, each with a quarter. And each person flips the coin six times. By pure probability, ONE guy would likely get six heads in a row. Now, suppose you walked up to THAT guy and tried to “reverse engineer” his coin flipping strategy. And you thought if you studied him enough, YOU could flip six heads in a row. Pretty silly, right? But this is essentially the SAME THING that happens when you have a mall around for thirty years. Every shop maybe has a fifty-fifty chance of success. So at the end of thirty years, the shops that are around are less “excellent” and more lucky. Sure, staying in business is more predictable than flipping coins, but there IS tons of unknown risk. Otherwise ALL BUSINESSES would succeed. The question, then is HOW EXACTLY can you “study excellence” when MOST SUCCESSES are based primarily on “luck” that is NO DIFFERENT than a coin toss? One way would be to figure how to TAKE MORE CHANCES where you can accept the loss. If you wanted to flip a coin and get six heads in a row, you could. You’d just to keep flipping long enough for it to happen. It might take a few days, but with persistence, the laws of probability DEMAND that it occurs. If you go long enough, it would be impossible to NOT happen. And there are things those successful shops did that INCREASED their chances of success. And there are things YOU can do everyday that will increase YOUR chances of success. Even if you don’t know what that is yet. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  23. Being able to reverse engineer something is a powerful skill. Companies do this all the time. They take apart their competitors product. Rebuild it with enough changes they don’t violate any copyrights. Humans copying other humans is as old as the hills. One of the main driving forces of the Industrial Revolution was everybody was copying the crap out of everybody else. Back then, everything was pretty simple. The first big pieces of industrial equipment were looms. Pieces of equipment that could take raw cotton, and then transform them into textiles. The textiles could later then be used to make clothing and other things. All you had to do was spend a few minutes studying one of these machines, and you could go home and build your own. These looms are the main reason Japan got so rich so quickly. They didn’t need to even grow the cotton. They’d import it, turn it all into fabric, and then export it again. They’d pay a little bit for the raw cotton, and then make a ton selling it as a usable fabric. Of course today, the equipment in our modern economy is a kajillion times more complicated. You would spend all kinds of time walking around some modern production center and not have any clue what they were doing. That’s because what they are doing is based on all kinds of stuff that was done BEFORE it got to that level. With looms, you can see the raw cotton, you can see the loom, and you can see the finished good. Easy peasy. But if you wanted to reverse engineer how to build a computer, and all you saw was the chip fabrication facility, you would be more clueless than when you started. This is the way it is with human behavior. Few human behaviors are as easy to copy as a loom. Most human behaviors are like the chip fabrication facility. Even if you see the surface structure, it doesn’t help much. Imagine if you didn’t know anything about music. And you wanted to copy somebody up on stage jamming on his guitar. Just holding something that sort of looked like a guitar and wiggling your fingers around wouldn’t quite do it. You’d need to study the deeper skills. Music, both playing and writing. Showmanship. Confidence. Reading and responding to the energy of the crowd. And all kinds of business and marketing skills that would get you up on stage in front of paying customers. Luckily, when it comes to many skills, the deep skills are the same. Even for music. And if you start practicing the deep skills, everything on top will be much easier. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  24. Feedback is an essential element of all progress. Even the silly swimming pool game of “Marco Polo” is an example of a very basic feedback system. One kid has his eyes closes, and says, “Marco.” Then the other kids say “Polo.” And the kid, with his eyes closed, has to find and “tag” somebody else. Every time he says, “Marco,” and hears “Polo,” he has more info about where everybody is. We humans have all kinds of feedback systems built in. Once in elementary school, a friend of mine fell off his skateboard. In doing so, he got a stick stuck in his ear. It temporarily messed up his balance system. Our balance system lives inside of our inner ear. You mess it up and you can’t walk without falling over. Essentially the structure is the same as in airplanes, so when they are flying and can’t see anything, they can still stay level. When going after any goal, you need two elements. A directional or horizon goal, so you’re going in the right direction, and milestone goals, so you know you’re making the right progress. Way back in the day, before they invented farming, humans had both of these built in. The direction was wherever the food was. The milestone was their daily instinctive needs. When they were eating, this was a signal they’d been successful, and they could relax. When they were hungry, this was a signal to go out and kill something. When they learned how to track animals, every time they saw a new set of tracks, this was also a milestone goal, letting them know they were getting closer. When humans invented society, and more importantly money, this stayed the same on a structure level, but changes significantly on a content level. Now, since there’s tons of stuff to make and build and sell, any one “horizon” career goal will do. But the milestone goals are very, very simple. What are they? More money. Stated as simply as possible, if you constrain yourself by making money by creating something of value other people are willing to pay for, having more money as your goal will never fail you. The STRONGER your desire for money, the more motivated you’ll be to figure out ways to get it. The more motivated you are, the more ways you’ll figure out, and the more STUFF we humans keep inventing. In essence, modern human success is very simple. Build up as STRONG as a desire for money as you can. Then get out into the world and figure out how make some. Luckily, we humans come preprogrammed with instincts that make this possible. Since we humans have pretty much been doing this since the dawn of time. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/money-instinct/
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