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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July22Post.mp4 Humans are very attached to the idea of free will. A common metaphor that describes the relationship between the conscious mind and the unconscious mind is of a captain and a ship. The unconscious mind is the powerful ship. The conscious mind is the captain who steers the ship. The problem with many beliefs is they are very much like food. We don't eat food because it is healthy. We eat food because it tastes good. To the extent you DO eat food because it's healthy, it's not automatic. And it's not easy. Beliefs are the same. We don't believe things because they are true. We believe things that make us feel good. Truth can be a very dangerous thing. Ignorance, on the other hand, is bliss. Take the captain and the ship metaphor. We love the idea that "we" up in our brain has free will. That "we" can steer our ship wherever we want. But think of the things we'd do if that were true. Using our free will to CHOOSE to study would be easy. So easy we'd spend all our time studying and learning and getting smarter and smarter. We'd our free will to exercise instead of sleep in. Which means we'd all have super fit bodies. We'd use our free will to DECIDE to walk across the room and talk to interesting people. So we'd be healthy, smart, and have plenty of healthy, happy relationships with smart, healthy people. But we don't. So the idea of free will CAN'T be true. But even in the face of EVIDENCE it's hard to accept that. So we deceive ourselves. We tell ourselves we don't WANT all those things. But if there was a magic pill, that had zero side effects, was permanent, and gave us ALL those things (intelligence, health, massive confidence) and it only cost a dollar, EVERYBODY would take it. So we DO want those things, it's just that we aren't willing to pay the costs. It's much easier to follow our INSTINCTS. Instincts that make us want to play it safe, sleep late, and only eat food that tastes good and believe things that make us feel good. This, actually, is FANTASTIC news. Because when you want to PERSUADE somebody, all you need to do is leverage these INSTINCTS. Most people try and leverage the CONSCIOUS reasons we tell ourselves WHY we do the things we do. But as an advanced persuader, you know better. Once you learn about the basic human instincts that drive ALL human behaviors, persuading people is EASY. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/instinct-persuasion/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July21Post.mp4 I was listening to this "pundit" the other day. He was talking about the "ideal" way to express your skills, or live a good life, or whatever "pundits" like to talk about. He said the ideal situation is where you have a set of skills that you ENJOY doing, that there is a market for, that will earn you some money AND will allow you to "do good." The first three are perfect. In fact, you really only need the first two. Skills that you enjoy doing and will make you money. The only caveat is that money is VOLUNTARILY being given to you. If you were a highly skilled bank robber, and enjoyed robbing banks, then that wouldn't really qualify. People sometimes feel a need to add on a "do good for society" whenever they talk about making money. As if there is something inherently WRONG with ONLY wanting to make money. That unless you are ALSO taking time to "do good" (whatever that means) then ONLY making money isn't enough. But when you do something and somebody VOLUNTARILY gives you money in exchange, that IS good. Imagine that you and a friend decided to trade $20 bills. Just for fun. How would that feel? Pretty silly. Now imagine trading a $20 for $21. That would feel better. That's why people LIKE to buy things. We WANT the thing we are getting MORE than the money we are paying. If you run the BEST bread shop in town, and people LOVE to come and buy your bread, then you ARE doing good. Selling bread that people enjoy buying IS doing good. You have a skill that you ENJOY. Baking the best bread around. That skill is getting you PAID. So long as that money is coming from happy people who EAGERLY hand over the cash in exchange for the bread, there's NOTHING ELSE you need for a happy life. At least from a making money, career, financial stability standpoint. And in a few happy relationships, and Bob's your uncle. This idea rests on top of ANCIENT instincts. Instincts that drove people to act selfishly. Not an evil selfish. But a very ancient and very MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL selfish. The mutually beneficial selfishness that makes bees and flowers team up. And dogs and humans. And humans and humans. The SAME mutually beneficial selfishness that makes people WANT to develop skills to sell things to people who EAGERLY pay them. This is a very DEEP and very ANCIENT human desire. Everybody has it. Everybody WANTS to express. Learn to leverage it, and you can motivate people to do anything. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/instinct-persuasion/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July20Post.mp4 One of the biggest problems in modern society is social approval. In ancient human societies, social approval was essentially the currency. Today, the currency is money. Duh. You work, applying your unique set of skills. They pay you money, and you take that money and buy whatever you want. But in ancient times, BEFORE money was invented, the "currency" was social status. This allowed ancient societies to THRIVE based on selfish behaviors. Any society that DEPENDENDED on non-selfish behavior wouldn't have lasted long. How was did selfish behavior work? Every day, dudes went out hunting. They wanted to get the BIGGEST kill possible. Not because it was the right thing to do. Not because it was what other people THOUGHT they should do. Not because they were worried about being a positive role model. Because whoever came back with the BIGGEST kill got treated like a ROCK STAR. Including a ton of sex. This INSTINCT made EVERYBODY want to kill the biggest animal possible. Tribes filled with these types of people, with that type of instinct, ALWAYS had enough to eat. The more any ancient hunter CONSISTENLY brought back big kills, the more social status he had. The more social status he had, the better life he had. But his social status, his ROCK STAR status, was directly connected to his productivity. How many calories he acquired. This was a perfectly calibrated system. Today, it's pretty messed up. We WANT social status, and we very much like the IDEA of getting social status, but it can easily BACKFIRE. Because nearly all socials status today is NOT connected to real productivity. You can buy a bunch of bling on your credit card, go way into debt and still kind FAKE IT. This is the whole idea of "keeping up with the Jones'." The underlying concept beneath the famous saying: "We buy things we can't afford to impress people we don't like." Because EVERYBODY is competing with each other to get FAKE social status. But guess what? That ancient instinct still lives inside everybody. That's why we LOVE hero's journey movies. Where hero's go out, kill the bad guy, and get ROCK STAR treatment. This is EXACTLY what our instincts CRAVE. Which means this is a very useful instinct to leverage. Take any idea, and wrap it around this ancient instinct, and people will be BEGGING to do what you want. All without knowing what's going on. This can make you more persuasive then ever. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/instinct-persuasion/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July19Post.mp4 The most common persuasion strategy is the features and benefits strategy. When in actual sales, the salesperson is taught to memorize a huge list of features and benefits. Then they rattle them off to any customer that walks in the door. The idea is that if they hit enough of the customer's hot buttons, the customer will have enough buying desire. On TV shows and movies, effective salespeople do this with plenty of charisma. The customer just needs to stand there and be mesmerized by the beautiful metaphors the salesperson comes up with. Even if non-sales persuasion, this is the common, go-to technique for most people. The persuader tries to convince the target why the target should do want the persuader wants. Based on the ideas that exist in the persuader's brain. To the extent that there is a natural OVERLAP between the persuader's brain and the target's, this will work. But there often isn't. This is AS FAR as most persuaders go in their thinking. Of trying to find some kind of MAGIC WORDS to MAKE the target do what the persuader wants. Sales, persuasion and seduction. A much more enlightened approach is to find out the kinds of things the target likes or wants. In sales, this is called eliciting the criteria. First you find out EVERYTHING you can about the target's desires. THEN you take those desires that came from THEIR BRAIN and try and show htem how YOUR idea will satisfy THEIR desires. This works better than the features and benefits approach. It's not nearly as confrontational. But it's also still pretty limited. Why? Because it requires that the target KNOW what they want. AND it requires the conversation ALLOW for such questions. Many times it doesn't. Especially when overt persuasion isn't appropriate. For example, suppose you wanted to give somebody some advice. Somebody you knew. Somebody that you KNEW would benefit from the advice. But they CAN'T see it from their perspective. It's VERY HARD to elicit criteria under this scenario. At least CONSCIOUS criteria. We humans have tons of UNCONSCIOUS criteria. An infinite amount, essentially. At least as long as we are thinking and breathing. If you can leverage THIS unconscious criteria, ALL persuasion is MUCH easier. Luckily, this deep criteria, is very similar from person to person. Which means once you figure it out, the SAME strategies will work on plenty of people. For whatever reasons you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/instinct-persuasion/
  5. Benefits Of Female Hypergamy: https://mindpersuasion.com/the-benefits-of-female-hypergamy/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/benefits-of-female-hypergamy https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July19Loop.mp4
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July13Post.mp4 A long time ago, George Carlin had a routine about the seven things you can't say on TV. From a purely legal perspective, and even a linguistic perspective, it would seem that these words are purely arbitrary. How can one short collection of sounds be ILLEGAL to say out loud? It turns out there is a legitimate, emotional reason. Maybe not so much any more, since everybody cusses like sailors nowadays. But way back before internet, before cable TV, people only heard things from their own social circle. And the people they saw on TV. And it turns out that when we grow up in a culture that gives certain meanings to certain words, those words cause an UNCONSCIOUS response in the listener. If you choose friends that use that kind of language, that's one thing. But to see some goof on TV talking, and suddenly they spew one of the "seven words you can't say on TV," that causes and UNCONSCIOUS, unexpected, and NEGATIVE emotional reaction in the listener. Kind of like an emotional sucker punch. This is also one way they test for sociopathic behaviors. They have somebody read a bunch of sentences. Normal people, when they come across certain words, have that same, unconscious reaction. Researchers can tell because it takes a little bit longer for NORMAL people to process these words. Almost like they are thrown off balance, and need an extra half second to recover. But not sociopaths. They breeze right through those words like they mean the same as "puppy dog" or "ice cream." Some of our responses are conscious. Some are unconscious. If you've ever had your reflexes tested at the doctors office, they are testing your unconscious response. If you are too drunk to drive, your pupils WON'T automatically shrink when the cops shine a light in your eyes. On some level, we are like automatic robots. External triggers create internal replies. On top of all those triggers, we have a bunch of conscious choices. Most of our conscious choices fall into only a few categories. If you try and persuade somebody by appealing to their rational mind, you'll only have a little bit of success. But if you persuade people based on these much deeper, instinctive choices, it will be much more automatic. Not only will their behaviors be automatic, but if you create the message correctly, they'll thank you. Giving you an extraordinary amount of power over their behavior. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/instinct-persuasion/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July12Post.mp4 Getting an opponent to commit is a highly regarded skill in sports. For example, if you are basketball, and you're on offense. And you pretend you are going one way, so much that the opponent believes you, you can get him to "commit." Meaning that his momentum is going that direction. But since your momentum isn't, as you were only pretending, you can shift. But since he's committed, he can't. The more effectively you can do this, the better you look. This is a very common strategy. Used in sports and war. It's the basis of the Normandy invasion. The allies tricked the Germans into thinking they were attacking somewhere else. Hoping the Germans would commit all their resources in that other place. It's also a common tactic used in both sales and cons. If you're in sales, a very useful technique is to flip the script somehow. So the customer is trying to convince the salesperson to sell him the product. Sometimes this happens naturally. When there are more customers than products. Sometimes that is engineered. The companies purposely OVER advertise. Creating HUGE demand. Only to deliver less products than they KNOW are being demanded. In con movies, it's somewhat similar. To trick the mark into really WANTING what the con man wants them to want. Then the con man pulls back, essentially "conning" the mark into trying to persuade the con artist to let him in on the deal. All of these techniques involve getting the target to OWN the decision. Any time you can get anybody to OWN a decision, you don't have much to worry about. When we don't own the decision, bad things can happen. Imagine somebody convinces you to do something, and you're ONLY doing it on their recommendation. Then it doesn't work out. AND it ended up costing you something. It's very natural, in this situation, to feel TRICKED. To feel CONNED. But when somebody OWNS the decision, even if it doesn't work out, they won't get angry. Normally, we do this to ourselves. When we RATIONALIZE after the fact. It's a very common way to preserve the integrity of our ego. But you can also engineer this. By leveraging your targets deep instincts. So not only will they OWN the decision, but they'll THANK YOU. Even if it doesn't work out. What kinds of things can you get people to do? Whatever you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/instinct-persuasion/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July2Post.mp4 A lot of things exists on continuums. One side is one extreme, another side is another extreme. For example, a very common idea is to be motivated by pain or pleasure. Either being motivated by moving away from pain. Or being motivated toward pleasure. Most are a mix of the two. Too far on either side can cause problems. If you are ONLY motivated away from pain, once you get far enough away so the pain diminishes, you'll lose your motivation. You'll always start things, but never finish. On the other hand, if you are ONLY motivated toward pleasure, the pain won't bother you. You'll always be focused on big projects while late bills pile up. Another continuum is being a cause or an effect. Most people would LOVE the idea of having an easy life, where people tell them EXACTLY what to do, and they do it. And it's get them paid enough to pay the bills and live a decent life. On the other hand, there are people who HATE to be told what to do. These types are always doing their own thing, for better or for worse. Most people with their factory settings, and hope for the best. They are halfway between pain and pleasure, halfway between cause and effect, and that's good enough. But the thing about us humans is we have two kinds of instincts. Our factory setting, and new ones. New instincts are anything we can learn to the level of unconscious competence. Most folks only learn easy things to this level. Things that people teach them. Very few are self-motivated enough to ACTIVELY go out and learn skills. But if you happen to be one of those rare types, you can learn any skill you want. You can move your factory settings to anywhere you want. You can be AT CAUSE when you want to be. You can relax and be an effect when you want to be. This is the real benefit of realizing your ability to learn new instincts. That ANY factory settings you have are ONLY a recommendation. You can be like most people, and accept these and hope for the best. Or you can consciously CHOOSE which new instincts you want, and build them in. Kind of like the difference between choosing an off the shelf computer. Or building one from scratch. To whatever specifications you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  9. http://mindpersuasion.com/instinct-persuasion/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun26Post.mp4 Human instincts are extremely powerful for a reason. So powerful that they are impossible to ignore. This was so we didn't have to "think" about what to do every day. The trouble is this is hard to "see" in a real way today. Most people will never have a situation where they are hungry for more than a day, and NOT know where they are going to find food. This is why they say that EVERY SOCIETY is always three meals away from a revolution. If EVERYBODY realizes that there is no more food, it won't be long before everybody goes CRAZY. When otherwise normal people are in situations where they think they might actually DIE, they do crazy things to stay alive. Eating bugs, for example is very common. Most normal people, in normal situations would ONLY eat bugs if there was a lot of money on the line. Like on a TV reality game show, for example. But how much would you need to be paid to cut off your own arm? Or eat a dead guy? No amount of money would make anybody do these things. Yet these are things people HAVE done when the believe they will DIE if they don't. This is how strong our instincts are. They are there to keep us safe, and drive us to do INCREDIBLE things when we believe we are in danger. That's ONE of the problems of modern society. We are never in any kind of REAL danger. Which is good, really good. But it's also safe, really safe. This is one reason why soldiers coming back from combat have issues. The way humans are designed is to operate MOST OF THE TIME in life or death situations. After experiencing that, soldiers can have a hard time getting back to normal life. In fact, the ONLY REASON we invented modern society was to stay safe. To stay as far away from those dangerous situations as possible. For most people, are BIGGEST fears are NOT REAL. For our ancestors, our biggest fears were LITERALLY deadly. Today, most of our fears are social based. Things that will ONLY cause emotional pain. Thing is this emotional pain is RELATED to real, physical pain. Being socially ostracized, way back in the day, was a step closer to death. Getting mauled by a saber-toothed tiger WAS death. So in a way, social fears ARE as REAL as things that CAN kill you. Luckily, there's way to kind of con your way around the fear. To slowly build up an emotional resistance. So social fears are no longer real. And so that they no longer bother you. This means you CAN become socially fearless. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  10. Secrets Of Hidden Treasure: https://mindpersuasion.com/infinite-nests-of-treasure/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun21Loop.mp4
  11. One of the most baffling questions about us humans is our consciousness. Our self awareness. Neurologists know a great deal about our brains. About how our neurons work together. The parts of the brain that are responsible for certain things. They do studies on prayer and meditation, and find benefits. They can do magnetic resonance imaging of our brains while we are doing certain things. As a science, they do what scientists do. They look at something, measure it as carefully as they can, and then attempt to explain what it is they are looking at. If it's something relatively simple, they can use science to predict what will happen. If you know a bit about gravity, force, momentum, etc., you can launch a rocket and land it on the moon, or an asteroid, or another planet. But just beneath the surface, we are pretty clueless. Science can accurately describe WHAT happens, but we are pretty clueless as to WHY things happen. Nowhere is this more confusing than studying the human brain. Just the idea of that is kind of trance-inducing. A group of scientists standing around studying a "brain" is really a bunch of brains standing around studying another brain. Self awareness is the part of our brain inside our brain that is aware of itself. A bunch of self-aware brains standing around studying anther self-aware brain is a kind of meta-level self-awareness. One thing, however, CAN make understanding your own brain very simple. See, when these neurologists study the brain, they can see "a brain" from an objective standpoint. And seeing a brain from an objective standpoint gives one a much clearer view of what's really going on. Much clearer than the subjective, internal, self-aware view. This is pretty normal. It's easy to point out certain behaviors in others, but very hard to find them in ourselves. Once you take apart and look at the basic structure of how our brain works, and then apply that to yourself, it can make things MUCH easier. We do things for the reasons we do things. But we generally TELL OURSELVES slightly different reasons. If we only look at the stories we tell ourselves, life can be VERY confusing. But if we dig just below the surface, to find out why we REALLY do things, life is much, much easier. Not only leading your own life, but leading others. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  12. There are a lot of things that separate humans from all the other animals. We wear clothes. We use tools. We can communicate. We have tons of ideas about what happens to us after we die. Sure, plenty of other animals have things KIND OF like this. Chimps have been known to put flowers in their hair. Other animals use basic tools. Elephants are known to mourn their dead. But we humans have a much, much more developed brain for all these ideas. Take language for example. Plenty of animals communicate. And they communicate to persuade. Certain primates make certain clicks that mean different things. Crows caw in different frequencies to mean different things. Three fast caws in a row indicates danger. And since the PURPOSE of this "message" is to get all their crow friends to behave in a certain way, this can be described as very basic persuasion. Most human persuasion is the same basic structure. You know something that others don't. You tell them that something, and hope they act on your information. Even sales is like this. The salesperson goes on and on about why they think you should buy whatever they are selling. But humans can also persuade in much more elegant ways. Much more long lasting ways. Much deeper ways. The very basic and raw form of persuasion is might makes right. Some guy with power rolls up and says, "Do this or else." A slightly more personal approach would be to explain why they think we should do something. But the most advanced form of persuasion is the most covert. When the target doesn't know they are being persuaded. This requires you know a little bit about the target. That you know what they want, and what they don't want. And you talk to them in a way so they get to own their decision. This is what Dale Carnegie taught. That the easiest way to get somebody to do something is to get them to think it was their idea. This is the most elegant form of persuasion. The most human form. The most respectful way. How, exactly, do you do this? If you're in sales, it's pretty easy. Just by walking into your shop, or calling your business, you already have a pretty good idea of what they want. But what if you're not selling anything? What if you're just having a friendly conversation? And through this friendly conversation you realize that they could REALLY use your advice? If you flat out give them advice, they likely won't take it. Nobody likes unasked for advice. But you CAN give them advice so they'll be able to discover it on their own. Which means they'll take it without resistance. They act on it, whatever it is, and never know you were the one who gave it to them. Needless to say, this will give you an incredible amount of persuasive power. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  13. https://mindpersuasion.com/gossip-rumors-and-deadly-instincts/
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  15. I remember my very first “burning desire.” I wanted to buy this electronic kit from Radio Shack. But I didn’t have any money, and my parents wouldn't give me any. And if I saved up my allowance, it would take several weeks. I didn't want to wait. So I got busy, and eventually got it. Napoleon Hill talked about the burning desire. Unfortunately, many people misunderstand a lot of Hill’s work. His book, “Think and Grow Rich,” is unlike most books on money. Most books on money are filled with esoteric nonsense. And nearly all of them promise some kind of magic shortcuts. You can get all kinds of money and fame and success WITHOUT doing any work. If you only “believe” enough, a bag of money will fall out of the sky and land in your lap. But Hill reverse engineered all the people that built huge financial empires. And they did so without sitting around and chanting some goofy affirmations. They did it throughout the course of their lives. Essentially, “Think and Grow Rich,” was Hill’s way of describing their money making traits. The most powerful was the idea of the “burning desire.” The burning desire MUST BE stronger than any effort that will be required to create your fortune. Imagine a monkey sitting at the base of a tree. He’s hungry, and there’s a banana up the tree. Climbing up the tree to get the banana will cost him 200 calories. If the strength of his burning desire is GREATER than 200 calories, he’ll get the banana. If he only has a burning desire of 150 calories, then he’ll just keep staring at the banana. Maybe he’ll try some magic law-of-banana chants that will allegedly manifest a magic banana from the tree to his hand. And that poor monkey might believe in magic SO MUCH than he expends more than 200 calories of magic banana chanting. But it still won't get the banana. The only thing that will get the banana is if he gets up off his monkey behind and climbs up the tree. The same goes with humans and fortunes. You need a burning desire. And you need to use that burning desire to PROPEL you through the RIGHT ACTION to get whatever it is you want. This isn’t easy. Which is why most people will STAY broke. Harsh, but true. On the other hand, once you get going, and get some momentum, you can’t even consider living another way. The other big idea in “Think and Grow Rich” is that thoughts are things. Every single thing that exists today was once a thought in somebody’s brain. And through action, powered by burning desire, those thoughts turned into things. Do that and get paid. A LOT. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/money-instinct/
  16. They call economics the dismal science for a reason. It forces us to ditch magical thinking. It is possible to succeed with magical thinking, but it also requires you be incredibly lucky. This is the drawback with studying how to succeed from successful people. The truth of most success is that it’s MOSTLY unconscious. People show up with a collection of skills. And they show up with those collection of raw skills at the right time. And they succeed wildly. But then when they try to explain WHY they succeeded, they necessarily miss a lot of information. Even worse is when they attribute their success to some magical laws. Think about if from their perspective. Imagine if you show up on planet earth with plenty of raw talent, and very decent looks. You become successful. Later in life, people ask HOW you become so successful. Which explanation do you think you’d rather use? A) There is a magic law of success I was able to discover and resonate with. Dude, I have ZERO idea! Just lucky, I guess! One, (A), keeps people focused on you. The other, (B), makes people NOT focus on you. Even get ANGRY at you for being lucky. This isn’t easy to hear. But since the sun comes up every morning, and if you toss a ball in the air a million times, it’s going to come back down a million times, we have to accept that we live in a universe that is governed by LAWS. Not goofy and untestable laws like “If you believe it, you’ll achieve it!” But measurable and testable laws. Like laws of money. What are the laws of money? If you provide genuine value to somebody else, based on THEIR subjective value system, they will HAPPILY pay you. Some people are indeed lucky. They don’t need to try hard to provide value to others. They just do what comes natural. But they are STILL getting paid due to the laws of money. They ARE providing value to others, based on those others’ subjective values. Just because the lucky ones don’t understand that, it doesn’t mean it’s magic. Once upon a time, people thought negative numbers were proof of witchcraft or voodoo. Not understanding something does make it magic. It just means you don’t understand. And if you DO understand it, you can leverage it. Lucky for us, the laws of money are written into our DNA. Contrary to what the goofs who run the world tell us, money is NOT something that the “authorities” need to create. Because every single time you get enough people together, they will INVENT a form of money. And every time a society has invented a basic form of money, technology always takes off. Money is an instinct. Wake it up, and get some. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/money-instinct/
  17. There’s a lot of things that we depend on that doesn’t really exist. In fact, most things don’t really exist. Actually, NOTHING exists. Now, before you think I’ve gone off the deep end, let me explain. There’s the famous Einstein equation that says E=mc^2. We know this isn’t just a theory. This is the physics behind atom bombs and nuclear energy. Matter and energy is really the same stuff. But it turns out that “matter” isn’t really a “thing.” It’s really only a metaphor. Most people know about molecules and atoms. And many people know that atoms are made of protons, neutrons and electrons. And many people know that most of the “mass” in the atoms are from the neutrons and protons, since electrons are pretty light. (Silly Joke: A photon checked into a hotel. The desk clerk asked if he had any bags. The photon said, “No, I’m traveling light.”) But here’s the thing. Neutrons and protons are made up of these things called “quarks.” And quarks are almost PURE energy. They are sort of “trapped” inside the proton or neutron (both called nucleons) and are vibrating at such a high frequency, that nearly ALL of what they are is made up by energy. Even Schroedinger, the guy who came up with the “probability wave function” theory about matter, said that everything really IS (not metaphorically) various manifestations of energy waves. Schroedinger is the guy who came up with the cat in a box metaphor. It could be dead it could be alive. Until you open it, it’s both. But once you open it, you force it to be one or another. According to him, all matter exists as probability functions. As POTENTIAL. But beyond the squishy construction of reality, our language is filled with metaphors. Things that don’t really exist, but we act as if they do. Like we describe the process of “falling in love.” What is that noun, “love?” It’s a feeling. It’s a collection of hormones. It’s an instinct that is responsible for making sure humans couples stayed together long enough for junior to grow up and fend for himself. But all of these are metaphors as well. As a “thing” it doesn’t really exist. But we talk about it as if it does. Moreover, we talk about it as if it were a CONTAINER. Something we are IN. Love is one of the most POWERFUL metaphors we use. Another is MONEY. Most people don’t like talking about it. But look back through human history, and you’ll find it everywhere. The larger and more complex any society is, the MORE of this “money-energy” is flowing EVERYWHERE. The more primitive it is, the less there is. You may say that LOVE is a necessary binding force that keeps families together. And MONEY is a necessary binding force that keeps societies together. Get Some: http://mindpersuasion.com/money-instinct/
  18. The long game is an idea is extremely valuable. All failures can be framed in terms of long game failure. Anybody can play the short game. Only looking ahead a move or two. Few people can play the long game. Especially if it involves any short term discomfort. There’s a parable about an ancient Chinese kung fu master. He was strolling down the street, and some young punks accosted him. They many, and they challenged him to a fight. He didn’t feel like fighting. They said the only way to avoid fighting was to crawl on the ground through their legs. He thought about it, and decided to crawl through their legs. Another parable has a valuable advisor to an ancient Chinese emperor. Loyal all the way. Even as the emperor became corrupt and evil. Everybody thought the loyal assistant, being an honest man, was the only hope for society. But so far, he kept helping the evil emperor become more evil. Until one day, the evil emperor had all his evil conspirators in one place. Including the loyal helper. The loyal helper seized the opportunity, and killed them all. The more of the story is twofold. One is that waiting for the right moment is JUST as important as being able to perform at that right moment. But the second moral is much more important. And that’s the both characters (the crawling kung fu guy and the loyal assistant) are the same person. One person who is capable of playing the long game. Waiting patiently for the right moment, and when the right moment comes, leaping into action and killing everybody. That very same dude is capable of crawling on the ground when he’d rather show up on time and not out of breath and covered in other people’s blood. Playing the long game requires looking WAY into the future. And planing TODAY’S actions based on how they’ll resonate years from now. Most people can’t do this. Most people can’t plan past the next couple hours. But if you were to look at all the skills required for building big empires, long game would be one of the most important one. Luckily, this is a skill that can be practiced. No matter what level you are today, you can significantly increase your skills at the long game. And all the benefits that come with it. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/money-instinct/
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  20. How do you make an impression on somebody? There are plenty of theories. But let's take a step back and see what that means. There's a time when they don't know you. Then they interact with you. Then there's a later time when that interactions is only a memory. They think of you, and compare you (subconsciously) to all the other people they've interacted with. This goes for every human that talks to other humans. Job interviewers, hot girls and guys that are getting hit on all the time, people with money that want to maybe buy something. What strategies would be BEST for making sure you make a positive impression? So when they think about you, and their interaction with you, it stands out in their mind as being BETTER than all of their other recent interactions. One way would be to walk around doing magic tricks, and telling awesome jokes. Or maybe learning to juggle, or some other complicated party trick. One way would be to wear a few thousand dollars worth of bling. Another way would be to get a ton of plastic surgery, spend countless hours in the gym, so you look like a Greek god or goddess. Or you could do it the easy way. How's that? You're the one who gets the ball rolling. You're the one they find easy to talk to. You're the one they feel most comfortable with, the most quickly. You're the one they tell all their desires to. You're the one who DOESN'T spend tons of time trying to convince them how awesome you are. You're the one who reminds them how awesome THEY are. And even helps them discover that they are more awesome than they thought. This is the kind of people NOBODY forgets. Ever. How do you BECOME this person? By understanding the structure of human nature. By understanding the structure of human communication. By taking the time to build the skills that will serve you for life. The same skills that will allow you to build better relationships, make more money and radiate much more charisma and personal magnetism. What skills are these? The ones you can learn here: http://mindpersuasion.com/communication/
  21. I've never been very good at following the rules. When I was a little kid, I sort of "discovered" that you could get away with anything so long as you played dumb. If you got caught, you just said, "I thought it would be OK?" Of course this only worked for so long. Once in biology class, we were doing a chemistry experiment. We had two different liquids, and our teacher said not to mix them under any circumstances. Which, of course, caused me to mix them just to see what the big deal was. Nothing really happened except me getting kicked out of class. Some rules are important. Basic laws, private property rights, and just common sense. But some times, it's worth it to try things just to see. One set of rules is how we think about and operate in the world around us. We all have a collection of ideas about what we are "supposed to do." Like order an appetizer, an entree, and then a dessert, in that order. Nobody would ever think of doing it backwards. But they all end up in the same place. One of the problems with us humans is we have a lot of leftover instincts. One of them makes us sketchy about doing anything that would make us too "different." We generally try to fit in as best as we can. Most of us don't wear clothes that are too far off the general trends, for example. But the flip side of that strategy, of being safely in the middle of the pack, is we end up living lives that are safely in the middle of the pack. If you do the same stuff everybody else does, you'll get the same stuff everybody else does. If you want to be above average, you have to ACT above average. More importantly, you've got to THINK above average. Most people spend their free time purposely NOT thinking. Or worse, feeling anxious that they are surrounded by familiar people doing familiar things. Before you can act differently, you've got to think differently. And just like anything else, thinking differently requires practice. How do you practice? Like this: NLP Mind Magic
  22. One of the laws of economics is the idea of an opportunity cost. Everything has a cost. Even free stuff. (There's generally a reason why it's free...) Even if you shift in your seat, you are spending energy (a calorie or two) to end up in a more comfortable position. But when thinking of doing or buying things, we usually only think of the direct costs. At least consciously. If you want a burrito, for example, it will cost five bucks. Or maybe some kind of effort, if the burrito store is a ways from your house. But also embedded into getting anything is the idea of opportunity cost. If you get a burrito, for example, you can't simultaneously get a cheeseburger. You COULD, but eating a burrito AND a cheeseburger would be a different experience than only eating a burrito. This is one of the things that can hold us back, on a subconscious level. We want something. But we also know that if we get that "something" we can't have another "thing." Us humans like the idea of a vague but positive future. This is why we like going on trips, birthday parties or other exciting things that are coming in the future. A feeling of positive expectation, where you aren't quite sure WHAT is going to happen is a pretty good feeling. And that vague positive expectation goes away when you KNOW what you are getting. We very much like the idea of "winging it." Some of the best experiences we have are when unexpected things happen. If you are in a relationship, and you start doing the same things over and over again, it can get boring. If you go to the same restaurant for dinner every night, it can get boring. But on the flip side of unexpected GOOD things is unexpected BAD things. As much as we love exciting adventures, we HATE dangerous risk. It can be very tough to find a balance. It can also be very easy to find yourself stuck. Wishing you could do something different (since what you're doing is pretty boring). But at the same to anxious or even scared to try something different. If you feel this way, even sometimes, it could be a signal that our social instincts are out of calibration. The whole purpose we have social instincts is to keep us within a safe and acceptable range. Very much like Goldilocks. Not too scary, but not too boring. Just right. But if your social instincts are out of whack, things could seem MORE scary than they really are. And when you Re-Calibrate your social instincts, you won't have to think very much. Just get in the game and have fun. Learn More: Ego Taming
  23. Most human problems can be tied to a mismatch in instincts. Hunger is the easiest to understand. Way back in the day, it was a benefit to be MORE hungry than there was food available. It kept us motivated, always moving. Even today, being "hungry" means being motivated. We want something that we don't have. So we do whatever it takes to get it. But on a literal level, our hunger instinct doesn't help us so much. If you've ever gone on a diet, you know how difficult it is. Sure, there are plenty of tricks to play on your hunger. Drink water before eating. Never go shopping when hungry. Eat slowly. But all these are things that you consciously need to remember to do. Your ancient (and very powerful) hunger instinct is ALWAYS waiting for you to forget about it. One of the big problems regarding health is our hunger only knows what TASTES good. It's programmed to eat whatever TASTES the best. It was calibrated WAY back in the day when "good taste = good health." In that regard, it's very simple. If something tastes good, eat as much as you can. Way back in the day when food was scarce, this was fantastic. Now it sucks. Because clever food producers know how to purposely trick our taste buds into feeling nearly ADDICTED to processed food. Now, this is JUST our hunger. But we have a lot of other instincts that misfire all the time. The most confusing are our social instincts. But they are opposite of our hunger. Our hunger THINKS that "junk food" is healthy because it TASTES good. But we KNOW when we are eating junk food. We KNOW we are eating healthy food. The problem is that junk food, to most people, TASTES BETTER than healthy food. But for our social instincts, this is the opposite. Healthy social signals from others FEEL FANTASTIC. Unhealthy social signals are fake and shallow, and feel fake and shallow. But unlike our hunger, it's very hard to tell the difference, unless you are actively looking. But the good news is that with a little bit of practice, you can RE-CALIBRATE your social instincts. So they ONLY are "fed" by healthy social signals. Since these FEEL better, you'll soon forget about all the fake ones. And it's the fake social signals that cause all social anxiety. Once you re-calibrate your social instincts, social anxiety will forever be a thing of the past. Learn More: Ego Taming
  24. There's an interesting idea called an "extended phenotype." The genotype is the actual genes that tell our proteins how to build us. The phenotype is the resulting structure. The genes that make your eye color, as they exist on your DNA, is the genotype. The actual color of your eyes is the phenotype. One way of looking at some animals is that they have an extended phenotype. Meaning they have genes that program them to build thing OUTSIDE of their bodies. Like beavers, for example. They are programmed to build dams. Just like bees are programmed to build hives, and ants are programmed to build ant hills. These are all "first order" structures. Beavers always build the same dams. Over and over and over. They are programmed to find the right river, the right branches and then they get to work. Same with bees and hives and ants and anthills. Same structure over and over. Humans, however, build "meta structures." Not just meta structures, but meta ideas. We build based on whatever exists. It's like we have a gene (or collection of genes) that says, "Look out into the world, find something cool, and make something better." Or maybe, "Find some interesting ideas, and make them even better." The entire story of human history is one of advancement. Every generation people look out into the world, see what's there, and improve on it. They tell us that our mind-body systems is more or less the same as it was fifty thousand years ago. Which meant those ancient humans looked out into the world with the SAME level of understanding. But the stuff and the ideas they saw were much more primitive. And for a while, human advancement was very, very slow. Until something happened. Then the stuff, (and the ideas) EXPLODED. What happened? Money was invented. Think about life BEFORE money was invented. The stuff you could do, and the stuff you could get, was limited. They idea of working really hard and then taking it easy just wasn't possible. Without money (and the ability to save it) you could only last as long as your food supply. But once money was invented, as a storage of human potential, that's when people's creativity exploded. No longer were people constrained to do the same boring tasks every day to get the same basic stuff. The amount of things people could do to GET money, and the amount of stuff they could buy WITH money (including long periods of rest) EXPLODED. And the game's been going ever since. Get In And Get Some: Wealth Tuning
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