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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/May02Post.mp4 What do women want? Nobody knows, not even women. Of course, for men it's pretty much the same thing. A bigger and more accurate question would be what do us humans want? Nobody knows, not even us humans. There are many reasons for this. One of them is there are too many choices. Kind of like being super hungry and standing at a MASSIVE buffet. You're hungry, but you can ONLY eat a couple plates. Without even knowing what it's called, we commonly deal with what economists call "opportunity costs." If you make a plate of carne asada nachos, and then a few slices of pizza, you won't eat the fried chicken or the burgers or fries. This is when getting what you want is EASY. Reach out, grab it, and put it on your plate. It gets even MORE complex when it's not so easy. This is when we have a bunch of choices, but not only do we have to deal with opportunity costs, but we also aren't sure if we are going to get our choice. Imagine being back at the buffet. You only get three choices. But before each choice, you flip a coin. Heads you get it, tails you move on to choice two. This is KIND OF what like it is being a human. We have a bunch of choices, but even when we choose, we aren't sure if we are going to get what we choose. But in real life, it's even harder. At the buffet example, what you see is what you get. Let's make it even more difficult. Three choices, AND a coin toss, but you have NO IDEA what you are getting until you actually get it. This is starting to sound like the famous "Monty Hall" problem from game theory and statistics. A car behind one door and a couple of goats behind the others. EGADS! This is KIND of what it's like from women's perspective when they look out at the dating market. What they see is definitely NOT what they get. What they want is definitely NOT easy to get. And it takes a LOT of social proof to override a women's ancient programming that says banging every dude in sight is a no-no. Especially when you consider how WRONGLY most guys approach the dating game. Most guys try VERY HARD to be JUST LIKE every other guy. Face, body, bling. For women, this would be like going into 31 Flavors and finding out that all 31 flavors are a variation of VANILLA. Jiminy Christmas! The good news is that it's very easy to DIFFERENTIATE yourself. By learning some simple communication strategies that most people don't even know exist. This means YOU will stand WAY OUT among all the other drooling goofs. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-seduction/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr03Post.mp4 A very common trope in romantic movies is the guy or gal who "gets" the other guy or gal. This is the opposite of another common romantic movie trope. That when two people are getting closer and closer, one of them is TERRIFIED that the other person will find out who they REALLY are. And when this happens, it's over. These are two sides of the same coin. The coin of who we really are on the inside. The fear side is us being TERRIFIED of being "found out" and forever rejected. The best-case-scenario side is them seeing our true selves and not only fully accepting this, but embracing us BECAUSE of this. This is the famous, "you get me" line that all hopeless romantics are looking for. The good news is that EVERYBODY feels this way. Everybody has deep fears of being "found out" and being rejected forever. This fear is built into all humans. Which means it's based on a false premise. But you don't have to do any kind of deep emotional healing to get rid of this. Why? Because there is a very easy, and very powerful way to GET pretty much anybody. And when you learn how to GET pretty much anybody, they will NEVER want to leave you no matter what. Doesn't matter if they are friends, lovers, or even business partners. Since so many people never really "get" anybody, you will stand out. You will be one among millions who GET those close to them. How? It's a pretty easy. First, it begins with understanding how humans think. The structure of our thoughts. The structure of our fears and desires. This may sound pretty complicated. And it IS if you force yourself to see the world through your own, ego-based world view. But turn off your own ego, just long enough, and you'll see that EVERYBODY is very easy to understand. So when you asks simple questions about how they think, how they see the world, how they choose, YOU will stand out. You will be the one they never want to leave. You MUST, however, be careful. If you use these techniques too soon with strangers, they may fall HARD for you. This is very dangerous. Ideally, these are best used when you've already established your relationship boundaries. Friends, business partners, romantic interests, etc. But so long as you are sure, fire away. And they will NEVER want to let you out of their sight. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar27Post.mp4 Structure is everywhere. Joseph Campbell found that most myths from around the world have the same structure. One he called the "monomyth." Commonly called the "hero's journey." Same basic structure, over and over. Similarly, most popular music has the same basic chord progressions. Once you tune your mind to hear these common chord progressions, you'll see them everywhere. Structure is something that we need to choose to see. It's not something we normally see. Even if you've studied music or mythology your entire life, it's very EASY to "forget" momentarily about structure and focus on content. The melody and the words. The characters and their unique battles of good vs. evil. On the flip side, if you are a pop music writer or a Hollywood screen writer, you can essentially write the SAME THING over and over and over. Different melodies and lyrics on top of the same chord progression. Different characters and battles on top of the same hero's journey. Thought also has similar structure. This can give you huge advantage. How? Once you learn the basic structure of thought, you can talk about the same things and over. Sure, the people you are talking to will think you are talking about different things. Just like most people hear all the songs as being different. Or all the movies as having different characters and stories. But from a structural level, you will see them as being very similar. One of Joseph Campbell's books was called, "The Hero With 1000 Faces." This was because every hero is essentially the SAME CHARACTER. Dorothy, Luke Skywalker, Harry Potter, Peter Parker, Neo, all go through the same character arc. Which means if you can understand the STRUCTURE of human thought, you'll have a massive advantage. The structure of thought is the same as the structure of language. From your perspective, you are having the SAME conversations over and over. From their perspective, you are one of the most profound conversationalists they've ever met. Or the most compelling salesperson they've ever met. Or the most romantic seducer they've ever met. Or the most engaging storyteller they've ever met. This will make it very easy for you to never worry about what to say. Never worry about what to ask. And just like movies and music, once you KNOW the structure, it's easy to flip to either side. Structurally, from a building side. Content based, from an enjoyment side. See the structure beneath words, and lead every conversation, and every emotion exactly where you want them to be. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar06Post.mp4 A lot of things are acquired tastes. Like coffee and alcohol, for example. When I was a kid, my parents would make coffee in the morning. I'd never tasted it, so all I knew was the smell. I imagined it would be delicious. But once I took a sip, it kind of ruined it. I had an imagination of what it MIGHT taste like, but that was shattered by the awful taste. But then, I grew up and got the world famous coffee buzz. That's when I associated the taste with the effect. Now, it tastes good. Really good. Many people spend TONS of money on coffee, and have highly refined sense of different beans from different locations. All of this is due to our inherent "cause-effect" generator in our brains. An ancient brain algorithm that helps us to think very quickly. Sometimes this works in our favor, sometimes it doesn't. If you are a little kid, and you touch a hot stove, you'll have a danger "cause effect" hard wired into your little brain. Of course, these can be slowly overridden. If you use that same stove to cook on, you'll develop much more positive associations. Nice smells, good food, a few people helping out in the kitchen, etc. Cause-effect is the same thing animal trainers use. It's also the same thing we leverage when we study. The question is the cause, and the effect that we are hoping to build in is the answer. Of course, it's usually much more complicated than this. But we can train ourselves, we can be trained by our environment, and we can train others. This is happening all the time, so why not leverage it? One way to train others is by how you make them feel. This is definitely a longer game strategy. A "show don't tell" strategy. A "let them think it was their idea" strategy. How, specifically, does it work? You interact with somebody. You communicate with them in a certain way. Because of your unique communication style, they'll feel much better talking to you than most everybody else. Do this a few times, and they'll slowly associate those good feelings with you. Let this become your natural communication style and strategy, and EVERYBODY will soon associate their good feelings with you. This will create a very powerful, very virtuous cycle. Meaning people in general will begin to treat you differently. This will make YOU think differently about others. This will come across in your frame and your non-verbal communication. Shift your communication style, and build a completely new world for yourself. What, specific communication style? This One: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar03Post.mp4 A lot of inventions have come in dreams. The guy who figured out the structure of Benzene had a dream of a snake eating his tail. The guy who invented the sewing machine had a dream of being chased in a jungle with the natives throwing spears with holes in the tips. A common, and very useful piece of advice is to think of a problem while falling asleep. Not in terms of, "poor me, this problem is going to kill me." But in terms of, "I wonder how I can solve this..." Somehow, while sleeping, your subconscious will come up with a solution. Being a creative thinker is a very positive skill to have. Being a problem solver is a very lucrative skill to have. Most people are content to go along with the flow. Plenty of experiments indicate 70% of us are content to let others do our thinking for us. The Milgram experiment showed 70% of people who shock an innocent percent only upon the word of an authority figure. The Asch conformity test showed that 70% of people will go along with the crowd even when they know the crowd is wrong. Whenever a problem pops up and needs to be solved, most people look around for somebody ELSE to solve it. This is normal, this is natural, this is instinctive. This is how humans survived for millions of years, even before we were humans. We are self-organizing, hierarchical primates. But guess what? There's not a lot of money in following the crowd. You won't get a lot of action by staying safely in the middle of the pack. On the other hand, if you are a known problem solver, people will defer to you when something bad goes down. If you are known as a creative thinker, you'll be the one they turn to when they need solutions. How can you build your creative muscle? How can you build your problem solving muscle? By practicing the structure of thought. Most people see a problem, and the best they can do, when thinking of a solution is somehow making the problem vanish. Or thinking in pure opposite terms of the problem. This is very linear, and very basic. They see A causing B, and they see that B is bad. Their only solution is to GET RID of A, whatever A is. Luckily there are plenty of other ways to tackle this. By doing drills that build in different thinking and speaking patterns. The more you do, the more creative you'll become. The more creative you become, the more you'll be the person others defer to. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb25Post.mp4 A lot of people are worried about AI robots taking over our jobs. That's partially true. If you have a job that's pretty monotonous, chances are a robot is going to be doing it. Flipping burgers, making pizzas, putting together stuff on the assembly line, even surgery. What WON'T ever be taken over by robots? Anything that requires in-the-moment human interaction. This requires something robots will never do. Look at while people while you are talking and they are talking. Read their emotions and adjust your questions and answers accordingly. Help them come to a decision. This is WAY beyond any AI computer's capabilities. Humans have been communicating LONG BEFORE we invented words and language. Just the human face alone has millions of potential facial expressions, based on all the different muscle configurations. Even the BEST body language readers ON EARTH can only really read people consciously and put them into one of two categories. The job? Secret service agents. The categories? Threat, or not a threat. Even then it's pretty difficult. Most communication is NON VERBAL. Sure, words are important. If you tried to get hired simply by smiling, you might end up in the loony bin. Or if you walked up to a cute girl and tried to mime your way into her panties, you'd end up as meme on the internet. Clearly, the highest form of human communication is a combination of words and body language. Or conscious communication and subconscious communication. Subconscious communication is like a cake. Conscious communication is like the icing. A FANTASTIC subconscious communication is much better WITHOUT icing than with the WRONG icing. The wrong icing on an otherwise fantastic cake would be like a guy with a FANTASTIC non-verbal frame. One that has EVERY LADY in the place wishing and hoping he'll approach her. But when he does, he says something goofy like: "Hey, I just want your opinion. Which do you like better, panda meat tacos or watching ladies push baby carriages off cliffs?" This would be like one of those record-scratch scenes in the movies. A fantastic cake with only a LITTLE bit of icing would be like the SAME GUY with the SAME FRAME, but instead of saying any goofy lines, he walks up and says: "Hey," while maintaining rock solid confidence and charisma. But even when dude is NOT saying anything, his brain is in a certain configuration. His brain is thinking certain thoughts. Those THOUGHTS are creating the frame. The confidence, the magnetism, and congruence. So when he DOES speak, and those words RESONATE with his frame, to her he'll be a dream come true. This is when you become unstoppable. When you have an ultra strong frame, and just enough words to maximize it. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb24Post.mp4 When I was in Boy Scouts, many, many years ago, we'd go on these weeklong backpacking trips once a year. We would each be assigned something to carry for the group. Stoves, food, tents, etc. But we'd also be assigned things for ourselves. Waterproof match containers, compass, first aid kid, etc. We each had a list we'd have to check off before we were allowed to leave. This a useful training exercise. To take a bunch of kids up in the hills for a week. And to train them to check and carry their own stuff. This idea, of a pre-flight checklist is useful in plenty of areas. For example, guys who date more that one lady at a time will have a pre-flight check list of sorts to get their place ready. If a girl comes over and sees evidence of ANOTHER girl, that's not going to go over well. It's a deep instinct to prepare before doing important things. On the flip side, it's good to relax and go with the flow. Going with the flow is good when you're with friends, or if you don't any specific outcome. Where the experience itself is more important than the end. Like going shopping not to buy something specific, but just to kill time while looking in all the windows. Another powerful way "going with the flow" works is ON TOP of intense preparation. For example, when a boxer steps into the ring, he goes with the flow. He doesn't have a specific set of punches in his brain. What he does is based on what the other guy does. One of the most coveted states of human nature is the "flow" state. When you are operating at such high levels of performance AND your conscious mind takes a back seat. Usually this is when there is some kind of competition, like sports. Competitions necessarily involved an unfolding of completely UNEXPECTED events. Events that you must respond to IN THE MOMENT. Most of us are in the "flow state" when we are hanging out with friends. When it's NOT a competition. Not really a flow state, but an unconscious, natural state. However, when we humans talk to strangers, this flow state is very difficult. Since we never know WHAT, specifically, they are going to say. So we are naturally on edge, which keeps us OUT of that flow state of mind. But just like boxing, and other competitions, you CAN reach the flow state. When wonderful words flow without conscious thought. When you don't need to worry AT ALL about "what," specifically to say. When all the words, phrases, gestures and communication that moves organically from your brain to theirs is perfect. Natural, attractive, seductive, mesmerizing. How can you develop this conversational flow state? By practicing the STRUCTURE of language. Which is also the STRUCTURE of thought. And when you can reach this wonderful flow state, AT WILL, with anybody, the world will be yours for the taking. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan31Post.mp4 Many things are a mix between form and function. One leads the other, and vice versa. Sometimes it goes more in one way than the other. Smiling is a good example. If you're happy, you smile. But if you're in a bad mood, and you FORCE yourself to smile, you'll start to giggle. It's not like our brain is different from our body. Our lip and face muscles are attached to our brain. And these are two way electrical circuits. It's not like our brain is some metaphorical energy center that controls us from another dimension. However, most of us don't think of doing anything differently. Our mind body systems are delivered like most PC's these days. Open the box, plug it in and Bob's your Uncle. You might get a small "manual" that shows you where all the USB ports, etc. are. Beyond that, you're on your own. Our mind body systems are like that. For most of us, we show up, run on auto pilot and call it good. But there are plenty of ways to significantly hack your own operating system. Ways they'll never teach you in school. Not because of any conspiracy. But because teachers are pretty much like everybody else. Show up, do the bare minimum, and expect a paycheck. So, how do you hack your own operating system? By levering the form-function idea. Smiling and making yourself happy is pretty easy. It's more of an example rather than a useful skill. The best ways are by leveraging the form function relationship between your language and your thought. You increase the quality of your thought, you'll increase the quality of your language. But if you increase the quality of your language, you'll increase the quality of your thought. How, specifically, do you increase the quality of your language? By doing drills on language STRUCTURE. Most people don't even think about language or thought structure. They have half baked ideas (that they copied from others) and spit them out with garbled words. But you, on the other hand can develop real wizard language skills. Real wizard thought skills. And since most humans can't tell the difference between magic and complicated science, they'll believe you've got some magical powers. Sure, you'll know exactly what you are doing. You'll have developed the powerful skills of language structure to the point of unconscious competence. Which will allow you to not spit out poorly chosen and garbled words, but instead to use laser targeted words, phrases and structures. To seduce, to influence, to persuade, and to outframe any argument you hear. To most, they'll feel the effect, but not have any idea what, or how you just did that. Which is perfectly fine. Since hiding magic out in the open will only enhance your effect. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan28Post.mp4 One way to think about our conscious awareness is as a "new instinct" generator. Whenever we learn something to the point of unconscious competence, it's essentially a new instinct. Imagine you were relaxing at home, watching TV with half eaten pizza on the coffee table in front of you. And imagine a mouse ran across the pizza. You'd jump and suddenly wake up. This reaction is a programmed instinct. Or imagine you were walking down the street, your mind on auto pilot. Then suddenly you looked up and a super GORGEOUS person was smiling at you as if the wanted to bang you silly. You would have a reaction. An instinctive reaction. But we can also practice skills until they become JUST as automatic. Generally speaking, programmed instincts are drivers and responders. Drivers to make us sleepy or hungry. Responders that wake us up in case of danger or opportunities, mostly for food or sex. But new instincts, or skills programmed to the point of unconscious competence can respond to our desires. Like if you learned an instrument to the point of unconscious competence, this would be an "instinct" that you have full control over. A mouse running across your pizza, or a super sexy person essentially grabs your attention without your consent. But learned instincts are different. They are under our complete control. What is likely the BEST new instinct to create is one few think of as a skill. Which means if YOU practice this, you will have a huge advantage. Language is something we do INSTINCTIVELY. We learn it unconsciously. Nobody remembers learning how to speak. And for most people, spitting out whatever words pop into their mind is good enough. But if you practice language, it can become as deadly as martial arts. Or it's opposite, the powers of unconscious persuasion and seduction. This is combining a programmed instinct with a new, consciously chosen set of skills. Very much like martial arts. If you don't spend any time training, and somebody attacks you, you'll respond automatically. And you'll look like those politicians who get into fights. Very clumsy, very off balance and VERY silly. This is most of us speak. But if you train your language, you'll have much more choice how to respond. Or how to speak proactively to CREATE the result you want. Persuasion, seduction, humor, anything. For most people, language is back and forth and NOT something we feel any control over. But when you practice language, it will be like seeing an ENTIRE world of opportunity. Not just in speaking, but in writing. You train in writing, and it will automatically train your speaking. Most people have a vague idea, spit out a bunch of poorly chosen words, and hope for the best. After you train in new language instincts, you'll never need to hope again. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov28Post.mp4 Most of us love movies with an unexpected twist. Like when the "Sixth Sense" first came out, people couldn't stop talking about it. Whether it was done deliberately is anybody's guess, but this kind of thing is a fantastic marketing strategy. One, because it's a great way to create word of mouth, free, advertising. Two, it induces people to watch this again and again. The first time, you see the twist and you're: "Whuhhh????" The second time you watch it through trying to see all the things that SEEM obvious the second time around, but were completely hidden the first time around. This is storytelling at it's finest. When you tell a story, people talk about that story, and people want to consume this over and over again. Essentially, this is how the storytelling instinct was calibrated, over tens or perhaps hundreds of thousands of years. Every night, somebody in the tribe would tell a story. Probably most of them were pretty lame. People would fall asleep halfway through. People would wander what kind of secret weed the storyteller was smoking. But every once in a while, you'd get a "Sixth Sense" type story. These are the stories people would remember. And then retell. You have a whole bunch of tribes all telling and retelling the BEST stories from all time, and you end up with a pretty good collection. This is essentially how mythology is formed. The stories that make up the collective consciousness of any culture. Storytelling is an instinct. Story listening is an instinct. And just like our food instinct, some stories "taste good" and some taste kid of lame. And just like you can LEARN to cook good tasting food, you can LEARN to tell some pretty decent stories. The "twist" is the basis of pretty much all humor. You tell a long story, and the "punchline" is the ending that is NOT what everybody expected. Or an ending that has a few meanings at the same time. In non-humorous story, this "punchline" isn't called a punchline. It's called the twist. Or sometimes the "reveal." This word has the same meaning of the "reveal" at the end of a magic trick. This is essentially the same feeling of a well told story. A magic trick, but only with words. This is why stage magicians who practice sleight of hand are ALSO some of the very best story tellers. Being able to use your words to create mind magic is a FANTASTIC skill to have. It will open plenty of doors in ways few people know exist. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov24Post.mp4 One major paradox of human thinking is the difference between cause and effect. Everybody and their sister has heard or said the phrase, "correlation doesn't mean causation." This means we all are both fooled by this and skeptical of this. Evolutionary psychologists believe this is a function of survival. Our brains evolved to be quick, but not accurate. Everything cost something, and our brains aren't any different. The cost of having a very fast brain is that many of our assumptions are incorrect. Turns out that thinking quickly is much more important than thinking accurately. So even today, this cause-effect mystery messes us up. For example, you see a guy talking to a girl. The girl is attracted to the guy. The guy is attracted to the girl. Attraction happens subconsciously, automatically. But we don't like that idea. We like the idea of being able to CONSCIOUSLY create attraction. Of saying the right things in the right order. Kind of like we practice for job interviews. It feels they same. They have something we want. And in order to get it (a number, some affection, a job) we've got to say the right things. Only in a job interview, the words we say go through a much more objective filter in the other guy's brain. Since they are hiring for very objective reasons. Some people hire for emotional reasons, and this rarely works out. Nepotism, because the candidate is hot, etc. Objectively hiring people tends to work much better. But what about in social situations? A common mistake in any kind of consciously learned "game" is by reversing cause and effect. A guy is confident, and he's talking to a girl. His subconscious perceives that she's attracted him. Her subconscious perceives he's attracted to her. This fantastic and unconscious feedback loop creates a good feeling in both. They both sort of know the other person likes them. And they both sort of know they like the other person. This attraction feedback loop is the CAUSE. The EFFECT is the words they are using. The mistake comes when we think the WORDS are the cause, and the attraction is the effect. This is a very natural and common mistake to make. Most people ONLY think about the surface level language. Most people are unaware of the emotions and subconscious communication going on beneath the surface. If you only focus on the top, you'll HAVE to play the numbers game. Keep talking to people and HOPE you get lucky. Or, you can learn to speak subconsciously. Covertly. Hypnotically. And CREATE attraction at will. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct27Post.mp4 Plenty of movies have magic mixed in with martial arts. Ideas like wearing blindfolds and blocking tennis balls. Plenty of movie characters are blind, but are very skilled fighters. Daredevil is one popular character. Another is the guy named "Hundred Eyes" which is the Kung Fu super genius from the Marco Polo series on Netflix. When Luke Skywalker was training, part of it was to use his lightsaber, along with the Force, while blindfolded. The leap from martial arts to being a blind assassin is not a big leap. Especially in movie fights, where they stretch the limits of believability. Why do we like these kinds of characters so much? The are right on the boundary between magic and reality. Even a guy like Hundred Eyes has skills we believe are achievable. If you had plenty of time, and plenty of training equipment and coaches, we believe, (or we very much LIKE to believe) that is possible. On the other hand, watching movies like Harry Potter is much more pure fantasy. It's one thing to FANTASIZE about finding a magic wand. That is something that is cool, but not really possible. But watching somebody like Daredevil or Hundred Eyes, we don't see that QUITE the same as magic. If we saw somebody in real life with a real magic wand, that would probably make our brains melt. But if we saw a guy like Hundred Eyes do a demo, we wouldn't have a melted brain. We'd have an astonished brain. We wouldn't think he was magic. We would assume that he has spent a lot of time practicing his natural abilities. Things that we COULD do given the right circumstances. On the other hand, if a bunch of people from the Middle Ages popped into our reality, they WOULD believe a lot of this stuff was magic. And their brains WOULD melt. The reason that we respond so strongly to movie characters that have very powerful fighting skills is WE wish WE had very powerful fighting skills. Let's face it, the world is filled with messed up people doing messed up things. We WISH we had a magic wand we could use to secretly do things to bad people. But there is a WHOLE WORLD going on that most people don't even notice. Don't even recognize. The kind of communication that is ALWAYS going back and forth between people. Most people only see the words. Only think about the words. What's going on BENEATH the words is much more powerful. Much more deadly. Master this realm, and people WILL think you are magic. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept07Post.mp4 One interesting aspect of our language is the metaphors we use. The problem with MOST of these metaphors, is that we really have NO idea why they were chosen. For example, a common expressions is "raining cats and dogs." Everybody knows this means it's raining pretty hard. But nobody really knows why. Sure, there's a few theories, but it's impossible to know. Because who knows how long people used them BEFORE writing them down. Way back in the day, there wasn't much stuff being written. Books and newspapers. Nobody wrote blogs or anything like that. There weren't many newspapers. To get a job writing newspapers, you had to demonstrate a LOT of skill. Similarly, there was no such thing as self publishing back then. In order to become a published author, any company had to have a pretty good idea that your stuff would sell. All this meant that there were very FEW writers. And the editors that looked at these things being written were very CAREFUL about letting weird phrases slip by. Which meant they didn't put stuff like, "raining cats and dogs" into print until it had been a regular part of speech for a LONG TIME. So no matter how sure somebody is of its origins, it's ONLY a guess. There is no way there COULD be a record. And yeah, everybody has their theories. Dogs and cats climbing around on roofs and slipping off during the rain, etc. But based on how language and words evolve, there is no way to tell if that's accurate, or just popular. Even worse are metaphors. Metaphors about who we are and where we came from. A common idea is we have a purpose that is NOT dependent on our choices. As if we were made TO DO something. Sure, if you make a sandwich, the purpose is get eaten. But that isn't determined by the sandwich. That is determined by the maker. So if you DO believe in a "maker" as an entity, then our purpose would be up to THAT person. On the other hand, you might decide to CHOOSE YOUR OWN purpose. Why not? That's kind of the idea anyway. To figure out your skills, abilities, make a few friends along the way, etc. One thing that would help would be to understand not WHY you were made, but HOW you were made. The deep programs running inside your brain. The instincts that serve as the human operating system. Turns that they're not only NOT complicated, but once you figure them out, you may get a huge advantage. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/love-instinct/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug29Post.mp4 One time I was hanging out in my friend's back yard. I was talking to her husband about something. Something related to gardening. I don't know how this particular noun phrase came up, but I said, "worm poop." Something about fishing or fertilizing. But since I was trying to crack a joke, I paused just before the phrase, and said it with a little bit of emphasis. "blah blah blah.....WORM POOP!" My joke worked, and my friend laughed. But their kid, who was running around, stopped and smiled. She looked up, smiled, and said, "Worm poop!" Like she had just discovered something cool. I think she was about four at the time. She picked up on it not because of the words, but because how I said it. AND how her dad reacted. Which was to smile and laugh a little bit. I paused before I said it, I said it with emphasis, and then he laughed. And this sent her little brain a message that this was a "good phrase" to say. She probably understood what it meant. Worms and poop are two words that most little kids would know. This is how our brains are configured. When we are very young, we SOAK UP as much data as we can. But we have to know which data is GOOD and which data is BAD. We come pre-programmed with a lot of ways to find out. Words that are emphasized strongly. Words that are used with strong emotions, happiness, anger, sadness. This is one way we pick up negative money beliefs. All the words that are related to money are usually said with a lot of accompanying stress energy. So before we even know what money means, we associate it with stress. This is also how we pick up ideas about social anxiety. Whenever we hear words about US, they may be tinged with anger, frustration, or other negative emotions. Whenever we express ourselves, and attempt to call attention to ourselves, the response is often negative. Not overtly, but it doesn't need to be. So we grow up with a very strong "brain equation." One that equates expressing ourselves, or calling attention to ourselves, with an expectation of negativity. If this was programmed before we were three or four, this brain equations lives in our subconscious. Which means just thinking about it rationally won't help. But you CAN dig down and DETACH that brain equation. Which will obliterate social anxiety. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug19Post.mp4 Once upon a time there was an anthropologist named Brown. He wanted to find a set of Human Universals. Characteristics that all humans share. Kind of like Noam Chomsky's idea of Universal Grammar. Most linguists and historians will tell you that there are plenty of different languages on Earth. But Chomsky believed we really only have ONE language. His theory was very technical, and he had a lot of supporting ideas. One of his reasons was that all languages have nouns and verbs and adjectives etc. And you can take any kid and put them any household in any country in the world and they'll grow up speaking that language like a native. His theory was we all speak different dialects of the same language. Similarly, Brown wanted to find a similar set of traits that we all share. Which he did. All of us are scared of snakes. Everybody has some kind of beliefs that could be called mythology, or religion, or superstition. Going back through all major civilizations, they all had SOME kind of "religion philosophy" that connected one's behavior in this world with the world beyond. All humans in all cultures modify their speech when talking to children. A kind of universal "baby talk." You may say that if you go deep enough, we are all similar. But the closer you get toward the surface, the more different we become. Even among family members and close friends you can find this dynamic. We all have a favorite food, but we all have DIFFERENT favorite foods. Closer to the surface are our own conscious reasons and ideas. The deeper you go, the more you get to the driving instincts that we all need to satisfy. Instinctive need for food, love, companionship, safety, self expression. It's common in persuasion to use more top level ideas. We believe OUR reasons for doing things will be persuasive to others. After all, they're good enough for us, right? From inside our own brains, they make perfect sense. But this usually only works with close friends whom we know well. The less you know your target, the deeper you'll need to go in order to persuade. This actually makes it much easier. Since the deeper you go, the MORE similarities we have. Even better, if you start deep enough, and use THEIR ideas that exist up on the surface, persuading them will be easier than you think. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/get-anybody/
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No matter what form of persuasion you are using, it must conform to human nature. Specifically, nobody will do anything unless they believe, consciously or unconsciously, it is in their best interests. This can seem confusing when we are on the outside looking in. We see people doing CRAZY things. Seemingly self-destructive things. Why would somebody do something that is so blatantly self destructive? This question is IMPOSSIBLE to answer. Even for the person doing the thing. From inside our own heads, there are costs and benefits to everything we do. Every action, big or small, long or short, includes costs and benefits. It's going to cost us time, money, energy, etc. What are the benefits? Money, social status, good feelings associated with survival (sex, food etc). But this is also based on how we PERCEIVE our reality. And how we judge our skills. And from inside our own heads, we never know the totality of these. Otherwise we would NEVER make mistakes. If you've ever made a decision that you later regretted, here's what happened. BEFORE you took action, you estimated that the benefits would outweigh the costs. But after you took action, with the added clarity of hindsight, you saw that the costs actually outweighed the benefits. So even from INSIDE our own heads, deciding what to do is rarely simple. This is why persuading others is complicated. We MUST convince them the costs are going to be LESS THAN the benefits. AND they must believe us. When it comes to persuasion, there are plenty of kinds. Hard sell, soft sell, overt, covert. But there is a much easier way. First, you understand all the things that cause us instinctive pleasure. The things that EVERY HUMAN wants. Positive validation, genuine social recognition, looking back at GOOD decisions, being recognized as a role model. Next, you understand the things every human DOESN'T WANT. Being a social outcast, trying and failing in front of others, being recognized as being an idiot, not being socially wanted, etc. Once you understand these, it's story time. You spin a bunch of stories that move them AWAY from the problem state, and TOWARD the solution state. And if you want them to do something specific, make THAT the thing that the character in your story did to achieve all the good things. And move away from the bad things. That way, they'll see this character taking actions. They'll see the GOOD RESULTS they got. And they'll naturally decide, "Hmm, maybe I should try that." And they'll try it. They'll do what YOU wanted, but it will be THEIR decision. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
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There's a powerful technique in the Milton Model. Of course, there are many, and this is but one. It's called the, "I'm not going to tell you..." pattern. It works because as soon as you utter those words, people's brains kind of turn down their defensive shields slightly. So if you say something like, "I'm not going to tell you to buy this product." It is a sneaky way to slip in the "buy this product" command. But it's very useful if you add on a bunch of stuff after. And that it seems like the stuff you add on after is the main part of the sentence. It's kind of like a magic trick. If you study magicians, they often to the "trick" part very early on in their routine. Then they do a bunch of talking after. If they can spit some pretty good game, the talking part is kind of a "mental cover" so you'll forget what happened before. So when they do the "reveal" it will seem much more magical. So when you use the "I'm not going to tell you..." pattern, it works the same way. You put in the command directly AFTER the "I'm not going to tell you..." and then you add on a bunch of stuff that will give them a reason to do EXACTLY what you said you weren't going to tell them to do. For example: I'm not going to tell you to BUY THIS EBOOK, because I want you to decide for yourself whether you would like to significantly increase your charisma and seductive powers. After all, many people find they don't like having gorgeous women following them everywhere and begging for sex. But you can also do this in a much subtler and more profound way. You don't ever actually SAY, "I'm not going to tell you." But you CREATE that feeling. Whenever you approach somebody, either a romantic target or a customer, it's hard to do so and pretend you aren't. If you are a guy, and you walk up to a girl in a social situation (or vice versa) it's pretty obvious what's going on. It's even MORE obvious if you are a salesperson and you approach somebody browsing in your shop. But there IS a way to approach WITHOUT any sales or romantic energy. And then through VERY relaxed and VERY subtle conversation, TURN UP their desire (buying, romantic or otherwise). And do so SO delicately they believe it is COMPLETELY their idea. They will actually believe that they are SPONTANEOUSLY feeling buying or romantic desires. For THEIR reasons. Which means there will be very little, if any, internal resistance. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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There's a very powerful way to respond to insults. And when you can do this correctly, the insulter will be absolutely speechless. Everybody watching will think you are super hero of language. It requires that you have an idea of the type of insult. The linguistic structure. It's very similar to the idea of agreeing and amplifying. This is very useful when done playfully. Say you are wearing a particularly bright shirt. And your friend sees you and makes a joke. "Dude, you should have told me, I would have brought my sunglasses" The structure of agree and expand means to agree that your shirt is bright and roll with it. So you might say something like: "Yeah, sorry, I had an eye exam today. I can't see very well so I wore this shirt so I wouldn't bump into stuff." Whenever somebody insults us, they expect to knock us off balance. So when you agree and amplify, it's NOT what they are expecting. And it makes you look pretty cool. Not only can you take a joke, but you can agree with the implied insult (dude that shirt is bright) but you can make a BETTER joke than the insulter. It's a way to maintain the frame while allowing them to keep theirs. Essentially, you make your frame bigger and more compelling. This is fairly easy when done playfully. But what about when the insult is real? When it's NOT friendly? When it's genuine purpose is to make you look bad? Same structure, except when you agree and amplify, you turn the meaning around so it makes the insulter look bad. And you deliver it with dead pan seriousness. This takes a lot of practice, and some quick thinking. OR if you have an idea of the insults that will come. For example, consider the bright shirt comment. If it came from an enemy, and not a friend, here's one way you COULD respond. First agree, that the shirt is bright. But instead of making a joke, you take that idea and make it a negative comment about the insulter. He says the bright shirt is BAD. You extend that to mean that bright lights are bad. Which could mean he prefers darkness. Those that prefer to operate in darkness are shady characters. So a possible comeback, delivered with pure deadpan, humorless energy could be: You prefer to operate in the dark, where nobody can see you? This would stun them. It's logical ENOUGH so they'd have to think about it. They would be silent for long enough to shift the focus from you, onto them. All you need to do is drop a couple comments like this and you'd quickly build a STRONG reputation. It takes practice, but it is well worth it. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/verbal-assassin/
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If you were to practice any of the defensive arts, you would need two areas of focus. One would be the actual fighting skills. These are things that would need to be drilled down to the level of unconscious competence. Unless you had some of time freezing device, when a punch is coming, you don't have time to think and calculate the best response. All the blocks and counter punches must be drilled to the level of unconscious competence. Otherwise you'll get punched in the face. The same goes for language patterns. Most people don't like to hear this. It's very common to want to read a bunch of patterns in a book, and then be able to use them in the moment. Unfortunately, it's very rare that they'll say something, you'll say something, and they won't say anything else. This would be like practicing a punch and hoping it's a knockout punch. Most punches are NOT knockout punches. And most statements you can memorize and say are NOT knockout statements either. So practicing them is essential. And so is practicing your response to the things they MIGHT say. But there is another thing you can practice. Something that is much easier to practice, but JUST AS DEADLY as a metaphorical knockout punch. Imagine one of those comedy movies. Where somebody walks up to a really big guy and punches him as hard as he can in the face. And the big guy is absolutely unfazed. He looks at the puncher, as if he is waiting for him to do something. This is usually when the puncher realizes the trouble he's in. There was an episode of the Simpsons where Homer did this. They found out they could put him in a ring, and let an otherwise professional boxer keep hitting him. Because Homer is Homer, he just stands there getting punched until the other guy gets tired and gives up. This is something you can develop. Not actually getting punched. But becoming completely NON-FAZED by any insults. They hit you with the worst insults and look at them. Trying to figure out what they meant. Your face and body language show ZERO impact from the "insult." This will make the insulter feel like and idiot. The more he tries to insult you, the more you stand there waiting for him to make sense. Developing this skill will give you a very powerful reputation. It will take some practice, but it's pretty easy. You can practice at home all by yourself. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/verbal-assassin/
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Most people have an idea of the halo effect. It’s when people that are attractive have an easier time than the rest of us. A famous study unquestioningly illustrated this. They sent in attractive people to job interviews. Carefully prepped them to give purposely boneheaded answers. They also prepared normal looking people. The normal looking people gave very good answers. As you’d expect, the pretty people who gave dumb answers were hired at a higher rate than the normal people who gave intelligent answers. The conclusion most people draw from this is life ain’t fair. Lucky for us normal folks, it isn’t fair. That is FANTASTIC news. Why? Because the halo affect only applies to those who are GENETICALLY gifted. The halo effect is something you either have, or don’t have. Sure, you can dress nice, wear some nice perfume or cologne, but if you ain’t got a pretty face, there’s not much to do. At least if you’re a normal human. Lucky for you, you know how the halo effect works. It’s used in advertising all the time. They put a sexy person next to a toaster, and people buy toasters. (Put my ugly mug next to a toaster and somebody’ll call the cops...) But for those skilled in the arts of covert hypnosis, you know you can CREATE the halo effect. The way it normally works is somebody looks at a pretty girl with big boobs. And that creates a GENETICALLY PROGRAMMED feeling of, “Holy crap! I’d like some of that!” That feeling, of course, gets stuck to the toaster, or whatever else they are selling. But there are MANY ways to create that, “I want that” feeling. Sure, sticking a model up there with big boobs is easy. She just stands there and creates that feeling all by herself. But you can create an equally powerful feeling with words. The thing with words is you can shape them. Form them like a master sculptor. Allowing you to create LASER TARGETED halo effects that you can attach to ANYTHING you want to. This is a skill. And skills can be learned. Practiced. Enhanced. The more you practice them, the better they’ll get. As long as you can breathe and think, the more you can enhance your super customizable halo effect powers. Compare to that sexy model with the big boobs. Time is NOT her friend. But it is YOURS. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
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How do you become more creative? This doesn't seem like it's something with any step by step process. One of the curious things about us humans is that everything is clear in hindsight. Much more than the "hindsight is 20-20" idea, where we always know what to do AFTER the fact. Many inventions took hundreds of years to happen. But after they were invented, they seemed so obvious. GoPro, for example, is a huge company. The idea of putting a camera on a stick seems pretty simple. Or on your head, or hat, or wherever. This is pretty much all you need to create a billion dollar empire. Take a couple of things that ALREADY exist, and combine them. When I was a kid, they had this goofy commercial for Reese's Peanut Butter cups. Some guy was walking down the street eating peanut butter out of a jar. (Seriously!) Another girl was eating chocolate. They crashed into each other and POOF! A new candy was invented. Dudes fought each other on horseback for hundreds of years before the stirrup was invented. You'd think somebody would have figured it out sooner. Since everything is simple in hindsight, having super genius powers of intelligence isn't required to be creative. All you need to do is think slightly differently. But even if you don't have a goal of coming up with a million dollar invention, you can impress plenty of people. It's pretty cool to be around somebody who SPEAKS creatively. This represents their creative thinking. Believe it or not, this is something that you can practice. Humans have pretty straightforward thought patterns. Our language patterns are very closely related to these thought patterns. And once you understand the structure, it's easy learn plenty of other structures. Funny thing about thought and language, is people tend to focus on the CONTENT, the stuff they are talking about, rather than the structure. But when you can see structure, and play around with structure, people will see you as a creative genius. Because you will be. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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Once upon a time a guy was at the end of his rope. His business was failing, he was in debt, and he didn't know what to do. He and his wife just had a kid, and they were on the brink. So he went to a park to off himself, hoping his wife would get the insurance money. That's where he met Warren Buffet. He told Buffet his problems. Buffet said that most successful businesses only come after failure. That in failure is the seed of great success. But just in case, he gave the guy a check for $1,000,000. The guy was grateful. He went home, put the check in a safe place and went to work. A year later, he was successful. Really successful. And he never needed to cash the check. So he went to the park to try and find Buffet to thank him. He waited for a while and then saw him wandering around in the bushes. He approached him, but before he got there, a couple of guys in white suits came and started putting a straightjacket on him. "Hey! What are you guys doing?" our hero asked. "That's Warren Buffet!" he cried. "No, he just thinks he is. He keeps escaping from the mental institution." The guy was dumbfounded. His whole business had been built on the alleged safety of his "backup check." Of course, the moral of the story is beliefs don't have to be true to work. The guy believed he had a million bucks in backup money, and acted accordingly. Of course, he had a reason to believe in the backup money. He didn't just decide one day to believe he was rich. The belief was based on his observations, and something tangible. (How a mental patient got checks with Buffet's name on them is not important...) Beliefs are important, very important. But it's very hard to conjure up beliefs out of thin air. You need to have a legitimate, reality based reason for your beliefs. This is exactly what happens when you practice skills. As you practice the skills, you're also slowly building your belief to use the skills. Both are necessary for the skills to be useful. What kind of skills should you practice? Ultimately, that's up to you and what you want to achieve. But consider learning the structure of language. There's a lot more than most people realize. There is a way to practice them to both build in powerful beliefs about yourself, and extremely useful defensive skills against any enemies. Because unfortunately, most mental patients don't wander around handing out checks. Learn More: Weaponized Hypnosis
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Which one would you say is more important to practice if TIME was an issue. For example, if you only had one hour a day to practice body language or enhancing your Persuasive Communication which would you say is more important. Context: For my YouTube Channel would you say I should increase my body language or improve my ability to communicate? I am interested in receiving your feedback on this matter.
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Hi, I'm Italian but I've been in Ireland for the last 5 years, I speak and understand English very well but I was wondering if on a subconscious level these videos would work on me, as English is not my native language. Thank you Guido
