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  1. The quickest way to become the alpha of any group. https://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-confidence/
  2. https://mindpersuasion.com/easy-and-effective-persuasion-techniques/
  3. It's hard to withhold giving advice. For example, somebody you know is having some problem. Since they are trapped INSIDE the problem, they don't have such an objective view. Since you can see the problem from the OUTSIDE, the solution is clear. But for some reason, whenever we give people advice, they don't take it. When people give US advice, we don't take it. Why is this? There are a couple of reasons. One is that advice sounds and feels like people are telling us that they know more about us than the situation. And since we are the ones trapped inside the situation, this doesn't make us feel very good. Another reason is the more we think about any problem we are having, the more we tend to externalize the problem. If we are having a problem with our boss, it's because of him, so the solution must come from him. If we have an issue with any person, we'll tend to externalize it to them. The more we do this, the more we can only accept a solution coming from them. So when somebody comes up and says, "Hey, why don't you try this," it's very much like the OPPOSITE of our solution. Our solution is for THEM to change. The unasked advice sounds like WE should change. And we don't like that. Nobody does. This can be very maddening if YOU are the advice giver. Especially if YOU had the very same problem. And you solved it the same way as the advice you are giving. Fortunately, there's a very powerful way to COVERTLY give people advice. So they'll take it. This works by delivering so covertly they'll later remember it was THEIR idea. Why would you want to do this? It gives you a much more powerful, much more effective and much more RELAXED way to essentially tell others what to do. So long as you LET THEM take the credit for the idea, you can get people to do whatever you want. How do you do this? By telling a couple of stories. First tell a story that paces the problem. Then tell a story that paces a POSSIBLE solution. What kind of stories? The easy kind. The natural and common kind. About a friend of a friend. And something that happened to them. That way, you'll sound like any other goof telling seemingly UNRELATED stories about something happened. All the while covertly planing ideas in their brains. Ideas they'll accept. Ideas they'll obey. Needless to say, this gives you an INCREDIBLE amount of power. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  4. Most sales involves memorizing a pitch of some sort. The stereotypical sales person is the guy or gal who can deliver that pitch with maximum charisma. Even a BETTER salesperson can sort of "read" the customer and deliver a pitch. This is based on the idea that the salesperson knows WHY people SHOULD buy the item or service in question. It's fundamentally based on the salesperson doing the talking, and the customer doing the listening. This is why VERY charismatic people are the BEST salespeople. The have a certain "halo effect." What is a halo effect? It's when the generally attractive subconscious energy of the person talking is ATTACHED to the thing they are talking about. This mostly happens with VERY attractive women. For example, imagine two real estate people. One is a SUPER GORGEOUS woman. The other is a plain looking, middle aged dude. Both have the SAME pitch. The EXACT same words come out of each of their mouths. But when the middle aged dude speaks, it's flat and monotonous. Like he wishes he were somewhere else. The gorgeous woman, on the other hand is EXTREMELY charismatic. She's bubbly, happy, touch-feely, and gives off the impression that she wouldn't want to be ANYWHERE else on earth. Clearly, the woman would sell more than the man. Even though they are using the SAME words. But BOTH cases still involve taking the ideas out of the head of the salesperson, and putting them in the head of the customer. In both cases, the customer is a passive listener to the salesperson's pitch. So long as the salespeople GUESS about what's important to the customer, they can do pretty well. When it comes to GUESSING what the customer wants, it's not so easy. Two people buying the same car might have completely different reasons. But the deeper you go, the better you can "guess." If you go deep enough, you don't need to guess. Because if you go deep enough, we ALL want the same things. These same things are based on our deep instincts. When you speak to these deep instincts, it is VERY EASY to move people. This is why we love movies and fiction so much. These things MOVE US on a deep, instinctive level. If you speak to people on such a level, you can move people conversationally. AS MUCH as their favorite movie. Leaving them speechless, profoundly moved, and willing to do ANYTHING to keep that feeling. What might YOU use this for? Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  5. It's very common to want a surefire set of techniques. Either for persuasion or seduction. The idea that you could memorize a set of phrases and lines that would work on everybody. There certainly ARE a large collection of courses that teach that. But when you understand how marketing works, it makes sense. There are a lot of courses that teach memorized patterns simply because there is a lot of demand. Just like there is a lot of demand for super hero movies, that's what they make. But is it REALLY possible? If you have a LONG ENOUGH set of patterns, and you practice enough, it certainly CAN work. If you think of any persuasive character on TV or in the movies, that is how they sell. They have a sales pitch that sounds fantastic. Mesmerizing even. Their pitch is SO wonderful that their target only has to sit there and listen, spellbound. And that spellbound energy translates into buying energy. Or romantic energy. Clearly, if you could memorize a five or ten minute soliloquy, filled with gorgeous metaphors and language patterns, you could seduce anybody. But that would take a LOT of work. And some top level acting skills. Luckily, there is a much EASIER way. The whole angle of memorized lines and patterns is based on giving the person YOUR REASONS why they should do what YOU want. Sure, if your reasons are fantastic, and they are delivered with a lot of charisma, this will work. But it's MUCH easier to use THEIR reasons. When we do things for our own reasons, there is LITTLE resistance. There are many ways to do this. One way is to become proficient in the Milton Model. To speak in specifically vague language patterns. So they will necessarily fill in the blanks with their own information. This takes a lot of practice. There is an even EASIER method. That won't feel AT ALL like persuasion or seduction. Because you're only asking very simple questions. Questions they will ENJOY answering. It's a combination of two very powerful techniques. One is a simple technique to elicit their deepest desires. In a way that doesn't involve much thinking on their part. And while you are doing that, you can also elicit their THINKING STRUCTURES. Everybody has these. But few people know about them. So when you elicit their desires, and their thinking structure, you can carefully wrap them around any suggestion. In sales, this is pretty easy. But now, it's easy to do in seduction as well. Because simply the act of eliciting these thought structures will create a MASSIVE connection. Between you and them. And when you do so WHILE also eliciting their deep desires, those will also be associated with you as well. All will happen naturally and subconsciously. So it WILL be their idea. Learn How: http://mindepersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  6. Brain dead simple persuasion and seduction techniques https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  7. Frame is a very squirrely concept. Mainly because the frame of any situation is shifting consciously. Also because frame is very, very subjective. It's never anything that can be proven or disproven. It's very much a "might makes right" kind of thing. That term, "might makes right" tends to be associated with physical battles and quests for military power. But it's very appropriate when speaking of inter-personal frame battles. Whoever has the strongest frame will determine the outcome. Strongest is very similar to being the "mightiest." In a sense, saying that the whoever has the strongest frame will get their outcome is essentially another way of saying "might makes right." A car salesman is talking to a customer. Both have their own intention. The customer wants the cheapest price possible. The salesman wants the highest price possible. The word "might" doesn't seem to apply. Especially when they finally agree on a price, it's usually a compromise, they shake hands, and they are BOTH happy. But you could also say that their "joined frame" of cooperation over a single goal, the transaction itself, become the strongest or mightiest frame. This is what creating win-win outcomes is all about. It STILL obeys the rules of the "strongest frame" or "might makes right." Even Sun Tsu said the best way to "conquer" and enemy was to make him your friend. One of the strange ways in which the frame control idea presents itself is how we present ourselves to others. Particularly strangers, and particularly non-verbally. We all walk the earth projecting our state whether we like it or not. We are also reading the state of others as they are projecting. Since most of us are in our heads most of the time, nobody ever notices this. But there is always a TON of information being sent and received. Every time there are people around. Subconscious, non-verbal communication is ALWAYS happening. And WHAT we are communication is ALWAYS related to our "state." How we feel about ourselves. How we feel about ourselves related to the situation. In a sense, there is ALWAYS a "might makes right" frame battle going on. OUR idea of ourselves, that we are projecting, and THEIR idea of who we are, based on WHAT we are projecting. Most people don't even notice that this is happening, let alone realize that VERY MUCH of this is under our control. Because with a little practice, you CAN project a VERY STRONG frame. It's a lot like learning how to walk and move with a more confident posture. Kind of like learning to walk and move with a more confident mindset. With a little practice, the results can be astounding. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/walk-away/
  8. Long time ago I sold cars. Learned a lot about persuasion. Both sides tend to use a lot of strategies. One thing customers tend to is to leave. When done correctly, this definitely increases the motivation of the seller. Especially if it's a beginning salesperson without a lot of experience. A customer will come on and look around. The salesperson will see them, get excited. He'll talk to them for a while. Sometimes an hour or so. They'll seem pretty interested. He'll start to anticipate a fat commission. Finally they get down to brass tacks. But then they decide the price isn't right, get up and leave. This, of course, makes the sales person DESPERATE. When they are sitting their negotiation, he's planning on how he'll spend his commission. Probably wondering HOW MUCH he'll get. But as soon as they get up and leave, now he's facing the very likely prospects of ZERO COMISSION. And since ANY commission is better than zero, he'll do ANYTHING to make a sale. This is something that all humans know intuitively. The idea that whoever wants the deal the LEAST has all the power. This isn't only in sales or seduction. This is in ANY KIND of conversation, where both parties want slightly different outcomes. And unlike sales where you have to LITERALLY get up and walk away, in interpersonal conversations, it's very easy to RADIATE that same energy. Without saying anything, the other person will start to get DESPERATE. They'll be like the salesperson who is suddenly facing the prospect of getting NOTHING. And since ANYTHING is better than nothing, they'll start to become VERY generous with their side of the bargain. Most of the time, we only can radiate this "walk away energy" if we REALLY DO have a better deal somewhere else. But there are plenty of ways to shift your thinking, so you radiate that energy even if you DON'T have a better deal somewhere else. Most people try this and don't get away with it. Because it's pretty hard to fake. It's like trying to bluff when EVERYBODY can tell you're bluffing. The trick is to CONVINCE YOURSELF you aren't bluffing. To expand your thinking so that NO MATTER what the "offer" is you can imagine a better one out there somewhere. And the more REAL you make that mental image, the STRONGER your congruent, "walk away energy" will be. And the more DESPERATE the other person will be to "make a deal." Not just in sales and seduction. But everywhere. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/walk-away/
  9. The reason for us having consciousness is unknown. On a much deeper level, the REASON for anything is hard to pin down. Sure, we can look back a few minutes, and see what happened before. X causes Y, Y causes Z, etc. And they might even point to a sequence of events that led to something like consciousness, but that answers the HOW, not the WHY. From a different perspective, you can look at it from an ownership standpoint. Imagine a factory making widgets. They only make them because people buy them. WHY people buy them is not really their problem. They only do a few experiments, make them bigger, smaller, this color, that color, etc. Mostly they just keep making whatever kind of widget people keep buying. Some people use these widgets in the kitchen, to help them cook. Some people use these widgets in the garage. Some people use them while studying, as it helps them remember. Each of these people would give a different answer what "their" widget is for. One says it's for cooking. Somebody else says it's for rebuilding engines. Most products have very narrow uses. If you used a canoe paddle as a baseball bat, people would think you were goofy. On the other hand, if all had was a canoe paddle and a tennis ball, you COULD play a good game of over-the-line in the park. That's the thing about tools. HOW we use them is absolutely and completely up to us. So, while it IS interesting to think about things like the origins and purpose of our consciousness, a better question might be HOW, exactly are YOU making use of YOUR consciousness? A slightly different, perhaps more provocative question might be how are you using the consciousness of OTHER PEOPLE? After all, if YOU don't use YOUR brain, somebody else will find a use for it. This goes both ways. Brains can be used by pretty much anybody. There's no rule saying you are ONLY allowed to use your own brain. There are plenty of ways you can use other people's brains. After all, take a look around. Doesn't look like many people are getting much use out of THEIR OWN brains, so why not leverage a little bit of other people's thinking power? Now, this isn't something most people walk around thinking about. (most people don't think about much as they walk around...) But you CAN slowly use the brain power of others. AND the behavior that brainpower drives. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  10. https://mindpersuasion.com/golden-rules-of-persuasion/
  11. There are two very basic ways to get somebody to do something. And there are two basic reasons why we all do things. To INCREASE our state, by moving toward something positive. Or to INCREASE our state, by moving away from something negative. When thinking about persuading others, you MUST use their reasons. A very common technique of persuasion is "features and benefits." Where you list all the features, or the positive aspects of whatever you are persuading them to do. The benefits are the REASONS why they are "good things." One "feature" can have MANY benefits. For example, imagine if you were selling a blue car. One "feature" could be it's blue color. What would the benefits be of that blue color? Theoretically, they could be ANYTHING. But here's the thing. Unless those features AND benefits happened to match what was important from THEIR perspective, none of them would work. This is why salespeople tend to rattle of a LONG list of features and benefits, hoping SOME of them will stick. Of course, since we are all humans, we all have the SAME instincts. And if you happened to KNOW the instincts that were very STRONG in your target, then you could use that. For example, they say the path to a man's heart is his stomach. The INSTINCT in this case is food. And by "feeding" a man, over and over, you can "seduce" him. The idea being, if you are a woman interested in a particular man, by continuously SATISFYING one of his instincts, you'll "train him" to develop an affinity for you. Turns out these technique works VERY WELL. And not just with hunger, with ALL our instincts. Marketers and advertisers have known this forever. One thing we ALL respond to SUBCONCONSCIOUSLY is the idea of getting social approval. This is the idea behind ALL brands and fashions. The MAIN REASON we choose any type of clothing or accessory is to LOOK GOOD to certain people. And the more advertisers can create this CAUSE-EFFECT linkage, the more they'll sell: Buy this item (cause) and get social approval from your peers (effect). Turns out this is a VERY versatile idea. Of connecting the unmet instinctive needs to an external behavior. Advertisers, politicians, even religions do this on a LARGE scale. But you can also learn how to do it on a small scale. A one on one scale. To slowly change the behavior of ANYBODY. And just like most people FEEL REALLY GOOD when they strut the latest fashions, YOUR targets will FEEL REALLY GOOD when they start to exhibit your behaviors. Behaviors that YOU have trained into them. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  12. Here’s a cool exercise you can do with a friend. Have them tell three lies but pretend they are telling the truth. Then have them tell three truths, and act like they are telling the truth. This will let you calibrate their “truth” energy and their “lie” energy. Energy, of course, means the sum total of all their facial expressions, micro-movements and voice tone. Too much to perceive consciously. But if you are relaxed enough (why it’s good to do this with a friend) then you can “feel” the difference. It’s kind of subconscious to subconscious communication. Nothing magical or mystical. But when we pick up things subconsciously, instead of getting actual thoughts and data, we get feelings. And since most of the time our feelings are a mix of a ton of random stuff, it’s VERY NOISY. But when you do this lie-detector experiment with a friend, with practice you can get a clearly identifiable, “lie energy” feeling when your friend lies. The trick is to then have your friend tell you a mix of lies and truths where ONLY THEY know which is a lie and which is the truth. If you CALIBRATE correctly, you’ll be able to tell. And usually it seems VERY OBVIOUS. If you are VERY SNEAKY, you can do this without them knowing. Get them to say something that you know is a lie, but they think you believe it’s true. This may take some time, and you’ll have to be creative. But once you CALIBRATE their “lie energy” they’ll never be able to lie to you again. This is essentially what people do when they play poker. They watch the other players VERY CAREFULLY. And they remember the stuff they do when they are bluffing. Later, they call these “tells.” This is also why poker players wear baseball hats and sunglasses. To hide their tells. All this is an indication of how we are ALWAYS sending and receiving information. Most of us are sending a whole jumble of mixed signals. Most of us are focused inward (worry, anxiety, etc) as much as we are focused outward. This is why it seems to mysterious when you do the lie detector exercise with a friend. But there’s another cool way to use this idea. And that is to practice radiating a specific emotion. Something positive and enjoyable. First, you’ll need to practice this at home. So when you radiate that emotion, it is strong, pure, and congruent. Then go out in public and radiate that SAME emotional “frame.” The results are fantastic. Because EVERYBDOY will not only notice, but they will VERY MUCH enjoy YOUR frame. Much more than their own. People will be naturally attracted to you. They’ll make up excuses to be physically near you. They’ll make up excuses to start conversations with you. And that’s just the beginning. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
  13. Being a good speaker is considered to be a particular skill. Being a good writer is also considered to be a particular skill. A common experience is to read a lot of books by a particular writer. Then you go and see him or her speak, and you’re a bit under-whelmed. Once a friend of mine and I in college had that experience. There was one professor that had written a philosophy textbook. And it was a pretty cool textbook. At least we thought so at the time. When we found out he was coming to campus to give a speech, we were excited. Until we saw him speak. My friend was so dismayed, he started killing time by counting how often this speaker said, “uh...” while he was speaking. He was absolutely brilliant in writing. But you wouldn’t know it by how he spoke. This is why we consider speaking and writing to be two different skills. But in reality, they are very tightly connected. To be a good speaker, OR to be a good writer, you first have to be a good THINKER. With average thoughts, the BEST you can possibly be is an average speaker OR writer. But here’s the thing. You CANNOT practice one or the other WITHOUT simultaneously practicing your thinking. If you practice speaking, you must also practice thinking. If you practice writing, you must also practice thinking. So in a roundabout way, you can IMPROVE your speaking without actually speaking. Meaning if you practice writing, this will improve your thinking. Then it’s just a matter of EXPRESSING those thoughts. Since you have already mastered how to THINK those thoughts. The other way is much more difficult. Imagined if you ONLY practice thinking by practicing speaking. This would take a lot longer. Because you could only improve your thinking as you spoke. Not just in random conversations with friends, but in actual speeches in front of people. Clearly, if you ONLY practiced thinking by practicing giving speeches, it would take a while. But practicing thinking through writing would significantly accelerate the quality of your thought. Especially if you followed a specific training program. Designed to make you INCREDIBLY persuasive. Most people practice writing simply by writing. This would be like practicing basketball without a coach, and just playing with whoever was down at the playground. But if you practiced writing by following a set of drills and specific techniques, you could improve very quickly. Which means if you ever switched over to speaking, it would just be a matter of expressing the highly developed thoughts already in mind. After all, thinking, writing and speaking are skills. And like all skills, the more you practice, the better you get. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
  14. https://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  15. The first level of persuasion is the features and benefits level. This is when you memorize as many “reasons” why your idea should be accepted by them. It’s almost like a performance. You need to be articulate, charismatic, and strong willed. To the extent that enough of your ideas sound good to them, they’ll accept them. The more charismatic you are, the more effective this will be. The more attractive you are (halo effect) the easier this will be. The second level is when you ASK them what they want. Turn off your own brain for a minute, and expand THEIR desires as much as possible. Then carefully take THEIR desires and covertly “rearrange” them so they match what YOU would like them to do. This is the Dale Carnegie strategy. That you can get anybody to do anything so long as they think it was their idea. This is EXTREMELY effective. No charisma required. No halo effect required. No memorized list of features and benefits required. You DO have to develop enough rapport for them to TRUST YOU with their deep desires. This is the tough part. You can’t just walk up to a stranger and expect them to start spilling their guts. That's where the THIRD level of persuasion comes in. It combines the BEST of both parts. You do all the talking, so they don’t have to. But you already KNOW the things they want. You already KNOW their deep desires. So when you describe YOUR ideas in the terms of THEIR deep desires, something pretty cool will happen. One, they’ll naturally go along with whatever you want them to. Two, they’ll be ASTOUNDED that you, somebody they just met, knows SO MUCH about them. How is this possible? By first going inside your own mind. And drilling down beneath the surface structure ideas that make us SEEM separate from one another. And getting to that DEEP LEVEL where we are all very similar. When you speak to them on THIS level, it will FEEL familiar. This will give them a wonderful mix of emotions. One, they will FEEL that you KNOW them. Two, they’ll recognize they just met you. Those two mixed together will add up to a belief in your telepathic skills. Or at the very least your DEEP UNDERSTANDING of them as individuals. So even if you don’t persuade them to do anything, even if you just MENTION a few deep truths about them, they’ll NEVER forget you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  16. A common idea in self help is that what we resist, persists. This is a very simple statement, and it’s true only in certain situations. Generally it means that if we ignore something, it doesn’t make it go away. It only makes it worse. For example, if you’ve got a physical problem, and you ignore it, it might get worse. If you have an open wound, and you ignore it, it will get infected and could potentially kill you. This is true with emotional issues as well. If you have some kind of fear or anxiety that you don’t address, it will get worse. Or if you have an issue with one of your coworkers, and you ignore it, hoping it will go away, it will tend to get worse. On the other hand, sometimes these types of problems DO go away. You might have a toothache, for example. And you might “resist” the idea of going to the dentist. But the toothache might actually go away on it’s own. Our bodies are pretty resilient, and often times they CAN heal themselves. One way resistance shows up is when we pre-frame the resistance of others. It’s kind of a weird way of looking at things, but often times people respond to us how we respond to us. To see this, imagine two people. One guy is super confident. Another guy is super nervous. They both same the SAME THING to two different girls. The confident guy is successful. The nervous guy is not. Clearly, the words are irrelevant. The nervous guy IMAGINED failure, this made him nervous and he failed. The confident guy IMAGINED success, this made him confident, and he succeeded. The trick then, whenever talking to others, in any kind of persuasive way, where you have a specific outcome in mind, is to ASSUME CONFIDENCE. Of course, this is easier said that done. It’s like saying, “All you need to do to lose weight is eat less and exercise more!” If it were only that easy! But there is a trick you can do. To guarantee a good outcome. (unfortunately this only works with communication, not with weight loss!) And that is to forget about YOUR ideas. And talk to the other person about THEIR ideas. When you are super confident, it gives the other person a good feeling. And it’s that good feeling that makes whatever you say work. But you don’t have to really be confident to create a good feeling. You just need to talk to them about things they feel good about. This means looking at the ideas in THEIR head, and forgetting about the ideas in your head. This will make them feel good, and WANT to keep talking to you, no matter HOW you feel. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/sell-anything/
  17. Isaac Newton is considered a genius. He wrote a book on physics that accurately described the world. So much that the world was considered “Newtonian.” But then as people learned about more and more stuff, it turns out that “Newtonian” physics was just an approximation. On a very large scale, things were “relativistic” because of Einstein’s general and special theories of relativity. And on a very tiny scale, things made even less sense. One of my favorite metaphors of science is that knowledge is like an island. The stuff we don’t know is like the ocean. And finding new “knowledge” is like finding a new piece of coastline on an island. But for each couple hundred yards of coastline you discover, there’s WAY MORE ocean out there that goes with it. The more we discover, the more we realize just how absolutely clueless we really are. One thing that makes things much more difficult is that our brains are capable of some pretty fantastic hallucinations. Ancient humans sat around, looked up at the stars and came up with some deeply complex myths and metaphors. We still do the same thing. This CAN make things WAY more complicated than they need to be. For example, you’ve got a hunter and his prey. Both want to live. But one wants to eat the other. If the prey runs away, it will live. If the hunter kills the prey, he and his tribe survive. On an internal, human consciousness level, this can represent and epic struggle of good vs. evil. But on the surface, it’s simply a matter of one organism acting on its environment to acquire the needed calories (energy) for survival. Many things can be seen through this simple dichotomy. Super simple and basic, OR, super complicated and metaphysical. Often we humans tend to WAY overcomplicate things. We overthink, over worry, over analyze. One of the ways we do this is whenever we try and persuade others. We have all these massively complicated reasons why we think the OTHER person should do what we want. And the more worried we get, the more complex these reasons become. But if you switch to the simple model, your reasons aren’t important at all. All you need to do is expand their desires, and you can attach them to anything. This is hard. Because turning off your own desires and reasons makes it seem like you are letting them “win.” Maybe in the short run. But if you keep your intention intact, it will happen. But it will happen for THEIR reasons. If you can accept this idea, of getting people to do what YOU want but for THEIR reasons, you can get them to do ANYTHING. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/sell-anything/
  18. Humans and chimps have 98% similar DNA. Most of us don't like to think of ourselves as animals. We like to believe that, as humans, we are special. From inside our own brains, it sure seems that way. But tons of experiments say otherwise. The Milgram experiment shows we'll do whatever an authority figure tells us do. Few will resist. The Asch experiment shows that we'll do whatever our social peers will do, even when we KNOW it's the wrong thing. Few will resist. If you walk down the street and accidentally make eye contact with somebody, it will be HARD to not bump into them. Because once we make eye contact, we AUTOMATICALLY get into rapport. It's hard to not bump into them (and them into us) because we are AUTOMATICALLY mirroring each other. Even when BOTH of us are consciously trying to NOT bump into each other, EACH of us (or our subconscious minds) are mirroring each other. If you have ever decided to try the willpower diet, you know how impossible it is. When our INSTINCTS tell us to do something, it's impossible to resist. (Just like the Borg: Resistance Is Futile!) So, despite how "distasteful" it may seem to compare ourselves to chimps, it's also VERY helpful. One thing they notice when studying chimps is STATUS is EVERYTHING. The higher the status, the "better" the life. With high enough status, sex (relationships) and food (money) is a RESULT. Below a certain status, both sex and food has to be chased. One DOES NOT equate to the other. Quite often, the MORE you chase one, the LESS you get of the other. This only goes for those chimps BELOW a certain level of social status. Above a certain level, both sex and food are a result. This very much seems to be true in human animals as well. The more STATUS you have, the EASIER things are. So, the MONEY question, how, exactly does one GET status? Luckily, for us humans, there are PLENTY of ways. You can invent something, like Gates. Become a world class investor, like Buffet. You can play sports really well. You can be a charismatic politician. But there is a MUCH EASIER way. One thing that triggers the "that person has high status" instinct is standing up and speaking. When there are a bunch of people sitting and listening, and one guy or gal is standing up and talking, the person talking is going to AUTOMATICALLY trigger the "high status" instinct in EVERYBODY. Despite how terrifying it might seem, getting up and speaking will trigger that high status instinct. But you can make it MUCH more powerful. By speaking hypnotically. By moving people's minds in way that will LAST. Kind of like creating a high status MEME of YOU. That will spread from brain to brain. Like a virus. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-hypnosis/
  19. If you want to be successful, you can go about it two ways. One is to do what people say you should do to be successful. Another is to simply try different things and see what works. If all you did was do what people told, you wouldn't get very far. Because they would see you as somebody to easily take advantage of. Since you were always asking others what to do. On the other hand, if all you did was learn by trial and error, it may take a LONG time. Naturally, you need a mix of both. One way to "kind of" ask others what to do is not ask directly. If you carefully watch what others do, you will learn a lot. But this only gives you HALF of the story. If that. Why only half? Because if you are going to copy success, you not only have to copy what successful people do, but what they don't do. But you can't really tell what they don't do, since they aren't doing it. And you'd also have to find out what and how they are thinking. So, just ask them, right? Maybe. Because if they suspect you might be competing with them, they might not tell you everything. Imagine setting up a hot dog stand next to another, very successful, hot dog stand. Think they would tell you all their secrets? Not likely! Some things, though, you CAN figure out on your own. And some things you HAVE TO figure out on your own. When selling hot dogs, it's pretty easy. Make sure they taste good, are affordable etc. But the more complicated the "thing" is, the more you'll have to learn on your own. Generally speaking, though, MANY things have plenty of overlapping areas of success. One of those is how well you communicate. No matter what kind of "thing" you are going to do, how well you communicate will have a HUGE impact on how well you do. In fact, doing something like selling hot dogs is one thing where communication is NOT needed very much. Any other skill you learn, any other relationship you need to create, the better you can communicate, the better you'll do. And the more WAYS you can communicate, the better you'll do. So if you can not only learn, but MASTER the most difficult kind of communication, you'll be light years ahead of everybody else. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-hypnosis/
  20. The most moving messages are always in the form of a story. One of the longest lasting sales pages of all time was for the Wall Street Journal. The WSJ itself is a highly technical resource with advanced economic and business insights. But the sales letter, used for decades, had nothing to do with that. It was only about two similar characters. Two average guys from two average towns. They each went to an average college and got average degrees. Both met average women and had average families. Both started with average jobs. But one guy stayed average, while the other guy make buckets of cash. The difference? One had access to specialized information. The other guy had the same information everybody else had. And because he had that same information that everybody else had, he made the same decisions and did the same things everybody else did. And got the same level of income. The sales letter didn't even need to draw conclusions. They left that up to the reader. To decide whether they wanted to stay average. Or get access to special information that few people took advantage. The reason this story works is because it is true. Most people are average, by definition. Few people will take the time to learn things that others don't. Even the people that learn things tend to learn the same things from the same places. College, advanced degrees, etc. Only those that learn from unusual sources and apply that unusual information in unusual ways will get things beyond average. Telling stories is like language. It's natural, instinctive. So most don't think of it as something to improve. But improve you can. Both in your language and how you tell stories. Stories allow you to deliver ideas and messages in ways that few people understand. But because we all like to hear stories, your messages will be profound. Listened to, acted upon, and greatly appreciated. All hidden behind something that most people are afraid of. Which means once you master this, you'll be in a class all your own. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/public-speaking-hypnosis/
  21. How do you motivate people? When we think of the term, "motivational speaker" we imagine somebody like Tony Robbins. Somebody who is larger that life (literally, lol) and speaking with massive enthusiasm and charisma. Maybe they've got a couple of giant screens up on stage, so the people in the cheap seats can see. The image is much like a rock concert. So when we think of motivating people as individuals, it seems kind of intimidating. Like we have to stand up, use a lot of charismatic gestures, speak from the heart, AND have a lot of decent material. After all, when you go see a Tony Robbins "concert" you kind of just sit there. Similarly, when we think of motivating people on a one-to-one level, we imagine THEY are going to do the listening, and WE are going to do the talking. It IS possible, make no mistake. But it's VERY difficult. It takes a LOT of energy and enthusiasm. Luckily, there is a MUCH easier way. And that much easier way is also much more effective. The only drawback is it can ONLY be done in a one-on-one setting. So if you DO want to become a motivational speaker (from the stage), you'll need to keep working on your stage game. But one-on-one, it's INSANELY easy. Not only that, but this one-on-one technique will affect YOUR listener much more than if they went to a Tony Robbins concert. Why? Because speaking from the stage REQUIRES you use a lot of vague stories and statements. So they can impact EVERYBODY. So they get EVERYBODY worked up to the same level. Only problem that same level is also pretty vague. But in a one on one setting, you can get them EXTREMELY motivated to do VERY SPECIFIC things. And the more specific their motivation, the LONGER they'll stay their mind. How do you do it? When speaking from the stage, you have to hit as many of their buttons as you can. But more importantly, it's an "outside-in" structure. The ideas are coming FROM the stage and going INTO their brains. But in a one-on-one setting, it's the OPPOSITE. You find the deep desires that are already INSIDE their brain, and pull them out. And because all of the information is coming from THEM, you don't really need to have ANY stories or content. You just gotta be able to ask the right questions in the right order. Another cool thing is that you'll be getting them talking about, and excited about, things they have maybe NEVER talked about before. So not only can you get them more motivated than EVER, but they'll remember YOU as being one of the most amazing people they've ever met. WAY more powerful than any super-guru up on a stage. Learn How: Secret Agent Persuasion
  22. Supposedly, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. What does this mean exactly? It's one of those sayings that sounds pretty true, and is vague enough to use in many different situations. It's also easy to visualize. A horse standing before some water, and not drinking. It's also easy to imagine trying to push the horse's head down toward the water, but the horse resisting. Because a horse's neck is probably a lot stronger than your arm (or both of them) you probably wouldn't even bother the horse, let alone get him to even think about drinking. When do we use this "truism?" Whenever we get kind of "halfway" to convincing somebody of something. We get the idea in front of them, but they won't bite. Luckily, people aren't horses. You can actually talk to people. And when you "lead people" to certain ideas, you don't do it the same way you "lead" a horse. In fact, YOU aren't doing the leading at all. When you lead a horse, the horse is physically following you. You know it, the horse knows it. But when "you" lead people, it's not really YOU that's doing it. It's their own ideas. And by carefully lining up their own ideas (which come out of their own heads) you can "lead" people to do pretty much anything you want. Consider another way to "lead" a horse as a metaphor. Instead of just pulling on the rope, so the horse just mindlessly follows, imagine putting horse-snacks on the ground in front of him. And these horse-snacks were both delicious and salty. And by placing them strategically, you really COULD not only to lead him to water, but also make him drink. Because he would be thirsty. AND drinking the water would be natural, since he was eating all those salty horse-snacks. The same thing goes with people. Only with people, you can get some pretty fantastic ideas out of their minds, and lead them to some pretty fantastic conclusions. And it will ALWAYS be their idea. Learn How: Secret Agent Persuasion
  23. Combinations can be pretty cool. When I was in High School I worked at a pizza place. People would get some pretty interesting combinations. Some things go pretty well together. Pineapple and ham. Mushroom and onion. Pepperoni and sausage. Other things aren't such a good idea. In chemistry lab our teacher had us work with two different chemicals. He said that under no circumstances should we mix them together. Me, being always curious, took that as a cue to mix them just to see what would happen. And what happened was I got kicked out of class by a very angry chemistry teacher. There are a couple of ideas that everybody has heard. Which means when we hear them we tend to just nod our heads without much thought. But when you fully understand these two concepts, AND combine them, they have an extraordinary amount of persuasive power. The first is, "That which we resist, persists." The more you try to keep something from happening, the more likely it's going to happen. The more you fight against something, the stronger it gets. The second universally known "truism" is "You can get anybody to do anything so long as you convince them it's their idea." This makes sense, of course, because everybody always does things for their own reason. The foundation of covert hypnosis is speaking in purposely vague language so that the other person has to fill in the blanks with their own content. So it will always FEEL like their idea. But what if you don't want to spend a lot of time learning all the language patterns of covert hypnosis? Luckily, there is a VERY EASY way to get them thinking in terms of THEIR idea. But you have to observe the first rule with IRON CLAD secrecy. Surprisingly, the hardest part is letting THEM take all the credit for the awesome idea you just carefully let them decide. See, there's a small part of us that is DYING to be "included" in every conversation. A tiny little, "me too!" voice that wants to participate. That part of us that wants to tell the other person what an AWESOME idea they have. Since it's really YOUR idea, that you carefully led them to, part of you is going to WANT to remind them of that. That is the part they will resist. It's almost like letting somebody win, when they HAVE to believe they really won. If you can keep that secret, you can get anybody to do anything. Learn How: Secret Agent Persuasion
  24. Dale Carnegie was a super hero in his day. His most famous book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is what he's known for. But at the time, he had a huge teaching business. In fact, his interactions through his teaching business is how he learned all those rules. The seminars he ran were self confidence through public speaking. You can still take them today. Twelve weeks of intense confidence building through public speaking. If you've read the book, (or seen one of the many infographics summarizing the principles), they you know it's not a bunch of metaphysical hooey. It's common sense, "people logic" that actually works. There's a lot of overlap in his principles and the research of Dr. Cialdini. Cialdini is the guy who INVENTED things like "authority," "social proof," and all those other terms that people throw around without really understanding. Even more impressive, Cialdini didn't invent them in an academic ivory tower like a lot of other psychological mumbo jumbo. He actually went out with his team and did a lot of "field testing." Proper scientific type experiments (repeating tests, removing as many variables as possible) just to make sure he knew what was really happening. And savvy advertisers have been applying those same principles to increase sales by millions of dollars a year. Cialdini's angle is that persuasion isn't an art, it's a science. If you mix the same two chemicals in the same way, you'll get the same result every time. And if you apply the same persuasion techniques in the right way, you'll get the same result. One of Carnegie's most powerful idea is that you can get anybody to do ANYTHING, so long as it satisfies two very important criteria. The first is they have to do it for THEIR reasons. If you are trying to persuade somebody to do something because of what YOU think, you are breaking this important rule. The second is that they have to think it was THEIR idea. So if they even SUSPECT you are trying to influence them, then this rule is broken as well. If you adhere to these two very simple and very powerful rules, it's very easy. If you break either of both of them, then it's just a numbers game, and a low probability one at that. So, the billion dollar question. HOW, exactly do you follow those two rules? How can you communicate to somebody so they do what YOU want for their reasons AND believe it was THEIR idea? Like This: Hypnotic Sales
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