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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan18_Post.mp4 When I was a kid I had this cool kit from Radio Shack. It was this big circuit board with a bunch of various components. Each component had a small spring attached. And the kit came with a wiring diagram. Connect No. 15 to No. 22 with a wire, etc. You could create 75 different electric circuits by connecting three or four basic components together. I went through all 75 pretty quickly. Maybe a week or so. Then I tried to experiment. By hooking up things in my bedroom, through this circuit board. Some worked pretty well. I turned my lamp into a strobe light by cutting the wires and running them through the circuit boards. Other things LITERALLY burst into flames when I ran them through. Oops. We humans LOVE to do stuff like this. To hack things, or see how we can use them differently. One famous TV character, (MacGyver) was famous for putting together various simple items to get out of jams. Most dudes can (or believe they can) fix pretty much anything with some duct tape and a couple squirts of WD-40. In fact, you may even say this is our BEST trait as thinking, speaking, imagining humans. Of looking out into the world and seeing what's there. And then mixing them together in new and interesting ways. If you're a cook, or a chef, and you can combine interesting flavors together, you can do pretty well. Watch the cooking section of YouTube or TikTok and you'll find plenty people experimenting very effectively with different food combinations. If you've ever used a spoon (because you couldn't find or were too lazy to look for a knife) to spread something on toast, this is a demonstration of this "hacking" instinct in our brains. But we can also hack things inside our selves. Attach certain emotions with other emotions. You already know how to play around with hacks outside your brain. Why not go inside? This is what you do when you study. You take plenty of time to connect certain pieces of data together that aren't related. If you do this well enough, you get a B on a test and avoid getting yelled at by your teacher. But this is only the tip of the iceberg. The scratching of the surface. Because deeper down, there are some very POWERFUL emotions. And just like the Radio Shack 75 in 1 kit, you can connect some pretty cool things together. Like an external visual trigger of a GORGEOUS face and body to MASSIVE sexual confidence. Without bursting into flames. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/sexual-charisma/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec09Post.mp4 A while ago I saw some pictures of what life was like during the Soviet Union. They had a big room where people were all selling things. But all everybody was selling were apples. There's one Monty Python movie about a marketplace during some ancient plague or other catastrophic event. Some dude had a table and was selling nothing. And he was pitching his nothing like crazy. "I've got nothing for sale! Come and get your nothing!" Imagine getting excited about going to see a world famous symphony. You wore a tux, got their early, put on your best behavior. But as soon as they started playing, they only played ONE note. Over and over and over. A couple years ago some Swedish film company made an "experimental" movie. The kind of goofy movie where people sit and watch and imagine how intellectually superior they are for watching a deep movie only self-described super geniuses can understand. Only this movie had three weirdos standing on a beach. They just stood there, not speaking, not moving. And the movie was seventeen hours long. Different angles, and filters, etc. Imagine if a ice cream store wanted to compete with 31 flavors. Their angle would be that they only have ONE flavor. Vanilla or something. Sure, all of these are silly ideas. But this is how most of us operate. By only have a FEW emotions that we feel comfortable expressing. We laugh when something's funny. We are dutifully impressed when somebody shares a story. At the same time, we are DESPERATE to show our emotions. This is why when an attractive person tells an otherwise lame joke, all the people around him or her laugh like it's the BEST joke they've ever heard. Or when an attractive person shares an otherwise lame story about some "clever" thing they did. Everybody acts like they're the next Einstein. "Wow, that's so AWESOME! You're so AWESOME!" This is what you get when you can express a couple emotions. Like a piano with only a couple of keys. If that's all you got, you bang on those two keys as often and as hard as you can. And if you are competing with other pianos, that's pretty much all you can do. Impress everybody with how hard and often you can bang on your keys. Unfortunately, with a only a two-keyed piano, that's the ONLY thing you'll be banging. But suppose you show up with a full fledged, 88 key piano. And you can play absolutely BEAUTIFUL music. Notes, chord, melodies. You will DESTROY all the two-key bangers. First, you have to FIND all your inner "keys." And then you need to learn how to play them. Not learn how. Remember how. Do that and EVERYBODY will be impressed. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/emotional-mastery/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct28Post.mp4 Imagine if you had to play in a golf tournament. And if you won, you got a bunch of money. But if you didn't come in the top ten, you had to pay a bunch of money. BUT, the only club you could use would be a nine iron. Even if you don't like golf, never want to know anything about golf, you probably know that certain clubs are for certain situations. So being restricted to one club, a nine iron, (only good for short distances) would make it pretty difficult. Or suppose you were a pitcher, (this is gonna be a messed metaphor) and you were starting in the last game of the World Series. Suppose some terrorists kidnapped your wife and kids. Just before the game started, they called you and said: "Not only do you HAVE TO win, but you can ONLY throw knuckleballs!" That would suck. Even if you were famous for your knuckleballs, they only work if the batters DON'T KNOW when you are going to throw a knuckleball. Or suppose your friend entered you in a birdhouse building contest. Winner gets ten billion dollars. All the non winners have to live in their birdhouses for one year. BUT all you can use to build your birdhouse is a Phillips head screwdriver. Yeah, I know, we're getting silly. The common theme is obvious. The more tools you have, the more you can do. Pitches, clubs and actual tools. This isn't just for physical tools, but for strategies and thinking patterns. Suppose you were in a pick up contest. Against the world's most recognized natural. He can do whatever wants. You ALWAYS have to use the same line: "Hi, I don't make a lot of money and my penis is pretty average. Will you go out with me?" Clearly, you'd get destroyed. Now, here's the thing. It doesn't matter WHY you are limited, or WHERE those limitations come from. It's kind of like what Mark Twain said about reading. The difference between somebody who CAN'T read and somebody who DOESN'T read is NOTHING. The difference between limitations imposed by outside forces and limitations due to inside elements (emotions, self esteem, etc.) is NOTHING. A pretty basic "presupposition of NLP," which is kind of no-brainer that existed long before NLP was invented is: More flexibility is better than less flexibility. The more lines you can use to try to impress a pretty girl, the better. The more creatively you can try to impress a pretty girl, the better. The more creative flexibility you have to impress a pretty girl, the better. But after a certain point, this creates a META positive impression. It's ONE thing to have a pretty funny line that makes her smile. But it's genuinely IMPRESSIVE (not just to her but to everybody) to have so much CREATIVITY that you use in normal conversations. This is WAY beyond pick up techniques into the realm of genuinely attractive human. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/creativity-accelerator/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct01Post.mp4 It's always good to keep some in the tank. It's always good to have a back up plan. Plan A, plan B, plan C, etc. If you only have plan A, and it fails, you won't be in good shape. If you run out of gas in your main tank, and you have a backup tank, you'll be much less likely to get out of trouble. This is common sense, and plenty of saying and anecdotes describe this. Plenty of ways to skin a cat, for example. If you're in sales and you have a lot of flexibility, you'll sell a lot more. If you're intending to get a ladies number and you have a lot of flexibility, you'll get a lot more action. Both require a flexibility of thinking and a flexibility of frame. When people tend to think of "frame domination" they tend to think in blatant terms. A blatantly strong frame that can't be overcome. But in reality, frame flexibility is much, much more powerful. This combined with a relaxed, confident but friendly AND playful attitude will win way more hearts and sales than the "warrior frame." In sales, every time customer comes up with an objection, you accept it, appreciate it, even playfully expand and slowly shift it around. This is best done NON competitively. To HELP the person overcome their own objection so they can buy whatever you are selling. They wouldn't be sitting in front of you if they weren't interested in buying. They wouldn't be sitting in front of you of part of them didn't want your HELP buying. Talking to friends and potential romantic partners is similar. Humans are VERY social. Our brains will bend over backward to find mutually agreeable points of interest. So if you're talking to a lady, and she's got positive body language, she's OPEN to you seducing her. In fact, part of her WANTS to seduce you. But part of her, an ancient instinctive part, needs to make sure. So she'll always put up resistance. But this "resistance" isn't angry, or mean spirited or even confrontational. It's usually very playful and subtle. Think of this as the linguistic dance that must happen before any physical connection. On one level, it may be seem silly and nonsensical. But on a deeper level, it's all about the reframe. Consider that customers and romantic targets WANT to be sold or seduced. But it can't be blatant. It's got to be very subtle. Both customers and seduction target, both male and female, NEED a bit of plausible deniability. They need to feel as if you WORKED for their acquiescence. So that don't feel taken advantage. So, enjoy the dance. Build up your brain power. Every conversation is practice. Every conversation is a dance in itself. Enjoy the game, build your brain, and get more customers and happy friends than you know what to do with. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/mental-strength/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July08Post.mp4 One of the presuppositions of NLP is that having more flexibility is better than having less flexibility. This generally refers to problem solving. Getting stuck is common. Getting frustrated when you are stuck is also common. But with enough flexibility of thinking, getting stuck won't ever last long. The opposite of flexible thinking is the "tell me what to do" attitude. This IS a very compelling idea. To have a problem, and have somebody tell you what to do. This is essentially a human instinct. A combination of social proof and authority. A common response most everybody has when facing a problem is to look around for an authority figure to tell you what to do. Consider that stronger this instinct is, the less likely you'll BE the authority figure. One side of this spectrum is pure, "tell me what to do" energy. Pure helplessness. Zero flexibility of thinking. On the other side is "let me figure this out" energy. Maximum flexibility of thinking. Zero helplessness. Both are very useful. If you are building a team to conquer as specific task, then you would much rather have a bunch of intelligent order followers. The last thing you want is a bunch of people always trying to figure out different ways to do things. They even made a TV show like this. They purposely chose a few very high alpha type males. Then they gave them a collective task of rebuilding an engine. EVERYBODY wanted to be in charge. This kind of thing rarely happens organically. Most of the time, most people will ALWAYS look around for somebody to tell them what to do. Most people don't like to think. Thinking is hard work. Most people don't like to take on more responsibility. Responsibility creates a lot of stress. So when a problem comes up, most of us will EAGERLY look for somebody to tell us what to do. No brain energy required. No anxiety and responsibility required. This is fine most of the time. When you ONLY want to get over the problem as quickly as possible. When is it NOT a good idea? When you are trying to make a good impression on somebody. This is why job interviews PURPOSELY ask really weird questions. They aren't really interested in the answer. They are interested to see how you handle the unexpected. Do you freak out? Or do you work out the issue? This is also a why women INSTINCTIVELY test males. To see how they handle unexpected statements. Having a strong sense of flexibility will help you in both cases. Of seeing something unexpected pop up, and EASILY dealing with it. The more flexibility of thinking you develop, the MORE you'll stand out in more situations. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/creativity/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July06Post.mp4 They say that our memories can't distinguish between a false memory and real memory. There is plenty of data to support this. For example, most of our memories are false anyhow. But these false memories drive our behaviors, as if they are real. This usually involves how we give intentions to actors in our mind. We remember the behavior, the things others did or said. But we tend to imagine the worst case intentions behind those words or actions. But this false memory idea also works when you purposely create false memories. A famous study was done on basketball players. They separated them into three groups. One practiced normally. One didn't practice. One practiced, but only mentally. For the same duration as the real practice people, this third group only imagined practicing. But the real practice group and the imaginary practice group improved about the same. As you'd expect, the non practice group didn't. But there is a very clever way to leverage this "fake" memory idea. People judge other people quickly and subconsciously. Most of this has to do with the strength of our frame. This has to do with our level of confidence in any particular situation. On a very deep, very subconscious, and very ancient level, we are very attracted to folks who have a strong belief that they can handle themselves. We feel the opposite of attraction around strangers who exhibit the opposite. Of not having any clue what to do. This is essentially the difference between having a strong frame and a weak frame. But most of us are not really either extreme. Not super charismatic cult leaders. But not helpless wallflowers hiding in the corner. So people need to interact with us to get more data. To see if they are attracted to us, or not. Beyond first impressions, how we handle ourselves conversationally is the next level of determination. This is where "fake memories" can come in helpful. If you have a lot of real memories, of interacting with real people, in a lot of real situations, that will come across how you speak. From a purely organic standpoint, people have creativity based on how much they've passively soaked up from others. If you've been stuck inside a room your whole life, only watching reruns of "Leave it to Beaver," your language will reflect that. But if you have a lot of interpersonal experience, your language will reflect that. Normally this is all done organically. You develop creativity organically. You "sense" for creativity in others organically. But you can build creativity consciously, deliberately, and consistently. Which will add to your natural attraction and frame strength. And the cool thing about creativity is it increases exponentially. Giving you a huge advantage. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/creativity/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar05Post.mp4 Being more flexible is better than being less flexible. It's hard to imagine a scenario when having less flexibility would be an asset, rather than a liability. But flexibility comes in many, many forms. There's physical flexibility, where you can touch your toes without screaming in pain. If you weren't very flexible, for example, and there was a sudden zombie apocalypse, you'd be in trouble. Especially if you were outside when it happened. Particularly if they were the fast running zombies. You see a zombie coming your way, you instinctively run in the opposite direction, and pull a muscle. Not only are you about to get eaten, but you're laying on the ground in pain, grabbing your hamstrings in agony. The last thing that goes through your mind as the zombies gather around and sink their zombie teeth in your delicious flesh: "Dang! I should have spent a few minutes stretching in the morning!" Dong something as simple as a few morning stretches can save your life! Flexibility of thinking is also an asset. And not just in zombie apocalypses. Those who are much more creative in their problem solving skills tend to have much better positions. Today and way back in our evolutionary past. We can imagine an ancient tribe of humans. So long as they had a few guys who could think outside the box, they'd be OK. The guys who could think outside the box would tend to be the tribal leaders. The other guys just needed to do what they were told, and they'd be good. For plenty of people, that would be a dream come true. Show up at any kind of job, be told EXACTLY what to do, and get paid a lot of money. Unfortunately, if you did find a job opening like that, there'd be a kajillion applicants. Once, a long while ago, I actually ALMOST applied for a job like that. I saw an add for meter reader. Walk around, go in people's backyards, and read some kind of meter. Since it was a government job, the pay and benefits were very high. Walk around outside all day, read some numbers off a meter, write them on a clipboard, and make a ton of money. I drove to the building where they were holding the interviews, but I didn't even bother parking. Even though I got there an hour early, the line was HUGE! Everybody LOVES the idea of big pay for brainless work. But if you can manage to develop lateral thinking skills, creative problem solving skills, and more and more ways to skin the proverbial cat, you'll be in a much better position. More authority, more pay, and more people who'll naturally defer to your leadership. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov12Post.mp4 One of the most important ideas is flexibility. The more ways you can skin a cat, the more likely you'll skin a cat. If you can only skin a cat using your special cat skinning knife, and you can't find it, you won't be skinning any cats. Of course, nobody would really want to skin a cat. That would be dangerous. Cat's don't really like having their skin removed. But the idea of skinning cat, or more importantly the part about having more than one way to skin cat, is instructive. As all metaphors are. Once they had this cooking show. It was one expert chef with a couple of amateurs. Two or three teams. The game was they wouldn't know what they had to cook with until the timer started going off. And they usually had very simple ingredients. Stuff most of us have in our own kitchens. (Don't worry, they weren't cooking skinned cats!) The fun part was watching these master chefs whip up some pretty good dishes with only some basic ingredients. The more flexible you are, the less you need to work with to get whatever it is you want. What do most of us want? More money, more sex, more social recognition and respect. What do we have to work with? Most of us aren't rich. We aren't gorgeous. We don't wear thousands of dollars worth of bling. But we don't need that kind of stuff. We only need the ideas that exist already in our brains. And an understanding of the structure of language. The structure of language is very closely related to the structure of thought. Two things people RARELY even think about. When most people communicate, they take half baked thoughts and spit them out with randomly chosen words. This is common, this is ordinary, this is expected. This is also pretty safe, and pretty boring. It won't get you into any trouble. But it won't get you paid or laid either. What will? Using your communication like a tool. A playful tool. You don't need any more education. You don't need spend any time collecting world class experiences. All you need to do is to take some time and understand the massive amount of flexibility in your language and your thought. To turn people's random streams of boring ideas into linguistic pretzels. To take the common complaints and limitations other people spit out and turn them into reasons to laugh out loud. What will this do for you? This will make you much more popular. Much more attractive. Much more fun to be around. No bling or beauty required. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
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There’s a funny story that’s been told for a while. I heard it first when from the person giving the speech at my graduation. I’ve heard it a couple times since then. About a guy on a ship. And he sees another ship. The first guy tells the second guy to move, or else they’ll crash. The second guy says he’s not moving. The first guy repeats his request to please move or else we’ll crash. Second guy says nope, can’t do it. First guy says, “Dude, if you don’t move, we’re both going to crash and sink and drown. Please move.” Second guy says, “Dude, I’m a lighthouse. YOU move!” The moral of the story of course, is not being flexible will get you killed. The story is ALWAYS told as if the listeners are SUPPOSED to imagine themselves as the person on the ship. That they will encounter resistance in life that they can’t overcome. And the best course is to change course, rather than keep plowing through. That IS pretty good advice. But not always. A famous saying, (the Serenity Prayer, often used in AA meetings) is: God, grant me the serenity to accept things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. What does this mean in real life? It means that sometimes you are the ship. And sometimes you are the lighthouse. Most people are ALWAYS the ship. They bounce around, from situation to situation. Always looking for direction. They are uncomfortable in any situation when they have to figure out what to do on their own. Then there are lighthouse people. People that are the ones giving advice. The ones that show up and MAKE things happen. The ones that radiate very pure, very strong, lighthouse energy. Energy that says, “I am a beacon. When you are lost, look for me, I’ll show you the way.” Luckily, you can BUILD your lighthouse energy. It all comes across in your non-verbal communication. All metaphors aside, we are biological creatures that are BOUND by scientific laws. Metaphors make for some creative, sometimes beautiful ideas. But they are metaphors nonetheless. The down and dirty scientific way you broadcast your “energy”, whether it’s a solid lighthouse or a lost ship, is through your non-verbal communication. And building up strong lighthouse energy is something you can practice. Anything you can practice, you can strengthen. As strong as you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
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One of the reasons for human dominance on Earth is flexibility. The first time this showed up was when there was a split among gender roles. This was WAY back before this became an issue. Before humans could even talk. For every other animal, except us humans, the males and females each get the same kind of food. Male and female sharks both eat fish. Male and female rabbits eat carrots. Male and female monkeys eat bananas. But for some reason, male pre-humans started hunting. And female pre-humans started gathering. At the same time. This allowed them to live in twice as many places. And because they lived in plenty of different places, this "flexibility" became a very important trait. And it evolved in a lot of different ways. Some simple ways. Some in very strange and hard to describe ways. One of them is the idea of form following function and function following form. Both work. Meaning if you are happy, you will smile. But if you force yourself to smile, maybe even whistle a happy tune, you will BECOME happy. Imagine if we had to wait around for something OUTSIDE of us to make us happy? We can either fake it till we make it. We can conjure up some happy memories. Or we can laugh at a goofy joke. We are very flexible in how we can CREATE our emotions. At least we are CAPABLE of how we can be flexible. Kind of a flexible way of being flexible. Another way of form following function or function following form is how we perceive charisma in others. This can EASILY be faked, as has been done plenty of times. One way is to take a normal, non-charismatic, non-famous goof and pretend to be famous. Get a bunch of people to follow them around. Act like the guy is famous. And pretty soon, everybody will THINK he's famous. And since they all THINK he's famous, they'll FEEL those "famous feelings." They'll describe him as being charismatic, magnetic, etc. They'll describe what it's like to BE in his presence. Even though it's all pretend. Suppose you see a famous guy walk into a nightclub. Only you have no clue who he is. But everybody is staring at him like he's Jesus. Then imagine he comes and talks to you for some reason. How would you feel? Talking to somebody that you DIDN'T know, but was being treated like Jesus by everybody? No doubt, that would feel pretty cool. Luckily, there are TONS of ways to create this presence. To project an energy so people treat YOU like a famous person. And just like form following function or function following form, it works both ways. You can build it from the inside, and people will FEEL IT wherever you go. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/presence/
