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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun18Post.mp4 Why do most goals fail? It's not going to do with willpower. And everything to do with economics. If you don't understand the economics of human decision making, most goals will fail. Especially if you follow most goal setting courses. For example, most goal courses say they should be specific, and time limited. This idea has been repeated so many times, and in so many different KINDS of seminars, it seems like a law of nature. But if you follow those TWO ideas, there is a HIGH probability your goal won't pan out. There are MANY reasons. One is that NOBODY can predict the future. Even with super computers, and highly calibrated weather measuring systems, they still can only GUESS about the weather. Now, weather is a complex system. It falls under the category of chaos theory. Multiple, inter-dependent, polynomial variables. So even when we KNOW the equations to describe the weather system, we can't use those same equations to PREDICT the future weather state. This is a limit of MATHEMATICS. Back when Newton discovered gravity, he had to invent a new kind of mathematics to understand it, and describe it, and predict it. So far, we haven't been able to invent a kind of math that allows us to predict things like the weather. Now compare the weather to human behavior. The weather is an inorganic system. It is absolutely BOUND by objective laws. Humans are very, very subjective. The decision to create any goal is based on your PRESENT, subjective, emotional state. And unless you are a robot or a Vulcan, your subjective emotional state varies a lot. Even more complicated is that all human decisions and actions are BOUND by economics. Nobody does ANYTHING unless they believe the BENEFITS are going to be worth the COSTS. So even a specific goal only a month in the future has a LOW PROBABILITY of happening. When you make the decision TODAY, you only have an IDEA of the costs and benefits. Tomorrow, you might take a few steps toward the goal. Getting new information about those costs and benefits. AND your subjective value of that goal will also change. When you first decide on the goal in the abstract, the costs and benefits become more real. And if you are like every other normal human, you OVERESTIMATE the benefits. And you UNDERESTIMATE the costs. But as you move forward, three things happen. The costs become more real, which tends to make them become HIGHER. The benefits start to seem less appealing, which makes them become LOWER. This causes your subjective opinion about the goal to CHANGE. It is absolutely RATIONAL to give up when you reach the tipping point. When the COSTS become greater than the BENEFITS. What's the solution? Get rid of the two twin demons of goal setting. Forget about a specific outcome. And forget about it being time-limited. This way, you'll keep getting better. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/willpower/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun15Post.mp4 Why do goals often fail? Is it a lack of willpower? No, it is not. It's actually based on simple economics. Not the kind economics that government goofs talk about. The real kind that exists inside of your head. For every action we take, there are costs. No animal would survive very long if they consistently took action where the costs exceeded the benefits. Think about this from a basic calorie standpoint. If you are going after a piece of food that will give you 500 calories, it only makes sense if expend less than that many calories in getting that piece of food. But for us humans, there are two costs to any action. The kind of costs we need to actually spend. Monetary costs, calorie-energy costs, social exposure costs. But there are also the opportunity costs. Opportunity costs are things you CAN'T get once you go after any one thing. Here's where it gets kind of complicated. When we decide to go after something that may take a few days, we have to IMAGINE both the costs and the benefits. Here is a very silly and extreme example. Suppose you're in a bar, and you see a cutie across the room. You are flirting with them, they are flirting with you. You'd like to go and talk to them. What are the imagined benefits? A nice conversation with a cute person AND a potential romantic relationship. What are the imagined costs? The social exposure, the risks of getting shot down. If she never looked at you, the risks would be very high. Which would make the imagined costs greater than the imagined benefits. But suppose she was REALLY flirting with you. Now the imagined costs are much lower. The imagined benefits are much higher. So you waltz on over, thinking you're in like Flynn. When you get there and say hey, she smiles back at you. But it turns out she's a vampire! Her eyes are gleaming with that evil vampire glint, and her fangs are still dripping blood from her last victim. You flee in terror, happy to make it out of there alive. The imagined costs and benefits turned out to be WAY different than you'd imagined. Based on your initial assumptions, walking over was the LOGICAL thing to do. But once you saw her fangs and the blood thirsty look in her eyes, running away was the LOGICAL thing to do. This is, at it's core, why most goals will ALWAYS fail. Before you start, you have an idea of the costs and the benefits. But as you move closer to your goal, the costs turn out to be bigger than you'd imagined. The benefits turn out to be less than you'd imagined. This means giving up on a goal is JUST AS LOGICAL as running away from a vampire. What's the solution? Change a few filters, and learn to more ACCURATELY estimate both costs and benefits. Do this and you'll start hitting your goals automatically. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/willpower/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar20Post.mp4 Most things are best understood as a numbers game. You talk to 10 girls you might get a couple numbers. You send out a few dozen resumes, and you might get a couple calls. You stand in the batting cages and you might really connect with one out of three or four pitches. This CAN be discouraging. Especially if you focus on every single swing, or approach, or phone call. But the longer you can stretch out your perception, the easier it seems. Especially if you understand from the beginning that it's just a numbers game. Even more so if you are slowly improving. One of the oldest jokes in the entertainment business is the guy walking down the street in New York. He asks a local how to get to Carnegie Hall. The local says, "practice." If you want to get ANYWHERE, you need to practice. On one hand, this kind of sucks. Especially in modern times when everybody is not only entitled but insanely impatient. We want what we want, and we want it NOW. On the other hand, once you get into a routine, you'll ALWAYS be getting some. Getting what? Getting better. When you don't have something but you want something, it can create a paradox of never ending frustration. You want it, you want it NOW, but you don't know HOW you'll get it. This is maddening to say the least. But when you start taking small, tiny, daily steps toward what you want, something pretty cool will happen. In a week or so, you'll look behind you and see how far you've come. You'll look out ahead of you and you'll KNOW how far you'll be going. You'll get rid of that "now-frustration" that is never ending. And replace it with continuous feeling of forward momentum. This means you'll KNOW where you are going. You'll feel it. It will start to change how you feel, what you think, how you speak and behave, and how people perceive you. A "now-frustrated" person is very UN-attractive. Nobody wants to hang around somebody who wants things, wants them now, but doesn't know HOW to get them. This is like hanging around a baby who is constantly screaming. On the other hand, when you develop consistent forward momentum, that is much more attractive. People will you see you, and they IMMEDIATELY notice that you are different than most. They won't see somebody who is dependent on others. They won't see somebody who is frustrated and stuck. They'll see somebody who is going places. Which places? Whichever direction you choose. Transforming your life, and everybody around you. One easy step at a time. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar19Post.mp4 Most of us have plenty of goals. Things we'd like to have, or be able to do. But we either never start, or we've started and given up a few times. Why is goal setting so hard? There can only be two reasons. One is that the thing we are after is unachievable. Or the process we are doing to get the thing is incorrect. Both are hard to stomach. Believing we want something that is impossible is pretty depressing. Equally depressing is to admit we are always doing it wrong. Both have the same result. We want something, but we'll never get it. Money, love, a better job, a better body, etc. Just for a moment, let's assume the second reason. That we're doing it wrong. If we are doing it wrong, that means we can figure out how to do it right. The common way, which we'll assume is the wrong way, is to create a TON of motivation, and charge forward as hard as we can. We'll assume this is the wrong way since it rarely works. But when we try again, we violate Einstein's principle of insanity. Of trying the SAME thing but expecting a different result. Weight loss, strengthening, social confidence, we use the SAME structure, and fail, most of the time. What's the structure? Muscle up and plow through the pain! Grab your balls and go talk to her! Suck it up, get out of bed an hour early and hit the pavement! Look terror in the eye, and knock on enough doors until you get enough sales! Yeah, uh, no. That doesn't work. That whole, create a bunch of motivation of thin air and power through the pain. We need a better way. Or at least another way that doesn't suck so fricking much. The problem is based on economics. And how we compare what we WANT to what we THINK will get us there. Both are based on how well we IMAGINE things. The costs and the benefits. But as we start knocking on doors, or talking to random girls, or running before sunrise, the COSTS become more real. But the benefits are STILL in our imagination. Before we start, it SEEMS the benefits are worth the costs. But the more we push forward with ONLY motivation, the REAL costs get bigger every day. Imagine if you went into your favorite burger shop. And you looked up and saw a burger combo for $4. Uh yea, I'd like the burger combo. But when you went to pay, they wanted $50. Added fees, taxes, etc. Would you pay? Hell, no! Same with motivation. Eventually the REAL costs get so big it's RATIONAL to stop paying. What's the better way? Go. Really. Slow. Keep the costs as SMALL as possible. Forget that motivation nonsense. Instead, build MOMENTUM. Because momentum is self-sustaining. Momentum can lead you ANYWHERE. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan30Post.mp4 Humans love having goals, but for some reason, they seem hard to achieve. For every milestone we achieve, we have about a kajillion we've given up on. One reason is that most of us are motivated MORE by moving away from pain than we are by moving toward pleasure. But since we don't like to admit this, we pretend we are motivated toward pleasure. But if we really WERE motivated toward pleasure, we would ALWAYS be moving forward. But our behaviors tell a different story. Many of our goals are reframed subconsciously to be toward pleasure, but in reality are away from pain. For example, many people love the idea of financial independence. But this is really to get rid of negative financial situations. For most, financial independence means and ABSENCE of financial pain. Another reason we often fail at our long term goals is we start WAY too fast. Motivation can only take you so far. Momentum, on the other hand, is much, much better. Most people who exercise every day, and have for several years, wouldn't DREAM of ever giving up. People that jog, for example, very much enjoy the process. Of being in the zone, when your mind is kind of drifting, and your body is producing those fantastic endorphins. People that jog or exercise everyday simply assume they will continue to do that the rest of their lives. They don't NEED motivation. Because they have massive momentum. When you are just starting anything, building momentum is critical. To start VERY SLOWLY. This requires you GET RID of any ideas of permanence. Of silly questions like, "How long until the results are permanent?" This question indicates you see the "practice," whatever it is, as ONLY a means to itself. Do it, get the results, and then get on with your life. But if you start slowly, pretty soon the practice will be a means in and of itself. Just like jogging is a benefit IN ITSELF, and it CREATES long term benefits. This is the secret of creating any goal you want. Start slow, go as slowly as you can, until the practice itself is a benefit. Then you will ALWAYS be improving for the rest of your life. And when it comes to practices that will generate continuous improvements for the REST of your life, there are two basic kinds. For your mind, and for your body. For your body, there are plenty. But what about for your mind? Take A Look Here: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
  6. If you don't know how to do something, it can be frustrating. When it comes to frustration, there is good frustration, and bad frustration. Good frustration is a natural motivator. A very low level "fight or flight" stimulus. And it makes us fight, but in a good way. The most common way is in sports. Frustration can lead to more energy. More energy leads to better performance. We can imagine how this might have been a few thousands of years ago. A hunter keeps missing, and gets frustrated. This makes him angry, which makes him MORE motivated to kill whatever he was hunting. However, like many of our other instincts, frustration can be mis-calibrated. If you are frustrated but don't know HOW to use that energy, this isn't good. This leads to stress and anxiety. There is a lot of ways this can happen. One is when you don't know what to do. Another is when you THINK you know what to do, and you do it, but you DON'T get the results you hoped. This is when you can do the same things over and over and think you'll get something different. Even worse is when somebody shows you how, and you try and copy them, but YOU get much different results than THEY get. This is common in any kind of "boot camp" training. You watch a guru do something, and he gets a fabulous result. Then you try and do the same thing, and fall on your face. The truth is that nearly all skills we humans want to improve, there are WAY too many variables to understand. Even something as simple as cooking requires a lot of practice. You can watch a step by step cooking show and get a completely different result. It's expected that something like cooking takes a lot of practice. But cooking is YOU and the ingredients. The ingredients just sit there. But most of the stuff we REALLY want (relationships, love, money) are WAY more complicated than cooking. But for some reason, we expect to learn them much more quickly than we'd expect to learn to become a decent chef. Maybe it's because a lot of "gurus" promise INSTANT or EASY results. They CAN be easy, but NOT instant. In fact, the SLOWER you go, the easier they are. The FASTER you go, the more variables you miss, and the more BAD frustration you'll create. So long as you keep away from the BAD frustration, you'll only have the good stuff. That makes going forward easy. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-help-fail/
  7. Many natural cycles are self-reinforcing. For example, if you are in a bad mood, you will display bad mood energy. This will come across how you walk, how you look at people, and the tone of your voice. This bad mood energy will drive subtle bad mood communication. Which will tend to elicit bad mood responses from others. Which will further maintain your bad mood. Good moods are the same, but opposite. You walk with good mood energy. Good mood posture, good mood eye contact, good mood tonality. This creates good feelings in others, which drives their good mood behavior, which further enhances your good mood. People that are ALWAYS in a good mood tend to ALWAYS make people feel good just by being around. These people are said to "light up a room." People that are always in a bad mood tend to do the opposite. When they show up, everything thinks, "Oh, crap, I hope he doesn't come and talk to me..." These same self fulfilling cycles show up in many, many places. And some of the negative ones are so powerful they ruin our lives. Addictions, for example, are like that. They start off innocently enough. Trying something to feel good. But that only makes you want more. That ends up taking a toll on your body and your finances. Pretty soon you need a hit just to feel "normal." Finances can be the same way. Like a drug. Buying nice stuff feels pretty good. But the more stuff you buy, the less good it feels. Pretty soon your credit cards are maxed out, and there's no end in sight. Of course, there are plenty opposite cycles as well. These are very positive, and very powerful. Very life sustaining. Life enriching. You do things that make you feel good. But these same things ALSO improve your ability to do more things that make you feel good. Exercise is a perfect example. Once you get past a certain point, it feels GOOD to exercise. But it also IMPROVES your ability to exercise. The more you do, the more you CAN do. Positive habits are like this. And they all share one thing in common. They take a while to get going. Bad habits are the opposite. They are very EASY to start, and very HARD to stop. Good habits, on the other hand, are HARD to start. But once you get them going, they get easier and easier. And more and more rewarding. Most people think in terms of doing X to get Y. Do something, get something, and then stop doing that thing. Consider this idea a dangerous myth. That instead, it's a much better idea to build positive habits. So positive outcomes are natural and consistent. And happen automatically. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/goal-setting-sucks/
  8. Very often, something that feels good in the short term can add up to long term pain. It feels good to sleep in every day, and it sucks to get up at the crack of dawn. But it's easy to imagine how sleeping in EVERY DAY can slowly destroy your productivity. While on the other hand, getting up at the crack of dawn will tend to INCREASE your productivity. Similarly, food that tastes REALLY GOOD tends to add up. The better it tastes, and the quicker it tastes better, the worse it generally is for you. On the other hand, food that is healthy tends to be things you have to acquire a taste for. Or at least acquire a habit of eating. Doing physical labor, or exercise, isn't inherently pleasurable. Only by slowly associating the benefits that come with exercise make it pleasurable. But even then it's not nearly as "enjoyable" as relaxing, or getting a nice massage. This is easy to see when the pleasure is physical. Sleeping late, eating fast food, getting massages. All feel fantastic, and all will have negative impacts on health if that's ALL you do. But mentally pleasurable things are JUST as dangerous. It turns out that in terms of calories per gram, our brain is our most expensive organ. Thinking literally is hard work. Watching TV is easier than studying calculus. But just like jumping from the couch to the weight machine CAN BE dangerous, so can switching your mental skills. If you were 500 pounds overweight, and you wanted to get in shape, you would naturally ease into it. Because if you didn't, you would FEEL IT. There would be a real and present danger of doing too much too soon. I had a roommate once that tried that. Decided he was going to go down to the track and do some sprints. Unfortunately he hadn't worked out in years. After only ONE DAY of sprints, he could barely walk. Messed up BOTH knees. If you jump from the TV to the calculus book, you can do similar damage. You won't exactly break your brain, but it won't be pleasant. And unfortunately, EVERY SINGLE TIME you try something like that, you'll build an association. That doing mental work is hard and painful. On the other hand, if you go VERY SLOWLY, it's much easier. AND you have a much better chance of building the OPPOSITE associations. That doing mentally strenuous work is pleasurable. Just like exercising is for those who do it habitually. It takes while to ease your brain into this. But imagine the things you could do once you train your brain that doing mentally difficult things is enjoyable. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/goal-setting-sucks/
  9. If you did a survey of most successful people, you would find some interesting things. One is that most people never had ANY idea they would be successful in the way they were successful. For example, Jeff Bezos, the richest man on Earth, got started selling hardback books online. Now Amazon makes most of it's money from cloud storage. They are known for selling physical products, but that is a very tiny portion of their business. But if you asked Bezos twenty years ago, he wouldn't have had ANY IDEA that he'd be a billionaire from cloud storage. (True story: One of his biggest clients is the U.S. Government) Once I saw a movie of a concert the Stones did in San Francisco. It was for a fund raiser about ten years ago. Interspersed with concert footage was very old black and white clips. One of an interview with Mick Jagger in his twenties. The question was, "How long do you think you'll guys will be doing this?" His answer? "Dunno, maybe a couple more years?" Ask any couple who's been happily together for years and you WON'T find many stories of love at first sight. You will hear plenty of stories that sound like, "I never would have thought I'd be with somebody like this!" What does all this mean? That the future is INSANELY hard to predict. The most successful people had NO IDEA they would be successful the way they would. So, the money question: How can we REVERSE ENGINEER their success strategy? One clue would be to NOT be dependent on a SPECIFIC future. To have a very VAGUE drive. And combine that with a huge amount of flexibility of how we define success. This sounds OPPOSITE to what most goal books teach. Most goal books say we need to create a very SPECIFIC desire. To make it CLEAR in our minds. Imagine if Bezos ONLY allowed himself to make money by selling books! Combined with a VAGUE definition of success, the other critical factor is a DRIVE. A relentless drive to KEEP TRYING THINGS. See what works, see what doesn't. Keep doing what works, and keep changing what doesn't. The two most important factors of success are the drive, and the flexibility. If you can combine these two together, it's hard to fail. But you have to accept that your success won't be defined until you get there. And when you DO get there, you'll STILL want to keep going. So even the word "goal" is incorrect. Because goal implies a "finish line." And one common theme among all super achievers is they are NEVER finished. So get started. And NEVER finish. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/goal-setting-sucks/
  10. A common and very lazy writing technique is called "deus ex machina." It means "god from the machine." It generally refers to books or movies where the hero's are rescued by a sudden character that wasn't there before. It usually happens when the story starts off pretty good, but the only way the writers can figure out how the heroes can win in the end is by some unpredictable magic. Stories that are much better tend to have solutions at the end that you can sort of (at least retrospectively) see coming. These tend to be very enjoyable. So enjoyable they make us want to watch the movie over and over again to see the clues that we missed the first time. On the other hand, movies that end with an unexpected solution out of nowhere are not so enjoyable. Unfortunately, most of us plan our lives with the "deus ex machina" strategy. We expect some entity OUTSIDE of ourselves to show up and save the day. We expect something to be "given" to us. At the very least, we expect our situation to somehow change to make it EASIER for us to get what we want. You can generally tell by asking people some simple questions. If you ask them to imagine fantastic success in a couple of years, and then look back to now, and explain how it happened. Most people will need some kind of deus ex machina event. They meet somebody that does the work for them, or they happen to wander into the right relationship. While it certainly FEELS fantastic to be the recipient of such luck, it begs the question. Why us? Meaning if some other person or situation is going to single US out to give us a big break, or make it easy for us to turn our dreams into reality, why us? Not not the billions of other people? This presents a paradox. The more we DREAM about a big and fantastic future, the more we'll depend on some kind of "deus ex machina" event to make it happen. And the less likely it will happen. On the other hand, if you CONSTRAIN your future to YOUR behavior, it's much likelier to happen. Does this mean that you can't dream big? Not at all. This is another paradox. If you talk to successful people, you'll find they had no idea that they would be successful in the way they actually were. But they did constrain their dreams to their own actions. And when you combine these two elements, it's actually much more powerful than hoping for magic. Because when you dream big, you are dreaming of the future YOU. That CAN exist. Not some magic wish fairy. Which will never exist. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/goal-setting-sucks/
  11. There's an idea in economics called "diminishing returns." Unfortunately, most people never study economics. For one, it's not taught in school. And since it's used as a "tool" to "control" society, they make it seem much harder than it really is. It's actually not even a science. It's more of a description of natural human behavior. For example, suppose you were on a diet. And it was the kind of diet that allowed one cheating day per week. And on your upcoming cheating day, you were going to have a huge bowl of chili cheese fries. The first fry would be absolutely delicious. And the next, and the next. But pretty soon, the more fries you ate, the less delicious they'd be. Pretty soon you'd be stuffed, and the thought of eating ANOTHER fry might make you shudder in agony. It's called "diminishing returns" because you keep doing the same thing, namely, shoveling a cheese and chili covered french fry into your mouth. But each subsequent one gives you LESS pleasure. The SAME behaviors, over time, deliver LESS return. Or the returns (for your efforts) diminish. Of course, when economists talk about diminishing returns, they don't usually talk about eating chili cheese fries. They talk about things like hiring workers for your business. Suppose you had ten workers. And you wanted to hire one more. And one more worker got you an increase in productivity of 10%. (10 to 11 gives you a 10% increase) Going from ten to eleven workers would increase productivity by 10% And suppose that one worker cost you $50,000 per year. So far so good, right? But if you added ANOTHER worker, for ANOTHER $50,000 per year, you would get LESS return for the SAME increase in pay. Going from 11 workers to 12 would only get you an increase of 9% increase. But that 9% increase (11 workers to 12) would cost the same as a 10% increase (10 workers to 11). Turns out this idea of diminishing returns is EVERYWHERE. And unless you fully understand it, it can mess you up. If you've ever set a goal, perhaps you've tried using a VISION BOARD. Or maybe writing goal statements everywhere. But guess what? Those have diminishing returns as well. That first day you put up a vision board, for example, it feels pretty good to look at. But just like the chili fries, each day you look at it, it will motivate you less and less. This is ONE PROBLEM that keeps many people from not achieving their goals. A misunderstanding of basic human behavior. The good news is that with a more thorough understanding, and a re-engineered goal strategy, setting and getting "goals" (they really shouldn't be called that) is MUCH easier. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/goal-setting-sucks/
  12. Once upon a time a bunch of people in France got angry. So angry they decided to run around chopping off people's heads. This, of course, was the French Revolution. Problem is once a gang of revolutionaries start to kill the nobles, it's kind of hard to stop. Kind of like thinking you're going to eat one spoonful of ice cream. Or one potato chip. But when those angry French dudes finally stopped killing, they set up a new government. But as you would expect, they were still kind of excited about their new country, after their revolution. So some of the ideas they conjured up didn't fly so well. One of them was the idea of turning TIME into the metric system. 100 hours per day. Hundred minutes per hour. Hundred seconds per minute. I suppose it sounded good in theory, and maybe a few clock companies thought they might make bank, but most people quickly realized how foolish it was. Lots of us do that. Not have bloody revolutions, but we come up with ideas that SEEM good at the time, but in retrospect, we gotta ask ourselves: Dude, what were you thinking? Everybody knows the famous line about insanity. Doing the same thing over and over again and hoping for a different result. Unfortunately, we humans don't have very good memories. So that, "doing the same thing over and over idea" only makes sense in the short term. Because on the LONG term, we DO do the same things. Over and over and over again. And since the LAST TIME we tried them was so long ago, we actually think THIS TIME it's going to work. So even if it IS the same thing, we don't quite remember the last time, so it FEELS different. Even worse is when we try the same STRUCTURES over and over again. Because it's even harder for us to notice STRUCTURES, we try the same unsuccessful structures over and over again. But since this same STRUCTURE is tried in different areas, we don't really recognize that it's the same. So we keep failing. If you've ever tried to achieve something difficult, and have failed, you aren't alone. Most people continually try and fail. In finance, in personal relationships, in health areas. And since SO MANY people keep trying and failing, maybe there is something deeper going on. Maybe it's the STRUCTURE, not the people. Maybe there is a much better STRUCTURAL WAY to get what we want. What might that way be? Find Out Here: http://mindpersuasion.com/goal-setting-sucks/
  13. Beavers build dams. Bees build hives. Ants build hills. Certain slugs look around for certain shells. Scientists call this an "extended phenotype." A genotype is the actual genes. The phenotype is the thing the genes create. For example, the genotype for blue eyes is a specific sequence of nucleotides on your DNA. Then the DNA unravels, turns into RNA, and turns into a mini-protein assembly line. Individual pieces float down, link into the RNA, then link together and float off into your body. Those pieces of proteins link together in the final product. The final product, or the configuration as those proteins are linked together, is the phenotype. This is how your DNA, safely hidden and tightly wound together in the nucleus of every cell, creates your body. Your body being the phenotype. Your genotype (DNA) uses RNA to build your body (phenotype). What is an "extended phenotype?" It's kind of cool. Instead of the DNA building the proteins directly, it builds brains. Brains that have instincts. The DNA of a bee, for example, builds the little bee-brain. Then the bee brain is built to instinctively build the bee-hive. The DNA builds the brain, the brain builds the hive. So not only can DNA build bodies of animals, but it can build brains of those animals to build specific things OUTSIDE of the body. So bees make hives, ants make hills, beavers make dams. What do humans make? Human DNA (and the human brains our DNA builds for us) takes it a step further. Beavers, for example, have been building the same kind of dams since the dawn of time. Over and over and over and over. What do humans build? What is OUR extended phenotype? More! More of what? More of whatever there. Not just more, but better. All the brains of the all the animals look out into the world and INSTINCTIVELY build the same stuff over and over. Humans look out into the world, see what has ALREADY been built (by previous humans) and think: "Hmm, how could I make this even better?" To be able to do that, our human brains have some MAGNIFICENT capabilities. Imagination. Hallucination, individually and collectively. We imagine what DOES NOT EXIST, and somehow bring it from the world of hallucinations to the world of reality. But there's a catch. Humans also have tons of ancient instincts. Instincts that PREDATE our super genius brains. The kind of instincts that make us behave like dumb, non-thinking pack animals. Which makes most of us NEVER use our genius brains. This is when we unthinkingly follow the crowd. Or only believe what the experts on TV say. Or only do things because the are familiar. In that regard, we are kind of on the border. Each one of us. We can lean forward into the future and use our brains. Or we can rely on our instincts from the past. And follow crowds and authority and safety. One path is safe and boring and common. One path is an exciting adventure, fraught with danger and peril. Choose Wisely: http://mindpersuasion.com/gurutrap/
  14. Humans don't like risk. Whenever an action will yield questionable results, it makes us stop and think. Whenever an action will yield potentially BAD results, it almost guarantees we won't take action. It doesn't help that our conscious brains can only perceive a tiny sliver of what's really going on. This tends to make things seem WAY more risky than they are. Since part of our reptilian brains are always sorting for danger. Which makes it see potential fears everywhere. Even in vagueness. This comes across in weird ways. When we are contemplating ANY action, and the outcome is vague, even that will give us pause. If we do A, we'll get B, and then maybe C, but beyond that, it's just a vague cloudy future. And our reptilian looks into that cloudy future and even though there's NOTHIG there, it imagines fears. To make matters worse, our cognitive dissonance won't even allow us to see the potential fear out in the vague future. So we focus on the primary or secondary outcomes. And we use THOSE as an excuse for NOT taking action. It's kind of like walking slowly through an unfamiliar dark room. You have to walk slowly and not lift your feet up very much. Otherwise you might trip. Even though you're pretty sure there's nothing there, it still feels instinctively safe to go slower than you want to. So most of the time, unless we can see a GUARANTEED positive result, we usually won't take action. Worse, that guaranteed result usually has to be the primary or secondary result we can predict. But just like you can turn the light on in a dark room, you can turn the light on in your mind. The better you can imagine things, the further out you'll see. Meaning instead of seeing A causing B (and only and maybe what B will cause, you'll see a lot more. You'll immediately see four or five things that A might cause. And then another four or five things each one of those will cause. That means within the primary and secondary outcomes, you've got about 20 different things that COULD happen. So instead of comparing A and B to "vague danger," you're comparing about twenty potentially GOOD THINGS to "vague danger." Because this happens naturally, it will come across as feeling confident and spontaneous, instead of feeling timid and fearful. How do you develop this skill? By exercising your brain in ways to increase your imagination power. So you can see BEYOND the obvious, and out into the potential. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/hallucinating-mind/
  15. Humans are hard wired to be dependent on external incentives. If you lived alone, had a lot of money, and wanted to lose a few pounds, it would be difficult. Especially if you had family and friends who liked you just the way you were. Having only internal incentives would make it VERY difficult to actually get up off the couch and lose weight. On the other hand, the same person who joined boot camp would have an easy time getting in shape. Because there would be plenty of EXTERNAL incentives. If you didn't get up a the crack of dawn, you'd be in serious trouble. If you didn't keep up with everybody else, you'd be in serious trouble. If you've got a lot of decent external incentives, live can be easy. But if you've ONLY got internal incentives, life CAN be difficult. Meaning you always have goals but you can't ever seem to get started. This is why very few people ever achieve any significant success. Consider this to be one of the key traits of successful people. Of being obedient to their own internal incentives. Of NOT NEEDING anything outside of themselves to push them to succeed. Not having enough motivation is a common problem. But only because people tend to think they need to start off with an enormous amount. Luckily, this isn't true. All you need is one small shift in the direction of your goals. And once you put this one small shift into practice, it will become part of your daily habit. The real secret of success is that there isn't "one magic bullet." The secret is to make small shift in your thinking and behavior. And as soon as they become part of your routine, make another small shift in your thinking and behavior. Do this long enough, and your NEW daily thinking and behavior (which is always familiar) will be spectacular. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/nlp/
  16. In economics, there is an idea of "excess capacity." It usually refers to a situation where is more labor available than is necessary. A lot of labor "potential" but nothing to do. Imagine a bunch of bored factory workers sitting around waiting for instructions. If the situation lasts long enough, the owner has to start letting people go. But imagine a situation where there was a magic source of money. Just enough to pay the workers and keep all the equipment working. But there was nothing for them to do. They would still have to show up, and do something. Maybe they'd have forklift races or battles. Often unions find themselves in this situation. But without the source of magic money. And if management is too far removed from the daily operations, it's easy to fake activity. This is when people do things just to look busy. A friend of mine was in a situation like that. For a few weeks, all he did was take stuff from one side of the warehouse and stack it on the other. This happens sometimes in prison movies. Some guy gets in trouble, and they make him carry rocks from one pile to another. And then move the pile back. The funny thing about our brains is we ALWAYS have excess "thinking capacity." Sometimes this is put to good use. For example, one of the driving forces of the Industrial Revolution was bored workers. Over a few hundred years, the entire society was doing more or less monotonous manual labor. And as humans tend to do, most of them were thinking, "Dang, there's GOT to be a better way to do this!" And from those thoughts, came all the inventions. Bored thoughts turned into things. And productivity shot through the roof. Most of us today don't use even a tiny fraction of our excess "thinking capacity." We daydream, waste time on social media or TV. Fantasize about romantic relationships that don't exist. But if you take only a tiny portion of your thinking and use it to plan rather than wish, things will change. All it takes is one small connection between thinking and acting, and this will be the seed that grows your empire. Because once you prove to yourself that your thoughts can indeed become things, it will forever change how you think. Instead of day dreaming, you'll be planning. Your ideas will start to oscillate between thoughts and things. After you build up enough momentum, they'll start to grow on their own. And you'll have to do everything just to keep up. Get Started: Seven Disciplines
  17. Newton was a smart guy. One of his laws of motion is about momentum. A body in motion tends to stay in motion. Of course, he was talking about physical objects. A common metaphor for making changes is turning a big ship. This is often used to describe an economy. A new leader is elected, and starts to make changes. When the changes don't happen right away, people use the ship metaphor. "Well, an economy is a very complicated system. It takes a long time to change course of an aircraft carrier." We can use that metaphor on a lot of things, since a lot of things take a while to change. Sticking with the ship metaphor, another aspect of a giant ship is knowing what's WAY ahead. Occasionally they'll be a crash, where a ship didn't stop in time. Since stopping a ship takes time and forethought, once you pass the "point of no return" there's no turning back. Changing course not only requires patience, but it also requires being able to look WAY ahead. For example, if you wanted to make serious life changes, you would not only have to accept that it would take a while, but you'd need to have an idea of what was coming WAY out into your future. One of the big problems people have when choosing goals is that they choose them in the abstract. They don't really take time to anticipate what it might be like two, three, or even six months in the future. But the funny thing is that ONLY looking further out into the future will make it a lot EASIER to make the small daily changes. Not only does it give you a clear reason (which makes everything easier) but it helps to balance both your daily habits and your long term plans. Most people get it backward. They figure if they just change their daily habits, everything else will work out. Consider doing things the opposite way. Instead of focusing on your day to day behaviors, purposely imagine your life a year or two from now, and work backwards. It makes changing course a lot easier. Learn More: Seven Disciplines
  18. Whenever you want to do something, there are always two main motivating reasons. Either to move away from pain, or toward pleasure. Usually it's a combination of the two. Not understanding which is which can kill any progress, and it's one main reason for what many people call "self sabotage." It works like this. Somebody has a goal, maybe to lose weight or make money or something. Some "thing" motivates them. They imagine what it will be like when they get there (skinnier, wealthier etc.) and assume that is their MAIN motivation. The problem comes when we don't take the time to examine the "negatives." The "bad" thing we are trying to move away from. For one, most of us don't like to acknowledge bad things. It also feels better, even to our secret selves, that we are motivated toward "big positive things" out in our future. Not a lot of us would want to admit that our main goal is to not suck so much. But it IS something painful (on some level) that motivates us to START. That positive thing out in the future has always been there. But without acknowledging the pain we are moving away from, guess what? As soon as we move a little bit away, it loses it's motivating power. And there we are, a couple weeks or months out, and we start to trip over our own feet. Because we didn't fully acknowledge the "pain" that motivated us in the first place, we might think we're doing something wrong, or are broken. The truth is that there is a LOT going on between where we start, and where we want to be. If we start out haphazardly (like most people do) then we'll run out of steam in a week or two. What's the answer? One technique is to always keep a clear focus on your present, plus or minus a couple weeks. Meaning you know where you've been the past week. You know where you're going the next week, and that's it. What about far out? Aren't we "supposed" to have clear goals for our future? That's the common idea. But since few people can predict the future, and the FURTHER out we get, the LESS LIKELY we'll have ANY IDEA what we or the future will be like, maybe there's another way. Maybe we ONLY need to know what DIRECTION we're going in. That way, wherever we end up, we'll be in a pretty good place. And we can let the future take care of itself, while we focus on the "now" (or a week or so out). And so long is our NEXT WEEK is a little better than our LAST WEEK, we'll always be getting better. How do YOU want to get better? Get Started: Stop Self Sabotage
  19. All humans are programmed to keep going forward. Given our modern lives, it's hard to notice this. But the reason we humans spread out all over the world was because we have descended from ancient humans who had a never-ending drive to keep discovering more stuff. Even if we're sitting at home, watching TV, it's impossible NOT to keep moving forward. Only we don't really experience it as moving "forward." We are always shifting how we sit, what we are thinking of, and if what we are looking at (on our devices or screens or TV) doesn't keep our interest, we NEED to keep shifting. Just to see how nearly impossible it is to NOT keep shifting, try sitting in a quiet room, looking straight ahead for ten or twenty minutes. Sit as quietly as you can, and try to not even move your eyeballs. This is EXTREMELY difficult for most people. In a sense, we are kind of like sharks. Sharks can't sit still. They have to keep moving. But when we humans keep moving, it's usually in circles. Couch to kitchen to couch to bathroom to couch to bedroom to couch, and on and on. Or work and home and work and home and work and home. We STILL have that ancient drive within us. To keep going over new and undiscovered terrain. Which is precisely why we can feel STAGNANT if we keep going round in circles. Couch to kitchen or home to work. What's the answer? Sell your things and become a nomad? That's one way. But you DO need to eat. And you DO need to pay for stuff. So unless you've got a fat bank account, and you happen to only go nomadding near ATM machines, you've got to think of another plan. One is to keep LEARNING new things. Interesting things. Challenging things. This can do a LOT of things at once. You'll be learning more skills, so you'll be worth more money. You'll have a real feeling of forward momentum, so you won't feel stagnant or stuck. AND your brain will stay in shape a lot longer. And you may even find you have skills you've never even thought about before. Click Here To Learn More
  20. There's a lot of "mystery" about what women really want. Ask ten girls what is most important to them, and you'll likely get ten different answers. One of the reasons for this is females are much more "tuned in" to their social circle. They rely on their friends much more when making decisions. So when they begin to rattle of what they want, they can't help but simultaneously imagine that other people (their social circle) are judging them. So they tend to give answers that reflect this. When dieticians and doctors are trying to study what people eat, they've realized that asking people will NEVER give them accurate results. Because people report eating things that don't match what they actually eat. They tend to say what they think people want to hear. Same with girls when talking about what they want. And because dieticians and doctors are much more scientific, they tend to figure out different ways to find out what people actually eat. You can do the same with women. Disregard what they say (or don't even ask them in the first place) and instead, watch what they do. Then it becomes pretty simple what they want. They want a guy they can't quite get. A guy who knows how to make decisions. A leader, not a follower. None of this is conscious. But they see a guy like this, and they can't help respond. Especially if this guy interacts with them just enough, and then bails. Most guys blow themselves out before they even start. They interact with her, get some positive responses, and then hang on for dear life. This, of course, KILLS any desire she might have had. On the other hand, when you make her smile and then split, she won't be able to get her mind off you. If you make it a habit of doing this with ALL FEMALES, then you'll have massive social proof. She'll see you as much different from every other guy out there. Which will drive her even crazier. This will allow YOU to choose from the best. Learn How: Click Here To Learn How
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