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  1. There is a clear discrepancy between what we say we want, and what we really want. The things we TELL ourselves (and each other) what we want is based partially on what we SHOULD want. But the things we actively GET, especially when nobody's looking, is what we REALLY want. This is one main reason why marketing studies must be done like medical studies. As objectively as possible. If you ask people for feedback, they'll tell you what they think you WANT to hear. So marketers have to take care to set up special studies so they can OBSERVE what people choose. Similarly, whenever anybody does any medical research, and the data is SELF-REPORTED, it's almost always flawed. Especially if it involves eating. Nobody is totally honest when they report what they REALLY ate. When thinking about humans and attraction, there is a common idea. That you should ignore what people SAY, and watch what people DO. But there is ONE THING that people SAY that want, and also respond to. The ONE quality we all both consciously acknowledge is desirable. And will subconsciously acknowledge as desirable. What is this mysterious trait? A sense of humor. Everybody SAYS they value humor. AND people naturally gravitate AROUND people who HAVE a strong sense of humor. Maybe because humor is a function both an inner and outer game. True outer game humor reflects inner game STRENGTH. Especially self-deprecating humor. This can be VERY DANGEROUS. Many people attempt self deprecation without being 100% congruent. So in a sense, they are kind of fishing for compliments. But if you can use self-deprecating humor with 100% congruence, it will be VERY ATTRACTIVE. Because it demonstrates massive inner confidence. This is the underlying "energy" of the "agree and amplify" response to any playful insults. "Dude, that shirt is ugly!" "I know, right! I got the UGLIEST shirt in the shop! Winner Winner chicken dinner!" This is HARD to pull off if you don't feel it. But if you DO feel it, the surface structure doesn't need to be complex. It can be very, very simple. Paradoxically, the BEST self-deprecating humor demonstrates the STRONGEST confidence around. It's almost like you are proudly challenging anybody to an insult contest. Where YOU can insult you better than anybody else can insult you. Only exceptionally confident people with exceptionally strong frames can do this. Which means that ONLY learning the words aren't enough. You must also build up your inner game. You can learn that here: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  2. There is one powerful technique that can significantly bolster your frame. This is very easy and requires zero thinking. But it's something that many people are uncomfortable doing. Yet at the same time, you'll find this one technique is something VERY powerful speakers can do. And that is to PAUSE while speaking. A common reason for exhibiting a less than strong frame is being nervous. And when we are nervous, we tend to speak quickly and swallow some of our words. We don't like social attention, so we want to get rid of it as quickly as possible. For example, if you are at a meeting at work, and you get unexpectedly called on, it's not usually a very enjoyable feeling. In situations like this, we tend to answer the question as quickly as possible, and get the attention off us. Unfortunately, this radiates a kind of frame-weakness. When people intend to harm us emotionally, this makes us an easy target for the office bully. They KNOW they can easily say something we won't know how to respond to. This is the main reason for the insult. To put us off balance, so we stand there looking like an idiot. Developing the ability to PAUSE while speaking will eliminate this. It will do so by building our frame energy. But it will also make you a much more competent speaker. It will give you the brain space to carefully choose your words and sentences. Being able to see and choose the BEST ideas is a natural outcome of building up your "pause strength." It's easy to start, and easy to practice. Practice it like any other skill. Start slowly, and build slowly. The easiest way is to put a pause in the middle of a simple sentence. The other day I saw (pause) a squirrel. At first this may seem to PULL attention toward you. And that may be uncomfortable. But pretty soon, it will feel pretty good. Once you get used to that, you can play around with it. Put pauses in different places. In between sentences. Once you develop the ability to sit or stand and THINK instead of talk, WHILE people are looking at you, this will give you a LOT of power. You'll learn to speak more slowly, more eloquently and more persuasively. Speaking slowly and choosing your words is one sign of having powerful charisma. People notice it on a subconscious level. The second benefit is carefully choosing your words. And once you learning some advanced linguistic techniques, those words you choose can be DEADLY. If you want them to. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/verbal-assassin/
  3. https://mindpersuasion.com/nested-frame-control/
  4. https://mindpersuasion.com/golden-rules-of-persuasion/
  5. Chaos theory is a pretty interesting concept. It states that despite living in a deterministic universe, we can’t predict things very far into the future. This has nothing to do with the accuracy of the measuring equipment, nor does it have anything to do with Quantum Physics. They figured this out when they started looking at computerized weather modeling. Even though weather has only a few variables, it’s impossible to predict. They took a starting point, and let it run a few weeks in computer time. They end point was a certain weather system. Then they took that SAME starting point, and altered it as slightly as they could, and let it run for the same few weeks. The results were COMPLETELY different. It turns out the longer out you need to predict, the more accurately you need to measure the staring conditions. The problem is when you compare the two. If you want to increase the time, by say twice as long (from two weeks to four weeks) you need to make the measurement TEN TIMES as accurate. If you want to go out eight weeks, you need to increase the accuracy of measuring the starting conditions by 100 times. This is why they will NEVER be able to predict weather more than a few days out. No matter how much technology they invent, they’ll never be able to do it. This is how they get the idea of the Butterfly Effect. Small changes can lead to HUGE results. A butterfly flaps his wings in Brazil, and causes a hurricane in Texas two weeks later. When most people show up to a social situation, they hope for the best. Most people have a very vague idea of what they want. But the problem is that everybody is ALWAYS communication. No matter WHO you are, you are always sending and receiving TONS of non-verbal signals. This means you are impacting their frames, and their frames are impacting your frames. And since most people have VERY WEAK frames, you end up with a Junior High School dance phenomenon. Girls on one side, boys on the other. Both looking and wishing they could communicate. Of course, in modern places, it’s not so simple. It’s actually MUCH WORSE. Every person and their own crew is like an island among many islands. All wanting to communicate, but all being afraid to get it going. And when you consider the chaos theory as it applies to inter-frame communication, it makes sense. But it’s also VERY EASY to dominate. Because if one person has frame strength that is significantly stronger than everybody else’s, everybody will know it. And everybody will know that everybody knows it. And everybody will soon being competing with everybody to be part of that frame strength. And if YOU happen to the be THE ONE with that frame strength, then you’ve got it made. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
  6. Next time you are in the middle of a randomly flowing conversation, do this experiment. Watch not only how people talk, but watch how the content of the conversation is an organically evolving "thing." Kind of like a beach ball at a concert or sporting event. People kind of see it bouncing around. When it comes their way they try and keep it bouncing around. Watch people watching this imaginary "conversational ball" floating around. Most people are doing a couple of things when they are NOT talking. They are paying attention to whoever is talking. And they are trying to come up with a related story or anecdote. So if this imaginary conversation ball comes their way, they can add to it and keep it bouncing around. When the conversation dies out, it's very much like "dropping the ball." Everybody looks around for somebody to hopefully get it going again. Very much like standing in a circle and hitting a volleyball around, or playing hacky sack. The longer the ball keeps flowing, the better. But this is difficult (and create anxiety) if you don't happen to have any stories or related anecdotes. The longer you stand there without talking, the more you start to get worried that everybody is watching you stand there without talking. This leads to the most common "reason" for social anxiety. "I don't know what to say." Luckily, there is a very easy solution. And that is instead of focusing on CONTENT, start to train your ears and brain to focus on STRUCTURE. The structure of any random conversation is very similar. And it's filled with possibility. For you to reach in there, tweak it, and create some very happy, and very goofy feelings in their brains. And since this structure is something few people ever notice, it will make you look like you're on another level than everybody else. Even if you borrow the content from other people. This means you don't have to have any stories, or clever anecdotes or tales of adventure. Just the ability to playfully tweak the structure of anybody's conversation. This is the kind of party skills that not only make you memorable, but an IN DEMAND party guest. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  7. Human fears are an insanely useful thing. But only if we use them correctly. The "incorrect" use of fear is not dealing with it. A long time ago, I used to be a big fan of Stephen King. The movie, "Creepshow," which came out in the 80's, was about a bunch of short stories. He played one of the goofy characters. He was a hillbilly type who found a meteor. He picked it up, and it oozed meteor juice all over him. Since it was a comedy-horror movie, the meteor juice immediately started to mutate his arm. He thought about going to the doctor, but was stopped by his worst-feared scenario. His worst feared scenario was the doctor holding a huge knife and with a wicked grin saying, "This is going to be EXTREMELY painful!" Of course, the hillbilly didn't go to the doctor, and the meteor juice ended up mutating his entire body, eventually killing him. This is the "incorrect" use of fear. To imagine the worst case scenario, assuming it's going to happen, and not doing squat. What is the "correct" use of fear? Our worst feared outcomes are IDEAL planning tools. Most people have heard (at least a billion times) the idea of "planning for the worst while hoping for the best." Our brains are FANTASTIC in perfectly delivering to us a "worst feared" outcome. We are SUPPOSED to be afraid of those. They are SUPPOSED to be horrifying. But they aren't supposed to make us hide out in the closet while getting eaten by meteor juice. They are supposed to be used as planning tools. Things to PREVENT against. It's like our brain is saying, "HEY! Make sure this doesn't happen!" Only for most people, the only way to "make sure this doesn't happen" is to not do anything. That is a strategy, but it's a pretty useless one. Because once you HAVE that worst feared outcome, you can plan all kinds of ways around it. Especially if those worst feared outcomes come in the form of social situations. Even more so if those worst feared outcomes come in the form of other people saying things. Because once we've got our worst feared outcome in the form of somebody SAYING something, there are plenty of ways to make sure it doesn't happen. Eighteen ways, to be precise. This means ANY social fear you can imagine, you can destroy it in EIGHTEEN different ways. Making sure it DOESN'T happen. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  8. A long time ago, all societies had what is called an "oral tradition." Long before writing was invented, people had to maintain the "narrative" of who they were as a collection of stories and myths. And the only way they could keep these intact was to keep telling them over and over. Every tribe had a couple of storytellers. And these storytellers weren't thought of as high priests or anything. They were just the oldest guys who told stories to the rest. Then when kids grew up, they would more or less "self-select" for the storyteller of the next generation. Whoever could remember the best, whoever could speak the most elegantly. But then it all changed when writing was invented. This also happened when societies got really large. No longer were the stories of any society kept by the people. They were maintained by high priests with special books that only they could read. This is generally what happens when a new technology comes along. It's hoarded by the elites, and generally used to hold power over the masses. Imagine what it must have been like. Everybody only saw these high priests occasionally. And when they came out and read from special "books" (although nobody had ever seen a book before), it was like listening to god himself. They must have been thought of as wizards or magicians. Which gave them an extraordinary amount of power. Power was held in a very small groups of elites for a LONG time. Eventually the printing press was invented, and everybody started reading. But even so, there is much more to words than most people realize. Words are representations of ideas. And most people simply take ideas at face value. But any idea can be looked at from many different perspectives. And since most folks only take words at face value, when you can learn how to see all the different potential meanings in a single idea, it will be like having wizard like power. Most people talk about the same things over and over. And they have the same opinions about the same things. Over and over. Until you come along and show them all the different ways ANY thought or idea can be interpreted. This can give you extraordinary power over others. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  9. People are consumers of ideas. We crave information in all its forms. Social media, TV, conversations with others. The more compelling and interesting the information is, the better it feels. Kind of like food. We like food that tastes good. We don't like food that doesn't taste good. A long time ago, this was tightly calibrated. The stuff that tasted good was healthy and kept us alive and kicking. Meat, fat, fruits, veggies, nuts, roots, etc. Stuff that didn't taste good was stuff that was dangerous. Dirt, tree bark. We didn't have to think much. Just consume what tasted good, and avoid what didn't taste good. Our brains evolved to see information the same way. Stuff that "felt good" tended to be helpful. Stuff that didn't "feel good" wasn't so helpful. A lot of this information came from non-verbal communication from others. Today those ancient social signals come from social media. Which is why it's so addicting. Just like processed food, it tricks us into thinking it's healthy. But another thing we enjoy very much is different content. This why we love stories so much. Ancient people's lived in some pretty boring environments, compared to today. So guys and gals that would spin interesting tales about nature, the gods, us and our purpose were in high demand. Similarly, people today that can spin interesting tales are in equally high demand. People that can come up with an interesting take on common things. Most people say and think the same things. Over and over. And most people comment on those same things the same way. Over and over. But it is pretty easy to take the same basic ideas, that people keep saying over and over, and flip them around in some interesting ways. So interesting nobody has ever heard of them before. Which will make you a very in-demand person. People will listen to your take on things and get that feeling of enlightenment. Of seeing things for the first time. Of finally, "getting it." Think differently, speak differently. And be recognized above all. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  10. A lot of the way reality works is really backwards. One reason is we humans have a tough time with any "cause-effect" ideas. We tend to assume connections where none exist. This has been demonstrated in children as young as six months. They believe it allowed for quick thinking back in the days of hunters and gathers. Many of our problems today stem from having hunter-gatherer instincts in a modern world. Another problem arises when we understand the relationships between our beliefs and the things we see. Most people believe they more or less see the world the way it is. And if something NEW pops up, they'll blend this NEW thing into their existing belief system. The underlying idea is that our reality around us CREATES our belief systems. When in many cases it's the other way around. Imagine a guy who is really shy and nervous. He has a belief that women think he is disgusting. This makes him feel like crap. And every time he talks to a woman, he sends out "creep vibes." This creep vibes are from his belief about himself. And these creep vibes CREATE the rejection he fears. However, he thinks this is PROOF that his beliefs are correct. When in reality, it's his beliefs that CREATE his reality. The problem with this is how the heck do you change your beliefs when you have no experiences with anything else? If we humans could just rewrite our beliefs at will, life would be MUCH easier. So most of us don't bother. We just assume things about the world. Many people don't even acknowledge that the world behaves like we TELL it to. Nobody can tell much about you. So they have to use YOUR interpretation of you as a guide. If you think you suck, they'll think you suck. Of course, nobody walks up and says, "Hi! I suck!" We project that with our frame. If you have a weak frame, it's interpreted by others before you even open your mouth. If you have a strong frame, it's interpreted by others before you even open your mouth. A good way to describe your frame is the sum total of your beliefs regarding your value. If you believe you don't provide much value, nobody else will. If you believe you provide TONS of value, everybody else will. But this belief has to be true in ALL LEVELS. It's common to have strong beliefs about yourself at the conscious level, but very weak beliefs at the subconscious level. These subconscious beliefs are the ones that make up your frame. Luckily, there's a pretty easy way to change them. To systematically build up a MASSIVE frame, just like you could build muscles. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  11. https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  12. Daily exercises to build unbreakable frame strength. https://mindpersuasion.com/frame-control-exercises/
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