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  1. Most people have heard about the four levels of learning. Unconscious incompetence, when you don't know you suck. Conscious incompetence, when you know that you suck. Conscious competence, when you don't suck, but you've got to use all your brain power to not suck. Then unconscious competence, where you can do it fairly well without needing to think. Many things that we learn come through these four categories. Tying your shoes, writing, driving, riding a bicycle, making a burrito. But there are some skills we come pre-programmed with. Like communication is a skill that we become unconsciously competent at without ever needing to think. We learn to speak before we are fully conscious. But if you were to learn another language, you'd have to go through the four stages. But you can also take something that already exists at the level of unconscious competence, and bring it back up to the level of conscious competence, and make it better. This is essentially what actors do. They take their natural, unconscious speaking patterns and consciously practice them. You can also do this with things like persuasion and seduction. Take your natural communication strategies, bring them up to the level of conscious competence, practice them until they are much more effective. Then drop them back down to the level of unconscious competence. This is the natural process when you take any skill, and improve it through practice. For most skills, there is no upper limit to the level of unconsciously competence. The more you practice, the better you get. Beliefs are similar, but a bit different. Beliefs are exactly skills. But they affect many other skills. Beliefs are like language, in that we learned them much before we were fully conscious humans. But very much like learning to speak better, you can learn to "believe better." How do you do this? More or less the same way. Do some work to find and examine your old beliefs. Rebuild them until they are better and more appropriate. Then practice believing them, until they drop back down to the level of unconscious competence. The thing about beliefs is they affect MANY different skills. So if you target the right beliefs, they will create a kind of domino effect on your skills. Find them, rebuild them, practice them, and drop them back down. Once this happens, a LOT of things will become much easier and much more effective. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  2. One of Cialdini's important laws is called "Commitment and Consistency." It's kind of complex how it works, especially from a persuasion standpoint. It's the idea behind sales funnels. You buy a product for $3. Then you buy another product for $19 from the same place. Then you buy another one for $49. Sales funnels use this PLUS scarcity. Each additional sales is a "one time offer." So they are combining TWO of Cialdini's laws. The law of Commitment and Consistency (you already bought one, so one more is consistent) and Scarcity (one time offer).. If you study Cialdini, you'll find the seven laws being used in nearly all advertising. Usually in clever combinations. The Holy Grail of advertising is to create FOMO. Fear of missing out. This usually involves at least THREE Cialdini laws. Most of the time FOMO happens organically and spontaneously. If it does, it's a marketers dream come true. You get a bunch of goofs on TV talking about some product. This gives you authority. Then all your friends are talking about that product. This gives you social proof. Then you realize that these products are hard to get. This gives you scarcity. All these add up to FOMO. Meaning if you WAIT, the products will be GONE. And all your friends will have one, except for you. This is the same psychology behind market bubbles. Everybody is buying, and the price keeps going up. Higher and higher prices mean that LOWER prices are getting scarcer and scarcer. Warren Buffet famously said that when your idiot next door neighbor is getting rich, you can be sure you're in a market bubble. Many of Cialdini laws play out in VERY interesting and complicated ways. One of them is that the older we get, the more set in our ways we become. This is Commitment and Consistency in action. Doing NEW things requires a lot of brain power. We don't like using brain power if we don't have to. But some things we keep even if they don't quite "work." This is how our limiting beliefs are formed. We took on a belief when we were very young. It was formed from a protective, defensive standpoint. But as adults, they no longer support us. They do the opposite. They KEEP US from doing what we want. But unless we find them, DISPROVE them, and then rewrite them, they'll keep working. The process not that different, structurally, from rebuilding an engine. It's a pain to take it apart and put it back together. But once it's back together, it's faster, stronger and much more powerful. Do this with any belief you want. So you can do any behavior you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  3. A few months back they had a new chess computer. Called "Deep Learning," it wasn't really a chess computer. More a "meta computer." Up until that point, the only way to build a chess computer was to program it to play chess. Meaning you had to give it algorithms to reference from any position. So when the computer saw a opponent's position, it had to calculate all the potential moves. But doing that, "calculating all the potential moves," had to be programmed in. Meaning somebody had to put in all the rules and algorithms based on each potential position. But the new "Deep Learning" algorithm was much more meta. They just gave this computer the rules of chess and told it to play against itself. To essentially learn from trial and error. And when they finally played each other, it wasn't even close. The Deep Learning computer obliterated the then FASTEST and BEST chess engine. Essentially this was TWO STYLES of learning. The old way of, "Tell me exactly what to do in each situation." Against the new way of "learn by trial and error." The first way is very compelling to most of us. Because it REMOVES all the risk. And it absolves us of responsibility. If we are TOLD exactly what to do, and we do that, AND it doesn't work, it's NOT our fault. Since we were doing EXACTLY what we were told. Sadly, many people would prefer to be told what to do, step by step, and live a life of mediocrity. So long as they never have to take a risk, and never take much responsibility, they are OK with that. If you want more, you've got to do more. Luckily, all humans come PROGRAMMED with tons of learn by trial and error algorithms. We are much more like the new, MORE POWERFUL computer. But this requires we don't have any anxieties or fears about what we are learning to do. Learning by trail and error in this situations is generally called PRACTICE. That's exactly what you are doing when practicing free throws, or practicing the piano, or practicing solving algebra problems. Practicing IS learning by trial and error. Only when we think in terms of practicing in social situations does it start to get kind of scary. Which is almost always what we think about when we think about making money. But you can practice making money skills just as easily as you can practice piano or basketball skills. And once you REMOVE the anxiety and social fears, it will be JUST LIKE practicing anything else. The more you practice, the better you get. The better you get, the more money you make. As long as you want, as much as you want. Once you remove the negative beliefs, it's purely mechanical. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/money-brain/
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  5. Most people are aware of the four stages of learning. Unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence and unconscious competence. The final stage, unconscious competence, is when you know stuff by heart. When you can play a song on the piano without thinking. Or bake a cake from memory while talking on the phone. And when it comes to getting to that last level, there are two "sub" levels. The first is when you learn something completely new. This is how most people think of that last level. Learning to ride a bike, tie your shoes, drive, juggle a few bean bags, etc. But there's another sub level many don't consider. It's the one Bruce Lee referred to when he said (paraphrased): "Before Jeet Kun Do, a punch is just a punch. During Jeet Kun Do, a punch is a careful balance of energy and breathing and intention and focus. After Jeet Kun Do, a punch is just a bunch. But a much more efficient and deadly punch." What he was referring to is taking something that is ALREADY at the level of unconscious competence. Then purposely bringing it back down to the level of conscious competence. Looking at it carefully, and improving it. And then PRACTICING it to the level of unconscious competence again. This is how athletes and musicians and artists make their living. Especially if they are competitive. They are ALWAYS trying to increase the level of unconscious competence. The level they can play at without thinking. The more they practice, the better they get. Most of us don't think like this. Most of us think in terms of learning something until we're done learning. Then we can get back to our comfortable auto-pilot lives. Consider, however, the importance of one skill. One skill you have NOW at the level of unconscious competence. And purposely downgrading that to the level of conscious competence. And carefully enhancing it, rearranging it, improving it. And practicing until it is at a completely NEW level of unconscious competence. A level that Bruce Lee called more efficient and deadly. What skill is that? Your spoken language. How you translate your thoughts into words. Like a first level punch, your words are just words. Sloppy, off balance, chaotic, and not very effective. But after you UPGRADE them, they will be effective and deadly. And since VERY FEW PEOPLE ever even consider improving how they think and speak, you'll have a huge advantage. Over everybody. On Earth. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/verbal-assassin/
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  7. Linguistic presuppositions are a very powerful grammatical structure. They are when you "hide" things inside of a sentence. Kind of like covertly slipping small ideas into people's brains. For example, consider this sentence: "Linguistic presuppositions are powerful." If I just said that on its own it would be easy to disagree with. You could say, "No they aren't." But I could take that same idea and hide it in a sentence. For example: One of the reasons linguistic presuppositions are so powerful is because they let you control other people's thinking without them knowing it. The above sentence works like a "sleight of hand." Where a magician does something on one side, where he wants your attention, but the REAL magic is being done where nobody is looking. In the above sentence, most people would focus on the part about controlling other people's thinking. If you read the above sentence, it would be difficult mentally to say: "Wait a minute, I disagree that linguistic presuppositions are powerful." This structure, of hiding ideas inside long winded sentences is what you see political pundits on TV do all the time. But the idea of something be PRESUPPOSED is very, very powerful. Because you can presuppose a lot, not only through words, but through actions. One of the most common "ideas" from TV shows involving lawyers and cops is the "one time offer." The district attorney is talking to the bad guy and offers him a deal. But then he says the magic words. That it's a one time offer. This evokes both scarcity and the fear of missing out (FOMO). Both are VERY POWERFUL when eliciting the desired actions from your targets. Sales people use it all the time, because it works. But there's a way to PRESUPPOSE this "one time offer" energy in your behaviors. Your subconscious non verbal communication. A way to build in the IDEA into your personality that YOU are a "one time offer." This is the polar opposite of "desperation energy." Desperation energy is like an offer that NEVER EXPIRES. Needless to say, if an offer NEVER expires, it won't be very compelling. Especially when it comes across as a very needy, "please accept me" type of energy. The opposite is very rare. Very attractive. Very valuable. Because it ALWAYS radiates that combination of scarcity and FOMO. And because it comes through your subconscious behavior, it's always implied. Presupposed. Which will not only make YOU insanely attractive, but it will make everybody else very motivated to ACT FAST. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/walk-away/
  8. When you were a kid your mom was worried about you hanging out with the wrong crowd. All moms are worried about their kids hanging out with the wrong crowd. Because we tend to pick up "bad habits" that way. A few decades of data show this to be true. The idea of nature vs. nurture is an old one. Take the idea that wealthy people have more books in their houses. Which of these come first? Does their desire to read books give them knowledge (from the books) and then they use that knowledge to make money? Is the desire to learn things the SAME knowledge that helps them make money? If you give a bunch of books to poor people, will they become rich? The trouble with questions like this is they are VERY HARD to test. Any kind of question about human behavior can only be guessed at. So what about nurture vs. nature? There IS plenty of data they can look at. And that is data from twins. Identical twins born together and raised in the same house. Identical twins raised apart. Adopted kids raised in the same house. Non identical twins raise together (same house) and separately. The data is pretty clear. There are TWO main things that create our ADULT behavior. Half is our genes, the other half our NON-FAMILY peer group. This is why mom was so worried about you hanging with the wrong crowd. Because we DO tend to pick up habits from our friends. If we have "good" friends, we pick up good habits. If we have "bad" friends we pick up bad habits. The REAL QUESTION is HOW, exactly, do we pick up those bad habits? We model. We subconsciously copy the behavior from people we admire. If that means doing homework and getting good grades, that's good. If that means smoking and robbing liquor stores, that's bad. But this is only ONE WAY we "pick up" behavior. There are many ways to "pick up" behavior. Sometimes we are "trained" by our environment. This is essentially how we pick up habits from friends. They (our friends) are our environment. Our environment which TRAINS us. Or we can TRAIN ourselves. This is when practice things like sports, music and multiplication tables. Or we can TRAIN others. Most people try to do this, but not successfully. The trick to training others is to be as COVERT and as SUBCONSCIOUS as you can. Meaning the more they DON'T KNOW they are being trained, the easier it is to train them. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  9. Once when I was very young, my dad and I were watching our dog run around the back yard. The dog got near a small apple tree. My dad remarked that he didn't want our dog to get a taste of the apples. At the time, I had no idea what he meant. But later I did. An apple tree, to a dog, is just a regular tree. And since dogs don't generally eat trees, they don't think of an apple tree as anything special. But this particular tree was pretty small. Small enough so the dog could reach some of the apples. My dad was worried that if the dog ate one of the apples off the tree, she would realize that particular tree had some food. And she would eat ALL the apples. Beginner's luck CAN be pretty fun, but it can also be terrible. Usually the more obvious it is, the less dangerous it is. If you walked up to a craps table in Vegas, for example, and tossed down some money and won, you would KNOW it was beginner's luck. Because you were in Vegas, you would KNOW that gambling is very risky. On the other hand, if you tried your hand at investing, and got lucky, you might actually conclude that investing is easy. A friend actually did that, by making a spectacularly boneheaded mistake. He actually bought the WRONG stock. This was way back in first Internet bubble of the late nineties. The stock he WANTED to buy was less than a dollar. The stock he DID buy was less than a dollar. But he got the ticker symbol wrong. But the stock he DID buy, went up by over 1000% in the next couple months. He invested a little UNDER $300, and got back a little OVER $3000. This essentially TRAINED HIM that investing was EASY. A lesson that later led him to lose EVERYTHING when the bubble popped around 2000. Learning the wrong lessons can be CATASTROPHIC. Learning the RIGHT lessons can be EXTREMELY helpful. Even more, the actual process of learning (self training) is pretty easy. Just as easy as training others. And so long as you have their best interests in mind, you can train them to do ANYTHING and they'll never know. We humans are trained by our environment all the time. So when you slowly train in certain behaviors in others, they'll never know the difference. They'll think it's natural. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  10. All humans are motivated by two things. Two very vague, and very strong motivators. They color all our thinking and acting. We want more of one thing, and less of another. One is pleasure, one is pain. Pain and pleasure are extremely vague ideas. But everything we either move towards, or move away from, can be put in one of these two categories. Things we want, and things we don’t want. This is how all humans learn. When we do things “correctly” it FEELS good. When we make a “mistake,” it FEELS bad. Since we are naturally programmed to do more stuff that FEELS good, we tend to self correct. Especially when we have a much larger goal on the other side of whatever we are practicing. For example, imagine you had a vision in mind of being the star basketball player of your school, and all the good stuff that came along with that. Because that END POINT was so compelling, the natural trial and error would be self motivating. The mistakes you made while practicing wouldn’t be so bad. Because they would give you valuable feedback to get CLOSER to your ultimate goal. All learning (or practicing) is enjoyable if WE are going toward a bigger goal that WE chose. On the other hand, if you are forced to sit and listen to some cranky old lady talk about long division, it SUCKS. You have no idea WHY you are learning such a horrific thing. So when you make a mistake, it REALLY sucks. When you do it correctly, it might feel good, but only because there is no pain. If you happen to be the teacher’s pet type, then doing long division correctly will give you pleasure. This is why the best teachers always find a reason to give their students proper motivation. To explain WHY they need to learn such boring stuff. Learning something for YOUR OWN reasons is fun and sometimes exhilarating. Learning something “just because” pretty much sucks for everybody. But there is another way to inspire people. Completely subconsciously. When you are overtly teaching or training, everybody KNOWS why they are doing what they are doing. To the extent they have a good reason, they’ll enjoy it. But you can also teach completely subconsciously. Not just information, but behaviors. So long as you are SUBCONSCIOUSLY motivating them by THEIR pleasure points, you can slowly train ANYBODY to do pretty much ANYTHING. Needless to say, this is a very POWERFUL skill. How many ways can YOU imagine using it? Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  11. They say a directionless arrow never misses its target. Meaning if you just randomly shoot an arrow without choosing a target, you can’t miss. On the other hand, if you shoot an arrow at a target, you most definitely CAN miss. Why would you want to shoot an arrow without aiming at anything? Maybe it’s fun. Maybe you like to watch the arrow sail through the air. Maybe you like to imagine your an archer in an ancient battle. None of those guys really aimed. They just sort of picked and angle and hoped for the best. With a bunch of archers on one side of a battlefield, and a bunch of soldiers on the other, you’re bound to hit something. Unfortunately, this isn’t a very good life strategy. Imagine a guy going out to meet girls. Ideally, he’d LOVE to end up with a sex party threesome with a couple of disease-free, porn star freaks. But most normal dudes will take whatever they can get. Which usually ends up not being much. This is like just shooting your arrow in a battle and hoping for the best. Instead, consider the idea of having an actual target. The threesome might be a bit too much. At least in the short term. Believe it or not, having a long term, “horizon goal” of having tight enough game to talk ANY group of females into a sex party is a worthy goal. One that is WAY out there. One that compels you to keep improving. The best way to keep improving is to choose very tiny, very achievable goals. Week one might be getting eye contact and smiles from five ladies. Week two might be getting a few short conversations. Week three might be getting some actual phone numbers. Week four might be going on one date. Most guys DON’T like this. It seems LONG and tedious. Most guys want the sex party RIGHT THE F NOW! But here’s the great paradox of life. The bigger your target is (sex party, for example) the less forward progress you’ll make. The smaller your target, the more RAPID you’ll make forward progress. This is a harsh question, but consider it. Instead of “sex party” swap out any equally desirable goal. Beach house, corporate president, etc. How closer are you to that goal compared to one year ago? Now imagine doing the slow, week by week plan. Assuming you’d stick to it, and make slow, gradual, tortoise like progress, how far would you be in a year? This is the secret to real tangible achievements. The kind that will make your friends ultra jealous. The slower you go, the faster you’ll get there. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  12. In sports, a common saying is “leave it on the field.” Which means when you play a big game, you put in 100% effort. So when the game is over, you’ve given everything. This is a fantastic idea for sports. The problem with metaphors like this is when they are misapplied. For example, let’s say you wanted to walk across the room and talk to somebody. The “leave everything on the field” approach isn’t so appropriate. When you’re playing sports, especially an important game, winning is the ONLY thing. (Except maybe for little league...) Any team that loses the championship game and shrugs it off as a learning experience may be missing the point. Imagine your favorite team after losing the superbowl or the world series or the world cup. “Well, we didn’t win, but the important thing was we learned a lot about our capabilities and we tried some new plays which worked out pretty well.” Most people would be understandably angry. But this is an IDEAL response for anything that is NOT sports. In fact, not getting a hundred percent success rate is a very, very good thing. Paradoxically, when you DO get a hundred percent success in anything that is NOT sports, you won’t really know why. Which means you won’t learn much. Which means you won’t get much better. Which means your ONLY strategy is to “get lucky.” On the other hand, shooting for about an 60-70% success rate is perfect. Because everything that DOESN’T work is the best teacher. This hard to wrap your mind around for most people. Especially if ALL you can see is in a short term time frame. Which is why having a LONG term time frame is essential. So long as you see any interaction or event as ONE of many, on a continuous unfolding future, it’s much easier to accept feedback. The more you can accept ALL feedback, most importantly NEGATIVE feedback, the better you can improve. This is easy in the beginning of the baseball season, for example. There are always a lot of games still to be played. How, specifically, can you cultivate this mindset? By creating something called Horizon Goals. Undefined, but positive goals WAY out in the future. At a skill level much higher than you have now. So that any interaction in the present is more easily seen as PRACTICE. Once you see every interaction as partial practice for the next, continuous improvement is simple. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  13. Once I was on this backpacking trip. We were going up over the first pass. If you’ve never been on a multi-day backpacking trip, the first day is always the hardest. You drive up as high as you can and park. Then you walk up and over a pretty high mountain range. Once you get on the other side of that first mountain range, that’s when the fun starts. You more or less walk flat (at least compared to the first day). Huge valleys, no people, meadows, streams, lakes filled with trout, wild animals, etc. It’s all very much worth the first day. And on this particular day, we were going over switchbacks. These long zig-zags that slowly go up to a high mountain pass. On this particular hike, there were a LOT of switchbacks. Going back and forth, slowly upward, for several hours. And each switchback was long. So long that when you got to the end, you couldn’t tell if you were at the top or not. It was VERY EASY to convince yourself you were at the top. You could see the trail going up, and then only blue sky. The closer you got, the more you started to convince yourself that you were almost there. But then you’d get to the end, and you’d have to turn and go up another LONG leg up the side of the mountain. Physical and mental torture all at once. Almost there, almost there, almost there, aw crap! Over and over and over. This how many things in life seem. You’ll be pursuing a goal. So much you’ve got tunnel vision. So much you start to think that once you complete this goal, you’ll be on easy street. Unfortunately, it ain’t like that. Not one bit. Paradoxically, the MORE you convince yourself that the next goal is going to be the culmination of your life, the more motivated you’ll be to get it. But once you get it, and see it’s true context, it CAN be a let down. This paradox is hard to accept. That from the vantage point of the VERY END of your life, they’ll be TONS of stepping stones into your future. But BEFORE you achieve each of those individual stepping stones, convincing yourself THAT is going to be THE ONE is the best way to get motivated. That’s just the way it is. The easiest way to shift from that “aw crap” moment is to just keep on huffing it toward your next milestone. This plays out in many areas. Your financial life, your love life, your career life, your spiritual life, your health. But the MORE of those milestones you achieve, the easier it is to maintain your momentum. And you can start, or re-start, from WHEREVER you are. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  14. There’s a common metaphor of a “branch swinging monkey.” It’s often used by disgruntled men to describe certain women, but it can pretty much describe anybody. As the disgruntled men use it, it refers to women who stay in one relationship until the next one is firmly established. Kind of like a monkey who swings from branch to branch. Men who get cheated on use it to describe their exes. They didn’t want to leave the current relationship until the next one was firmly in hand. But that metaphor isn’t entirely accurate. Meaning if you’ve got the metaphorical monkey swinging through the jungle, there are TWO WAYS he or she can swing from branch to branch. One way is the safe and comfortable way. And that is to ONLY let go of the previous branch when the next one is firmly in hand. This is safe, but it’s limited. Your range of motion is necessarily limited to where branches are overlapping enough so one monkey can hold two at any given time. But there’s another way to branch swing. One that allows for MUCH MORE movement. To get WAY OUT THERE where few monkeys have ever gone before. And that is to let go of your current branch while you are still on the upswing. And catapult yourself toward the next branch, even if you can’t see it. This will allow you to travel through jungles that have trees that aren’t right next to each other. Kind of like how Spiderman swings through downtown. Letting go of one web, flying through the air, attached to nothing, before shooting another web. In real life, this means confronting a rather uncomfortable paradox. One the one hand, most of us are terrified to take any action unless we KNOW we will be successful. On the other hand, if you look back over the last few years, there is NO WAY you could have predicted you’d be EXACTLY where you are today. The paradox is that your life is completely under your control. But it is also completely unpredictable beyond a few days. If you ONLY allow yourself to do things you KNOW will be successful, you’re like the monkey who is terrified to let go of one branch until he has another firmly in hand. On the other hand, if you do things just to see what will happen, and full embrace it, you’ll go much further. This is like the monkey (and Spiderman) who sails through the air, only with the self confidence that he’ll be able to grab SOMETHING before he crashes to the ground. And yes, you WILL crash to the ground. Both monkeys and Spiderman crash on occasion. But unless you’re willing to crash, you’ll never get very far out there. Get started taking action, and live. Don’t just exist. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  15. One of the myths of NLP is in it’s most common name. “The Study Of Excellence.” The idea is you can find something that is “excellent.” Then you can study it. And if you study it well enough, you can recreate that excellence yourself. This is how NLP was created in the first place. By COPYING people who were ALREADY excellent communicators. But there are a couple problems with that. Imagine a regular mall. Imagine that mall over the course of about thirty years. Shops come and go. Some last longer than others. Trends change. Demographics change. The economy changes. Suppose in that one mall, that’s been there for 30 years, there are three stores that have lasted the whole time. From the standpoint of “studying excellence,” all you’d have to do would be to “study” exactly what those three stores did, and you could reproduce it. Right? Not really. Because every single year, each one of those stores had NO IDEA whether they would be successful. Put it this way. Let’s suppose you had 64 people, each with a quarter. And each person flips the coin six times. By pure probability, ONE guy would likely get six heads in a row. Now, suppose you walked up to THAT guy and tried to “reverse engineer” his coin flipping strategy. And you thought if you studied him enough, YOU could flip six heads in a row. Pretty silly, right? But this is essentially the SAME THING that happens when you have a mall around for thirty years. Every shop maybe has a fifty-fifty chance of success. So at the end of thirty years, the shops that are around are less “excellent” and more lucky. Sure, staying in business is more predictable than flipping coins, but there IS tons of unknown risk. Otherwise ALL BUSINESSES would succeed. The question, then is HOW EXACTLY can you “study excellence” when MOST SUCCESSES are based primarily on “luck” that is NO DIFFERENT than a coin toss? One way would be to figure how to TAKE MORE CHANCES where you can accept the loss. If you wanted to flip a coin and get six heads in a row, you could. You’d just to keep flipping long enough for it to happen. It might take a few days, but with persistence, the laws of probability DEMAND that it occurs. If you go long enough, it would be impossible to NOT happen. And there are things those successful shops did that INCREASED their chances of success. And there are things YOU can do everyday that will increase YOUR chances of success. Even if you don’t know what that is yet. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  16. Being able to reverse engineer something is a powerful skill. Companies do this all the time. They take apart their competitors product. Rebuild it with enough changes they don’t violate any copyrights. Humans copying other humans is as old as the hills. One of the main driving forces of the Industrial Revolution was everybody was copying the crap out of everybody else. Back then, everything was pretty simple. The first big pieces of industrial equipment were looms. Pieces of equipment that could take raw cotton, and then transform them into textiles. The textiles could later then be used to make clothing and other things. All you had to do was spend a few minutes studying one of these machines, and you could go home and build your own. These looms are the main reason Japan got so rich so quickly. They didn’t need to even grow the cotton. They’d import it, turn it all into fabric, and then export it again. They’d pay a little bit for the raw cotton, and then make a ton selling it as a usable fabric. Of course today, the equipment in our modern economy is a kajillion times more complicated. You would spend all kinds of time walking around some modern production center and not have any clue what they were doing. That’s because what they are doing is based on all kinds of stuff that was done BEFORE it got to that level. With looms, you can see the raw cotton, you can see the loom, and you can see the finished good. Easy peasy. But if you wanted to reverse engineer how to build a computer, and all you saw was the chip fabrication facility, you would be more clueless than when you started. This is the way it is with human behavior. Few human behaviors are as easy to copy as a loom. Most human behaviors are like the chip fabrication facility. Even if you see the surface structure, it doesn’t help much. Imagine if you didn’t know anything about music. And you wanted to copy somebody up on stage jamming on his guitar. Just holding something that sort of looked like a guitar and wiggling your fingers around wouldn’t quite do it. You’d need to study the deeper skills. Music, both playing and writing. Showmanship. Confidence. Reading and responding to the energy of the crowd. And all kinds of business and marketing skills that would get you up on stage in front of paying customers. Luckily, when it comes to many skills, the deep skills are the same. Even for music. And if you start practicing the deep skills, everything on top will be much easier. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
  17. Feedback is an essential element of all progress. Even the silly swimming pool game of “Marco Polo” is an example of a very basic feedback system. One kid has his eyes closes, and says, “Marco.” Then the other kids say “Polo.” And the kid, with his eyes closed, has to find and “tag” somebody else. Every time he says, “Marco,” and hears “Polo,” he has more info about where everybody is. We humans have all kinds of feedback systems built in. Once in elementary school, a friend of mine fell off his skateboard. In doing so, he got a stick stuck in his ear. It temporarily messed up his balance system. Our balance system lives inside of our inner ear. You mess it up and you can’t walk without falling over. Essentially the structure is the same as in airplanes, so when they are flying and can’t see anything, they can still stay level. When going after any goal, you need two elements. A directional or horizon goal, so you’re going in the right direction, and milestone goals, so you know you’re making the right progress. Way back in the day, before they invented farming, humans had both of these built in. The direction was wherever the food was. The milestone was their daily instinctive needs. When they were eating, this was a signal they’d been successful, and they could relax. When they were hungry, this was a signal to go out and kill something. When they learned how to track animals, every time they saw a new set of tracks, this was also a milestone goal, letting them know they were getting closer. When humans invented society, and more importantly money, this stayed the same on a structure level, but changes significantly on a content level. Now, since there’s tons of stuff to make and build and sell, any one “horizon” career goal will do. But the milestone goals are very, very simple. What are they? More money. Stated as simply as possible, if you constrain yourself by making money by creating something of value other people are willing to pay for, having more money as your goal will never fail you. The STRONGER your desire for money, the more motivated you’ll be to figure out ways to get it. The more motivated you are, the more ways you’ll figure out, and the more STUFF we humans keep inventing. In essence, modern human success is very simple. Build up as STRONG as a desire for money as you can. Then get out into the world and figure out how make some. Luckily, we humans come preprogrammed with instincts that make this possible. Since we humans have pretty much been doing this since the dawn of time. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/money-instinct/
  18. There are skills and meta skills Individual skills are virtually infinite. For example, if you wanted to be a "skilled" computer programmer, you would never be finished. Every time a new language came out, you'd have to learn it. Same with every other technology based skill. But even non-technology bases skills are virtually infinite. Take storytelling for example. Storytelling has been going on before recorded history. All you need is spoken language. Being the head storyteller of any ancient village or tribe would be a respected tradition. If you are the one talking, and most everybody else is listening, AND you are carefully helping them create imaginary stories, that's a pretty good position to be in. So it stands to reason there would always be guys and gals "trying out" for the "head storyteller" position. A never ending competition of sorts. And every time you have competition, you have creativity. Everybody tries to outdo everybody else. This is the engine behind human growth and invention. Whether the rewards are monetary or not, it's human nature to try and "outdo" each other. Which means ANY skill you intend to learn will be a lifelong process. Luckily, we humans LOVE learning things. We love the feeling of being better today than we were yesterday. In our hearts, we are nomads. Never content to sit still. If we aren't moving physically, we need to be moving intellectually, spiritually, romantically. And continuously learning or improving upon skills is a great way to do that. But among all the skills, there is a META skill. One skill that supersedes all the other skills. Having this meta skill will make life MUCH MORE enjoyable. Not having this skill can make life miserable and pointless. What IS this skill? The self-responsibility to CHOOSE which skill to pursue. Many people don't do this. They choose skills their bosses want the to learn. Or they want to look good to their friends. Or they want to make their spouse happy. These are all fine, but if you don't have ANY skills you are learning just for YOU, you run the risk of living your life ONLY for other people. And plenty of people are very good at sniffing out people like that (who only live for others) and taking advantage of that. But so long as you've got at least ONE skill you are learning for YOUR OWN reasons, you're good. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/nlp/
  19. When I was a kid I broke my arm on a backpacking trip. We were two days in, so I had to walk all the way back out. The adult who walked with me had to dump most of his stuff. And then take me back to the trail head parking lot, find a way to get me to the hospital, and then go back and catch up to everybody else. It was a long ordeal. But I didn't have any choice. It's amazing what humans can do when we are put into a situation where we have no choice. One common myth we tell ourselves is that we'll "rise to the occasion." Meaning when something is really "important," we'll step up and get it done. But unless we absolutely MUST "get it done," then we'll pretend it's really not something we want. For example, plenty of guys tell themselves if they actually saw a girl that was "worth talking to" they would "rise to the occasion" and walk over there and start a conversation. Unfortunately, our fears are VERY EFFECTIVE at hiding from us. So instead of actually "rising to the occasion," we pretend that she's NOT really worthy to talk about. Talk to any guy who gets less success than he wants (on the dating market) and chances are he'll blame the market, and not his lack of confidence. There seems to be only two ways to address this. Admit you're terrified, go over there and talk to her anyway. OR, pretend that she's "low quality" and she's not worth your time. Most guys automatically take number two. But there is a third path. One that requires a lot more time, and consistent practice, but is much less scary and requires much less self-deception. And that is to slowly make it EASY to talk to people. To convince yourself that you can ONLY judge high or low "quality" after you talk to them. After all, talking to people is a skill. If you ONLY choose to talk to people who you subjectively label as "high quality" you'll be severely limited. Once you train your mind to EASILY talk to anybody, just to see what they're all about, plenty of doors will begin to open. And it all starts in your mind. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/nlp/
  20. Imagine if you never learned how to cook. Not even toast. Or microwavable bagel dogs. It was a huge mystery to you. When you got hungry, you had two choices. Go out and buy stuff (which seemed too mysterious to reverse engineer) or take your chances. And if you took your chances, you really did pick things at random and try and make something. Supposed you didn't even know what utensils in your kitchen did what. Like you might put a couple of raw eggs in the coffee maker. Or pour some milk into the toaster. Then you sat at the table with an empty plate and a fork and hoped for the best. Silly, right? Supposed you hired somebody to build you a house, and they did the same thing. They showed up to the vacant lot with a bunch of wood and tools. And no plan. All they knew it had to have a bunch of rooms, and a roof, But they only knew that because they looked at other houses. The walls ended up crooked, the roof was slanted, and it leaked. Luckily, people that build houses know what they are doing. And if you want to eat something, you don't have to play the odds. Maybe the first time you cook something it might not come out so well, but each time you get better and better. Most of us understand that skills like cooking are things we can continue to improve on throughout our lives. Same with whatever skills you need for your job. But other skills we don't even think of as skills. More like abilities. And for some reason, we think these "abilities" are set in stone. We are either good at them, or not. Naturally, it's better to be able to improve something than not improve it. So it would make sense to question the idea of a set ability whenever we can. After all, if you COULD improve, why not? Language is one of these. Sure, we all know that if we study a FOREIGN language, we'll get better. But just talking? The funny thing is most people talk like our imaginary cooker. Who put eggs in the coffee machine. We have these half thought ideas, and spit out a jumble of words, and hope for the best. Luckily, you can improve how you communicate just as easily as you improve any other skill. Most people don't even try, because they wouldn't know where to begin. Fortunately, there is a very POWERFUL system of communication that you can learn. And continue to get better at. The better you get, the more easily you'll get whatever ideas you want into their minds. But not just INTO their minds, into their minds so they'll be acted upon. Learn How: Seven Laws
  21. Imagine if you lived on a planet where nobody knew anything about exercise. Maybe they'd been in a post industrial, post information society for a few thousand years. And for some reason, all the records of exercise and the affect of physical movement on the body had vanished from the historical records. Imagine further they thought that being tall was like being strong. You were either tall or short. You were either strong or not. You could either run a long ways without getting winded or you couldn't. And then you came along. And calmly explained that if you did pushups every morning, you could increase your strength. If you went jogging every morning, you could increase your endurance. And if you did enough of this strange "exercise" you'd have a pretty impressive body. You would be hailed as a genius. A leader. Somebody WAY ahead of their time. Sadly, this is the world we DO live in. Only it's not exercise that's been kept form us, it's learning. Most of us associate "learning" with school. Boring subjects, boring teachers, and less than ideal surroundings. So as adults, when we think of needing to "learn" something, it's almost as if we need to give a speech, or walk across a tightrope above a pit of hungry alligators. But the truth is learning (strengthening your brain) is just as straightforward as doing pushups or jogging. In fact, most advances in human history were made by natural learners who used their natural creativity. Only in the last couple hundred years did schools become "factories to build factory workers." Once you realize how to RE-Remember your natural learner, thinking of learning something complicated will be just like imagining getting in shape. Most people get excited when they imagine getting in shape. They imagine a much healthier and more attractive self. This is the way humans are MEANT to think about improvement. We imagine having the improvement, it makes us feel good, and that good feeling motivates us to get it done. When you apply this to learning (imagining being able to do whatever it is you'd like to do) AND realize that learning is not only EASY, but you can do it without having to sit in a boring classroom, the future looks MUCH brighter. Click Here To Learn More
  22. Coming up with creative solutions can help in any environment. But just the name, "creative solutions" sounds like a pretty specific job. Meaning you might be stuck in a corner office in some R&D divisions, and people only call you whenever they've got an issue that needs fixing. Kind of like the "cleaners" in those mobster movies. The guy they call when stuff has gone way off the rails. The dude shows up, deals with the bodies, fixes everything, and then gets back to his mobster lifestyle. But in reality, we ALL have to come up with "creative solutions" on a regular basis. Every single second of your existence involves you looking out into your future, and trying to make the best decision possible. However, since most people spend their entire lives AVOIDING any kind of risk and uncertainty, the idea of "solving problems" seems foreign. The biggest problem they might have is how to pay for dinner. But the BIGGER you build your life, the more "problems" you'll "solve." But they won't be problems, they'll be opportunities. Now, that sounds really lame, I know. "They're not problems, they're opportunities!" is one of the most OVERUSED phrases in any kind of "self development." Instead, think of your life like Tetris. The future is always coming at you, whether you like it or not. Most people find a place where they SAME STUFF keeps coming at them. But if you PURPOSELY and CONSCIOUSLY move toward areas where more COMPLICATED stuff is coming at you, you can build much better things. And the cool thing is, the better you get at handling the more complicated stuff, the more complicated stuff you'll be able to handle. Over in the corner where it's safe (and the only thing coming is the same day at work, same shows on TV, same conversations with the same people), life is VERY BORING. And when it's over, it's over. On the other hand, if you slowly position yourself where more and more complicated stuff is coming (different types of skills for different types of jobs, different conversations with different people, different hobbies) life will continue to get BETTER. Every day is an opportunity to become a CLEANER. A FIXER. To handle the stuff that others are too scared to. Keeping learning more, and keep doing more. Click Here To Learn More
  23. When I was a kid I wanted a Swiss Army Knife. The kind that has all kinds of tools. Now they've got all kinds of hidden utility devices. Like a small piece of plastic that looks like a credit card, (and sits in your wallet next to all your other credit cards) but is a handy tool in case of emergencies. Batman is known for having all kinds of bat-tools in his bat-utility belt. A "truism" from NLP is that flexibility is the greatest strength. Whoever can do things more ways, will generally be the one to get it done. If you only know one way, when you're stuck, you're stuck. Luckily for us humans, our main "selling point" as animals was our flexibility. This first showed up as a sexual division of labor. Men hunted (protein and fat) and women gathered (fiber, vitamins, carbohydrates). And because we humans are pretty flexible in what we can eat (omnivores) we spread out all over the place. Compared to every other animal who is stuck in their own preferred habitat. Try switching penguins and monkeys and see what happens! But we humans can THRIVE anywhere. Our ultimate "utility tool" is our brain. If we don't know how to do something, we'll figure out a way. How many other animals have invented microwavable burritos? On an individual level, the more flexibly you can use your brain, the better of a life you'll have. Especially if you learn how to learn. Most people go through school, learn a few skills, and then that's that. If they're lucky, they'll get a job that won't disappear. If they're even luckier, they'll get continuous "on the job training." But why depend on luck? Learning how to learn is pretty simple. Since that's pretty much one of our main skills. Learning new things. And once you RE-DISCOVER your "natural learner" then you can classify EVERY SKILL into two distinct categories. Stuff you know how to do, and stuff you haven't learned yet. Click Here To Learn More
  24. All humans are programmed to keep going forward. Given our modern lives, it's hard to notice this. But the reason we humans spread out all over the world was because we have descended from ancient humans who had a never-ending drive to keep discovering more stuff. Even if we're sitting at home, watching TV, it's impossible NOT to keep moving forward. Only we don't really experience it as moving "forward." We are always shifting how we sit, what we are thinking of, and if what we are looking at (on our devices or screens or TV) doesn't keep our interest, we NEED to keep shifting. Just to see how nearly impossible it is to NOT keep shifting, try sitting in a quiet room, looking straight ahead for ten or twenty minutes. Sit as quietly as you can, and try to not even move your eyeballs. This is EXTREMELY difficult for most people. In a sense, we are kind of like sharks. Sharks can't sit still. They have to keep moving. But when we humans keep moving, it's usually in circles. Couch to kitchen to couch to bathroom to couch to bedroom to couch, and on and on. Or work and home and work and home and work and home. We STILL have that ancient drive within us. To keep going over new and undiscovered terrain. Which is precisely why we can feel STAGNANT if we keep going round in circles. Couch to kitchen or home to work. What's the answer? Sell your things and become a nomad? That's one way. But you DO need to eat. And you DO need to pay for stuff. So unless you've got a fat bank account, and you happen to only go nomadding near ATM machines, you've got to think of another plan. One is to keep LEARNING new things. Interesting things. Challenging things. This can do a LOT of things at once. You'll be learning more skills, so you'll be worth more money. You'll have a real feeling of forward momentum, so you won't feel stagnant or stuck. AND your brain will stay in shape a lot longer. And you may even find you have skills you've never even thought about before. Click Here To Learn More
  25. Once I went on a bike ride with a buddy of mine. It was a last minute plan, so he used my old bike. After a few miles, we both wondered why he was huffing and puffing so much. We were both in more or less the same shape. When we'd go jogging together, we'd always kept the same pace. So it was puzzling why he was having such a hard time. Then we decided to check the bikes. He had a brake that was stuck slightly. Not enough to notice right away, but just enough to make him pedal a little bit harder. Once loosened up his brakes, he quickly went ahead. He's been struggling to keep up, and with his brakes released, he used the same effort and pretty much blew me away. I was struggling to keep up with him for the rest of the ride. Once my brother and I were going on a backpacking trip. We were excited to find this basin that had a bunch of lakes, and supposedly some really good fishing. Since we were so focused on the destination, we kind of forgot about the path. Pretty much as soon as we left the car at the trail head parking lot, it was pure switchbacks. Really steep trails that cris-cross the face of a really steep mountain. Needless to say, our excitement didn't last very long. We eventually made it, but both of us were kind of disappointed, AND embarrassed. Lots of people want the good stuff, but they don't want to do the stuff that is required to GET to the good stuff. For example, many people would love to play an instrument, but they don't really want to take the time to learn. Many people would love to speak a foreign language, it's the learning part that trips them up. Luckily, the way most people learn is the way my friend was huffing and puffing behind me on that bike trip. There's some extra drag that they don't know about. And when they release the brakes, and find out how EASY it can be to learn new stuff, they can sprint out ahead of everybody else. What do YOU want to learn? Click Here To Learn How
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