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There's a concept in economics called the law of diminishing returns. For example, imagine if you are really looking forward to a delicious meal. The first bite is going to be fantastic. And the first couple of bites after that will be equally fantastic. But pretty soon, each subsequent bite will become less and less fantastic. And if you aren't careful, and you keep eating, pretty soon the bites won't be fantastic at all. It's called diminishing returns because you keep doing the SAME ACTIONS. Namely, putting the same piece of food into your mouth, chewing, and swallowing. But each subsequent time you do that, you get less and less return. Another example would be if you had a week's vacation. The first day would be fantastic. But each day would be slightly less fantastic. For one, because each day is becoming more and more familiar. And the end is getting closer and closer. This reason, diminishing returns, is why some relationships can get stale. Especially if they are based primarily on looks. Imagine, for example, you got together with somebody who was "out of your league." The first few times you were alone with them, it would be fantastic. But each time you would become MORE familiar with them. So the excitement would slowly wear off. This is what happens to serial monogamists. The beginning of relationships are always wonderful. But pretty soon, that magical feeling tends to fade. And ALL you are left with is compatibility. The MORE compatible you are, the longer your relationship will tend to last. The LESS compatible you are, the more ANY relationship will fall prey to the law of diminishing returns. This, of course, works both ways. Plenty of women get by on their looks, at least in the beginning. But men do the same thing. Especially when they practice short term strategies to increase attraction. If you don't have an attractive personality under your exterior (polished game or natural beauty) the law of diminishing returns will never be far behind. On the other hand, if you get into the habit of keep your personality healthy and attractive, you will always be attractive. Especially if you think of your personality like most people think of their health. Necessary to GET in shape, and necessary to KEEP in shape. Since so few people think of personality like this, once you start doing some simple personality exercises, you will stand out. Not just in the beginning, but for as long as you live. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
When I was a kid I was in boy scouts. We did a lot of camping, which was pretty fun. Once we camped at a state beach. Had a big bonfire at night. There was this new kid that was overly worried about fitting in. At one point, he was promising to buy people things if we'd be his friend. Even as a kid that felt kind of weird to hear somebody beg for friendship like that. They say if you want to make friends, you have to "be a friend." Sounds kind of good, but what does that mean EXACTLY? Obviously that boy scout kid thought it meant buying people stuff. Making friends is tough. The reason we like our friends is we don't have to BE a certain way. We can just hang out and do whatever. Not like eating dinner at your girlfriend's parent's house, (for the first time) where you have to be ultra careful about what you say. Dale Carnegie taught that being genuinely interested in other people is the path to friendship. Again, a decent sounding piece of advice, but how EXACTLY do you "become interested" in somebody, or even something? If we humans could just flip a "be interested" switch in our brains, school wouldn't suck so bad. We'd find some old lady talking about the rules of grammar the most fascinating thing on Earth! You could even flip on your "become interested" switch and have fun staring at a wall! Think of they money you'd save! Seriously, though, Carnegie was onto something. Most people ARE interesting, at least if you give them have a chance. But if you walk up to a stranger and demand they start telling you some interesting stories, it might not work out so well. What's a better way? To dig for treasure. Make it a point to FIND interesting things about them. Here's a secret of people. Most people will become animated, enthusiastic and INTERESTING when they start talking about the things they are really passionate about. How do you find out? Ask them! Ask them what they want. Ask them about their ideal situation with regards to what they want. And as you start to find them more interesting, something interesting will happen. They'll see YOU differently than everybody else. They'll see YOU as much more interesting than everybody else. Everybody else usually talks about themselves. Their own wants. Their own opinions. So when you start talking about them, the THEIR wants, not only will they become animated, but you'll make a quick friend who will never forget you. Learn How: Click Here To Learn How
July 1st, 2015 Second Request Let's make a subliminal mediation based of the Book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" - By Dale Carnegie I know how to win friends and influence people I am mastering the fundamental techniques of handling people I never criticize, condemn, or complain to others I give honest and sincere appreciation to others I arouse an eager want in the other person I am learning ways to make people like me I am genuinely interested in others I smile and radiate positive energy I always remember people’s names I am a good listener and encourage others to talk about them I talk in terms of the other people’s interest I am sincere and make the other people feel important I win people to my way of thinking I always avoid arguing I show respect for other people’s feelings I quickly and emphatically admit my mistakes I begin everything in a friendly way I get the others saying yes when I interact with them I let the others talk I let other people feel that the idea is theirs I see things from other’s perspective I am sympathetic to other people’s ideas and desires I appeal to the noble motives I dramatize all of my ideas I throw down challenges I am a natural born leader I have the ability to change people without giving offence or arousing resentment I always begin everything with praise and honest appreciation I only call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly I always talk about my own mistakes before ever criticizing someone else I ask questions instead of giving direct orders I let the other person save face I always praise the slightest improvement in everyone I give the other person a fine reputation to live up to I use encouragement to others I always make the other person feel happy about them doing the things I suggest I am winning friends I am influencing people I am an incredibly social being I enjoy starting conversations I can hold a conversation I am good at finding people I have common interests with People take my opinions seriously I inspire others with my words I am improving my social skills every day I can lead conversations in the direction I want them to go Others think I am confident and assertive I become better at making friends every day Making friends comes naturally to me I find it easy to say no I know when to say yes and when to say no My conversation skills allow me to help others I am a natural born comedian I am a good conversationalist I say hilarious things I am sharp and clever in social settings I am at the top of my game I know when to have fun I tell fun and exciting stories I have excellent my body language I am really fun to hang out with I make people smile with my positive energy I think quickly and stay present I am always fully engaged when talking to others I have good people skills I enjoy making people laugh I love to make people laugh I have incredible social skills and a great sense of humor I have interesting conversations with people My humor is attractive to others I am meeting great people I have amazing friends I am thankful for my life I love my social circle You know how to win friends and influence people You are mastering the fundamental techniques of handling people You never criticize, condemn, or complain to others You give honest and sincere appreciation to others You arouse an eager want in the other person You are learning ways to make people like you You are genuinely interested in others You smile and radiate positive energy You always remember people’s names You are a good listener and encourage others to talk about them You talk in terms of the other people’s interest You are sincere and make the other people feel important You win people to my way of thinking You always avoid arguing You show respect for other people’s feelings You quickly and emphatically admit your mistakes You begin everything in a friendly way You get the others saying yes when you interact with them You let the others talk You let other people feel that the idea is theirs You see things from other’s perspective You are sympathetic to other people’s ideas and desires You appeal to the noble motives You dramatize all of your ideas You throw down challenges You are a natural born leader You have the ability to change people without giving offence or arousing resentment You always begin everything with praise and honest appreciation You only call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly You always talk about your own mistakes before ever criticizing someone else You ask questions instead of giving direct orders You let the other person save face You always praise the slightest improvement in everyone You give the other person a fine reputation to live up to You use encouragement to others You always make the other person feel happy about them doing the things you suggest You are winning friends You are influencing people You are an incredibly social being You enjoy starting conversations You can hold a conversation You are good at finding people that you have common interests with People take your opinions seriously You are inspire others with your words You are improving your social skills every day You can lead conversations in the direction that you want them to go Others think you are confident and assertive You become better at making friends every day Making friends comes naturally to you You find it easy to say no You know when to say yes and when to say no Your conversation skills allow you to help others You are a natural born comedian You are a good conversationalist You say hilarious things You are sharp and clever in social settings You are at the top of my game You know when to have fun You tell fun and exciting stories You have excellent my body language You are really fun to hang out with You make people smile with my positive energy You think quickly and stay present You are always fully engaged when talking to others You have good people skills You enjoy making people laugh You love to make people laugh You have incredible social skills and a great sense of humor You have interesting conversations with people Your humor is attractive to others You are meeting great people You have amazing friends You are thankful for your life You love your social circle