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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar02Post.mp4 One common trait that most people enjoy is a sense of humor. It's one thing most ladies like in their men. It's one thing that most people dig in their friends. Even most movies, no matter how serious they are, need to have a bit of comic relief. Psychologist believe that humor is a kind of pressure relief valve. When we laugh, our bodies quickly tense up and then relax. Even animals like to goof around, seemingly for the same reason. But what goes in your brain when you laugh? What, specifically, is the structure of humor? One simple structure is ambiguity. In conversational hypnosis, there are different kinds of ambiguity. There is the long, stretched out ambiguity that is very trance like and easy to leverage things like commands, anchors, and post hypnotic suggestions. Then there is the very sudden, unexpected ambiguity. Like phonological ambiguity. When a word or phrase hits our brain, but it means two things at the same time. Why did the boy study on the airplane? He was in high school. Which building in town has the most stories? The library. What starts with "e," ends with "e," but only contains one letter? An envelope. Some jokes are set ups for these ambiguous punch lines. Often a common phrase that means one thing, but in the context of the joke means something completely different. For example, one day an elephant was walking through the jungle and fell into a hole. He called his buddy, the mouse, for help. The mouse showed up in his Ferrari, and pulled him out with his winch. A week later the mouse fell into the same hole. The mouse called his buddy the elephant to help him out. The elephant straddled the hole, and lowered his dick into the hole, telling the mouse to grab on. The mouse grabbed on, and the elephant pulled his buddy out. Moral of the story? If you've got a big dick, you don't need a Ferrari. Now, it's one thing to fill your head with jokes to tell at parties. But as SOON as you start talking, everybody knows a punch line is coming. A MUCH BETTER way to create funny feelings in their brains is to be able to come up with these different meanings in the moment. This will give you a lot of power. Because with the same linguistic structures, you can reframe ANYTHING into anything else. You can take something somebody says, and flip it around to a completely different meaning. Turn a snide comment back on the speaker. Turn a limiting belief into a positive belief. Turn a random, common complaint, about anything, into a reason to laugh. Once you learn the structure of linguistic reframing, NO IDEA will be safe from your ninja skills. You'll be an idea assassin, bringer of good times and destroyer of evil intentions. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
When I was a kid, we all had a pretty robust insult defense system. I don't know who invented it, but everybody seemed to have it down pretty good. You may have even learned it yourself. It's a fantastic strategy, that works just as well as adults. The basic structure is this: "I'm rubber and you're glue. What you say bounces off me and sticks to you!" Of course, if you said this during an office meeting, it would be pretty silly. It's one thing to SAY, but it's extremely powerful if you can ACT this way. The first step is to NOT get knocked off balance emotionally. This is the ENTIRE PURPOSE of any insult. If you are hanging out with friends and playfully trading insults, there are two basic rules. One is you have to have a comeback. The comeback MUST be linguistically sound. It has to be a little more complex than: You're an idiot! Yeah? Your mom's an idiot! But the second important rule is it has to be within a certain amount of time. If your buddy insults you, and you hit him back a couple minutes later, that is WAY too late. The whole point of a REAL insult is to hurt you emotionally so you CAN'T come back. Sure, if you want to fight fire with fire, you can not only NOT get knocked off balance, but you must also come back with something MORE vicious. But the "rubber-glue" strategy works just as well. The first step is to remain as emotionally neutral as possible. This requires some kind of "early insult defense system." It takes time, but once you've got it down, it's VERY POWERFUL. As soon as you sense any "insult energy," you simply shift into pure neutral zone. Then when they are finished, you simply look at them and ask: "I don't understand. What do you mean?" If you say this honestly and congruently, they will feel like an idiot. ESPECIALLY if they tried to slam you in front of others. When people slam us in front of others, they are COUNTING on us sitting there not knowing what to say. But when you use the "rubber-glue" strategy, EVERYBODY will be focused on them, waiting for THEM to explain what they just said. This will give you a frame of un-insult-ability. Very, very powerful. The first step is developing the state of emotional neutrality. Once you figure that out, you can have a LOT more fun with your responses. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/verbal-assassin/
One of the most famous insulting questions is the wife beating one. When did you stop beating your wife? Most people have a "rule" that they don't answer questions like this. This is a good rule. Because if you were to answer the question, you would ACCEPT the idea hidden inside. But when the person asks this kind of question, they aren't looking for an answer. They are looking to catch you off guard. It's very much a verbal sucker punch. Especially if it comes on TV. What happens is the receiver HEARS the beginning, "When...." And this makes us shift into "question...answer" mode. But then we hear the entire sentence, and are caught off guard. It's kind of like when I went to a restaurant once. I ordered a glass of scotch and a glass of water. Instead of bringing me water, she brought me a glass of gin. I took a sip of the gin THINKING it was water. When you EXPECT one thing, but GET something else, it knocks your brain off line for a few seconds. So when you get ready to answer a, "when did you..." question, your brain is expecting one thing. But then they slip in the "beat your wife" idea in there. You not only get knocked off balance, but you are shocked. It IS, after all, a verbal sucker punch. But the viewer THINKS you actually DID beat your wife. Why else would the interviewer ask such a question? Then when you sit there stunned, this VERIFIES the idea. You look like a guy with his hand caught in the cookie jar. This is why these verbal sucker punches are so powerful. The more UPSET you get, the more GUILTY you look. What's the solution? To first TRAIN yourself to NOT start answering ANY question until you hear the ENTIRE sentence. Especially if you suspect somebody is setting you up. If you stay CALM until the question is finished, it's very easy. You just look at them calmly and say: "I don't understand. Why do you think I used to beat my wife?" So long as you DON'T let yourself get pushed off balance by a verbal sucker punch, the person asking the question is now on the spot. On a much bigger level, this technique works like magic. First, train yourself to NOT respond emotionally until you hear the ENTIRE sentence. Even if it's a flat out insult, all you have to say is this: "I don't understand. Why do you think that?" This is just ONE of the many techniques you'll learn in Verbal Assassin. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/verbal-assassin/
Most of the time, we humans live under tons of vagueness. Unless you are in the middle of a science experiment, most of the stuff that goes on in our minds is vague. It HAS to be. It's the only way our brains can operate. This is why learning new things is complicated and time consuming. You HAVE to be specific. Learning the piano, for example, is time consuming. You have to put your fingers in the right places at the right times, and at the right pressure. You can't just "guess" and "hope." Well, you can, but it will sound like a jumble of nonsense. The learning curve has to go through a phase of conscious competence (using brainpower to think about what you're doing while you're doing it) BEFORE you get to unconscious competence. When people talk, we don't think about it. We are at the level of "unconscious competence." We DID all go through the level of conscious competence, sort of. But since we were between two and three (when the word explosion happened) we don't really remember it. This is EXCELLENT news. Why? Because no matter WHAT we say, unless it's a rehearsed speech or soliloquy, we're spitting out a collection of words that SORT OF describe the thoughts in our heads. Which means there is TONS of potential to find out more. All you have to do is know how to ask. And the Meta Model is perfect for that. Find anything they said that was vague, and ask for more specific information. However, unless you are careful, it CAN sound like an interrogation. Most of the time our vague language is perfect. But there are two cases where asking for more specific information will help SIGNIFICANTLY. The first is when we are asking THEM about stuff they want. People LOVE to describe what they want. The more detail, the better. If you're in sales, this is a great way to fire up their imaginations. This is also great to use with insults, put downs or underhanded comments. Since people come up with THOSE on the spur of the moment, there's rarely anything underneath them. So when you CALMLY ask for more information, they'll have NOTHING. Being CALM is vital. Otherwise it will sound like you're starting a fight. But if you Meta Model insults with even calmness, their insults will VAPORIZE. Learn How: Stop Manipulation