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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov12Post.mp4 One of the most important ideas is flexibility. The more ways you can skin a cat, the more likely you'll skin a cat. If you can only skin a cat using your special cat skinning knife, and you can't find it, you won't be skinning any cats. Of course, nobody would really want to skin a cat. That would be dangerous. Cat's don't really like having their skin removed. But the idea of skinning cat, or more importantly the part about having more than one way to skin cat, is instructive. As all metaphors are. Once they had this cooking show. It was one expert chef with a couple of amateurs. Two or three teams. The game was they wouldn't know what they had to cook with until the timer started going off. And they usually had very simple ingredients. Stuff most of us have in our own kitchens. (Don't worry, they weren't cooking skinned cats!) The fun part was watching these master chefs whip up some pretty good dishes with only some basic ingredients. The more flexible you are, the less you need to work with to get whatever it is you want. What do most of us want? More money, more sex, more social recognition and respect. What do we have to work with? Most of us aren't rich. We aren't gorgeous. We don't wear thousands of dollars worth of bling. But we don't need that kind of stuff. We only need the ideas that exist already in our brains. And an understanding of the structure of language. The structure of language is very closely related to the structure of thought. Two things people RARELY even think about. When most people communicate, they take half baked thoughts and spit them out with randomly chosen words. This is common, this is ordinary, this is expected. This is also pretty safe, and pretty boring. It won't get you into any trouble. But it won't get you paid or laid either. What will? Using your communication like a tool. A playful tool. You don't need any more education. You don't need spend any time collecting world class experiences. All you need to do is to take some time and understand the massive amount of flexibility in your language and your thought. To turn people's random streams of boring ideas into linguistic pretzels. To take the common complaints and limitations other people spit out and turn them into reasons to laugh out loud. What will this do for you? This will make you much more popular. Much more attractive. Much more fun to be around. No bling or beauty required. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
There’s a funny story that’s been told for a while. I heard it first when from the person giving the speech at my graduation. I’ve heard it a couple times since then. About a guy on a ship. And he sees another ship. The first guy tells the second guy to move, or else they’ll crash. The second guy says he’s not moving. The first guy repeats his request to please move or else we’ll crash. Second guy says nope, can’t do it. First guy says, “Dude, if you don’t move, we’re both going to crash and sink and drown. Please move.” Second guy says, “Dude, I’m a lighthouse. YOU move!” The moral of the story of course, is not being flexible will get you killed. The story is ALWAYS told as if the listeners are SUPPOSED to imagine themselves as the person on the ship. That they will encounter resistance in life that they can’t overcome. And the best course is to change course, rather than keep plowing through. That IS pretty good advice. But not always. A famous saying, (the Serenity Prayer, often used in AA meetings) is: God, grant me the serenity to accept things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. What does this mean in real life? It means that sometimes you are the ship. And sometimes you are the lighthouse. Most people are ALWAYS the ship. They bounce around, from situation to situation. Always looking for direction. They are uncomfortable in any situation when they have to figure out what to do on their own. Then there are lighthouse people. People that are the ones giving advice. The ones that show up and MAKE things happen. The ones that radiate very pure, very strong, lighthouse energy. Energy that says, “I am a beacon. When you are lost, look for me, I’ll show you the way.” Luckily, you can BUILD your lighthouse energy. It all comes across in your non-verbal communication. All metaphors aside, we are biological creatures that are BOUND by scientific laws. Metaphors make for some creative, sometimes beautiful ideas. But they are metaphors nonetheless. The down and dirty scientific way you broadcast your “energy”, whether it’s a solid lighthouse or a lost ship, is through your non-verbal communication. And building up strong lighthouse energy is something you can practice. Anything you can practice, you can strengthen. As strong as you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
One of the reasons for human dominance on Earth is flexibility. The first time this showed up was when there was a split among gender roles. This was WAY back before this became an issue. Before humans could even talk. For every other animal, except us humans, the males and females each get the same kind of food. Male and female sharks both eat fish. Male and female rabbits eat carrots. Male and female monkeys eat bananas. But for some reason, male pre-humans started hunting. And female pre-humans started gathering. At the same time. This allowed them to live in twice as many places. And because they lived in plenty of different places, this "flexibility" became a very important trait. And it evolved in a lot of different ways. Some simple ways. Some in very strange and hard to describe ways. One of them is the idea of form following function and function following form. Both work. Meaning if you are happy, you will smile. But if you force yourself to smile, maybe even whistle a happy tune, you will BECOME happy. Imagine if we had to wait around for something OUTSIDE of us to make us happy? We can either fake it till we make it. We can conjure up some happy memories. Or we can laugh at a goofy joke. We are very flexible in how we can CREATE our emotions. At least we are CAPABLE of how we can be flexible. Kind of a flexible way of being flexible. Another way of form following function or function following form is how we perceive charisma in others. This can EASILY be faked, as has been done plenty of times. One way is to take a normal, non-charismatic, non-famous goof and pretend to be famous. Get a bunch of people to follow them around. Act like the guy is famous. And pretty soon, everybody will THINK he's famous. And since they all THINK he's famous, they'll FEEL those "famous feelings." They'll describe him as being charismatic, magnetic, etc. They'll describe what it's like to BE in his presence. Even though it's all pretend. Suppose you see a famous guy walk into a nightclub. Only you have no clue who he is. But everybody is staring at him like he's Jesus. Then imagine he comes and talks to you for some reason. How would you feel? Talking to somebody that you DIDN'T know, but was being treated like Jesus by everybody? No doubt, that would feel pretty cool. Luckily, there are TONS of ways to create this presence. To project an energy so people treat YOU like a famous person. And just like form following function or function following form, it works both ways. You can build it from the inside, and people will FEEL IT wherever you go. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/presence/