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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov29Post.mp4 A good way to win arguments is to take the long game approach. Most people have plenty of ideas they believe are true. But they couldn't defend them to save their lives. Since pretty much EVERYBODY is like this, nobody really needs to defend their ideas. They just need to present their ideas against their other ideas. Most arguments are really no more than verbal fights. The idea of an old school "argument" where two people carefully explore each other's ideas in hopes of creating a much more robust idea rarely exists. If you've ever taken a class in pure logic, it's as difficult as advanced mathematics. Having a real "argument," is about as difficult as casually deriving the Pythagorean formula over a cup of coffee. Not gonna happen. However, you don't need to have a very robust argument of your own to destroy anybody else's ideas. All you really need to do is keep asking them about theirs. So long as you turn down your own ego, and your own need to tell them about your ideas, their ideas CAN self destruct. They CAN, but they usually won't. Because most people's "reasons" for believing pretty much anything is because it feels good in their brain. We silly humans tend to believe ideas for the same reasons we eat things. Just like very few people take the time to ONLY eat healthy foods in healthy amounts, we don't take time to believe things that are logical and rational. We eat things because they feel good in our mouth. We believe things because they feel good in your brain. Which is why arguing with people is almost ALWAYS a bad idea. It won't make you any friends, and it's a pretty lame party skill. But you can use the SAME process to take the ideas that exist in their brain and make them feel better. Imagine you had a guest are your house. They were hungry, and you told them to help themselves. They looked in your freezer and found a carton of vanilla ice cream. (Let's say you were in the shower or something while they started eating). And let's say you had a hidden stash of ice cream toppings. All kinds of syrup and sprinkles and everything else you could imagine. You come out of the shower, see them eating a plain bowl of vanilla. "Dude, wait, here, let me make that better!" You say and bring them out a huge spread of ice cream toppings. This would make that food, that they already like, taste much BETTER. You can do the very same with all the ideas in their heads. And when you can develop the skill to take their existing ideas, which they very much LIKE, and make them BETTER, they'll love you even more. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
Once upon a time a bunch of people in France got angry. So angry they decided to run around chopping off people's heads. This, of course, was the French Revolution. Problem is once a gang of revolutionaries start to kill the nobles, it's kind of hard to stop. Kind of like thinking you're going to eat one spoonful of ice cream. Or one potato chip. But when those angry French dudes finally stopped killing, they set up a new government. But as you would expect, they were still kind of excited about their new country, after their revolution. So some of the ideas they conjured up didn't fly so well. One of them was the idea of turning TIME into the metric system. 100 hours per day. Hundred minutes per hour. Hundred seconds per minute. I suppose it sounded good in theory, and maybe a few clock companies thought they might make bank, but most people quickly realized how foolish it was. Lots of us do that. Not have bloody revolutions, but we come up with ideas that SEEM good at the time, but in retrospect, we gotta ask ourselves: Dude, what were you thinking? Everybody knows the famous line about insanity. Doing the same thing over and over again and hoping for a different result. Unfortunately, we humans don't have very good memories. So that, "doing the same thing over and over idea" only makes sense in the short term. Because on the LONG term, we DO do the same things. Over and over and over again. And since the LAST TIME we tried them was so long ago, we actually think THIS TIME it's going to work. So even if it IS the same thing, we don't quite remember the last time, so it FEELS different. Even worse is when we try the same STRUCTURES over and over again. Because it's even harder for us to notice STRUCTURES, we try the same unsuccessful structures over and over again. But since this same STRUCTURE is tried in different areas, we don't really recognize that it's the same. So we keep failing. If you've ever tried to achieve something difficult, and have failed, you aren't alone. Most people continually try and fail. In finance, in personal relationships, in health areas. And since SO MANY people keep trying and failing, maybe there is something deeper going on. Maybe it's the STRUCTURE, not the people. Maybe there is a much better STRUCTURAL WAY to get what we want. What might that way be? Find Out Here: http://mindpersuasion.com/goal-setting-sucks/
Many successful people are lucky. In that they are born with a certain set of skills. But more importantly, they are lucky to be born with a certain collection of external incentives. Incentives that recognized those skills. For example, imagine a guy who worked on a farm in the 1600's. Imagine if he had world class baseball skills. Chances are, nobody would know. He might be exceptionally good at certain farming tasks. That might make him a slightly better farmer than most, but that's about it. For a guy to make a killing as a pro athlete, he's got to be born with the right skills at the right time. But critically, with the right support system. Teachers, coaches, parents, and the right neighborhood where exceptional athletic skills would be recognized and appreciated. Many business people are the same way. They are born at the right time, with the right set of skills, surrounded by the right people. Think that Zuckerberg or Gates or Buffet would be rich if they lived 500 years ago? Not likely. So, if you aren't lucky and successful, then what? Very few people choose at an early age to be successful the way they are successful. It's generally a combination of internal gifts that are cultivated by external circumstances. But this doesn't meant it's the ONLY way. This is the cool thing about living in a globally connected economy. There are tons of skills you can LEARN that propel you to success. And many of the necessary mindsets can be cultivated. Most people just show up with their mindset, their skills and hope for the best. But you can easily shift your mindset depending on what kind of life you want. Since this isn't very popular, or isn't taught in school, most people don't even know of the possibility. But it is very real. All you need is a few minutes every day, and you can start shifting your mind however you like. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/nlp/
One of the cool language patterns from NLP is the sleight of mouth patterns. The idea being that you can hear an "objection" and then overcome it with linguistic wizardry. Sell more stuff, get more dates, have more fun. But the concept itself is pretty powerful. And that concept is that any idea isn't set in stone. After all, Marcus Aurelius, a bad ass Roman orator, said over two thousand years ago that, "All is opinion." Meaning any idea we have is not a fact. Just an opinion. Which means any thought we have, is a temporary "snapshot" of our reality. Both within us an outside of us. And since all is "opinion," and opinions can change, we can literally build and hold any idea we want. I used to think sushi was disgusting. Raw fish? Gross! Who would want to eat raw fish? Until a buddy of mine reframed it. "No, dude, it's cool. Just imagine eating a really rare steak." Just like that. My idea of "sushi is gross" turned into "sushi is delicious" in less than a minute. Our heads are FILLED with ideas like "sushi is gross" that we NEVER question. We just accept them as fact. When I was in high school I worked at a pizza place. The thing about pizza is you can get it with whatever you want on it. Few food fast food items are like this. Imagine walking into a burger place and saying, "Yeah, I'd like a medium cheeseburger with bacon, tomatoes and olives." Most places you get what you get. But pizza? You can get any combo you want. Even half something and half something else if you've got a couple picky eaters on your team. Why not treat our brains like that? "Let's see, today I'd like to be outgoing, clever and witty." Or maybe if you were going on first date, you could choose to be, "romantic, seductive and irresistibly attractive." If you were taking an important test, you could decide to be "a genius with a rapid steel trap memory." Why not? It will certainly take practice. But if you decided to learn how to play tennis, you could eventually play tennis. Why not spend some time learning how to "be" however you want? Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/nlp/