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No matter what form of persuasion you are using, it must conform to human nature. Specifically, nobody will do anything unless they believe, consciously or unconsciously, it is in their best interests. This can seem confusing when we are on the outside looking in. We see people doing CRAZY things. Seemingly self-destructive things. Why would somebody do something that is so blatantly self destructive? This question is IMPOSSIBLE to answer. Even for the person doing the thing. From inside our own heads, there are costs and benefits to everything we do. Every action, big or small, long or short, includes costs and benefits. It's going to cost us time, money, energy, etc. What are the benefits? Money, social status, good feelings associated with survival (sex, food etc). But this is also based on how we PERCEIVE our reality. And how we judge our skills. And from inside our own heads, we never know the totality of these. Otherwise we would NEVER make mistakes. If you've ever made a decision that you later regretted, here's what happened. BEFORE you took action, you estimated that the benefits would outweigh the costs. But after you took action, with the added clarity of hindsight, you saw that the costs actually outweighed the benefits. So even from INSIDE our own heads, deciding what to do is rarely simple. This is why persuading others is complicated. We MUST convince them the costs are going to be LESS THAN the benefits. AND they must believe us. When it comes to persuasion, there are plenty of kinds. Hard sell, soft sell, overt, covert. But there is a much easier way. First, you understand all the things that cause us instinctive pleasure. The things that EVERY HUMAN wants. Positive validation, genuine social recognition, looking back at GOOD decisions, being recognized as a role model. Next, you understand the things every human DOESN'T WANT. Being a social outcast, trying and failing in front of others, being recognized as being an idiot, not being socially wanted, etc. Once you understand these, it's story time. You spin a bunch of stories that move them AWAY from the problem state, and TOWARD the solution state. And if you want them to do something specific, make THAT the thing that the character in your story did to achieve all the good things. And move away from the bad things. That way, they'll see this character taking actions. They'll see the GOOD RESULTS they got. And they'll naturally decide, "Hmm, maybe I should try that." And they'll try it. They'll do what YOU wanted, but it will be THEIR decision. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
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There's a powerful technique in the Milton Model. Of course, there are many, and this is but one. It's called the, "I'm not going to tell you..." pattern. It works because as soon as you utter those words, people's brains kind of turn down their defensive shields slightly. So if you say something like, "I'm not going to tell you to buy this product." It is a sneaky way to slip in the "buy this product" command. But it's very useful if you add on a bunch of stuff after. And that it seems like the stuff you add on after is the main part of the sentence. It's kind of like a magic trick. If you study magicians, they often to the "trick" part very early on in their routine. Then they do a bunch of talking after. If they can spit some pretty good game, the talking part is kind of a "mental cover" so you'll forget what happened before. So when they do the "reveal" it will seem much more magical. So when you use the "I'm not going to tell you..." pattern, it works the same way. You put in the command directly AFTER the "I'm not going to tell you..." and then you add on a bunch of stuff that will give them a reason to do EXACTLY what you said you weren't going to tell them to do. For example: I'm not going to tell you to BUY THIS EBOOK, because I want you to decide for yourself whether you would like to significantly increase your charisma and seductive powers. After all, many people find they don't like having gorgeous women following them everywhere and begging for sex. But you can also do this in a much subtler and more profound way. You don't ever actually SAY, "I'm not going to tell you." But you CREATE that feeling. Whenever you approach somebody, either a romantic target or a customer, it's hard to do so and pretend you aren't. If you are a guy, and you walk up to a girl in a social situation (or vice versa) it's pretty obvious what's going on. It's even MORE obvious if you are a salesperson and you approach somebody browsing in your shop. But there IS a way to approach WITHOUT any sales or romantic energy. And then through VERY relaxed and VERY subtle conversation, TURN UP their desire (buying, romantic or otherwise). And do so SO delicately they believe it is COMPLETELY their idea. They will actually believe that they are SPONTANEOUSLY feeling buying or romantic desires. For THEIR reasons. Which means there will be very little, if any, internal resistance. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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There's a very powerful way to respond to insults. And when you can do this correctly, the insulter will be absolutely speechless. Everybody watching will think you are super hero of language. It requires that you have an idea of the type of insult. The linguistic structure. It's very similar to the idea of agreeing and amplifying. This is very useful when done playfully. Say you are wearing a particularly bright shirt. And your friend sees you and makes a joke. "Dude, you should have told me, I would have brought my sunglasses" The structure of agree and expand means to agree that your shirt is bright and roll with it. So you might say something like: "Yeah, sorry, I had an eye exam today. I can't see very well so I wore this shirt so I wouldn't bump into stuff." Whenever somebody insults us, they expect to knock us off balance. So when you agree and amplify, it's NOT what they are expecting. And it makes you look pretty cool. Not only can you take a joke, but you can agree with the implied insult (dude that shirt is bright) but you can make a BETTER joke than the insulter. It's a way to maintain the frame while allowing them to keep theirs. Essentially, you make your frame bigger and more compelling. This is fairly easy when done playfully. But what about when the insult is real? When it's NOT friendly? When it's genuine purpose is to make you look bad? Same structure, except when you agree and amplify, you turn the meaning around so it makes the insulter look bad. And you deliver it with dead pan seriousness. This takes a lot of practice, and some quick thinking. OR if you have an idea of the insults that will come. For example, consider the bright shirt comment. If it came from an enemy, and not a friend, here's one way you COULD respond. First agree, that the shirt is bright. But instead of making a joke, you take that idea and make it a negative comment about the insulter. He says the bright shirt is BAD. You extend that to mean that bright lights are bad. Which could mean he prefers darkness. Those that prefer to operate in darkness are shady characters. So a possible comeback, delivered with pure deadpan, humorless energy could be: You prefer to operate in the dark, where nobody can see you? This would stun them. It's logical ENOUGH so they'd have to think about it. They would be silent for long enough to shift the focus from you, onto them. All you need to do is drop a couple comments like this and you'd quickly build a STRONG reputation. It takes practice, but it is well worth it. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/verbal-assassin/
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If you were to practice any of the defensive arts, you would need two areas of focus. One would be the actual fighting skills. These are things that would need to be drilled down to the level of unconscious competence. Unless you had some of time freezing device, when a punch is coming, you don't have time to think and calculate the best response. All the blocks and counter punches must be drilled to the level of unconscious competence. Otherwise you'll get punched in the face. The same goes for language patterns. Most people don't like to hear this. It's very common to want to read a bunch of patterns in a book, and then be able to use them in the moment. Unfortunately, it's very rare that they'll say something, you'll say something, and they won't say anything else. This would be like practicing a punch and hoping it's a knockout punch. Most punches are NOT knockout punches. And most statements you can memorize and say are NOT knockout statements either. So practicing them is essential. And so is practicing your response to the things they MIGHT say. But there is another thing you can practice. Something that is much easier to practice, but JUST AS DEADLY as a metaphorical knockout punch. Imagine one of those comedy movies. Where somebody walks up to a really big guy and punches him as hard as he can in the face. And the big guy is absolutely unfazed. He looks at the puncher, as if he is waiting for him to do something. This is usually when the puncher realizes the trouble he's in. There was an episode of the Simpsons where Homer did this. They found out they could put him in a ring, and let an otherwise professional boxer keep hitting him. Because Homer is Homer, he just stands there getting punched until the other guy gets tired and gives up. This is something you can develop. Not actually getting punched. But becoming completely NON-FAZED by any insults. They hit you with the worst insults and look at them. Trying to figure out what they meant. Your face and body language show ZERO impact from the "insult." This will make the insulter feel like and idiot. The more he tries to insult you, the more you stand there waiting for him to make sense. Developing this skill will give you a very powerful reputation. It will take some practice, but it's pretty easy. You can practice at home all by yourself. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/verbal-assassin/
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Most people have an idea of the halo effect. It’s when people that are attractive have an easier time than the rest of us. A famous study unquestioningly illustrated this. They sent in attractive people to job interviews. Carefully prepped them to give purposely boneheaded answers. They also prepared normal looking people. The normal looking people gave very good answers. As you’d expect, the pretty people who gave dumb answers were hired at a higher rate than the normal people who gave intelligent answers. The conclusion most people draw from this is life ain’t fair. Lucky for us normal folks, it isn’t fair. That is FANTASTIC news. Why? Because the halo affect only applies to those who are GENETICALLY gifted. The halo effect is something you either have, or don’t have. Sure, you can dress nice, wear some nice perfume or cologne, but if you ain’t got a pretty face, there’s not much to do. At least if you’re a normal human. Lucky for you, you know how the halo effect works. It’s used in advertising all the time. They put a sexy person next to a toaster, and people buy toasters. (Put my ugly mug next to a toaster and somebody’ll call the cops...) But for those skilled in the arts of covert hypnosis, you know you can CREATE the halo effect. The way it normally works is somebody looks at a pretty girl with big boobs. And that creates a GENETICALLY PROGRAMMED feeling of, “Holy crap! I’d like some of that!” That feeling, of course, gets stuck to the toaster, or whatever else they are selling. But there are MANY ways to create that, “I want that” feeling. Sure, sticking a model up there with big boobs is easy. She just stands there and creates that feeling all by herself. But you can create an equally powerful feeling with words. The thing with words is you can shape them. Form them like a master sculptor. Allowing you to create LASER TARGETED halo effects that you can attach to ANYTHING you want to. This is a skill. And skills can be learned. Practiced. Enhanced. The more you practice them, the better they’ll get. As long as you can breathe and think, the more you can enhance your super customizable halo effect powers. Compare to that sexy model with the big boobs. Time is NOT her friend. But it is YOURS. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
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How do you become more creative? This doesn't seem like it's something with any step by step process. One of the curious things about us humans is that everything is clear in hindsight. Much more than the "hindsight is 20-20" idea, where we always know what to do AFTER the fact. Many inventions took hundreds of years to happen. But after they were invented, they seemed so obvious. GoPro, for example, is a huge company. The idea of putting a camera on a stick seems pretty simple. Or on your head, or hat, or wherever. This is pretty much all you need to create a billion dollar empire. Take a couple of things that ALREADY exist, and combine them. When I was a kid, they had this goofy commercial for Reese's Peanut Butter cups. Some guy was walking down the street eating peanut butter out of a jar. (Seriously!) Another girl was eating chocolate. They crashed into each other and POOF! A new candy was invented. Dudes fought each other on horseback for hundreds of years before the stirrup was invented. You'd think somebody would have figured it out sooner. Since everything is simple in hindsight, having super genius powers of intelligence isn't required to be creative. All you need to do is think slightly differently. But even if you don't have a goal of coming up with a million dollar invention, you can impress plenty of people. It's pretty cool to be around somebody who SPEAKS creatively. This represents their creative thinking. Believe it or not, this is something that you can practice. Humans have pretty straightforward thought patterns. Our language patterns are very closely related to these thought patterns. And once you understand the structure, it's easy learn plenty of other structures. Funny thing about thought and language, is people tend to focus on the CONTENT, the stuff they are talking about, rather than the structure. But when you can see structure, and play around with structure, people will see you as a creative genius. Because you will be. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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Once upon a time a guy was at the end of his rope. His business was failing, he was in debt, and he didn't know what to do. He and his wife just had a kid, and they were on the brink. So he went to a park to off himself, hoping his wife would get the insurance money. That's where he met Warren Buffet. He told Buffet his problems. Buffet said that most successful businesses only come after failure. That in failure is the seed of great success. But just in case, he gave the guy a check for $1,000,000. The guy was grateful. He went home, put the check in a safe place and went to work. A year later, he was successful. Really successful. And he never needed to cash the check. So he went to the park to try and find Buffet to thank him. He waited for a while and then saw him wandering around in the bushes. He approached him, but before he got there, a couple of guys in white suits came and started putting a straightjacket on him. "Hey! What are you guys doing?" our hero asked. "That's Warren Buffet!" he cried. "No, he just thinks he is. He keeps escaping from the mental institution." The guy was dumbfounded. His whole business had been built on the alleged safety of his "backup check." Of course, the moral of the story is beliefs don't have to be true to work. The guy believed he had a million bucks in backup money, and acted accordingly. Of course, he had a reason to believe in the backup money. He didn't just decide one day to believe he was rich. The belief was based on his observations, and something tangible. (How a mental patient got checks with Buffet's name on them is not important...) Beliefs are important, very important. But it's very hard to conjure up beliefs out of thin air. You need to have a legitimate, reality based reason for your beliefs. This is exactly what happens when you practice skills. As you practice the skills, you're also slowly building your belief to use the skills. Both are necessary for the skills to be useful. What kind of skills should you practice? Ultimately, that's up to you and what you want to achieve. But consider learning the structure of language. There's a lot more than most people realize. There is a way to practice them to both build in powerful beliefs about yourself, and extremely useful defensive skills against any enemies. Because unfortunately, most mental patients don't wander around handing out checks. Learn More: Weaponized Hypnosis
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Which one would you say is more important to practice if TIME was an issue. For example, if you only had one hour a day to practice body language or enhancing your Persuasive Communication which would you say is more important. Context: For my YouTube Channel would you say I should increase my body language or improve my ability to communicate? I am interested in receiving your feedback on this matter.
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Hi, I'm Italian but I've been in Ireland for the last 5 years, I speak and understand English very well but I was wondering if on a subconscious level these videos would work on me, as English is not my native language. Thank you Guido
