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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun26Post.mp4 I love eating peanuts. Particularly in the shell. Ever since I was a kid, I loved eating peanuts in the shell. I'll get a really big bowl, and dump a bunch of unshelled peanuts. Then I'll slowly dig around while I'm watching a movie on TV or something. Theoretically, I could keep the uneaten peanuts on one bowl, and put the shells in another bowl. But part of me likes the treasure hunting aspect. Of digging around in a bowl of mostly peanut shells, hoping to find one that hasn't been eaten. Sometimes I'll give up. Put the bowl aside. But then later part of me wonders. If maybe I hadn't looked hard enough. So I pick up the bowl and start rustling around. Often, I'll get a false positive. The way I grab a shell, for a split second I think it's an uneaten, still in the shell, peanut. But then I flip it over, and find out it's already been eaten. Heartbreak! But sometimes, I'll find a full peanut. Big, heavy, just waiting to be cracked open. It's like finding TREASURE! Yeah, I know. Silly. But we all have a kind of sorting mechanism in our brains. We have to. We have to choose among all the noise, to find the good stuff. Sometimes this is easy. TOO easy. We get complacent. If we have to look, we start to get angry. But consider we all have a very ancient, very powerful, "treasure hunting" instinct. When ancient guys would go out hunting, they'd spend days looking for any evidence of large animal. Imagine being an ancient hunter. Hungry, worried. And finally seeing some wooly mammoth tracks. For modern humans, that would have probably felt like finding a bag of money on the street. Following a set of big tracks of an animal you'd hope to kill would be like modern humans getting a huge run up on a stock or bitcoin. Imagine what that ancient dude would have thought. "If I can catch up to this thing, and kill it, I'll be the hero. We'll all feast for days. I might even get laid!" Imagine the women. Hoping the men come back with a big kill. Waiting patiently for days. And finally seeing them dragging back a huge animal. Especially if you were a young cave girl, and the guy you'd had your eye on was the dude responsible for the kill. This scenario represents human emotions at their finest. Dudes being responsible for the big kill. Ladies being taken care of by dudes who risked their lives for them. The happy tribe, back together again. A week long feast, without any worry whatsoever. Today, those instincts are STARVED. Our modern world is a train wreck. Junk food, junk relationships, junk validation, even junk money. But those ancient killer instincts still live inside you. Wake them up. And dominate. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/seductive-frame/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun09Post.mp4 The metaphors we come up with, or use regularly are often very well calibrated. For example, when Bill Clinton was running for president, he seemed to use a lot of anchors, self points and covert gestures during his debates. And aptly enough, he was called "Slick Willie" by his opponents. Slick is a word that doesn't reference the words somebody uses, rather than how they act. Ronald Reagan, on the other hand, was called the "Great Communicator." Which indicates more of a direct, word based system. Which is exactly what he used to utterly smash Mondale in one of the debates. At the time Reagan was pretty old. So the question on everybody's mind, but not quite put directly to him, was whether he was too old to be president. So the "Great Communicator" used that to his advantage, using a reframe. "I don't want to make this debate about age," he began, before the debate even started. "I will not hold my opponent's youth and inexperience against him." Boom. Game over. Another interesting metaphor is how we describe what's really being said, beyond the words. English has a TON of words. The English language has gone through a ton of changes in the past few hundred years. French, Latin, Greek, even Norse have made their way into the English language. Japanese is another story. Many, many fewer vocabulary words. But when they speak, their emotions are just as complex as anybody else's. So in Japanese, you have to really pay attention to the energy. When this idea is expressed in English, we say "read between the lines." Meaning even the stuff that is unsaid is dependent on the words that ARE being said. But in Japanese they say, "read the air." Which means you have to completely ignore the words and pay close attention to the context, the relationships between the various speakers, etc. The idea that words are only a small part of communication is pretty ubiquitous. Even when we DO use words, somebody like Reagan can flip them around anyhow. To mean whatever they want. So long as you've got a strong enough frame, words are really kind of like stop lights in the middle of nowhere. Only a suggestion. But if you ONLY pay attention to words, or if you believe that the words are the MAIN part of the communication, you'll get smoked. By smooth operators like Slick Willie or word wizards like the Great Communicator. But if you learn to "read the air," you'll have a huge advantage. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/intuition/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr27Post.mp4 A very common martial arts movie trope is that you learn to fight so you don't have to fight. With just a little bit of thought, this makes perfect sense. If you don't know how to fight, AND you are worried about getting beat up, you will project a certain non-verbal energy. Street thieves, pickpockets, etc. know exactly WHO will be most likely to NOT put up a fight. And who will most freaked out to NOT remember much. They look for people with "weak" body language. Lack of eye contact, slumped shoulders, etc. Since this is more or less their "profession," they have to know consciously who to target and who not to target. They make a mistake, they got to jail, or get pepper sprayed in the face, or get their eyes gouged out, or get kicked in the nuts a few times. So when you learn to "fight," you slowly shift your body language. By building in plenty of memories of successfully defending yourself, you slowly REPLACE fear with confidence. So you exhibit much different body language. One that bullies and pick pockets want NOTHING to do with. A very close parallel can be drawn between frame and game. The main difference is it is largely subconscious. To both sender and receiver. But the process is the same. Suppose, for example, you had a pretty weak frame. And you decided to do some cold approaches to build your frame. And suppose you decided to keep plenty of data. You did a lot of post game journaling. You kept track of what you said, what she said. Who she was with, what was doing, what, if any, signals you got before the approach, etc. So long as you kept good records, and embraced the natural feedback loop, you would get better and better. Because your frame would be slowly getting stronger and stronger, you would be getting better and better results. This is EXACTLY what they mean when they say, "success breeds success." The problem is OBVIOUS. Before you got to that tipping point, it would take a LOT of courage. You would have to suffer through a LOT of rejection. Regardless of what anybody says, rejection sucks. It takes a lot of mental effort to muscle your way through all those approaches, all that rejection, to eventually (hopefully) get to the tipping point. This is where the metaphor is MUCH DIFFERENT than martial arts. Learning any kind of martial arts means you are surrounded by very helpful people. Doing a bunch of approach is ONLY you, and all the people rejecting you. That's why people very RARELY improve their frame through brute force practice. But there's also another way. Because frame is much more based on how you INTERPRET events. And you can CHANGE how you interpret events. Particularly all the ones that already exist in your mind. All your memories. Change how you reference your past, and you will have a PROFOUND impact on your frame, your confidence, and your game. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr26Post.mp4 Some of the best conversations I've had didn't include words. One was when I was haggling with a street vendor in Thailand. It was some kind of souvenir. A carved elephant or something. But what made the conversation so memorable was that the woman selling the items was deaf. But she was VERY animated in her haggling. We relied on a calculator to back and forth on price. She wanted a higher price, I wanted a lower price. The conversation lasted twenty minutes, and was very enjoyable. Another interesting conversation I had was in an okonomiyaki-ya in Hiroshima. Kind of like at Benihana, where different people share the same cooking space. It was a Friday night and there was a drunken Japanese businessman a few seats to my right. He'd heard me use some basic Japanese with the cook, and assumed I was fluent. So he went off on a drunken happy rant about something. I had NO idea what he was saying. But since I focused on his body language, it was pretty easy to inject the right grunts and nods in the appropriate places. Another conversation I had was in Scotland. I'd just gotten off the train at Glasgow. Was meeting my buddies in a couple days. But I had no idea where the cheap hotels were. Some old guy saw me, and offered to walk me to the street where all the flophouses were. But on the way, he started telling me a story. Only his accent was thick, I had ZERO idea what he was saying. Imagine a drunken Sean Connery with a mouthful of marbles. I just nodded and smiled and grunted in the appropriate places. Funny thing about being in foreign countries where you don't speak the language. For me, there was three distinct phases. The first is the terror phase. I'm locked out, I can't understand anybody and nobody can understand me. Next is the "breaking the ice stage," where you can kind of figure out how to get your point across, using gestures and facial expressions AND certain location elements, like signs or menu items. The third phase is the BEST part. Where you realize you DON'T NEED words. This is where REAL communication lives. Beneath the words. I've had friends in both Korea and Japan who spoke very LITTLE of the language, yet had very rewarding romantic relationships with NON English speakers. Once you get rid of your dependence on words, you'll find access to a level FAR TOO RICH for words to even describe. Not only do few people KNOW about this level of communication, but fewer still know that with some daily exercises, you can PROJECT massive amounts of strength, power, and leadership on this level. That will be subconsciously picked up by EVERYBODY. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr25Post.mp4 For a while there's been a kind of myth around the world of PUA and seduction. More of an improperly calibrated metaphor. The "myth" or the "metaphor" is that once you get to a certain level of "game" you have access to some kind of "secret society." Where the rules are different than for normal people. That once a lady sees you, and realizes that you are part of this "secret seduction society," then it's straight to the bedroom. Now, this is one way to describe this. But it's ONLY a description. Most descriptions are metaphors. In fact, unless a description is filled with equations, it IS a metaphor. For example, consider the sentence, "fall in love." Love is a metaphor. An intangible noun. If we were to describe with scientific accuracy, we'd have to understand all the chemical and hormonal and mental processes associated with it. We might "better" describe the process of "falling in love" as a human mating strategy that creates a strong and long attraction between two people to ensure any offspring have the best chance of survival. An ancient, instinctive, and mostly SUBCONSCIOUS process. That's why we "fall" in love. Since it happens OUTSIDE of our conscious awareness, we think it is some kind of mysterious thing. This same word, "fall" also is used to described when we get sick. We "fall" ill. It happens OUTSIDE of our conscious awareness. Now, back to the "secret society" idea. Why does it APPEAR that high level seducers and attractive women somehow "recognize" each other as being members of secret society? Because that's what it looks like. Two people who don't know each other, but get REALLY close, REALLY quick. They become very FRIENDLY with each other, very quickly. The EXACT same thing would happen between two seventy year old dudes who realized they were part of the same fraternity many, many years ago. Two strangers meet, and BAM! Best friends. Outside, the two look the same. But inside, they are VERY different. For the REAL secret society, or old frat brothers, there is a common tie to an EXTERNAL organization. But what about the top level seducers? A women sees a guy, who has a certain set of traits that few other guys have. The guy sees the woman, and see's she's WAY hotter than all the other girls. They both WANT each other, but they don't KNOW each other. This is really a very ACCELERATED version of what happens normally. Meet people, slowly become friends, or lovers, etc. Now, everybody knows which girls are hot and which ones aren't. But what is the trait of MEN that make them stand out? Their deep confidence, self assurance, and frame. How can you DEVELOP this? Learn How Here: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr22Post.mp4 Once I was looking to buy something. Something that I could only find from some woman a couple of cities over. We talked on the phone, and negotiated a price. I went to her place, cash in hand, but she started to get cold feet. Even though she hadn't used it in years, she was worried that as soon as she got rid of it, she would want it, need it, and not have it. I understood her concerns. She was still the owner, and she was within her rights to change her mind. But for some reason, I decided I wasn't going to go home without the item. I didn't get angry, I didn't use any sales techniques or objection overcoming strategies. I simply removed EVERYTHING from my brain expect the imagination of a happy transaction. My face was as plain as I could make it. I listened to her explain why she was having second thoughts. But I didn't respond. Just kept looking at her, waiting for her to decide. Now, this is a memory of a thing that happened nearly twenty years ago. Which means it could be heavily influenced by hindsight bias. But I distinctively remember HOLDING that thought, while she wavered. I remember noticing this thought was MUCH DIFFERENT than a wish or a hope. It was a kind of knowing that something GOOD was about to happen. Not just for me, but for both of us. A minute or so later, she smiled, got the thing, I gave her the money and we were both happy. Long time ago I sold insurance. I went to a training by one of the top agents in the local area. This top agent was an ex-cop. Had spent plenty of time in the interrogation room with hardened criminals. Thieves, murderers, rapists, etc. By lucky accident, I was sitting very near the front. This guy had such a STRONG intention, you could feel it just looking at him. Both these events are a DESCRIPTION of having a strong frame. A frame that includes the meaning of the conversation. It was very EASY to tell exactly how and why this guy could sell so much insurance. Why does this thing called "frame" even exist? Conscious language and thought is a very recent invention. Beneath is exists MILLIONS of years of non-verbal communication. With a strong enough frame, you can convince everybody of anything. I have zero doubt that the ex-cop insurance salesman didn't need to worry ONE BIT about the words he used. That guy would only need to sit across from you at YOUR kitchen table. Describe the policy, explain the costs and benefits, and then look at you and say: "What do you think? I think this is a good idea." With a strong enough frame, you can dominate anybody and any situation. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar17Post.mp4 We humans love competition. For fun, for business, and for fun. However, it's very easy to shy away from any kind of competition. For kids, this is pretty normal. You'll find plenty of little league sports that are easing the kids into competition. The first step is to get them running around and moving with other kids. The next step is to get them switching from offense to defense, or at least understanding what they mean. During this phase, they "score" but they don't "keep score." In most sports, this is a reminder of ancient battles of territoriality. Protect your goal, attack the other player's goal. Even in chess, they use the words "attack" and "defend." Eventually, the kids will start keeping score. They'll know the difference between the thrill of victory, and the agony of defeat. This is very, very necessary for a healthy personality. Because competition is EVERYWHERE. You want that ideal job? So do a lot of other folks. You want that cute girl or guy? So do a lot of other folks. You want that perfect house in that perfect neighborhood? So do plenty of other folks. It CAN be possible, in some areas, to avoid competition completely. This makes life VERY safe, but also VERY boring. Competition is where the fun is. Even when watching a football game with your buddies on a Sunday afternoon, they conversation will have competition built into it. Who can tell the funniest joke. Who can come up with the cleverest insults to the refs. Who can jump up and scream the loudest and the most enthusiastically when their team scores. Competition is like that one mohawk dude from one the Mad Max movies. "You! You can run! But you can't hide!" Some competitions are easier to face than others. It's VERY EASY to give up. Especially in modern society, where pretty much EVERYTHING is easy. At least not dangerous. But the MORE you can embrace and engage in competition, the better you'll do. Not in a caveman, battle to the death way. But in the friendly, "attack the other guy's king," chess way. And very often, how strong your competition FRAME is, the better you'll do. This is EXACTLY why boxers give each other the scare of death before the bell rings. This same thing takes place in the boardroom, on the tennis court, and while hanging out with friends. Most of the time, this "competition frame" is fake. A conscious ATTEMPT to demonstrate some kind of dominance. But a REAL and GENUINE competition is VERY powerful. Because it's NOT fake. It's congruent. A deep belief in yourself. Not even to win, but to ENJOY the game. It's one thing to try and fake a dominance frame. But when you present a congruent, "I'm going enjoy this," frame, it will be very rare, and very powerful. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar11Post.mp4 Taking an acting class is a lot of fun. Particularly if you don't want to be an actor. That way, you can relax, have fun, and play around. For beginning acting classes, the main point is to stretch your comfort zone. To get comfortable acting like a goof. And there are also some pretty good frame building exercises. The stronger frame you can create, based on an imaginary character, the better of actor you'll be. The BEST folks in the world, who can read a script, create an imaginary character, and the believably BECOME that character, make millions of dollars. Clearly, being able to come up with a strong frame can help in PLENTY of ways. Giving speeches, selling things, persuading and seducing people, winning debates. A frame is one the most basic KEY elements of personal success. It's also the hardest thing to define. It's one of those words that gets tossed around, as a kind of catch-all. Particularly when something goes wrong. A guy will try to get a girl's number, but fail. So he'll say something like, "I lost the frame." In this context, frame is "some thing" that is a metaphor. An EXTERNAL metaphor. As if being able to "hold" this metaphorical "thing" is a skill. This is the trouble with metaphors. They are very useful for DESCRIBING things, but they are utterly useless when using them within strategies. For example, if you were an American football player, and you needed to get better at HOLDING the ball, there would be specific strategies you could practice. Not only practice, but measure. But how the heck do you practice "holding" something metaphorical, like a frame? Perhaps thinking of a "frame" that is metaphorical is a mistake. So, what IS a frame? For an actor, their frame is how strongly they BECOME their character. How congruent they are with their character. So for an actor, how well they "hold" or "keep" the frame is based on how THEY, the actor, BECOME an imaginary character. This is NOT very helpful. Why not? Because for us non-actors, the frame is always US. We don't create, and "hold" and imaginary person. We always have us. What makes up how "strong" our frame is? How much we believe in ourselves. How much we value ourselves. How much we respect ourselves. And yes, how much we not only LIKE but LOVE ourselves. Because the more WE value, love, and respect ourselves, the more everybody else will. The better you can do this, the better you can do EVERYTHING. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb25Post.mp4 A lot of people are worried about AI robots taking over our jobs. That's partially true. If you have a job that's pretty monotonous, chances are a robot is going to be doing it. Flipping burgers, making pizzas, putting together stuff on the assembly line, even surgery. What WON'T ever be taken over by robots? Anything that requires in-the-moment human interaction. This requires something robots will never do. Look at while people while you are talking and they are talking. Read their emotions and adjust your questions and answers accordingly. Help them come to a decision. This is WAY beyond any AI computer's capabilities. Humans have been communicating LONG BEFORE we invented words and language. Just the human face alone has millions of potential facial expressions, based on all the different muscle configurations. Even the BEST body language readers ON EARTH can only really read people consciously and put them into one of two categories. The job? Secret service agents. The categories? Threat, or not a threat. Even then it's pretty difficult. Most communication is NON VERBAL. Sure, words are important. If you tried to get hired simply by smiling, you might end up in the loony bin. Or if you walked up to a cute girl and tried to mime your way into her panties, you'd end up as meme on the internet. Clearly, the highest form of human communication is a combination of words and body language. Or conscious communication and subconscious communication. Subconscious communication is like a cake. Conscious communication is like the icing. A FANTASTIC subconscious communication is much better WITHOUT icing than with the WRONG icing. The wrong icing on an otherwise fantastic cake would be like a guy with a FANTASTIC non-verbal frame. One that has EVERY LADY in the place wishing and hoping he'll approach her. But when he does, he says something goofy like: "Hey, I just want your opinion. Which do you like better, panda meat tacos or watching ladies push baby carriages off cliffs?" This would be like one of those record-scratch scenes in the movies. A fantastic cake with only a LITTLE bit of icing would be like the SAME GUY with the SAME FRAME, but instead of saying any goofy lines, he walks up and says: "Hey," while maintaining rock solid confidence and charisma. But even when dude is NOT saying anything, his brain is in a certain configuration. His brain is thinking certain thoughts. Those THOUGHTS are creating the frame. The confidence, the magnetism, and congruence. So when he DOES speak, and those words RESONATE with his frame, to her he'll be a dream come true. This is when you become unstoppable. When you have an ultra strong frame, and just enough words to maximize it. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb23Post.mp4 One of the interesting paradoxes is whatever you prepare for doesn't happen. But if you don't prepare, it will. Sometimes, this is kind of silly, like if you think it's going to rain. If you DON'T bring an umbrella, it will rain. If you DO bring an umbrella, it won't. This is a common idea in many martial arts movies. The whole reason to train and learn how to fight, is so you don't need to fight. If you walk into a bar while radiating SCARED energy, you'll become a target for those types who like to pick on people. On the other hand, if you walk into a bar with confident energy, nobody will mess with you. Quite a lot, if not most, of our communication is NON VERBAL. The way we walk, how fast or slow our eyes dart around the room, our shoulders, etc. Similarly, the more confident you are, the more attractive you'll be. There are two ways to build confidence. One is to simply get out there and get a ton of experience. For example, if you approach a cute girl you've been flirting with, and you have a TON of experience talking to and seducing cute girls, those memories will all be in your subconscious. As you are walking over there, your body language, posture, etc., will reflect all those positive memories. That will make you VERY attractive to her. The closer you get, the more nervous SHE'LL get. On the other hand, if you have few experiences, that will reflect in your body language as well. The closer you get to her, the more nervous YOU'LL get. Since you might not have a lot of experience seducing cute girls, your brain will automatically default to the WORST CASE scenario. She will pick up on you anxiety, and she'll become more confident. So, if you spend lots of time approaching, you'll slowly get more confident. But that takes a LONG TIME. There is a much easier way. A way to build MASSIVE confidence without every needing to approach. It's based on understanding the STRUCTURE of thought and language. When you approach a whole bunch of times, you are SLOWLY re-wiring your brain. But this is a very inefficient, brute force technique. There is a much more elegant way. A much safer and easier way. To re-wire your specific thoughts. To re-wire your specific anxieties and fears. All by some simple writing techniques. This doesn't just work on the ladies. This works on ANY kind of anxiety based on ANY kind of conversation with ANY kind of human. Re-wire your fears, and never worry about rejection again. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov26Post.mp4 One big fear that is associated with using any new language technology is being "caught." We all have a deeply programmed instinct to not steal from others. Any ancient race of humans who thought it was A-OK to steal from your buddies didn't last long. So, evolution gave us all a two-sided instinct when it comes from outright theft. An internal side and an external side. The external side is a healthy fear of repercussions. We might want the thing, but we don't want the angry guy who's thing we stole coming after us. But we also have an internal resistance. This two sided instinct kept ancient humans in tight social cohesion. But in modern times, a lot of things "feel" like stealing, when they really aren't. Like once a buddy of mine and I were at the grocery store. He bought a drink, and after he got his change he realized he got the wrong flavor. The checker said that it was OK to go back into store and swap it out with the one he wanted. He did, and on the way back, he said, half jokingly: "I feel like I'm stealing!" Since he'd grabbed something off the shelf and was "sort of" walking out without paying. This anti-stealing instinct is closely associated with not lying. This is why it is very hard to lie to somebody's face. It takes a lot of energy to lie. You can see this in pretty much every movie about cops and bad guys and interrogations. That the idea of finally STOPPING the lie, and telling the truth is a HUGE relief. Some people even walk into the police station and confess. They would rather live inside of a cage than keep a lie in their mind. So, it's naturally when trying out any kind of persuasion or seduction "technology" to feel a little sketchy. As if you are lying. Which, in a sense, you are. If you are going TOO FAR with your frame. If you told somebody your name was different than it was, you'd feel funny. You present a "false" frame that is stronger than what it really is, it feels funny. There two ways around this. One is that frame strength is very much like muscle strength. Building it up takes time. So take your time. Go slowly and steadily, a little bit a time. The second idea is that people often WANT to be deceived. Not conned out of their money or virginity. But deceived in an pleasing way. People pay good money to see stage magicians. People spend tons of money on super hero movies. Even silly jokes are made up stories that couldn't possibly be true. So, when you use language technology to make people FEEL GOOD, even if you are pretending a little bit, you'll be fine. The BEST pretenders are the A-list actors who get paid millions per movie. Based on pure economics, pretending so that you make others laugh, feel good and have a good time, is very VALUABLE in the eyes of society. Get Going: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov09Post.mp4 Acting is an interesting job. Every year, tens of thousands of young people move to Hollywood. And many more have that as a dream. Why is a job as an actor so compelling? For one, it brings a ton of fame. Being famous is very, very compelling. You get tons of money. And you have tons of choice when it comes to romantic and sexual opportunities. But even deeper, being famous is like a drug. It's one thing for a couple people to look at you and give you positive attention. But having thousands of fans screaming how much they love you? That is a drug like no other. And the way to get that SEEMS easy. Acting is one thing that doesn't SEEM to require any kind of technical training. Plenty of actors were discovered while doing other things. The idea of memorizing some lines, and then saying them correctly sounds very easy. So from a deep, instinctive standpoint, the job of being an actor feels VERY compelling. You don't have to do very much. And you GET pretty much everything you could ever want. It's one thing to spend years in school learning some really hard STEM subject, only to make $50K a year. But memorize some easy to say lines, and get paid a few million? AND be adored by millions of people? That is a dream job! But here's the thing. Many actors absolutely SUCK. Watch any lame streaming movie and it will be filled with no-name actors that can't act to save their lives. The MAIN skill of being an actor is being CONGRUENT. Of saying something that's NOT TRUE but saying it so it's believable. Groucho Marx talked about this. He said that the most important thing is sincerity. And if you can FAKE that, you've got it made! This is essentially the core skill that most top notch actors have. Of being able to FAKE sincerity. Of saying something that is not true, yet having a very STRONG and BELIEVABLE frame. Even if you don't want to be an actor, having a strong frame will make EVERYTHING easier. If you are in a social setting, having the strongest frame will make you the most attractive. If you are applying for a job, having the strongest frame will make you stand out the most. In nearly every case where technical skills are NOT required, having a strong frame is BETTER than having a weak frame. How do you BUILD a strong frame? Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct25Post.mp4 A long, long time ago, I took a class in differential equations. We had learned a very simple, and very elegant way to solve equations. Except I couldn't quite wrap my mind around it. I had to rely on old school techniques. More like brute force techniques. After one test, the professor wrote a note on my test. I had gotten a decent score, so he couldn't quite criticize me. But I got the feeling he was messing with me nonetheless. One of those things that seems like a compliment but is really a covert insult. The whole purpose of the test was to demonstrate this new, elegant, problem solving technique. I didn't do that. I used old school, brute force methods. He wrote something to the effect that I was a good "soldier." That I was busily in the trenches using some very powerful "hand to hand combat" techniques. Since this was the LAST math class I would ever have to take, and the semester was nearly over, I just let it slide. But this type of thing happens quite a lot. We hang on to old school, hand to hand combat techniques. When there is much subtler, much more powerful techniques. The other night I watched this documentary on business scams. They hire pretty much anybody. And put them out on the street selling junk. The offer very little training. From a corporate standpoint, this is a pretty good model. Spend a little bit of money making crap products. Hire anybody with a pulse to sell them. Pay them ONLY commissions. The company only needs to collect whatever profits they make. They don't really care if 80% of their "salespeople" wash out. These companies are like those fish that eat half their babies. If you are too slow, you don't deserve to live. From an individual's standpoint, you CAN make money. But you need TONS of hustle. TONS of energy. TONS of "fake" charisma. All very old school, hand to hand combat, brute force techniques. Any time you have to consciously CREATE a bunch of charisma and motivation and energy, it's not very efficient. It's hard to maintain, and it never lasts. Luckily, there is a much more elegant way. One that makes any kind of EXTERNAL game much more natural. Much more efficient. Much more effective. It requires you do some simple daily exercises. Safely in your home. Safely in your brain. The more you do these exercises, the LESS you'll need to worry about any kind of outer game. You'll just need to show up. And let your inner game do all the work. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
  14. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct16Post.mp4 Once I was hanging out a buddies house. We had just come back from a long backpacking trip. Since his apartment complex had a pretty large laundry room, we decided we'd do all our laundry there. While we were hanging out, I grabbed a magazine and went the restroom. While I was in there, I saw a spider. A big one. I immediately recoiled. But then I laughed. We'd just got back from backpacking. No showers for a week. Sleeping on a tarp, on the ground. Surrounded by bugs and fish (that we caught and ate) and even a few deer and bears. Under this context, seeing a spider or any other critter wouldn't even register. But in a clean bathroom, where it's NOT expected, it can seem a bit unsettling. Context is everything. Expectations are also very important. For example, imagine a waiter at a restaurant. They introduce themselves, ask questions and make recommendations to strangers all the time. They expect to ask questions, and have them answered. The customers expect to be asked questions, and have them answered. But that same waiter in different environment might be the shyest person you'll ever meet. He wouldn't dare approach a stranger, ask questions and make recommendations. But this is EXACTLY why people go to social places. To meet people. To ask questions. To be asked questions. And to make recommendations. What recommendations? Simple ones like this: "Hey, I enjoyed talking to you. Why don't we exchange numbers so we can get together sometime?" Sometimes this is easy. Sometimes this is extremely difficult. One common way to approach this "problem" is to develop a very strong frame. After all, if you have a strong frame, a compelling frame, it's much easier to make suggestions. But this is one of those things that is very easy in theory, but very hard in practice. Holding a strong frame is not so easy when you are talking to somebody you just met. And when the entire reason you are talking to them is they have something you'd like to have. Their presence, their energy, their personality, etc. So the common response is to keep building a very strong frame. So strong it's the strongest frame around. This is possible, but it's very difficult. The opposite, on the other hand, is very easy. To purposely come with a WEAKER frame. And to ask easy to answer questions from that weaker frame. Questions that will build up their desire and attraction to YOU. Very uncommon, very powerful, and very, very easy. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
  15. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept02Post.mp4 We humans have a lot of biases. Once upon a time, they were pretty helpful. If you were wandering through some random jungle looking for bananas, you would have two powerful filters. One of them would be anything that looked yellow. That might be a banana. The other would be for something that looked orange. That might be a tiger. These two biases would help you find food, and keep you from being food. When our environment was food and animals, our biases worked PERFECTLY. But now our environment is other people. And it's not so easy. It's way more complicated. There is WAY more data hitting our senses. And the data is FAR more open to interpretation. Today if somebody starts yelling at you, there's no telling why. Back in the caveman days, yellow meant banana. Orange meant tiger. There was very little confusion. Two different people seeing the same yelling person will have two completely different responses. One will see it as PROOF that they, the observer, is broken and doesn't deserve to be happy. Another will see it as PROOF that they, the yeller, is crazy. They might even use that to tell a funny story at a party that weekend. "Dude, I was at the bus stop and this lady started screaming at me for not reason! It was hilarious!" Something that makes it even MORE complicated is the idea of reinforcing cycles. This is KIND OF related to the jungle days. If you found some yellow in one area of the jungle, that might mean there were MORE bananas in that area. But if you remembered seeing orange in one section, that might mean that was the tiger section of the jungle. Stay Out! But when we look out into a sea of people, we reference our past. If we had a crappy past, we'll use that to make assumptions about what we see. If we had a happy past, we'll use that to make assumptions about what we see. The MORE you reference a certain side of your past, good OR bad, the MORE you'll see that around you. And the MORE you'll continue to reference that side. You CAN change how you reference your past. Which will change how you interpret your present. Which WILL change your future. It's kind of like changing course of a humongous tanker on the ocean. You've got to do is SLOWLY. You've got to do is CAREFULLY. You've got to do it SAFELY. But once you change course, it's set for life. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
  16. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun13Post.mp4 One common piece of "advice" is to fake it till you make it. Sometimes this works pretty well. Other times it is bad advice. It works well when there is a simple correlation between inner state and outer behavior. And it's in an environment that is conducive. What's this mean? Normally, we think and behave naturally. We don't think about how we think. And we don't think about our thinking affects our behavior. Like if you are happy, you will naturally smile. But you can first smile, and hold it until it affects your inner state. And if you happen to be in a conducive environment, other people will see you smile and some will smile back. So if you are unhappy inside, but you FORCE yourself to exhibit happy behavior by smiling, you're faking it. Because it's a pretty close correlation between inner state and outer behavior, AND the environment is conducive to this, this is where faking it till you make it works. Even better is when you combine two simple "faked states." Like if you FORCE yourself to walk more upright and confident, AND you smile. If you're around fairly friendly people, this will work pretty well. On the other hand, faking it till you make it is HORRIBLE advice. Imagine trying this when selling $500 vacuum cleaners door to door. And you were trying to "fake" being the greatest vacuum cleaner salesman of all time. The reason this would be a disaster is neither of the two conditions are present. Not only is there NOT a simple correlation between inner state and outer behavior, but there is the OPPOSITE of a conducive environment. Most self help advice is like this. Pretty simple, and useful in SOME situations, but not in many. Sure, they sound good. Which means they're easy to remember. But in order to achieve real and continued success, you need to have a lot of skills. Inner skills and outer skills. Inner skills of thinking and feeling. Outer skills of speaking and behaving. And skills of reading the inner state of others. Often, this is the missing ingredient in a LOT of situations. You can remember all the best language patterns and techniques. But if you use them at the wrong time, with the wrong person, they'll backfire. The more you can READ the internal state of the person you're interacting with, the less you need to worry about complex external behavior. And more often than not, being able to accurately read others simply means turning OFF your inner anxiety. Since humans, in our natural state, are resonators. We can FEEL what each other is thinking and feeling with a lot of accuracy. But only when you get rid of the useless junk inside. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  17. If you ever get stuck in a social situation and you don't know what to do, it's usually too late. Humans behave BEST when we are operating mostly subconsciously. Automatically. In sports, the coveted flow state is when you are operating at a very high level AND mostly unconsciously. When it seems like you are WATCHING yourself perform. This can happen socially as well. For most of us, this happens with close friends with whom we have a ton of built in rapport. This is when conversations flow and good times roll. But it is also possible to create this social flow state with people you've just met. This requires we think a little meta. If you want to get good at something, you have to practice. The more you practiced, the higher level of unconscious competence you'd become. For example, it's pretty easy to get to the level of unconscious competence playing "Mary Had a Little Lamb" on the piano. But getting to that same level of unconscious competence while playing something like Beethoven's Moonlight Sonata would take a LOT more practice. So how can you develop unconscious competence, that flow state, with social situations involving people you DON'T KNOW? By practicing talking to people you don't know. Most people don't like this idea. They only like the idea of talking to somebody they are interested in. This is actually a form of self-deception. They think about being social and outgoing around EVERYBODY, and it scares them. So they cover up this fear by saying things like, "Why would I talk to THAT person? I'm not interested in them!" But by practicing friendly small talk with EVERYBODY, you'll be practicing social skills on a META level. And you'll soon get to know "people" on a structural level. After you talk to ENOUGH people, you'll realize TWO THINGS about everybody. One, that everybody is unique in some way. Two, everybody is VERY SIMILAR in many ways. And once you feel this similarity on a deep and unconscious level, all fear will VANISH. This means talking to anybody NEW will seem familiar. Which means it will be much easier to enter into that free flowing, outcome independent flow state. Which everybody finds INSANELY attractive. This REQUIRES that you see small talk as something you PRACTICE. Not something you do because you ONLY enjoy it. That would be like somebody who doesn't exercise because they don't enjoy it. It takes a while to ENJOY exercising. And it will always be BOTH a means and an end. So will small talk. It may suck to think of practicing it. But when it becomes both a means and an end, you will be developing some very rare, and very attractive, social skills. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
  18. Humans are curious creatures. If you saw some guy up on stage jamming with his guitar, you'd assume he'd spent a lot of time practicing. If you saw some ripped guy or gal walking down the street, you'd assume they spent a lot of time in the gym. And a lot of time eating healthy food. If you met somebody that spoke several languages, you'd assume they spent a lot of time practicing. But sometimes we see people with skills, and we just assume they were born with those skills. It's even more complicated when we understand that some people have certain advantages. For example, if somebody grows up in a family that speaks many languages, and the live in a country that speaks many languages, and they go to a school that speaks many languages, their multi-language skill was more or less passively learned. But that's not the ONLY way to learn many languages. Anybody can learn many languages. IF they are willing to put in the time and effort. And if they are willing to pay the opportunity costs. What are opportunity costs? The things you GIVE UP in order to learn the skill. Opportunity costs come with everything. Learning skills, getting in shape, losing weight. EVERYBODY would LOVE a magic pill that gives them an instant skill. Everybody would LOVE to play and instrument, but few are willing to put in the time. Everybody would LOVE to have a toned body, but few are willing to put in the time. Some skills can SEEM even harder. Like communication and persuasion skills. These seem to be LOCKED behind a wall of social anxiety. Sure, practicing the piano is BORING. But it doesn't cause any anxiety. But things like persuasion are paradoxically HARDER than playing the piano. Why paradoxically? Because while the skills themselves are fairly easy, they are ASSOCIATED with tons of anxiety. The added anxiety makes them seem TERRIFYING to learn. But take away the anxiety, and learning things like persuasion is EASY. Even EASIER is something like seduction. Of talking to people and getting them INTERESTED in you. Removing the anxiety makes learning skills like this VERY ENJOYABLE. So much that the opportunity costs essentially drop to zero. This requires that you go SLOWER than you want to. To build up momentum. To get to the point where you WANT to move forward, but you must consciously slow yourself down. When you get to this point, learning how to SEDUCE PEOPLE because very, very enjoyable. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
  19. Long, long ago, we humans didn't need to think very much. We were DRIVEN by our instincts. Those with the strongest instincts survived. Since food was hard to get, those who were always the HUNGRIEST were the most successful. Sexual desire is another powerful instinct. Humans are primates. And different primates have different strategies on how to deal with sex. Human females don't make it obvious when they are ovulating. Other primates, like chimps, do. Plenty of studies have shown that when a woman is ovulating, she finds a different type attractive than when she is not. Whether she acts on this attraction is a completely different story. Kind of like eating. If you are on a diet, and it's important to you, you'll feel ATTRACTED to certain foods, but not eat them. Just like men and women can feel ATTRACTION to certain people and not act on it. It wasn't always like this. Our instincts were created to DRIVE our behavior. So when ancient cave ladies were ovulating, they were naturally attracted to the MOST ALPHA looking and acting guy around. This makes sense in an ancient setting. When it was VERY important for her to have kids with a guy who would have the HIGHEST probability of providing for her and her kids. But just like hunger can be managed, so can attraction. If we ONLY ate what looked good, we'd all super fat. If we ONLY blindly obeyed our sexual desires, we'd be a mess. However, there is one thing that usually doesn't get much attention. And the attention it DOES get is the wrong kind. What I'm referring to is MALE sexual desire. When dudes get horny, they get desperate. And since most dudes are very UNDERSEXED, most dudes are VERY DESPERATE. Women know this. All too well. Just look at any girl that's got tons of orbiters. She KNOWS she can manipulate them. The trick is to NOT be one of those guys. Desperate for female attention and affection. How do you do this? There are TWO very powerful ways. One is to make a habit of making small talk with anybody you can. Men, women, old people, young people. Once you develop the habit of talking to anybody, anywhere, anytime about anything, you'll radiate a different kind of energy. The second is to get a handle on your sexual energy. If you wanted to stay healthy, you'd have to feel hungry and not eat. No way around that. To radiate non-needy energy, you'd do the same with your sexual energy. Feel it, but learn to live with it. WITHOUT expressing it. Napoleon Hill talked about this. Many ultra successful people know this. The BEST part is if you combine this with some very basic social skills, you will send out a very rare energy to women. It will make you seem unattainable, and therefore VERY attractive. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
  20. A common technique in self development is to fake it till you make it. This works great in some situations, but not so great in others. The shorter the bridge between faking it and making it, the easier it is. For example, if you don't feel confident, you CAN fake it enough until you really DO feel confident. Start to walk confidently. Shoulders back, face forward. Confident expression on your face. This "fake" exterior will be believable by others. They will respond to your "fake" confidence. Their response will slowly make you feel REAL confidence. This REAL confidence will then subconsciously drive your expressions and behavior. First you faked it. Then you made it. Other times, this isn't so difficult. The more and complex your interactions are with others, the harder it is. The greater the distance between what you are faking and what you are feeling, the harder it is. If you are looking for a long term relationship with a high quality woman, this can end in DISASTER. How? It's possible to fake enough confidence to have a decent conversation. Even a few dates. Even enough for SEX. But something happens to a lot of guys once they have sex. This is an instinctive thing. And instincts are VERY HARD to ignore. Once a guy has sex with a girl, it makes him FEEL completely differently about her. At least it CAN. This means it's a billion times more difficult to keep up with the fake confidence. The REAL you shows up. This often comes across when guys express their TRUE feelings. Said too soon, this will scare a girl away. This is behind the FEMALE JOKE about guys being like bathroom tile. Lay them once and you can walk all over them forever. This is because once a guy has SEX with a girl, his ancient instincts are telling him to hang on for dear life. Since our ancient instincts think we only have ONE chance to have sex. This is something that it's VERY DIFFICULT to "fake until you make." Unless you are a stone cold sociopath player. How can you get around this? GO SLOWLY. Get to know plenty of girls at once. Always have a backup plan. Talk to any girl you can. Whether you are attracted to her or not. Play the VERY LONG game. SLOWLY build up your deep relationships skills so you don't have to FAKE anything. This takes a LOT of time. But it will save a LOT of heartache. And in the long run, it will make you INSANELY attractive. Giving a much higher quality of women to choose from. And she'll feel those feelings WAY before you do. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
  21. One of the toughest questions to get is about your job. This could be in a regular friendly conversation. Or it could be a cute girl you've been talking to. Everything's going GREAT. Until.... So, uh what do you do? If you happened to HAVE a fantastic job, that's fine. But most people don't. So, what DO you say? The TRUTH is always a good place to start. But HOW you express the truth is EXTREMELY flexible. Saying you work at Taco Bell COULD be "a" truth. But another truth could be your PLANS for the future. But how you express those plans will make all the difference. If you express your plans the RIGHT way, they'll sound VERY REAL. Even if you DO work at Taco Bell, so long as you not only HAVE a realistic plan, you'll be fine. So long as you talk about so it indicates you are IN THE PROCESS of making it happen. How do you do this, exactly? It starts by figuring out what you REALLY want to do. Five years out or so. Not some kind of vague wish. That won't do it. "Yeah, now I work at Taco Bell but I'd really like to get into medicine some day!" That sounds very much like everybody else's plan. To sit around and WAIT for the magic career fairy to show up. Instead, start to really MAKE plans. For example, if you really DID want to get into medicine, take some time to think about that. What specific job would you have? What kind of training would that require? What would you have to do to qualify for that training? What kinds of things would you need to do to get STARTED moving closer to that? How we speak represents how we think. And women it comes to female attraction, females are HARD WIRED to be attracted to MEN who are MAKING things happen. They are NOT attracted (beyond looks) to guys who sit around and WAIT for things to happen. Imagine a bunch of cave people 25,000 years ago. The ladies who were naturally attracted to goofs who sat around waiting for animals to walk up and surrender didn't last long. The ladies who were attracted to natural killers DID. And that is what gets their instinctive juices flowing. Guys who are IN THE PROCESS of making their lives. So no matter WHAT you do NOW, so long as you HAVE a real plan, and you express it as a real plan, it will do the trick. This takes time. It takes while to build this thinking and communication into your brain. So when a random person asks what you do, it will come out naturally. And when it does, you'll set yourself apart from EVERYBODY. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
  22. It's a very common idea to NOT do something SPECIFICALLY to attract women. This is a very good idea. Because if you are ONLY doing things to attract women, or any particular women, this is dangerous. You're basically sending a message to her, and your subconscious that getting a woman is MORE important than living a successful life. Most guys do this when they put women up on a pedestal. The make her seem much better than they really are. This is a form of one-itis. When you have an IMAGINATION of her that is not based on reality. When you fall in love with an idealized version of her. But this can also happen when you try to pursue women in general. You start to focus on doing things ONLY to get women. For example, when you buy clothing ONLY to impress women, this can be dangerous. However, there is a LOT of overlap. Meaning if you ONLY focus on living a successful life, then chances are you will be MORE attractive to women. In this way, the general attraction you are generating WITHIN a large number of women can be a very useful measurement. A side effect. Especially when you consider that women are attracted to non-verbal behaviors. The type of non-verbal behaviors that are highly associated with general male leadership. This can be very confusing. Many guys try and FAKE alpha behavior. This can work well in the short term. But it's generally ONLY associated with short term female attraction. Deep and intuitive alpha behavior is picked up on by both men and women. Deep and intuitive alpha behavior will make you more attractive to PEOPLE in general. More men will WANT to follow you. More women will WANT to be with you. The truth about female attraction triggers is they are attracted to male behaviors. Behaviors that indicate general success potential. Since the dawn of time, men have been PRODUCTIVE. And women have been ATTRACTIVE. The job of women is to choose the most productive man and seduce him. This gives us a very keen insight. That if you measure the attraction you are creating in women, the deep intuitive attraction, this is ALSO a strong measure of your masculinity. Not fake masculinity, where you are worried about what to say and what to wear and how to act. REAL and deep masculinity. That is EXTREMELY rare today. The kind of masculinity that builds financial empires. The kind of masculinity that leads men to conquer nations. The kind of masculinity that all women deeply crave. If you work on building this kind of masculinity, you can choose from among a whole slew of women. For whatever reasons you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
  23. One of the biggest killers of attraction is to make your intentions known. One of Dale Carnegie's most helpful insights is the idea that you can get anybody to do anything so long as they believe it's their idea. Which means if you are CONSCIOUSLY trying to create attraction, it won't work very well. Best case is you are her only choice. And she ALREADY has a baseline level of attraction. But if you come out of nowhere, and start talking to her, it's very difficult to CREATE attraction from nothing. It's especially hard if she sense's that is your intention. If she DOES become attracted to you, it will be IN SPITE OF your conscious efforts. Why is this? Because you absolutely cannot consciously create attraction. This is the deep natural subconscious attraction. This ISN'T a girl consciously deciding the TYPE of guy she wants. When it comes to girls and guys, a food metaphor is appropriate. Nobody can CONVINCE you (or anybody else) to LIKE a certain kind of food. Sure, they can convince you that it's healthy, and good for you. But only your SUBCONSCIOUS can determine if you LIKE something or not. If it gives you PLEASURE while you eat it or think about eating it. But you CAN figure out how to COOK SOMETHING that has a high probability of being liked to many people. You can do some reverse engineering of what many people eat. Find out what kind of restaurants are popular, etc. So if you were having a dinner party, for example, you could figure out BEFORE HAND what kind of food people would like. Then make that. But it would be IMPOSSIBLE to talk somebody into liking something that they didn't like. Sure, you could convince them it was HEALTHY. That they SHOULD eat it. But you'd never be able to convince somebody to like it. Girls being attracted to guys works exactly the same way. The guys that she is NATURALLY attracted to is beyond her choice. And it's beyond your choice as well. At least in the short term. If a girl REALLY likes you, you can get away with a lot. If a girl DOESN'T like you, there's not much you can do. But if you understand the types of guys she and other girls NATURALLY like, you can slowly build in those characteristics. Turns out there are some very SIMPLE exercises that you can do. The MORE you do the, the more girls will be naturally attracted to you. While you can't get A GIRL to like you, you CAN get many, many GIRLS to like you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
  24. Imagine two fighters. Boxers if you will. One guy has spent tons of time practicing lots of techniques. The other guy, not so much. But the first guy, with all the moves, is in very terrible condition. He is barely able to stand up after a couple minutes. He's so exhausted, he hangs on to the other fighter for dear life. But the second fighter, the guy who has very little techniques is in VERY good shape. He can dance and around and bounce on his feet for a full twelve rounds. Who do you think would win the fight? Unless the first guy got lucky, he would be too tired to do much. None of his advanced techniques would do squat if he was too tired to lift his arms. When it comes to any kind of martial art, it's clear that physical conditioning is as important, if not more, than the actual fighting techniques. Now, this metaphor is not entirely realistic. Because it would be hard to practice fighting techniques without also getting into shape. So we can imagine another pair of fighters. This time, their skills are equal. But one guy is in WAY better shape than the other guy. Obviously, the guy who was in better shape would win. What's this got to do with anything? When it comes to social behavior, interactive social behavior, there is inner game, and outer game. Outer game is kind of like the technical skills. Knowing what to say, and how to say it. Inner game is much more like physical conditioning. In a fighting metaphor, if you are too tired, you can't really use any of your technical skills. In a social situation, a weak inner game means you'll be spending A LOT of brainpower being worried or anxious. So any of the stuff you practiced before won't to mind. This is EXACTLY what happens when you practice a speech until you've got it down PERFECTLY. But then when you stand up to give it, it VANISHES from your brain. Your brain essentially freezes. This is why having solid inner game is much, much more important than any outer game techniques. But most people don't pay much attention to inner game. Since most people don't know HOW to strengthen their inner game. Most people simply assume that stronger inner game comes from experience. But this is incorrect. In fact, there are plenty of ways to build up a rock solid inner game, just like you could build up rock solid conditioning. You can do this alone, without needing to interact with anybody. And the longer you practice, the stronger your inner game will be. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  25. https://mindpersuasion.com/art-gallery-seduction/
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