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  1. One way to understand attractive personalities is to think in terms of ancient societies. Our brains, bodies and instincts are the same as they were tens of thousands of years ago. We humans just don't evolve very quickly. So, what personality characteristics are MOST attractive? The biggest problem in ancient societies was getting enough food. Of handling problems that came up during that process. Back then, you HAD to be productive. You had to be able to get stuff done. And the more stuff you could get done, the more TRUE CONFIDENCE you would radiate. Not confidence based on anything fake. Confidence based on real memories of real experiences where you were successful. This may not be something you want to hear, but humans send and receive a TON of information via subconscious body language. So if you truly FEEL confident, everybody is going to know. If you are trying to fake confidence, it may work for a little while, but it won't last through a conversation. This is exactly WHY girls test guys. To see if their confidence is REAL or FAKE. Just that she's testing you is a bad sign. If she is testing you, her subconscious DOUBTS your confidence. But it's easy to create REAL confidence, even if you don't feel it. At least right now. The trick is not to conjure it up in the moment. This is the FAKE confidence that invites frame tests. Real confidence can be built using ONLY the memories in your brain. It takes time, but it is VERY POWERFUL. You can do this with any emotional state you want. Even building in various switches for various emotional states. People that are naturally charismatic and outgoing do this NATURALLY. Meaning they NATURALLY recall and reference positive memories. This creates a string of positive experiences. Which keeps the whole positive charisma cycle going. You can, however, jump start this process. Kind of like priming a pump. Just take some time, find plenty of decent memories and PURPOSELY reference those. And you can create that SAME outgoing, friendly, charismatic attitude. This is THE most important thing. It only seems like it's not because so FEW people have this natural, outgoing charm. But when you take the time to build it, you'll see. Once you have a collection of positive inner game states, layering some outer game behaviors on top will be EASY. Making you the most attractive person around. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  2. There is a clear discrepancy between what we say we want, and what we really want. The things we TELL ourselves (and each other) what we want is based partially on what we SHOULD want. But the things we actively GET, especially when nobody's looking, is what we REALLY want. This is one main reason why marketing studies must be done like medical studies. As objectively as possible. If you ask people for feedback, they'll tell you what they think you WANT to hear. So marketers have to take care to set up special studies so they can OBSERVE what people choose. Similarly, whenever anybody does any medical research, and the data is SELF-REPORTED, it's almost always flawed. Especially if it involves eating. Nobody is totally honest when they report what they REALLY ate. When thinking about humans and attraction, there is a common idea. That you should ignore what people SAY, and watch what people DO. But there is ONE THING that people SAY that want, and also respond to. The ONE quality we all both consciously acknowledge is desirable. And will subconsciously acknowledge as desirable. What is this mysterious trait? A sense of humor. Everybody SAYS they value humor. AND people naturally gravitate AROUND people who HAVE a strong sense of humor. Maybe because humor is a function both an inner and outer game. True outer game humor reflects inner game STRENGTH. Especially self-deprecating humor. This can be VERY DANGEROUS. Many people attempt self deprecation without being 100% congruent. So in a sense, they are kind of fishing for compliments. But if you can use self-deprecating humor with 100% congruence, it will be VERY ATTRACTIVE. Because it demonstrates massive inner confidence. This is the underlying "energy" of the "agree and amplify" response to any playful insults. "Dude, that shirt is ugly!" "I know, right! I got the UGLIEST shirt in the shop! Winner Winner chicken dinner!" This is HARD to pull off if you don't feel it. But if you DO feel it, the surface structure doesn't need to be complex. It can be very, very simple. Paradoxically, the BEST self-deprecating humor demonstrates the STRONGEST confidence around. It's almost like you are proudly challenging anybody to an insult contest. Where YOU can insult you better than anybody else can insult you. Only exceptionally confident people with exceptionally strong frames can do this. Which means that ONLY learning the words aren't enough. You must also build up your inner game. You can learn that here: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  3. Expanding conversational skills can leading to growing social circles. And if you are going to grow your social circles, you'll need a place to keep them. The thing about social circles is that most people have NO IDEA how big they can get. Which means if you have a small one to start off with, you might need to switch to a bigger container. And interesting thing about expanding social circles is they can lead unexpected opportunities. Of course, unexpected opportunities differ from expected opportunities. Expected opportunities tend to turn out differently than we think, which makes them unexpected but in a different way. Compared to your normal, run of the mill unexpected opportunities which just normally pop up when you least expect them. Which isn't really that normal. Since being normal is only doing what is expected. Of course if you ONLY do what is expected, that presupposes there's a group of people out there who have a bunch of expectations. Kind of selfish of them to hog all the expectations. You'd think they'd share some of them with the rest of us. Then we could ALL have some expectations. Then we might get together and trade expectations like baseball cards. And then you might get some expectations that might not be worth much in their rookie year. But then they might turn out to be a super star. And THOSE expectations might turn out to be worth a pretty penny! I once knew a girl named Penny, but she wasn't pretty. I mean she was cute, but I wouldn't go so far as to call her pretty. I didn't really EVER have to go very far, since she lived next door. Next door neighbors can be a mixed blessing. Of course, mixing blessings CAN be dangerous. Kind of like in chemistry class. When our teacher specifically told us to NOT mix two jars of chemicals. Me, being the kid I was, decided to mix them just to see what the big deal was. What happened was I got kicked out of chemistry class. Not the reaction I was expecting. I was expecting AT LEAST some smoke or something. Maybe an explosion. Developing an explosive sense of humor can REALLY help you be a hit at parties. Or anywhere you WANT a party to be. Some people ONLY go where previously planned parties are expected to happen. Other people have learned how to MAKE parties happen. Anywhere they happen to be. Which can be YOU if you play your cards right. Of course, you don't really need cards. Just your brain. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  4. One flexible source of meaning is any cause-effect. Our brains seem to struggle with any kind of cause-effect. If you are a scientist, and you need to PROVE that A causes B, it's not so easy. A common phrase that illustrates this is the famous, "correlation doesn't imply causation." Somebody, either in person or online, will mention that something causes something else. Or they'll imply it with the many handy linguistic tools built in to our brain. Then somebody will wisely say (or post): "Well you know, correlation doesn't mean causation." These can lead to some interesting discussions. And some heated arguments. But they can ALSO lead to some pretty funny statements. Or purposeful "misinterpretations" of what people say. Our language is FILLED with ambiguities. If you were to learn to SPEAK in ambiguities, it would take a while. But it would be INSANELY powerful, as speaking articulately and specifically in terms of ambiguities is what covert hypnosis is all about. But if you can pluck out any of the ambiguities that we silly humans say all the time, and PURPOSELY misunderstand them, it can be VERY FUNNY. Not just cause-effect statements, but something called "scope ambiguity." A scope ambiguity is the driving force behind the famous Groucho Marx joke: "Last night I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got into my pajamas I'll never know!" Once you train your brain to SEE these, you'll see them EVERYWHERE. For example, let's say you have a friend who said she went out to get the paper in her bathrobe, and her neighbor saw her. "The other day I was getting my paper and my neighbor saw me in my bathrobe. It was pretty embarrassing!" You COULD say: "Your neighbor? In your bathrobe?" To which your friend would say: "Yes!" To which you'd reply in mock horror: "What was your neighbor doing in your bathrobe?" Obviously, this is pretty silly. But it's also very EASY. And it's also potentially very CATCHY. Meaning if your friend is in a playful mood (if you're at a party or a bar and the drinks are flowing) she can play along with the "new reality." This what happens when you build a party frame. Somebody says something normal. Which most people do most of the time. Then YOU take it and REFRAME it into something goofy. Since a fun, goofy frame is BETTER than a normal, boring frame, people will tend to join in. And play along with the idea that your friend has a weird neighbor that is somehow sneaking into her house and getting her clothing. And then standing outside wearing it like no big deal. Once you train your brain to reframe cause-effect statements and scope ambiguities, you'll see them EVERYWHERE. Giving you TONS of opportunities to make people laugh out loud. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  5. Next time you are in the middle of a randomly flowing conversation, do this experiment. Watch not only how people talk, but watch how the content of the conversation is an organically evolving "thing." Kind of like a beach ball at a concert or sporting event. People kind of see it bouncing around. When it comes their way they try and keep it bouncing around. Watch people watching this imaginary "conversational ball" floating around. Most people are doing a couple of things when they are NOT talking. They are paying attention to whoever is talking. And they are trying to come up with a related story or anecdote. So if this imaginary conversation ball comes their way, they can add to it and keep it bouncing around. When the conversation dies out, it's very much like "dropping the ball." Everybody looks around for somebody to hopefully get it going again. Very much like standing in a circle and hitting a volleyball around, or playing hacky sack. The longer the ball keeps flowing, the better. But this is difficult (and create anxiety) if you don't happen to have any stories or related anecdotes. The longer you stand there without talking, the more you start to get worried that everybody is watching you stand there without talking. This leads to the most common "reason" for social anxiety. "I don't know what to say." Luckily, there is a very easy solution. And that is instead of focusing on CONTENT, start to train your ears and brain to focus on STRUCTURE. The structure of any random conversation is very similar. And it's filled with possibility. For you to reach in there, tweak it, and create some very happy, and very goofy feelings in their brains. And since this structure is something few people ever notice, it will make you look like you're on another level than everybody else. Even if you borrow the content from other people. This means you don't have to have any stories, or clever anecdotes or tales of adventure. Just the ability to playfully tweak the structure of anybody's conversation. This is the kind of party skills that not only make you memorable, but an IN DEMAND party guest. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  6. One of the key ideas in Psycho-Cybernetics is to never compare yourself to others. This is also a helpful economic strategy. If you are always comparing yourself to your neighbors, you'll end up chasing an unachievable goal. Because no matter how well you do something, you can ALWAYS find somebody else who can do it better. This is similar to the dangers of being the "fastest gun" in any western town. As soon as you are recognized as the fastest gun, every goof west of the Mississippi will come and test you. Which means part of the job description of being the fastest gun is ALWAYS having gunfights to prove you are the fastest. Not a very healthy occupation! We humans are always finding clever ways to out do each other. You might even say it's part of our nature. We are, after all, very hierarchical social animals. Even when hanging out with friends, it's common to try and "outdo" each other by the stories we tell. Especially at parties when trying to "impress" people you've just met. If YOU want to impress them, there's a chance others are as well. And the fastest gun fight is on. Of course, you can bring a secret weapon. One that very few people know about. Instead of focusing on the CONTENT, the actual things people talk about, you can use some structural elements. Structure based communication hits people on a much deeper level than content level communication. Using a gunfight metaphor, being a fastest gun only works against people that just stand in one place. Using structural language would be like having the ability to zip in and out of existence wherever and whenever you wanted to. Effectively allowing you to dodge bullets. On a structural level, this will make you stand out FAR above everybody else. No matter HOW "interesting" their "content" is. But being able to manipulate the STRUCTURE of communication, it will be like having magic powers. Which means when they see you coming, everybody just gives up and gives in. To whatever you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  7. The reason we humans like to mingle with other humans is we are social animals. The reason we go places when we can potentially meet new people is because meeting new people is interesting. Especially if we "click" with those new people. Either friends or lovers, meeting new friends with whom we share a lot in common is a very comfortable and deeply human feeling. The very basic common strategy when doing that is we try our best to make ourselves stand out somehow. This is why we are careful about what we wear, and even how we speak and behave when we are around new and interesting people. This is the essential strategy behind "peacocking." To wear clothing, jewelry, or anything to make you IMMEDIATELY stand out from the crowd. So when people approach you, they have a PRESET idea that YOU are DIFFERENT from everybody else. This can be a risky strategy. Because you have to have a personality that is strong enough to withstand all the attention. Which is why few people feel comfortable peacocking too much. Recently there was a very famous wedding. And one thing that happens when there is ANY famous gathering, is they look at all the clothing people wore. Mostly the ladies. At the same time, each person who goes to this famous gathering, KNOWS this is going to happen. So, at the same time, they want to STAND OUT, but not too much. This is the same strategy most of us use when we go places. We want to STAND OUT, but not too much. One thing VERY FEW people think about when they go places socially, where meeting new people is acceptable, is to work on their communication skills. This is a very clever way of using the Cialdini law of comparison and contrast. If you think a movie is going to be average, and it BEATS your expectations, you'll think it's MORE entertaining than it was. If a stock is expected to report earnings of $1.02 a share, and instead they report earnings of $1.05 a share, it will rocket up. The idea of "beating expectations" is VERY POWERFUL. So when you show up anywhere wearing fairly normal looking clothing, but your communication skills are EXCEPTIONAL, then you will beat expectations. And you'll be FAR more memorable than some goof wearing a huge top hat and dressed up like the mad hatter. In fact, extreme peacocking REQUIRES you have an extreme personality to match the clothes. But if you are dressed normally, but have a communication style that is just a bit on the funny-crazy-hypnotic side, people will NEVER forget you. Kind of like you're own secret agent party strategy. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  8. One way to quickly put people in a trancey mood is to talk about trancey things. It's one thing to specifically use hypnotic language structures, and either hypnotize them directly, or use covert hypnosis. But much easier way, especially if you are getting started, is to talk about trancey things. Things that do the work on their own. Their are plenty of interesting paradoxes in math and physics. But if you ONLY talk about the paradoxes, it won't be much different than a regular conversation. One person throws out one idea, and another person throws out another idea, etc. And if everybody's talking about their latest experience playing video games, and you talk about some paradox of the number line, it might not go over well. But if you sandwich it between two sort of related stories, it will scramble their brains pretty well. In case you don't happen to have a lot of math paradoxes at the ready, there's an even easier way. You take whatever the structure it is of the other idea, and go up a meta level. And instead of talking about "things" talk about ideas. For example, imagine somebody was talking about some boring class they had to take at school. And the reason they were taking it was it was part of their major. They would be taking the interesting classes later. There's a lot of "me too" type stories that would have that same structure. Doing something boring that you MUST do before doing the thing you WANT to do. But instead of talking about normal things (like doing your taxes, or doing an unpaid internship) talk about trancey things. Like thinking boring thoughts that you MUST think before you can think interesting thoughts that you WANT to think. And to keep track, inside your mind you can be thinking about doing something like cleaning your room before you can play video games. But outside, you're talking about thinking boring thoughts and putting them in order before you can think the more fun and interesting thoughts. It sounds similar, from a structural level, but people will have a hard time following along. They'll watch you closely, trying to pay attention, but when you're finished (and you're acting like you talked about something completely normal) they'll look at you with a weird expression on their face. "Yeah, that's, uh, um....what?" And then you can talk about the REAL thing, (the thing you were thinking about when talking about the trancey thing), as another example. This will slowly guide them back to normal thinking land, but they'll have a kind of "hole" in their memory. There's all kinds of fun party tricks you can use with hypnosis to differentiate yourself from everybody else. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  9. There are many ways to put things or people into categories. For example, you could sort everybody on Earth into two categories. Those who are taller than you, and those who aren't. Those who are older and younger than you. And collection of things can be sorted in plenty of ways. One way to sort things is the type of things people talk about. An interesting experiment to do is to sit back mentally and be an observer. You can even do this while watching TV. Our brain has plenty of built in sorting features, most of which are running all the time. But other sorting criteria can be shifted, and this can be pretty interesting. For example, next time you are listening to some people talk, shift your filters to see if they are talking about themselves, or other people. Ideas about themselves, their wants and desires, or their ideas about other people. Or you can play around just for fun. Are they talking about more tangible things, or intangible things? Focus on the nouns they are using. Are they physical things, or ideas? Another idea, which is very helpful, is to sort between content, and structure. This is something that few people even think about. But training yourself to switch between content and structure can be VERY powerful. Focusing on tangible things or intangible ideas, for example, is looking at their content from a structural level. Another funny way to sort their language is to look for any ambiguities, particularly scope ambiguities. For example, I was watching a TV show the other night. And one of the characters was talking about potentially eating something with particular zeal. And she said something like, "I'll attack it like a chocolate cake." Meaning the thing in question, that she was going to "attack," was going to be "attacked" AS IF the thing in question was a chocolate cake. Meaning she was going to eat it aggressively and deliciously. But you could ALSO interpret that statement to mean: "I'll attack that just like a chocolate cake would attack it!" To which one might innocently ask: "How exactly does a chocolate cake attack something?" If you train yourself to look for these kinds of ambiguities (which you'll see everywhere once you start looking), and ask simple (and silly) questions like the one above, they'll have a pretty funny effect. Because when people talk, they kind of just spit out jumbles of words without much thought. But when you ask a question that PRESUPPOSES the "other" meaning of any of their ambiguities, it will make them do a couple of mental stutter steps while they try and figure out what the heck you are talking about. The result is usually pretty funny. Once you see how many hidden opportunities there are in everyday language, making people laugh can be second nature. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  10. There is this really goofy movie on Netflix (or maybe Amazon) called "Punching the Clown." It's comical story about the rise and fall of this guy who plays the guitar on stage while "singing" the lamest jokes you could ever imagine. Every event that caused his rise was a misinterpretation. Every event that caused his fall was equally a misinterpretation. If you're a fan of very dry, very tongue-in-cheek comedy, I highly recommend it. One of my favorite scenes is where he's "auditioning" for this very high level talent agent. The hero ALWAYS tells his jokes as if they are songs, while he's "singing" them along with his guitar strumming. Central to the whole them is the guy is REALLY not very funny, but because of all the misunderstandings, everybody thinks he's the second coming of Groucho Marx. As he's auditioning, the agent interrupts him several times, and says something like: "OK, why don't you play me the FUNNIEST one. The one that is the MOST FUNNY, right from the beginning." And the hero keeps starting various song-jokes, and the agent keeps interrupting him and saying the same thing. The entire movie is very "meta" in that it looks at humor, and what humor is, and how it's constructed. A way of looking at a non-funny guy, but from a humorous angle, but in scenes that are carefully scripted to be as dryly humorous as possible. This, in a nutshell, is the problem with any kind of COVERT hypnosis. Non-covert hypnosis is easy. You know you're using it. You're subject knows you're using it. Everybody watching knows you're using it. But with COVERT hypnosis, nobody knows but you. In fact, it really ONLY WORKS if nobody but you knows it. Which is why it's very HARD to see a real example of covert hypnosis. Since once you know it's an example of covert hypnosis, it's no longer covert, and it won't have the same effect. This is the SAME type of thing that happens when you DON'T GET a joke. It's ONLY funny if it HITS YOU all at once. If it has to be explained to you, it won't be funny. No joke is. Which is why when it comes to covert hypnosis, it's very similar to fight club. In that the first rule of fight club is to NOT talk about fight club. When you're using direct party hypnosis tricks (getting people zonked out and speaking Martian) it's ok to tell everybody what they're doing. But when using any of the COVERT party hypnosis tricks, it's best to NOT mention anything to anybody what you are doing. Just drop a few covert mind bombs here and there and stand back and watch the fun. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  11. English has a lot of ambiguities built in. It makes sense, considering the history of humans and language. Human language first showed up 50,000 years ago or so. Nobody really knows, since there wasn't a record until people started writing stuff down. And most people didn't start writing stuff down until they had a need to. And this was most likely for accounting reasons. Rich people wanted to keep track of how much stuff they had, and how much people owed them. But before that, we can imagine what kind of stuff people talked about. Hunting strategies, tools, and all the stories they made up at night while looking up at the stars. The stuff they described at the time when language was invented was pretty simple. Not a lot of intangible nouns. Now, however, there are TONS of intangible nouns. Tons of metaphors that are used to described extremely complicated things. Metaphors about collections of metaphors. Even something as "scientific" as mathematics may just be a metaphor. It's sort of an idealized description of the physical world. But some if the ideas in mathematics aren't really that tangible. Things like different types of infinities, irrational numbers, imaginary numbers. (Once I had a professor in college who said ALL numbers are imaginary.) We can look at this confusing collection of words that we use to describe our world in a few ways. One is to be in awe of the world, and walk around with child-like wonder. That's kind of cool, but it's also kind of hard to keep up. Another way is to have tons of fun. There are plenty of ways you can say things that make our brains feel funny. This is pretty much the reason we make and enjoy jokes. One source of never-ending amusement is when the news media says funny things on accident. For example, once a weatherman promised ten inches of snow one evening. That night, it didn't snow. The female anchor, before turning the news over to the weatherman, wanted to remind everybody that he said it was going to snow, but it didn't. Unfortunately (for her at least) she turned to him and said: "Where're those ten inches you promised me last night?" As soon as she said, she realized her mistake. The rest of the news crew (everybody, including everybody on TV) couldn't stop laughing for a couple minutes. Human language has HUGE opportunities for laughter. For fun. And for much deeper trancey effects. Which makes learning how to do this the PERFECT party skill. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
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